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As people pleasers and codependents, it can feel impossible to ask for what we truly need and want without guilt or fear of rejection. In this episode, I dive into the heart of this struggle and share how Soul Recovery principles can help us release the people pleaser within and reconnect with our authentic selves.
We explore the delicate balance between letting go and dreaming—a concept that can feel contradictory but is deeply interconnected. Through detachment, acceptance, and self-awareness, we can begin to break free from old patterns of putting others first at the expense of our well-being.
This episode offers practical tools to let go of control, heal core wounds, and trust in a life that aligns with our highest good. Together, we'll discover how to ask for what we need, envision the life we want, and create a reality that thrives—not in opposition
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Rev Rachel Harrison (00:00):
As codependents and people pleasers
, it can be hard to ask for whatwe need and what we want.
A few weeks ago, we did anepisode about the law of
attraction and manifestation.
What, if it feels like you'reasking for what you need is in
opposition to the people in yourlife, to being your full self,
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means that you're not doingsomething for someone else.
This is our dilemma.
This is the part of us thatwe're always working on.
Today's episode is about how tolet go, how to use the
principles and tools of soulrecovery around detachment and
letting go, and how thatresponds to how we can ask for
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more and begin to dream andcreate the life that we love.
Enjoy the episode.
Welcome to the Recover yourSoul podcast a spiritual path to
a happy and healthy life.
My name is Reverend RachelHarrison.
I started Recover your Soulafter having profound changes in
my life from my recovery ofalcoholism, codependency and
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control addiction.
I was guided to share the toolsand principles of spirituality
and soul recovery to help otherstransform their lives as mine
was transformed.
For us to overcome externalcircumstances, we need to turn
the attention to ourselves,focusing on our inner change and
healing.
Positive results in our liveswill follow.
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Welcome to the Recover yourSoul podcast and community.
I'm Rev Rachel.
We are embarking on a new year,2025, a year where we are
stepping even more fully intoour authentic self, our soul
recovered self, and what I loveabout this journey is that every
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day is an opportunity to startanew.
It isn't about some huge shiftthat happens all at once.
It's about slow and steady andconsistent changes within
ourself and how we are choosingto see it.
That can make huge changes downthe road that we sometimes
don't give ourselves credit for.
If you've been coming to thepodcast for a while and you've
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been in the community and you'vebeen doing your soul recovery
work, this is a time forreflection.
This is a time to look andreally give yourself the credit
for the changes that arehappening within you and how you
feel in your own skin and yourown life and your own body, and
how you're letting go of controland learning to take your power
back, to have compassion foryourself and everyone in the
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situation, and we're moving intoa place where we can be more at
ease and feel our feelings in away that allows us to attend to
ourselves, to turn thatattention back to ourself and
our healing journey, ourawakening our consciousness, and
to be in the presence of somecomplex situations, complex life
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, in a way that really allows usto be okay even when things
around us don't feel okay.
In today's episode I wanted tocome back to this idea of
visioning that we started at thebeginning of the year, a couple
episodes ago, and I wanted toanswer a question that was on
the Spotify comments.
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I really love getting feedbackand responses from you about how
this is working for you and thetext me that's in the show
notes.
I don't know who you are, Ican't contact you, I can't
respond back, but you can usethat as a way to share with me
some questions that you mighthave how it is in your life.
And in Spotify they have thesame thing that you can make a
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comment and it does show me yourusername, so I can have more of
an idea if I recognize yourusername, who you are.
But it helps us connect andcommunicate as a community.
And then I really love it whenyou go to the private Facebook
community page in the SoulRecovery community page and
share with each other how it'sgoing on with you.
What are you working on yourSoul Recovery.
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What are some successes?
What are some questions thatyou have?
Do you need support?
I encourage you to reallyembrace all that's happening
within the community and to askthose questions.
I love that she is able toattend meetings and be present
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with us in the soul recoverycommunity from all the way on
the other side of the planet,and she said Happy New Year and
thank you for this.
I love the idea of envisioningand dreaming with faith, rachel,
but I'm finding it a difficultconcept to reconcile with
letting go and acceptance, whichare also pillars of soul
recovery.
How can we apply both conceptsof letting go and dreaming and I
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thought this was a really greatcomment, because this is the
foundation of our codependentpeople pleasing dilemma that we
are in on a regular basis how dowe choose ourself and allow
ourself to dream and let go andbe accepting and work the soul
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recovery tools that allow us tobe present with what is in other
relationships?
So I'm going to go ahead andtalk about that today, because I
think that this is reallyinvaluable in our soul recovery
journey.
In the episode where I talkedabout dreaming and allowing
yourself to vision, one of thethings that I think is so
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fascinating about that is formost of us.
It's really hard for us to saythis is what I need, because it
feels like it's an either or.
It feels like if you choosewhat you need, it means that
somebody else doesn't get whatthey need.
That somebody's needs and wantscome first, and what soul
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recovery is offering is for usto be able to look more clearly
about what that feels like to us.
What feels true to us aboutthat us?
What feels true to us aboutthat?
Why does it feel like somebodyhas to be the winner and
somebody else has to be thequote, unquote loser?
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And I get this a hundredpercent.
I get this so much.
And if you listened to lastweek's episode, I shared some of
my feelings that I had aroundChristmas and still sometimes
slipping back into peoplepleasing and codependency and
making sure that everyone elseis okay and recognizing that
it's really hard to ask for whatyou need and what you want.
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And I think the thing that's sopowerful about stepping into
our soul recovery journey isthat we're not asking the whole
world to change.
We're not actually doing thisthing, where we're asking for
magic, where we do this workwithin ourselves and all of a
sudden, by some miraculous event, people stop being the way that
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they've been or the world stopsbeing the way that it's being.
It is going to be the way thatit is.
