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When Elisa walked into our couples workshop, she said, “I would rather die than stay married to this man.” She had already had four affairs. Marcos, her husband, had just retaliated with one of his own. They had already divorced once, remarried, and were still stuck in a cycle of resentment, control, and disconnection.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We're starting at the moment that things almost ended
.
Meet Marcos and Elisa.
I first met Elisa when shewalked into one of our couples'
workshops and said I wouldrather die than stay married to
this man.
By all accounts, this marriagewas over.
There was no hope.
The presenting problem Marcoshad discovered Elisa was having
(00:24):
an affair actually a couple ofaffairs and wanted out of the
marriage.
She said that she no longerloved him and no longer wanted
to be married to him.
He was doing everything hecould to try and make the
marriage work, but the problemwas that everything he did made
things worse and even moreimportantly.
(00:52):
But what Marcos and Elisa couldnot see for themselves was that
her affair or affairs were notthe real issue.
But we'll uncover all of thatin just a minute.
Here's what I want you tounderstand Even in the midst of
a wife being in love withsomeone else and a husband who
kept doing all the wrong things,they are still married and
living happily ever after today.
(01:13):
The turnaround in their storyis remarkable and I believe, as
we talk through all of theaspects of their relationship,
where all the things fell apart,all of the things that went
wrong, you're going to end thisvideo saying, wow, if that
marriage could be saved, thenmine can too.
(01:34):
That's what we're going to getinto.
But before we get to how it wassaved, we need to understand
how it all fell apart.
Marcus and Elisa had beenmarried for 18 years at the time
that they ended up in one ofour couples' workshops, but
really the problems had startedat the very beginning of their
marriage and had been festeringfor years.
(01:56):
In fact, they didn't evennecessarily marry for love, but
more so out of obligation, atleast for Marcos.
In asking Elisa what sheremembered about the beginning
of their relationship, she saidshe always knew that she would
marry him since she first sawhim when she was 11 years old,
(02:18):
but she thought there's no waythat he'll ever notice me.
He was older and she neverthought that he would be
interested in someone like heruntil he was, and she felt like
he was her knight in shiningarmor.
She felt protected and safearound him and excited to start
(02:39):
their new life together.
Marcos, on the other hand, fromthe beginning he stated himself
that he liked a lot of thingsabout Elisa, but he didn't love
her, because to love is to showweakness, and this is where the
problems begin.
While it seemed like they wereoff to live the American dream,
(03:00):
at least for Elisa, things beganto turn into a nightmare.
About one year after marriagethey came to the US and Marcos
had a really big chip on hisshoulders Work, work, work, work
, work.
He was all about making themoney.
That's what Elisa said.
He chose work over family allthe time, not just in their
first year, but in their first18 years.
(03:21):
And what was worse is she neverfelt like she could speak up
against it, because he wouldalways just convince her that
she was wrong, that he knew best.
After all, he was the man ofthe house.
So, as Elisa said, we juststopped talking to each other.
But then I would go out withgirlfriends and at bars and
someone else, some other guywould begin to hear me talk and
(03:43):
someone else, some other guywould begin to hear me talk.
And that's when everythingshifted For Elisa.
She began to find the love,connection and intimacy she was
longing for from her husband,but with another man.
But she hated herself for it.
She said it wasn't who I was,it wasn't who I wanted to be,
but it happened and theconnection felt so good that it
(04:06):
was hard to stop.
Marcos, on the other hand,suspected nothing.
He was none the wiser until aco-worker started telling him,
hey, things don't seem right.
And then one day he got aninkling to go home in the middle
of work and found her and herlover in bed together.
You'd think it would be overthen, but it wasn't, which meant
(04:29):
Elisa had to admit that thiswasn't her first affair, but it
was her second, and she was onlysleeping with this guy to try
and get over how she still hadfeelings for the first one.
You can only imagine whathappened next.
Marcos called his mom.
She told him to get a divorce.
He called his brother.
He tried to help them makeamends.
(04:50):
Marcos tried to hide his hurtby telling Elisa I didn't even
marry you because I loved you.
I married you because I feltlike I had to, a comment that
Elisa would not easily forgiveor forget.
And so that night, instead ofleaving her, he took her to eat
Italian food and told her thenand there I'm in this, I'm
(05:14):
staying.
Elisa stayed too, even thoughshe could have left, but for her
he was all I knew.
She said.
And at this point they had twokids.
Where was she going to go, shesaid.
I was young when we got married.
