May 13, 2025 • 55 mins
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Daily Beloved, we'll gathered here today to get through this
thing called life.
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You are listening to The Reset Yourself to Podcasts with
your host, Jimmy Dunhalas.
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Hello, Hello, Hello, as she said, my name is Jimmy
Gonzalez and this is the Reset Yourself twenty two Podcasts,
Episode one, one hundred and seventy five. I remember one hundred.
I remember actually doing one hundred like it was. Actually
I remember a lot of them, but one hundred and
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seventy five podcasts. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Thank
you to the regulars that every week tune in to,
some of you that actually will skip a month of
them and then all of a sudden, just like listen
to them all at once, and they write to me
about it, different thoughts, comments, the reviews. I appreciate it,
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as I said, more than you'll ever know. Thank you,
Thank you for listening. Thank you for the many listeners
across the many different platforms. Spreaker obviously is my host,
but a lot of I get have a lot of
listeners on Apple and a few other places, and for
that thank you. But in this weekly podcast, I focus
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on sparking your inner confidence and igniting your belief in yourself.
I'm your host and I am always very thrilled to
share my thoughts and research with you. As we go
along in this journey. Together, we can nurture a mindset
that empowers us to reach our fullest potential. I write
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a record every episode with him and challenge our thinking
and to encourage us to reflect and inspire actionable, realistic
steps towards our personal growth. Whether you're facing a career transition,
seeking to overcome challenges, or simply striving for greater fulfillment
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in life, this podcast is your go to research or
resource for motivation and practical insights. Our inspiration, my inspiration
to do this is to show each of us that
we need to teach people to focus more on what
they can accomplish, so that they can do the things
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they need to do when they need to do them,
so that they ultimately get what they want when they
need them. Basically, it's paying forward. It's not just focusing
on you and your needs. It's just a greater good
of sharing the time on this planet that we all
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have by bettering ourselves, loving ourselves, respecting ourselves, forgiving ourselves,
but at the same time empowering those around us, and
as one we move mountains. I share with you every week.
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Tell me what you want and I will show you
how to get it, but you have to be willing
to do the work. I know that in our lives
there is just so much going on, and that's why
I decided to write an episode about the power of
stopping and just being in the moment in all of
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its complexity, Because sometimes it seems like it doesn't slow down.
But from the moment we wake up, we are completely
immersed in our responsibilities and the noise and the endless
demands put on us. That alarm clock buzzes, children crier chatter,
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emails flood in, family members need support, and the day's
tasks begin to pull us in a dozen different locations.
Think about it. You wake up and you haven't even
got out of bed yet, and you're already scrolling the world.
In today's fast paced world, we're busy has become a
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badge of honor. I have so much to do, I
am juggling so much. It is easy to get lost
in the blur of motion and noise. We often find
ourselves reacting to life rather than engaging with it consciously.
But in the midst of all this chaos, there lies
an incredible opportunity to stop, to be president, to choose
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to live deeply rather than just exist quickly. I want
to talk about the importance of cultivating presence amidst the
WorldWind of our daily lives. It invites you to consider
that even when there is a lot going on in
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your home, with your family, at work, or within our
own thoughts, we still have the power to choose how
we show up every day. That power lies in our
ability to stop, to breathe, and to connect with the moment.
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It is here in this grounded awareness, that resilience I'll
mention that word a few times during this episode, is born,
and a better day, a better month, and a better
life will begin to unfold in front of us. From
the instant our eyes open in the morning, we are
pulled into life's momentum. We might hear the ding of
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a phone notification before we even, as I said, sit
up out of bed. Maybe a child is already asking
for breakfast, or a partner reminds us of a schedule change,
and the many things we have to do by noon.
The kitchen is already a flurry of activity. The commute
to where we need to go is rushed, and meetings
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or deadlines loom on the horizon. Appointments after appointment, and
everything I need to do by noon, by two, by
four thirty. Even at home, the rhythm rarely slows, chores away,
family needs persist, and mental to do lists continue to
expand and expand and expand. SOID note here where I live,
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we are what's considered on slow time. This is Central time,
where I am not Eastern as I've been used to
my entire life. But the funny thing is I live
literally not far from the line. So every day, whether
it's an appointment or whatever I need to do, I
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need to check if it's on Eastern or Central. And
the funny thing is when you make appointments, people will
say to you, are you on slow time or on
fast time? And it's just that's when you begin to
truly appreciate when you're on fast time, up a little
bit more north and to the east, and you get
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to go, as I like to think of it, back
in time. So let's say for example, in a town
up north called Elizabethtown, and I'm done for the day
and I'm driving back home, I go back in time.
