May 24, 2024 • 38 mins
In this episode, Moneke Fields converses with Linda Eskay about her journey from corporate life to entrepreneurship. They explore how to navigate business challenges, shift from survival mode to an optimal state, and the impact of the brain's defense mechanisms on growth. The power of self-awareness, breaking free from perfectionism, and transformation in all life areas are also discussed.
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I'm Monique Fields, and I believe that with theright strategies, anyone can achieve remarkable
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Whether you're a seasoned leader or juststarting a business.
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Let's embark on this journey together and makesuccess.
Hi, everybody.
Welcome back, Monique Fields here, and I'mexcited and really privileged to introduce to
you a special that we have with us today.
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Let me, introduce Linda Eske.
She is an entrepreneurial coach and aninternational speaker.
She has, led over 50 transformational workshopsand master classes and works with clients all
over the world.
To help them increase and even double therevenues that they earn in their business.
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So I'm super excited to, introduce her to youtoday.
Welcome, Linda.
Thank you so much for having me.
I'm really excited to be here.
Yes.
I think this is gonna be such a greatconversation.
So I do too.
I've got a first question for you, and it's alittle bit about your background.
So if you could just tell us who you are Andwhat it is that you do, I think that would be a
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great way for us to start.
Who am I?
So the identity has changed quite a bit overthe last 6 years coming from, corporate
environment for several decades where I wasconvinced as a young adult that, that was the
path to success.
And as long as I had 401 and dental, I was onthe right track.
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Right?
So I traded my, I traded a lot of money and Itraded my freedom for, a track that was not
aligned with my soul.
And I was blessed 6 years ago with a layoff.
And since then, have been on this amazing,incredible, personal development, professional
development, professional expansion, journey offinding something that aligns with who I am.
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My core values, which is human connection andraising humanity and helping others really move
into fuller expressions of themselves.
So recognizing that every single human on theplanet is different.
Unique has unique history, unique soul, uniquevisions, unique dreams, unique baggage.
It's about being able to really connect withanother person And I feel like that is a gift
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of Moneke.
Just really listen and hear them and know whattheir dreams are and what their struggles are
and what you know, what they really want, outof life.
And so who I am is someone who shows otherpeople their light, who helps them bring their
light out.
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And as long as we are shining our light asbrightly as we can, we will attract others into
our roles who wanna sit beside us and hear ourstory, and then they are inspired to go share
their story.
So I'm kind of a a journey woman of sorts, aguide, you know, because I really believe that
we're all here for a reason and, that we canlive a life that we love.
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By creating it from our own soul and our ownheart.
So, that's really beautiful.
I love that you share how you spend Many years,the majority of your years, well into
adulthood, working in corporate America andfollowing a very traditional path, And, you
just touched a cord with a subject that I loveto discuss with people how something like a
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layoff.
I heard you describe it as a blessing that itwas a gift that was given to you.
So that's very exciting.
And now it sounds like you are dedicated toestablishing connection with people, and
walking beside them to help them discoverwhatever success and freedom looks like for
them as an individual.
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That's good.
So, tell us a little bit about who you workwith.
What kind of work are you doing when you areworking with entrepreneurs and you've led
transformational workshops.
What what are some of the focuses of the workthat you do with individuals?
You know, the journey has led me to to want tohelp entrepreneurs, solar panels, you know,
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business owners, the the small mom and popshops, really, that have, small teams of people
working with them.
And that that could expand and change too, butfor now, this is, where I feel really
comfortable because I'm being shown so many oftheir struggles that they have.
And when I am able to peel back the curtain andshine a flashlight in their blind spots, and
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they can see exactly where the story thatthey're telling themselves in their head is
coming from and how that is creating theirreality.
So several, people I've worked with have abelief that business slows down at this time of
year, every year.
And it's scary for them because they they havea busy season, so they're hiring people knowing
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that come fall or winter, they're probablygoing to be laying these people off.
And it it pains them deeply because they knowthese people have families and and it, you
know, but this is the cycle that they're in.
And the story they're telling themselves is weget slow every time of, you know, every year,
this time of year.
And it's a self fulfilling prophecy.
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And then when I can help them see where thatstory came from, like, maybe they had it in
their childhood and the the parents were in abusiness that seemed cyclical and and seasonal,
and they heard all the time We get slow thistime of year, and we're busy this time of year,
and we slow this time of year.
And then we're seeing layoffs happening.
Maybe their parents were ones that were beinglaid off in those cyclical times.
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So it's a breakthrough moment when somebody cansee, where that comes from, and it helps them
shift into more empowering states and moreempowering beliefs of We don't have to be very
slow this time of year.
We can have the, you know, we can have, we'lllive without of the the revenue fluctuations is
my point.
Right?
And not only, experience more of a calmthroughout the year, but also raise the revenue
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by raising their you know, their thermostat forfinancial abundance.
So that's really, where I have found ispowerful place to be because it not only helps
the revenue, you know, the bottom line for thebusiness.
It didn't I've seen it improve the marriage youknow, the relationships between the parents and
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their children, especially the children who arecoming up in the business and are, well, one
day take over the business.
It's really powerful to see that ripple effect.
You know?
And it's these things affect their health.
They affect their inability to invest in theirbusiness or take risks or just whatever.
You know?
And and so being able to help them, get out ofthe get off the hamster wheel has been just
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lights me up.
So
Yeah.
I think, couple of things there.
The first being that I know exactly what youmean, and, it's really fun and empowering when
you can help somebody see theinterconnectedness in their life that, you
know, perhaps addressing something like an,limiting belief that you help them uncover that
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they've got that sort of leading to, limitationthat they're operating from and how that is
likely to have an impact on every of area oftheir life just because of the ease or the
freedom that they create with that one shiftthat they find that they're able to make.
I think that's one very encouraging thing.
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That's so powerful.
So you sort of skipped ahead to another thoughtor question that I had, which is lovely because
I would ask you You know, what is it that youteach people?
You know, what strategies do you encouragepeople to use or us a little bit about a
methodology that you do to help people discoverthose areas that they're sort of overlooking.
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I like to call it operating on autopilot, andmaybe not knowing what's going on, but, you
know, give us a little peek into how you helppeople find those places.
And I love that question so much because, I'mall about educating my clients.
And so many people are going through life onautopilot or, you know, this this conditioning,
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you know, the programming, and they don't evenknow it.
And so what is that causing?
It's creating frustration on such massive scalebecause they don't know how to shift or how to
change or how to, yeah, just make changes intheir life that are meaningful and when I can
help them understand how their brain works, howthe quantum field works, and how our brain is
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simply emitting frequencies based on our modelof the world based on our belief system, which
is deep and and, you know, their talk show.
But our beliefs about ourselves, how worthy weare, whether it's safe to speak up, like, all
of these things are embedded in oursubconscious and our conscious is always
screaming much louder than our conscious mind.
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Mhmm.
So it's not about what we say.