But we're beginning to take alook at what is the reality in
which we are choosing to exist,because what we experience on
the outside is a directreflection of what we are
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experiencing on the inside, andthis very wild metaphysical
concepts around the world is, asyou choose to see it, the law
of attraction that we are indeedaligning and calling to ourself
.
What works for us feels reallyout there when we are in the
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midst of all of the beliefs andstories and patterns that we've
been in our life for so longabout caring for and taking care
of everybody else and trying tomake life be a certain way,
which, to be honest, wouldprobably make it easier for
everybody would just listen tosome of the great ideas that we
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have.
Right, it's not about thatsomebody's right or wrong.
We're starting to actuallydisassemble that piece of it,
that there is no judgment, thatthere isn't anybody who's right
or wrong in any of it.
It's just a complex communityand family systems of souls who
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are all in the process of tryingto understand who they are and
how they fit in and what aretheir stories and their patterns
, and that they're showing upwith their defendedness.
They're showing up in theirwoundedness.
They're using drugs or alcoholor unhealthy behaviors not
because they're broken, butbecause that's the only tool
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that they have at the time toheal or mend or pretend that
they don't have a broken heart.
We can have broken hearts.
It's not about pretending that.
That isn't it.
Being a human being means thatthere's a lot of complex
emotions, but the idea ofdreaming is actually around
beginning to understand that wehave much more dominion over our
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experience than we were evergiven permission to believe and,
at the same time, the lettinggo and accepting means that we
are letting go of everybodyelse's participation in our
experience.
But it also means that we'rehaving more and more clarity
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around what aligns with us andthat bumping up that we get of
what aligns with us.
And if something doesn't feelgood, we've spent so much time
trying to figure out how to maskthat that didn't feel good and
coming up with unhealthy toolsand systems to pretend like that
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didn't that.
That is okay, that that doesn'tfeel good to us, but it's okay,
we're going to handle it, we'regoing to do something about it,
we're going to try to fix it.
Once you start getting cleanerand healthier and more attuned
and more awake and more awareand more conscious, you start to
see that it's not a judgment ofsomething being right or wrong,
that you can begin to just saythis doesn't work for me, and it
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isn't about trying to controlit or fix it.
This is where the acceptance,the letting go of control, the
allowing it to be is and what'sinteresting was coming through
is it doesn't necessarily meanthat we're always ending those
relationships.
It isn't about walking away fromeverything.
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There is such a easypredisposition to just walk away
from what's hard.
Well, I like walking away fromwhat's hard.
That was my runaway, was one ofmy defense characteristics.
It was like shut the door,close the heart, leave the
situation and never come backagain.
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There's friendships that I havethat I've done that too.
There was jobs that I did thatI did that too, and you know,
the one place I didn't do thatwas in my marriage and with my
family.
I stayed in it and I continueto stay in it.
From this new place of can Iput my wellbeing in the hands of
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myself and can I allow them toput their wellbeing in the hands
of themselves, but to have morespace for source and spirit to
show up for everyone involved.
And what's so interesting aboutthe dreaming and allowing
yourself to use a law ofattraction to call to yourself
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the life that you want to liveis that, in general, the people
around you, they too, would likea life of ease and happiness
and joy and comfort andconnection.
They just don't know how to getthere.
But when we are in soulrecovery, what we're saying is
that the flashlight is on us andour experience, that we're
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spending more and more time.
Instead of doing it so thatthey change, we're doing it so
that we feel better.
We're doing it so that we'remore clear to the universe about
what we need and what we wantand what we're calling to
ourselves, to ourselves, andthrough that healing generally,
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we have more ability to let goof all of our past attachments
to how it's supposed to be, whowe're supposed to be, how we're
supposed to make it happen.
And as we relax and let go, weare being offered more
information that gives us theaction steps that are needed to
move closer still to whatactually is being called to us.
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And again, sometimes that meansthat you have to make big shifts
and changes in relationship orjobs or you know places in your
life, but a good part of thetime it means that you just quit
putting so much time and energyon what other people think
about you, you quit takingthings personally, you quit
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making assumptions, you quitneeding and wanting the world to
be projected upon in your mindhow you think it should be, and
you stop taking responsibility,this belief that most of us have
.
If you're here, it's becauseyou probably have a core belief,
a core wound, that says it ismy job to make sure everybody
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else is okay.
It is my job, my personalresponsibility is to carry the
weight of the world of my familyon my shoulders.
And when you really look atthat from the solar recovery
perspective, we're in step two.
We're saying we are powerlessover everything outside of
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ourselves.
Powerless over it beautiful,authentic way that we can and
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still they may choose to dothings and feel things that are
harmful to themselves and in thepast had been harmful to you.
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Back to the episode.
But when we begin to actuallytake responsibility for
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ourselves and how we're showingup and how it is hitting us, we
can let go of judgment and letgo of fear and heal those old
wounds and stories and patternsthat we've been living from that
make it feel like we can't askfor what we need or what we want
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.
One of the things that I thinkis so powerful about this work
is that it comes in stages andit's given to us in the stages
in which we need to go throughthem.
And, again, that's just abouttaking small incremental changes
and awarenesses and givingyourself the time to let each
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one of these layers of healinghappen for you.
I'm coming up.
In February 10th.
It'll be seven years of sobrietyfrom alcohol, which is
unbelievable, right.
I mean, I am so grateful to bereleased of the demon of
alcoholism.
That was a huge part of my lifefrom the time that I was 21
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years old.
I didn't get sober till I was48.
And if I look back, if we giveourselves grace and we say so, I
was on a spiritual journey fora long time.
Here's something that I learnedwhen I was younger.
That was part of how I havelearned more about myself.
Now, and we can be alljudgmental about ourselves and
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say, yeah, but it didn't stickor you didn't follow that, that
line, that timeline, so youcould have been sober earlier.
All of that is just beatingourselves up.
All of that is taking away fromthe power that we have to say.
Being a human being isincredibly complex.
