I hope you enjoy this episode! Teen friendships can be beautiful -and brutal. This episode explores why some kids become “mean girls,” how exclusion and gossip take root, and what’s really happening beneath the surface. Drawing from Relational Aggression and Social Identity Theory, it explains how insecurity, power dynamics, and the need to belong shape behavior in middle and high school friend groups.
The discussion discusses how social media magnifies hierarchy and comparison, how mean-mom culture models competition, and why boys can mirror the same dynamics through humor and dominance. It also examines the emotional, academic, and neurological impact of exclusion, showing that friendship loss can hurt as deeply as physical pain.
With insights from Family Communication Patterns Theory and Lisa Damour’s research on emotional development, the episode offers evidence-based strategies for parents to support teens: fostering open dialogue, teaching reflection over rumination, encouraging digital boundaries, and building resilience through empathy and compassion.
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