If it's four o'clock. I now know that by the
time I get home, it'll be three o'clock. It's the
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little things that you appreciate that extra hour, and it
happens often. And it's funny because in the beginning it
was a pain in the ass. It was very confusing
for me. But now I enjoy it. I enjoy teasing
myself with the fact that I get to go back
in time. Home is going back and slowing down. It's
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funny because these experiences are I'm not unusual. Most people
today live with constant, overlapping demands from multiple domains work, family,
personal goals, health concerns, financial pressures, and social expectations. And
beneath these outer responsibilities lies the inner chatter of the mind,
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self doubt, worry, hopes, and dreams. Will we accomplish everything
we want by end of day, by end of month,
by end of our life? God, we carry on so much.
We are doing so much, and an awful It often
feels like we just there's not gonna be enough time
or space to do it or to just be in
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the moment. But in truth, the more chaotic life becomes,
the more vital it is to create that space, because
otherwise we risk losing ourselves, not in a dramatic way,
but slowly, subtly, and the routine of surviving rather than
just living. We can spend years, and many of us
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do right autopilot, wondering why joy feels distant, why time flies,
and why we feel so disconnected from ourselves and the
people that we love. When we choose to not pause,
we disconnect not only from the present moment, but from ourselves.
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We stop hearing our own inner guidance. I don't have
time for that little voice anymore. I have shit to do.
We lose touch with our creativity or joy and our
emotional truth. We begin to operate like machines. We become efficient,
but perhaps not fulfilled. I've brought this up in the
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past few podcasts, especially since I moved from Connecticut to
Kentucky now nine months ago, ten months ago, nine months ago.
It's I forced we force ourselves by moving to now
really just be in the moment and not just saying
it over and over, because for us, this is like
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a hard reset where I knew I no longer choose
to or want it to live in the rat race,
and to be able to really experience living my life
moment by moment. You see, the responsibilities of life haven't changed.
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It's just to focus and where I put my energy
that has And I'm learning that every day more and
more to maneuver around what matters more most in this moment,
which really is what's important. Instead of constantly living by
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the clock, I now live by the minute, by the second,
and I take the time to look at it all
every chance I have to look out at the sky,
at the clouds, at the sun, at the cows, at
the horses, at the chickens. I do every drive that
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I take from here to there, I don't focus on
getting there anymore. I don't focus on making sure that
it's at the right time. Between here and there, the
drive is going to happen, so I might as well
enjoy the drive, enjoy the moment, enjoy my company, enjoy conversation,
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enjoy my ride, and enjoy everything that I see out
in the distance, the fields, the cows, the farms, the barns,
and him. You enjoy it all, and you learn to
truly savor it all, even the silliest of moments. In fact,
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this weekend I had to build another coup. Thank you
to Melissa for putting up with me during this time.
I built another coup for my chickens. For now. I
have three age groups and I needed to make one
now for what I guess you would consider my teenagers,
you know, the middle children. So now they have a
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very nice, roomy chicken apartment which I recently because it's clean.
I went and laid down in and it is nice.
It was very nice actually, and I had to set
it up because we do have creatures of the night
that may come through and do their thing. So because
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of that, I wanted to make sure that they were
secure and they were safe, and it was enjoyable for
me and hopefully for Melissa. And my dog's oouncer is barking.
So now this new chicken apartment now has, as I said,
a lot of room, and like I said, you get
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to really slow down and take in the energy of
my barn. My barn was built before the nineteen hundreds.
It's every time I walk in there think about it.
Every single day I've been walking in there now.
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For nine months, and it was amish built. It's beautiful
hand hewn wood, the old beams.
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It was a tobacco barn. And the funny thing is
I got to meet a lot of the neighbors that
grew up climbing those beams and hanging tobacco as kids.