It has so many layers and whenwe're letting go of fear and all
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of the past trauma andwoundedness that society
encourages us to hold on to, itfeels strange, it feels out of
control, it feels unmanageable.
Interestingly enough to let goof the woundedness, of the harm,
who are we if we aren't thesepeople that went through these
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difficult times?
You know who you are.
You're a bunch of survivors,you're heroes.
You are doing it.
You are releasing and lettinggo of the beliefs and stories
and patterns that do not serveyou.
You are letting go of an oldway of being.
You are moving into the law ofattraction, which says I get to
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choose what I want to have in mylife.
I'm going to call it to me, andthe truth is that I said this
in that episode.
I think it's so powerful thatwhen you're really in that space
of that inner knowing thatyou're held and loved and
resourced by something greaterstill and you're truly in that
place of faith, those guidancesthat come through, that feel so
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juicy and delicious and feel sogood, they are being offered to
you and we're afraid of them.
We're afraid of them because ofall these old beliefs and
sticky patterns that say, if Itake care of myself from a whole
perspective, the other peoplein my life, their feelings,
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might be hurt.
My immediate family doesn'tknow how to interact with me
from this place.
And all of that is potentiallytrue, but it's our old beliefs
and fears that make us believethat we'll be completely
rejected, that we'll be unloved,that we're not worthy.
It's actually pointing fingersat some of the core wounds and
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core beliefs that we're workingto release and let go.
And instead of judging yourselfand saying, oh, I can't believe
that, I think that it's a placeto be even more tender and
compassionate to yourself andsay I'm afraid to reach my
highest potential because I'mafraid it will hurt the people
around me or that I'll berejected, or that I'll have to
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change everything in my life.
And just to hold space for thatand just to see it, you don't
have to do anything about it.
I think so much of what we arein life is this wanting to
figure it all out, to have allthe answers, to have all
everything lined up.
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Why do we do that?
Because then we'll feel safer,because then we'll be in control
, because then there'll beperfection.
If I can hold it all togetherand know exactly what's
happening, then I can be safeand everything will be fine.
And then blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, I can be
safe and everything will be fine.
And then blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
That's just your inner selfthat has woundedness, that has
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fear, that's trying to keep yousafe and protected.
And the more that we justrecognize that that's true and
that's a part of us and we giveit grace and attention and say,
yeah, I can see why you'retrying to hold on to everything
so tightly.
And is it okay to dream?
And the dreaming is generallyabout how you want to feel.
That's what I encouraged you.
I encourage you to use thewriting prompts.
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I'm so happy and grateful to bein relationships with my family
and my spouse and my friendswhere we see each other and we
can deal with complex feelingsand emotions, but we hold each
other with compassion and love.
Those are feelings that areattainable and the more that we
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let go and we accept people forwho they are, that might look a
way that is different than wecould have ever imagined.
It might look a way where youmay not have a deep loving, we
can talk about everything and wehug and we spend all of our
time together.
Relationship with somebody thatyour ideal self wants but it's
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actually meeting their criteriaof saying I want a relationship
where we are connected and seeeach other and accept each other
just for who we are, and itmight mean that that
relationship has some spacewhere there's new boundaries,
new ways of communicating thatlook very different from the
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relationship that you currentlyhave or the ideal that you hold
in your mind of what that partof you wants it to look like.
So much of our woundedness andour suffering comes from
searching for and trying to haveunattainable things.
I was talking to somebodyrecently and we were saying is
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there actually like the perfectrelationship?
Is there the perfect marriagewhere they never have difficulty
, where you just think eachother are the most beautiful
people you've ever seen in yourwhole life and no one ever has
crunchiness and the kids playand they laugh and they have fun
and everyone's just joyous andfree and all the time?
I don't think so and, if I'mhonest, I don't think that would
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be healthy either, because youhave to have contrast.
You have to have something tobump up against, to encourage
you to work on yourself and towant to grow and be better.
Law of Attraction actually saysthat contrast gives you more
information about what you arebeing called to be, that it is
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through the bumping up againstthe difficulty that you say this
is not it.
Well, what do I want more?
But some part of us has thisfairy tale.
But some part of us has thisfairy tale, this fantasy of what
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we would like for it to be, andthat fantasy hangs heavy on us
and keeps us from actually beingpresent with what is and
accepting what is, and withgratitude, with awareness, and
with gratitude with awareness.
I can't even begin to say howstrange it is now to look back
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on my life and say I am gratefulto have been a drunk, I'm
grateful for the complexrelationship that I had with my
husband.
I'm grateful that my kids wereaddicts, that they struggled.
I'm grateful that my kids wereaddicts, that they struggled.
In those moments of my life,that is the last thing that I
would have thought that I couldlook back on and say, wow, it
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turns out that that dark nightof the soul, those relationships
that we had, those reallypainful experiences that we had,
have been part of how I got tothis place today, where I see
the world from a completelydifferent set of eyes than I had
before.
But I wouldn't have had theseeyes without that.
So this acceptance, the lettinggo that is so important in soul
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recovery, is about seeing whatis through a new set of eyes, so
that it can show you and giveyou more information about the
beliefs that are ready to bereleased, about the attachments
that we continue to hold becausethey are sticky and hard and
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difficult to let go because theyare so ingrained in there and
of course they are.
They are the tools that havebeen used over and over and over
and they're the neurons thathave been run on those paths and
they are sheathed together.
But we have neuroplasticity.
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We have the ability to changehow our brain works.
We have the ability to reachinto our soul and connect with
our higher power and ask to berelieved of our bondage of self,
to be relieved of the part ofus that feels this heavy, dense
responsibility for everybody inour life and making everything
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work out perfectly, and beginsto move even further into a
faith, into trust, into knowingthat things are working out for
our highest good Things areworking out for us.
My minister at the Unity Churchthat I attended used to say that
prayer, a lot that things areworking out for the highest good
.
And then people would come backyou know, rightfully so and say
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, yeah, but I got cancer, myfather died, there's a war,
there's these.
