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So many of us have spent our lives trying to earn love, approval, and belonging by shape-shifting into what we think others need us to be. We become people-pleasers, fixers, and emotional caretakers—losing ourselves in the process. In this episode of the Recover Your Soul Podcast, we explore what it really means to break free from codependency and control, and how the Soul Recovery process helps us come back to our true, authentic selves. You’ll learn how to recognize the subtle ways we abandon ourselves in an attempt to be accepted, and how releasing these old patterns allows for deeper peace, healthier boundaries, and more fulfilling relationships. This isn’t about cutting people off or rejecting connection—it’s about reclaiming your energy, staying in your body, and honoring your own truth without needing to fix or manage anyone else. Soul Recovery teaches us that healing isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about remembering who you already are. If you’re ready to stop shape-shifting and start showing up as the real you, this episode offers encouragement, tools, and a path toward spiritual freedom.
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Rev Rachel Harrison (00:00):
Letting go of being codependent, a people
pleaser and a shapeshifter takestime.
It is indeed a process.
This is the soul recoveryprocess and as I have worked
this over the last seven years,I'm having profound changes in
my life, and the experience thatI had last weekend with my
family and Disney is evidence ofthat.
So many beautiful moments thatcame from my being willing to
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stop trying to fix and controleverything, but mostly to enjoy
it and be in my body, to allowmyself to be okay, to not need
to shapeshift, to please and fixand be who I think they need me
to be, and that moves out intothe larger part of our life and
our families and our co-workingin our relationships.
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To stop priding ourselves onbeing a great chameleon and
priding ourselves on being ourgreatest self.
Enjoy the episode.
Welcome to the Recover yourSoul podcast a spiritual path to
a happy and healthy life.
My name is Reverend RachelHarrison.
I started Recover your Soulafter having profound changes in
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my life from my recovery ofalcoholism, codependency and
control addiction.
I was guided to share the toolsand principles of spirituality
and soul recovery to help otherstransform their lives as mine
was transformed.
For us to overcome externalcircumstances, we need to turn
the attention to ourselves,focusing on our inner change and
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healing.
Positive results in our liveswill follow.
Welcome to the Recovery Soulpodcasting community.
It's Rev Rachel.
Thank you so much for beingwith me here today.
I just got back from my familytrip to Disneyland and to LA for
a short weekend last weekendand I wanted to take time in
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this episode to reflect, toprocess and to share what
unfolded, because we talkedabout it in the last episode and
it's so much more than justbeing in those moments where we
make it a story.
It's really these constantopportunities for us to step
more fully into our consciousand awakened self, to use every
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single situation, every singlemoment that we're in as part of
our learning, as part of ourgrowing, part of our staying
awake in each moment.
And that's the real time, partof soul recovery.
It's a reminder that thehealing changes how we are in
our life experiences, notbecause everything's perfect or
good around us, but becausewe're different.
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That's the beauty of this workis we're learning how to be
different, how to see itdifferent, how to interact with
it differently.
And the trip was beautiful.
To be honest, it really wentoff as well as it could have.
It was so much fun.
We had such a great time atDisneyland with the kids.
Little Rocky was the sweetest,cutest little five-month-old
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baby and we did so muchbeautiful holding of him and
taking care of him and laughingwith him and you know that part
was just so adorable.
But it was really fun to see myadult children and Alex's
girlfriend just have such agreat time, just be able to
relax.
And I saw the success in myself.
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I stayed in my own body.
I stayed in my positive energy.
I didn't do the thing where Iaccommodate everybody and begin
to shapeshift and chameleonmyself to try to please and fix
and put everybody else's needsabove mine, and that's the
miracle of soul recovery.
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So, as I had mentioned in thelast episode, one of the things
that I was aware of was that Iwas trying to over function and
over manage the whole weekendfor everybody when really I was
just the part of it.
That I was the part of it and Iwant to report that that was a
huge success.
We arrived at the airport justbefore Bodhi arrived in his gate
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and had been I don't know 30years since I waited at the gate
for somebody.
So it was really fun to be atthe gate in the same concourse
and be able to wait for Bodhi tocome out, and I felt this spark
of energy.
That is that really beautifulessence of the love that we have
for the people in our lives.
Beautiful essence of the lovethat we have for the people in
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our lives that, without all theworry and all the fuss, you can
actually be in your body and youcan be in the emotions.
And this is the work that I'mreally, really, really focusing
on right now is feeling myfeelings.
Not only the beautiful feelings, like that anticipatory energy
of waiting for your son to getoff of the airplane,
anticipatory energy of waitingfor your son to get off of the
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airplane but also anything thatwas of discomfort, like really
allowing myself just to be in mybody.
And so when he got off theairplane and it was just so
beautiful and wonderful to seehim he's such a shining light in
the world to me and we easilygot on our Uber and we started
across town and we had awonderful Uber driver who was
super sweet and lots of talkingand visiting and really just
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enjoying ourselves.
I just relaxed into the momentand I think this is the part
that I want to give myself kudosfor, because I want you to give
yourself kudos too, when youhave these moments when you're
just being present, you're nottrying to fix or worry about the
traffic or what's happening orif everybody's okay.
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Alex and his girlfriend andRocky were driving themselves up
the coast to meet us, and Ichecked his location a couple
times just to see how they weredoing, and we had checked in
with each other, but I foundmyself being successful at just
saying you know what they'regoing to arrive when they arrive
.
Not my deal, not my worry.
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And this is such success Forthose of us who are people
pleasers, codependents,shapeshifters.
I really want to talk in thisepisode a lot about how much we
transform ourselves to try toplease the others.
That's really where my focuswants to be.
On this, I was conscientious ofme being myself, just being me.
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I don't have to be the mom, Idon't have to be the wife.
I have adults around me.
Now that baby is not my baby,it's somebody else's baby.
