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In this enlightening episode of 'Renew and Transform', Mindset and Leadership Coach Moussa Mikhail delves into the principle of sowing and reaping, exploring how our intentions and actions influence the results and experiences in our lives. He emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, effective communication, and aligning our actions with our intentions. Through powerful analogies and reflection questions, Moussa guides listeners on how to improve interactions and lead with clarity and purpose. Tune in to discover how to plant the right seeds for a fruitful harvest in your relationships and leadership. Remember to subscribe, leave a review, and share this valuable insight with others.
00:00 Introduction to Sowing and Reaping
00:36 Welcome and Podcast Overview
01:24 The Principle of Sowing and Reaping
01:38 Reflection Question 1: Seeds and Fruits
02:37 Analogy: Apple Seeds and Mangoes
03:57 Communication and Misunderstandings
10:40 Reflection Question 2: Specific Seeds
12:51 Aligning Intentions with Actions
15:11 Action Steps for Better Communication
17:42 Final Reflections and Recap
18:51 Closing Remarks and Call to Action
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Moussa Mikhail (00:00):
In this episode, I want to talk about the seeds we plant, our
(00:04):
intentions and actions, and how theyrelate to the fruits that we produce,
that being our result and experiences.
We will discuss the impact and weightof our words and actions, ideas on
how to self reflect, realign, and growfrom our experiences, and the concept
and principle of sowing and reaping.
(00:26):
I'm also going to give you fourpowerful reflection questions.
That's going to shape the way youconnect with others, the way you
communicate, and the way you lead.
Stay tuned for the episode.
Welcome to Renew and Transform, apodcast to renew and transform your
mind and cultivate your leadership tolive a life worthy of your calling.
(00:46):
I'm your host, Mindset andLeadership Coach Moussa Mikhail.
Let the renewal begin.
Welcome to renew and transform.
Thank you so much for tuning in.
I appreciate you checking thepodcasts out, taking a listen.
Please remember to subscribe, leave areview and share this podcast with anyone
you feel is going to gain value from it.
(01:07):
Please check out the donor box linkin the show notes or the details of
this episode, if you choose to donateand give to renew and transform that
money goes to the production and
dissemination of this podcast so we canreach more people globally if you feel
so inclined to supporting in that way.
I want to talk about the timelessprinciple of sowing and reaping.
(01:31):
You probably have heard before, youreap what you sow, you reap what you
sow, like you get what you put in.
But let's go in a little bit deeper.
I want to ask you a powerful reflectionquestion, and this is going to be one
of the four powerful questions I'mgoing to give you during this episode.
Number one is, How are theseeds I'm planting contributing
(01:53):
to the fruit I'm seeing?
Again, how are the seeds I'm plantingcontributing to the fruit I'm seeing?
And before we get into details,I want to start off with a
scripture, 2 Corinthians 9:6.
And I'll read it to you.
Remember this, whoever sowssparingly will also reap sparingly.
(02:14):
And whoever sows generouslywill also reap generously.
So it's the principle of you'regetting what you're putting in.
You are getting what you're projecting.
And this happens in communication.
And that's where I want to focusbecause our relationships and the way
we communicate and the way we leadoften falls down to this principle.
(02:37):
And I want to start off with an analogy.
Let's say you have apple seeds andyou're going to plant them to produce
apples, but instead of producing apples,your intention is to produce mangoes.
You're really committed and yourintention is so set on producing
(02:59):
mangoes instead of apples.
But you do have apple seeds.
You can't deny that.
That's a fact, butyou're thinking about it.
You're visualizing it.
You're writing out a plan.
You're telling everyone is goingto be mangoes and you're really
intent on it being mangoes.
You have a unwaveringintention on it being mangoes.
(03:20):
So you go ahead and plant it.
You water it, you take care of it.
You harvest.
And then you produced apples andthe people, your friends, your
family, your relationships, yourbusiness partners, fill in the blank.
They're seeing these apples.
They're smelling the apples.
They could see the apples.
They pick the apples and theytaste and experience apples.
(03:41):
But your intention was forthem to become mangoes.
Now just think about howridiculous that sounds.
Obviously, if you plant apples,you're going to get apples.
If you were to plant mangoseeds, you would have gotten
mango fruit after the harvest.
so many times we do this in ourcommunication though, we are
(04:02):
planting seeds with our intentionto have a certain harvest or a
certain result or a certain fruit.