You know people are coming intooffice.
I don't like what's happeninghere.
How is that working out for myhighest good?
How is that working out for myhighest good?
And it isn't that we aredeserving of difficulty, that
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we're being punished and we'rebeing given quote unquote
lessons to show us our strength.
I think it's more gentle thanthat.
I think it's the free will thatwe have as human beings.
That we have as human beings,and the free will is wrapped up
in our psychology and how ourbrain works in fight or flight.
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In 1000s and 1000s and 1000s ofyears of human evolution, that
really had a very importantprotection mechanism of making
sure that we were safe.
That hasn't adjusted as quicklyas our lives have adjusted, and
so there's more to it than wecan understand.
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And on a spiritual level, itisn't about there being no war
or no illness.
It's about us recognizing thatour souls have so much more
capacity than we give it spaceto be, that this connection with
spirit says yes, even if thereare wars, can we trust that
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there is more going on and thepeople who are suffering can
feel that, knowing that they arebeing held even in their
darkest moments.
That even when we lose somebodywho is so important to us that
we can remember who they were inour lives, that we know that
death is always part of life andthat this is painful to be in
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it, to allow yourself to be init and from that to call to
yourself the life that they'reencouraging you to live, and not
to live in grief or sadnessforever, to not get held in that
, to move into a knowing thatthere is always something to be
learned, that as our heartsbreak wide open, we become more
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connected to source, moreconnected to our wholeness of
self, and we see beyond ourlimited human form.
When we're in the midst of it,it doesn't feel as easy as
sometimes.
It is to say in prayer andmeditation and in metaphysical
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experience or in your spiritualexperience, it's true.
That's the reason why we comeback into the practice is to
give ourselves the strength toremember, to remember, to
remember so that when we stepout into the world and we're
affronted with the complexity ofothers and life situations,
that we take a pause, we moveinto our heart, we remember
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forgiveness and compassion andgrace for ourselves, first and
foremost, and others.
We attend to our own healing,we recognize our old beliefs and
patterns that feel like we'reresponsible for everyone and we
let go of control.
We surrender it to somethingeven greater still and then we
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recognize that we areco-creating our life,
co-creating our life.
This is step four in soulrecovery connecting to something
even greater still, to thehigher power of your
understanding to co-create.
And that co-creation holdsspace for all of it holds space
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for everyone.
It holds space for the healingand it holds space for the hurt.
It holds space for the healingand it holds space for the hurt.
And to give yourself grace forwherever you're at and allow
yourself to feel your feelings.
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And maybe you're feelingfeelings, real feelings, for the
first time.
They're always showing ussomething.
Our feelings, they're showingus places where we need
attention in our heart.
They're showing us places wherewe feel joy and love and to
lean more into that, it doesn'talways have to be heavy.
The hope is that soul recoveryis actually giving you freedom
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and lightness to be in your lifein a way that is new and
different, that you are seeingit from a new perception that is
allowing you to let go ofcontrol, to let others be
exactly where they're at and toask for what you need and want
in your life, not from others,but from source, to connect to
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yourself and have clarity aboutwhat you want and what you need.
I was looking in some journalsas I'm getting through my
writing my my quote unquotememoir my story of how I found
soul recovery in my own life andI finally found the piece of
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paper that I was telling youabout in the Law of Attraction
episode from February 2019, ayear after my sobriety that when
I look back now again, I wantyou to really feel this, knowing
that when we do this work, it'snot about anybody else, it's
about ourselves having clarityabout what we want in our lives,
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and none of this stuff that Ihad written that was as if it
was happening now was happeningthen, and you can go back and
listen to that episode.
But I actually found the pieceof paper from my journal that I
had torn out and kept someplacesafe.
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I finally found it and it saysFebruary 2019.
I love watching the boys liveprosperous and independent lives
as they follow their passionsand dreams.
I love spending quality timewith my friends.
I'm so grateful to be workinghelping people and inspiring
them to live their fullest livesand heal their hearts.
My income continues to grow asI work less and less.
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I love watching our income andinvestments increase and prosper
and seeing zero due on ourcredit accounts as they are paid
in full.
It's a blessing to be enjoyingthe beach life in the winter and
summers in Colorado.
I love spending my free timecreating music, singing for
people and making art.
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This or something better still,rachel Ann, it's incredibly
powerful to read this almost sixyears later and that all of
this has come true and it's notin rejection or in control of
anyone else.
This is purely the work that Ihave done in my own life.
I may not be as fit and looklike people look like on TV, but
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for me, my body is out of pain.
It is not in the same level ofpain that I've had my entire
life from my lower back, and Ido have a relationship with my
husband now.
That is a best friendrelationship and we are
traveling and we do enjoy ourtime together and our family
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just had a fabulous Christmasthat had some real life stuff,
but we enjoyed our time togetherlike never before.
My boys are doing well, theyare living lives that are
independent and I do have thisincredible group of friends that
all came in a community aftermy sobriety, when I had to leave
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my friendships from before thatwere really around my drinking
and alcoholism.
I do have better financialstanding than I ever had before
and my life is a blessing.
We may not be spending everywinter at the beach, but we are
going every year to someplacewarm in the winter.
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It's happening.
It is happening and it'shappening because I asked for it
, because I was willing to askfor and dream for what I needed
and to let go of trying tocontrol the world around me to
live some potential fantasy thatisn't real.
So letting go and dreaming areconnected.
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They need each other.
Without the dream, what are youletting go for?
And without letting go, how areyou going to get to the dream?
If you need help with this, I'malways here to help you.
You can either do coachingone-on-one with me or do the
work the steps on your own onthe soul recovery website.
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Together we can do the workthat will recover your soul.
Until next time, namaste, thankyou for listening and I hope
that that helps support yoursoul recovery process.
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As codependents and people pleasers
, it can be hard to ask for whatwe need and what we want.
