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If you are struggling with mental healthissues, if you're struggling in general,
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it does not mean you're not smart.
It does not mean you're not capable.
It does not mean you are weak.
It just means you are human.
Welcome to Renew and Transform, apodcast to renew and transform your
mind and cultivate your leadership tolive a life worthy of your calling.
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I'm your host, Mindset andLeadership Coach Moussa Mikhail.
Let the renewal begin.
Welcome to Renew and Transform.
Thank you for tuning in.
This episode I want to talk aboutone of the greatest issues in our
society that's plaguing humanityacross the globe, especially our
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youth, especially here in America.
We're seeing a increase In mentalhealth issues, an increase in
violence, an increase in suicide,amongst many other things.
And I want to talkabout our peace of mind.
As you probably realize for yourself,and myself as well, there are
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many things that steal our peace.
Some of the main things are personalexperiences, whether that's our
relationships with people, our spouse,our loved ones, friends, co workers,
whoever those are, it could be traumaticexperiences, it could be even those
experiences that are not very substantialbut can affect us emotionally at, you
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know, driving in traffic, getting cutoff, someone saying something that
disrespected you or a co worker, whatever.
Not acknowledging you or aboss or whatever the case is
you can fill in the blanks.
You have enough examples onpersonal experiences that steal
your peace Sometimes the greatestdeception is that we don't even
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recognize how unpeaceful we are.
We don't take the time to reflect andlook at it and ask ourselves, like,
What really is stealing my peace here?
And is it worth my peace?
Is this worth my peace?
Is that person cutting me off becausethey think they're in a hurry and
they're going to get somewherefaster really worth my peace?
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Is what somebody said worth my peace?
Is my, whatever my bosssaid really worth my peace?
Depression is a big thing in our society.
We, a lot of us have Experience a partof it to some extent, maybe the feeling
of it, but not in the elongated stateof depression, but there's depression,
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there's anxiety, there's stress,there's panic, there's so many things
that can affect our mental health.
Your mental health affects how you think.
That's the biggest thingthat our mental health does.
This is a cycle.
It affects how we think.
And our thoughts and how wethink affect how we feel.
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Our feelings and our emotions.
Our thoughts influence this.
Until you, realize this, you can startdirecting your thoughts rather than
saying, these are just my thoughts.
These are just my feelings.
I have no control.
That would be more of the victimmindset where you're powerless,
but that's not the truth.
That's not what the Bible says.
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That's not what God says.
That's not what you need to hear.
And that's not what youneed to tell yourself.
How you feel, your emotions will thenaffect how you act and what you do.
Your mental health affectshow you handle stress.
Your capacity to handle stress.
Your mental health affectshow you relate to people.
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Whether that's your intimaterelationships or just people
in general, wherever you go.
Your mental health affects how youbounce back or how you don't bounce back.
Your ability to be resilient.
Your ability to weather the storm.
When you're in a dark, depressedplace, your capacity to
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have resilience is lessened.
It's thin.
Easily breakable.
Your mental health affects how youmake choices and what choices you make.
Your mental health affects how you cope.
And your mental health affectshow you choose your friends.
And then we know our friends have agreat impact on our brains and our
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mindsets unconsciously and consciously.
We begin to behave like the peoplewe spend the most time with.
And here's a myth.
Here's a myth that has beencirculating society for a long time.
And this is something that inspiredme to want to talk about it and
why this podcast is going to beabout mindset a lot of the time.
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It's because.
Mental health, and if you're strugglingwith mental health, you shouldn't be.
If you're, even if you're a strongChristian, if you have the Bible,
if you have Jesus, you shouldn'tstruggle with mental health.
Or if you're a man, you're supposed to bestrong, you shouldn't be, you shouldn't
be struggling with mental health issues.
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Or if you're an adult, you shouldbe able to just overcome any
issue you have because of yourage or whatever the case is.
Or in some way that if you struggle,especially with mental health, that it's
a negative thing or it's a bad thing.
And that is a complete lie.
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With mental health, there's a lotof things that could be wrong.
Improve them.
There are many, it could be many thingsthat we need, but the main things I
found are first we need better friends.
We need friends that encourage us and helpus and guide us and speak life into us,
that are able to pray for us, that areable to just weather those storms with us.
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More often than not we need moresleep, but the challenge is when you're
already dealing with mental healthissues That takes away from your sleep
Which then affects your mental healtheven more because you're now deprived
of sleep But a lot of times sleepallows things to come back online.
That must be a high priority.
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We may need more exercise We knowwhen we're in our head and we're
dealing with a lot of things mentally,we need to activate our body.
Get out of your mindand get into your body.
Start activating your body.
Start working out.
Start moving as little as you can.
Developed it over time.
Consistency is the key.
Just move your body.
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Get out of your head and move yourbody is the quickest way to I believe
to get out of this habit or pattern ofstress, depression, anxiety, you name it.
A big thing is that society doesn't wantto make as normal, but we are seeing
efforts to make it more normal and moreacceptable and more encouraged is therapy.
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If you've dealt with trauma in yourlife, it should be something that you
definitely look into having some type oftherapy where you can really dive deep.
Into the history of your experiences,those traumas, those things, and
how they affect your life now.
And those coping mechanisms thatyou've developed when you were five
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years old, and younger or older,dealing with stress and dealing with
trauma, those coping mechanisms mightnot support you now as an adult.
They might only hinder you from havingthe intimate relationships that you really
desire, and that you really deserve.
