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Friendships can be both our greatest source of joy and deepest wellspring of pain. When someone we trust hurts us, the path forward isn't always clear – should we forgive and rebuild, or recognize a toxic relationship and walk away?
Episode 118 of RED explores this delicate terrain with thoughtful perspective and practical wisdom. We examine the reality that no human relationship is perfect and how our tendencies toward oversensitivity can damage potentially valuable connections. The episode unpacks a powerful principle: "Do not be quick to take offense, for the taking of offense is the mark of a fool." Through personal stories and insights, we discover how to determine which friendships are worth fighting for and how to practice genuine forgiveness that doesn't keep score.
Like a favorite sweater that tears, a good friendship deserves consideration before being discarded. We explore how to assess whether a relationship consistently takes more than it gives, when to extend grace, and when to recognize it's time to let go. Listeners will gain practical tools for examining their own patterns in friendship, including the tendency to rationalize others' harmful behaviors or catastrophize minor offenses.
The episode then shifts to examine concerning trends in school environments, highlighting stories that emphasize why vigilance and open communication between parents and children are more crucial than ever. From teacher misconduct to administrative failures, these real-world examples underscore the importance of educating children about potential dangers while maintaining perspective.
Subscribe to RED for weekly insights on navigating life's everyday challenges with wisdom and resilience. How do you handle friendship conflicts? We'd love to hear your thoughts in the reviews!
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
This is the Everyday Podcast for the Everyday People.
Guys, welcome back to anotherepisode of RED.
It's the Everyday Podcast forthe Everyday People.
Man, oh man, this week I haveno words to be able to describe
how busy and tiring thisparticular week was.
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I was able to catch up with mywife, we were able to talk about
true friends and we were ableto talk about how our
relationship started when wewere just friends back in the
day.
So many people out there todaywhom have lost friends in death,
or maybe they've neverexperienced a real friend in
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their life, or maybe they are onthat road of searching for what
a true friend is.
So I've decided that forepisode number 118, I can't
believe it's 118 episode, Ican't believe it's 118 episode
We'd focus our theme on what todo if my friend hurts me.
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Now, this may seem like a topicthat is well a bit silly, to say
the least.
Many people have theories andthoughts as to how to maintain a
friendship and how to keep afriend, but the reality is, a
lot of us have been a victim ofa poor friend or have been a
victim of not having friends atall, or maybe you've expressed
having a friend backstab you.
Well, this theme, in thisparticular episode, is going to
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be able to help you to see howto go about dealing with such
emotions.
So what is it that you shouldknow?
Well, the first thing is nohuman relationship is perfect
and no human relationship isproblem-free.
You know being imperfect yourgood friend, even someone that
you consider to be your bestfriend, which is why I you know
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where I feel things get diceypeople calling persons their
best friend, putting that muchconfidence in a person they're
going to do or say things thathurt you from time to time.
And, of course, you yourselfare prone to mistakes.
I mean, no one's perfect, weall make mistakes.
But with those emotions, youcan feel betrayed when your
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friend makes a mistake towardsyou.
So what is it that you can doto be able to fix this problem?
Well, the first thing that youneed to analyze is is this
friend worth keeping in yourlife?
And that's something that I'vehad to ask myself.
Sometimes, as people, we try torationalize the thoughts and
actions of other people, evenwhen we recognize that that
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person is deliberately andintentionally doing things that
can hurt us.
So what do we recommend?
Well, the first thing that werecommend is that you examine
yourself.
There is a principle that Ilove to share with people, and
it's really simplified this wayDo not be quick to take offense,
for the taking of offense isthe mark of a fool.
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Here's what one person namedAlyssa noted.
She says sometimes you laterrealize that what you're upset
about isn't really a big deal.
So, for the sake of ourdiscussion this evening, we're
focusing on minor mistakes thatyour friend will make, not
mistakes in which theydeliberately do things behind
your back or deliberately dothings in order to sabotage you.
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That's not what we're focusingon with the theme of why my
friend hurt me.
But here's something to thinkabout.
Do you personally tend to beoversensitive?
Have you ever encounteredsomeone like that?
Perhaps they'd be a schoolmateor a coworker.
No matter what you say to thisperson, no matter what you do,
they constantly get offended,even when the circumstances
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contingent on your own personalrights or beliefs or thoughts.
See, one thing to keep in mindis you can learn to be tolerant
of other people's mistakes.
So when your friend doessomething that may hurt you,
something on the small side, youhave a good relationship with
this person and they do make amistake and hurt, you don't jump
right to the offense.
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Rather, you can consider thebenefits of forgiveness.
A friendship is very much likea brand new piece of clothing,
right?
Imagine if you tore thatsweater, or you tore those jeans
, or you ripped those pants.
Well, what effort would you goto in order to restore or repair
a such garment?
In reality, you can think aboutyour friendship the same way.
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If the friendship is worthpreserving, if the friendship is
worth repairing, then take thesteps to do that.
But if you discern that theitem is no longer worth your
time or effort or that they arenot meeting you halfway with
this friendship, then it'sbetter to let the friendship go.
But there are some cases inwhich you can be able to
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exercise forgiveness.
For example, a very powerfulproverb states that it is beauty
on our parts to overlook andoffense.
A person named Mallory saysthis in connection with our
theme.
Even if you have a cause forcomplaint, it's good to forgive
freely.
Now here's the point as to why.
That means not continuing tohold it over the person's head
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and making him or her apologizeeach time you bring it up.
Once you forgive, just be doneaway with it.
People hold on to these grudgesand they allow themselves to
continue to be in the company ofsuch persons.
And then the reality is youhaven't forgiven them, you don't
really want to deal with themanymore.
So you pretend that you'regoing to move forward, but in
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reality you're holding on tothose negative feelings.
So here's something to thinkabout Is the situation really
that important?
Can you forgive that friend ofyours for the sake of peace?
And today that's something alot of people are not interested
in doing making peace, beingable to see as to how they can
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come to a mutual agreementPeople don't really generally
care to make peace, and I don'tunderstand as to why.
If you claim to love somebodyand you care about them, the
goal is to make peace.
It does relieve a lot of stressin your life overall.
Here's something else to keepin mind Consider the other
person's feelings.
Today, you'll agree that welive in an environment in which
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people just don't care as muchas they used to, or perhaps
people are so damaged, so broken, so crushed emotionally that
they don't feel as though theycan trust someone else.
Well, here's something that Itry to apply Look out not only
for your own interest, but alsofor the interest of others, only
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for your own interest, but alsofor the interest of others.
Nicole, a person whom hasbenefited from living her life
this way, says when love andrespect are present in a
friendship, you have a strongreason to solve problems quickly
because you are invested in thefriendship, you have already
put effort into it and you don'twant to lose said friendship
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into it and you don't want tolose said friendship.
Sometimes people may think thatfriendships are a fairy tale,
it's something that's just onlyportrayed or possible in movies.
But the reality is anyrelationship that you're willing
to invest in, whether it be afriend or a boyfriend or a
girlfriend, it's going to takeeffort.
There are going to be momentsin which people hurt us, but how
you grow from the hurt and howyou persevere despite the
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negativity will define you as anindividual.
It will help you to build acharacter.
So here's something that youcan think about.
Can you find at least somemerit in the other person's
point of view?
Have you ever had a friend likethat?
No matter what you said to themor no matter what you did, it
always goes right back to beingyour fault.
Well, we're all imperfect, weall make mistakes.
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But here's the bottom line,knowing how to deal with hurt
feelings is a skill that willserve you well into adulthood.
So why not learn that skill now?
Why not learn that skill now?
There are two persons, two youngpersons, here, quoted in our
source, and this is what theysay in connection with dealing
with forgiving people andgetting past those emotions.
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This person in particular isKiana.
She says not every issue needsto be formally addressed.
You ever have a friend likethat.
You do one little thing, bumpthem by accident, you know,
accidentally, run into them, andthen it's like the whole world
is falling.
It's like they have to sit youdown, they have to be able to
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talk to you, they have to bringit up and blah, blah, blah.
No one needs that.
She continues If I can resolveit in my mind and let it go, I
do so.
That can keep the peace, moreso than bringing up every single
little offense.
When I was younger, that was oneof my challenges.
Anytime someone did somethingto me, it was like the sky was
falling.
I had to make this wholedramatic spiel about it and I
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had good friends.
They didn't give up on me soeasy.
But today people are goingthrough stuff, they're going
through trials.
We're all going through stuff.
So when we take a step back andwe try to come to terms with
the issue in our mind, then itwill help us to be a stronger
adult person, friend, etc.
Here's something that Trey addsto our theme.
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He says in each situation I askmyself is this issue so big
that it's worth potentiallylosing a friend?
In nearly every case, theanswer is no.
If you have a true friend,someone that you've grown to
love and care about, it's notgoing to be easy to strengthen
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and maintain that friendship.
However, it is possible if youtake the steps that we discussed
in our theme and you striveyour best to see matters from
your friend's point of view.
It's all too easy to give up ona friendship.
It's easy to say forget thatperson or forget that person,
this person, that person, butthe reality is you will come off
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with success if you continue toendure, despite challenges, in
your friendship.
So, guys, that was our theme inconnection with this episode
and, as always, every week wehave 10 stories that are going
to be able to well, give youguys something to think about.
We're going to be able toprovide the best amount of
comfort that we can forindividuals, whom are persons
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who know individuals in thesestories.
Some people have sent thesestories to me to be on the show
by request, but before we getinto our show, this story I had
to highlight because this issomething serious.
