February 15, 2025 • 43 mins
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Losing a parent is one of the most challenging experiences young people can face, and it’s a journey that feels uniquely personal yet universally painful. Join us as we open our hearts and share personal stories of grief, including the recent loss of a family member. Our discussion not only acknowledges the complexity of emotions like anger, guilt, or blame but also emphasizes the necessity of expressing these feelings. We’re here to guide you through healthy ways to cope, whether it’s through conversation or journaling, helping you find peace amid the chaos.
School should be a sanctuary, but recent incidents remind us it’s not always safe. We confront this unsettling reality by examining two disturbing cases: a teacher's aide in Bloomington accused of abusing a disabled student, and a tragic shooting at Antioch High School in Nashville. These events highlight the unpredictable and often frightening nature of school safety. We break down the factors, such as security lapses, that may have contributed to these tragedies and stress the importance of parental vigilance and community involvement in protecting our children.
In our final segment, we address the urgent need for robust safety measures in schools, spotlighting distressing misconduct cases from Highland Park to Lawrence. As we unravel these stories—ranging from unauthorized surveillance to allegations of sexual abuse—we call for vigilant reporting and proactive safety protocols. We invite you to connect with us for continued support through our YouTube and TikTok platforms, offering guidance and resources for navigating both grief and the challenging realities of today’s educational environments. Join us as we strive to create a safer, more compassionate world for all students and families.
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
this is the everyday podcast for the everyday people,
guys.
Welcome back to another episodeof red.
It's the everyday podcast forthe everyday people.
Now, guys, as always, we arehere each week to bring you all
school news, the news that allschool news, the news that will
leave you shocked, the news thatwill leave you bamboozled and
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the news that will leave youwondering as to what is
occurring in life in this world.
One of the things that I reallywant to be able to say to you
guys is that I know that it hasbeen a rough couple of weeks.
There's been differentpolitical elements, there's been
different changes, there's beencircumstances that can really
call upon your patience.
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It can be a test of yourintegrity, it can be a challenge
of your endurance, but when youlog on to this podcast, when
you tune in, it really leavesyou refreshed.
At least, that's the goal.
I want you guys to feelrefreshed when you come in
contact with this podcast.
I never want you guys to be orfeel as though this podcast
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doesn't have any value orpracticality in your particular
life.
Now, this week is a verydifficult week for my family.
We've lost my uncle in death.
Yesterday I got the phone callthat he had passed away in his
sleep, and it got me to thinkingabout all of the people around
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the world whom are dealing withdeath right now.
And so, because this podcast isdirected to young persons it
has young persons in mind Iwanted to be able to speak to
you guys on that theme.
So, with the discussion forepisode number 24, our theme,
our theme, is when a parent dies.
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When a parent dies, how can youcope?
Well, here's the challenge.
Dies how can you cope?
Well, here's the challenge.
Damie was six years old when ananeurysm claimed the life of
her dad.
Derek was nine when his fatherdied of heart disease.
Janine was seven when her mompassed away after a long battle
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with ovarian cancer.
All too soon, these three youngpeople were confronted with the
death of a loved one.
Have you ever felt similar orhad a similar experience
regarding the loss of a lovedone?
Well, if so, this discussion isgoing to be able to help you
come to terms with your loss.
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There are some things that weneed to consider, though.
This discussion will focus onthe death of a parent, but the
principles discussed can alsoapply to the death of a sibling
or a friend.
So there's just one thing Iwant you guys to note that,
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although we're focusing onparents, when a parent dies in
the life of a young person, theprinciples in this article can
be practical for all deaths.
So what you should know thereare many ways to grieve.
This means that the way youexpress your sorrow might differ
from the way others do so.
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Coping with a death does notfollow a simple pattern or set
of rules.
This was mentioned in the bookHelping Teens Cope with Death.
The important thing is that youdo not unduly suppress your
grief.
Well, why is that important notto suppress your grief?
Well, one suppressing yourgrief can be harmful.
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Janine, mentioned at the outset, says I thought I had to be
strong for my little sister, soI buried my emotions.
Even today, I tend to suppresspainful feelings, and that's not
healthy.
Experts would agree as well.
Feelings denied or bottled upwon't stay bottled up forever,
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says the book the Grieving Teen.
They will return when you leastexpect them to, in the form of
emotional flare-ups or physicalailments.
Suppressed grief can also leadto the abuse of alcohol and
drugs, all done in an effort tonumb the pain.
Here's another thing to keep inmind Grieving may be accompanied
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by confusing emotions At timeswhen you're going through this
road of grief along with thesesuppressed emotions.
If you are not letting theseemotions out, it could cause you
to do or say something harmful.
But there are cases in whichyou may feel as though you can't
open up to anyone about theloss of your parent or the loss
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of your dear loved one.
So what can you do?
Write it down in a journal,take time with your thoughts,
meditate on practical ways thatyou can really be able to get
that comfort off of onto thepage and out of your heart.
There are things that we keep inmind when it comes to grief,
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such as grieving may beaccompanied by confusing
emotions.
For example, some people feelanger at the person who died.
They feel that that person hasabandoned them.
Others choose to blame God,thinking that he should have
prevented the death.
Many who grieve feel guilty forthings they did or said to the
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person, since there is now noway to make amends.
So grieving can be a complexprocess.
I remember when I lost myyounger brother in death, when
he was killed a few years ago,my mother was very upset.
She was upset because she feltas though more could have been
done to prevent the death.
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Is that true of yourcircumstances?
Do you feel as though morecould have been done to prevent
the death?
Well, if you do keep in mindthis, the principles in our
discussion we're going to list afew things that you guys can do
in order to cope with or meetthe devastation of loss.
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Here's the first thing Talk tosomeone.
You might be inclined toisolate yourself during this
difficult time, but when youpour out your feelings to a
family member or a friend, itwill help you to deal with your
emotions and keep this tragedyfrom overwhelming you.
The power of talking to someonecannot be taken for granted.
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It will get you places that youcannot get to by holding those
feelings in on your own.
It allows you to be able tofeel the love and the human
empathy of another human being,and what a wonderful thing that
is when you feel as though thereis someone there in your corner
.
Another suggestion that mayhelp if you can't talk to
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someone, as we discussed earlierkeep a journal.
Write about the parent you lostor the person you've lost, for
example, what is your mostcherished memory of that person?
Write about his or hercommendable qualities and which
ones you would like to imitatein your life.
You see, when you ask yourselfthose questions, you place those
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answers into a journal, a bookof safekeeping.
It fortifies you and keeps yourolling on the road of grief.
If you are plagued with negativethoughts, for example, if you
cannot stop thinking aboutsomething harsh you said to your
parent or your loved one beforehe or she passed away, write
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down what you feel and why.
For example, I feel guiltybecause I had an argument with
my dad the day before he died.
For my younger brother, it wasabout two days before this road
of recovery he was put on.
We had a tumultuous.
It was a terrible fight.
It was one of the worst we hadhad.
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We were dealing with the lossof family from COVID-19 and well
, we just couldn't see eye toeye and so it got very heated.
Fortunately, I was able toapologize to my brother before
his life ended.
So, yes, that can be achallenge.
Here's something that may help,though Be reasonable of your
guilt.
Something that may help, thoughBe reasonable of your guilt.
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You cannot blame yourself fornot knowing that.
There would never be anopportunity to apologize, says
the book the Grieving Teen, tosuggest that one must never say
or do anything that might callfor a future apology is simply
not realistic.
All of us, no matter what age,no matter what culture or
background, we make mistakes inour speech, and so being
reasonable can help fortify youagainst those negative emotions.
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Well now what's our next point?
Take care of yourself.
Get adequate rest, sufficientexercise and proper nutrition.
I know myself personally Igained a lot of weight in the
absences of my family members.
If you do not feel like eating,have a number of healthy snacks
throughout the day instead offull meals, at least until your
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appetite returns to normal.
Do not soothe your grief withjunk food or alcohol.
They will only make thingsworse.
Grief with junk food or alcoholthey will only make things
worse.
The equivalent of doing that inan illustrative way would be
like putting water into a bucketthat has a hole in it.