A few weeks ago, we did anepisode about the law of
attraction and manifestation.
What, if it feels like you'reasking for what you need is in
opposition to the people in yourlife, to being your full self,
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means that you're not doingsomething for someone else.
This is our dilemma.
This is the part of us thatwe're always working on.
Today's episode is about how tolet go, how to use the
principles and tools of soulrecovery around detachment and
letting go, and how thatresponds to how we can ask for
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more and begin to dream andcreate the life that we love.
Enjoy the episode.
Welcome to the Recover yourSoul podcast a spiritual path to
a happy and healthy life.
My name is Reverend RachelHarrison.
I started Recover your Soulafter having profound changes in
my life from my recovery ofalcoholism, codependency and
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control addiction.
I was guided to share the toolsand principles of spirituality
and soul recovery to help otherstransform their lives as mine
was transformed.
For us to overcome externalcircumstances, we need to turn
the attention to ourselves,focusing on our inner change and
healing.
Positive results in our liveswill follow.
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Welcome to the Recover yourSoul podcast and community.
I'm Rev Rachel.
We are embarking on a new year,2025, a year where we are
stepping even more fully intoour authentic self, our soul
recovered self, and what I loveabout this journey is that every
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day is an opportunity to startanew.
It isn't about some huge shiftthat happens all at once.
It's about slow and steady andconsistent changes within
ourself and how we are choosingto see it.
That can make huge changes downthe road that we sometimes
don't give ourselves credit for.
If you've been coming to thepodcast for a while and you've
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been in the community and you'vebeen doing your soul recovery
work, this is a time forreflection.
This is a time to look andreally give yourself the credit
for the changes that arehappening within you and how you
feel in your own skin and yourown life and your own body, and
how you're letting go of controland learning to take your power
back, to have compassion foryourself and everyone in the
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situation, and we're moving intoa place where we can be more at
ease and feel our feelings in away that allows us to attend to
ourselves, to turn thatattention back to ourself and
our healing journey, ourawakening our consciousness, and
to be in the presence of somecomplex situations, complex life
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, in a way that really allows usto be okay even when things
around us don't feel okay.
In today's episode I wanted tocome back to this idea of
visioning that we started at thebeginning of the year, a couple
episodes ago, and I wanted toanswer a question that was on
the Spotify comments.
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I really love getting feedbackand responses from you about how
this is working for you and thetext me that's in the show
notes.
I don't know who you are, Ican't contact you, I can't
respond back, but you can usethat as a way to share with me
some questions that you mighthave how it is in your life.
And in Spotify they have thesame thing that you can make a
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comment and it does show me yourusername, so I can have more of
an idea if I recognize yourusername, who you are.
But it helps us connect andcommunicate as a community.
And then I really love it whenyou go to the private Facebook
community page in the SoulRecovery community page and
share with each other how it'sgoing on with you.
What are you working on yourSoul Recovery.
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What are some successes?
What are some questions thatyou have?
Do you need support?
I encourage you to reallyembrace all that's happening
within the community and to askthose questions.
I love that she is able toattend meetings and be present
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with us in the soul recoverycommunity from all the way on
the other side of the planet,and she said Happy New Year and
thank you for this.
I love the idea of envisioningand dreaming with faith, rachel,
but I'm finding it a difficultconcept to reconcile with
letting go and acceptance, whichare also pillars of soul
recovery.
How can we apply both conceptsof letting go and dreaming and I
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thought this was a really greatcomment, because this is the
foundation of our codependentpeople pleasing dilemma that we
are in on a regular basis how dowe choose ourself and allow
ourself to dream and let go andbe accepting and work the soul
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recovery tools that allow us tobe present with what is in other
relationships?
So I'm going to go ahead andtalk about that today, because I
think that this is reallyinvaluable in our soul recovery
journey.
In the episode where I talkedabout dreaming and allowing
yourself to vision, one of thethings that I think is so
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fascinating about that is formost of us.
It's really hard for us to saythis is what I need, because it
feels like it's an either or.
It feels like if you choosewhat you need, it means that
somebody else doesn't get whatthey need.
That somebody's needs and wantscome first, and what soul
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recovery is offering is for usto be able to look more clearly
about what that feels like to us.
What feels true to us aboutthat us?
What feels true to us aboutthat?
Why does it feel like somebodyhas to be the winner and
somebody else has to be thequote, unquote loser?
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And I get this a hundredpercent.
I get this so much.
And if you listened to lastweek's episode, I shared some of
my feelings that I had aroundChristmas and still sometimes
slipping back into peoplepleasing and codependency and
making sure that everyone elseis okay and recognizing that
it's really hard to ask for whatyou need and what you want.
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And I think the thing that's sopowerful about stepping into
our soul recovery journey isthat we're not asking the whole
world to change.
We're not actually doing thisthing, where we're asking for
magic, where we do this workwithin ourselves and all of a
sudden, by some miraculous event, people stop being the way that
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they've been or the world stopsbeing the way that it's being.
It is going to be the way thatit is.
But we're beginning to take alook at what is the reality in
which we are choosing to exist,because what we experience on
the outside is a directreflection of what we are
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experiencing on the inside, andthis very wild metaphysical
concepts around the world is, asyou choose to see it, the law
of attraction that we are indeedaligning and calling to ourself
.
What works for us feels reallyout there when we are in the
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midst of all of the beliefs andstories and patterns that we've
been in our life for so longabout caring for and taking care
of everybody else and trying tomake life be a certain way,
which, to be honest, wouldprobably make it easier for
everybody would just listen tosome of the great ideas that we
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have.
Right, it's not about thatsomebody's right or wrong.
We're starting to actuallydisassemble that piece of it,
that there is no judgment, thatthere isn't anybody who's right
or wrong in any of it.
It's just a complex communityand family systems of souls who
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are all in the process of tryingto understand who they are and
how they fit in and what aretheir stories and their patterns
, and that they're showing upwith their defendedness.