He was all I knew and I wasscared to be on my own, so they
(05:36):
tried to make things work, butMarcos would go on to say if
there was any way for me tobecome more cold, I became more
cold and let me tell you, indoing my work asking questions
about this relationship, therewas no way for him to become
more cold.
Their relationship was alreadysolid ice.
Marcos continued to controleverything that Elisa would do
(05:59):
Her finances, her schedule, youname it and Elisa continued to
feel alone and unloved because,even as controlling as he was,
he wasn't there, which ended upleading Elisa to her third
affair and, ultimately, theirdivorce.
They were divorced for a year, ayear in which their family was
(06:23):
torn apart and it wrecked them.
You see, what I hope youunderstand up to this point in
the story is that, while Elisahad several affairs, which was
not good or justified, it wasMarcos's controlling behavior
and lack of being there andbeing present in the
relationship that drove her away.
(06:44):
Effort wasn't the issue withthem.
Direction was, and without theright roadmap, effort can push
people even further apart ifthey're not doing the right
thing.
During that year, somethinghappened, something that neither
of them expected.
Marcos found God, and the nextmorning he woke up and decided
(07:05):
he wanted his family back.
Unbeknownst to him, elisa wasfeeling the same way, so he
started pursuing her, textingher, allowing her to come around
more, dating her again, untilfinally, a year after their
divorce, they remarried andthings felt good again.
They were in a good place, thepast was behind them.
(07:26):
This was a new start, or sothey thought.
Little did they know.
They had remarried, but theyhadn't actually fixed anything.
They tried therapy, but itdidn't help at all.
Marcos was incredibly resentfulof Elisa's affairs.
He was hurt, and rightfully so,but he hadn't forgiven her, and
that lack of forgiveness led tohis own addictions, pornography
(07:49):
and ultimately him seeking outhis own revenge affair.
He didn't even want to, but hecouldn't get over how badly her
affairs had hurt him.
After struggling with this, hedecided the only way to finally
feel like things were even wasfor him to have an affair of his
own.
So he did, until he was caught.
(08:09):
Elisa wasn't even looking tocatch him.
She happened to walk into theoffice one day and found the
text messages on his computerscreen.
She was devastated, but itwasn't even the sex that hurt
her the most.
It was the fact that he hadshown that other woman the love
and attention she had wanted allof those years.
(08:29):
For 18 years she told me he hadnever even given me a gift
Valentine's Day, my birthdaynothing but her.
He had given her gifts, andthat's what hurt the most.
This wasn't because Elisa wasshallow.
It was because she wantedsomething to show her that her
husband loved her.
(08:49):
She kept remembering what hesaid I didn't marry you because
I loved you.
I married you because I felt Ihad to.
Marcos continued to pull away,continued to control because he
felt deep shame for the affair.
He stopped trying to work onthe marriage and he started
distracting and numbing himselfmore, which once again led her
(09:14):
into the arms of another man.
A fourth and final affair Elisawas done.
At this point you may bethinking this sounds crazy.
Did you say that this endshappy?
I did, and we're getting there.
But as a quick recap they getmarried.
Marcos becomes a workaholic,never spends time with Elisa.
(09:34):
Elisa is craving love andconnection and doesn't know how
to get it from Marcos, and so itleads to a continual cycle of
hurt and shame.
Marcos doesn't want to appearweak and in doing so, he pushes
his wife away because he's supercontrolling.
Elisa craves connection and,even though it was wrong, she
found it in other places, andtheir lack of willingness to
(09:56):
actually pull their issues intothe spotlight and talked about
them kept them doing this crazycycle for 18 years.
Nothing was working until Marcosfound Marriage Helper in
November of 2018.
And in his mind, elisa was theone who needed fixing.
Who could blame him?
(10:17):
She'd had four affairs, butwhat Marcos came to find out was
something much different.
Reluctantly, elisa attended theMarriage Helper three-day
workshop honestly, just to shuthim up.
Truly, she wanted out, and thiswas her ticket to get him to
give up.
She'd go check it off the listand be done with him and the
marriage for good.
(10:37):
But during those three days,something shifted.
It was more like anearthquake-level shift.
Marcos finally broke.
You see, he drug her therethinking that she was the one
who needed to be fixed, butrealized he was the one who
needed to change.
He realized that there werefundamental hurts and pains that
(10:59):
he had caused in therelationship.
While they didn't justify theaffair, they allowed for that
fertile soil from which theaffair sprung.
Elisa remembered that day at theworkshop.