I was able to just be in thecar, show up at the hotel, get
checked in.
We started walking around.
We found some place to eatwhile we were waiting for Alex
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and his family to come.
The guys went into the pool andI just was in this place where
I was really enjoying being ineach present moment.
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Back to the episode, and this isthe call that we have to allow
ourselves to do.
Because then I was already,when Alex and his family showed
up, just filled withanticipation and excitement and
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seeing little baby Rocky who didso well on the drive he's just
the sweetest little bundle ofjoy.
And we went out to dinner andwe had a nice dinner and we
talked a little bit about whatwe wanted to do the next day for
Disneyland.
But I could feel that part ofme that in the past would be
really over consumed with tryingto make sure that everybody was
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okay, over consumed with tryingto make sure that everybody was
okay, I didn't feel that I wasworking really hard on just
allowing, just letting, justletting it be whatever it is.
And this is the success, thisis the beauty of doing the soul
recovery work, which is I don'thave to fix anything for anyone,
just be present.
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And there was so much laughterand there was so much connection
with each other and I wasn'tworried about Alex and his dad
or Alex and his brother orwhether Lexi and Alex had had an
okay drive up.
I let go of all of those things.
And then we said you know, weshould really be at the shuttle
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at 730 in the morning so we canbe there for rope drop if we
really want to take advantage ofthis full day.
Guess what Family was able towake up and we got into the park
early and we just had a reallybeautiful time.
If you went and looked at mysocial media, I have a couple
pictures of us from the daysocial media.
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I have a couple pictures of usfrom the day.
And you know, my favorite partwas that when you just let go
and I wasn't worrying as much asI would have in the past, there
was a couple little momentswhere I was like, oh, is
everybody having fun or are theygetting what they need?
But I could observe myself, Icould be present in that and I
could just watch myself.
And I think that's the partthat you got to give yourself
grace for.
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It's not about being perfect,it's not about the fact that
you're not going to have some ofthose old patterns pop up where
you're checking if everybody'sokay.
It's really just about givingyourself grace in those moments
because they went pretty quickly, because they went pretty
quickly and when we were able tobe with Rocky while they were
on a ride, rich and I just wejust ate it up.
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I just watched the joy ofseeing my husband really
enjoying this little grandbaby.
He held him a lot and makingbottles for him and we changed
diapers on rocks and we tookpictures and we ate expensive
food and bought expensive youknow sodas and all the things
that you do when you're atDisneyland and just had a great
time.
It really was.
It couldn't have been anybetter.
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And one of my favorite parts waswe were at the end.
It was like 9.15 at night andthey're trying to get their last
rides before the rides close at10 o'clock and get the
fireworks.
And they went on one of theroller coaster rides and we had
Rocky and I had all of the stuff, because now of course, we've
bought all this stuff and so I'mmanning all the stuff in the
stroller and everything and Richgoes down to watch the
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fireworks with Rocky.
I can see them through thetrees.
That Rocky's really watchingand I want to be part of it.
So I maneuver myself down therewith the stroller and all the
boxes of everything that we hadand this beautiful moment of
Rich holding little Rocky andRocky's eyes were just a light
with these fireworks.
It was just so beautiful and Igot some really precious
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pictures and then they came offof the roller coaster and came
down.
There was still fireworks andjust this beautiful moment.
That was just that innocence,when we can allow ourselves just
to be in the moment and thebeauty of what it is, and these
beautiful pictures of Alex andhis girlfriend and Rocky with
the fireworks, behind him withthe Disney ears, and just such a
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classic, beautiful moment.
That was real.
It wasn't made up, it wasn'tpretend, it wasn't us trying to
get something for the picture.
And then when you come homeyou're like, oh, that really
wasn't what was going on.
No, it really was thisbeautiful, magical moment.
And pretty much the whole daywent on like that.
They drank occasionally.
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I didn't buy their drinks.
That's one of the boundariesthat I have in terms of my kids
using still is I don't pay foralcohol.
So we paid for all the food anddid all that kind of stuff.
But when it came time, if theywanted to buy any drinks, they
paid for them themselves.
And we went into the bar in theStar Wars land and they got a
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very, very expensive round ofdrinks and that was still fun.
But I I allow myself to reallylet go of all of the, even the
expectation that that theywouldn't drink or that they
wouldn't use in any way.
It's really their journey andthe more that we get close and
connect with each other on thisdeeper level, the more that they
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share, as I've talked about inthe past, what's going on with
them?
With me, because they've got tofigure all that out, and at one
point Alex said was talkingabout his job and what they were
going to do in the future.
And they've got big plans andthey have desires to grow their
family and to have this familybe successful.
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And that's what I want to putmy energy into is cheering him
on for those things rather thanpointing out the places where
they could make differentchanges and they could do things
differently.
Couldn't we all do thingsdifferently?
Couldn't we all do thingsdifferently?
And Bodhi is just such abeautiful example of somebody
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who pays attention to everybodyelse and is making sure that
everyone's doing okay.
But I don't think heshapeshifts the way that I used
to.
I think that he's able toreally just be mindful of
people's feelings and be reallycourteous, and that is really
beautiful to me, that I don'tfeel like he loses himself in
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the same way that I used to losemyself up until you know, even
a couple years ago.
And with Alex he's discoveringwho he is.
He's actually learning to standin confidence of who he is
because he had years and yearsand years of real trauma and
heartache and struggle in hisaddiction and his trouble with
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school and with friends and withthe law.
I mean, he went through so muchat such a young age that it's
really fun to see him at thisage really sort of stepping into
and understanding more of whohe is and in a way he's so
unique and determined to behimself that he's not
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shapeshifted in the same waythat I did, but he's almost like
been rebellious in a way.
But he's almost like beenrebellious in a way and now I
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think that that keeping peopleaway from him with some of that
rebellion is softening as he hasthis family with Rich's family
and move into that sort ofcountry club.