And then when we're not producingthose fruit, or if other people
aren't experiencing that fruit,because you did not plant that fruit.
We cause arguments and fights andfrustration and friction within our
(04:23):
relationships and misunderstanding.
So you're not heard, they're notunderstood, and you have this conflict.
And so can you actually be upset?
Your friends, your family, yourrelationship, your spouse, your
business partners are experiencingand eating apples, although your
intention was mangoes, even thoughyou planted apples, you thought
(04:46):
about it, you expected mangoes.
And it didn't work that way.
Cause that's not how theprinciple of harvesting works.
Can you actually be mad at them fornot experiencing what you had in mind?
No, it sounds ridiculous.
It even sounds dumb explaining it.
But that's the thing that youwant to reflect on despite your
intention ask yourself What seedsam I planting despite my intention?
(05:14):
What am I actually planting?
How am I communicating?
How am I delivering that message?
How am I communicating with my bodymy tone of voice my volume the way I
deliver my words the words I use Althoughmy intentions were good If you fail
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at explaining that or communicatingthat in a way in which someone could
experience that intention, thenyou're going to have a disconnect.
You know, at times I'vebeen misunderstood.
Oftentimes, it was my failure tocommunicate my actual feelings or thoughts
(05:56):
and to be clear, to create that clarityfor someone else to understand me well.
I was not planting seeds ofclarity in my communication.
Therefore, I was reaping the fruitsof confusion, of lack of certainty,
and just messy communication.
Now this is not always goingto be applicable to every
(06:18):
single interaction we have.
What I want to do with this episodeis to empower you to look at it from
a different perspective, because weoften put all the responsibility.
And all the expectation on theother person to understand you.
Instead of, how am I contributing tothe way someone else is interpreting me?
(06:41):
What seeds am I planting that iscontributing to the fruits I'm seeing?
Recognize that our intentions andactions have to be aligned for
us to produce the desired result.
You will harvest what you plant.
Not what you intend to plant,but what you actually plant.
(07:02):
You will harvest what you plant.
So recap on the number one questionis, How are the seeds I'm planting
contributing to the fruit I'm seeing?
Now, let's go into this a little bit moreand talk about the impact of our words
and our actions, our responsibility andour contribution to our interactions
and how we show up in our relationships.
(07:23):
Now, you could probably think about atime where you had good intentions and you
still communicated in a way that wasn'treally understood or the other person
felt hurt or disrespected or they didn'tfeel heard or understood and you had this
argument or this conflict or this fight.
And that's okay.
We're all human and it'shappened to everyone.
And there's times where wewere very effective at it.
(07:46):
We had our intentions andwe communicate it clearly.
So our intentions were understood,but it aligned with our actions.
It aligned with the words wespoke and how we acted and the
actions that produced the harvest.
And we can then enjoy the fruits ofthat kind of connectedness, that love,
that joy, the peace, patience, andthe good fruit that come from when we
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actually communicate in a loving way.
And sometimes you're going to communicatewell, and the other person may not have
the emotional maturity to understand,or the coping mechanisms to truly
hear you or the skills to actuallylisten and understand, because it is a
skill, a skill that we're not taught.
How to actively listen and seekto understand another person well,
(08:30):
for example, if you're communicatingin a way and the other person is
experiencing, the fruit they'reexperiencing is anger or confusion
or fear, then maybe, maybe they're anangry person, maybe they're not able to
process their emotions or self regulate.
Or maybe you are planting seeds of angerand fear and aggressiveness in your
(08:57):
communication, based on your tone, yourvolume, the way you're communicating,
your choice of words, and the way you'relooking, the way you're carrying yourself,
the way you hold your body, your posture,maybe you're planting those seeds that
are contributing to the experience,even if you're well intentioned and you
have a passionate way of communicating,you can still be planting those seeds
(09:19):
that leave other people scared.
So you have to reflect on that.
Is that something that you're plantingor is that something that is dealt
or is that something that they hadinherently in them before, based on their
experiences, their beliefs, and the waythey lived life prior to that interaction.
(09:40):
Another example, if you're communicatingin a way and the other person is
experiencing distrust, they're seeingand tasting the fruits of distrust.