We have the TikTok live going,so I'll be expressing thoughts
to persons on live from time totime, but this story came to my
attention and I just wanted toexpress my condolences for the
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loss of this dear person.
Rising TikTok star, joshuaBackledge, dead at 16.
The article goes on to say thathe never failed to put a smile
on persons' faces.
A young and upcoming TikToker,best known for his car content
and giving his more than 1million followers a glimpse
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inside his young life, died lastweek at just 16 years old.
Joshua Backledge died at hishome in Newport, north Carolina,
on March 18th.
According to his obituary, hisfamily did not announce a cause
of death.
The TikTok star was a junior atWest Carteret High School in
Moorhead City, where he washeavily involved in wrestling
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and track.
His obituary added he had apassion for outdoors and loved
being around the water, whetherfishing or boating with friends.
He also had a love of cars, orfor cars and trucks.
At home, joshua liked helpinghis mom with cooking, gardening
and yard work.
He had an energetic spirit andwas known for his entertaining
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nature, often impressing otherswith backflips.
At the time of his death,backledge boasted around 1
million followers on TikTok.
His white BMW car and, mostrecently, a new white truck were
at the heart of his content.
His girlfriend, emi Gilligan,was also frequently featured on
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his account.
The two had just celebratedtheir eight-month anniversary at
the beginning of March.
According to a post on hisTikTok, emi shared various clips
of their relationship in atribute post to Joshua shortly
after his untimely death.
This is what that post readsMissing this sweet boy right now
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.
Never would have thought Iwould have been here without you
.
Josh showed me what love reallywas, even though I'm very young
.
He never failed to put a smileon my face, no matter how mad I
was at him.
Even after these past coupledays, nothing seems real and I'm
feeling all the emotions shewrote.
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The couple first met a littleover two years ago and one of
Joshua's top-pinned videosincludes a compilation of the
two of them that posted on theirfive-month anniversary.
A celebration of his life washeld Sunday in Newport.
The teen is survived by hisparents and brother.
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Well, for many of you here, inconnection with this short, many
people have expressed that theydon't know this TikToker.
I ran across this page a coupleof times in my FYP while
searching TikTok and I wanted toextend my condolences, not
because he was a TikTok star andI'm on the platform, but I
wanted to extend my condolencesbecause this teen lost his life
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at such an early age.
A lot of the times I come on toTikTok Live and I share my
content and express my thoughts,people call me names, and most
of those names really centeredaround the fact that I'm on the
older side.
I mean 32, you know glad to be32.
Now you just imagine I'm 32years old and this boy lost his
life at 16.
That's half my age, and so thetragedy or the negative emotions
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that come with this story arejust very heavy to bear.
So I wanted to extend, onbehalf of the RED team, my
condolences or our condolencesto the family and obviously, the
victim's girlfriend regardingJoshua's death.
I know that losing someone isnot easy and oftentimes there
are no words to be able toexpress the devastation.
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But if you continue to surroundyourself by people who love and
care for you well, you can findsuccess during these difficult
and dark times.
In our following story, we arehighlighting how violence in the
school system continues to besomewhat of an ongoing problem.
Teen charged with breakinganother student's jaw in
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classroom fight at Ringgold HighSchool.
An 18-year-old is facingcharges after police said he
broke another student's jawduring a fight over a girl
inside a classroom at RinggoldHigh School.
David McGavitt was charged withaggravated assault, simple
assault and harassment after afight the morning of March 13th,
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according to court paperwork.
During an interview, policesaid the victim told
investigators he had posted anold TikTok of an ex-girlfriend
who was currently datingMcGavitt and the night before
the fight McGavitt texted thevictim about the video.
The victim told police on themorning of March 13th he was
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looking at his phone and didn'tnotice McGavitt in the classroom
before he was punched.
He said he got up and defendedhimself.
A hall monitor broke up thefight.
Police added.
Investigators said they talkedto students who said they heard
McGavitt say something beforepunching the victim.
Several students said thevictim was seated when first
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punch, with one saying he wasunaware and looking at his phone
.
In a statement the ringgoldschool district said it's
committed to fostering a safeand respectful environment.
The district does not condonephysical violence as a means of
resolving conflicts, but theyemphasize the importance of
constructive communication andpeaceful conflict resolution.
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There is nothing further inconnection with this particular
story.
I will say this, though I dofind it interesting that this
teenager punched someone so hardthat they broke their jaw.
I mean, that must have beenquite a punch.
You don't just, you know, punchsomeone inadvertently or punt
someone with mildness and breaktheir jaw.
This was definitely a storythat had me wondering as to what
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the intent was behind the punch.
Now, on TikTok Live, a fewpeople have entered, gone in,
gone out, gone out.
Andrew, what's going on?
Man, welcome to the live, gladto see you here and thanks for I
believe you sent me something.
It says the number one gift orbadge, and so we're just
continuing down the same spiralof stories on this episode, and
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so feel free to drop somecomments.
And, guys, as you hear thesestories, as you're scrolling
through the TikTok lives, hereis our following story A
Brooklyn middle school deanarrested for strangling boy.
Police say A New York Citymiddle school dean is accused of
strangling a student during anargument when the boy refused to
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change into his uniform.
Police arrested 53-year-oldElvin Ventura, the dean of
students at Charles O'DoeyMiddle School in Brooklyn, after
he allegedly attacked andinjured the 13-year-old in the
cafeteria.
Ventura instructed the studentto change into his uniform
during lunchtime Thursday.
Police sources told CBS NewsNew York, but the boy refused
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and an argument ensued.
The criminal complaint allegesVentura pushed the boy with his
hands, wrapped his arms aroundhis neck and applied pressure.
The student suffered asubstantial pain about his neck.
It adds when I looked, I see thedean has the child into a
chokehold, said Poseidon Aguida,a student who was in the
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cafeteria at the time.
I was pretty scared.
I didn't know what was going tohappen next.
A teacher eventually broke itup.
He added Kids are kids.
You're not supposed to touchthem, and especially with a
chokehold, said Miguel Aguida.
Poseidon's grandfather, a NewYork City Department of
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Education spokesperson, calledthe behavior unacceptable.
This employee has beenreassigned away from students
pending the outcome of thearrest and, if convicted, we
will pursue termination.
They said.
Ventura was arraigned forsecond-degree assault and
endangering the welfare of achild, among other charges.
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He was released without bail.
I can't condone what this deandid.
There is never any excuse toput your hands on a child and
choke them into an oblivion.
But what I can say is this andI know that this isn't a
statement that's going to beloved by onlookers Today, we
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live in a society in whichpeople do not care, and I just
want to express that to you guyswe live in a society today
where people do not care.
This dean obviously did notcare, and so the reality is that
he took matters into his ownhand and choked this student out
.
Now is that okay?
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Absolutely not.
As a school bus driver, I'mgoing to have to stand with the
law and say this is not okay.
But what I will tell you as aschool bus driver sometimes
these things are inevitable.
Driver, sometimes these thingsare inevitable.
Students today must be taught tobe aware of how mentally
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unadjusted some persons are.
In their company.
There are many teachers, staffmembers at schools that I drive,
principals, etc.
That I know something is notright with their nuggets.
I'm not going to provoke them.
Parents, do yourselves a favorand teach your children how to
protect themselves againstpersons who may not be stable.
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True, we don't know if thisdean at this school is dealing
with mental issues.
But we can arguably say,arguably say that if this man is
willing to choke a studentwithout worry about any
consequences, then yes, there issomething unstable in
connection with thisadministrator.
We hope that the student makesa well recovery and that he is
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going to be just fine as hetries to sort matters out with
the school.
Now, back on live.
It says they should screenemployees for self-control and
emotional stability.
Back on live it says theyshould screen employees for
self-control and emotionalstability.
Now, andrew, I always love thatpositive, that healthy,
practical feedback.
But there's one element aboutdealing with persons that we
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just forget and that's free will.
All of us, as humans, have freewill.
So if we can condition ourminds to pass these background
checks, to pass these screenings, there's no way to ensure that
when they get into the schoolthey're going to be able to stop
this behavior, because it'scontingent on free will.
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There are people who come intothe school system and I've seen
it They'll pass their CDL testbrand new bus driver.
They did everything by thebooks of the law to pass their,
to get their CDL.
But when they start drivingthat bus at the school, it's
literally up to their owndiscretion and for some people,
andrew, the sad reality is theydon't care about the law.
Some people are looking to gotoe to toe with the, with the
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law, by endangering the welfareof a child, and that in itself
is an entirely different set ofcircumstances.
There's not much that can bedone, but you can try to warn,
educate and protect yourchildren the very best way that
you can, your children the verybest way that you can.
In this following story we'regoing to be able to see that
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same conduct, that same line ofreasoning here in this local
middle school, deerfield MiddleSchool, thrust into national
spotlight after mother claimsdaughter was forced to change in
front of biological boy.
A Deerfield Middle School hasbeen thrust into the middle of
the national transgender lockerroom debate after a mother said
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her Shepherd Middle School childwas forced by administrators to
change in front of a biologicalboy.
Mother Nicole Georges appearedon Fox News and claimed her
daughter and several of herclassmates were forced by school
officials at Deerfield PublicSchool, district 109 and
Shepherd Middle School in the400th block of Grove Place in
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Deerfield to change in a lockerroom in front of the student who
is biologically a boy.
However, school officials saidon their website that the
Illinois Human Rights Actprohibits all public school
districts from discriminating onthe basis of sex, including
gender identity, and mandatesthat students must be permitted
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access to the locker room andbathroom that aligns with their
gender identity.
Georges told Fox News that herdaughter was one of several
girls who did not approve ofchanging in front of the boy.