He just went out into the halland wept and, even though she
hated him, she went and stoodbeside him and held him as he
(11:22):
began to realize all the hurtand pain that he had caused.
He began to change.
He stopped controlling her.
He stopped working so much.
He started actually loving her.
He stopped always telling herthat she was wrong.
He gave her a voice.
He stopped believing that hewas better than her.
He began treating her withrespect.
(11:42):
He began to be there for heremotionally.
He learned to show that lovewas not weakness, but that love
was the biggest opportunity forstrength.
And Elisa she learned to speakup to Marcos when she felt like
things weren't right.
She learned to put boundariesaround herself so that she
wouldn't be tempted.
(12:02):
So what changed?
When I asked Marcos and Elisa,they both said the same thing
Everything changed.
Nothing is the same.
They both learned that neitherof them were perfect, that they
both had flaws, but they bothhad work to do.
(12:22):
As Elisa said, we were way toodifferent.
Nothing could work the way thatit was working then.
Even still today, in thetiniest things, we still use
marriage helper tools all thetime.
And she ended by telling me nowI feel safe.
This story is truly a miracle,and there are some key
(12:46):
principles that we can learnfrom this story.
It's one that we've seen workover and over again, even in the
most hopeless situations, whenone spouse has given up, when
there's been betrayal,resentment, control, silence,
shame.
The truth is, most people don'tknow what to do when the
marriage starts to break down,so they either begin to shut
(13:07):
down, lash out or go looking forcomfort somewhere else.
But healing happens when justone person starts to show up
differently, just like Marcosbegan to do in this story.
The first thing I want you tosee is the key principle is that
the presenting problem israrely the real problem.
(13:29):
Elisa's affair was not the rootissue.
The deeper issue was years ofdisconnection, control and
unspoken hurt.
If you only treat the surfaceissue, you'll miss what's really
keeping you stuck.
Number two you can't shame yourway to connection.
Marcos thought controllingElisa would bring security for
(13:49):
him.
Instead, it created fear anddistance for her.
But real connection requiresemotional safety, not power or
control.
The third one is that love isnot weakness, it is strength.
Marcos grew up believing thatshowing love was weak, but the
strongest thing he ever did waslearn to love openly and with
(14:10):
humility, because vulnerabilityis the first step toward healing
.
Number four you can't changeyour spouse, but you can change
yourself.
Marcos tried to fix Elisa.
Elisa tried to numb the pain.
Nothing changed until hechanged.
Change in a relationship beginswith the person who's willing
(14:31):
to lead in a new direction, andmaybe today that's you.
Number five forgiveness is aprocess, but it's required for
peace.
Marcos could not move forwardbecause he never truly forgave
and that resentment grew untilit led to his own betrayal.
You can't heal what you refuseto release.
Number six boundaries aren'tthe enemy of love.
(14:54):
They protect it.
Elisa had to learn to speak up,how to set boundaries, to not
punish Marcos, but protectherself and their relationship.
A healthy relationship giveseach person a voice.
Number seven healing ispossible, but it requires
humility.
The turning point wasn't justwhen Elisa changed.
(15:15):
It was also when Marcos brokedown, owned his part and did the
work.
When each person is willing tohumble themselves, or even just
one to begin with, the wholerelationship can shift.
Number eight there's a provenpath forward.
What changed everything forthem wasn't luck.
(15:35):
It was process, structure andsupport, and the marriage helper
framework gave them the toolsto rebuild and they still use
them today, every day.
So if you're watching this andthinking that's our story,
that's my marriage story ormaybe you're watching and
thinking that story is crazymine isn't nearly that bad then
(15:59):
this is for you.
If you're exhausted, if you'vetried everything, if you're
ready to give up, then let metell you there is always hope.
It only takes one person tostart the turnaround.
Thousands of people havestarted their turnaround with
one simple step talking tosomeone who understands what
(16:19):
they're going through.
Book a call with our team todayand find out what's actually
possible for your marriage, nomatter how far things have gone.
Everything you share iscompletely confidential.
No pressure, just clarity, justhope.
But here's what I want you toknow At Marriage Helper for the
past 30 years, we have workedwith thousands of couples in
(16:43):
situations just like Marcos'sand Elisa's and just like yours.
And if you want to take a nextstep into seeing real turnaround
happen, then that's what thiscall is for For you to see if
what we do can work for you.
I believe that it can.