Maybe they don't have the capacityto trust people, or they have trust
issues, or maybe you're the onethat is planting seeds of distrust,
(10:00):
planting seeds of doubt, or lack ofclarity, or uncertainty in the way
you're communicating, in what you'resaying, or the way you're showing up.
Your lack of confidence, or your lack ofcertainty is projecting that onto them,
and they're experiencing that fruit.
Even though your intention might not be.
To oh, let me make thisperson not trust me.
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I'm just probably not your intentionLike oh, how what can I say?
And how can I say it in a waythat they could be afraid or angry
or frustrated or not trust me?
No, you're not thinking that wayyou're communicating that Even without
speaking, you're communicating thosethings and you're planting those seeds.
So question number two that I wantyou to consider and reflect on.
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What seeds am I planting?
What specific seeds am I planting?
Number one,
the number one question washow are the seeds I'm planting
contributing to the fruit I'm seeing?
And again, number two, whatspecific seeds am I planting?
Is it my tone of voice?
Is it my language?
Is it my volume?
(11:05):
Is it my posture?
Is it my aggressiveness?
Is it my lack of empathy?
Whatever it is, reflect and thinkabout it because that is how you
improve on your communication skills.
When you're able to reflecton it, you can find the
misalignment, the miscommunication.
The seeds that now I didn'tactually want to plant those seeds.
(11:26):
Let me clarify the seeds thatI actually wanted to plant.
Every interaction you haveis an opportunity to grow in
your communication skills.
Every time you speak, you havethe opportunity to improve how you
communicate and your effectiveness.
When a communication or interaction or anargument or a fight or whatever, doesn't
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go well, take the time to evaluate that.
Take the time to ask yourselves, whatseeds did I plant in this interaction?
How did I show up?
How did I communicate?
What did I say that wasn't effective?
How did I not get understood?
Was it their ability tonot listen or hear me?
Or was it my failure to communicatewell and with clarity so that another
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person can easily understand it?
Ask yourself, how can Ilearn from these experiences?
How can I learn from this?
Because when you ask thatquestion, your brain will
automatically search for an answer.
You will find the answers andyou get some value out of it.
You get something that youcan apply or learn or clarify.
(12:35):
Like, Hey, was it when I saidthis and this and this, that made
you feel, Blank, because then youcan improve those interactions.
Cause if you don't improve, you're goingto have the same problems, the same
friction, and eventually you're goingto ultimately lose all effectiveness.
Next question I want to give you toreflect on How can I align my intentions
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with the seeds that I'm planting?
How can I align my intentionwith the seeds I'm planting?
Sometimes it could be as clear and assimple as explaining your intention
before you make a statement, but thatrequires a level of self awareness.
What is my intention?
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when you go into a conversation, whenyou go into meeting with someone and
having a difficult conversation, youmust ask yourself, what's my intention?
What is my goal?
What is the outcome Iwant to produce here?
What is the fruit I want?
If someone's mad at you and you're goingto reconcile, think about the intention
and then communicate that upfront.
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Hey, my intention is to restorethis and get to a place where we can
genuinely communicate without havingthis type of friction, whatever it is.
Communicate that intention.
How can I align my attentionwith the seeds I'm planting?
Remember the principle, you reap whatyou sow, not what you think about.
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necessarily, but what you actually,so what you put in the ground and what
you water, what actions are you taking?
You can easily align those actions withyour intention, but you can't lose focus
on the consistency that that's requiredto build that level of trust and to make
it easy for your people to understand.
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And so that the door is open as well.
Communicate in a way that thereis a open line of communication
where they can address that.
They can address their uncertainty.
They can address the confusion.
They can call you out on the seeds.
Like that's not coming off, right?
Like I feel that that's disrespectful.
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Say it again, say a differentway, communicate it better.
open that line for feedback becausesometimes you won't even know
how people are experiencing you.
You won't even know the fruitsthat they're seeing based on how
you're communicating to them.
So open that line, allow yourselfto be humble enough to receive
that feedback from people.
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So they can tell you, this iswhat I'm experiencing right now.
So here's two action steps that youcan start taking to get better at this.
Number one is awareness.
Cultivate awareness on theseeds that you're planting
and how you're communicating.
And you can do that by thequestions I'm asking you.
What specific seeds am I plantingand what fruit am I actually reaping?
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And are they aligned?