You can look at the size of thebucket and say this thing can
hold a lot of water, but ifthere are cracks, holes, then
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the bucket will not do what it'ssupposed to do.
It's the same with eating junkfood to cope with emotional
circumstances.
And finally, there's a pointhere that I have to say has
helped many, many millionsaround the world Seek comfort in
your hope for the future.
Turn to prayer.
Many people have used prayer asa means of enduring the trial,
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overcoming the hardship andpersevering through the death.
I know from experience, guys,that when you lose someone in
death, the devastation isinsurmountable.
It will feel as though the endof the world has come upon your
life.
It will feel as though everyday forward will be dark and
gloomy.
However, if you persevere, ifyou continue to endure, you,
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guys, will find the comfort thatyou need.
You will be able to persist inways that you never thought
imaginable.
So continue to follow thesepoints, guys.
When you're dealing with thedeath of a parent or a loved one
, talk to someone, keep ajournal, take care of yourself
and strive your best to rely onGod and his promises.
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If you do so, not only will yoube able to endure this road of
grief, but you'll be able tostrengthen others that are
around you during this mostdifficult and very, very hard
time that are around you duringthis most difficult and very,
very hard time.
Now, guys, as always, we have10 stories that we're going to
cover on this show no-transcript, powerful stories from all over
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the country, and we do have oneinternational story that was
indeed tragic, to say the least.
Here's our first story.
Isd investigates video of astudent slapping middle school
teacher who is now onadministrative leave.
A cell phone video showing astudent slapping a teacher at
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Summer Creek Middle School isnow under investigation by
Crawley ISD.
He sent me the video my mouthjust dropped, said Lashay Holly,
a concerned Crawley ISD parent,shared with WFAA by another
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parent after being airdropped toseveral students shows a
seventh grade male studentstriking a teacher during an
altercation last Friday.
Holly told WFAA she did nothear from the school immediately
after the incident but, likemany parents, expressed her
concerns after seeing the videoon social media.
The mother of the student seenin the video told WFAA that her
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son suffered a busted lip whichled to his face swelling up
after the teacher punched him.
Crawley ISD police took her soninto custody, according to the
mother, without treating him forhis injuries.
She told WFAA she learned aboutthe altercation after arriving
at the school to pick up her son, who had already been
transported to the school'spolice department, she says,
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without anyone notifying her.
The boy's mother says her sonhas had constant headaches since
the incident.
Now here is the circumstancessurrounding this particular
video.
It is out of context, but inthe video we see a student
smacking a teacher with fullfours.
There's always a discrepancyregarding those matters.
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What should a teacher do when astudent punches him or her in
the face?
Well, I'm here to tell you guysthat there is a fine line
between what a teacher should doversus the human nature element
of it.
We'd be foolish to concludethat these persons are going to
react under self-control inevery matter that's unexpected,
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like this.
That'd be foolish to do so.
So what can help us to be ableto be realistic, be reasonable?
Each of these circumstances isa case by case, and on this
podcast we find it best not tojudge individuals but to
recognize that both students andteachers today are under a lot
of pressure.
I can see it from bothperspectives.
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The bottom line is this thatwhoever dealt that blow first,
whatever came after that, that'san entirely different
circumstance To the teacher andthe student involved in this
story, this very difficult story.
We do wish you guys the bestand hope for a well recovery
regarding this matter.
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Now, in this following story,we're highlighting the conduct
of a teacher's aide, and I findit interesting just the conduct
of a teacher's aide and I findit interesting just the nature
of this particular storyteacher's aide accused of
battering disabled middle schoolstudent in bloomington.
A special education aide isaccused of twisting a middle
school student's finger andmaking him cry.
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Darren eads, 33, bloomington,is charged with one count of
battery to a disabled person, alevel 5 felony According to
court documents.
Eads is a special educationaide at Jackson Creek Middle
School in Bloomington.
He was working in the schoolwhen the alleged battery
occurred on January 28.
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Investigators reviewedsurveillance footage that
allegedly captured the battery.
Court documents reveal In thefootage Eads can be seen
standing next to the victim inthe hallway outside of a
classroom.
Police said no other studentsor teachers were around.
When Eads reaches out ofnowhere with no apparent reason
to grab, twist and pull on thestudent's finger, the victim
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quickly begins crying, whichcatches the attention of another
aide and the teacher inside theclassroom.
Both come out and note the fearon the victim's face.
The victim reportedly beganrepeating oh no, which is
something he allegedly says whensomething is wrong.
Eads denies knowing whathappened to the victim and
claims he just started cryingfor no reason.
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Investigators reviewing securityfootage also found another
incident that allegedly showedEads walking behind the victim
in the hallway.
The victim was holding onto thewall for support and police
said Eads can be seen kicking atthe victim's foot in an attempt
to trip him.
Eads is listed as a SPED spedaid on the Jackson Creek Middle
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School website.
Investigators were told Eadshad only recently transferred to
the middle school, having comefrom Bloomington High School.
A staff member also told policethat Eads had at least one
other unsubstantiated allegationof being physical with a
student prior to this incident.
Monroe County Community SchoolCorporation said Eads was fired
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on January 30.
The school corporation firstlearned of the allegations on
January 28 and acted quickly toplace Eads on leave and notify
DCS.
Online records show Eads is notin custody after posting bond.
If convicted of a level 5felony, eads could face up to 6
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years in prison.
There's more to the story, Ireckon, or I assume, but then
again there may not be.
I've seen circumstances inwhich people today are now
taking liberties regarding thelives of other people's kids.
Now how can a parent cope withthese circumstances?
There are two things you can doBe active and be aware.
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As parents, you recognize thattoday we live in dark, scary
times.
As a result of this, it isvital, nay beneficial, that you
continue to take the properaction regarding the care of
your child.
When it comes to students whohave special needs, it is even
more vital, or more necessary,that a parent become involved in
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all aspects.
Become involved in all aspects.
In some cases, some parentshave even made personal
adjustments so that these kidscan get the safest and best kind
of care possible.
We see, now more than ever,people are not trusting the
school systems like before, andit's stories like these that
highlight as to why.
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To the parents of this dearyoung one, this child here, we
do wish you guys well as youstrive your best to rectify the
situation.
Notice our following story Onestudent killed, another wounded
in Nashville high schoolcafeteria, shooting the shooter
dead.
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It's a very, very powerful storyand I was well, I was shocked.
This one definitely caught meemotionally.
A teenager fatally shot a16-year-old student and wounded
another Wednesday at a Nashvillehigh school cafeteria before
fatally shooting himself.
Officials said the gunman,17-year-old Solomon Henderson,
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used a handgun to open fire atAntioch High School just after
11 am.
Ct police said the 16-year-oldwho was killed was identified as
Jocelyn Correa, a male student,17, suffered a grazed wound to
the arm and was treated at ahospital and released.
Police said.
Treated at a hospital andreleased, police said.
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Nashville Police Chief JohnDrake said earlier that
Henderson was an active studentat the school and took the
school bus in the morning beforelater opening fire in the
cafeteria.
At this moment a motive isunclear, but Drake said
authorities are looking intosome materials on the internet.
One student said he saw peopleget shot and hid behind garbage
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cans before fleeing out a backdoor.
The teen said he felt a lot ofpain and grief because he saw
people shot in front of my face.
According to the teen, theschool searches students but
does not have metal detectors.
There were two school resourceofficers at Antioch High School
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but they were in a differentpart of the building when the
shooting started.
The police department said theyrushed to the cafeteria and
arrived right after the shooterkilled himself.
The department added Studentswere bused to Ascension St
Thomas Hospital where they werereunited with their parents.
A SWAT team did clear.
The school authorities saidAntioch High School was on
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lockdown and was closed for therest of the week.
The tragic thing about theseschool shootings, these
environments in which they'rejust supposed to be safe, but
then they're not safe anymore.
Is that you never know whatit's going to be or when it's
going to be.
It's like playing Russianroulettes when it comes to your
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child's safety, and that's thescary part about this story.