You need to believe that it canin order for your marriage to
(17:05):
be saved, and that's our goal atMarriage Helper, to help save
marriages and bring familiesback together, to give hope in
situations that feel incrediblyhopeless and to help you see
that tomorrow can be better thantoday, and not just because we
only helped Marcos and Elisa,but because we've helped
thousands and we'd love for youto be next.
We're starting at the moment that things almost ended
.
Meet Marcos and Elisa.
I first met Elisa when shewalked into one of our couples'
workshops and said I wouldrather die than stay married to
this man.
By all accounts, this marriagewas over.
There was no hope.
The presenting problem Marcoshad discovered Elisa was having
(00:24):
an affair actually a couple ofaffairs and wanted out of the
marriage.
She said that she no longerloved him and no longer wanted
to be married to him.
He was doing everything hecould to try and make the
marriage work, but the problemwas that everything he did made
things worse and even moreimportantly.
(00:52):
But what Marcos and Elisa couldnot see for themselves was that
her affair or affairs were notthe real issue.
But we'll uncover all of thatin just a minute.
Here's what I want you tounderstand Even in the midst of
a wife being in love withsomeone else and a husband who
kept doing all the wrong things,they are still married and
living happily ever after today.
(01:13):
The turnaround in their storyis remarkable and I believe, as
we talk through all of theaspects of their relationship,
where all the things fell apart,all of the things that went
wrong, you're going to end thisvideo saying, wow, if that
marriage could be saved, thenmine can too.
(01:34):
That's what we're going to getinto.
But before we get to how it wassaved, we need to understand
how it all fell apart.
Marcus and Elisa had beenmarried for 18 years at the time
that they ended up in one ofour couples' workshops, but
really the problems had startedat the very beginning of their
marriage and had been festeringfor years.
(01:56):
In fact, they didn't evennecessarily marry for love, but
more so out of obligation, atleast for Marcos.
In asking Elisa what sheremembered about the beginning
of their relationship, she saidshe always knew that she would
marry him since she first sawhim when she was 11 years old,
(02:18):
but she thought there's no waythat he'll ever notice me.
He was older and she neverthought that he would be
interested in someone like heruntil he was, and she felt like
he was her knight in shiningarmor.
She felt protected and safearound him and excited to start
(02:39):
their new life together.
Marcos, on the other hand, fromthe beginning he stated himself
that he liked a lot of thingsabout Elisa, but he didn't love
her, because to love is to showweakness, and this is where the
problems begin.
While it seemed like they wereoff to live the American dream,
(03:00):
at least for Elisa, things beganto turn into a nightmare.
About one year after marriagethey came to the US and Marcos
had a really big chip on hisshoulders Work, work, work, work
, work.
He was all about making themoney.
That's what Elisa said.
He chose work over family allthe time, not just in their
first year, but in their first18 years.
(03:21):
And what was worse is she neverfelt like she could speak up
against it, because he wouldalways just convince her that
she was wrong, that he knew best.
After all, he was the man ofthe house.
So, as Elisa said, we juststopped talking to each other.
But then I would go out withgirlfriends and at bars and
someone else, some other guywould begin to hear me talk and
(03:43):
someone else, some other guywould begin to hear me talk.
And that's when everythingshifted For Elisa.
She began to find the love,connection and intimacy she was
longing for from her husband,but with another man.
But she hated herself for it.
She said it wasn't who I was,it wasn't who I wanted to be,
but it happened and theconnection felt so good that it
(04:06):
was hard to stop.
Marcos, on the other hand,suspected nothing.
He was none the wiser until aco-worker started telling him,
hey, things don't seem right.
And then one day he got aninkling to go home in the middle
of work and found her and herlover in bed together.
You'd think it would be overthen, but it wasn't, which meant
(04:29):
Elisa had to admit that thiswasn't her first affair, but it
was her second, and she was onlysleeping with this guy to try
and get over how she still hadfeelings for the first one.
You can only imagine whathappened next.
Marcos called his mom.
She told him to get a divorce.
He called his brother.
He tried to help them makeamends.
(04:50):
Marcos tried to hide his hurtby telling Elisa I didn't even
marry you because I loved you.
I married you because I feltlike I had to, a comment that
Elisa would not easily forgiveor forget.
And so that night, instead ofleaving her, he took her to eat
Italian food and told her thenand there I'm in this, I'm
(05:14):
staying.
Elisa stayed too, even thoughshe could have left, but for her
he was all I knew.
She said.
And at this point they had twokids.
Where was she going to go, shesaid.
I was young when we got married.