Georges continued the girlsdecided on their own to protest
by refusing to wear theirrequired PE clothes that day.
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The next day, georges said,school administrators first
attempted to find out whostarted the protest.
Then, she added, school anddistrict administrators and
teachers went into the lockerroom and made the girls change
into their PE clothes in frontof the other students.
I asked the teachers why thiswas happening.
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No one is giving me any kind ofresponse.
The mom adds the onlysuggestion they had was to move
my daughter into a different PEclass.
Had was to move my daughterinto a different PE class,
georges told Fox News.
She told school officials herdaughter would not move to
another class but that she wouldnot be changing into her PE
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clothes for the rest of the yearbecause that locker room is for
the girls.
She adds that she filed acomplaint with the US Department
of Justice.
However, the Deerfieldadministration said in their
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statement that Deerfield PublicSchools, district 109, complies
with state law and they areunited with our leaders and
educators on this issue and havea shared commitment to
upholding the law.
So here is my question withthis particular story, what was
accomplished?
You take a student, you forcethem to change in front of other
people, against their free will, against what they're
comfortable with, and then youexpect a positive result.
That mindset is very similar totaking gasoline, pouring it on
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fire and then saying, wow, Ihope this goes out.
I don't understand as to whyit's very difficult today for
humans to respect the choicesand decisions of other people.
Me personally, I have my ownbeliefs when it comes to people,
lifestyles, standards etc.
But that does not mean that Ihave to shove, I have to push, I
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have to blanket my own beliefsonto another person simply
because we disagree with oneanother.
The sad reality is this Respectis something that is no longer
given to a person simply forbeing a human being.
Humans today must learn how tocultivate the proper view of
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respect for one another.
That's like right now if I tellsomeone I don't smoke
cigarettes because, as a child,someone in my family smoked
cigarettes and then they diedfrom lung cancer.
Smoked cigarettes and then theydied from lung cancer.
How is it disrespecting thatperson who wants to smoke their
rights because I'm choosing notto do so?
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You see, when we all maintainrespect for one another, it
makes a peaceful environment,especially when you're dealing
with children who come to schoolto learn and not have to deal
with such circumstances thatpromote anxieties and
depressions.
In this following story, we'regoing to talk a little bit more
about teachers whom are notupholding the standard that
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educators should be upholding.
Truman High School teacherarrested after child porn found
on school computer.
A Truman High School teacherhas been arrested and charged
with possessing childpornography on his school laptop
.
A teacher named Austin J Meyerwas arrested yesterday.
The Independence PoliceDepartment told Fox 4 News on
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Thursday.
Documents show Meyer was hiredas the school's theater teacher
in 2022.
Jackson County ProsecutorMelissa Johnson announced
Thursday that Meyer is facing 11counts of possession of child
pornography.
According to court records, theschool's IT department
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discovered explicit pornographicimages of underage females on
Meyer's computer after it wasnotified of a malware virus.
The school laptop, which wasfound in the school theater, had
nine videos and two picturesdownloaded on it.
According to court records,after the school contacted the
Independence Police,investigators found numerous
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images and videos of childrenunder the age of 14 on the
laptop.
Meyer has been placed onadministrative leave as the
criminal investigation continues.
The independent school districtsays Myers is now being held on
a $100,000 bond.
This investigation is ongoingbut it is indeed unsettling the
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problem with the story.
A teacher caught school laptop,personal laptop, whatever
dozens of child pornography onthis instrument.
Now, when you look at thedynamic of the trauma that that
causes individuals let's justsay this teacher did not have it
out for students at his schoolthere's still a degree of trauma
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because this made headline newsor local news for that
particular town.
It's unsettling but I guessthat's just an understatement
the fact that parents have tolet their children go to school
and then have to worry about anadministrator or a principal or
a teacher or whomever gettinginvolved in misconduct like this
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.
Oftentimes on this show peoplewill ask me what is the protocol
?
I work for the schooladministration myself.
There's no protocol.
You're dealing with humanbeings who have free will.
You're dealing with people whomhave choices to make.
And if they make these choicesand they don't care about the
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regard for anyone else.
These things are going tocontinue to happen.
So what I encourage parents todo parents, you have to educate
your children.
You have to be able to keepthem up to date with the schemes
and machinations of thesepersons who are seeking to do
them harm A lot of the times.
You have two extremes in thisworld.
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You have that one parent whotakes every little act of
goodness and turns it into apredatory statement, and then
there's the other parent whodoesn't see the danger.
They allow their child to goanywhere and everywhere, with
whoever.
There's a balance, parents.
There has to be a balance whenyou are leaving your children in
the care of other people,because the sad reality is we
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are living among people who dovery inappropriate things to,
for and with a student.
In this following story, we'restill talking about violence.
Andrew on live may mention thatit's best to educate the
children, the best way to go.
You got to be vigilant.
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I couldn't agree more, andrew.
A lot of parents.
They spend so much time focusedon being their child's friend,
but as a parent, you have a roleto play.
Please play that role.
I am begging you for the safetyand security of your child.
Our following story Teachercharged with assaulting student
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at Osborne Park High School.
A teacher at Osborne Park HighSchool has been charged with
assault following an incidentinvolving a student.
The school resource officerassigned to the school began the
investigation on March 14thafter a report of an assault
that occurred on March 12th.
The investigation revealed thata 15-year-old female student
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approached the teacher,identified as Bobby Ray Lake,
during class.
During the encounter, lakeallegedly grabbed the student by
the back of the neck and pushedher forward before they
separated.
No injuries were reported.
On March 20th, following theinvestigation, lake was formally
charged with assault andbattery.
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There was a message sent out toparents on behalf of
administration, but no furtherdetails in connection with this
particular story.
This is the second story on theshow for this week in which a
teacher or a staff member isjust yoking up students.
They're literally grabbing themby their neck and just yoking
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these kids up In everycircumstance.
I'm not going to say it's thestudent's fault.
I'm not going to say thatbecause there are people who are
prone to anger today and if youdon't believe me, get in your
car and drive down a majorhighway in your state.
People are reckless.
As we mentioned before,vigilance and diligence is going
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to get parents the results theyneed to protect their children.
We're hoping that the victim inthis story makes a well
recovery and that she's able tobe able to get the comfort and
assistance she needs emotionallyand mentally to be able to move
forward.
Some stories that we comeacross on this show are very
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profound.
Some are unique, but thisparticular story was just
downright concerning.
I've never seen anything likeit in my entire time on this
show.
I'm all for getting thehomework done, but this is an
entirely different level ofgetting homework done.
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Middle school teacher followedstudent home to ask about
missing leave.
After he allegedly went to astudent's home to see if they
finished their homework,officials said dated Wednesday
March 19th and shared withPeople.
The Perrysburg Police Divisionsaid it was alerted by Hull
Prairie Intermediate SchoolPrincipal, scott Best, about a
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matter involving a teacher fromthe school.
Best said he received an emailfrom a concerned parent who
alleged a teacher from theschool followed a bus home to
get a homework assignment from astudent.
According to the report, theparent told Best that the
teacher followed their child'sschool bus after school to
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confirm whether they finishedtheir homework assignment.
The report added the student'sfather later arrived to find the
teacher at the front door ofthe family's residence.
To find the teacher at thefront door of the family's
residence.
Upset, the father confrontedthe teacher and asked why he was
at their home talking to hischild.
The teacher alleged that hewanted to confirm that the
student did their assignment,adding that if everyone in the
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class did their assignments,they would receive a pizza party
.
The police report noted thatthe student's parent told Best
that they weren't aware that theteacher was planning to arrive
at their home and found it to bereally weird and concerning.
The parent also mentioned intheir email to Best that it was
out of the ordinary for ateacher to follow a student home
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to pick up a missing assignmentwhen the assignment could have
been emailed or uploaded instead.
The Perrysville Police Divisiontold people that there is an
investigation that is ongoing.
In a message on the district'swebsite about the matter,
perrysburg School SuperintendentThomas Hosler said that the
teacher was placed onadministrative leave before the
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start of the next school day.
I'm all for a teacher beingdiligent and trying to catch
assignments from a student, butwhy couldn't the teacher just
ask the kid the next day if hedid the homework or not, why
would the teacher have to followthe student home in order to be
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able to see if he did hishomework?
I mean, I understand where theparents are coming from.
I mean that's downright strange.
As a school bus driver, if akid left something on my bus and
I know where these kids livebecause I drop them off every
day I wouldn't follow thestudent home to ask if he forgot
his book bag on my bus or if hedidn't do his homework.
So I can understand why aparent in today's world would be
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concerned that a teacherfollowed their student home
uninvited to ask if they didtheir homework for a pizza party
, the stuff that you hear about.
Like you know, we talk a lotabout common sense on this show.
It's not as common as peoplewould think.
Common sense is not as commonas people would think.
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I hope that the student is okay, because these are definitely
traumatizing waters.
But I can understand as to whydad is ready to open a can of
kick butt because these thingsjust they just don't sit well
with the environment today.
Yeah, it's true, I would saythe common sense isn't common
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either.
But my, my, oh, my like.
Oh, my goodness, it is crazy.
A teacher following a kid hometo see if he did his homework.
I mean, where is the line thatcomes with the word perversion,
like?
That's just kind of creepy Now,unless on live.
I have a friend of mine whoused to be a teacher.
I can ask him have you everfollowed your students home to
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see if they did their homework?
Or is that just an Ohio thing?
Because I'm not following anyof my students home to see if
Mark is at his homework for apizza party that I don't even
want to really pay for.