You know, get it all togetherenvironment.
We were all able to do that.
But what I recognized in thatsituation when we showed up to
the country club is that thatshape shifting that happens in
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those moments.
There's a certain level thatyou do to fit in and do the
right thing, and then there's acertain amount that I used to do
, where I so desperately neededand wanted to be accepted and
seen and loved, that I feltbadly about myself when I didn't
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fit into that world.
And what happened for me onthis trip that was really
beautiful and interesting washere I am 55 years old, meeting
up with family members that Ihaven't seen one of them I
haven't seen in 15 years andanother one I haven't seen, you
know, for five years.
We're pretty estranged fromRich's side of the family and
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there is a lot of love there butthere's not a lot of connection
because we just live indifferent worlds.
And I think the part that Ireally had clarity on in this
trip was how much the younger mehad tried so hard to fit into a
mold that just wasn't my moldto fit into.
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And, in a way, what I could seefor the first time from this new
perception that I have in soulrecovery was I haven't given
them enough credit and enoughgrace and acceptance of the life
that they live, because I feltjudged or harmed.
And that's my world, that's myjudgment of myself, that's my
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responsibility for myself is howI'm going to receive and
perceive what other people arethinking we are powerless over
what anybody thinks.
You're powerless over whatanybody thinks, and when we
shapeshift, when we chameleonourselves to try to accommodate
to somebody else's values or whothey are, that isn't fair to
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anybody, because there's a bigdifference between putting on
your nice clothes and showing upand putting on a smile and just
playing nice for a meal, whichall of us have done over and
over and over in our lives,whether it's a meeting at work
or with a group of friends thatyou don't really connect with
anymore, or family members.
That's called beingconscientious of what needs to
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be done in those moments.
In soul recovery, we're learningto look underneath and see.
What are the stories, patternsand beliefs that we're telling
ourselves about, why we shouldfit in or why we're not seen, or
why this doesn't feel as niceas it could, or what are the
feelings.
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That's what we're looking at.
What are the feelings thatyou're feeling in that moment?
And what I love about soulrecovery that continues to just
deepen for me is we're notjudging anybody else.
There's no value in trying tojudge the other people, because
that's really a protectionmechanism.
That's a mechanism that saysyou're different than me.
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Maybe you think you're betterthan me, or maybe I think I'm
better than you, or you don'tlike me, or we don't fit, or we
can't have the kind ofconversations.
All of that is just our ego andour mind trying to make sense
of it instead of releasing andletting that part go, releasing
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judgment altogether.
Letting that part go, releasingjudgment altogether, having more
awareness of the acceptance ofeverybody who is there and this
is the tool that I used, that Istill continue to love to this
day just like me.
Just like me, they want to behappy.
Just like me, they want to bein a world that fits in with
them.
Just like me, they love eachother.
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Just like me, they have livesthat are more aligned with who
they are.
Just like me, when you reallylook around, every single person
, just like us, is doing thebest that they can in the world
in which, in society and culturein which they live in, and that
we get to choose who we are andhow we interact.
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But we don't have to bump upagainst and feel like we're
inferior to or that we're beingscrubbed in any way in that
stickiness that we have to fightit.
There's no reason to fight whatI realized when I was sitting
there with them and we had alovely lunch so it was a very
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nicey, nicey, nicey lunch withpeople that are our family but
we don't have a lot of deepconnection with I could see the
beauty of how we can be in thesesituations without losing
ourself.
And what I really, really feltthat I was so grateful for that
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I processed later was I haveaccess to that information now
because I have more access to myfeelings and I have more access
to the truth of who I am.
And when I was younger and I wastrying to fit into a family
that just was so differentculturally from the family that
I grew up with, or you know howI am in my life or how I'm in my
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relationships, I was trying toshape, shift and morph myself
into those molds in those shorttimes that we are together.
And it feels yucky it alwaysfeels yucky and uncomfortable
and not good when you're tryingto make yourself fit into
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somebody else's perception ofwho you think they think you
should be.
That's why those feelings areimportant.
They're actually telling youthat it doesn't feel good, and
it doesn't feel good becauseit's not the truth of who you
are.
We are here to learn how to beour fullest expression of self,
and it doesn't mean that thenyou rebel or you act out or you
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stop your feet or throw somesort of temper tantrum or demand
that people see you.
No, that is not valuable onanybody's level whatsoever.
These are good people that livea life that is very different
than the life that I live, and,if I can hold space to really
value and see my family for whowe are and the relationships and
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the connections that we have,and to also be able to make
boundaries and decisions aroundhow much interaction you want to
have with people, whetherthey're family members or
friends or coworkers or whateverit is, this is where we're
taking our power back andrecognizing that in each moment,
we get to decide how much spacesomebody occupies in our own
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mind and how much space somebodyoccupies in our physical being.
We haven't had much of arelationship with one of these
family members for 15 yearsbecause it's always been
complicated, and so it's lovelythat they arrived on this
particular day to be able towitness the whole family all
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together, and now it's done, andso, instead of us whipping up
story to try to soothe ourselvesor to make sense of something
that's nonsensical.
Sometimes.
You just be in it in the moment.
Just allow it for what it is inthe moment and stop trying to
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figure everything out.
That's one of the greatestthings that I think that I've
learned in my spiritual journeyis you don't have to have an
answer for everything.
There is almost no way that youcan understand what is
happening in anyone else's mind,no matter how close to you they
are or how far they are fromyou.
We spin our wheels, constantlytrying to understand where
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somebody else is coming from,constantly trying to understand
where somebody else is comingfrom, and that is wheels that
need to be released and let go.
You're powerless over all ofthat.
So when we step into our morealigned self, when you step into
your authentic nature, intoyour updated belief systems,
patterns and stories, you can bein those kinds of situations,
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however short or long they are,and recognize there's always
something for you to learn aboutyourself.