And then, more times than not,you see these shooters, these
individuals taking matters intotheir own hands and killing
themselves, and so now justiceis lost to an extent.
You're left grieving, you'releft empty, you're left alone,
and I think that's one of thethings that really makes it
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difficult for parents to want topersevere today Seeing these
things go on uncontrolled andnot having the circumstances to
stop it.
These things go on uncontrolledand not having the
circumstances to stop it.
All I can say, guys, at thispoint, is to continue to be
vigilant.
Please accept our love andsupport from the RED team.
We truly, we truly care aboutthe individuals affected by
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these stories and we hope thatyou guys can really be able to
keep enduring despite thehardships that you're going
through.
To you parents out there, we dosend our love and indeed our
very, very strong support.
And this following story yousee that.
You see how bad it's gotten.
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A teacher a teacher used to bea refuge, someone you could turn
to for advice, encouragementover fatal stabbing of pupil.
Fatal stabbing of pupil.
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South Korean police on Tuesdaywere questioning an elementary
school teacher who allegedlystabbed a pupil to death in the
city of Daejeon.
The incident on Monday duringafter-school care has shocked
the nation and prompted thecountry's acting president to
instruct reviews of school'ssafety standards.
The female suspect is receivinghospital treatment for
self-inflicted wounds followingthe death of the young girl in
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an audiovisual room on thesecond floor of the school, said
Yook Jong Myung, chief ofDaejeon's Western District
Police Station.
The suspect, reported to be inher 40s, told police that she
had recently returned to workafter a period of leave for
health reasons.
Yook said she told police shehas received treatment for
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depression since 2018.
After the girl, a first-gradestudent, was reported missing at
5.15 pm local time Monday,police and family members
searched throughout the schooland surrounding areas.
Her grandmother found her inthe audiovisual room around 5.50
pm.
The girl was rushed to thehospital where she was
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pronounced dead.
Choi Sung-mong, who is servingas the country's acting leader
due to President Yoon Suk-yool'simpeachment over a martial law
imposition in December, calledfor a thorough investigation
into the incident and instructededucation authorities to
implement necessary measures toensure such incidents never
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happen again.
Visitors laid flowers andcondolence letters at the gate
of the school, which was closedon Tuesday.
Now this girl, this young girl,has lost her life unnecessarily
.
Some of these stories, guys,there's just no words for them.
You can really feel thedevastation that these parents
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are dealing with every singleday.
And if you're a young one inschool and you knew this little
girl, guys, I'm terribly sorrythat this is the world we live
in right now.
But I can assure you that thereare things that we can do.
If we continue to be vigilantand diligent, if we continue to
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take practical steps to surroundourselves with people who love
and care for us, we can do somuch.
There is so much that can bedone.
True, this will not change theworld.
We recognize that these thingsare going to happen, but there
are ways to endure them.
Surround yourself by lovingcompany, set hobbies and goals
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for yourself when thesetragedies strike and don't allow
yourself to be compromised.
Don't be poisoned by thetragedies, but keep doing the
very best you can every day.
If you do, you will find ameasure of peace and success To
the families of this young girl,this victim there in South
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Korea.
We send the strongest ofcondolences to you and we are
tragically sorry to hear aboutthis on our show.
Oftentimes when I go throughthe show and I look through
these stories, I think to myselfyou know, I think I've seen it
all, but there's always that onestory that's just like what,
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what just happened?
Or is that real Like?
Is this what we're doing now?
This next story highlights asto what I'm expressing.
Student put cameras in bathroomsat middle school high school in
Highland Park.
Illinois officials say Ajuvenile student placed cameras
and took recordings in restroomsat a middle school and high
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school in north suburbanHighland Park and school
officials said Tuesday Ajuvenile student was behind
placing the recording devices ormobile phones.
At both schools, officials saidHighland Park police said the
youngster was in custody lateTuesday.
Meanwhile investigators wereworking to determine just how
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far back the illegal bathroomrecordings go.
Videos were taken both ofadults and children in bathrooms
at Edgewood Middle School andHighland Park High School.
Local officials said the cityof Highland Park, north Shore
School District 112, andTownship High School District
113 are working together torespond to the acts.
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According to a joint newsrelease, highland Park.
Police were called immediatelyafter a staff member discovered
a suspicious electronic devicein a washroom at Highland Park
High School.
The city and school districtsaid Investigators were called
because it appeared the devicehad the ability to record.
It was not clear if the devicewas recording when it was found,
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but the fact that it was insidea school bathroom was enough
for administrators and police todig deeper.
When they did so, policelearned that a recording device
was used at Edgewood MiddleSchool too.
The two campuses are aboutthree miles apart with no
overlapping programs, yetsomehow the person responsible
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was able to gain access to bothschools.
The city and the schooldistrict said Tuesday they were
confident that all photo andvideo recordings have been
stopped and they want thecommunity to be aware of the
crime.
Because a juvenile suspect isinvolved, there are limits as to
what can be shared.
The city and school districtsaid Investigators late Tuesday
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were not saying whether therecordings happened in the boys'
or restrooms, but it is knownthat both students and adults
were here.
It also remained unknown wherethe images ended up or whether
the device was acted remotely,but police were able to link the
device back to a minor.
The school district said theywere taking steps to provide
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counseling and mental healthresources and enhance safety at
the schools.
School staff has completedsearches of all bathrooms and
schools belonging to District112 and 113 to ensure that there
are no other recording devices.
Well, guys, it is noteworthythat the school and the
administration are doingeverything that they possibly
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can to thoroughly eradicate andget control over the situation.
I don't know how parents aregoing to respond.
I'm pretty sure at this pointsome parents are going to take
their kids out of those twoschools and transfer them into
an environment in which theyfeel as though their children
are safe.
We wish you guys the best asyou strive to make this
circumstance manageable movingforward in the future.
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In this following story, notehow one teacher is taking that
same level of misconduct withstudents.
Former Forest Grove MiddleSchool teaching assistant
accused of sexually abusingminor.
A teaching assistant at NeilArmstrong Middle School in
Forest Grove was arrested andplaced on leave after deputies
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accused him of sexually abusinga minor in Cornelius.
The Washington County Sheriff'sOffice said Tuesday Deputies
said Jesus Gallardo, 39, hadcontact with children at the
school of around the same age ofthe child.
They accused him of sexuallyabusing.
They said someone called toreport their family member was
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being sexually abused byGallardo and that it had been
happening since 2022.
However, it hadn't beenreported by the victim until
October of last year.
Hadn't been reported by thevictim until October of last
year.
After being notified of theaccusations, administrative
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staff at the school immediatelyplaced Gallardo on leave.
On Tuesday the Forest GroveSchool District said he was no
longer an employee in the schooldistrict.
The sheriff's office saiddetectives believe Gallardo
learned about the investigationinto him and fled Oregon.
On January 8, a WashingtonCounty grand jury indicted
Gallardo on three counts offirst-degree sexual abuse and
one count of third-degree sexualabuse.
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A warrant for his arrest wasissued Two days later.
He was found and arrested inWebb County, texas, on the
US-Mexican border.
He was extradited back toOregon on February 8th and taken
to the Washington County Jail.
According to the schooldistrict, gallardo was hired as
a teaching assistant in February2024.
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Detectives are concerned thatthere may be more victims that
have not come forward and theyare asking anyone with
information to contact them at503-846-2500 and reference the
case number 502415641.
People will tell me this, willtell me this.
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When these stories come up,they will say well, why don't
the schools do a backgroundcheck, and I have to help people
to understand that a backgroundcheck is not a
one-size-fits-all kind of thing.
It cannot tell us what a personis guilty of before they commit
a crime.
So if no one reported, onereported this teacher assistance
misconduct, then the problem isthat no one will know, and so a
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background check can only catchthings that went through the
system and were reported on.
So these stories that come upare just more ways or lessons
for persons who are goingthrough this abuse, these
circumstances, to speak up, andthat's the circumstances that
really are more often than not.
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More times than not, people arenot speaking up, and that's the
challenging circumstance thatwe find ourselves in today.
This next story is indeedanother expression of just how
that same conduct that we justdiscussed continues.
