Girlfriend hanging out alone with guy best friend a lot

A dude's girlfriend hangs out alone a lot with her best guy friend. She's super close to her guy friend. His girlfriend even spends the night at her guy friend's house and drinks with him. The dude is super uncomfortable with it but thinks his girlfriend is not cheating on him with her best male friend. He's looking for advice on how he can handle the situation. 

The podcast is going to talk about how he should handle the situation. Should he break up with her or set boundaries? 

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So the question of the day is, would you be comfortable

with your girlfriend or boyfriend hanging

out with her best? Or is best friend alone without

you? So as you can read from the title of the podcast

is this guy's girlfriend is hanging out with her male.

Best friend way too much. In this guy is feeling

way too uncomfortable with it and I right, It

a couple of times just to be like, are you serious,

man? Like, you couldn't read the signs, like

you should be breaking up with her. It's crazy.

She's even spending the night at this. Dude's house.

That is crazy. And this is the type of disrespect

that you should not be accepting. But I just,

I just had to pick this out because I was guys,

we got to be smarter. We got to be smarter. We

gotta know when to be like, put her foot down

and create boundaries. It's crazy. I'm going

to start reading right now. So I started dating

this girl for Or months ago. And for the last

two, to two and a half months, she's been hanging

out with her best guy, friend, a lot. Let's call him.

See, sometimes she hangs out with him more than

me during the week, and I'm not invited whenever

they hang out. This guy has made it pretty clear

that he doesn't want to hang out with the both

of us together. They spend a lot of Fridays and

Saturdays drinking alone in his room and they

don't invite me either. Even though I live right next door.

She has stayed over in his room a few times. I

had a fight with him. Once a month ago, so he has

completely cut me off after that. When we first

started dating, the guy used to be really good

friends in even consider rooming together,

but we don't see each other anymore. I know for

a fact, they are just really good friends, but

I don't feel super comfortable with it. What

should I do in this situation? I'm 100% sure.

They are just best friends, but I still feel

uncomfortable with the idea of of her hanging

out with him so much, a man out of, I'm going to

be honest with you. You. It's all right. So it's

already over dude. She's obviously banging

in behind your back. I mean, she's literally

spending time with him alone in his room. What

the hell? Do you think they're doing other than

sleeping with each other? What playing Barbies

or painting each other's Nails? Oh, yeah, let's

paint each other's nails. Ha ha. No. Come on, man.

This chick is not your girlfriend. She doesn't

act like your girlfriend because she's hanging out.

This dude alone in his room drinking. Ah, I can't

even fathom stupidity of this guy. Do you really

believe her? Do you believe that they are good friends.

Only good friends. Bigger from my experience, man.

I've been on both sides, been on both sides.

And honestly, this guy is her friends with benefits.

She's dating the both of you. They are more than

friends there. Bang. You see. He's rearranging her guts.

Literally blowing her back out. He's like,

yeah, baby. Yeah, just like, yeah. Yeah. You

go, daddy, you go. And even if they haven't done

anything physically, I doubt that they have.

Come on, man. I think you already have lost her.

I mean, I wouldn't even try to give her another

chance because she just doesn't really have

any desire to be your girlfriend. She spends

more time with this dude. Then you and honestly,

I think that you need to break up with her. This

is this is not okay. You have to put boundaries.

It's already too late because she's already

breaking or boundaries, if you guys are exclusive

and she should already know that. She's already disrespecting.

You like that. That is just not. Okay, that's

being a horrible girlfriend and I can even say

this, even as for a boyfriend to be hanging out

with his female best friend, more than his girlfriend.

That's just not cool, especially alone at their place.

I just don't think this girl is very serious

about being in a relationship with his dude

and it's fire action. She's hanging out just

like she's dating again, you know, I might,

I may be old-fashioned. But, you know, I believe

that relationship should, you know, you shouldn't

be hanging out around your around the opposite

sex, when you're in a relationship alone at

their place. I just think that's just disrespectful.