It's always an opportunity foryou to reflect about yourself,
and I was able to feel and see areflection and heal some
aspects of myself, some youngerparts of myself that had still
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had some activation aroundwanting to be seen or accepted
or whatever it is right.
And the truth is I might beseen and accepted I don't know.
And what I really realized whenwe're so sort of in our own
whip of what it feels like to us, sometimes we miss the part
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where we're putting enoughopenness of heart and compassion
to the other to see that theytoo have a perspective and a way
of being in it and that theyhave every right.
And it's important thateverybody is given their own
space to be in whatever it feltlike to them, and it doesn't all
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have to look the same.
We all have our own view of howit is, and I think this is the
piece that's so fascinating.
You know, as I'm working on thesoul recovery memoir book with
Maddie, and as I'm contemplatingin podcasts and as I'm speaking
to you, all of it is theexperience of life through my
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lens, through my heart, throughmy soul.
And you could ask anybody elsein any scenario, whether it's
the Disneyland experience orsitting at the country club for
lunch or our entire upbringingthat we had while the kids were
here for 20 years.
Right, each one of the playerswould give their own story and,
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yes, you would have markerswhere you would say that
resonates.
That seems like the same event,that seems like that same time
period, but everybody will havetheir own perspective and their
own view of how it looked andfelt to them.
And you know what?
Sometimes it will look and feelvery differently for each party
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that is having the experience.
What if we stopped trying toshapeshift ourselves into fit
into everyone's molds, and whatif we let everybody have the way
they saw it?
I have this experience all thetime with people that are
friends mostly friends and theytalk about how their siblings
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will talk about their childhoodand and it's as if they are
talking about an entirelydifferent world and, instead of
just having witness over howeach person had their own view
of it, they feel like theyweren't seen.
They feel like somewhere in it,their needs weren't met because
somebody didn't recognize howit felt to them.
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I think this is such a profoundpiece of the healing that we do
, which is you get to feel thatfor yourself.
You get to determine foryourself what that felt like.
You do not have to justify itand have it bounce off of
somebody else for it to be realfor you.
You have your experience, yourfeelings, your way of seeing it,
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and that's what we're workingon in our mind and in our
training our brain to havedifferent neuron paths and see
from new perception, new beliefs, new stories, new patterns.
New beliefs, new stories, newpatterns that, regardless of our
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experiences old or yesterday,regardless of what they are, at
each moment you're being givenan opportunity to experience and
be curious about your life.
That is for your development,for your spiritual growth, for
your ability to heal.
And, yes, it feels good to havesomebody else recognize or
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validate a feeling or anexperience or to see it from
your side, but it's not requiredfor you to heal and it's not
required for you to be in yourown experience.
And so I think that this is thepart that is important for us
as we're speaking our story tothe people around us.
It's never about not sharingthe experiences that you're
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having.
It's about what is themotivation behind telling the
story, and is somebody beingcreated as the victim or the
perpetrator or the hero?
So many of the spiritualteachings that I study talk
about the importance ofreleasing those roles for
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everybody, so that even inDisneyland, instead of all of us
, who's the hero, who's the onemaking it the best day, who's
the one who's making it hard.
At this moment, we're all justpeople Just being there.
I mean, I was there with 45,000other people.
Talk about an interestingexperience.
I have not been around thatmany people since before the
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pandemic, right, I could feelthe energy, especially since I'm
really open to energy.
Now I could feel the energy,especially since I'm really open
to energy.
Now I could feel the energy ofall those people.
And the beauty of beingsomeplace like a Disneyland is
people are making a concerteddecision to be happy while
they're there.
That's why people like going toDisneyland.
The people in the staff arethere to be happy and to make
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everybody else there happy.
Now, you can't make anybodyhappy, but when there's an
energy holding that says we wantthis to be a positive
experience, guess what?
It's a pretty positiveexperience.
Even in lines, people arepretty cheerful.
You know there's this, thisability for us to all resonate.
But each one of us had adifferent experience that day.
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We're all responsible for ourown well-being and this ability
for us to stop shape-shifting,to stop people-pleasing, to stop
needing for others to be acertain way for us to be okay is
one of the greatest gifts thatwe can give ourselves to fully
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stand in and own the beauty ofwho you are and the life that
you live, because from thisplace you begin to actually
realize that the thoughts thatyou think there was an episode
in the last couple months thethoughts that you think, the
words that you speak create theworld in which you live.
You do not get what you want.
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You speak create the world inwhich you live.
You do not get what you want.
You get who you are and we areworking on us being whole,
healed, happy, compassionate,forgiven, grace-filled human
beings, souls that are livingwithin our purpose, that are
able to feel our feelings andrelease all that sticky goo of
who we think we're supposed tobe for everybody else and let go
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control.
So in the end it was the perfectweekend.
It was a perfect weekend allthe way around.
We left the country club havinghad this sort of interesting
experience right, really goodand to see family and really
good to all be together andespecially to see Rich's dad and
just really allow thatconnection and then also just to
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let go of whatever it is.
And then Alex and hisgirlfriend and little Rocky went
on their way for their familyevents that they had on her side
of family and Bodie, and Richand I got dropped off on Venice
Beach with our luggage and hit acar show and just got to sort
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of be in a world that wasvibrant and different and really
wild and interesting and had anice little lunch at a cafe,
went to the airport, hung outtogether, just really soaked in
those last moments together andthen got on our airplanes and
went home.
These opportunities for us toreally be in our own bodies and
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our own experience and to feelthe feelings to be present for
who you are, is the incrediblepower of the soul recovery
process.
As always, if you areinterested in this, if this
piques your interest here andyou're like, how do I do more of
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this, I hope that you willeither work with me one on one,
with coaching, or that you'll dothe soul recovery steps in the
modules on the website.