And I can't help but stand there and wonder, Wow,
if this barn could talk, just the stories of everyday life,
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making a living. So many suns, that's so many beautiful days,
so many storms, but it still stands. Many consider chickens
to just be another animal, another form of protein, and
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you know, meat substance. You know, they just feed us
eggs and their meat. But I personally don't use their
plan on using them for meat chickens, But I do
appreciate that many the many gifts that they give me.
Every day, I receive eggs like crazy, and then in return,
like I said, I make sure that they are safe
and that they are comfortable, and that they can enjoy
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their lives as much as they help me enjoy mine.
You see, when you slow down, there's something to be
said for really being able to focus on the big
picture that's racing by and you're no longer glancing at
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it quickly, but you're taking it all in. When this happens,
you really get to look around, Conversations become more interesting,
food becomes to taste better. This is when you really
start to appreciate every single thing that you have, especially,
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like I said, the smallest of things that we don't
even bother with. I hate to compare this, but I
always have to because I've been in that position, and
I know what it's like to be forced to have
to see your life from a perspective that you may
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no longer have it. Laying in a hospital bed, that
is usually when people focus on how important life was
and you hope that it can still be. A life
is moment. Here you are laying in a bed, listening
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to that stupid machine beep, waiting to see where the
nurse is, where food is, looking out the window, wondering
what everybody else is doing while I'm sitting here, hopefully healing.
As you listen to this right now, think about it,
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there may be somebody, hopefully not you, but somebody in
that situation in a hospital somewhere or sick at home
and not be able to really enjoy the moment. Praying God,
please please please give me that second chance. And sadly,
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how quickly many of us get it, and how quickly
we just click auto pilot all over again, focused on
the watch, the time, where I need to be, how
long I need to be there. Instead of stopping and
enjoying the journey there, enjoying just being there, you really
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start to You're forced to slow down and enjoy it all,
and you realize every breath you take you can't help
but really smiling more, laughing more, and of course you
know it's it's I'm a realist. I mean, you still
have the bad moments. Of course I still do. But
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this comes down to how much time you choose to
allocate towards the good and the bad. Yes, you do
need time, take time to stop and and and focus
on bills and worry and problems. But my issue is
we focus too much on those problems and not solving
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the problems, not fixing the We just focus on the problem.
If something happens and your first reaction is uh oh,
you get nothing out of that? Uh oh means nothing.
The answer should be okay, okay, what am I gonna do?
How are we gonna resolve this? I take control of
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my life. I took control of my life many years ago,
and I have not let go of it. That's why
I am not an uh oh person. I see something,
I see an issue, and I take My first reaction
is take action, not worry, not stress. It's a waste
of my time. When we're always rushing to the next thing,
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we don't have time to appreciate the beauty of what's
happening right now. A quiet moment with a child, to
share a laugh with a partner, the way sunlight filters
through a window. These things are easily missed when our
attention is consumed by what comes next. God, that's so
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true on a deeper level. Because of this, our relationships suffer,
and presence is one of the greatest gifts we can
offer others being in the moment, But when our mind
is elsewhere, our connection becomes shallow. Children, partners, friends, they
all feel the difference. When we are just distracted by time,
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and perhaps most tragically, we begin to feel like strangers
to ourselves. We may wake up one day and wonder
how we even got here, or why we feel empty
despite achieving so much. But disconnection is not a life sentence.
I mean, the antidote is very simple, though not always easy.
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It is basically to stop breathe and return to the present.
I recently went to eat dinner at a restaurant here,
and I could tell that our waiter was probably a
little bit on newer side, and he wasn't great at
balancing what it takes to be weight staff, which to me,
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I so applaud my weight staff always. I appreciate them.
I know, I know it's it's not easy for this,
especially for the amount of money they make. They have
to cater to some real assholes. And that's why I
always go above and beyond to be super nice to them.
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I mean, be happy with my service all of the time.
But this guy was funny because we were sitting there
just waiting for some dishes. I always bring something home
to my dogs, and waiting for some little containers to
put some stuff, and I could I could watch him
and I could see that he kept he was balancing
four five tables, and two of them there was a
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lot of people at and I would notice it every
time he would get to that table, which one was
in front of me and one was behind me. We
were in the middle. He would just forget because as
he walked up to each other table, they would throw
new things at him, and it wasn't until he passed
us that he would look and go oh yeah, and
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he went, oh my god, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry.
