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December 21, 2023 56 mins

If you struggle with self-sabotage and want to learn how to lean into pleasure and recover from perfectionism, this convo is for you! Katherine Schafler and I discuss, how to stop punishing oneself, the difficulty of feeling joy, pleasure and selfishness, the culture's treatment of women's pleasure, selfishness and attending to oneself, the illusion of balance, guilt and shame, understanding your values, and different kinds of help. In this conversation, we discuss the concept of asking for help and the different types of help that are available. We discuss how help is not just about emotional vulnerability but also includes community help and tangible assistance.

Takeaways

  • Asking for help is not limited to emotional vulnerability but can also involve seeking community help and tangible assistance.
  • It is important to understand what kind of help would be most useful in a given situation.
  • Help can come in various forms, and it doesn't have to be a big, life-changing event.
  • Sometimes, help can be as simple as a friend sending dumb memes

If you are interested in therapy or learning more about my practice, Therapy for Women Center, visit www.therapyforwomencenter.com. We currently serve 20+ states virtually and have three physical office locations in the Philadelphia area.

I would love to connect with you, reach out to me on instagram and TikTok @therapyforwomen. To suggest a topic, buy my books, please visit www.amandaewhite.com.

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Katherine Morgan Schafler, LMHC, is a psychotherapist, writer and speaker based in New York City. She is the author of "The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control." Formerly an on-site therapist at Google, she earned her degrees and training at UC Berkeley and Columbia University, with post-graduate certification from the Association for Spirituality and Psychotherapy. 

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