I think that when we can lookat ourselves from this gentle,
kind, compassionate place andwork through the nine-step soul
recovery process, you areuncovering layers and layers and
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layers of what no longer servesyou and stepping more fully and
authentically into who you are,so that each moment, each
experience, you can be presentin your body and allow yourself
to enjoy what is to be enjoyed.
Allow yourself to feel thefeelings that are hard sometimes
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, and let go of the judgment andthe blame and the grievance and
the wounding and be curiousabout what it has to teach you,
because you are so much strongerthan you give yourself credit,
for Together we can do the workthat will recover your soul
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Letting go of being codependent, a people
pleaser and a shapeshifter takestime.
It is indeed a process.
This is the soul recoveryprocess and as I have worked
this over the last seven years,I'm having profound changes in
my life, and the experience thatI had last weekend with my
family and Disney is evidence ofthat.
So many beautiful moments thatcame from my being willing to
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stop trying to fix and controleverything, but mostly to enjoy
it and be in my body, to allowmyself to be okay, to not need
to shapeshift, to please and fixand be who I think they need me
to be, and that moves out intothe larger part of our life and
our families and our co-workingin our relationships.
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To stop priding ourselves onbeing a great chameleon and
priding ourselves on being ourgreatest self.
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Welcome to the Recover yourSoul podcast a spiritual path to
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My name is Reverend RachelHarrison.
I started Recover your Soulafter having profound changes in
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Welcome to the Recovery Soulpodcasting community.
It's Rev Rachel.
Thank you so much for beingwith me here today.
I just got back from my familytrip to Disneyland and to LA for
a short weekend last weekendand I wanted to take time in
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this episode to reflect, toprocess and to share what
unfolded, because we talkedabout it in the last episode and
it's so much more than justbeing in those moments where we
make it a story.
It's really these constantopportunities for us to step
more fully into our consciousand awakened self, to use every
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single situation, every singlemoment that we're in as part of
our learning, as part of ourgrowing, part of our staying
awake in each moment.
And that's the real time, partof soul recovery.
It's a reminder that thehealing changes how we are in
our life experiences, notbecause everything's perfect or
good around us, but becausewe're different.
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That's the beauty of this workis we're learning how to be
different, how to see itdifferent, how to interact with
it differently.
And the trip was beautiful.
To be honest, it really wentoff as well as it could have.
It was so much fun.
We had such a great time atDisneyland with the kids.
Little Rocky was the sweetest,cutest little five-month-old
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baby and we did so muchbeautiful holding of him and
taking care of him and laughingwith him and you know that part
was just so adorable.
But it was really fun to see myadult children and Alex's
girlfriend just have such agreat time, just be able to
relax.
And I saw the success in myself.
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I stayed in my own body.
I stayed in my positive energy.
I didn't do the thing where Iaccommodate everybody and begin
to shapeshift and chameleonmyself to try to please and fix
and put everybody else's needsabove mine, and that's the
miracle of soul recovery.
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So, as I had mentioned in thelast episode, one of the things
that I was aware of was that Iwas trying to over function and
over manage the whole weekendfor everybody when really I was
just the part of it.
That I was the part of it and Iwant to report that that was a
huge success.
We arrived at the airport justbefore Bodhi arrived in his gate
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and had been I don't know 30years since I waited at the gate
for somebody.
So it was really fun to be atthe gate in the same concourse
and be able to wait for Bodhi tocome out, and I felt this spark
of energy.
That is that really beautifulessence of the love that we have
for the people in our lives.
Beautiful essence of the lovethat we have for the people in
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our lives that, without all theworry and all the fuss, you can
actually be in your body and youcan be in the emotions.
And this is the work that I'mreally, really, really focusing
on right now is feeling myfeelings.
Not only the beautiful feelings, like that anticipatory energy
of waiting for your son to getoff of the airplane,
anticipatory energy of waitingfor your son to get off of the
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airplane but also anything thatwas of discomfort, like really
allowing myself just to be in mybody.
And so when he got off theairplane and it was just so
beautiful and wonderful to seehim he's such a shining light in
the world to me and we easilygot on our Uber and we started
across town and we had awonderful Uber driver who was
super sweet and lots of talkingand visiting and really just
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enjoying ourselves.
I just relaxed into the momentand I think this is the part
that I want to give myself kudosfor, because I want you to give
yourself kudos too, when youhave these moments when you're
just being present, you're nottrying to fix or worry about the
traffic or what's happening orif everybody's okay.
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Alex and his girlfriend andRocky were driving themselves up
the coast to meet us, and Ichecked his location a couple
times just to see how they weredoing, and we had checked in
with each other, but I foundmyself being successful at just
saying you know what they'regoing to arrive when they arrive
.
Not my deal, not my worry.
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And this is such success Forthose of us who are people
pleasers, codependents,shapeshifters.
I really want to talk in thisepisode a lot about how much we
transform ourselves to try toplease the others.
That's really where my focuswants to be.
On this, I was conscientious ofme being myself, just being me.
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I don't have to be the mom, Idon't have to be the wife.
I have adults around me.
Now that baby is not my baby,it's somebody else's baby.
I was able to just be in thecar, show up at the hotel, get
checked in.
We started walking around.
We found some place to eatwhile we were waiting for Alex
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and his family to come.
The guys went into the pool andI just was in this place where
I was really enjoying being ineach present moment.
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Back to the episode, and this isthe call that we have to allow
ourselves to do.
Because then I was already,when Alex and his family showed
up, just filled withanticipation and excitement and
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seeing little baby Rocky who didso well on the drive he's just
the sweetest little bundle ofjoy.
And we went out to dinner andwe had a nice dinner and we
talked a little bit about whatwe wanted to do the next day for
Disneyland.