You know, that's just thereality of the circumstance.
When you hear stories like thaton the show and you wonder if
the parents are being tooextreme, this next story
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highlights that parents are notbeing extreme, they're being
cautious.
A Delaware gym teacher isaccused of sending sexually
explicit messages to an eighthgrader.
A physical education teacher ata middle school in Newcastle,
delaware, has been arrested andis facing 17 felony charges
after police say he sentsexually explicit text and
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social media messages to aneighth grade student at the
school where he taught.
According to police officialsin Delaware, ricardo Villa, 39,
a physical education teacher atGeorge Reed Middle School in
Newcastle, delaware, wasarrested on Monday morning on
charges that claim he sentsexually explicit messages to an
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eighth grader.
Police officials said Villa hasbeen charged with 17 felony
counts, including six counts ofsexual solicitation of a child,
six counts of promoting sexualsolicitation of a child, two
counts of obscenity and onecount each of enticement, sexual
abuse of a person in a positionof trust and dangerous crime
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against a child.
According to court documents,the school, along with the
victim, a 13-year-old student atGeorge Reed Middle School, told
police about sexually explicitmessages that were allegedly
traded between the child andVila.
A review of these messages,according to court documents,
revealed that Vila repeatedlydiscussed and requested sexual
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acts from the child and told thechild he would perform sexual
acts on them.
Police claim in court documentsthat Vila also shared images of
himself that were sexuallyexplicit with the child and told
the student that he was realhard and horny.
In a statement on Vila's arrest, william D Crotty,
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superintendent of the DelawareState Police, thanked the school
district for its help inbringing this matter to the
police.
Investigators are not currentlyaware of additional victims in
this case.
Police officials have added,however, given the nature of
Villa's work and the fact thatit brought him into regular
contact with children.
Delaware police officials areseeking any information the
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public may have about this case.
Anyone with information isasked to contact Detective Kevin
Keller of the Delaware StatePolice at 302-365-8436.
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You know, some of these storiesare just brushed under the rug
by mainstream news.
They like to focus on storiesthat are not as significant as
these stories, but these storiesdo deserve to be heard.
These stories need to be heard.
Someone needs to be able toshine a light on the challenges
that young persons are dealingwith in school every single day.
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Now, back on live, someone justthrew in a comment.
Andrew mentioned that that'ssomeone's little girl.
Do you ever feel like and I'masking this question to my
listeners to this podcast,people on live do you ever feel
like the justice system is justnot enough, that there is so
much more that can be done toprotect people children, women,
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etc.
But there's just limited amountof resources being put into
helping people that particularway?
Do you ever feel that way aboutjustice?
Well, sometimes, you know, youcan feel that way.
Sometimes it feels like it'sjust not enough, and then these
people get locked up for thesecrimes and then they get off.
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They get a good lawyer and thenthey get off, and then you stop
and ask yourself where's thejustice in that?
We're hoping that this younggirl is going to get the
assistance that she needs.
According to this source, itsays that the two of them were
exchanging messages back andforth, so we can conclude that
there was some type of mentalhijacking done in connection
with this student.
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This following story I thoughtwas interesting because it
really highlights the uniquenessof the fact that if you put
your mind to something, you canaccomplish anything.
Georgia High School Senior hasbeen accepted into 52 colleges
with $1.8 million in scholarshipoffers.
A Metro Atlanta high schoolsenior is bound for big things,
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if her attention from collegesis any indication.
Jada Simone is a senior atWheeler High and the only thing
brighter than her smile is herfuture.
She's already gotten acceptedinto 52 colleges and has
outstanding and outstandingscholarship offers totaling $1.8
million.
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After the family was addressedabout this matter, it was noted
that she has ambitious plans toget both her undergrad and
master's degree in just fouryears.
Her family explained that she'slooking into programs that will
allow her to get a bachelor'sin business management and a
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master's in businessadministration, though it will
only take her four years becauseshe already has enough credits
to enter school as a sophomore.
Eventually she wants a PhD inindustrial organizational
psychology.
She's been accepted to schoolsincluding Florida, howard,
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tennessee, alabama, lsu,michigan State, clark, atlanta,
clemson, ohio State andobviously many, many more.
Congrats to this amazing youngwoman.
What a nice picture they haveof her too.
I thought this was incredible,you know.
It really highlights the factthat no matter what you want to
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do in life, guys, you put yourmind to it, you can accomplish
your goals.
Now, in this following story,I'm going to say that's exactly
what this teacher decided to do.
They saw a goal, they had aparticular mindset or mentality
and they went for it.
Elementary school teacheraccused of taping students'
mouths shut.
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Local parents are concernedafter a Howard County elementary
school teacher has been accusedof taping young students'
mouths shut during class.
The teacher, an employee of theTaylor School Corporation,
reportedly teaches kindergartenat Taylor Elementary School in
Kokomo Fox 59, cbs 4 is notnaming the teacher as she has
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not been charged with any crime.
The students at TaylorElementary are currently on
spring break, which some parentssaid is much needed after
hearing stories about what hasbeen occurring in one classroom.
Fox 59 reporter, claire Curryspoke on Monday with several of
these concerned parents.
Heaven Russell, the mother of akindergartner at Taylor, said
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she first heard the allegationson Sunday after reading posts
online.
These rumors said a teacher hadtaped students' mouths shut, so
Russell sat down with her sonto ask him about it.
Russell's son described thetape as the kind used to pack
moving boxes.
Russell's sister, madelineWetzel, also has a child in the
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class.
It's something that I kind ofexpected out of her, because she
just doesn't seem like she's agood teacher at all.
Wetzel said Both children saidthat while the teacher did not
put tape on their mouths, theysaw it happen to their
classmates.
It was mentioned that theteacher has been placed on
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administrative leave during thisinvestigation.
Also, as of 5 pm when thissource released this story, no
criminal charges have been filedagainst the accused teacher,
but these sources will beupdated as information becomes
available.
I couldn't imagine a teacherdoing something like that to my
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child.
I wouldn't stand for it.
There's got to be somethingthat can be done in connection
with these particularcircumstances.
Andrew, I just missed yourcomment back on live.
I know you had me mentioned ofsomething, but this story was
indeed gruesome, but not asheavy as this next story that
we're about to jump into Aformer Delaware middle school
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principal charged with rapingstudent for four years.
I want to warn you first thatthe contents of this story is
indeed graphic and, of course,course, I'll do my best to be
able to get this story out toyou on TikTok, but we all know
how TikTok can be regarding suchcircumstances.
A former middle schoolprincipal in Delaware was
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charged with raping a studentfor several years, over a decade
ago, according to an indictmentobtained by NBC10.
According to an indictmentobtained by NBC10.
Tasha Purnell, also known asTasha Oliver, is accused of
engaging in sexual penetrationwith a girl under the age of 16,
the document states theincidents all happened between
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August 1, 2010 and June 31, 2014in Newcastle.
According to the indictment,oliver was a principal at AI
DuPont Middle School and in theindictment, officials said she
was in a position of power overthe child at the time of the
incident.
Nbc10 reached out to the RedClay School District late on
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Tuesday and is waiting to hearback.
Oliver is facing more than adozen charges, including rape,
sexual abuse of a child by aperson in a position of trust,
authority or supervision, aswell as continuous sexual abuse
of a child.
This was the hardest, the mostsimplest but most devastating
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story I've ever had to cover onthis show.
Guys, let me know in thecomment box how this story made
you feel.
It may seem obvious, but theinteresting thing about it was
that this individual, thisperson that did this, is not a
male teacher.
This is a female teacher thatdid this to an underaged girl,
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to this victim.
We hope that you make a wellrecovery and that you are going
to get the support that you needto continue to endure these
hardships.
I can't believe just how out ofcontrol people can be and how
careless and reckless people canbe when it comes to someone
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else's child.
I've been driving school busfor almost a decade and I can't
believe.
I just can't believe thementality of some person.
It really makes you wonderwhat's going to happen in the
very near future.
Now, back on live.
I have somebody in here who hasobviously lost their mind
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saying that they're the bestfishermen, when clearly they're
not.
I mean, I don't know if you'redrinking alcoholic beverages or
whatever the case is, but no,you're an okay, fisherman and
there's nothing wrong with beingokay as a fisherman, kev I mean
, we all have to be okay atsomething, as it were.
You know, and so that's justthe reality of it the best
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fisherman.
Well, guys, that was our finalstory in connection with episode
number 118.
And I can't believe that wejust, you know, the time
literally flies but wedefinitely were able to get
these stories covered.
Do you guys remember the themethat we started the beginning of
this show with?
Why did my friend hurt me?
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We recognize that friendshipsare going to go through ups and
downs.
We understand that people aregoing to make mistakes.
But if you don't get anythingfrom this particular podcast on
this episode, remember that yourfriends are going to do things
that hurt you and, in turn,you're going to do things that
hurt your friends.
But the reality of thecircumstances, if you have a
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good friend and you really trustthat friend and you really love
that friend, don't be quick tothrow the friendship away.
Apply the principles that wediscussed at the beginning of
our episode and if you'relistening to this in your car or
on Spotify or on Amazon orwherever the podcast is
available, take a minute topause this part of the podcast.
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Go back and really think aboutsome of the things that we
discussed.
True, it doesn't become anyeasier.
It can be hard to be forgivingand to put up with a friend that
you well may not know has yourbest interest at heart, or a
friend that does not have yourbest interest at heart.
But stay vigilant, staydiligent.
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To those who were involved inthis particular episode, the
victims that we discussed, wediscussed some very, very
powerful, powerful stories onthis particular episode.