He was all I knew and I wasscared to be on my own, so they
(05:36):
tried to make things work, butMarcos would go on to say if
there was any way for me tobecome more cold, I became more
cold and let me tell you, indoing my work asking questions
about this relationship, therewas no way for him to become
more cold.
Their relationship was alreadysolid ice.
Marcos continued to controleverything that Elisa would do
(05:59):
Her finances, her schedule, youname it and Elisa continued to
feel alone and unloved because,even as controlling as he was,
he wasn't there, which ended upleading Elisa to her third
affair and, ultimately, theirdivorce.
They were divorced for a year, ayear in which their family was
(06:23):
torn apart and it wrecked them.
You see, what I hope youunderstand up to this point in
the story is that, while Elisahad several affairs, which was
not good or justified, it wasMarcos's controlling behavior
and lack of being there andbeing present in the
relationship that drove her away.
(06:44):
Effort wasn't the issue withthem.
Direction was, and without theright roadmap, effort can push
people even further apart ifthey're not doing the right
thing.
During that year, somethinghappened, something that neither
of them expected.
Marcos found God, and the nextmorning he woke up and decided
(07:05):
he wanted his family back.
Unbeknownst to him, elisa wasfeeling the same way, so he
started pursuing her, textingher, allowing her to come around
more, dating her again, untilfinally, a year after their
divorce, they remarried andthings felt good again.
They were in a good place, thepast was behind them.
(07:26):
This was a new start, or sothey thought.
Little did they know.
They had remarried, but theyhadn't actually fixed anything.
They tried therapy, but itdidn't help at all.
Marcos was incredibly resentfulof Elisa's affairs.
He was hurt, and rightfully so,but he hadn't forgiven her, and
that lack of forgiveness led tohis own addictions, pornography
(07:49):
and ultimately him seeking outhis own revenge affair.
He didn't even want to, but hecouldn't get over how badly her
affairs had hurt him.
After struggling with this, hedecided the only way to finally
feel like things were even wasfor him to have an affair of his
own.
So he did, until he was caught.
(08:09):
Elisa wasn't even looking tocatch him.
She happened to walk into theoffice one day and found the
text messages on his computerscreen.
She was devastated, but itwasn't even the sex that hurt
her the most.
It was the fact that he hadshown that other woman the love
and attention she had wanted allof those years.
(08:29):
For 18 years she told me he hadnever even given me a gift
Valentine's Day, my birthdaynothing but her.
He had given her gifts, andthat's what hurt the most.
This wasn't because Elisa wasshallow.
It was because she wantedsomething to show her that her
husband loved her.
(08:49):
She kept remembering what hesaid I didn't marry you because
I loved you.
I married you because I felt Ihad to.
Marcos continued to pull away,continued to control because he
felt deep shame for the affair.
He stopped trying to work onthe marriage and he started
distracting and numbing himselfmore, which once again led her
(09:14):
into the arms of another man.
A fourth and final affair Elisawas done.
At this point you may bethinking this sounds crazy.
Did you say that this endshappy?
I did, and we're getting there.
But as a quick recap they getmarried.
Marcos becomes a workaholic,never spends time with Elisa.
(09:34):
Elisa is craving love andconnection and doesn't know how
to get it from Marcos, and so itleads to a continual cycle of
hurt and shame.
Marcos doesn't want to appearweak and in doing so, he pushes
his wife away because he's supercontrolling.
Elisa craves connection and,even though it was wrong, she
found it in other places, andtheir lack of willingness to
(09:56):
actually pull their issues intothe spotlight and talked about
them kept them doing this crazycycle for 18 years.
Nothing was working until Marcosfound Marriage Helper in
November of 2018.
And in his mind, elisa was theone who needed fixing.
Who could blame him?
(10:17):
She'd had four affairs, butwhat Marcos came to find out was
something much different.
Reluctantly, elisa attended theMarriage Helper three-day
workshop honestly, just to shuthim up.
Truly, she wanted out, and thiswas her ticket to get him to
give up.
She'd go check it off the listand be done with him and the
marriage for good.
(10:37):
But during those three days,something shifted.
It was more like anearthquake-level shift.
Marcos finally broke.
You see, he drug her therethinking that she was the one
who needed to be fixed, butrealized he was the one who
needed to change.
He realized that there werefundamental hurts and pains that
(10:59):
he had caused in therelationship.
While they didn't justify theaffair, they allowed for that
fertile soil from which theaffair sprung.
Elisa remembered that day at theworkshop.
He just went out into the halland wept and, even though she
hated him, she went and stoodbeside him and held him as he
(11:22):
began to realize all the hurtand pain that he had caused.