But I could feel that part ofme that in the past would be
really over consumed with tryingto make sure that everybody was
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okay, over consumed with tryingto make sure that everybody was
okay, I didn't feel that I wasworking really hard on just
allowing, just letting, justletting it be whatever it is.
And this is the success, thisis the beauty of doing the soul
recovery work, which is I don'thave to fix anything for anyone,
just be present.
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And there was so much laughterand there was so much connection
with each other and I wasn'tworried about Alex and his dad
or Alex and his brother orwhether Lexi and Alex had had an
okay drive up.
I let go of all of those things.
And then we said you know, weshould really be at the shuttle
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at 730 in the morning so we canbe there for rope drop if we
really want to take advantage ofthis full day.
Guess what Family was able towake up and we got into the park
early and we just had a reallybeautiful time.
If you went and looked at mysocial media, I have a couple
pictures of us from the daysocial media.
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I have a couple pictures of usfrom the day.
And you know, my favorite partwas that when you just let go
and I wasn't worrying as much asI would have in the past, there
was a couple little momentswhere I was like, oh, is
everybody having fun or are theygetting what they need?
But I could observe myself, Icould be present in that and I
could just watch myself.
And I think that's the partthat you got to give yourself
grace for.
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It's not about being perfect,it's not about the fact that
you're not going to have some ofthose old patterns pop up where
you're checking if everybody'sokay.
It's really just about givingyourself grace in those moments
because they went pretty quickly, because they went pretty
quickly and when we were able tobe with Rocky while they were
on a ride, rich and I just wejust ate it up.
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I just watched the joy ofseeing my husband really
enjoying this little grandbaby.
He held him a lot and makingbottles for him and we changed
diapers on rocks and we tookpictures and we ate expensive
food and bought expensive youknow sodas and all the things
that you do when you're atDisneyland and just had a great
time.
It really was.
It couldn't have been anybetter.
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And one of my favorite parts waswe were at the end.
It was like 9.15 at night andthey're trying to get their last
rides before the rides close at10 o'clock and get the
fireworks.
And they went on one of theroller coaster rides and we had
Rocky and I had all of the stuff, because now of course, we've
bought all this stuff and so I'mmanning all the stuff in the
stroller and everything and Richgoes down to watch the
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fireworks with Rocky.
I can see them through thetrees.
That Rocky's really watchingand I want to be part of it.
So I maneuver myself down therewith the stroller and all the
boxes of everything that we hadand this beautiful moment of
Rich holding little Rocky andRocky's eyes were just a light
with these fireworks.
It was just so beautiful and Igot some really precious
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pictures and then they came offof the roller coaster and came
down.
There was still fireworks andjust this beautiful moment.
That was just that innocence,when we can allow ourselves just
to be in the moment and thebeauty of what it is, and these
beautiful pictures of Alex andhis girlfriend and Rocky with
the fireworks, behind him withthe Disney ears, and just such a
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classic, beautiful moment.
That was real.
It wasn't made up, it wasn'tpretend, it wasn't us trying to
get something for the picture.
And then when you come homeyou're like, oh, that really
wasn't what was going on.
No, it really was thisbeautiful, magical moment.
And pretty much the whole daywent on like that.
They drank occasionally.
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I didn't buy their drinks.
That's one of the boundariesthat I have in terms of my kids
using still is I don't pay foralcohol.
So we paid for all the food anddid all that kind of stuff.
But when it came time, if theywanted to buy any drinks, they
paid for them themselves.
And we went into the bar in theStar Wars land and they got a
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very, very expensive round ofdrinks and that was still fun.
But I I allow myself to reallylet go of all of the, even the
expectation that that theywouldn't drink or that they
wouldn't use in any way.
It's really their journey andthe more that we get close and
connect with each other on thisdeeper level, the more that they
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share, as I've talked about inthe past, what's going on with
them?
With me, because they've got tofigure all that out, and at one
point Alex said was talkingabout his job and what they were
going to do in the future.
And they've got big plans andthey have desires to grow their
family and to have this familybe successful.
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And that's what I want to putmy energy into is cheering him
on for those things rather thanpointing out the places where
they could make differentchanges and they could do things
differently.
Couldn't we all do thingsdifferently?
Couldn't we all do thingsdifferently?
And Bodhi is just such abeautiful example of somebody
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who pays attention to everybodyelse and is making sure that
everyone's doing okay.
But I don't think heshapeshifts the way that I used
to.
I think that he's able toreally just be mindful of
people's feelings and be reallycourteous, and that is really
beautiful to me, that I don'tfeel like he loses himself in
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the same way that I used to losemyself up until you know, even
a couple years ago.
And with Alex he's discoveringwho he is.
He's actually learning to standin confidence of who he is
because he had years and yearsand years of real trauma and
heartache and struggle in hisaddiction and his trouble with
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school and with friends and withthe law.
I mean, he went through so muchat such a young age that it's
really fun to see him at thisage really sort of stepping into
and understanding more of whohe is and in a way he's so
unique and determined to behimself that he's not
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shapeshifted in the same waythat I did, but he's almost like
been rebellious in a way.
But he's almost like beenrebellious in a way and now I
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think that that keeping peopleaway from him with some of that
rebellion is softening as he hasthis family with Rich's family
and move into that sort ofcountry club.
You know, get it all togetherenvironment.
We were all able to do that.
But what I recognized in thatsituation when we showed up to
the country club is that thatshape shifting that happens in
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those moments.
There's a certain level thatyou do to fit in and do the
right thing, and then there's acertain amount that I used to do
, where I so desperately neededand wanted to be accepted and
seen and loved, that I feltbadly about myself when I didn't
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fit into that world.
And what happened for me onthis trip that was really
beautiful and interesting washere I am 55 years old, meeting
up with family members that Ihaven't seen one of them I
haven't seen in 15 years andanother one I haven't seen, you
know, for five years.