Please accept our condolences.
Please accept the support thatwe have on this podcast.
We love our viewers and werecognize that today we're
living in some dark times.
We are living in times in whichpeople just don't care anymore,
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and so if you can be able tofind comfort and encouragement
by coming on to this podcastevery week, by visiting that
live every Thursday we're livedoing this podcast then you
never know how it may encourageyou to want to fight another day
in this wicked world that wecall home.
Well, other than that, guys,this has been great.
As always, this has been RED.
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It's the everyday podcast forthe everyday people, and we will
catch you, guys, on the nextepisode.
This is the everyday podcastfor the everyday people.
This is the Everyday Podcast for the Everyday People.
Guys, welcome back to anotherepisode of RED.
It's the Everyday Podcast forthe Everyday People.
Man, oh man, this week I haveno words to be able to describe
how busy and tiring thisparticular week was.
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I was able to catch up with mywife, we were able to talk about
true friends and we were ableto talk about how our
relationship started when wewere just friends back in the
day.
So many people out there todaywhom have lost friends in death,
or maybe they've neverexperienced a real friend in
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their life, or maybe they are onthat road of searching for what
a true friend is.
So I've decided that forepisode number 118, I can't
believe it's 118 episode, Ican't believe it's 118 episode
We'd focus our theme on what todo if my friend hurts me.
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Now, this may seem like a topicthat is well a bit silly, to say
the least.
Many people have theories andthoughts as to how to maintain a
friendship and how to keep afriend, but the reality is, a
lot of us have been a victim ofa poor friend or have been a
victim of not having friends atall, or maybe you've expressed
having a friend backstab you.
Well, this theme, in thisparticular episode, is going to
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be able to help you to see howto go about dealing with such
emotions.
So what is it that you shouldknow?
Well, the first thing is nohuman relationship is perfect
and no human relationship isproblem-free.
You know being imperfect yourgood friend, even someone that
you consider to be your bestfriend, which is why I you know
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where I feel things get diceypeople calling persons their
best friend, putting that muchconfidence in a person they're
going to do or say things thathurt you from time to time.
And, of course, you yourselfare prone to mistakes.
I mean, no one's perfect, weall make mistakes.
But with those emotions, youcan feel betrayed when your
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friend makes a mistake towardsyou.
So what is it that you can doto be able to fix this problem?
Well, the first thing that youneed to analyze is is this
friend worth keeping in yourlife?
And that's something that I'vehad to ask myself.
Sometimes, as people, we try torationalize the thoughts and
actions of other people, evenwhen we recognize that that
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person is deliberately andintentionally doing things that
can hurt us.
So what do we recommend?
Well, the first thing that werecommend is that you examine
yourself.
There is a principle that Ilove to share with people, and
it's really simplified this wayDo not be quick to take offense,
for the taking of offense isthe mark of a fool.
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Here's what one person namedAlyssa noted.
She says sometimes you laterrealize that what you're upset
about isn't really a big deal.
So, for the sake of ourdiscussion this evening, we're
focusing on minor mistakes thatyour friend will make, not
mistakes in which theydeliberately do things behind
your back or deliberately dothings in order to sabotage you.
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That's not what we're focusingon with the theme of why my
friend hurt me.
But here's something to thinkabout.
Do you personally tend to beoversensitive?
Have you ever encounteredsomeone like that?
Perhaps they'd be a schoolmateor a coworker.
No matter what you say to thisperson, no matter what you do,
they constantly get offended,even when the circumstances
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contingent on your own personalrights or beliefs or thoughts.
See, one thing to keep in mindis you can learn to be tolerant
of other people's mistakes.
So when your friend doessomething that may hurt you,
something on the small side, youhave a good relationship with
this person and they do make amistake and hurt, you don't jump
right to the offense.
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Rather, you can consider thebenefits of forgiveness.
A friendship is very much likea brand new piece of clothing,
right?
Imagine if you tore thatsweater, or you tore those jeans
, or you ripped those pants.
Well, what effort would you goto in order to restore or repair
a such garment?
In reality, you can think aboutyour friendship the same way.
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If the friendship is worthpreserving, if the friendship is
worth repairing, then take thesteps to do that.
But if you discern that theitem is no longer worth your
time or effort or that they arenot meeting you halfway with
this friendship, then it'sbetter to let the friendship go.
But there are some cases inwhich you can be able to
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exercise forgiveness.
For example, a very powerfulproverb states that it is beauty
on our parts to overlook andoffense.
A person named Mallory saysthis in connection with our
theme.
Even if you have a cause forcomplaint, it's good to forgive
freely.
Now here's the point as to why.
That means not continuing tohold it over the person's head
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and making him or her apologizeeach time you bring it up.
Once you forgive, just be doneaway with it.
People hold on to these grudgesand they allow themselves to
continue to be in the company ofsuch persons.
And then the reality is youhaven't forgiven them, you don't
really want to deal with themanymore.
So you pretend that you'regoing to move forward, but in
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reality you're holding on tothose negative feelings.
So here's something to thinkabout Is the situation really
that important?
Can you forgive that friend ofyours for the sake of peace?
And today that's something alot of people are not interested
in doing making peace, beingable to see as to how they can
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come to a mutual agreementPeople don't really generally
care to make peace, and I don'tunderstand as to why.
If you claim to love somebodyand you care about them, the
goal is to make peace.
It does relieve a lot of stressin your life overall.
Here's something else to keepin mind Consider the other
person's feelings.
Today, you'll agree that welive in an environment in which
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people just don't care as muchas they used to, or perhaps
people are so damaged, so broken, so crushed emotionally that
they don't feel as though theycan trust someone else.
Well, here's something that Itry to apply Look out not only
for your own interest, but alsofor the interest of others, only
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for your own interest, but alsofor the interest of others.
Nicole, a person whom hasbenefited from living her life
this way, says when love andrespect are present in a
friendship, you have a strongreason to solve problems quickly
because you are invested in thefriendship, you have already
put effort into it and you don'twant to lose said friendship
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into it and you don't want tolose said friendship.
Sometimes people may think thatfriendships are a fairy tale,
it's something that's just onlyportrayed or possible in movies.
But the reality is anyrelationship that you're willing
to invest in, whether it be afriend or a boyfriend or a
girlfriend, it's going to takeeffort.
There are going to be momentsin which people hurt us, but how
you grow from the hurt and howyou persevere despite the
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negativity will define you as anindividual.
It will help you to build acharacter.
So here's something that youcan think about.
Can you find at least somemerit in the other person's
point of view?
Have you ever had a friend likethat?
No matter what you said to themor no matter what you did, it
always goes right back to beingyour fault.
Well, we're all imperfect, weall make mistakes.
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But here's the bottom line,knowing how to deal with hurt
feelings is a skill that willserve you well into adulthood.
So why not learn that skill now?
Why not learn that skill now?
There are two persons, two youngpersons, here, quoted in our
source, and this is what theysay in connection with dealing
with forgiving people andgetting past those emotions.
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This person in particular isKiana.
She says not every issue needsto be formally addressed.
You ever have a friend likethat.
You do one little thing, bumpthem by accident, you know,
accidentally, run into them, andthen it's like the whole world
is falling.
It's like they have to sit youdown, they have to be able to
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talk to you, they have to bringit up and blah, blah, blah.
No one needs that.
She continues If I can resolveit in my mind and let it go, I
do so.
That can keep the peace, moreso than bringing up every single
little offense.
When I was younger, that was oneof my challenges.
Anytime someone did somethingto me, it was like the sky was
falling.
I had to make this wholedramatic spiel about it and I
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had good friends.
They didn't give up on me soeasy.
But today people are goingthrough stuff, they're going
through trials.
We're all going through stuff.
So when we take a step back andwe try to come to terms with
the issue in our mind, then itwill help us to be a stronger
adult person, friend, etc.
Here's something that Trey addsto our theme.
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He says in each situation I askmyself is this issue so big
that it's worth potentiallylosing a friend?
In nearly every case, theanswer is no.
If you have a true friend,someone that you've grown to
love and care about, it's notgoing to be easy to strengthen
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and maintain that friendship.
However, it is possible if youtake the steps that we discussed
in our theme and you striveyour best to see matters from
your friend's point of view.
It's all too easy to give up ona friendship.
It's easy to say forget thatperson or forget that person,
this person, that person, butthe reality is you will come off
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with success if you continue toendure, despite challenges, in
your friendship.
So, guys, that was our theme inconnection with this episode
and, as always, every week wehave 10 stories that are going
to be able to well, give youguys something to think about.
We're going to be able toprovide the best amount of
comfort that we can forindividuals, whom are persons
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who know individuals in thesestories.
Some people have sent thesestories to me to be on the show
by request, but before we getinto our show, this story I had
to highlight because this issomething serious.
We have the TikTok live going,so I'll be expressing thoughts
to persons on live from time totime, but this story came to my
attention and I just wanted toexpress my condolences for the
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loss of this dear person.
Rising TikTok star, joshuaBackledge, dead at 16.
The article goes on to say thathe never failed to put a smile
on persons' faces.
A young and upcoming TikToker,best known for his car content
and giving his more than 1million followers a glimpse
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inside his young life, died lastweek at just 16 years old.
Joshua Backledge died at hishome in Newport, north Carolina,
on March 18th.
According to his obituary, hisfamily did not announce a cause
of death.
The TikTok star was a junior atWest Carteret High School in
Moorhead City, where he washeavily involved in wrestling
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and track.
His obituary added he had apassion for outdoors and loved
being around the water, whetherfishing or boating with friends.