A Lawrence School Districtemployee is charged with
sexually abusing an elementaryschool student.
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Police are investigating todetermine if there are
additional victims.
Police said the investigationinto 60-year-old Mark E Gridley
began Saturday, february 8.
The department said a parentcalled to report something that
happened between Gridley and astudent at Prairie Park
Elementary School the previousday.
We were contacted Saturdaymorning by a family member of
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one of our victims, who had someconcerns about some events that
occurred on Friday during theschool day, said Sergeant Drew
Finnelly with the LawrencePolice Department.
Gridley is a speech andlanguage pathologist at the
school.
Authorities opened aninvestigation which they said
quickly led to Gridley's arrest.
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Police learned of a secondpossible victim Monday morning.
Investigations said the allegedassault also happened at
Prairie Park Elementary onFriday February 7th.
The Lawrence Police Departmentsays the investigation is
ongoing and there potentiallycould be more victims.
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The school district said itimmediately relieved Gridley of
all duties after learning aboutthe claims.
His information is no longerlisted on the district's website
.
The district also notifiedfamilies about the allegations.
The district's crisis supportteam contacted families whose
students may have had directcontact with Gridley have had
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direct contact with Gridley.
At this particular moment thereare no charges, just
accusations.
We will continue to follow upwith this story to see if there
is anything that develops withthis circumstance there at
Lawrence Middle School.
To you, dear victims, and thefamilies of, we do wish you the
best as you strive to endurethis circumstance that has been
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unfortunately thrown upon you.
In this next story we findanother case of sexual abuse.
It just seems to continue onand on and on.
Teacher sexually abused studentwith special needs.
Asked him to bring gun toschool to shoot colleague, a
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former Colorado paraprofessional, has been sentenced to four
years in prison after admittingto sexually assaulting a
16-year-old student.
In November, imagine K Ewer, 28, pleaded guilty to sexually
assaulting a special educationstudent she was assigned to care
for at Brady Exploration Schoolin Lakewood.
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The first judicial districtattorney's office said in a
statement.
As part of a plea agreementwith prosecutors, ewer pleaded
guilty to sexual assault on achild by one in a position of
trust and contributing to thedelinquency of a minor and the
first degree.
Both felonies, three otherfelony counts and one
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misdemeanor were dismissed inexchange for her guilty plea,
the district attorney said inthe statement.
On Friday, january 31st, ewerwas sentenced to four years in
prison, which will be followedby probation in the sex offender
intensive supervision programfor 10 years to life.
During the sentence, thevictim's mother addressed the
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court, saying the defendantpreyed on my son, leading him to
believe she genuinely cared forhim all, while exploiting him
for money and manipulating himinto thinking he was the one.
According to the statement, ewerintroduced the victim to
fentanyl special victimsprosecutor Brynn Chase said in
court.
According to the statement,ewer also sent the victim
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thousands upon thousands uponthousands of text messages
saying that she wanted thevictim to bring a gun to their
sexual encounters.
Chase said in court, ewer eventold the victim to bring the gun
to school and shoot anotherfaculty member in the leg.
Chase added the crime came tolight in November 2023 when a
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teacher at the school calledpolice after seeing
inappropriate writing on one ofthe students' worksheets.
The district attorney's officesaid in the statement, police
launched an investigation whichrevealed that Ewer's favoritism
towards the child was noticed bystaff almost immediately, with
evidence of an inappropriaterelationship beginning in
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approximately September of 2023,.
The statement said Detectivesdisclosed evidence of frequent
sexual encounters, constantdigital communication, inclusive
of repeated derogatory remarksdirected at the victim, and the
introduction of drugs, alcoholand weapons.
It said Ewer, who had workedfor Jefferson County Public
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Schools from 2015 to 2023 as aschool nurse, a paraprofessional
and a teaching assistant, wasarrested in January 2024.
She was charged with sexualassault on a child by someone in
a position of trust, sexualexploitation of a child,
unlawful electronic sexualcommunication and contributing
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to the delinquency of a minor.
Online court record show.
She did issue a statement thatreads this way.
I just want to apologize to thevictim and the victim's family.
The statement said I'm reallysorry, this will never happen
again.
Well, it is interesting to notethat there was an apology in
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connection with these heinouscrimes, but the sad reality is
the damage is done.
This victim, this young man, isgoing to go through his life
with these tragedies and traumas, and it's going to be a long
road for the family.
It's going to be a hard roadfor the family.
Continue, guys, to do the verybest that you can.
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Look for ways to pour out theseemotions, perhaps in a journal,
through a therapist, or even ina support group or circle, and
strive your best to continue tobe the best that you can be in
this wicked world that we callhome.
It's not going to be easy, butit is going to be manageable and
possible.
We send our love and supporthere from RED Podcasting.
Well, guys, we are wrappingthis show up so quickly.
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Man, time flies.
With our last two stories, ourlast stories, are very gripping.
I'm not going to say I've savedthe best for last, because
there's no best stories on thisshow, but there are stories that
are better at capturing theemotional struggles and
challenges that we all have tocontend with today.
Middle school student assaultedon school bus by adults during
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fight.
Police are investigating how atleast two adults got on a
school bus and got involved in afight between two Rochester
City School District studentsand an altercation that was
caught on cell phone video.
A woman named Zoe told 13WHAMher 12-year-old cousin was
assaulted by a classmate and twoadults who boarded their school
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bus while on their way homefrom school.
Zoe said her phone beganblowing up while she was at work
, with texts and calls fromnumerous family members
informing her that the12-year-old was being rushed to
the hospital.
It was around 3 pm January 27thwhen the bell rang ending the
school day at Thurgood MarshallMiddle School on Lake Avenue a
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school day at Thurgood MarshallMiddle School on Lake Avenue.
As the bus made a stop atElectric Avenue to drop off a
student.
According to a cell phone videocaptured on the school bus, the
12-year-old and anotherclassmate began fighting.
The district said that's whenseveral adults made their way
onto the bus.
When the unidentified adultscame onto the bus, they pushed
and held the bus driver back,while at least two other adults
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became involved in thealtercation, according to the
district.
The district has contracts witha number of bus companies to
transport students.
According to the district'swebsite, the district did not
identify which company's bus theincident took place on.
The Rochester Police Departmentsaid no one has been charged
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yet for the incident, but theinvestigation is ongoing.
I did just want to respond tothis comment that the victim's
cousin made regarding school busdrivers.
As a school bus driver, I foundthis to be quite interesting.
The thing about it is that wehave to be realistic.
There is no right or wrong wayto deal with these tragic
circumstances.
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This was unforeseen.
I've been driving school busesfor many years and I'm fortunate
that no parents have tried tocome on my bus and try to attack
me to get to another student.
But every circumstance isdifferent.
For example, we don't know howold this bus driver was.
We don't know if the bus driverwas too busy focusing on the
road or unloading the kids to beable to see as what was going
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to happen, because things happenso quickly.
When you're behind the wheel ofthat bus the wheel of that bus
people don't even recognize thepressure a school bus driver is
under.
If that bus driver did not haveany aids on that route, that's
another factor to consider.
So it would be unwise to say,hey, it's the bus driver's fault
or they need responsibility tobe enforced on the driver
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because the driver let theparents come on the bus.
No, the driver was being helddown by the parents and that's
what led to the circumstance.
Now I can only speak for myselfas a school bus driver.
My wife and I both drive.
But if this was my school busand this was the circumstance, I
would do everything in my powerto protect myself and my
students, and sometimes thatmeans not making the situation
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worse, because if I get into analtercation with these people
and then they hurt me and thenthey attack other students in
retaliation of what I've done,now, I'm responsible for other
innocent kids getting hurt.
So the bus driver did what theyfelt was best in this
circumstance.
At the end of the day, thepersons who came on this bus
joined in and beating a 12 yearold.
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That's where this story isgoing to have the circumstances
met the proper way, not blamingthe driver for these people,
bombarding the driver andholding them against their will.
Now, guys, I did say there weretwo more stories.
I apologize.
That was our final story onthis episode.
It went a lot faster than Ithought.
But what did we discuss?