We're pretty estranged fromRich's side of the family and
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there is a lot of love there butthere's not a lot of connection
because we just live indifferent worlds.
And I think the part that Ireally had clarity on in this
trip was how much the younger mehad tried so hard to fit into a
mold that just wasn't my moldto fit into.
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And, in a way, what I could seefor the first time from this new
perception that I have in soulrecovery was I haven't given
them enough credit and enoughgrace and acceptance of the life
that they live, because I feltjudged or harmed.
And that's my world, that's myjudgment of myself, that's my
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responsibility for myself is howI'm going to receive and
perceive what other people arethinking we are powerless over
what anybody thinks.
You're powerless over whatanybody thinks, and when we
shapeshift, when we chameleonourselves to try to accommodate
to somebody else's values or whothey are, that isn't fair to
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anybody, because there's a bigdifference between putting on
your nice clothes and showing upand putting on a smile and just
playing nice for a meal, whichall of us have done over and
over and over in our lives,whether it's a meeting at work
or with a group of friends thatyou don't really connect with
anymore, or family members.
That's called beingconscientious of what needs to
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be done in those moments.
In soul recovery, we're learningto look underneath and see.
What are the stories, patternsand beliefs that we're telling
ourselves about, why we shouldfit in or why we're not seen, or
why this doesn't feel as niceas it could, or what are the
feelings.
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That's what we're looking at.
What are the feelings thatyou're feeling in that moment?
And what I love about soulrecovery that continues to just
deepen for me is we're notjudging anybody else.
There's no value in trying tojudge the other people, because
that's really a protectionmechanism.
That's a mechanism that saysyou're different than me.
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Maybe you think you're betterthan me, or maybe I think I'm
better than you, or you don'tlike me, or we don't fit, or we
can't have the kind ofconversations.
All of that is just our ego andour mind trying to make sense
of it instead of releasing andletting that part go, releasing
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judgment altogether.
Letting that part go, releasingjudgment altogether, having more
awareness of the acceptance ofeverybody who is there and this
is the tool that I used, that Istill continue to love to this
day just like me.
Just like me, they want to behappy.
Just like me, they want to bein a world that fits in with
them.
Just like me, they love eachother.
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Just like me, they have livesthat are more aligned with who
they are.
Just like me, when you reallylook around, every single person
, just like us, is doing thebest that they can in the world
in which, in society and culturein which they live in, and that
we get to choose who we are andhow we interact.
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But we don't have to bump upagainst and feel like we're
inferior to or that we're beingscrubbed in any way in that
stickiness that we have to fightit.
There's no reason to fight whatI realized when I was sitting
there with them and we had alovely lunch so it was a very
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nicey, nicey, nicey lunch withpeople that are our family but
we don't have a lot of deepconnection with I could see the
beauty of how we can be in thesesituations without losing
ourself.
And what I really, really feltthat I was so grateful for that
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I processed later was I haveaccess to that information now
because I have more access to myfeelings and I have more access
to the truth of who I am.
And when I was younger and I wastrying to fit into a family
that just was so differentculturally from the family that
I grew up with, or you know howI am in my life or how I'm in my
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relationships, I was trying toshape, shift and morph myself
into those molds in those shorttimes that we are together.
And it feels yucky it alwaysfeels yucky and uncomfortable
and not good when you're tryingto make yourself fit into
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somebody else's perception ofwho you think they think you
should be.
That's why those feelings areimportant.
They're actually telling youthat it doesn't feel good, and
it doesn't feel good becauseit's not the truth of who you
are.
We are here to learn how to beour fullest expression of self,
and it doesn't mean that thenyou rebel or you act out or you
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stop your feet or throw somesort of temper tantrum or demand
that people see you.
No, that is not valuable onanybody's level whatsoever.
These are good people that livea life that is very different
than the life that I live, and,if I can hold space to really
value and see my family for whowe are and the relationships and
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the connections that we have,and to also be able to make
boundaries and decisions aroundhow much interaction you want to
have with people, whetherthey're family members or
friends or coworkers or whateverit is, this is where we're
taking our power back andrecognizing that in each moment,
we get to decide how much spacesomebody occupies in our own
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mind and how much space somebodyoccupies in our physical being.
We haven't had much of arelationship with one of these
family members for 15 yearsbecause it's always been
complicated, and so it's lovelythat they arrived on this
particular day to be able towitness the whole family all
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together, and now it's done, andso, instead of us whipping up
story to try to soothe ourselvesor to make sense of something
that's nonsensical.
Sometimes.
You just be in it in the moment.
Just allow it for what it is inthe moment and stop trying to
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figure everything out.
That's one of the greatestthings that I think that I've
learned in my spiritual journeyis you don't have to have an
answer for everything.
There is almost no way that youcan understand what is
happening in anyone else's mind,no matter how close to you they
are or how far they are fromyou.
We spin our wheels, constantlytrying to understand where
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somebody else is coming from,constantly trying to understand
where somebody else is comingfrom, and that is wheels that
need to be released and let go.
You're powerless over all ofthat.
So when we step into our morealigned self, when you step into
your authentic nature, intoyour updated belief systems,
patterns and stories, you can bein those kinds of situations,
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however short or long they are,and recognize there's always
something for you to learn aboutyourself.
It's always an opportunity foryou to reflect about yourself,
and I was able to feel and see areflection and heal some
aspects of myself, some youngerparts of myself that had still
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had some activation aroundwanting to be seen or accepted
or whatever it is right.
And the truth is I might beseen and accepted I don't know.
And what I really realized whenwe're so sort of in our own
whip of what it feels like to us, sometimes we miss the part
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where we're putting enoughopenness of heart and compassion
to the other to see that theytoo have a perspective and a way
of being in it and that theyhave every right.
And it's important thateverybody is given their own
space to be in whatever it feltlike to them, and it doesn't all
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have to look the same.