They're showing up in theirwoundedness.
They're using drugs or alcoholor unhealthy behaviors not
because they're broken, butbecause that's the only tool
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that they have at the time toheal or mend or pretend that
they don't have a broken heart.
We can have broken hearts.
It's not about pretending that.
That isn't it.
Being a human being means thatthere's a lot of complex
emotions, but the idea ofdreaming is actually around
beginning to understand that wehave much more dominion over our
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experience than we were evergiven permission to believe and,
at the same time, the lettinggo and accepting means that we
are letting go of everybodyelse's participation in our
experience.
But it also means that we'rehaving more and more clarity
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around what aligns with us andthat bumping up that we get of
what aligns with us.
And if something doesn't feelgood, we've spent so much time
trying to figure out how to maskthat that didn't feel good and
coming up with unhealthy toolsand systems to pretend like that
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didn't that.
That is okay, that that doesn'tfeel good to us, but it's okay,
we're going to handle it, we'regoing to do something about it,
we're going to try to fix it.
Once you start getting cleanerand healthier and more attuned
and more awake and more awareand more conscious, you start to
see that it's not a judgment ofsomething being right or wrong,
that you can begin to just saythis doesn't work for me, and it
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isn't about trying to controlit or fix it.
This is where the acceptance,the letting go of control, the
allowing it to be is and what'sinteresting was coming through
is it doesn't necessarily meanthat we're always ending those
relationships.
It isn't about walking away fromeverything.
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There is such a easypredisposition to just walk away
from what's hard.
Well, I like walking away fromwhat's hard.
That was my runaway, was one ofmy defense characteristics.
It was like shut the door,close the heart, leave the
situation and never come backagain.
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There's friendships that I havethat I've done that too.
There was jobs that I did thatI did that too, and you know,
the one place I didn't do thatwas in my marriage and with my
family.
I stayed in it and I continueto stay in it.
From this new place of can Iput my wellbeing in the hands of
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myself and can I allow them toput their wellbeing in the hands
of themselves, but to have morespace for source and spirit to
show up for everyone involved.
And what's so interesting aboutthe dreaming and allowing
yourself to use a law ofattraction to call to yourself
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the life that you want to liveis that, in general, the people
around you, they too, would likea life of ease and happiness
and joy and comfort andconnection.
They just don't know how to getthere.
But when we are in soulrecovery, what we're saying is
that the flashlight is on us andour experience, that we're
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spending more and more time.
Instead of doing it so thatthey change, we're doing it so
that we feel better.
We're doing it so that we'remore clear to the universe about
what we need and what we wantand what we're calling to
ourselves, to ourselves, andthrough that healing generally,
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we have more ability to let goof all of our past attachments
to how it's supposed to be, whowe're supposed to be, how we're
supposed to make it happen.
And as we relax and let go, weare being offered more
information that gives us theaction steps that are needed to
move closer still to whatactually is being called to us.
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And again, sometimes that meansthat you have to make big shifts
and changes in relationship orjobs or you know places in your
life, but a good part of thetime it means that you just quit
putting so much time and energyon what other people think
about you, you quit takingthings personally, you quit
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making assumptions, you quitneeding and wanting the world to
be projected upon in your mindhow you think it should be, and
you stop taking responsibility,this belief that most of us have
.
If you're here, it's becauseyou probably have a core belief,
a core wound, that says it ismy job to make sure everybody
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else is okay.
It is my job, my personalresponsibility is to carry the
weight of the world of my familyon my shoulders.
And when you really look atthat from the solar recovery
perspective, we're in step two.
We're saying we are powerlessover everything outside of
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ourselves.
Powerless over it beautiful,authentic way that we can and
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still they may choose to dothings and feel things that are
harmful to themselves and in thepast had been harmful to you.
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about the nine step soulrecovery process.
I hope that you'll join us thefirst Monday of every month for
the free soul recovery supportgroup on zoom, where we learn
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If you'd like to work directlywith me to move through the nine
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Back to the episode.
But when we begin to actuallytake responsibility for
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ourselves and how we're showingup and how it is hitting us, we
can let go of judgment and letgo of fear and heal those old
wounds and stories and patternsthat we've been living from that
make it feel like we can't askfor what we need or what we want
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.
One of the things that I thinkis so powerful about this work
is that it comes in stages andit's given to us in the stages
in which we need to go throughthem.
And, again, that's just abouttaking small incremental changes
and awarenesses and givingyourself the time to let each
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one of these layers of healinghappen for you.
I'm coming up.
In February 10th.
It'll be seven years of sobrietyfrom alcohol, which is
unbelievable, right.
I mean, I am so grateful to bereleased of the demon of
alcoholism.
That was a huge part of my lifefrom the time that I was 21
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years old.
I didn't get sober till I was48.
And if I look back, if we giveourselves grace and we say so, I
was on a spiritual journey fora long time.
Here's something that I learnedwhen I was younger.
That was part of how I havelearned more about myself.
Now, and we can be alljudgmental about ourselves and
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say, yeah, but it didn't stickor you didn't follow that, that
line, that timeline, so youcould have been sober earlier.
All of that is just beatingourselves up.
All of that is taking away fromthe power that we have to say.
Being a human being isincredibly complex.
It has so many layers and whenwe're letting go of fear and all
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of the past trauma andwoundedness that society
encourages us to hold on to, itfeels strange, it feels out of
control, it feels unmanageable.
Interestingly enough to let goof the woundedness, of the harm,
who are we if we aren't thesepeople that went through these
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difficult times?
You know who you are.
You're a bunch of survivors,you're heroes.
You are doing it.
You are releasing and lettinggo of the beliefs and stories
and patterns that do not serveyou.
You are letting go of an oldway of being.
You are moving into the law ofattraction, which says I get to
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choose what I want to have in mylife.
I'm going to call it to me, andthe truth is that I said this
in that episode.