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This particular episode, number24?
Thought, but what did wediscuss?
This particular episode, number24?
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You'll love it.
We'll be able to respond to youguys, give you tips on how to
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continue to cope and endure thehardships you're going through.
Other than that, guys, this hasbeen another epic episode being
here with you guys this week.
This is RED.
It's the Everyday Podcast forthe Everyday People.
This is the Everyday Podcastfor the Everyday People.
this is the everyday podcast for the everyday people,
guys.
Welcome back to another episodeof red.
It's the everyday podcast forthe everyday people.
Now, guys, as always, we arehere each week to bring you all
school news, the news that allschool news, the news that will
leave you shocked, the news thatwill leave you bamboozled and
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the news that will leave youwondering as to what is
occurring in life in this world.
One of the things that I reallywant to be able to say to you
guys is that I know that it hasbeen a rough couple of weeks.
There's been differentpolitical elements, there's been
different changes, there's beencircumstances that can really
call upon your patience.
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It can be a test of yourintegrity, it can be a challenge
of your endurance, but when youlog on to this podcast, when
you tune in, it really leavesyou refreshed.
At least, that's the goal.
I want you guys to feelrefreshed when you come in
contact with this podcast.
I never want you guys to be orfeel as though this podcast
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doesn't have any value orpracticality in your particular
life.
Now, this week is a verydifficult week for my family.
We've lost my uncle in death.
Yesterday I got the phone callthat he had passed away in his
sleep, and it got me to thinkingabout all of the people around
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the world whom are dealing withdeath right now.
And so, because this podcast isdirected to young persons it
has young persons in mind Iwanted to be able to speak to
you guys on that theme.
So, with the discussion forepisode number 24, our theme,
our theme, is when a parent dies.
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When a parent dies, how can youcope?
Well, here's the challenge.
Dies how can you cope?
Well, here's the challenge.
Damie was six years old when ananeurysm claimed the life of
her dad.
Derek was nine when his fatherdied of heart disease.
Janine was seven when her mompassed away after a long battle
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with ovarian cancer.
All too soon, these three youngpeople were confronted with the
death of a loved one.
Have you ever felt similar orhad a similar experience
regarding the loss of a lovedone?
Well, if so, this discussion isgoing to be able to help you
come to terms with your loss.
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There are some things that weneed to consider, though.
This discussion will focus onthe death of a parent, but the
principles discussed can alsoapply to the death of a sibling
or a friend.
So there's just one thing Iwant you guys to note that,
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although we're focusing onparents, when a parent dies in
the life of a young person, theprinciples in this article can
be practical for all deaths.
So what you should know thereare many ways to grieve.
This means that the way youexpress your sorrow might differ
from the way others do so.
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Coping with a death does notfollow a simple pattern or set
of rules.
This was mentioned in the bookHelping Teens Cope with Death.
The important thing is that youdo not unduly suppress your
grief.
Well, why is that important notto suppress your grief?
Well, one suppressing yourgrief can be harmful.
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Janine, mentioned at the outset, says I thought I had to be
strong for my little sister, soI buried my emotions.
Even today, I tend to suppresspainful feelings, and that's not
healthy.
Experts would agree as well.
Feelings denied or bottled upwon't stay bottled up forever,
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says the book the Grieving Teen.
They will return when you leastexpect them to, in the form of
emotional flare-ups or physicalailments.
Suppressed grief can also leadto the abuse of alcohol and
drugs, all done in an effort tonumb the pain.
Here's another thing to keep inmind Grieving may be accompanied
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by confusing emotions At timeswhen you're going through this
road of grief along with thesesuppressed emotions.
If you are not letting theseemotions out, it could cause you
to do or say something harmful.
But there are cases in whichyou may feel as though you can't
open up to anyone about theloss of your parent or the loss
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of your dear loved one.
So what can you do?
Write it down in a journal,take time with your thoughts,
meditate on practical ways thatyou can really be able to get
that comfort off of onto thepage and out of your heart.
There are things that we keep inmind when it comes to grief,
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such as grieving may beaccompanied by confusing
emotions.
For example, some people feelanger at the person who died.
They feel that that person hasabandoned them.
Others choose to blame God,thinking that he should have
prevented the death.
Many who grieve feel guilty forthings they did or said to the
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person, since there is now noway to make amends.
So grieving can be a complexprocess.
I remember when I lost myyounger brother in death, when
he was killed a few years ago,my mother was very upset.
She was upset because she feltas though more could have been
done to prevent the death.
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Is that true of yourcircumstances?
Do you feel as though morecould have been done to prevent
the death?
Well, if you do keep in mindthis, the principles in our
discussion we're going to list afew things that you guys can do
in order to cope with or meetthe devastation of loss.
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Here's the first thing Talk tosomeone.
You might be inclined toisolate yourself during this
difficult time, but when youpour out your feelings to a
family member or a friend, itwill help you to deal with your
emotions and keep this tragedyfrom overwhelming you.
The power of talking to someonecannot be taken for granted.
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It will get you places that youcannot get to by holding those
feelings in on your own.
It allows you to be able tofeel the love and the human
empathy of another human being,and what a wonderful thing that
is when you feel as though thereis someone there in your corner
.
Another suggestion that mayhelp if you can't talk to
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someone, as we discussed earlierkeep a journal.
Write about the parent you lostor the person you've lost, for
example, what is your mostcherished memory of that person?
Write about his or hercommendable qualities and which
ones you would like to imitatein your life.
You see, when you ask yourselfthose questions, you place those
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answers into a journal, a bookof safekeeping.
It fortifies you and keeps yourolling on the road of grief.
If you are plagued with negativethoughts, for example, if you
cannot stop thinking aboutsomething harsh you said to your
parent or your loved one beforehe or she passed away, write
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down what you feel and why.
For example, I feel guiltybecause I had an argument with
my dad the day before he died.
For my younger brother, it wasabout two days before this road
of recovery he was put on.
We had a tumultuous.
It was a terrible fight.
It was one of the worst we hadhad.
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We were dealing with the lossof family from COVID-19 and well
, we just couldn't see eye toeye and so it got very heated.
Fortunately, I was able toapologize to my brother before
his life ended.
So, yes, that can be achallenge.
Here's something that may help,though Be reasonable of your
guilt.
Something that may help, thoughBe reasonable of your guilt.
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You cannot blame yourself fornot knowing that.
There would never be anopportunity to apologize, says
the book the Grieving Teen, tosuggest that one must never say
or do anything that might callfor a future apology is simply
not realistic.
All of us, no matter what age,no matter what culture or
background, we make mistakes inour speech, and so being
reasonable can help fortify youagainst those negative emotions.
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Well now what's our next point?
Take care of yourself.
Get adequate rest, sufficientexercise and proper nutrition.
I know myself personally Igained a lot of weight in the
absences of my family members.
If you do not feel like eating,have a number of healthy snacks
throughout the day instead offull meals, at least until your
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appetite returns to normal.
Do not soothe your grief withjunk food or alcohol.
They will only make thingsworse.
Grief with junk food or alcoholthey will only make things
worse.
The equivalent of doing that inan illustrative way would be
like putting water into a bucketthat has a hole in it.
You can look at the size of thebucket and say this thing can
hold a lot of water, but ifthere are cracks, holes, then
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the bucket will not do what it'ssupposed to do.
It's the same with eating junkfood to cope with emotional
circumstances.
And finally, there's a pointhere that I have to say has
helped many, many millionsaround the world Seek comfort in
your hope for the future.
Turn to prayer.
Many people have used prayer asa means of enduring the trial,
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overcoming the hardship andpersevering through the death.
I know from experience, guys,that when you lose someone in
death, the devastation isinsurmountable.
It will feel as though the endof the world has come upon your
life.
It will feel as though everyday forward will be dark and
gloomy.
However, if you persevere, ifyou continue to endure, you,
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guys, will find the comfort thatyou need.
You will be able to persist inways that you never thought
imaginable.
So continue to follow thesepoints, guys.
When you're dealing with thedeath of a parent or a loved one
, talk to someone, keep ajournal, take care of yourself
and strive your best to rely onGod and his promises.