He also had a love of cars, orfor cars and trucks.
At home, joshua liked helpinghis mom with cooking, gardening
and yard work.
He had an energetic spirit andwas known for his entertaining
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nature, often impressing otherswith backflips.
At the time of his death,backledge boasted around 1
million followers on TikTok.
His white BMW car and, mostrecently, a new white truck were
at the heart of his content.
His girlfriend, emi Gilligan,was also frequently featured on
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his account.
The two had just celebratedtheir eight-month anniversary at
the beginning of March.
According to a post on hisTikTok, emi shared various clips
of their relationship in atribute post to Joshua shortly
after his untimely death.
This is what that post readsMissing this sweet boy right now
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.
Never would have thought Iwould have been here without you
.
Josh showed me what love reallywas, even though I'm very young
.
He never failed to put a smileon my face, no matter how mad I
was at him.
Even after these past coupledays, nothing seems real and I'm
feeling all the emotions shewrote.
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The couple first met a littleover two years ago and one of
Joshua's top-pinned videosincludes a compilation of the
two of them that posted on theirfive-month anniversary.
A celebration of his life washeld Sunday in Newport.
The teen is survived by hisparents and brother.
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Well, for many of you here, inconnection with this short, many
people have expressed that theydon't know this TikToker.
I ran across this page a coupleof times in my FYP while
searching TikTok and I wanted toextend my condolences, not
because he was a TikTok star andI'm on the platform, but I
wanted to extend my condolencesbecause this teen lost his life
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at such an early age.
A lot of the times I come on toTikTok Live and I share my
content and express my thoughts,people call me names, and most
of those names really centeredaround the fact that I'm on the
older side.
I mean 32, you know glad to be32.
Now you just imagine I'm 32years old and this boy lost his
life at 16.
That's half my age, and so thetragedy or the negative emotions
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that come with this story arejust very heavy to bear.
So I wanted to extend, onbehalf of the RED team, my
condolences or our condolencesto the family and obviously, the
victim's girlfriend regardingJoshua's death.
I know that losing someone isnot easy and oftentimes there
are no words to be able toexpress the devastation.
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But if you continue to surroundyourself by people who love and
care for you well, you can findsuccess during these difficult
and dark times.
In our following story, we arehighlighting how violence in the
school system continues to besomewhat of an ongoing problem.
Teen charged with breakinganother student's jaw in
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classroom fight at Ringgold HighSchool.
An 18-year-old is facingcharges after police said he
broke another student's jawduring a fight over a girl
inside a classroom at RinggoldHigh School.
David McGavitt was charged withaggravated assault, simple
assault and harassment after afight the morning of March 13th,
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according to court paperwork.
During an interview, policesaid the victim told
investigators he had posted anold TikTok of an ex-girlfriend
who was currently datingMcGavitt and the night before
the fight McGavitt texted thevictim about the video.
The victim told police on themorning of March 13th he was
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looking at his phone and didn'tnotice McGavitt in the classroom
before he was punched.
He said he got up and defendedhimself.
A hall monitor broke up thefight.
Police added.
Investigators said they talkedto students who said they heard
McGavitt say something beforepunching the victim.
Several students said thevictim was seated when first
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punch, with one saying he wasunaware and looking at his phone
.
In a statement the ringgoldschool district said it's
committed to fostering a safeand respectful environment.
The district does not condonephysical violence as a means of
resolving conflicts, but theyemphasize the importance of
constructive communication andpeaceful conflict resolution.
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There is nothing further inconnection with this particular
story.
I will say this, though I dofind it interesting that this
teenager punched someone so hardthat they broke their jaw.
I mean, that must have beenquite a punch.
You don't just, you know, punchsomeone inadvertently or punt
someone with mildness and breaktheir jaw.
This was definitely a storythat had me wondering as to what
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the intent was behind the punch.
Now, on TikTok Live, a fewpeople have entered, gone in,
gone out, gone out.
Andrew, what's going on?
Man, welcome to the live, gladto see you here and thanks for I
believe you sent me something.
It says the number one gift orbadge, and so we're just
continuing down the same spiralof stories on this episode, and
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so feel free to drop somecomments.
And, guys, as you hear thesestories, as you're scrolling
through the TikTok lives, hereis our following story A
Brooklyn middle school deanarrested for strangling boy.
Police say A New York Citymiddle school dean is accused of
strangling a student during anargument when the boy refused to
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change into his uniform.
Police arrested 53-year-oldElvin Ventura, the dean of
students at Charles O'DoeyMiddle School in Brooklyn, after
he allegedly attacked andinjured the 13-year-old in the
cafeteria.
Ventura instructed the studentto change into his uniform
during lunchtime Thursday.
Police sources told CBS NewsNew York, but the boy refused
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and an argument ensued.
The criminal complaint allegesVentura pushed the boy with his
hands, wrapped his arms aroundhis neck and applied pressure.
The student suffered asubstantial pain about his neck.
It adds when I looked, I see thedean has the child into a
chokehold, said Poseidon Aguida,a student who was in the
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cafeteria at the time.
I was pretty scared.
I didn't know what was going tohappen next.
A teacher eventually broke itup.
He added Kids are kids.
You're not supposed to touchthem, and especially with a
chokehold, said Miguel Aguida.
Poseidon's grandfather, a NewYork City Department of
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Education spokesperson, calledthe behavior unacceptable.
This employee has beenreassigned away from students
pending the outcome of thearrest and, if convicted, we
will pursue termination.
They said.
Ventura was arraigned forsecond-degree assault and
endangering the welfare of achild, among other charges.
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He was released without bail.
I can't condone what this deandid.
There is never any excuse toput your hands on a child and
choke them into an oblivion.
But what I can say is this andI know that this isn't a
statement that's going to beloved by onlookers Today, we
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live in a society in whichpeople do not care, and I just
want to express that to you guyswe live in a society today
where people do not care.
This dean obviously did notcare, and so the reality is that
he took matters into his ownhand and choked this student out
.
Now is that okay?
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Absolutely not.
As a school bus driver, I'mgoing to have to stand with the
law and say this is not okay.
But what I will tell you as aschool bus driver sometimes
these things are inevitable.
Driver, sometimes these thingsare inevitable.
Students today must be taught tobe aware of how mentally
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unadjusted some persons are.
In their company.
There are many teachers, staffmembers at schools that I drive,
principals, etc.
That I know something is notright with their nuggets.
I'm not going to provoke them.
Parents, do yourselves a favorand teach your children how to
protect themselves againstpersons who may not be stable.
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True, we don't know if thisdean at this school is dealing
with mental issues.
But we can arguably say,arguably say that if this man is
willing to choke a studentwithout worry about any
consequences, then yes, there issomething unstable in
connection with thisadministrator.
We hope that the student makesa well recovery and that he is
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going to be just fine as hetries to sort matters out with
the school.
Now, back on live.
It says they should screenemployees for self-control and
emotional stability.
Back on live it says theyshould screen employees for
self-control and emotionalstability.
Now, andrew, I always love thatpositive, that healthy,
practical feedback.
But there's one element aboutdealing with persons that we
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just forget and that's free will.
All of us, as humans, have freewill.
So if we can condition ourminds to pass these background
checks, to pass these screenings, there's no way to ensure that
when they get into the schoolthey're going to be able to stop
this behavior, because it'scontingent on free will.
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There are people who come intothe school system and I've seen
it They'll pass their CDL testbrand new bus driver.
They did everything by thebooks of the law to pass their,
to get their CDL.
But when they start drivingthat bus at the school, it's
literally up to their owndiscretion and for some people,
andrew, the sad reality is theydon't care about the law.
Some people are looking to gotoe to toe with the, with the
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law, by endangering the welfareof a child, and that in itself
is an entirely different set ofcircumstances.
There's not much that can bedone, but you can try to warn,
educate and protect yourchildren the very best way that
you can, your children the verybest way that you can.
In this following story we'regoing to be able to see that
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same conduct, that same line ofreasoning here in this local
middle school, deerfield MiddleSchool, thrust into national
spotlight after mother claimsdaughter was forced to change in
front of biological boy.
A Deerfield Middle School hasbeen thrust into the middle of
the national transgender lockerroom debate after a mother said
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her Shepherd Middle School childwas forced by administrators to
change in front of a biologicalboy.
Mother Nicole Georges appearedon Fox News and claimed her
daughter and several of herclassmates were forced by school
officials at Deerfield PublicSchool, district 109 and
Shepherd Middle School in the400th block of Grove Place in
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Deerfield to change in a lockerroom in front of the student who
is biologically a boy.
However, school officials saidon their website that the
Illinois Human Rights Actprohibits all public school
districts from discriminating onthe basis of sex, including
gender identity, and mandatesthat students must be permitted
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access to the locker room andbathroom that aligns with their
gender identity.
Georges told Fox News that herdaughter was one of several
girls who did not approve ofchanging in front of the boy.
Georges continued the girlsdecided on their own to protest
by refusing to wear theirrequired PE clothes that day.
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The next day, georges said,school administrators first
attempted to find out whostarted the protest.
Then, she added, school anddistrict administrators and
teachers went into the lockerroom and made the girls change
into their PE clothes in frontof the other students.
I asked the teachers why thiswas happening.
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No one is giving me any kind ofresponse.
The mom adds the onlysuggestion they had was to move
my daughter into a different PEclass.
Had was to move my daughterinto a different PE class,
georges told Fox News.
She told school officials herdaughter would not move to
another class but that she wouldnot be changing into her PE
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clothes for the rest of the yearbecause that locker room is for
the girls.
