Healing Requires Action - Herdyne Mercier Episode Introduction
Battling your way out through grief requires you to take action. It is the little things that help you build the muscles to take up more significant things, which applies in the context of healing also. Start by not feeling comfortable with your grief and pain. It is not normal. Don't coddle it like a baby. Be vulnerable to pain. Face the truth, however terrible it feels. If you find yourself suffering right now, it's time for you to take action.
Listen in to the few tips I share with you today that could help you in your healing-
- Have a vision- know that healing is possible. No matter how dark your days are, there is going to be a healing light. I am not saying you will not cry or experience pain, but on the other side of that pain lies a life worth living.
- Have small, exciting healing goals- goals that even scare you a little. Celebrate when you fulfill them. Have smarter goals- make sure that you can measure them, that you're able to time them out, and that they are relevant.
- Embrace counsel and new knowledge.
It's time for you to make a commitment to yourself. To really understand that you are worthy. Take action.
I have been hurt in so many ways that now I wish to support other people going through their own grief and suffering. Listen to the episode as I share my learnings through life with you!
Episode Quotes
● “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result” Herdyne [6:55] ● “We are so used to being comfortable with our pain that it is uncomfortable to heal.” - Herdyne [8:57] ● “Your healing requires you to allow your spirit to be vulnerable to experience the pain so that you can heal.” - Herdyne [10:15]
● “On the other side of that pain is waiting for you is a life worth living.” - Herdyne [12:38] ● “You're going to be able like you're gonna feel free to breathe because you are betting on you.”– Herdyne [22:24]
Episode Time-Stamps
● [04:32] – Healing requires action ● [13:28] – Starting with a vision ● [14:48] – Making small, exciting healing goals ● [19:09] – Understanding that you are worthy of restoration ● [21:26] – Commitment to healing
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