It's about how we feel So if we understand thatback and forth and that nature and and the
universe require homeostasis and balance,everything else can fall into place because we
can move from a state of high entropy, which isthe chaos and disorder and lack of focus and
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frustration and procrastination, all of thatinto a state of ease and flow and where we're
actually creating Because from that state, weare activating our particular activating
system, which is now acting, you know, morelike a radar and finding things pulling data in
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from the quantum field that we actually wantand things that match higher frequencies.
So it's a matter of, you know, raising yourfrequency by lowering lowering your disorder,
your state of disorder, and then automaticallyyou will start experiencing synchronicities and
opportunities.
And and life just gets better.
And it almost seems magical, but when youunderstand the law, a balance and the laws of
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the universe and how they work, you can startto calm down and have more faith and trust and
just surrender yourself to that higher power,which means emerging.
It doesn't mean, you know, just giving up andand throwing your hands in the air.
It means understanding that there's power whenyou merge yourself with that larger system.
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Continental universe, right, source energy,whatever, anyone to call it.
We know there's something greater than usthat's that's helping us and supporting us.
I do agree with you about the, the law, so tospeak, and the order of things.
And, to your point, it does seem like perhapsit's magical, but it's it is very scientific in
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the sense that, like, we were all trained inscientific process and elementary school, It is
a set of somewhat logical steps that followwhen you can lower your amount of chaos and the
random inputs that you are operating under andmaintain your state then it gives you access
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to, as you mentioned, so much more creativityand possibility.
When you're not in this, I think the way thatwe normally talk about it is being reactive all
the time.
Right?
Like, we're constantly at the effect of what'sgoing on around us and learning how to Be more
consistently in the state that we choose can bevery empowering because when we are aware of
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our state, and can maintain the state that wechoose.
Despite the things that we face, we're betterable to have access to possibilities that are
literally always around.
But when we're losing it, we don't see those.
We don't, you know, have access to them.
We aren't, you know, as effective atimplementing or, you know, even making
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reasonable decisions sometimes can be verydifferent than, you know, it is when you're not
in your ideal state.
So I thought 100% being in reactionary mode issurvival mode.
Right.
Making decisions based on survival is no way tocreate.
It actually is probably the least, you know, wethink about survival like a bad but to be able
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to get out of survival mode, which is not ourideal operating state.
We're grateful for the ability to survive andto, you know, use survival strategies, I guess,
to make it through hard times when we're caughtby surprise.
But ideally, we would be able to shift into aposition that gives us better I don't wanna use
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the word control.
Maybe you have another one, but to be able tooperate from a more optimal state, a higher
frequency, a better position.
I think then to your point that, we're we'remore able to be in flow And, as you already
said, just have access to all of thepossibility in the crate creativity that is
available to us at any given time.
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So I appreciate that as, a strategy that youshare with people that you work with that helps
them find the places where they can shift, andit definitely makes sense with what you spoke
about earlier in terms of helping an individualnot feel like they are a victim to the typical
cycles that might happen in their life, theirbusiness, their industry, and finding a way to
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establish more calm throughout you know, theyear and to live from that place.
So I think that would be very useful.
And I can imagine people really appreciate itwhen they get to the place that they can master
that.
A question that I have in addition to this oneis what are some of the challenges that you're
seeing?
As you work with entrepreneurs or justindividuals who are seeking per transformation
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more related to personal things in their life,and how do you suggest that people navigate
some of those challenges?
One thing that I they see you commonly see, ispeople going into a personal development
program or coaching or, you know, whatever thatis in the wrong state of mind.
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As far as wrong being, you can't absorb newinformation when you're in survival mode.
You can't hear anything new.
You can't contemplate anything new.
So people who go through, come into coaching.
Let's just say, they come into coaching withme.
Or do, a personal development program, it iscritical that they understand have to calm
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ourselves first, you know, whatever that means.
It can and that's another talk show too.
Right?
But being able to to put yourself in thedriver's seat so that you have that empowerment
and you are in a state where your brain isready to receive new information, process new
information because otherwise, you you havethis belief system, and it and just nothing new
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is coming in.
It's getting bounced out as soon as it hits youknow, your your consciousness.
And so, I think that that's key.
I think that's been one of the biggest Uhas forme is realizing why people are so frustrated.
And also they don't really know exactly.
They don't know how their brain it's workingwith co on a Fields.
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And once they get that clarity and theyunderstand that everything is about balance,
they understand what the story is over herethat is playing out in their life.
And they can have the moment and then shift thestory and then the their life changes it's just
it has to.
It's law.
Yeah.
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This makes me think about something that I'velearned from, a teacher that I follow and, I
think you would agree with me that there aremultiple experts who use this language, but
it's very useful when we can learn to separateourselves from and see ourselves apart from the
sort of primitive impulses.
Sometimes it's referred to as a primitive brainbecause to your point, I think we all have
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programming that's designed to keep us safe,but safe just means familiar.
It doesn't necessarily translate to, you know,the opposite of safe isn't necessarily unsafe.
It's just, you know, the the the pattern thatwe're used to, the the the routine that we have
come to know and to your point very often, weapproach things with, and I know this already
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attitude.
We've already determined how something will go,and it's very easy to miss how those
preconceived thoughts and ideas do exactly whatyou described.
They act as almost like a Fields.
For anything new or perhaps anything that is,opposed to what we already know and believe.
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So I agree 100% that, When you are endeavoringto learn something new that you probably need
to spend some time very intentionally taking alook at What it is that you think about the
topic and where you might even meet someresistance to ideas that are presented and
probably engaging with that same type of activethought throughout the entire learning
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experience is, a meaningful way to ensure thatyou get the most out of it.
Yeah.
And and to your point as far as, you know,safety, I'm glad you brought that up because
there are different ways our brain is trying tokeep us safe.
And if our brain has a memory or an so with anevent that it perceives as a threat to our
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survival, it will do everything it has to do toprevent us from doing the thing at all or,
again, depending on what the what what has beenrecorded.
So there's the resistance comes up in ourphysical body, right, in our nervous system.
And we're like, I don't know where thisparalysis is coming from.
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Why can't I do x y z to expand my business.
Let's say, I really want to expand my businessand achieve financial security.
So I'll use an example, and she's giving mepermission to use this, to use her story.
But when we understand the law of balance,Okay?
So this this client is, wanting to expand herbusiness and generate generate wealth for
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herself, and she doesn't understand why shefeels paralyzed, overwhelmed by all the things
Why can't I just do the things I know I need todo to build my business and expand my business?
And, so when it came down to the money, we gotinto her her money story, and there was a lot
of chaos conflict.
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Pain, like, in the family around, a greatamount of Moneke, and somebody had taken their
own life as a result of losing all of thismoney.
In the family.
So to her brain, having a lot of money equalslost balance, right?
This side has to balance this side.
Her brain is recording a great amount of moneyto equates it to pain and chaos and death and
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conflict.
So what I shared with her was your brain istrying to keep you safe.
If you do generate a large amount of money inyour business, your brain believes that it's
going to create chaos and death and pain andconflict.
So if you do generate the money on this side,you will create this scenario on the other
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side.
It has to show up.
Because that's what your brain is emitting.