He began to change.
He stopped controlling her.
He stopped working so much.
He started actually loving her.
He stopped always telling herthat she was wrong.
He gave her a voice.
He stopped believing that hewas better than her.
He began treating her withrespect.
(11:42):
He began to be there for heremotionally.
He learned to show that lovewas not weakness, but that love
was the biggest opportunity forstrength.
And Elisa she learned to speakup to Marcos when she felt like
things weren't right.
She learned to put boundariesaround herself so that she
wouldn't be tempted.
(12:02):
So what changed?
When I asked Marcos and Elisa,they both said the same thing
Everything changed.
Nothing is the same.
They both learned that neitherof them were perfect, that they
both had flaws, but they bothhad work to do.
(12:22):
As Elisa said, we were way toodifferent.
Nothing could work the way thatit was working then.
Even still today, in thetiniest things, we still use
marriage helper tools all thetime.
And she ended by telling me nowI feel safe.
This story is truly a miracle,and there are some key
(12:46):
principles that we can learnfrom this story.
It's one that we've seen workover and over again, even in the
most hopeless situations, whenone spouse has given up, when
there's been betrayal,resentment, control, silence,
shame.
The truth is, most people don'tknow what to do when the
marriage starts to break down,so they either begin to shut
(13:07):
down, lash out or go looking forcomfort somewhere else.
But healing happens when justone person starts to show up
differently, just like Marcosbegan to do in this story.
The first thing I want you tosee is the key principle is that
the presenting problem israrely the real problem.
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Elisa's affair was not the rootissue.
The deeper issue was years ofdisconnection, control and
unspoken hurt.
If you only treat the surfaceissue, you'll miss what's really
keeping you stuck.
Number two you can't shame yourway to connection.
Marcos thought controllingElisa would bring security for
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him.
Instead, it created fear anddistance for her.
But real connection requiresemotional safety, not power or
control.
The third one is that love isnot weakness, it is strength.
Marcos grew up believing thatshowing love was weak, but the
strongest thing he ever did waslearn to love openly and with
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humility, because vulnerabilityis the first step toward healing
.
Number four you can't changeyour spouse, but you can change
yourself.
Marcos tried to fix Elisa.
Elisa tried to numb the pain.
Nothing changed until hechanged.
Change in a relationship beginswith the person who's willing
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to lead in a new direction, andmaybe today that's you.
Number five forgiveness is aprocess, but it's required for
peace.
Marcos could not move forwardbecause he never truly forgave
and that resentment grew untilit led to his own betrayal.
You can't heal what you refuseto release.
Number six boundaries aren'tthe enemy of love.
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They protect it.
Elisa had to learn to speak up,how to set boundaries, to not
punish Marcos, but protectherself and their relationship.
A healthy relationship giveseach person a voice.
Number seven healing ispossible, but it requires
humility.
The turning point wasn't justwhen Elisa changed.
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It was also when Marcos brokedown, owned his part and did the
work.
When each person is willing tohumble themselves, or even just
one to begin with, the wholerelationship can shift.
Number eight there's a provenpath forward.
What changed everything forthem wasn't luck.
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It was process, structure andsupport, and the marriage helper
framework gave them the toolsto rebuild and they still use
them today, every day.
So if you're watching this andthinking that's our story,
that's my marriage story ormaybe you're watching and
thinking that story is crazymine isn't nearly that bad then
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this is for you.
If you're exhausted, if you'vetried everything, if you're
ready to give up, then let metell you there is always hope.
It only takes one person tostart the turnaround.
Thousands of people havestarted their turnaround with
one simple step talking tosomeone who understands what
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they're going through.
Book a call with our team todayand find out what's actually
possible for your marriage, nomatter how far things have gone.
Everything you share iscompletely confidential.
No pressure, just clarity, justhope.
But here's what I want you toknow At Marriage Helper for the
past 30 years, we have workedwith thousands of couples in
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situations just like Marcos'sand Elisa's and just like yours.
And if you want to take a nextstep into seeing real turnaround
happen, then that's what thiscall is for For you to see if
what we do can work for you.
I believe that it can.
You need to believe that it canin order for your marriage to
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be saved, and that's our goal atMarriage Helper, to help save
marriages and bring familiesback together, to give hope in
situations that feel incrediblyhopeless and to help you see
that tomorrow can be better thantoday, and not just because we
only helped Marcos and Elisa,but because we've helped
thousands and we'd love for youto be next.
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