My thing is Number one, I'm sitting here. Number two,
I already ate, thank you. Number three. I'm very comfortable. Okay.
I'm comforted with my body, I'm comforted with my mind,
and I'm comfortable in this chair because there are so
many horrible places where I can be right now, and
if I have to wait another few minutes, so be it.
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I'm blessed that I grew up in a household that
my parents, which is funny because as a kid I
didn't understand. But now I look back and I'm like,
so so grateful to my parents that taught me presence.
I need you while I am doing X, Y and
Z to sit there and wait. And luckily we didn't
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have iPads and tablets and phones with no I just
sat there and deduce. Or what I truly enjoyed was
just looking out the window and daydreaming, what do I
want to do? Who do I want to be? I
did that constantly, what can I do with my life?
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How many different hats am I going to wear? Who
will I become? Where will I end up? So taught
me patience, especially when it comes to a situation like that,
instead of being rude and obnoxious, It's like, I mean,
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mind you, if I really had someplace to go, I
would just get up and help myself at you know,
heading for the door. But I count not only my blessings.
I count my minutes, and I enjoy as I sit
there and I look around and I take it all in.
I enjoy my company, and I enjoy and am blessed
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by the meal that I just had. And I was
taught to breathe, and for that I am so grateful.
But again, you have to learn. You have to learn
to stop, even for a few seconds, and to reclaim
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your power and to say I choose to be here now,
no matter what is going on. For some of us,
it's a radical act of self awareness and self love.
Stopping doesn't mean you abandon your responsibilities. It means you
meet them with clarity now and intention, rather than just
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running into I have so much to do. I am
balancing and juggling the world. Chances are you're probably doing
a shitty job at it. You can't do five, four, six,
seven things at once. You can't. You think you can,
You can't. Trust me. I try, but I still have
to take a moment in between tasks to focus on
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that task and finish it from start to finish. Yes,
I can do four or five things at once, but realistically,
I'm putting my energy towards one until it's done. Because
when we stop and ground ourselves in the moment, we
access a much much deeper sense of calm, because then
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when we're done with that task, we appreciate it. We
don't just like, Okay, I'm done with that, onto the
nesk next. I finished the chicken coop. I actually went
and laid in it. I looked up in a round.
This is cool. I hope they feel safe. I even
saged it. I blessed it. That's what I do. I
put positive energy into it that they are protected God's creatures.
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And when you do this, your breath slows down, your
mind settles and remember what matters most, and you begin
to act from purpose rather than reaction. And in this
place of presence, we often find solutions to the very
problems that seem so overall pressing. You see, when you stop,
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inspiration arises, compassion returns, and gratitude begins to truly unfold.
It is in the space between doing that and being
that you feel reborn every day, every morning, and being
is where our strength lives. I ask that you strive
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to become resilient through presence. Resilience is again, it's not
about powering through every challenge with brute force. It's about adaptability, awareness,
and inner strength, and presence is the foundation of all three.
When we are present, we are more aware of our
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emotional state. We recognize when we are overwhelmed and can
respond with self care rather than just collapse. We become
better at setting boundaries, managing stress, and choosing our battles wisely,
and not going through life wanting to be numb. I
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know many that have that do, but you have to
understand that going through life numb, to me, you're cheating life.
You're lying to life. You're being a gift you're giving.
You're given a gift to enjoy it all, but it's
too much, so I'm just going to be numb through
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it instead of facing a head on like the bison.
I was sharing that with somebody this weekend that you
always hear these things about where the buffalo roams. It's
so funny. Yeah, it's not true. There are no buffalo
in the US. What. Yeah, there's no buffalo. It's bison.
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Buffalo is an animal that's from Asia and Africa and
has very different horns. We have just gotten lazy for
way too long and seen bison and just called it buffalo,
to the point that we have buffalo New York and
the buffalo bills. And you know, it's funny because there's
a company in Kentucky that he actually has, like you know,
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we're the buffalo roams. We've all heard that, and I
just think it's funny because well, they haven't roamed here.