Some of it's in your control.
Some of it's not, you can't necessarilycontrol what other people perceive, but
you can control how you communicate.
So if there's a misperceptionor a misinterpretation, it's
not necessarily their fault.
It could be, they could be programmedto just see the worst and they already
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hate you and they come in with theirbiases and their prejudice, but you
can control how you communicate.
You can control and communicateyour intentions and communicating in
such a way that it's clear, crystalclear on what seeds you're planting.
The second action step issheer commitment, commitment,
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commitment, commitment,
commit to the actions.
That enforce your desired outcome.
Commit to the actions thatreflect your desired outcomes.
Were your intentions clear?
And did they match your actions?
You can ask yourself that.
Were my intentions clear anddid they match my actions?
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Or was my intention one thing,but I planted apple seeds.
But I really wanted mangoesto be produced and I wanted
people to experience my mangoes.
But now they're eating apples, and they'llnever know what my mangoes taste like.
And that's the next questionI want you to consider.
Were my intentions clear, anddid they match my actions?
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my intentions clear, anddid they match my actions?
And just to recap the points.
You can't harvest mangoesif you plant apples.
You reap what you sow, andyou harvest what you plant.
recognize what's in your control.
You can't control what they thinkor they perceive, but you can
control your words and your actions.
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Remember what you can control,your words and your actions.
Remember to reinforce.
The importance of aligning yourintentions with the actions that
will produce the results you want.
Aligning your intentions and actions.
And last point, the impact ofour communication in how other
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people are going to perceive us.
Now I invite you to reflect onthe fruits you're producing.
Reflect on the seeds thatyou've been planting.
And the results and experiences you'vebeen creating for yourself and others.
Thank you very much.
And again, I'll recap thefour questions to do this.
Number one.
What specific seeds did I plant?
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Number two.
How can I learn from this experience?
Number three,
Were my intentions clear anddid they match my actions?
Number four, how did the seeds I plantedcontribute to the fruit I'm seeing?
Remember these four questions.
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Take the time to reflect.
Take the time to learn andgrow from every interaction.
Take the time That goes positiveand that doesn't go positive.
You learn something every time andyou increase your effectiveness as
a man, as a woman, as a leader, asa friend, as a parent, by asking
yourself, what seeds am I planting?
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And you start gaining that awareness.
And once you gain that awareness, youhave the leverage and power to change.
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And remember, do not conform tothe pattern of this world, but be
transformed by the renewing of your mind.
Then you will be able to testand approve what God's will is.
His good, pleasing, and perfect will.
In this episode, I want to talk about the seeds we plant, our
(00:04):
intentions and actions, and how theyrelate to the fruits that we produce,
that being our result and experiences.
We will discuss the impact and weightof our words and actions, ideas on
how to self reflect, realign, and growfrom our experiences, and the concept
and principle of sowing and reaping.
(00:26):
I'm also going to give you fourpowerful reflection questions.
That's going to shape the way youconnect with others, the way you
communicate, and the way you lead.
Stay tuned for the episode.
Welcome to Renew and Transform, apodcast to renew and transform your
mind and cultivate your leadership tolive a life worthy of your calling.
(00:46):
I'm your host, Mindset andLeadership Coach Moussa Mikhail.
Let the renewal begin.
Welcome to renew and transform.
Thank you so much for tuning in.
I appreciate you checking thepodcasts out, taking a listen.
Please remember to subscribe, leave areview and share this podcast with anyone
you feel is going to gain value from it.
(01:07):
Please check out the donor box linkin the show notes or the details of
this episode, if you choose to donateand give to renew and transform that
money goes to the production and
dissemination of this podcast so we canreach more people globally if you feel
so inclined to supporting in that way.
I want to talk about the timelessprinciple of sowing and reaping.
(01:31):
You probably have heard before, youreap what you sow, you reap what you
sow, like you get what you put in.
But let's go in a little bit deeper.
I want to ask you a powerful reflectionquestion, and this is going to be one
of the four powerful questions I'mgoing to give you during this episode.
Number one is, How are theseeds I'm planting contributing
(01:53):
to the fruit I'm seeing?
Again, how are the seeds I'm plantingcontributing to the fruit I'm seeing?
And before we get into details,I want to start off with a
scripture, 2 Corinthians 9:6.
And I'll read it to you.