We all have our own view of howit is, and I think this is the
piece that's so fascinating.
You know, as I'm working on thesoul recovery memoir book with
Maddie, and as I'm contemplatingin podcasts and as I'm speaking
to you, all of it is theexperience of life through my
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lens, through my heart, throughmy soul.
And you could ask anybody elsein any scenario, whether it's
the Disneyland experience orsitting at the country club for
lunch or our entire upbringingthat we had while the kids were
here for 20 years.
Right, each one of the playerswould give their own story and,
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yes, you would have markerswhere you would say that
resonates.
That seems like the same event,that seems like that same time
period, but everybody will havetheir own perspective and their
own view of how it looked andfelt to them.
And you know what?
Sometimes it will look and feelvery differently for each party
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that is having the experience.
What if we stopped trying toshapeshift ourselves into fit
into everyone's molds, and whatif we let everybody have the way
they saw it?
I have this experience all thetime with people that are
friends mostly friends and theytalk about how their siblings
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will talk about their childhoodand and it's as if they are
talking about an entirelydifferent world and, instead of
just having witness over howeach person had their own view
of it, they feel like theyweren't seen.
They feel like somewhere in it,their needs weren't met because
somebody didn't recognize howit felt to them.
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I think this is such a profoundpiece of the healing that we do
, which is you get to feel thatfor yourself.
You get to determine foryourself what that felt like.
You do not have to justify itand have it bounce off of
somebody else for it to be realfor you.
You have your experience, yourfeelings, your way of seeing it,
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and that's what we're workingon in our mind and in our
training our brain to havedifferent neuron paths and see
from new perception, new beliefs, new stories, new patterns.
New beliefs, new stories, newpatterns that, regardless of our
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experiences old or yesterday,regardless of what they are, at
each moment you're being givenan opportunity to experience and
be curious about your life.
That is for your development,for your spiritual growth, for
your ability to heal.
And, yes, it feels good to havesomebody else recognize or
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validate a feeling or anexperience or to see it from
your side, but it's not requiredfor you to heal and it's not
required for you to be in yourown experience.
And so I think that this is thepart that is important for us
as we're speaking our story tothe people around us.
It's never about not sharingthe experiences that you're
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having.
It's about what is themotivation behind telling the
story, and is somebody beingcreated as the victim or the
perpetrator or the hero?
So many of the spiritualteachings that I study talk
about the importance ofreleasing those roles for
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everybody, so that even inDisneyland, instead of all of us
, who's the hero, who's the onemaking it the best day, who's
the one who's making it hard.
At this moment, we're all justpeople Just being there.
I mean, I was there with 45,000other people.
Talk about an interestingexperience.
I have not been around thatmany people since before the
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pandemic, right, I could feelthe energy, especially since I'm
really open to energy.
Now I could feel the energy,especially since I'm really open
to energy.
Now I could feel the energy ofall those people.
And the beauty of beingsomeplace like a Disneyland is
people are making a concerteddecision to be happy while
they're there.
That's why people like going toDisneyland.
The people in the staff arethere to be happy and to make
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everybody else there happy.
Now, you can't make anybodyhappy, but when there's an
energy holding that says we wantthis to be a positive
experience, guess what?
It's a pretty positiveexperience.
Even in lines, people arepretty cheerful.
You know there's this, thisability for us to all resonate.
But each one of us had adifferent experience that day.
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We're all responsible for ourown well-being and this ability
for us to stop shape-shifting,to stop people-pleasing, to stop
needing for others to be acertain way for us to be okay is
one of the greatest gifts thatwe can give ourselves to fully
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stand in and own the beauty ofwho you are and the life that
you live, because from thisplace you begin to actually
realize that the thoughts thatyou think there was an episode
in the last couple months thethoughts that you think, the
words that you speak create theworld in which you live.
You do not get what you want.
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You speak create the world inwhich you live.
You do not get what you want.
You get who you are and we areworking on us being whole,
healed, happy, compassionate,forgiven, grace-filled human
beings, souls that are livingwithin our purpose, that are
able to feel our feelings andrelease all that sticky goo of
who we think we're supposed tobe for everybody else and let go
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control.
So in the end it was the perfectweekend.
It was a perfect weekend allthe way around.
We left the country club havinghad this sort of interesting
experience right, really goodand to see family and really
good to all be together andespecially to see Rich's dad and
just really allow thatconnection and then also just to
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let go of whatever it is.
And then Alex and hisgirlfriend and little Rocky went
on their way for their familyevents that they had on her side
of family and Bodie, and Richand I got dropped off on Venice
Beach with our luggage and hit acar show and just got to sort
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of be in a world that wasvibrant and different and really
wild and interesting and had anice little lunch at a cafe,
went to the airport, hung outtogether, just really soaked in
those last moments together andthen got on our airplanes and
went home.
These opportunities for us toreally be in our own bodies and
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our own experience and to feelthe feelings to be present for
who you are, is the incrediblepower of the soul recovery
process.
As always, if you areinterested in this, if this
piques your interest here andyou're like, how do I do more of
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this, I hope that you willeither work with me one on one,
with coaching, or that you'll dothe soul recovery steps in the
modules on the website.
I think that when we can lookat ourselves from this gentle,
kind, compassionate place andwork through the nine-step soul
recovery process, you areuncovering layers and layers and
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layers of what no longer servesyou and stepping more fully and
authentically into who you are,so that each moment, each
experience, you can be presentin your body and allow yourself
to enjoy what is to be enjoyed.
Allow yourself to feel thefeelings that are hard sometimes
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, and let go of the judgment andthe blame and the grievance and
the wounding and be curiousabout what it has to teach you,
because you are so much strongerthan you give yourself credit,
for Together we can do the workthat will recover your soul
Until next time.
Namaste, thank you forlistening and I hope that that
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helps support your soul recoveryprocess.
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family.
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