I mean, yes, they are in zoos, and they are
in private facilities, private you know, private ownership that people
may have them, but roaming, No, it's it's bison. And
the beauty of why I even bring this up is
because the bison, unlike cows. One thing about living here
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is right outside my door, I have a kettle farm
right there, and there's hundreds of cows there and then
to the back hundreds of cows. And I've gotten to
really study them. Yes, I watched them daily, how they
react to whether, how they react to each other, and
it's fascinating. And a few months about a month ago,
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I actually walked right up to the fence and I
stood there and it was funny because it was like
you could hear, like the tread, the soft trample of
as I got closer to the fence, there was probably,
in my view easily about fifty of them right next
to each other. And as I got closer to the fence,
it was like and he got away from me, and
then I stopped, and they stop. And then I turned around
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and I started walking away from the fence slowly, and
I could hear, I could feel them right at the
fence and they're looking at me. And I turned around
and I started walking towards the fence again. This went
on for like ten minutes. But the energy that they
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gave off was massive. It's they have big spirits, and
it's pretty cool. It's pretty cool. But the funny thing
is I find is that cows when there is a storm,
when they're scared, they run from it. Bison or as
many of you like to say, buffalo, they don't. They
run to it. That's actually a tattoo I want to get.
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I want to get a bison tattoo because I love
the concept that when you have a problem, you don't
to get numb from it. You don't run from it,
you don't hide from it. You find the solution for it.
Whatever the problem is. There's people that their problem is death,
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and what do they do. They fight it, they find
the answers. They go to different doctors, they go to
different surgeons, different hospitals. They fight it. Or you can
just crawl up into a ball and die. It's up
to you. But the bison, when there's a storm coming,
they actually go in it because their mentality is the
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quicker you go through it, the quicker you come out
at the back. Running from your problems is kind of
a waste. It's always going to be there. You have
to solve your problem, think about it. Like I said,
when we are present, we are more aware of our
emotional state, and this is when we recognize when we
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are overwhelmed and can respond with self care rather than,
like I said, just surrendering to the world. You take
control and you become better at setting boundaries, managing your stress,
and choosing your battles wisely, presence. Being present also allows
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us to find meaning in the difficulty that we are in.
Rather than seeing challenges as threats and uh oh, we
begin to view them as teachers. We learn to ride
the waves of life with grace. As I've said to
somebody recently, the older we get, the wiser you get,
the more you've been around. This is a rodeo that,
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my friends, you have ridden so many times. If you
find yourself in the golden years, in your golden years,
still stressing over the pettiness of life, haven't you been
around enough? As I've shared in a few podcasts, a goal,
it's like the world coaster ride. You've been around enough.
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You've seen mourning, you've seen evening, you've seen morning, you've
seen evening, you've seen storms, you've seen sickness. You've felt great,
you have felt miserable, you have had great moments, bad moments,
sad moments, happy moments, and you keep going around. So
to go through it again and feel as if you've
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never gone through it, that's a problem. That's a problem
that you need to reference and find the strength, the knowledge,
And sadly, most of it just comes from here. You've
already been here presence and understand that this kind of
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resilience just doesn't help survive hard times, it helps us
grow through them. It makes us more compassionate, and more
courageous and more connected to our wonderful lives. Ends with
the simple, powerful decision to stop and return to this moment.
But when do I finally start to live my life?
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The life that so many of us get lost in
our lives. And from time to time we find ourselves
being inspired, empowered by a podcast, by a book, by
a movie, by some amazing conversation with wonderful friends, that
inspire us, that help us, that challenge us to believe
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in ourselves and do better for ourselves. But when do
you know to finally take the leap to just jump
forward and choose when to begin to take control of
your life? What is the best day, the best month,
so that you can now have your best life. It's
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tempting to believe that a great life life is the
result of just big changes, a new job, a better house,
more and more money, because money is what's going to
make my life perfect. But the truth is that a
beautiful life is built one moment at a time. It
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is created through the small, consistent practice of choosing presence.
You can have the best day, not because everything goes perfectly,
but because you decide to meet the day with gratitude, curiosity,
and presence. You can have the best month, not because
there are no problems, but because you face them with
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resilience and love. You can have the best life, not
because you escape chaos, but because you find yourself finding
peace within this chaos. Every day starts to say some good,
some bad. If you ask yourself what kind of day
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am I going to have? I usually tell people it's
your choice, and they look at me as if they
don't have control of their day. I didn't ask to
have my car breakdown. I didn't ask to have cancer.