I think it's so powerful thatwhen you're really in that space
of that inner knowing thatyou're held and loved and
resourced by something greaterstill and you're truly in that
place of faith, those guidancesthat come through, that feel so
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juicy and delicious and feel sogood, they are being offered to
you and we're afraid of them.
We're afraid of them because ofall these old beliefs and
sticky patterns that say, if Itake care of myself from a whole
perspective, the other peoplein my life, their feelings,
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might be hurt.
My immediate family doesn'tknow how to interact with me
from this place.
And all of that is potentiallytrue, but it's our old beliefs
and fears that make us believethat we'll be completely
rejected, that we'll be unloved,that we're not worthy.
It's actually pointing fingersat some of the core wounds and
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core beliefs that we're workingto release and let go.
And instead of judging yourselfand saying, oh, I can't believe
that, I think that it's a placeto be even more tender and
compassionate to yourself andsay I'm afraid to reach my
highest potential because I'mafraid it will hurt the people
around me or that I'll berejected, or that I'll have to
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change everything in my life.
And just to hold space for thatand just to see it, you don't
have to do anything about it.
I think so much of what we arein life is this wanting to
figure it all out, to have allthe answers, to have all
everything lined up.
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Why do we do that?
Because then we'll feel safer,because then we'll be in control
, because then there'll beperfection.
If I can hold it all togetherand know exactly what's
happening, then I can be safeand everything will be fine.
And then blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, I can be
safe and everything will be fine.
And then blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
That's just your inner selfthat has woundedness, that has
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fear, that's trying to keep yousafe and protected.
And the more that we justrecognize that that's true and
that's a part of us and we giveit grace and attention and say,
yeah, I can see why you'retrying to hold on to everything
so tightly.
And is it okay to dream?
And the dreaming is generallyabout how you want to feel.
That's what I encouraged you.
I encourage you to use thewriting prompts.
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I'm so happy and grateful to bein relationships with my family
and my spouse and my friendswhere we see each other and we
can deal with complex feelingsand emotions, but we hold each
other with compassion and love.
Those are feelings that areattainable and the more that we
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let go and we accept people forwho they are, that might look a
way that is different than wecould have ever imagined.
It might look a way where youmay not have a deep loving, we
can talk about everything and wehug and we spend all of our
time together.
Relationship with somebody thatyour ideal self wants but it's
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actually meeting their criteriaof saying I want a relationship
where we are connected and seeeach other and accept each other
just for who we are, and itmight mean that that
relationship has some spacewhere there's new boundaries,
new ways of communicating thatlook very different from the
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relationship that you currentlyhave or the ideal that you hold
in your mind of what that partof you wants it to look like.
So much of our woundedness andour suffering comes from
searching for and trying to haveunattainable things.
I was talking to somebodyrecently and we were saying is
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there actually like the perfectrelationship?
Is there the perfect marriagewhere they never have difficulty
, where you just think eachother are the most beautiful
people you've ever seen in yourwhole life and no one ever has
crunchiness and the kids playand they laugh and they have fun
and everyone's just joyous andfree and all the time?
I don't think so and, if I'mhonest, I don't think that would
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be healthy either, because youhave to have contrast.
You have to have something tobump up against, to encourage
you to work on yourself and towant to grow and be better.
Law of Attraction actually saysthat contrast gives you more
information about what you arebeing called to be, that it is
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through the bumping up againstthe difficulty that you say this
is not it.
Well, what do I want more?
But some part of us has thisfairy tale.
But some part of us has thisfairy tale, this fantasy of what
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we would like for it to be, andthat fantasy hangs heavy on us
and keeps us from actually beingpresent with what is and
accepting what is, and withgratitude, with awareness, and
with gratitude with awareness.
I can't even begin to say howstrange it is now to look back
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on my life and say I am gratefulto have been a drunk, I'm
grateful for the complexrelationship that I had with my
husband.
I'm grateful that my kids wereaddicts, that they struggled.
I'm grateful that my kids wereaddicts, that they struggled.
In those moments of my life,that is the last thing that I
would have thought that I couldlook back on and say, wow, it
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turns out that that dark nightof the soul, those relationships
that we had, those reallypainful experiences that we had,
have been part of how I got tothis place today, where I see
the world from a completelydifferent set of eyes than I had
before.
But I wouldn't have had theseeyes without that.
So this acceptance, the lettinggo that is so important in soul
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recovery, is about seeing whatis through a new set of eyes, so
that it can show you and giveyou more information about the
beliefs that are ready to bereleased, about the attachments
that we continue to hold becausethey are sticky and hard and
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difficult to let go because theyare so ingrained in there and
of course they are.
They are the tools that havebeen used over and over and over
and they're the neurons thathave been run on those paths and
they are sheathed together.
But we have neuroplasticity.
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We have the ability to changehow our brain works.
We have the ability to reachinto our soul and connect with
our higher power and ask to berelieved of our bondage of self,
to be relieved of the part ofus that feels this heavy, dense
responsibility for everybody inour life and making everything
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work out perfectly, and beginsto move even further into a
faith, into trust, into knowingthat things are working out for
our highest good Things areworking out for us.
My minister at the Unity Churchthat I attended used to say that
prayer, a lot that things areworking out for the highest good
.
And then people would come backyou know, rightfully so and say
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, yeah, but I got cancer, myfather died, there's a war,
there's these.
You know people are coming intooffice.
I don't like what's happeninghere.
How is that working out for myhighest good?
How is that working out for myhighest good?
And it isn't that we aredeserving of difficulty, that
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we're being punished and we'rebeing given quote unquote
lessons to show us our strength.
I think it's more gentle thanthat.
I think it's the free will thatwe have as human beings.
That we have as human beings,and the free will is wrapped up
in our psychology and how ourbrain works in fight or flight.
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In 1000s and 1000s and 1000s ofyears of human evolution, that
really had a very importantprotection mechanism of making
sure that we were safe.