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If you do so, not only will yoube able to endure this road of
grief, but you'll be able tostrengthen others that are
around you during this mostdifficult and very, very hard
time that are around you duringthis most difficult and very,
very hard time.
Now, guys, as always, we have10 stories that we're going to
cover on this show no-transcript, powerful stories from all over
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the country, and we do have oneinternational story that was
indeed tragic, to say the least.
Here's our first story.
Isd investigates video of astudent slapping middle school
teacher who is now onadministrative leave.
A cell phone video showing astudent slapping a teacher at
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Summer Creek Middle School isnow under investigation by
Crawley ISD.
He sent me the video my mouthjust dropped, said Lashay Holly,
a concerned Crawley ISD parent,shared with WFAA by another
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parent after being airdropped toseveral students shows a
seventh grade male studentstriking a teacher during an
altercation last Friday.
Holly told WFAA she did nothear from the school immediately
after the incident but, likemany parents, expressed her
concerns after seeing the videoon social media.
The mother of the student seenin the video told WFAA that her
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son suffered a busted lip whichled to his face swelling up
after the teacher punched him.
Crawley ISD police took her soninto custody, according to the
mother, without treating him forhis injuries.
She told WFAA she learned aboutthe altercation after arriving
at the school to pick up her son, who had already been
transported to the school'spolice department, she says,
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without anyone notifying her.
The boy's mother says her sonhas had constant headaches since
the incident.
Now here is the circumstancessurrounding this particular
video.
It is out of context, but inthe video we see a student
smacking a teacher with fullfours.
There's always a discrepancyregarding those matters.
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What should a teacher do when astudent punches him or her in
the face?
Well, I'm here to tell you guysthat there is a fine line
between what a teacher should doversus the human nature element
of it.
We'd be foolish to concludethat these persons are going to
react under self-control inevery matter that's unexpected,
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like this.
That'd be foolish to do so.
So what can help us to be ableto be realistic, be reasonable?
Each of these circumstances isa case by case, and on this
podcast we find it best not tojudge individuals but to
recognize that both students andteachers today are under a lot
of pressure.
I can see it from bothperspectives.
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The bottom line is this thatwhoever dealt that blow first,
whatever came after that, that'san entirely different
circumstance To the teacher andthe student involved in this
story, this very difficult story.
We do wish you guys the bestand hope for a well recovery
regarding this matter.
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Now, in this following story,we're highlighting the conduct
of a teacher's aide, and I findit interesting just the conduct
of a teacher's aide and I findit interesting just the nature
of this particular storyteacher's aide accused of
battering disabled middle schoolstudent in bloomington.
A special education aide isaccused of twisting a middle
school student's finger andmaking him cry.
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Darren eads, 33, bloomington,is charged with one count of
battery to a disabled person, alevel 5 felony According to
court documents.
Eads is a special educationaide at Jackson Creek Middle
School in Bloomington.
He was working in the schoolwhen the alleged battery
occurred on January 28.
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Investigators reviewedsurveillance footage that
allegedly captured the battery.
Court documents reveal In thefootage Eads can be seen
standing next to the victim inthe hallway outside of a
classroom.
Police said no other studentsor teachers were around.
When Eads reaches out ofnowhere with no apparent reason
to grab, twist and pull on thestudent's finger, the victim
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quickly begins crying, whichcatches the attention of another
aide and the teacher inside theclassroom.
Both come out and note the fearon the victim's face.
The victim reportedly beganrepeating oh no, which is
something he allegedly says whensomething is wrong.
Eads denies knowing whathappened to the victim and
claims he just started cryingfor no reason.
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Investigators reviewing securityfootage also found another
incident that allegedly showedEads walking behind the victim
in the hallway.
The victim was holding onto thewall for support and police
said Eads can be seen kicking atthe victim's foot in an attempt
to trip him.
Eads is listed as a SPED spedaid on the Jackson Creek Middle
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School website.
Investigators were told Eadshad only recently transferred to
the middle school, having comefrom Bloomington High School.
A staff member also told policethat Eads had at least one
other unsubstantiated allegationof being physical with a
student prior to this incident.
Monroe County Community SchoolCorporation said Eads was fired
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on January 30.
The school corporation firstlearned of the allegations on
January 28 and acted quickly toplace Eads on leave and notify
DCS.
Online records show Eads is notin custody after posting bond.
If convicted of a level 5felony, eads could face up to 6
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years in prison.
There's more to the story, Ireckon, or I assume, but then
again there may not be.
I've seen circumstances inwhich people today are now
taking liberties regarding thelives of other people's kids.
Now how can a parent cope withthese circumstances?
There are two things you can doBe active and be aware.
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As parents, you recognize thattoday we live in dark, scary
times.
As a result of this, it isvital, nay beneficial, that you
continue to take the properaction regarding the care of
your child.
When it comes to students whohave special needs, it is even
more vital, or more necessary,that a parent become involved in
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all aspects.
Become involved in all aspects.
In some cases, some parentshave even made personal
adjustments so that these kidscan get the safest and best kind
of care possible.
We see, now more than ever,people are not trusting the
school systems like before, andit's stories like these that
highlight as to why.
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To the parents of this dearyoung one, this child here, we
do wish you guys well as youstrive your best to rectify the
situation.
Notice our following story Onestudent killed, another wounded
in Nashville high schoolcafeteria, shooting the shooter
dead.
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It's a very, very powerful storyand I was well, I was shocked.
This one definitely caught meemotionally.
A teenager fatally shot a16-year-old student and wounded
another Wednesday at a Nashvillehigh school cafeteria before
fatally shooting himself.
Officials said the gunman,17-year-old Solomon Henderson,
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used a handgun to open fire atAntioch High School just after
11 am.
Ct police said the 16-year-oldwho was killed was identified as
Jocelyn Correa, a male student,17, suffered a grazed wound to
the arm and was treated at ahospital and released.
Police said.
Treated at a hospital andreleased, police said.
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Nashville Police Chief JohnDrake said earlier that
Henderson was an active studentat the school and took the
school bus in the morning beforelater opening fire in the
cafeteria.
At this moment a motive isunclear, but Drake said
authorities are looking intosome materials on the internet.
One student said he saw peopleget shot and hid behind garbage
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cans before fleeing out a backdoor.
The teen said he felt a lot ofpain and grief because he saw
people shot in front of my face.
According to the teen, theschool searches students but
does not have metal detectors.
There were two school resourceofficers at Antioch High School
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but they were in a differentpart of the building when the
shooting started.
The police department said theyrushed to the cafeteria and
arrived right after the shooterkilled himself.
The department added Studentswere bused to Ascension St
Thomas Hospital where they werereunited with their parents.
A SWAT team did clear.
The school authorities saidAntioch High School was on
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lockdown and was closed for therest of the week.
The tragic thing about theseschool shootings, these
environments in which they'rejust supposed to be safe, but
then they're not safe anymore.
Is that you never know whatit's going to be or when it's
going to be.
It's like playing Russianroulettes when it comes to your
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child's safety, and that's thescary part about this story.
And then, more times than not,you see these shooters, these
individuals taking matters intotheir own hands and killing
themselves, and so now justiceis lost to an extent.
You're left grieving, you'releft empty, you're left alone,
and I think that's one of thethings that really makes it
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difficult for parents to want topersevere today Seeing these
things go on uncontrolled andnot having the circumstances to
stop it.
These things go on uncontrolledand not having the
circumstances to stop it.
All I can say, guys, at thispoint, is to continue to be
vigilant.
Please accept our love andsupport from the RED team.
We truly, we truly care aboutthe individuals affected by
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these stories and we hope thatyou guys can really be able to
keep enduring despite thehardships that you're going
through.
To you parents out there, we dosend our love and indeed our
very, very strong support.
And this following story yousee that.
You see how bad it's gotten.
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A teacher a teacher used to bea refuge, someone you could turn
to for advice, encouragementover fatal stabbing of pupil.
Fatal stabbing of pupil.
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South Korean police on Tuesdaywere questioning an elementary
school teacher who allegedlystabbed a pupil to death in the
city of Daejeon.