It might hinder you from havingeffective performance in your career.
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It might hinder you in havingthe healthiest body you can have.
Addressing these thingsfrom our childhood.
Addressing our issues thatwe never fully grieved.
Addressing those things, thoselosses, those pains in our life.
Those suffering that we've experienced.
That we never truly allowedourself to grieve because society
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says you have to keep on going.
You have to go to work now.
You have to do this.
You have to do that.
You gotta keep moving.
You gotta be strong for the family.
And you never actually grieved.
You never actually processed the pain.
You never actually recognizedor took a deep look and a deep
dive into those things that arecausing you to think a certain way.
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You those things that are making you act acertain way and feel a certain way, those
things that have created your habits, andwhy you always produce the same results.
Therapy can assist you with that.
And even another thing that is definitelyneglected in society today is nutrition.
The ability to eat well can provide thenutrients we need for our brain to fire
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on all cylinders, to work properly.
We need to feed our brain thethings that it actually needs.
If you are struggling with mental healthissues, if you're struggling in general,
it does not mean you're not smart.
It does not mean you're not capable.
It does not mean you are weak.
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It just means you are human.
It is part of our experience.
And it's most likely that you'retrying to deal with it on your
own, and you don't have to.
Your life is always moving in thedirection of your most dominant thoughts.
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The great news is, you, as athinking human being, have been
blessed with the ability andliberty to choose how you think.
But so often, more oftenthan not, We are reactive.
We are operating from in a subconsciousplace on autopilot where Circumstances,
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life, people, our external life isCommunicating to us and affecting
how we think and what we think about.
I think the average human sees 10,000 advertisements a day on average.
You are being conditioned to think aboutcertain things Your life will go in the
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direction of your most dominant thoughts.
Therefore, you need to start controllingwhat you think about the most.
Intentionally choosing to thinkabout what empowers you, to think
about things that are above andgood, like God, and morals, and your
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ethics, your values, your integrity.
Start thinking about The things that willactually help you develop better habits.
Start thinking about the people thatyou can serve and get out of your own
head and get out of your own darknessand to serve someone who is even less
fortunate than you start thinkingabout things that encourage you.
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Instead of the news, which mightmake you feel less than great.
Start thinking about the quotes orscriptures or books or music, even movies
and shows that actually inspire you totake action and learn more about yourself
and your mind and why you do what you do.
Your brain is constantlymaking connections and becoming
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efficient with those connections.
It's like electricity creating a pathway.
And once that pathway happens afew times, it starts getting easier
and easier for your brain to pass.
Those electromagnetic signals to each nodein your brain, and you start developing a
pattern, you start developing a habit, andbecause your brain is electricity, it's
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gonna follow the path to least resistance,the one that's so ingrained, the road to
that there's already an engraved trail on.
It doesn't want to go off trail.
It wants to stay on the trail thatyou've been traveling on for the
last 5, 10, 15, 20, 40, 50, 60 years.
Because that's the same road it takes,the same thought pattern that your
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mind has been taking for decades.
You have to intentionally choose,I'm going to take the harder way.
I'm going to get off road.
I'm going to get off this trail.
I'm going to scale this sideof this mountain because I
don't want to think like that.
And then what happens when you starttaking a new trail over and over
and over, you create a new trail.
And then guess what?
Your brain's going to takethe path to least resistance.
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Once you solidify thattrail, you're going to start
habitualizing that thought process.
You're not going to continue to thinkthe way you used to think, but it takes
that initial effort and intention to gooff trail and fight the resistance long
enough for you to not think the same way.
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If these negative thoughts arehappening over and over and over,
they become negative thought habits.
Negative thought patterns.
Those patterns then becomenegative feeling patterns.
Those negative feeling patternsbecome negative action habits.
Negative behavior patterns.
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Negative habits.
And then that becomes negative.
Produces your life, yourhabits produce your life.
Romans 12:2 tells us to not conform tothe pattern of this world, but to be
transformed by the renewing of your mind.
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Do not conform to the patternsof this world if you're not
intentionally creating your patterns.
The healthy patterns that are writtenout and spelled out in the Bible, in
Proverbs, in the way that we can thinkto live an honorable and righteous life.
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If you're not intentionally seekingout those patterns, you are going to
be overcome by the world's patterns.
Whatever the world tells you, whatever themedia tells you, whatever social media.
Tells you, whatever your friendstell you, whatever your family tell
you, whatever your co workers tellyou, whatever people say, whatever
you see, and whatever you consume.
Because those thingsdetermine how you think.
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Do not conform to the patternsof this world, but be transformed
by renewing your mind.
Your mind, one thought at a time.
So I want to ask you, what areyou fixing your thoughts on?
What are you fixing your thoughts on?
What are you fixing your mind on?
The great thing about thisneuroplasticity, you don't have to
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fix your mind on the former things.
You have the ability to fix your mindon those things that can renew it.
So you don't just stay the same, becauseif you do nothing, you'll get nothing.
If you stay doing the same thing,you're going to get the same result.
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Before I wrap this up, one thing you cando to renew your mind is try giving your
issues, try giving your troubles to Jesus.
He can renew your mind.
You have nothing to lose, but all to gain.
Much love.
Thank you for tuning in.
Be a light and share this withsomeone you love and care about.
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And remember, do not conform tothe pattern of this world, but be
transformed by the renewing of your mind.
Then you will be able to testand approve what God's will is.
His good, pleasing, and perfect will.