Remember this, whoever sowssparingly will also reap sparingly.
(02:14):
And whoever sows generouslywill also reap generously.
So it's the principle of you'regetting what you're putting in.
You are getting what you're projecting.
And this happens in communication.
And that's where I want to focusbecause our relationships and the way
we communicate and the way we leadoften falls down to this principle.
(02:37):
And I want to start off with an analogy.
Let's say you have apple seeds andyou're going to plant them to produce
apples, but instead of producing apples,your intention is to produce mangoes.
You're really committed and yourintention is so set on producing
(02:59):
mangoes instead of apples.
But you do have apple seeds.
You can't deny that.
That's a fact, butyou're thinking about it.
You're visualizing it.
You're writing out a plan.
You're telling everyone is goingto be mangoes and you're really
intent on it being mangoes.
You have a unwaveringintention on it being mangoes.
(03:20):
So you go ahead and plant it.
You water it, you take care of it.
You harvest.
And then you produced apples andthe people, your friends, your
family, your relationships, yourbusiness partners, fill in the blank.
They're seeing these apples.
They're smelling the apples.
They could see the apples.
They pick the apples and theytaste and experience apples.
(03:41):
But your intention was forthem to become mangoes.
Now just think about howridiculous that sounds.
Obviously, if you plant apples,you're going to get apples.
If you were to plant mangoseeds, you would have gotten
mango fruit after the harvest.
so many times we do this in ourcommunication though, we are
(04:02):
planting seeds with our intentionto have a certain harvest or a
certain result or a certain fruit.
And then when we're not producingthose fruit, or if other people
aren't experiencing that fruit,because you did not plant that fruit.
We cause arguments and fights andfrustration and friction within our
(04:23):
relationships and misunderstanding.
So you're not heard, they're notunderstood, and you have this conflict.
And so can you actually be upset?
Your friends, your family, yourrelationship, your spouse, your
business partners are experiencingand eating apples, although your
intention was mangoes, even thoughyou planted apples, you thought
(04:46):
about it, you expected mangoes.
And it didn't work that way.
Cause that's not how theprinciple of harvesting works.
Can you actually be mad at them fornot experiencing what you had in mind?
No, it sounds ridiculous.
It even sounds dumb explaining it.
But that's the thing that youwant to reflect on despite your
intention ask yourself What seedsam I planting despite my intention?
(05:14):
What am I actually planting?
How am I communicating?
How am I delivering that message?
How am I communicating with my bodymy tone of voice my volume the way I
deliver my words the words I use Althoughmy intentions were good If you fail
(05:35):
at explaining that or communicatingthat in a way in which someone could
experience that intention, thenyou're going to have a disconnect.
You know, at times I'vebeen misunderstood.
Oftentimes, it was my failure tocommunicate my actual feelings or thoughts
(05:56):
and to be clear, to create that clarityfor someone else to understand me well.
I was not planting seeds ofclarity in my communication.
Therefore, I was reaping the fruitsof confusion, of lack of certainty,
and just messy communication.
Now this is not always goingto be applicable to every
(06:18):
single interaction we have.
What I want to do with this episodeis to empower you to look at it from
a different perspective, because weoften put all the responsibility.
And all the expectation on theother person to understand you.
Instead of, how am I contributing tothe way someone else is interpreting me?
(06:41):
What seeds am I planting that iscontributing to the fruits I'm seeing?
Recognize that our intentions andactions have to be aligned for
us to produce the desired result.
You will harvest what you plant.
Not what you intend to plant,but what you actually plant.
(07:02):
You will harvest what you plant.
So recap on the number one questionis, How are the seeds I'm planting
contributing to the fruit I'm seeing?
Now, let's go into this a little bit moreand talk about the impact of our words
and our actions, our responsibility andour contribution to our interactions
and how we show up in our relationships.
(07:23):
Now, you could probably think about atime where you had good intentions and you
still communicated in a way that wasn'treally understood or the other person
felt hurt or disrespected or they didn'tfeel heard or understood and you had this
argument or this conflict or this fight.
And that's okay.
We're all human and it'shappened to everyone.
And there's times where wewere very effective at it.
(07:46):
We had our intentions andwe communicate it clearly.
So our intentions were understood,but it aligned with our actions.
It aligned with the words wespoke and how we acted and the
actions that produced the harvest.
