RelateWell with Dr. Rick Marks

Unhealthy and immature adults tend to make unhealthy decisions and unwise choices.  Yet, research is clear that the more emotionally mature we become, we tend to make decisions based on wisdom, and not simply on what is right and wrong.  What are these two traits, and how do they interact?  What hinders emotional maturity and wisdom?  Dr. Rick explains...

It is essential that we forgive.  However, many assume that when they forgive the pain from the event will go away. It does not.  Forgiveness is essential for healing and once we forgive, the pain can now heal.  Healing from the pain takes time and intenionality.

Self control is listed as a fruit of the Spirit.  Yet, ever noticed that some non-Christians have strong self-control and some Christians do not.  Dr. Rick shares some principles regarding self-control and self-regulation that makes it a crucial element of emotional maturity and emotional intelligence.

Dr. Riok discusses some guidelines to consider as you live your life in intimate and connected relationships.

Dr. Rick reads from a treatise by David Schnark on why a good marriage will break your heart.  Tune in...

All relationships change over time and must adapt to changing situations.  They must also adapt to the changes in our spouses.  

Dr. Rick considers ten pieces of advice to help you have a healthy and mature marriage and relationship.

Have you ever considered that those who choose to live comfortably and never having taken risks have not lived life to the fullest.  The choose security over growth.  All growth takes risk.

Dr. Lori Gordon alked about beliefs that are irrational that knot our ability to love others maturely.  She called these Love Knots.  Dr. Gordon identified 52 of these in one of her books.  Dr. Rick discusses some of the leading love knots.  

There is a healthy and mature form of pride which is rooted in humility.  Yet, there is another form of pride that leads to a haughty spirit, arrogance, and a sense that one is better than others. Pride harms others and relationships whereas, humility is a more powerful way to live one's life.  Dr. Rick explains...

Humility is a powerful way to life life and is a hallmark for living maturely.  Yet, there are different forms of humility.  Dr. Rick explains each of these forms and how they express themselves.

Ever considred that surrendering could be a position of strength and not weakness?  Surrendering is about checking our egos and staying in humility and know what I can and can not control.  Surrender results in mature connections with God, Self and Others.  

Did you know that your ability to love others maturely is linked to your ability to love yourself?  And that when we feel we do not have value, we matter or are loved or loveable, we sink into low self worth and self esteem.  But what if God has declared us valuable, that we matter and that we are loved and loveable?  What difference would it make to your life and relationships?  Dr. Rick explains.

Dr. Rick talks about the powerful life of a humble person and the types of humility that research indicates.  Do you live from humility or a prideful way of being?

We are all adept at negative thinking about ourselves and sadly, many preachers reinforce this negative mindset on the parishoners and congregations. Yet Psalm 139 tells us something different.

Ever noticed that something you said you wish you could take back or at least had said it some other way? When in conflict and frustration we make statements that do not lead to connection and understanding, but disconnection, hurt and misunderstanding.  Dr. Rick identifies 41 statements people say in conflict (Do not Say This) and reveals a better way to say it (Say This Instead).  Tune in.