Large amount of money equals this.
So you have to experience that.
And she just kind of had a breakthrough momentof, oh my god, Linda.
I already did that.
And I said, what do you mean?
She said, I built up a lot of money per orprofessionally.
And then I this this, opportunity came, and itwasn't aligned with who I was.
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And my ego took over, and I thought I'm gonnamake a lot of money.
I sunk everything I had into that.
And I lost it all.
It
is that she was so depressed she almost killedhimself.
So it was like this oh my god.
Now not only does her brain have theassociation from her family and her upbringing,
It also has recorded the fact that she hasexperienced the same thing and almost took her
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life.
Her brain is gonna do whatever it has to do tokeep her alive.
Mhmm.
And once she recognized that to make theconnection of where that paralysis was coming
from, it changed everything overnight.
Everything changed for her.
It was amazing.
But that's where the safety part, you know, asfar as our brain is concerned, has one job to
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keep us safe and alive.
And We don't know the stove is hot until wetouch it.
And then we will go to our grave to a hundredyears old, not ever touching a stove again
intentionally because Our brain is creatingthat resistance when we try.
And there are times where avoiding what ourbrain perceives as danger is very useful.
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And there are equally possible times wherewe've associated a danger or a harm or some
sort of negative effect And it is notuniversally true, and it doesn't serve us for
our brain to be helping us to avoid, thosethings.
So I think that this is a really a really greatexample of, how you mentioned the transition
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can happen almost overnight.
Right?
Mhmm.
I've worked with clients who share a similarexpression of really struggling.
And this is not in the nebulous sense, beinglocked in patterns.
Right?
It could be something as simple as having acertain type of response that you're not proud
of whenever you have a particular type ofincident or You know, a lot of people talk
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about triggers, but, you know, not not to gettoo carried away with that language.
But there are so many things that can set usoff, so to speak, And when that happens and you
notice the repeated pattern, you feel, I don'tknow, guilty about it.
You're down on yourself about it.
That does not change the behavior.
It just makes you feel depressed.
It makes you feel inadequate, incapable,whatever are all the negatives.
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But when a client has an opportunity to, asyou've just described, notice what's going on
in the thinking before they start taking thosetypical actions.
Notice the feelings that they're having as aresult of the things that they're thinking and
how those two things together usually promptthem to act in very predictable ways and get
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very predictable and consistent outcomes thatjust for me and in the experience that I have
with my clients, the practice of being awareand noticing what's going on with you?
What am I thinking in this moment?
And how is this making me feel?
Creating that teeny tiny space of separationbetween whatever it is that you normally do to
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create To react that creates the results youexperience, I have observed that with my
clients and experience with myself.
How only the act of noticing can make such asignificant shift in what we typically do that
can sometimes seem impossible to change.
And back to your point about being able toshine a flashlight as it were with someone, it
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can be challenging to notice your own blinds SoI think that this is one way that it's very
helpful for you to partner with your clientsand walk alongside them as they're talking
about what's happening It's like there's anextra pair of eyes digging through the closet
so that we can figure out what's going on here.
And, hey, did you notice this box?
And it's like, Yeah.
I usually avoid that box.
I don't like looking in that box.
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That box has the unpleasant memory.
That's the one we might need to try to figureout how it's affecting what's going on.
So I appreciate the, business related and verypractical example that you share about you
know, your client's experience with kind of notunderstanding why she was hesitant to move
forward.
And, helping her to figure that out.
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I'm imagining she went on to make gooddecisions and not avoid opportunity at based on
her previous experience.
Would you say that that's the way that itworked out?
Yeah.
It's like it's like seeing you know, a clientin this vision I have of stripper jumping out
of a birthday cake.
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You know?
They're just like, Oh my god.
They feel alive.
They feel free.
They feel uncovered, and they feel empowered.
And so they know they need to do this or go youknow, speak at this event or create this online
or and they just do it.
There's no paralysis and there's no fearanymore because they've shifted the story.
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About Moneke, you know, and it's just aboutunderstanding where that fear is coming from.
And many times it's false.
It's not even ours.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So, you know, we've we've heard this phrasemany times that knowledge is power, and I think
we've heard opposition to the phrase as wellbecause there's sometimes a gap for for us
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between what we know and what we do.
And, in this instance, we've got knowledge withunderstanding, and I think that can be very
empowering, right?
As it relates to finding where you've beenlimited and sort of setting yourself free to
take the action that you desire to take and getbetter results.
Yeah.
I mean, even just take the simple thing ofbecause there's so many there's so many things
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our brain is doing, but if we simply take thethe pattern of perfectionism.
So many of us feel like we have to work so hardand so long on something.
It has to be perfect.
And we go over it and over and over and over itand we set it aside and we go eat dinner and we
come back and we go, I don't like that part.
You change it and come in.
And it takes 2 weeks to get something donewhere you could have just pushed it out in 30
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minutes and be, you know, so we are done isbetter than perfect all the time, and it's not
that simple.
For many people who have grown up in criticalenvironments with critical parents and even
ones that aren't overly critical.
It's a matter of of requiring unconditionallove.
And, oh, you didn't do do do the dishes rightor you didn't fold the laundry right or you
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didn't mow the lawn right.
These are all criticisms that are coming, youknow, from seemingly well meaning parents, of
course.
But sometimes, you know, we grow up in reallycritical environments.
So if I'm not perfect, If I don't do this theway that mom and dad want, I won't get love.
And so that perfectionism that need to beperfect all the time is recorded.
Like, you won't get love if this is notperfect.
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And we're always we're living in our lifetrying to figure out, oh, what does Monique
think is perfect?
What does that client think is perfect?
What does that prospect think is cur perfect?
How do I possibly know what you believe it theperfect mother looks like or a perfect wife.
And I'm showing up trying to, you know, be whoyou think is a perfect wife and mother so that
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you love me.
And that's what we're doing all the time.
And so when we I can just help somebodyunderstand that and get out of that cycle of
perfectionism, that is like talk about like,well, moment, freedom from that.
Yeah.
I think the way I can relate to this is veryoften, certainly for me as a child, as you
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speak about critical environments or maybeanother way to interpret that would be strict
environments, right, that Sure.
It can be very limiting And and initially, it'sthe limitation from the others, but at some
point, it transitions into limitation orcriticalness that you hold for yourself.
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You adopt that.
And I think we both, you know, subscribe tothis idea that we need to be free of the
opinions of other people.
That doesn't mean that we don't acknowledgewhen we get good feedback or respect what other
people say.
But, when we are more concerned about theopinions of other people as it relates to our
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work, it can be very limiting.
And I think to your point, breaking free of thelimitations being able to notice where they are
is another way that individuals can find spaceto breathe and then move and take action in
ways that are really authentic and aligned withthe goals and dreams that they have for
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themselves.
And, again, be very, very empowering.
I think all of this conversation is just sorich.
And to your point, we could take several of thetopics we've discussed so far and have a whole
other show just about the one concept.
So maybe we should do that.
Maybe we should do that.
Well, individuals.
Exactly.
Individuals who want to follow Linda Eske andlearn more.