And we can then enjoy the fruits ofthat kind of connectedness, that love,
that joy, the peace, patience, andthe good fruit that come from when we
(08:09):
actually communicate in a loving way.
And sometimes you're going to communicatewell, and the other person may not have
the emotional maturity to understand,or the coping mechanisms to truly
hear you or the skills to actuallylisten and understand, because it is a
skill, a skill that we're not taught.
How to actively listen and seekto understand another person well,
(08:30):
for example, if you're communicatingin a way and the other person is
experiencing, the fruit they'reexperiencing is anger or confusion
or fear, then maybe, maybe they're anangry person, maybe they're not able to
process their emotions or self regulate.
Or maybe you are planting seeds of angerand fear and aggressiveness in your
(08:57):
communication, based on your tone, yourvolume, the way you're communicating,
your choice of words, and the way you'relooking, the way you're carrying yourself,
the way you hold your body, your posture,maybe you're planting those seeds that
are contributing to the experience,even if you're well intentioned and you
have a passionate way of communicating,you can still be planting those seeds
(09:19):
that leave other people scared.
So you have to reflect on that.
Is that something that you're plantingor is that something that is dealt
or is that something that they hadinherently in them before, based on their
experiences, their beliefs, and the waythey lived life prior to that interaction.
(09:40):
Another example, if you're communicatingin a way and the other person is
experiencing distrust, they're seeingand tasting the fruits of distrust.
Maybe they don't have the capacityto trust people, or they have trust
issues, or maybe you're the onethat is planting seeds of distrust,
(10:00):
planting seeds of doubt, or lack ofclarity, or uncertainty in the way
you're communicating, in what you'resaying, or the way you're showing up.
Your lack of confidence, or your lack ofcertainty is projecting that onto them,
and they're experiencing that fruit.
Even though your intention might not be.
To oh, let me make thisperson not trust me.
(10:22):
I'm just probably not your intentionLike oh, how what can I say?
And how can I say it in a waythat they could be afraid or angry
or frustrated or not trust me?
No, you're not thinking that wayyou're communicating that Even without
speaking, you're communicating thosethings and you're planting those seeds.
So question number two that I wantyou to consider and reflect on.
(10:44):
What seeds am I planting?
What specific seeds am I planting?
Number one,
the number one question washow are the seeds I'm planting
contributing to the fruit I'm seeing?
And again, number two, whatspecific seeds am I planting?
Is it my tone of voice?
Is it my language?
Is it my volume?
(11:05):
Is it my posture?
Is it my aggressiveness?
Is it my lack of empathy?
Whatever it is, reflect and thinkabout it because that is how you
improve on your communication skills.
When you're able to reflecton it, you can find the
misalignment, the miscommunication.
The seeds that now I didn'tactually want to plant those seeds.
(11:26):
Let me clarify the seeds thatI actually wanted to plant.
Every interaction you haveis an opportunity to grow in
your communication skills.
Every time you speak, you havethe opportunity to improve how you
communicate and your effectiveness.
When a communication or interaction or anargument or a fight or whatever, doesn't
(11:51):
go well, take the time to evaluate that.
Take the time to ask yourselves, whatseeds did I plant in this interaction?
How did I show up?
How did I communicate?
What did I say that wasn't effective?
How did I not get understood?
Was it their ability tonot listen or hear me?
Or was it my failure to communicatewell and with clarity so that another
(12:15):
person can easily understand it?
Ask yourself, how can Ilearn from these experiences?
How can I learn from this?
Because when you ask thatquestion, your brain will
automatically search for an answer.
You will find the answers andyou get some value out of it.
You get something that youcan apply or learn or clarify.
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Like, Hey, was it when I saidthis and this and this, that made
you feel, Blank, because then youcan improve those interactions.
Cause if you don't improve, you're goingto have the same problems, the same
friction, and eventually you're goingto ultimately lose all effectiveness.
Next question I want to give you toreflect on How can I align my intentions
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with the seeds that I'm planting?
How can I align my intentionwith the seeds I'm planting?
Sometimes it could be as clear and assimple as explaining your intention
before you make a statement, but thatrequires a level of self awareness.
What is my intention?
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when you go into a conversation, whenyou go into meeting with someone and
having a difficult conversation, youmust ask yourself, what's my intention?
What is my goal?