I didn't ask for my house to burn down, for
a tornado to take my barn. I understand that, but
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how did you view the situation. I have had the
pleasure in the past of being a worker, a representative,
a rescuer for the ASPCA, and I got to go
to a few different locations, Joplin, Missouri being the one
that that was hit by a tornado, and I got
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to meet people actually in Tennessee. Also, I got to
meet people that were sitting there was this lady. I'll
never forget her. She's she's like just burned into my memory.
Just imagine driving down the street where the entire neighborhood
is pretty much gone. Luckily, some of the houses are
smoothly gone. Others are just destroyed in and there are
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remnants of people. But I came across this one lot
where there was just the base of the house and
a chair and a lady sitting there and you could
see in the background out in the distance some of
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her well stuff. And my job at that time was
to go to each home and to check and see
if there are animals and you know, anybody left or whatever.
And it was quite weird walking up to her and
she's just sitting there, and I mean like her her
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foundation was clean, just one chair and her. And as
we got closer it was me and another volunteer. She
said to me. I said hello, and she said hello,
and all she had to say was I would offer
you lemonade if I could. I can't help, but but
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but find myself silly when I complain over stupid shit,
you know, having to sit somewhere and wait, or not
having everything exactly how I want it. And the funny
thing is that entire section that I went to, they
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rebuilt because, as I told somebody the other day, for them,
the house, the stuff, that's all it is. They really
do value their lives. That's why so many will say, like,
you know, when people lose their house is like, you know,
why do you keep your building? Are you stupid? You
know I would just move, And I get it, and
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I'm not gonna lie to you. It's hard not to
agree with that way of thinking. But to them, they
don't value their home. They don't value their things. They
value their lives. They value the moment. They value the
fact that they weren't injured, they weren't hurt. They love
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their land, they love as I love to say, they're dirt.
Like I said, being down here is very different. It's
not just another state. It's a very different way of thinking.
And I have yet to meet anybody who thinks the
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way I used to when I was up north. Here
it's you truly live in the second and you're grateful
for everything, whether it's good, bad, or ugly, you're just
grateful for it. Like I said, you can have the
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best day, not because everything goes perfectly because you decide
to meet the day with gratitude, curiosity, and presence, you
can have the best life. Every morning you are invited
to choose how you will show up, how you will
begin your day. Will you rush blindly through it? Or
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will you stop breathing arrive fully in the moment? Will
you stop when you have that cup of coffee? Look
out as I do, look out my kitchen window at
the view that I have. There is a house, I
have another house. Our neighbor is way out there on
the top of a hill, and between us there's about
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like two hundred head of cattle all in you know,
it's just beautiful to look at. And every more, Actually,
when I wash dishes, I've always been I don't mind
washing dishes. I love to clean my house. But it's funny.
Where I used to live, all I saw was my
neighbor's backyard with tons of stuff. He was a hoarder,
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and it is what it is now. There's no fence
and it's just land that goes on as far as
you can see. And every morning I have my cup
of coffee and I take time to just even if
I'm just washing dishes, I look out that window and
I stop. When was the last time you stopped? Instead
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of complaint? Even washing dishes? Oh, I hate washing dishes.
You know I love washing dishes because if I'm washing dishes,
it means that I just had a great meal. If
I'm washing clothes, it means that I had clothes to
wear again. See what I mean of how you see
your life? Sometimes the problems that we create aren't problems.
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Every moment you are invited to choose how you will
show up. Think about that. Are you gonna wake up
and just start complaining? Hopefully? I don't know if you are.
Do you know of anybody who is a constant complainer,
who can complain about everything? A lot of times we
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let the noise of life drown us instead of finding
stillness within our lives, and sadly the choice is yours.
Sometimes we get lost in the idea that we can't
just take a break, we can't just smell the roses
because we just have too much on our plates. Is
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I want to ask that you find the courage to pause,
because it does. It takes courage to slow down in
a world that is always rushing. It takes courage to
be intentional when everyone else is reactive. It takes courage
to say I will not live on autopilot, I will
just be here and now. But when you make that choice,
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everything changes. You begin to feel more alive, You become
more present for your loved ones. You experience more joy,
and more creativity and a lot more clarity. You discover
that even amidst the chaos, or perhaps because of it,
you are capable of living deeply, beautifully and truthfully. This
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is the essence of mindfulness, resilience, and true fulfillment. And
it is available to you in every single moment, in
every single day, and all you have to do is stop.
