In this raw and transformative episode, Jason Rigby and Duane Yardman-Frank tackle the unexpected challenges of recovery—especially the “beast” of narcissism. They explore how addiction patterns like control, self-centeredness, and unresolved trauma can sabotage relationships. Through personal anecdotes and hard-hitting truths, they reveal actionable steps for growing into emotionally aware, accountable, and loving individuals in recovery. Whether you're in the early stages or years into your journey, this episode offers wisdom, humor, and hope for anyone ready to take their recovery to the next level.
Key Takeaways:
The Narcissism Trap in Recovery: Why unresolved patterns of self-centeredness persist after addiction.
The Role of Relationships in Recovery: How early sobriety tests our ability to connect authentically.
The Importance of Vulnerability: Why being genuine fosters trust and love in relationships.
Breaking Patterns of Control: Learning to surrender and let go without manipulation.
From Victim to Creator: Shifting focus from past wounds to building a thriving future.
Practical Tools for Healing: Tips on self-awareness, communication, and being a better partner.
Timestamps:
0:00–2:30 — Introduction: Recovery stories and life lessons from Jason and Duane.
2:31–6:45 — Narcissism as the “Game of Thrones” dragon that destroys relationships.
6:46–11:30 — Vulnerability as a superpower: Reclaiming connection and trust.
11:31–18:15 — Healing isn’t an excuse: Why your trauma doesn’t justify bad behavior.
18:16–25:00 — Emotional accountability: Turning your recovery into a growth journey.
25:01–35:30 — Practical tips: The “no tiger in the room” mantra and scripting better behaviors.
35:31–44:59 — Relationships are sacred: Choosing love over hedonism and control.
45:00–End — Closing thoughts: The future-focused mindset for a healthier recovery. Resources Mentioned:
Book: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
Podcast Website: https://www.recoveredcourse.com
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