She adds that she filed acomplaint with the US Department
of Justice.
However, the Deerfieldadministration said in their
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statement that Deerfield PublicSchools, district 109, complies
with state law and they areunited with our leaders and
educators on this issue and havea shared commitment to
upholding the law.
So here is my question withthis particular story, what was
accomplished?
You take a student, you forcethem to change in front of other
people, against their free will, against what they're
comfortable with, and then youexpect a positive result.
That mindset is very similar totaking gasoline, pouring it on
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fire and then saying, wow, Ihope this goes out.
I don't understand as to whyit's very difficult today for
humans to respect the choicesand decisions of other people.
Me personally, I have my ownbeliefs when it comes to people,
lifestyles, standards etc.
But that does not mean that Ihave to shove, I have to push, I
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have to blanket my own beliefsonto another person simply
because we disagree with oneanother.
The sad reality is this Respectis something that is no longer
given to a person simply forbeing a human being.
Humans today must learn how tocultivate the proper view of
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respect for one another.
That's like right now if I tellsomeone I don't smoke
cigarettes because, as a child,someone in my family smoked
cigarettes and then they diedfrom lung cancer.
Smoked cigarettes and then theydied from lung cancer.
How is it disrespecting thatperson who wants to smoke their
rights because I'm choosing notto do so?
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You see, when we all maintainrespect for one another, it
makes a peaceful environment,especially when you're dealing
with children who come to schoolto learn and not have to deal
with such circumstances thatpromote anxieties and
depressions.
In this following story, we'regoing to talk a little bit more
about teachers whom are notupholding the standard that
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educators should be upholding.
Truman High School teacherarrested after child porn found
on school computer.
A Truman High School teacherhas been arrested and charged
with possessing childpornography on his school laptop
.
A teacher named Austin J Meyerwas arrested yesterday.
The Independence PoliceDepartment told Fox 4 News on
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Thursday.
Documents show Meyer was hiredas the school's theater teacher
in 2022.
Jackson County ProsecutorMelissa Johnson announced
Thursday that Meyer is facing 11counts of possession of child
pornography.
According to court records, theschool's IT department
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discovered explicit pornographicimages of underage females on
Meyer's computer after it wasnotified of a malware virus.
The school laptop, which wasfound in the school theater, had
nine videos and two picturesdownloaded on it.
According to court records,after the school contacted the
Independence Police,investigators found numerous
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images and videos of childrenunder the age of 14 on the
laptop.
Meyer has been placed onadministrative leave as the
criminal investigation continues.
The independent school districtsays Myers is now being held on
a $100,000 bond.
This investigation is ongoingbut it is indeed unsettling the
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problem with the story.
A teacher caught school laptop,personal laptop, whatever
dozens of child pornography onthis instrument.
Now, when you look at thedynamic of the trauma that that
causes individuals let's justsay this teacher did not have it
out for students at his schoolthere's still a degree of trauma
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because this made headline newsor local news for that
particular town.
It's unsettling but I guessthat's just an understatement
the fact that parents have tolet their children go to school
and then have to worry about anadministrator or a principal or
a teacher or whomever gettinginvolved in misconduct like this
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.
Oftentimes on this show peoplewill ask me what is the protocol
?
I work for the schooladministration myself.
There's no protocol.
You're dealing with humanbeings who have free will.
You're dealing with people whomhave choices to make.
And if they make these choicesand they don't care about the
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regard for anyone else.
These things are going tocontinue to happen.
So what I encourage parents todo parents, you have to educate
your children.
You have to be able to keepthem up to date with the schemes
and machinations of thesepersons who are seeking to do
them harm A lot of the times.
You have two extremes in thisworld.
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You have that one parent whotakes every little act of
goodness and turns it into apredatory statement, and then
there's the other parent whodoesn't see the danger.
They allow their child to goanywhere and everywhere, with
whoever.
There's a balance, parents.
There has to be a balance whenyou are leaving your children in
the care of other people,because the sad reality is we
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are living among people who dovery inappropriate things to,
for and with a student.
In this following story, we'restill talking about violence.
Andrew on live may mention thatit's best to educate the
children, the best way to go.
You got to be vigilant.
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I couldn't agree more, andrew.
A lot of parents.
They spend so much time focusedon being their child's friend,
but as a parent, you have a roleto play.
Please play that role.
I am begging you for the safetyand security of your child.
Our following story Teachercharged with assaulting student
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at Osborne Park High School.
A teacher at Osborne Park HighSchool has been charged with
assault following an incidentinvolving a student.
The school resource officerassigned to the school began the
investigation on March 14thafter a report of an assault
that occurred on March 12th.
The investigation revealed thata 15-year-old female student
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approached the teacher,identified as Bobby Ray Lake,
during class.
During the encounter, lakeallegedly grabbed the student by
the back of the neck and pushedher forward before they
separated.
No injuries were reported.
On March 20th, following theinvestigation, lake was formally
charged with assault andbattery.
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There was a message sent out toparents on behalf of
administration, but no furtherdetails in connection with this
particular story.
This is the second story on theshow for this week in which a
teacher or a staff member isjust yoking up students.
They're literally grabbing themby their neck and just yoking
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these kids up In everycircumstance.
I'm not going to say it's thestudent's fault.
I'm not going to say thatbecause there are people who are
prone to anger today and if youdon't believe me, get in your
car and drive down a majorhighway in your state.
People are reckless.
As we mentioned before,vigilance and diligence is going
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to get parents the results theyneed to protect their children.
We're hoping that the victim inthis story makes a well
recovery and that she's able tobe able to get the comfort and
assistance she needs emotionallyand mentally to be able to move
forward.
Some stories that we comeacross on this show are very
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profound.
Some are unique, but thisparticular story was just
downright concerning.
I've never seen anything likeit in my entire time on this
show.
I'm all for getting thehomework done, but this is an
entirely different level ofgetting homework done.
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Middle school teacher followedstudent home to ask about
missing leave.
After he allegedly went to astudent's home to see if they
finished their homework,officials said dated Wednesday
March 19th and shared withPeople.
The Perrysburg Police Divisionsaid it was alerted by Hull
Prairie Intermediate SchoolPrincipal, scott Best, about a
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matter involving a teacher fromthe school.
Best said he received an emailfrom a concerned parent who
alleged a teacher from theschool followed a bus home to
get a homework assignment from astudent.
According to the report, theparent told Best that the
teacher followed their child'sschool bus after school to
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confirm whether they finishedtheir homework assignment.
The report added the student'sfather later arrived to find the
teacher at the front door ofthe family's residence.
To find the teacher at thefront door of the family's
residence.
Upset, the father confrontedthe teacher and asked why he was
at their home talking to hischild.
The teacher alleged that hewanted to confirm that the
student did their assignment,adding that if everyone in the
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class did their assignments,they would receive a pizza party
.
The police report noted thatthe student's parent told Best
that they weren't aware that theteacher was planning to arrive
at their home and found it to bereally weird and concerning.
The parent also mentioned intheir email to Best that it was
out of the ordinary for ateacher to follow a student home
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to pick up a missing assignmentwhen the assignment could have
been emailed or uploaded instead.
The Perrysville Police Divisiontold people that there is an
investigation that is ongoing.
In a message on the district'swebsite about the matter,
perrysburg School SuperintendentThomas Hosler said that the
teacher was placed onadministrative leave before the
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start of the next school day.
I'm all for a teacher beingdiligent and trying to catch
assignments from a student, butwhy couldn't the teacher just
ask the kid the next day if hedid the homework or not, why
would the teacher have to followthe student home in order to be
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able to see if he did hishomework?
I mean, I understand where theparents are coming from.
I mean that's downright strange.
As a school bus driver, if akid left something on my bus and
I know where these kids livebecause I drop them off every
day I wouldn't follow thestudent home to ask if he forgot
his book bag on my bus or if hedidn't do his homework.
So I can understand why aparent in today's world would be
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concerned that a teacherfollowed their student home
uninvited to ask if they didtheir homework for a pizza party
, the stuff that you hear about.
Like you know, we talk a lotabout common sense on this show.
It's not as common as peoplewould think.
Common sense is not as commonas people would think.
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I hope that the student is okay, because these are definitely
traumatizing waters.
But I can understand as to whydad is ready to open a can of
kick butt because these thingsjust they just don't sit well
with the environment today.
Yeah, it's true, I would saythe common sense isn't common
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either.
But my, my, oh, my like.
Oh, my goodness, it is crazy.
A teacher following a kid hometo see if he did his homework.
I mean, where is the line thatcomes with the word perversion,
like?
That's just kind of creepy Now,unless on live.
I have a friend of mine whoused to be a teacher.
I can ask him have you everfollowed your students home to
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see if they did their homework?
Or is that just an Ohio thing?
Because I'm not following anyof my students home to see if
Mark is at his homework for apizza party that I don't even
want to really pay for.
You know, that's just thereality of the circumstance.
When you hear stories like thaton the show and you wonder if
the parents are being tooextreme, this next story
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highlights that parents are notbeing extreme, they're being
cautious.
A Delaware gym teacher isaccused of sending sexually
explicit messages to an eighthgrader.
A physical education teacher ata middle school in Newcastle,
delaware, has been arrested andis facing 17 felony charges
after police say he sentsexually explicit text and
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social media messages to aneighth grade student at the
school where he taught.
According to police officialsin Delaware, ricardo Villa, 39,
a physical education teacher atGeorge Reed Middle School in
Newcastle, delaware, wasarrested on Monday morning on
charges that claim he sentsexually explicit messages to an
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eighth grader.