The incident on Monday duringafter-school care has shocked
the nation and prompted thecountry's acting president to
instruct reviews of school'ssafety standards.
The female suspect is receivinghospital treatment for
self-inflicted wounds followingthe death of the young girl in
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an audiovisual room on thesecond floor of the school, said
Yook Jong Myung, chief ofDaejeon's Western District
Police Station.
The suspect, reported to be inher 40s, told police that she
had recently returned to workafter a period of leave for
health reasons.
Yook said she told police shehas received treatment for
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depression since 2018.
After the girl, a first-gradestudent, was reported missing at
5.15 pm local time Monday,police and family members
searched throughout the schooland surrounding areas.
Her grandmother found her inthe audiovisual room around 5.50
pm.
The girl was rushed to thehospital where she was
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pronounced dead.
Choi Sung-mong, who is servingas the country's acting leader
due to President Yoon Suk-yool'simpeachment over a martial law
imposition in December, calledfor a thorough investigation
into the incident and instructededucation authorities to
implement necessary measures toensure such incidents never
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happen again.
Visitors laid flowers andcondolence letters at the gate
of the school, which was closedon Tuesday.
Now this girl, this young girl,has lost her life unnecessarily
.
Some of these stories, guys,there's just no words for them.
You can really feel thedevastation that these parents
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are dealing with every singleday.
And if you're a young one inschool and you knew this little
girl, guys, I'm terribly sorrythat this is the world we live
in right now.
But I can assure you that thereare things that we can do.
If we continue to be vigilantand diligent, if we continue to
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take practical steps to surroundourselves with people who love
and care for us, we can do somuch.
There is so much that can bedone.
True, this will not change theworld.
We recognize that these thingsare going to happen, but there
are ways to endure them.
Surround yourself by lovingcompany, set hobbies and goals
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for yourself when thesetragedies strike and don't allow
yourself to be compromised.
Don't be poisoned by thetragedies, but keep doing the
very best you can every day.
If you do, you will find ameasure of peace and success To
the families of this young girl,this victim there in South
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Korea.
We send the strongest ofcondolences to you and we are
tragically sorry to hear aboutthis on our show.
Oftentimes when I go throughthe show and I look through
these stories, I think to myselfyou know, I think I've seen it
all, but there's always that onestory that's just like what,
(25:21):
what just happened?
Or is that real Like?
Is this what we're doing now?
This next story highlights asto what I'm expressing.
Student put cameras in bathroomsat middle school high school in
Highland Park.
Illinois officials say Ajuvenile student placed cameras
and took recordings in restroomsat a middle school and high
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school in north suburbanHighland Park and school
officials said Tuesday Ajuvenile student was behind
placing the recording devices ormobile phones.
At both schools, officials saidHighland Park police said the
youngster was in custody lateTuesday.
Meanwhile investigators wereworking to determine just how
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far back the illegal bathroomrecordings go.
Videos were taken both ofadults and children in bathrooms
at Edgewood Middle School andHighland Park High School.
Local officials said the cityof Highland Park, north Shore
School District 112, andTownship High School District
113 are working together torespond to the acts.
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According to a joint newsrelease, highland Park.
Police were called immediatelyafter a staff member discovered
a suspicious electronic devicein a washroom at Highland Park
High School.
The city and school districtsaid Investigators were called
because it appeared the devicehad the ability to record.
It was not clear if the devicewas recording when it was found,
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but the fact that it was insidea school bathroom was enough
for administrators and police todig deeper.
When they did so, policelearned that a recording device
was used at Edgewood MiddleSchool too.
The two campuses are aboutthree miles apart with no
overlapping programs, yetsomehow the person responsible
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was able to gain access to bothschools.
The city and the schooldistrict said Tuesday they were
confident that all photo andvideo recordings have been
stopped and they want thecommunity to be aware of the
crime.
Because a juvenile suspect isinvolved, there are limits as to
what can be shared.
The city and school districtsaid Investigators late Tuesday
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were not saying whether therecordings happened in the boys'
or restrooms, but it is knownthat both students and adults
were here.
It also remained unknown wherethe images ended up or whether
the device was acted remotely,but police were able to link the
device back to a minor.
The school district said theywere taking steps to provide
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counseling and mental healthresources and enhance safety at
the schools.
School staff has completedsearches of all bathrooms and
schools belonging to District112 and 113 to ensure that there
are no other recording devices.
Well, guys, it is noteworthythat the school and the
administration are doingeverything that they possibly
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can to thoroughly eradicate andget control over the situation.
I don't know how parents aregoing to respond.
I'm pretty sure at this pointsome parents are going to take
their kids out of those twoschools and transfer them into
an environment in which theyfeel as though their children
are safe.
We wish you guys the best asyou strive to make this
circumstance manageable movingforward in the future.
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In this following story, notehow one teacher is taking that
same level of misconduct withstudents.
Former Forest Grove MiddleSchool teaching assistant
accused of sexually abusingminor.
A teaching assistant at NeilArmstrong Middle School in
Forest Grove was arrested andplaced on leave after deputies
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accused him of sexually abusinga minor in Cornelius.
The Washington County Sheriff'sOffice said Tuesday Deputies
said Jesus Gallardo, 39, hadcontact with children at the
school of around the same age ofthe child.
They accused him of sexuallyabusing.
They said someone called toreport their family member was
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being sexually abused byGallardo and that it had been
happening since 2022.
However, it hadn't beenreported by the victim until
October of last year.
Hadn't been reported by thevictim until October of last
year.
After being notified of theaccusations, administrative
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staff at the school immediatelyplaced Gallardo on leave.
On Tuesday the Forest GroveSchool District said he was no
longer an employee in the schooldistrict.
The sheriff's office saiddetectives believe Gallardo
learned about the investigationinto him and fled Oregon.
On January 8, a WashingtonCounty grand jury indicted
Gallardo on three counts offirst-degree sexual abuse and
one count of third-degree sexualabuse.
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A warrant for his arrest wasissued Two days later.
He was found and arrested inWebb County, texas, on the
US-Mexican border.
He was extradited back toOregon on February 8th and taken
to the Washington County Jail.
According to the schooldistrict, gallardo was hired as
a teaching assistant in February2024.
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Detectives are concerned thatthere may be more victims that
have not come forward and theyare asking anyone with
information to contact them at503-846-2500 and reference the
case number 502415641.
People will tell me this, willtell me this.
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When these stories come up,they will say well, why don't
the schools do a backgroundcheck, and I have to help people
to understand that a backgroundcheck is not a
one-size-fits-all kind of thing.
It cannot tell us what a personis guilty of before they commit
a crime.
So if no one reported, onereported this teacher assistance
misconduct, then the problem isthat no one will know, and so a
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background check can only catchthings that went through the
system and were reported on.
So these stories that come upare just more ways or lessons
for persons who are goingthrough this abuse, these
circumstances, to speak up, andthat's the circumstances that
really are more often than not.
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More times than not, people arenot speaking up, and that's the
challenging circumstance thatwe find ourselves in today.
This next story is indeedanother expression of just how
that same conduct that we justdiscussed continues.
A Lawrence School Districtemployee is charged with
sexually abusing an elementaryschool student.
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Police are investigating todetermine if there are
additional victims.
Police said the investigationinto 60-year-old Mark E Gridley
began Saturday, february 8.
The department said a parentcalled to report something that
happened between Gridley and astudent at Prairie Park
Elementary School the previousday.
We were contacted Saturdaymorning by a family member of
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one of our victims, who had someconcerns about some events that
occurred on Friday during theschool day, said Sergeant Drew
Finnelly with the LawrencePolice Department.
Gridley is a speech andlanguage pathologist at the
school.
Authorities opened aninvestigation which they said
quickly led to Gridley's arrest.
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Police learned of a secondpossible victim Monday morning.
Investigations said the allegedassault also happened at
Prairie Park Elementary onFriday February 7th.
The Lawrence Police Departmentsays the investigation is
ongoing and there potentiallycould be more victims.
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The school district said itimmediately relieved Gridley of
all duties after learning aboutthe claims.
