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August 15, 2024 8 mins

In this episode, Dr. Jon Dabach delves into the often-asked question of what constitutes a "normal" amount of sex in a relationship. Addressing both the straightforward and complex aspects, he explains that while once a week is statistically average, several factors such as physical health, emotional connection, the relationship's age, and life stressors can significantly influence this frequency. Dr. Jon emphasizes the importance of open communication between partners about their sexual needs and desires, suggesting that many couples are more aligned in their sexual expectations than they realize.

Dr. Jon also offers practical advice on how to approach conversations about sex, stressing the importance of mutual understanding and willingness to address physical and emotional barriers. He encourages couples to regularly discuss their sex life to avoid misconceptions and ensure a fulfilling relationship. The episode concludes with a reminder that while statistical norms can provide a reference, each couple's sexual relationship is unique and should be tailored to their specific needs and desires.

Memorable Quotes

  1. "The quick answer on how much sex is quote-unquote normal is once a week."
  2. "Physical health plays a huge role in sexual frequency, from erectile dysfunction to stress and weight issues."
  3. "Emotional health in the relationship is a big factor. If it's good, you can just have a good conversation about how much you want to have sex and heal it."
  4. "The typical honeymoon phase usually looks like having sex every day to three or four times a week."
  5. "Life's busyness can drastically reduce the frequency of sex due to exhaustion and logistics."
  6. "Normal is a relative term and only useful in a statistical sense."
  7. "If you're having sex less than once a month, I would consider that a sexless marriage."
  8. "The most important conversation is about your idealized frequency of sex, considering no physical or emotional barriers."

Keyword List

relationship advice, sexual frequency, normal sex life, couples therapy, sexual health, emotional intimacy, honeymoon phase, life stressors, sexual drive, sexless marriage, open communication, physical health, erectile dysfunction, emotional health, relationship counseling, Dr. Jon Dabach, intimacy issues, sex life improvement, marital sex, sexual expectations

Interested in working with Jon directly? Find him at https://MrSpirituality.com

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