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Where would they do that?
How would you suggest that they find you?
I am very easy to find.
My, my website is lyndask.com.
Know that as of today, it is live.
It is under development.
My designer is in, Spain.
We're we're meeting with him again.
This afternoon.
But I'm I'm, excited to have that go live or befully operational very soon so you can learn
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all about me and how I teach and what I teachand how I coach.
I'm on LinkedIn, Linda SK.
I'm on Instagram.
I'm on Facebook.
So just, you know, you'll see my profilepicture is the same across all platforms, so
I'm easy to identify.
That's fantastic.
So Before we wrap up, I want to ask you, justbased on your own experience, a couple of
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things, 2 things.
So the first one is I have this premise that Ilove to talk with people about how success
really is simple.
It's not easy, but it only takes simplepractices to get headed in the right direction
to build momentum and to accomplish and evenexceed you know, goals that you have for
yourself.
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So if you could tell people who might watchthis episode advice, just one thing that you
think anybody and everybody could implement tobe able to live more of the life that they
desire, not one that's limited.
What would that thing be?
If I had to pick 1
Yes.
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I would say it's critical to let go of the how.
It's one of the the biggest pieces I teach andcoach around, and it's difficult for people to
let go of that control.
To let go of the need to figure something outbecause it's what we've been taught our our
whole lives, but I can tell you it is the thebiggest piece in being able to achieve your
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dreams.
You you set your intentions.
You create your visions.
You let go of the how.
You take the inspired action when shows upbecause the universe, the quantum Fields, god
knows infinite ways to bring you what youdesire.
And when you start trying to figure it out, youare limiting yourself.
To everything you know, you've learned, you'veheard from others, what you believe is possible
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for yourself, and I can tell you from personalexperience time and time and time again when I
had a desire, it was huge.
And it's happened multiple times that I set anintention and have a desire and I let go of the
house, and I don't worry about where themoney's gonna come from or how it's gonna show
up for me, and it just does.
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And it's magical.
Yes.
And, here is yet another topic that we couldjust speak for at least a good 20 to 30 minutes
on, but this is so powerful, the point that youmake.
We've been talking about perfectionism and, youknow, getting stuck and things like that in
this in this chat.
And, There is another, individual that Ilistened to who says that it's so easy to get
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caught in the mechanics.
One of the fastest ways to bring whatever it isthat you dream of to a grinding halt is to
start focusing more than anything on the nutsand the bolts.
So your point about staying in this flow thatallows you access to inspired action and not
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operating in this place of worry where you'refiguring it out, right, but being, you know,
just more open in explorative.
I think that's such really good advice, and Iagree a 100% that everyone, whether you are an
individual seeking person transformation, abusiness owner looking for a place to figure
out how you can expand, you know, or, grow inyour business.
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This is applicable to all areas life.
I think even relationships.
Right?
Like, it just is such such good advice.
So the last thing that I have, perhaps we'vealready covered this, but I'm just curious
about even if it's your own, what is a favoritestory of transformation that you've experienced
from applying some of these strategies andprinciples?
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It might help you, or help me rather.
If you're if you could clarify so when you saystory, do you want like, a personal I did this
and experienced this.
That could work.
Okay.
Unless you're looking for something else,
No.
I'm I intended to be an open question.
So however you whatever you think is, Justsomething that you think about often.
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Maybe it's a thing that you're just so gratefulfor.
I mean, it it there are so many different waysthat I think you could take the question.
I'm really comfortable to go wherever Lindachooses to go with it.
Close it again for me.
Yeah.
So tell me about, and I'll try to phrase it adifferent way.
Thinking about the strategies and, practicesthat you've been implementing, you said that
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you experienced personally a shift in the lastyears and have just, you know, really, enjoyed
the work that you do.
Not most of it's been the last 2.
Someone that you've worked with or justthinking about your self, what's something that
looks completely different than it did sometime ago?
I don't know.
That's really what I'm thinking When I saytransformation, it isn't what it looked like it
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was going to be.
And here we are today.
And, I know in in my life, I have severalthings that I look back on regularly, and I'm
just like, wow.
I didn't see that coming.
And now that I am, borrowing the phrase thathas been stated over and over again about Steve
Jobs words.
Sometimes you can't connect the dots as youlook forward, but you can always connect the
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dots.
Back.
Right?
When you look back over your shoulder and youthink, it's kinda neat the way that came
together.
What's a favorite story you have?
It is kinda neat.
Put it in a nutshell, it's it's just it blowsmy mind.
It truly blows my mind.
And people, a lot of times, I think, aresearching for a definition of transformation,
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and it's different for every person.
The key is getting to the place of ease andflow so that you're comfortable with how your
river bends and where it takes you.
So for me, in my heart and soul, my entirelife, I always dreamed of world travel and
never experienced it.
And I laughed that, you know, I was fifty 3when I finally I discovered when I wanted to be
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when I grew up because I started coaching whenI was 5253.
And then, oh my god, this is amazing.
The changes I was making in my life, I wantedto help others experience that that too, but
it's just exponential, and it just keepsgetting better and better.
So, you know, looking back to that hopeless andhelpless shell of a a woman that I was living
in a cubicle, you know, auditing digital filesall day.
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Medication for anxiety and debilitating pain inmy shoulders, in my back, in my head, in my
neck, and just miserable existence, and beingset free from that cage, set me on this
journey.
And, you know, when you talk about travel,like, all of 2022 and the beginning of 2023,
all I did was travel.
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And I went to Iceland and Croatia and CanaryIslands and It's 15 islands in the Caribbean
over 4 or 5 cruises.
I've been lost track.
Dublin, I mean, it it's it just blows my mind,you know, Mexico and just absolutely blows my
mind, but it's it's just because that was in mysoul, my heart, that I desired that, and it
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came true.
It came to fruition because I didn't have anyresistance around it.
And when it was time, it was time.
And you know, thinking about who I was backthen, and now, you know, went to Paris in March
and spoke on, you know, stage at a women'sempowerment summit, which was Incredible.
And that came out of the blue based onsomething that, you know, a vision I had a few
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years ago, being an international speaker, Andthen in January, somebody reached out to me and
said, would you like to come speak at oursummit?
And I thought, what?
So, you know, it it's just I can't explain it.
I can't explain it.
Transformation is is empowerment andenlightenment raising your frequency to
experience all that's possible, you know, allthe magic, all of the things.
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And and it just things just come out of theblue.
I love what you've chosen to share with us,because I think it is such a beautiful example,
the way you remember yourself, the shell of awoman, you said, and who you are now this
completely open and and limitless individualwho is literally getting to live her dreams.
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So this is just such a beautiful example and agreat way to wrap up what really has been a
lovely conversation.
We could go on and on, but I guess we'll find atime that we can continue this conversation
later.
I would just like to say so much, Linda.
Thank you for joining me today and for creatingthis, conversation and space for individuals to
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learn just a little bit about what's possibleas they explore their own version of personal
or professional transformation.
Yes.
And I'm so grateful for you your new friendshipfor this connection that we have even before we
got to know each other.