His information is no longerlisted on the district's website
.
The district also notifiedfamilies about the allegations.
The district's crisis supportteam contacted families whose
students may have had directcontact with Gridley have had
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direct contact with Gridley.
At this particular moment thereare no charges, just
accusations.
We will continue to follow upwith this story to see if there
is anything that develops withthis circumstance there at
Lawrence Middle School.
To you, dear victims, and thefamilies of, we do wish you the
best as you strive to endurethis circumstance that has been
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unfortunately thrown upon you.
In this next story we findanother case of sexual abuse.
It just seems to continue onand on and on.
Teacher sexually abused studentwith special needs.
Asked him to bring gun toschool to shoot colleague, a
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former Colorado paraprofessional, has been sentenced to four
years in prison after admittingto sexually assaulting a
16-year-old student.
In November, imagine K Ewer, 28, pleaded guilty to sexually
assaulting a special educationstudent she was assigned to care
for at Brady Exploration Schoolin Lakewood.
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The first judicial districtattorney's office said in a
statement.
As part of a plea agreementwith prosecutors, ewer pleaded
guilty to sexual assault on achild by one in a position of
trust and contributing to thedelinquency of a minor and the
first degree.
Both felonies, three otherfelony counts and one
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misdemeanor were dismissed inexchange for her guilty plea,
the district attorney said inthe statement.
On Friday, january 31st, ewerwas sentenced to four years in
prison, which will be followedby probation in the sex offender
intensive supervision programfor 10 years to life.
During the sentence, thevictim's mother addressed the
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court, saying the defendantpreyed on my son, leading him to
believe she genuinely cared forhim all, while exploiting him
for money and manipulating himinto thinking he was the one.
According to the statement, ewerintroduced the victim to
fentanyl special victimsprosecutor Brynn Chase said in
court.
According to the statement,ewer also sent the victim
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thousands upon thousands uponthousands of text messages
saying that she wanted thevictim to bring a gun to their
sexual encounters.
Chase said in court, ewer eventold the victim to bring the gun
to school and shoot anotherfaculty member in the leg.
Chase added the crime came tolight in November 2023 when a
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teacher at the school calledpolice after seeing
inappropriate writing on one ofthe students' worksheets.
The district attorney's officesaid in the statement, police
launched an investigation whichrevealed that Ewer's favoritism
towards the child was noticed bystaff almost immediately, with
evidence of an inappropriaterelationship beginning in
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approximately September of 2023,.
The statement said Detectivesdisclosed evidence of frequent
sexual encounters, constantdigital communication, inclusive
of repeated derogatory remarksdirected at the victim, and the
introduction of drugs, alcoholand weapons.
It said Ewer, who had workedfor Jefferson County Public
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Schools from 2015 to 2023 as aschool nurse, a paraprofessional
and a teaching assistant, wasarrested in January 2024.
She was charged with sexualassault on a child by someone in
a position of trust, sexualexploitation of a child,
unlawful electronic sexualcommunication and contributing
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to the delinquency of a minor.
Online court record show.
She did issue a statement thatreads this way.
I just want to apologize to thevictim and the victim's family.
The statement said I'm reallysorry, this will never happen
again.
Well, it is interesting to notethat there was an apology in
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connection with these heinouscrimes, but the sad reality is
the damage is done.
This victim, this young man, isgoing to go through his life
with these tragedies and traumas, and it's going to be a long
road for the family.
It's going to be a hard roadfor the family.
Continue, guys, to do the verybest that you can.
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Look for ways to pour out theseemotions, perhaps in a journal,
through a therapist, or even ina support group or circle, and
strive your best to continue tobe the best that you can be in
this wicked world that we callhome.
It's not going to be easy, butit is going to be manageable and
possible.
We send our love and supporthere from RED Podcasting.
Well, guys, we are wrappingthis show up so quickly.
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Man, time flies.
With our last two stories, ourlast stories, are very gripping.
I'm not going to say I've savedthe best for last, because
there's no best stories on thisshow, but there are stories that
are better at capturing theemotional struggles and
challenges that we all have tocontend with today.
Middle school student assaultedon school bus by adults during
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fight.
Police are investigating how atleast two adults got on a
school bus and got involved in afight between two Rochester
City School District studentsand an altercation that was
caught on cell phone video.
A woman named Zoe told 13WHAMher 12-year-old cousin was
assaulted by a classmate and twoadults who boarded their school
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bus while on their way homefrom school.
Zoe said her phone beganblowing up while she was at work
, with texts and calls fromnumerous family members
informing her that the12-year-old was being rushed to
the hospital.
It was around 3 pm January 27thwhen the bell rang ending the
school day at Thurgood MarshallMiddle School on Lake Avenue a
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school day at Thurgood MarshallMiddle School on Lake Avenue.
As the bus made a stop atElectric Avenue to drop off a
student.
According to a cell phone videocaptured on the school bus, the
12-year-old and anotherclassmate began fighting.
The district said that's whenseveral adults made their way
onto the bus.
When the unidentified adultscame onto the bus, they pushed
and held the bus driver back,while at least two other adults
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became involved in thealtercation, according to the
district.
The district has contracts witha number of bus companies to
transport students.
According to the district'swebsite, the district did not
identify which company's bus theincident took place on.
The Rochester Police Departmentsaid no one has been charged
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yet for the incident, but theinvestigation is ongoing.
I did just want to respond tothis comment that the victim's
cousin made regarding school busdrivers.
As a school bus driver, I foundthis to be quite interesting.
The thing about it is that wehave to be realistic.
There is no right or wrong wayto deal with these tragic
circumstances.
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This was unforeseen.
I've been driving school busesfor many years and I'm fortunate
that no parents have tried tocome on my bus and try to attack
me to get to another student.
But every circumstance isdifferent.
For example, we don't know howold this bus driver was.
We don't know if the bus driverwas too busy focusing on the
road or unloading the kids to beable to see as what was going
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to happen, because things happenso quickly.
When you're behind the wheel ofthat bus the wheel of that bus
people don't even recognize thepressure a school bus driver is
under.
If that bus driver did not haveany aids on that route, that's
another factor to consider.
So it would be unwise to say,hey, it's the bus driver's fault
or they need responsibility tobe enforced on the driver
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because the driver let theparents come on the bus.
No, the driver was being helddown by the parents and that's
what led to the circumstance.
Now I can only speak for myselfas a school bus driver.
My wife and I both drive.
But if this was my school busand this was the circumstance, I
would do everything in my powerto protect myself and my
students, and sometimes thatmeans not making the situation
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worse, because if I get into analtercation with these people
and then they hurt me and thenthey attack other students in
retaliation of what I've done,now, I'm responsible for other
innocent kids getting hurt.
So the bus driver did what theyfelt was best in this
circumstance.
At the end of the day, thepersons who came on this bus
joined in and beating a 12 yearold.
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That's where this story isgoing to have the circumstances
met the proper way, not blamingthe driver for these people,
bombarding the driver andholding them against their will.
Now, guys, I did say there weretwo more stories.
I apologize.
That was our final story onthis episode.
It went a lot faster than Ithought.
But what did we discuss?
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This particular episode, number24?
Thought, but what did wediscuss?
This particular episode, number24?
Well, guys, we recognize thatmany of you are going through
hardships loss of a loved one,death in the family, parents,
cousins, aunts, uncles, and soon and so forth.
Please know that you can alwaysturn to our website of
youtubecom rather than TikTok.
I've stopped posting onInstagram because it's just not
(42:58):
advantageous.
It's consuming a lot of time, alot of energy.
So I've stopped posting onInstagram because it's just not
advantageous.
It's consuming a lot of time, alot of energy.
So I'm just focused on TikTokand YouTube.
You can always subscribe toYouTube.
You can always follow me onTikTok, catch me live from time
to time and reach out throughemail redpodcasting at gmailcom
or redpodcasting at gmailcom.
You'll love it.
We'll be able to respond to youguys, give you tips on how to
(43:21):
continue to cope and endure thehardships you're going through.
Other than that, guys, this hasbeen another epic episode being
here with you guys this week.
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