What is the outcome Iwant to produce here?
What is the fruit I want?
If someone's mad at you and you're goingto reconcile, think about the intention
and then communicate that upfront.
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Hey, my intention is to restorethis and get to a place where we can
genuinely communicate without havingthis type of friction, whatever it is.
Communicate that intention.
How can I align my attentionwith the seeds I'm planting?
Remember the principle, you reap whatyou sow, not what you think about.
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necessarily, but what you actually,so what you put in the ground and what
you water, what actions are you taking?
You can easily align those actions withyour intention, but you can't lose focus
on the consistency that that's requiredto build that level of trust and to make
it easy for your people to understand.
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And so that the door is open as well.
Communicate in a way that thereis a open line of communication
where they can address that.
They can address their uncertainty.
They can address the confusion.
They can call you out on the seeds.
Like that's not coming off, right?
Like I feel that that's disrespectful.
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Say it again, say a differentway, communicate it better.
open that line for feedback becausesometimes you won't even know
how people are experiencing you.
You won't even know the fruitsthat they're seeing based on how
you're communicating to them.
So open that line, allow yourselfto be humble enough to receive
that feedback from people.
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So they can tell you, this iswhat I'm experiencing right now.
So here's two action steps that youcan start taking to get better at this.
Number one is awareness.
Cultivate awareness on theseeds that you're planting
and how you're communicating.
And you can do that by thequestions I'm asking you.
What specific seeds am I plantingand what fruit am I actually reaping?
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And are they aligned?
Some of it's in your control.
Some of it's not, you can't necessarilycontrol what other people perceive, but
you can control how you communicate.
So if there's a misperceptionor a misinterpretation, it's
not necessarily their fault.
It could be, they could be programmedto just see the worst and they already
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hate you and they come in with theirbiases and their prejudice, but you
can control how you communicate.
You can control and communicateyour intentions and communicating in
such a way that it's clear, crystalclear on what seeds you're planting.
The second action step issheer commitment, commitment,
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commitment, commitment,
commit to the actions.
That enforce your desired outcome.
Commit to the actions thatreflect your desired outcomes.
Were your intentions clear?
And did they match your actions?
You can ask yourself that.
Were my intentions clear anddid they match my actions?
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Or was my intention one thing,but I planted apple seeds.
But I really wanted mangoesto be produced and I wanted
people to experience my mangoes.
But now they're eating apples, and they'llnever know what my mangoes taste like.
And that's the next questionI want you to consider.
Were my intentions clear, anddid they match my actions?
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my intentions clear, anddid they match my actions?
And just to recap the points.
You can't harvest mangoesif you plant apples.
You reap what you sow, andyou harvest what you plant.
recognize what's in your control.
You can't control what they thinkor they perceive, but you can
control your words and your actions.
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Remember what you can control,your words and your actions.
Remember to reinforce.
The importance of aligning yourintentions with the actions that
will produce the results you want.
Aligning your intentions and actions.
And last point, the impact ofour communication in how other
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people are going to perceive us.
Now I invite you to reflect onthe fruits you're producing.
Reflect on the seeds thatyou've been planting.
And the results and experiences you'vebeen creating for yourself and others.
Thank you very much.
And again, I'll recap thefour questions to do this.
Number one.
What specific seeds did I plant?
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Number two.
How can I learn from this experience?
Number three,
Were my intentions clear anddid they match my actions?
Number four, how did the seeds I plantedcontribute to the fruit I'm seeing?
Remember these four questions.
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Take the time to reflect.
Take the time to learn andgrow from every interaction.
Take the time That goes positiveand that doesn't go positive.
You learn something every time andyou increase your effectiveness as
a man, as a woman, as a leader, asa friend, as a parent, by asking
yourself, what seeds am I planting?
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And you start gaining that awareness.
And once you gain that awareness, youhave the leverage and power to change.
Again, please subscribe, leave a review.
Please reach out to me onInstagram, @mikhailcoaching.
I'd love to connect with youand I'll see you next time.
God bless you.
Thank you for tuning in.
Be a light and share this withsomeone you love and care about.
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And please subscribe and leave areview so we can reach more people.
And remember, do not conform tothe pattern of this world, but be
transformed by the renewing of your mind.
Then you will be able to testand approve what God's will is.
His good, pleasing, and perfect will.
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