That hasn't adjusted as quicklyas our lives have adjusted, and
so there's more to it than wecan understand.
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And on a spiritual level, itisn't about there being no war
or no illness.
It's about us recognizing thatour souls have so much more
capacity than we give it spaceto be, that this connection with
spirit says yes, even if thereare wars, can we trust that
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there is more going on and thepeople who are suffering can
feel that, knowing that they arebeing held even in their
darkest moments.
That even when we lose somebodywho is so important to us that
we can remember who they were inour lives, that we know that
death is always part of life andthat this is painful to be in
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it, to allow yourself to be init and from that to call to
yourself the life that they'reencouraging you to live, and not
to live in grief or sadnessforever, to not get held in that
, to move into a knowing thatthere is always something to be
learned, that as our heartsbreak wide open, we become more
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connected to source, moreconnected to our wholeness of
self, and we see beyond ourlimited human form.
When we're in the midst of it,it doesn't feel as easy as
sometimes.
It is to say in prayer andmeditation and in metaphysical
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experience or in your spiritualexperience, it's true.
That's the reason why we comeback into the practice is to
give ourselves the strength toremember, to remember, to
remember so that when we stepout into the world and we're
affronted with the complexity ofothers and life situations,
that we take a pause, we moveinto our heart, we remember
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forgiveness and compassion andgrace for ourselves, first and
foremost, and others.
We attend to our own healing,we recognize our old beliefs and
patterns that feel like we'reresponsible for everyone and we
let go of control.
We surrender it to somethingeven greater still and then we
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recognize that we areco-creating our life,
co-creating our life.
This is step four in soulrecovery connecting to something
even greater still, to thehigher power of your
understanding to co-create.
And that co-creation holdsspace for all of it holds space
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for everyone.
It holds space for the healingand it holds space for the hurt.
It holds space for the healingand it holds space for the hurt.
And to give yourself grace forwherever you're at and allow
yourself to feel your feelings.
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And maybe you're feelingfeelings, real feelings, for the
first time.
They're always showing ussomething.
Our feelings, they're showingus places where we need
attention in our heart.
They're showing us places wherewe feel joy and love and to
lean more into that, it doesn'talways have to be heavy.
The hope is that soul recoveryis actually giving you freedom
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and lightness to be in your lifein a way that is new and
different, that you are seeingit from a new perception that is
allowing you to let go ofcontrol, to let others be
exactly where they're at and toask for what you need and want
in your life, not from others,but from source, to connect to
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yourself and have clarity aboutwhat you want and what you need.
I was looking in some journalsas I'm getting through my
writing my my quote unquotememoir my story of how I found
soul recovery in my own life andI finally found the piece of
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paper that I was telling youabout in the Law of Attraction
episode from February 2019, ayear after my sobriety that when
I look back now again, I wantyou to really feel this, knowing
that when we do this work, it'snot about anybody else, it's
about ourselves having clarityabout what we want in our lives,
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and none of this stuff that Ihad written that was as if it
was happening now was happeningthen, and you can go back and
listen to that episode.
But I actually found the pieceof paper from my journal that I
had torn out and kept someplacesafe.
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I finally found it and it saysFebruary 2019.
I love watching the boys liveprosperous and independent lives
as they follow their passionsand dreams.
I love spending quality timewith my friends.
I'm so grateful to be workinghelping people and inspiring
them to live their fullest livesand heal their hearts.
My income continues to grow asI work less and less.
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I love watching our income andinvestments increase and prosper
and seeing zero due on ourcredit accounts as they are paid
in full.
It's a blessing to be enjoyingthe beach life in the winter and
summers in Colorado.
I love spending my free timecreating music, singing for
people and making art.
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This or something better still,rachel Ann, it's incredibly
powerful to read this almost sixyears later and that all of
this has come true and it's notin rejection or in control of
anyone else.
This is purely the work that Ihave done in my own life.
I may not be as fit and looklike people look like on TV, but
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for me, my body is out of pain.
It is not in the same level ofpain that I've had my entire
life from my lower back, and Ido have a relationship with my
husband now.
That is a best friendrelationship and we are
traveling and we do enjoy ourtime together and our family
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just had a fabulous Christmasthat had some real life stuff,
but we enjoyed our time togetherlike never before.
My boys are doing well, theyare living lives that are
independent and I do have thisincredible group of friends that
all came in a community aftermy sobriety, when I had to leave
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my friendships from before thatwere really around my drinking
and alcoholism.
I do have better financialstanding than I ever had before
and my life is a blessing.
We may not be spending everywinter at the beach, but we are
going every year to someplacewarm in the winter.
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It's happening.
It is happening and it'shappening because I asked for it
, because I was willing to askfor and dream for what I needed
and to let go of trying tocontrol the world around me to
live some potential fantasy thatisn't real.
So letting go and dreaming areconnected.
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They need each other.
Without the dream, what are youletting go for?
And without letting go, how areyou going to get to the dream?
If you need help with this, I'malways here to help you.
You can either do coachingone-on-one with me or do the
work the steps on your own onthe soul recovery website.
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Together we can do the workthat will recover your soul.
Until next time, namaste, thankyou for listening and I hope
that that helps support yoursoul recovery process.
Just a reminder that everyFriday is the Recover your Soul
bonus podcast.
This podcast is for Patreonmembers and Apple podcast
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subscribers, and not only do youget an incredible interview or
book study that comes with beingpart of that community, but
your subscribing helps supportthis podcast and the Recover
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If you want to listen to thosebonus episodes but can't
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member and have access forlimited time to new episodes.
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Visit the websiteRecoverYourSoulnet or check out
the show links below for couponsand information for upcoming
events.
I thank you for sharing thispodcast with your friends and
family.
I thank you for giving it fivestars, and the reviews that are
left bring tears to my eyes.
I am honored to be part of yourlife.
Together we can do the workthat will recover your soul.
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