And, for Yeah.
For inviting me to share space with you and andjust share a little bit about me and my heart
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and my journey.
So, hopefully, others will will see that it'spossible.
See what's possible and have hope
Yes.
Alright.
Well, thank you so much.
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Hi, everybody.
Welcome back, Monique Fields here, and I'mexcited and really privileged to introduce to
you a special that we have with us today.
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Let me, introduce Linda Eske.
She is an entrepreneurial coach and aninternational speaker.
She has, led over 50 transformational workshopsand master classes and works with clients all
over the world.
To help them increase and even double therevenues that they earn in their business.
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So I'm super excited to, introduce her to youtoday.
Welcome, Linda.
Thank you so much for having me.
I'm really excited to be here.
Yes.
I think this is gonna be such a greatconversation.
So I do too.
I've got a first question for you, and it's alittle bit about your background.
So if you could just tell us who you are Andwhat it is that you do, I think that would be a
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great way for us to start.
Who am I?
So the identity has changed quite a bit overthe last 6 years coming from, corporate
environment for several decades where I wasconvinced as a young adult that, that was the
path to success.
And as long as I had 401 and dental, I was onthe right track.
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Right?
So I traded my, I traded a lot of money and Itraded my freedom for, a track that was not
aligned with my soul.
And I was blessed 6 years ago with a layoff.
And since then, have been on this amazing,incredible, personal development, professional
development, professional expansion, journey offinding something that aligns with who I am.
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My core values, which is human connection andraising humanity and helping others really move
into fuller expressions of themselves.
So recognizing that every single human on theplanet is different.
Unique has unique history, unique soul, uniquevisions, unique dreams, unique baggage.
It's about being able to really connect withanother person And I feel like that is a gift
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of Moneke.
Just really listen and hear them and know whattheir dreams are and what their struggles are
and what you know, what they really want, outof life.
And so who I am is someone who shows otherpeople their light, who helps them bring their
light out.
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And as long as we are shining our light asbrightly as we can, we will attract others into
our roles who wanna sit beside us and hear ourstory, and then they are inspired to go share
their story.
So I'm kind of a a journey woman of sorts, aguide, you know, because I really believe that
we're all here for a reason and, that we canlive a life that we love.
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By creating it from our own soul and our ownheart.
So, that's really beautiful.
I love that you share how you spend Many years,the majority of your years, well into
adulthood, working in corporate America andfollowing a very traditional path, And, you
just touched a cord with a subject that I loveto discuss with people how something like a
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layoff.
I heard you describe it as a blessing that itwas a gift that was given to you.
So that's very exciting.
And now it sounds like you are dedicated toestablishing connection with people, and
walking beside them to help them discoverwhatever success and freedom looks like for
them as an individual.
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That's good.
So, tell us a little bit about who you workwith.
What kind of work are you doing when you areworking with entrepreneurs and you've led
transformational workshops.
What what are some of the focuses of the workthat you do with individuals?
You know, the journey has led me to to want tohelp entrepreneurs, solar panels, you know,
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business owners, the the small mom and popshops, really, that have, small teams of people
working with them.
And that that could expand and change too, butfor now, this is, where I feel really
comfortable because I'm being shown so many oftheir struggles that they have.
And when I am able to peel back the curtain andshine a flashlight in their blind spots, and
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they can see exactly where the story thatthey're telling themselves in their head is
coming from and how that is creating theirreality.
So several, people I've worked with have abelief that business slows down at this time of
year, every year.
And it's scary for them because they they havea busy season, so they're hiring people knowing
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that come fall or winter, they're probablygoing to be laying these people off.
And it it pains them deeply because they knowthese people have families and and it, you
know, but this is the cycle that they're in.
And the story they're telling themselves is weget slow every time of, you know, every year,
this time of year.
And it's a self fulfilling prophecy.
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And then when I can help them see where thatstory came from, like, maybe they had it in
their childhood and the the parents were in abusiness that seemed cyclical and and seasonal,
and they heard all the time We get slow thistime of year, and we're busy this time of year,
and we slow this time of year.
And then we're seeing layoffs happening.
Maybe their parents were ones that were beinglaid off in those cyclical times.
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So it's a breakthrough moment when somebody cansee, where that comes from, and it helps them
shift into more empowering states and moreempowering beliefs of We don't have to be very
slow this time of year.
We can have the, you know, we can have, we'lllive without of the the revenue fluctuations is
my point.
Right?
And not only, experience more of a calmthroughout the year, but also raise the revenue
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by raising their you know, their thermostat forfinancial abundance.
So that's really, where I have found ispowerful place to be because it not only helps
the revenue, you know, the bottom line for thebusiness.
It didn't I've seen it improve the marriage youknow, the relationships between the parents and
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their children, especially the children who arecoming up in the business and are, well, one
day take over the business.
It's really powerful to see that ripple effect.
You know?
And it's these things affect their health.
They affect their inability to invest in theirbusiness or take risks or just whatever.
You know?
And and so being able to help them, get out ofthe get off the hamster wheel has been just
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lights me up.
So
Yeah.
I think, couple of things there.
The first being that I know exactly what youmean, and, it's really fun and empowering when
you can help somebody see theinterconnectedness in their life that, you
know, perhaps addressing something like an,limiting belief that you help them uncover that
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they've got that sort of leading to, limitationthat they're operating from and how that is
likely to have an impact on every of area oftheir life just because of the ease or the
freedom that they create with that one shiftthat they find that they're able to make.
I think that's one very encouraging thing.
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That's so powerful.
So you sort of skipped ahead to another thoughtor question that I had, which is lovely because
I would ask you You know, what is it that youteach people?
You know, what strategies do you encouragepeople to use or us a little bit about a
methodology that you do to help people discoverthose areas that they're sort of overlooking.
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I like to call it operating on autopilot, andmaybe not knowing what's going on, but, you
know, give us a little peek into how you helppeople find those places.
And I love that question so much because, I'mall about educating my clients.
And so many people are going through life onautopilot or, you know, this this conditioning,
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you know, the programming, and they don't evenknow it.
And so what is that causing?
It's creating frustration on such massive scalebecause they don't know how to shift or how to
change or how to, yeah, just make changes intheir life that are meaningful and when I can
help them understand how their brain works, howthe quantum field works, and how our brain is
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simply emitting frequencies based on our modelof the world based on our belief system, which
is deep and and, you know, their talk show.
But our beliefs about ourselves, how worthy weare, whether it's safe to speak up, like, all
of these things are embedded in oursubconscious and our conscious is always
screaming much louder than our conscious mind.
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Mhmm.
So it's not about what we say.
It's about how we feel So if we understand thatback and forth and that nature and and the
universe require homeostasis and balance,everything else can fall into place because we
can move from a state of high entropy, which isthe chaos and disorder and lack of focus and
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frustration and procrastination, all of thatinto a state of ease and flow and where we're
actually creating Because from that state, weare activating our particular activating
system, which is now acting, you know, morelike a radar and finding things pulling data in
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from the quantum field that we actually wantand things that match higher frequencies.