Police officials said Villa hasbeen charged with 17 felony
counts, including six counts ofsexual solicitation of a child,
six counts of promoting sexualsolicitation of a child, two
counts of obscenity and onecount each of enticement, sexual
abuse of a person in a positionof trust and dangerous crime
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against a child.
According to court documents,the school, along with the
victim, a 13-year-old student atGeorge Reed Middle School, told
police about sexually explicitmessages that were allegedly
traded between the child andVila.
A review of these messages,according to court documents,
revealed that Vila repeatedlydiscussed and requested sexual
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acts from the child and told thechild he would perform sexual
acts on them.
Police claim in court documentsthat Vila also shared images of
himself that were sexuallyexplicit with the child and told
the student that he was realhard and horny.
In a statement on Vila's arrest, william D Crotty,
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superintendent of the DelawareState Police, thanked the school
district for its help inbringing this matter to the
police.
Investigators are not currentlyaware of additional victims in
this case.
Police officials have added,however, given the nature of
Villa's work and the fact thatit brought him into regular
contact with children.
Delaware police officials areseeking any information the
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public may have about this case.
Anyone with information isasked to contact Detective Kevin
Keller of the Delaware StatePolice at 302-365-8436.
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You know, some of these storiesare just brushed under the rug
by mainstream news.
They like to focus on storiesthat are not as significant as
these stories, but these storiesdo deserve to be heard.
These stories need to be heard.
Someone needs to be able toshine a light on the challenges
that young persons are dealingwith in school every single day.
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Now, back on live, someone justthrew in a comment.
Andrew mentioned that that'ssomeone's little girl.
Do you ever feel like and I'masking this question to my
listeners to this podcast,people on live do you ever feel
like the justice system is justnot enough, that there is so
much more that can be done toprotect people children, women,
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etc.
But there's just limited amountof resources being put into
helping people that particularway?
Do you ever feel that way aboutjustice?
Well, sometimes, you know, youcan feel that way.
Sometimes it feels like it'sjust not enough, and then these
people get locked up for thesecrimes and then they get off.
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They get a good lawyer and thenthey get off, and then you stop
and ask yourself where's thejustice in that?
We're hoping that this younggirl is going to get the
assistance that she needs.
According to this source, itsays that the two of them were
exchanging messages back andforth, so we can conclude that
there was some type of mentalhijacking done in connection
with this student.
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This following story I thoughtwas interesting because it
really highlights the uniquenessof the fact that if you put
your mind to something, you canaccomplish anything.
Georgia High School Senior hasbeen accepted into 52 colleges
with $1.8 million in scholarshipoffers.
A Metro Atlanta high schoolsenior is bound for big things,
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if her attention from collegesis any indication.
Jada Simone is a senior atWheeler High and the only thing
brighter than her smile is herfuture.
She's already gotten acceptedinto 52 colleges and has
outstanding and outstandingscholarship offers totaling $1.8
million.
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After the family was addressedabout this matter, it was noted
that she has ambitious plans toget both her undergrad and
master's degree in just fouryears.
Her family explained that she'slooking into programs that will
allow her to get a bachelor'sin business management and a
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master's in businessadministration, though it will
only take her four years becauseshe already has enough credits
to enter school as a sophomore.
Eventually she wants a PhD inindustrial organizational
psychology.
She's been accepted to schoolsincluding Florida, howard,
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tennessee, alabama, lsu,michigan State, clark, atlanta,
clemson, ohio State andobviously many, many more.
Congrats to this amazing youngwoman.
What a nice picture they haveof her too.
I thought this was incredible,you know.
It really highlights the factthat no matter what you want to
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do in life, guys, you put yourmind to it, you can accomplish
your goals.
Now, in this following story,I'm going to say that's exactly
what this teacher decided to do.
They saw a goal, they had aparticular mindset or mentality
and they went for it.
Elementary school teacheraccused of taping students'
mouths shut.
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Local parents are concernedafter a Howard County elementary
school teacher has been accusedof taping young students'
mouths shut during class.
The teacher, an employee of theTaylor School Corporation,
reportedly teaches kindergartenat Taylor Elementary School in
Kokomo Fox 59, cbs 4 is notnaming the teacher as she has
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not been charged with any crime.
The students at TaylorElementary are currently on
spring break, which some parentssaid is much needed after
hearing stories about what hasbeen occurring in one classroom.
Fox 59 reporter, claire Curryspoke on Monday with several of
these concerned parents.
Heaven Russell, the mother of akindergartner at Taylor, said
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she first heard the allegationson Sunday after reading posts
online.
These rumors said a teacher hadtaped students' mouths shut, so
Russell sat down with her sonto ask him about it.
Russell's son described thetape as the kind used to pack
moving boxes.
Russell's sister, madelineWetzel, also has a child in the
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class.
It's something that I kind ofexpected out of her, because she
just doesn't seem like she's agood teacher at all.
Wetzel said Both children saidthat while the teacher did not
put tape on their mouths, theysaw it happen to their
classmates.
It was mentioned that theteacher has been placed on
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administrative leave during thisinvestigation.
Also, as of 5 pm when thissource released this story, no
criminal charges have been filedagainst the accused teacher,
but these sources will beupdated as information becomes
available.
I couldn't imagine a teacherdoing something like that to my
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child.
I wouldn't stand for it.
There's got to be somethingthat can be done in connection
with these particularcircumstances.
Andrew, I just missed yourcomment back on live.
I know you had me mentioned ofsomething, but this story was
indeed gruesome, but not asheavy as this next story that
we're about to jump into Aformer Delaware middle school
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principal charged with rapingstudent for four years.
I want to warn you first thatthe contents of this story is
indeed graphic and, of course,course, I'll do my best to be
able to get this story out toyou on TikTok, but we all know
how TikTok can be regarding suchcircumstances.
A former middle schoolprincipal in Delaware was
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charged with raping a studentfor several years, over a decade
ago, according to an indictmentobtained by NBC10.
According to an indictmentobtained by NBC10.
Tasha Purnell, also known asTasha Oliver, is accused of
engaging in sexual penetrationwith a girl under the age of 16,
the document states theincidents all happened between
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August 1, 2010 and June 31, 2014in Newcastle.
According to the indictment,oliver was a principal at AI
DuPont Middle School and in theindictment, officials said she
was in a position of power overthe child at the time of the
incident.
Nbc10 reached out to the RedClay School District late on
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Tuesday and is waiting to hearback.
Oliver is facing more than adozen charges, including rape,
sexual abuse of a child by aperson in a position of trust,
authority or supervision, aswell as continuous sexual abuse
of a child.
This was the hardest, the mostsimplest but most devastating
(47:14):
story I've ever had to cover onthis show.
Guys, let me know in thecomment box how this story made
you feel.
It may seem obvious, but theinteresting thing about it was
that this individual, thisperson that did this, is not a
male teacher.
This is a female teacher thatdid this to an underaged girl,
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to this victim.
We hope that you make a wellrecovery and that you are going
to get the support that you needto continue to endure these
hardships.
I can't believe just how out ofcontrol people can be and how
careless and reckless people canbe when it comes to someone
(47:59):
else's child.
I've been driving school busfor almost a decade and I can't
believe.
I just can't believe thementality of some person.
It really makes you wonderwhat's going to happen in the
very near future.
Now, back on live.
I have somebody in here who hasobviously lost their mind
(48:19):
saying that they're the bestfishermen, when clearly they're
not.
I mean, I don't know if you'redrinking alcoholic beverages or
whatever the case is, but no,you're an okay, fisherman and
there's nothing wrong with beingokay as a fisherman, kev I mean
, we all have to be okay atsomething, as it were.
You know, and so that's justthe reality of it the best
(48:42):
fisherman.
Well, guys, that was our finalstory in connection with episode
number 118.
And I can't believe that wejust, you know, the time
literally flies but wedefinitely were able to get
these stories covered.
Do you guys remember the themethat we started the beginning of
this show with?
Why did my friend hurt me?
(49:03):
We recognize that friendshipsare going to go through ups and
downs.
We understand that people aregoing to make mistakes.
But if you don't get anythingfrom this particular podcast on
this episode, remember that yourfriends are going to do things
that hurt you and, in turn,you're going to do things that
hurt your friends.
But the reality of thecircumstances, if you have a
(49:26):
good friend and you really trustthat friend and you really love
that friend, don't be quick tothrow the friendship away.
Apply the principles that wediscussed at the beginning of
our episode and if you'relistening to this in your car or
on Spotify or on Amazon orwherever the podcast is
available, take a minute topause this part of the podcast.
(49:47):
Go back and really think aboutsome of the things that we
discussed.
True, it doesn't become anyeasier.
It can be hard to be forgivingand to put up with a friend that
you well may not know has yourbest interest at heart, or a
friend that does not have yourbest interest at heart.
But stay vigilant, staydiligent.
(50:08):
To those who were involved inthis particular episode, the
victims that we discussed, wediscussed some very, very
powerful, powerful stories onthis particular episode.
Please accept our condolences.
Please accept the support thatwe have on this podcast.
We love our viewers and werecognize that today we're
living in some dark times.
We are living in times in whichpeople just don't care anymore,
(50:30):
and so if you can be able tofind comfort and encouragement
by coming on to this podcastevery week, by visiting that
live every Thursday we're livedoing this podcast then you
never know how it may encourageyou to want to fight another day
in this wicked world that wecall home.
Well, other than that, guys,this has been great.
As always, this has been RED.
(50:51):
It's the everyday podcast forthe everyday people, and we will
catch you, guys, on the nextepisode.
This is the everyday podcastfor the everyday people.
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