I'm not saying that, you know, usually you shouldn't

be hanging out with the opposite sex, or you

should just be hanging out with your partner,

but they're there, just has to be boundaries.

It just doesn't seem like, she really cares

about this guy, which is really sad, but, you

know, nowadays. You don't people are, you know,

trying to be free, you know, all well, you know,

I can hang out with anybody. I want to. It's just,

it's crazy, and he has to choose between being

a controlling boyfriend, being like all well

II, don't want you to hang out with a with another

dude, and she's got a mic call. Oh, you're so

controlling your sewing can insecure. But

I mean, it's just crazy. It's really crazy.

And I think he should be, you should feel uncomfortable.

That would make me feel uncomfortable. They're

obviously banging each other. Come on, man.

They're meant unless he's a gay was, he's gay.

He's only interested in men. He's banging your girlfriend.

Then this dude, obviously, they've got into a fight.

So obviously this guy friend obviously does

likes or it has feelings for this dudes girlfriend.

It's crazy man. Yeah, I will, in my opinion,

I would break up. Break up with her. Just because

in my experience, a woman who truly respects,

her man or loves her, man would not continue

to hang out with another man. It just, it just

doesn't make any sense. She will have respect

for man, respect for herself. And there are

women out there like that, that will respect

you this you and you've only been in a relationship

with her for four months. Yeah. She's already

moved on. She probably just has not broken up

with you or with this guy because she's afraid

or something like that. You ain't just have

some self-respect for yourself. Dude. This

is, this is just crazy. But yeah, I believe this

relationships going to fail. Anyways, even

if he doesn't decide to break up with her. She's

gonna break up with him. Oh, you she's gonna

be like, oh, you know, things have just not worked

out, you know, I need to focus on myself in reality.

She's gonna be getting her back while bio dudes.

Probably, this dude? Or she'll start dating this dude.

She's already started to date this dude. Basically,

what I would do in this situation, Is communicate

with his girlfriend. Be like, hey, I'm uncomfortable

with you spending a lot of time with your guy friend.

You need a limit your time with them. It makes

me feel uncomfortable. When you spend the night with him.

When you drink with them. I know you guys are

close, but it makes me feel like I'm being left

out and if she can't really respect that, or

if she calls them insecure or I don't know what

else you'd call them. Like. Whiny. Oh, you're

insecure, you're controlling. Then he really

needs to decide if he really wants to be with

her because He's way too young to be doing with

all this drama and just trying to fix his relationship.

I mean, obviously it is affecting his relationship

with this girl. Dude. That's what I would do.

And if she can't respect that she's continues

to disrespect your boundaries, even if even

though you communicated that to her, then you

need to find a replacement break up with her.

Find a woman who truly values, you who doesn't

want to just hang. Hang out with her guy, best

friend, who obviously they're banging. They're

seeing each other. They're dating each other.

They're friends with benefits. And I know there's some.

I'd read it and some of the writer comments are

like, oh he should break up with her, you know,

you should, you know, but I'm like honestly

from my experience. She's been in a lot of time

with this dude, they're obviously more than

just friends and you're just way too young to

be dealing with all that like, oh man. I wonder

what she's doing with him right now. Hope he's

not bringing her. You're too young. Like why

deal with that? With, you can either spend your time.

Focusing on yourself, or spending time with

a woman who really cares about you and does not

spend too much time with her guy, friend. That's my conclusion.

You can follow it or not. I really pick this episode

because I just feel like it happens a lot and

you don't know what to do when this happens.

Obviously, communicate your boundaries.

It's important to voice your opinion. Communications important.

If you're can, if communicate, if you guys don't

communicate, how are you? How are you gonna

know? Obviously this is what this guy needs to do.

If he doesn't well, he's gonna continue to have

a shady relationship with his girlfriend,

and obviously is going to be worried, and it's

going to stress him out. It's going to affect

them and it's going to affect his relationship.

But if he follows this and you follow this advice,

he will honestly have either a better relationship

or he will be able to move on and let this chick

be happy with that. Whatever, she's doing.

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