So it's a matter of, you know, raising yourfrequency by lowering lowering your disorder,
your state of disorder, and then automaticallyyou will start experiencing synchronicities and
opportunities.
And and life just gets better.
And it almost seems magical, but when youunderstand the law, a balance and the laws of
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the universe and how they work, you can startto calm down and have more faith and trust and
just surrender yourself to that higher power,which means emerging.
It doesn't mean, you know, just giving up andand throwing your hands in the air.
It means understanding that there's power whenyou merge yourself with that larger system.
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Continental universe, right, source energy,whatever, anyone to call it.
We know there's something greater than usthat's that's helping us and supporting us.
I do agree with you about the, the law, so tospeak, and the order of things.
And, to your point, it does seem like perhapsit's magical, but it's it is very scientific in
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the sense that, like, we were all trained inscientific process and elementary school, It is
a set of somewhat logical steps that followwhen you can lower your amount of chaos and the
random inputs that you are operating under andmaintain your state then it gives you access
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to, as you mentioned, so much more creativityand possibility.
When you're not in this, I think the way thatwe normally talk about it is being reactive all
the time.
Right?
Like, we're constantly at the effect of what'sgoing on around us and learning how to Be more
consistently in the state that we choose can bevery empowering because when we are aware of
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our state, and can maintain the state that wechoose.
Despite the things that we face, we're betterable to have access to possibilities that are
literally always around.
But when we're losing it, we don't see those.
We don't, you know, have access to them.
We aren't, you know, as effective atimplementing or, you know, even making
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reasonable decisions sometimes can be verydifferent than, you know, it is when you're not
in your ideal state.
So I thought 100% being in reactionary mode issurvival mode.
Right.
Making decisions based on survival is no way tocreate.
It actually is probably the least, you know, wethink about survival like a bad but to be able
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to get out of survival mode, which is not ourideal operating state.
We're grateful for the ability to survive andto, you know, use survival strategies, I guess,
to make it through hard times when we're caughtby surprise.
But ideally, we would be able to shift into aposition that gives us better I don't wanna use
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the word control.
Maybe you have another one, but to be able tooperate from a more optimal state, a higher
frequency, a better position.
I think then to your point that, we're we'remore able to be in flow And, as you already
said, just have access to all of thepossibility in the crate creativity that is
available to us at any given time.
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So I appreciate that as, a strategy that youshare with people that you work with that helps
them find the places where they can shift, andit definitely makes sense with what you spoke
about earlier in terms of helping an individualnot feel like they are a victim to the typical
cycles that might happen in their life, theirbusiness, their industry, and finding a way to
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establish more calm throughout you know, theyear and to live from that place.
So I think that would be very useful.
And I can imagine people really appreciate itwhen they get to the place that they can master
that.
A question that I have in addition to this oneis what are some of the challenges that you're
seeing?
As you work with entrepreneurs or justindividuals who are seeking per transformation
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more related to personal things in their life,and how do you suggest that people navigate
some of those challenges?
One thing that I they see you commonly see, ispeople going into a personal development
program or coaching or, you know, whatever thatis in the wrong state of mind.
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As far as wrong being, you can't absorb newinformation when you're in survival mode.
You can't hear anything new.
You can't contemplate anything new.
So people who go through, come into coaching.
Let's just say, they come into coaching withme.
Or do, a personal development program, it iscritical that they understand have to calm
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ourselves first, you know, whatever that means.
It can and that's another talk show too.
Right?
But being able to to put yourself in thedriver's seat so that you have that empowerment
and you are in a state where your brain isready to receive new information, process new
information because otherwise, you you havethis belief system, and it and just nothing new
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is coming in.
It's getting bounced out as soon as it hits youknow, your your consciousness.
And so, I think that that's key.
I think that's been one of the biggest Uhas forme is realizing why people are so frustrated.
And also they don't really know exactly.
They don't know how their brain it's workingwith co on a Fields.
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And once they get that clarity and theyunderstand that everything is about balance,
they understand what the story is over herethat is playing out in their life.
And they can have the moment and then shift thestory and then the their life changes it's just
it has to.
It's law.
Yeah.
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This makes me think about something that I'velearned from, a teacher that I follow and, I
think you would agree with me that there aremultiple experts who use this language, but
it's very useful when we can learn to separateourselves from and see ourselves apart from the
sort of primitive impulses.
Sometimes it's referred to as a primitive brainbecause to your point, I think we all have
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programming that's designed to keep us safe,but safe just means familiar.
It doesn't necessarily translate to, you know,the opposite of safe isn't necessarily unsafe.
It's just, you know, the the the pattern thatwe're used to, the the the routine that we have
come to know and to your point very often, weapproach things with, and I know this already
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attitude.
We've already determined how something will go,and it's very easy to miss how those
preconceived thoughts and ideas do exactly whatyou described.
They act as almost like a Fields.
For anything new or perhaps anything that is,opposed to what we already know and believe.
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So I agree 100% that, When you are endeavoringto learn something new that you probably need
to spend some time very intentionally taking alook at What it is that you think about the
topic and where you might even meet someresistance to ideas that are presented and
probably engaging with that same type of activethought throughout the entire learning
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experience is, a meaningful way to ensure thatyou get the most out of it.
Yeah.
And and to your point as far as, you know,safety, I'm glad you brought that up because
there are different ways our brain is trying tokeep us safe.
And if our brain has a memory or an so with anevent that it perceives as a threat to our
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survival, it will do everything it has to do toprevent us from doing the thing at all or,
again, depending on what the what what has beenrecorded.
So there's the resistance comes up in ourphysical body, right, in our nervous system.
And we're like, I don't know where thisparalysis is coming from.
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Why can't I do x y z to expand my business.
Let's say, I really want to expand my businessand achieve financial security.
So I'll use an example, and she's giving mepermission to use this, to use her story.
But when we understand the law of balance,Okay?
So this this client is, wanting to expand herbusiness and generate generate wealth for
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herself, and she doesn't understand why shefeels paralyzed, overwhelmed by all the things
Why can't I just do the things I know I need todo to build my business and expand my business?
And, so when it came down to the money, we gotinto her her money story, and there was a lot
of chaos conflict.
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Pain, like, in the family around, a greatamount of Moneke, and somebody had taken their
own life as a result of losing all of thismoney.
In the family.
So to her brain, having a lot of money equalslost balance, right?
This side has to balance this side.
Her brain is recording a great amount of moneyto equates it to pain and chaos and death and
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conflict.
So what I shared with her was your brain istrying to keep you safe.
If you do generate a large amount of money inyour business, your brain believes that it's
going to create chaos and death and pain andconflict.
So if you do generate the money on this side,you will create this scenario on the other
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side.
It has to show up.
Because that's what your brain is emitting.
Large amount of money equals this.
So you have to experience that.
And she just kind of had a breakthrough momentof, oh my god, Linda.
I already did that.
And I said, what do you mean?
She said, I built up a lot of money per orprofessionally.
And then I this this, opportunity came, and itwasn't aligned with who I was.
