Relationship Therapy with Ben

If you and your partner keep having the same argument over and over, you're not alone. Most of us were never taught how to communicate in a healthy, productive way—and it shows up in our relationships.In this video, I’ll share a metaphor I use with couples in therapy that helps explain why communication often breaks down, and how you can shift into a more collaborative, connected dynamic.We’ll explore:✔️ Why most couples feel unhea...

Beating ourselves up is one of the most common dynamics I see in clients I work with. In this video we explore why people do this when they aren't nearly as critical to others, why it's better to have more self compassion, and an exercise you can do to have more empathy for yourself.

0:00 Intro

0:35 Why We Beat Ourselves Up

2:52 Why We Should Be More Understanding of Ourselves

5:24 An Exercise to Build Self Compassion

8:13 Thanks f...

I saw a video recently that had "4 Things Healthy Couples Do." I thought it would be helpful to expand on those ideas, so today we'll be talking about those 4 tips, why they make a lot of sense, and how you can implement them into your relationship. Check out the video and creator here: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8d6EEes/0:00 Intro 0:07 "4 Things Healthy Couples Do" 1:22 Healthy Couples Encourage More than ...

In our society being on the conveyer belt of life or stuck in the rat race is incredibly common. This is understandable, but unfortunate because for many it means not really enjoying our day-to-day life. In today's video we'll talk about why we get stuck here, why it can be a win-win to enjoy and appreciate our life more, and how we can go about doing so. 0:00 Intro 0:32 What's it Mean to be Stuck on the Conveyer Belt...

It's extremely common to prioritize our partner's pleasure during sex, and neglect ourselves. On the surface, focusing on them can seem like a great idea, but it often creates issues in the sexual relationship. In today's video I talk about why it is so common to prioritize the other person, the downsides of that, the benefits of prioritizing yourself, and how to actually do that.

0:00 Intro

0:17 What Are the Dow...

When we've been in a long-term relationship, praise and appreciation can start to diminish. This is natural, but it can become a problem if there's rarely any appreciation. In today's video I talk about why we find ourselves in a relationship without praise, the benefits of expressing more appreciation, and how to go about changing that. 0:00 Intro 0:41 What Does Expressing Appreciation Actually Mean? 1:34 Why Do We Ex...

Setting boundaries is something that tons of people struggle with throughout the year, but that struggle can come up much more often during the holidays (for those that listen later, I'm posting this right around the holidays). When you get a family together under the same roof, there can be a lot of differing opinions and views, or ways of navigating through certain situations.   

Today we'll be exploring why setting bou...

We hear from many sources how we can communicate with our partner, what strategies work, what isn't healthy, etc etc. But we're rarely given specific, real-world examples that we can learn from. Do these people giving this advice actually do these things and that's how they know it works? Or does it sound good in theory, but falls apart in practice?  

In this episode I talk about an example where I chose to communicate with my...

The Holidays can be a wonderful time with family, friends, and in your relationship, but it can also be a time of stress and friction. For many of us in relationships, the holidays can add a lot of tension with the amount of plans we have, traveling we'll do, and expectations for each other. So how can we get through that in a way that really limits the stress, and instead feel like we're on the same team?

In this episode we talk a...

Feeling disconnected can be one of the most subtle problems in a relationship because it can easily sneak up on us. Then, weeks and months go by and we find ourselves dissatisfied in the relationship. What leads us to disconnect, and how can we reconnect with each other?  

In this episode we talk about connection in relationships, what brings us together, what pushes us apart, and how we can come back together when we find our...

The dreaded Roommate Phase. If you've been in a long-term relationship, odds are you've been here before for some span of time. This isn't surprising since it's such an easy trap to fall into, and can be very difficult to get out of.  

In this episode I talk about the Roommate Phase, what it is & what it feels like, what can get us stuck in this dynamic, and what we can do to get out of it. If you feel like roommates with ...

When I ask a lot of my couples what they fight about, they'll say, "stupid, little things, things that shouldn't make us this upset." Why is that? Why do couples end up fighting about things that don't seem like they're a big deal?  

In this episode we talk about the beginning of a conversation, why it's incredibly important, and why a Harsh Startup can take us off the rails. Check it out to not only learn about Harsh Startups...

We all know of different turn offs in relationships that we've heard of or talked to friends about. But have you heard of Sexual Desire Poisons? In today's podcast I discuss what they are, how you can tell if you have a Sexual Desire Poison in your relationship, and what the "antidote" is to each poison.   

0:00 Sexual Desire Poisons  

0:18 Overview  

0:37 Why is This Important?  

1:40 W...