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And my ego took over, and I thought I'm gonnamake a lot of money.
I sunk everything I had into that.
And I lost it all.
It
is that she was so depressed she almost killedhimself.
So it was like this oh my god.
Now not only does her brain have theassociation from her family and her upbringing,
It also has recorded the fact that she hasexperienced the same thing and almost took her
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life.
Her brain is gonna do whatever it has to do tokeep her alive.
Mhmm.
And once she recognized that to make theconnection of where that paralysis was coming
from, it changed everything overnight.
Everything changed for her.
It was amazing.
But that's where the safety part, you know, asfar as our brain is concerned, has one job to
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keep us safe and alive.
And We don't know the stove is hot until wetouch it.
And then we will go to our grave to a hundredyears old, not ever touching a stove again
intentionally because Our brain is creatingthat resistance when we try.
And there are times where avoiding what ourbrain perceives as danger is very useful.
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And there are equally possible times wherewe've associated a danger or a harm or some
sort of negative effect And it is notuniversally true, and it doesn't serve us for
our brain to be helping us to avoid, thosethings.
So I think that this is a really a really greatexample of, how you mentioned the transition
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can happen almost overnight.
Right?
Mhmm.
I've worked with clients who share a similarexpression of really struggling.
And this is not in the nebulous sense, beinglocked in patterns.
Right?
It could be something as simple as having acertain type of response that you're not proud
of whenever you have a particular type ofincident or You know, a lot of people talk
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about triggers, but, you know, not not to gettoo carried away with that language.
But there are so many things that can set usoff, so to speak, And when that happens and you
notice the repeated pattern, you feel, I don'tknow, guilty about it.
You're down on yourself about it.
That does not change the behavior.
It just makes you feel depressed.
It makes you feel inadequate, incapable,whatever are all the negatives.
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But when a client has an opportunity to, asyou've just described, notice what's going on
in the thinking before they start taking thosetypical actions.
Notice the feelings that they're having as aresult of the things that they're thinking and
how those two things together usually promptthem to act in very predictable ways and get
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very predictable and consistent outcomes thatjust for me and in the experience that I have
with my clients, the practice of being awareand noticing what's going on with you?
What am I thinking in this moment?
And how is this making me feel?
Creating that teeny tiny space of separationbetween whatever it is that you normally do to
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create To react that creates the results youexperience, I have observed that with my
clients and experience with myself.
How only the act of noticing can make such asignificant shift in what we typically do that
can sometimes seem impossible to change.
And back to your point about being able toshine a flashlight as it were with someone, it
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can be challenging to notice your own blinds SoI think that this is one way that it's very
helpful for you to partner with your clientsand walk alongside them as they're talking
about what's happening It's like there's anextra pair of eyes digging through the closet
so that we can figure out what's going on here.
And, hey, did you notice this box?
And it's like, Yeah.
I usually avoid that box.
I don't like looking in that box.
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That box has the unpleasant memory.
That's the one we might need to try to figureout how it's affecting what's going on.
So I appreciate the, business related and verypractical example that you share about you
know, your client's experience with kind of notunderstanding why she was hesitant to move
forward.
And, helping her to figure that out.
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I'm imagining she went on to make gooddecisions and not avoid opportunity at based on
her previous experience.
Would you say that that's the way that itworked out?
Yeah.
It's like it's like seeing you know, a clientin this vision I have of stripper jumping out
of a birthday cake.
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You know?
They're just like, Oh my god.
They feel alive.
They feel free.
They feel uncovered, and they feel empowered.
And so they know they need to do this or go youknow, speak at this event or create this online
or and they just do it.
There's no paralysis and there's no fearanymore because they've shifted the story.
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About Moneke, you know, and it's just aboutunderstanding where that fear is coming from.
And many times it's false.
It's not even ours.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So, you know, we've we've heard this phrasemany times that knowledge is power, and I think
we've heard opposition to the phrase as wellbecause there's sometimes a gap for for us
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between what we know and what we do.
And, in this instance, we've got knowledge withunderstanding, and I think that can be very
empowering, right?
As it relates to finding where you've beenlimited and sort of setting yourself free to
take the action that you desire to take and getbetter results.
Yeah.
I mean, even just take the simple thing ofbecause there's so many there's so many things
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our brain is doing, but if we simply take thethe pattern of perfectionism.
So many of us feel like we have to work so hardand so long on something.
It has to be perfect.
And we go over it and over and over and over itand we set it aside and we go eat dinner and we
come back and we go, I don't like that part.
You change it and come in.
And it takes 2 weeks to get something donewhere you could have just pushed it out in 30
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minutes and be, you know, so we are done isbetter than perfect all the time, and it's not
that simple.
For many people who have grown up in criticalenvironments with critical parents and even
ones that aren't overly critical.
It's a matter of of requiring unconditionallove.
And, oh, you didn't do do do the dishes rightor you didn't fold the laundry right or you
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didn't mow the lawn right.
These are all criticisms that are coming, youknow, from seemingly well meaning parents, of
course.
But sometimes, you know, we grow up in reallycritical environments.
So if I'm not perfect, If I don't do this theway that mom and dad want, I won't get love.
And so that perfectionism that need to beperfect all the time is recorded.
Like, you won't get love if this is notperfect.
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And we're always we're living in our lifetrying to figure out, oh, what does Monique
think is perfect?
What does that client think is perfect?
What does that prospect think is cur perfect?
How do I possibly know what you believe it theperfect mother looks like or a perfect wife.
And I'm showing up trying to, you know, be whoyou think is a perfect wife and mother so that
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you love me.
And that's what we're doing all the time.
And so when we I can just help somebodyunderstand that and get out of that cycle of
perfectionism, that is like talk about like,well, moment, freedom from that.
Yeah.
I think the way I can relate to this is veryoften, certainly for me as a child, as you
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speak about critical environments or maybeanother way to interpret that would be strict
environments, right, that Sure.
It can be very limiting And and initially, it'sthe limitation from the others, but at some
point, it transitions into limitation orcriticalness that you hold for yourself.
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You adopt that.
And I think we both, you know, subscribe tothis idea that we need to be free of the
opinions of other people.
That doesn't mean that we don't acknowledgewhen we get good feedback or respect what other
people say.
But, when we are more concerned about theopinions of other people as it relates to our
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work, it can be very limiting.
And I think to your point, breaking free of thelimitations being able to notice where they are
is another way that individuals can find spaceto breathe and then move and take action in
ways that are really authentic and aligned withthe goals and dreams that they have for
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themselves.
And, again, be very, very empowering.
I think all of this conversation is just sorich.
And to your point, we could take several of thetopics we've discussed so far and have a whole
other show just about the one concept.
So maybe we should do that.
Maybe we should do that.
Well, individuals.
Exactly.
Individuals who want to follow Linda Eske andlearn more.
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Where would they do that?
How would you suggest that they find you?
I am very easy to find.
My, my website is lyndask.com.
Know that as of today, it is live.
It is under development.
My designer is in, Spain.
We're we're meeting with him again.
This afternoon.
But I'm I'm, excited to have that go live or befully operational very soon so you can learn
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all about me and how I teach and what I teachand how I coach.
I'm on LinkedIn, Linda SK.
I'm on Instagram.
I'm on Facebook.
So just, you know, you'll see my profilepicture is the same across all platforms, so
I'm easy to identify.
That's fantastic.
So Before we wrap up, I want to ask you, justbased on your own experience, a couple of
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things, 2 things.
So the first one is I have this premise that Ilove to talk with people about how success
really is simple.
It's not easy, but it only takes simplepractices to get headed in the right direction
to build momentum and to accomplish and evenexceed you know, goals that you have for
yourself.
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So if you could tell people who might watchthis episode advice, just one thing that you
think anybody and everybody could implement tobe able to live more of the life that they
desire, not one that's limited.
What would that thing be?
If I had to pick 1
Yes.
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I would say it's critical to let go of the how.
It's one of the the biggest pieces I teach andcoach around, and it's difficult for people to
let go of that control.
To let go of the need to figure something outbecause it's what we've been taught our our
whole lives, but I can tell you it is the thebiggest piece in being able to achieve your
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dreams.
You you set your intentions.
You create your visions.
You let go of the how.
You take the inspired action when shows upbecause the universe, the quantum Fields, god
knows infinite ways to bring you what youdesire.
And when you start trying to figure it out, youare limiting yourself.
To everything you know, you've learned, you'veheard from others, what you believe is possible
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for yourself, and I can tell you from personalexperience time and time and time again when I
had a desire, it was huge.
And it's happened multiple times that I set anintention and have a desire and I let go of the
house, and I don't worry about where themoney's gonna come from or how it's gonna show
up for me, and it just does.
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And it's magical.
Yes.
And, here is yet another topic that we couldjust speak for at least a good 20 to 30 minutes
on, but this is so powerful, the point that youmake.
We've been talking about perfectionism and, youknow, getting stuck and things like that in
this in this chat.
And, There is another, individual that Ilistened to who says that it's so easy to get
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caught in the mechanics.
One of the fastest ways to bring whatever it isthat you dream of to a grinding halt is to
start focusing more than anything on the nutsand the bolts.
So your point about staying in this flow thatallows you access to inspired action and not
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operating in this place of worry where you'refiguring it out, right, but being, you know,
just more open in explorative.
I think that's such really good advice, and Iagree a 100% that everyone, whether you are an
individual seeking person transformation, abusiness owner looking for a place to figure
out how you can expand, you know, or, grow inyour business.
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This is applicable to all areas life.
I think even relationships.
Right?
Like, it just is such such good advice.
So the last thing that I have, perhaps we'vealready covered this, but I'm just curious
about even if it's your own, what is a favoritestory of transformation that you've experienced
from applying some of these strategies andprinciples?
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It might help you, or help me rather.
If you're if you could clarify so when you saystory, do you want like, a personal I did this
and experienced this.
That could work.
Okay.
Unless you're looking for something else,
No.
I'm I intended to be an open question.
So however you whatever you think is, Justsomething that you think about often.
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Maybe it's a thing that you're just so gratefulfor.
I mean, it it there are so many different waysthat I think you could take the question.
I'm really comfortable to go wherever Lindachooses to go with it.
Close it again for me.
Yeah.
So tell me about, and I'll try to phrase it adifferent way.
Thinking about the strategies and, practicesthat you've been implementing, you said that
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you experienced personally a shift in the lastyears and have just, you know, really, enjoyed
the work that you do.
Not most of it's been the last 2.
Someone that you've worked with or justthinking about your self, what's something that
looks completely different than it did sometime ago?
I don't know.
That's really what I'm thinking When I saytransformation, it isn't what it looked like it
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was going to be.
And here we are today.
And, I know in in my life, I have severalthings that I look back on regularly, and I'm
just like, wow.
I didn't see that coming.
And now that I am, borrowing the phrase thathas been stated over and over again about Steve
Jobs words.
Sometimes you can't connect the dots as youlook forward, but you can always connect the
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dots.
Back.
Right?
When you look back over your shoulder and youthink, it's kinda neat the way that came
together.
What's a favorite story you have?
It is kinda neat.
Put it in a nutshell, it's it's just it blowsmy mind.
It truly blows my mind.
And people, a lot of times, I think, aresearching for a definition of transformation,
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and it's different for every person.
The key is getting to the place of ease andflow so that you're comfortable with how your
river bends and where it takes you.
So for me, in my heart and soul, my entirelife, I always dreamed of world travel and
never experienced it.
And I laughed that, you know, I was fifty 3when I finally I discovered when I wanted to be
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when I grew up because I started coaching whenI was 5253.
And then, oh my god, this is amazing.
The changes I was making in my life, I wantedto help others experience that that too, but
it's just exponential, and it just keepsgetting better and better.
So, you know, looking back to that hopeless andhelpless shell of a a woman that I was living
in a cubicle, you know, auditing digital filesall day.
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Medication for anxiety and debilitating pain inmy shoulders, in my back, in my head, in my
neck, and just miserable existence, and beingset free from that cage, set me on this
journey.
And, you know, when you talk about travel,like, all of 2022 and the beginning of 2023,
all I did was travel.
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And I went to Iceland and Croatia and CanaryIslands and It's 15 islands in the Caribbean
over 4 or 5 cruises.
I've been lost track.
Dublin, I mean, it it's it just blows my mind,you know, Mexico and just absolutely blows my
mind, but it's it's just because that was in mysoul, my heart, that I desired that, and it
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came true.
It came to fruition because I didn't have anyresistance around it.
And when it was time, it was time.
And you know, thinking about who I was backthen, and now, you know, went to Paris in March
and spoke on, you know, stage at a women'sempowerment summit, which was Incredible.
And that came out of the blue based onsomething that, you know, a vision I had a few
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years ago, being an international speaker, Andthen in January, somebody reached out to me and
said, would you like to come speak at oursummit?
And I thought, what?
So, you know, it it's just I can't explain it.
I can't explain it.
Transformation is is empowerment andenlightenment raising your frequency to
experience all that's possible, you know, allthe magic, all of the things.
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And and it just things just come out of theblue.
I love what you've chosen to share with us,because I think it is such a beautiful example,
the way you remember yourself, the shell of awoman, you said, and who you are now this
completely open and and limitless individualwho is literally getting to live her dreams.
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So this is just such a beautiful example and agreat way to wrap up what really has been a
lovely conversation.
We could go on and on, but I guess we'll find atime that we can continue this conversation
later.
I would just like to say so much, Linda.
Thank you for joining me today and for creatingthis, conversation and space for individuals to
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learn just a little bit about what's possibleas they explore their own version of personal
or professional transformation.
Yes.
And I'm so grateful for you your new friendshipfor this connection that we have even before we
got to know each other.
And, for Yeah.
For inviting me to share space with you and andjust share a little bit about me and my heart
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and my journey.
So, hopefully, others will will see that it'spossible.
See what's possible and have hope
Yes.
Alright.
Well, thank you so much.
Thank you.
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