Of course, as many of you know, I like to
give out homework, and I always recommend that you do
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it with someone that'll keep you honest, and we'll share
things about you that you sometimes don't see. But here's
a few exercises that I thought of. One is very simple.
It's called My favorite time is the morning pause. You
know that cup of coffee. Now, I need to get dressed.
I need to do this because I'm running late. You
know what, Set the clock a little bit earlier, Go
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to bed early, go to bed early. You know why
you're missing the day you're missing so many opportunities. Begin
your day with intention and presence before you check your
phone or get out of bed, take three minutes, you
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know what forget three minutes? Three minutes? It's one hundred
and twenty seconds. No, no, no, how about just sixty seconds?
Actually no, it's not. It's one hundred and eighty. But
place your hand on your chest or your stomach and
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feel your breath. Do it while you're laying in bed,
Sit up in bed, get out of bed and just
stand right there. Or maybe I have to go pee? Good,
go pee, And then while you're sitting on the toilet
you're ready, place your hand on your chest or your
stomach and feel your breath and ask yourself, how do
I want to feel today? What do I want to
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bring to this day? And intentions, simple intentions that you
could just say and truly mean today. I will stay
calm today, I will not lose myself in X, Y
and Z. I will be present today. I will be
kind to myself. This is something I bring up often.
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How many of you don't. Most of you don't even
realize how negative you are to yourselves. People talking about others,
bullying and others. But people bully themselves constantly. Remember what
you say, you hear, and what you hear, you begin
to feel and believe I'm this, I'm that, I'm fat,
I'm this, I'm stupid. Keep saying it, keep saying it,
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because your subconscious mind is going, Okay, this is it.
We're writing this shit and cement. Then I, as a hypnotist,
have to come later on and just no, it's not true.
This small pause sets the tone for the entire day
and helps your respond rather than react to life's demands.
Think about it. So you have an entire day ahead
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of you of so many ups and downs and this
and that. All I'm asking you to do is just
take a few minutes. Do it while you're sitting in
the toilet, do it while you're in the shower. Thank
you to just go. I have running water, it's it's hot.
I'm blessed, I have a roof over them. I'm blessed.
I ate, or I'm going to eat. I'm blessed. I
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have a car to get to where I need to
go to or I have some change to take the
bus or an uber to get to work. I'm blessed,
I'm alive, I'm blessed. This is what will set the
tone for the rest of your day. Then I have
something that I like to call the one minute anchor
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one minute again another one sixty seconds purpose to bring
back yourself back to the moment during stress or overwhelm. Yes,
what you want me to focus on it? Yeah? Uh.
When you're clear and you're just relaxing, think about the
moment that you lost it last when you felt overwhelmed.
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And then stop and take a moment and close your eyes,
take a few slow, deep breaths and say silently, that
was then, This is now. I am here, My feet
are on the ground. Now, I'm surrounded by oxygen. I'm
in my body, my bones, my flesh, my blood, and
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think about it. So much is happening in my body
right now, so much. But I'm past it. Whatever storm
I dealt with, I was the bison I went through,
And I'm here. That was yesterday, that was last week.
And let your mind settle and ask what is one
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thing that I can do next? With clarity, I appreciate
the lesson that I've learned. I have moved on. I'm
here now, and let your mind settle why this works.
Dispras the cycle of panic fear. It's a waste of time.
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Fear is a fucking waste of time. I watched people
in it, and it's it's a shame because they don't
see what they are doing to their body. Instead of
facing fear, they let it control them. You ask yourself,
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You tell yourself, now I have now moved on. That
was yesterday. Today is a new day. And this will
break the cycle, as I said, of panic and fear,
and it will ground me in my body and in
the present moment, seeking purpose. And then your whole day
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has gone by. Okay, so you had your your morning,
you had your present day, and now you have the
evening reflection. Look at that, I'm yawning like as if
it's ready to go. It's morning. But yeah, you like
to sleep to end your day always with gratitude and
self connection. How to do that? Before you go to sleep,
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take five minutes before you reflect what moments today made
me feel alive? What made me smile, who made me
feel special? What inspired me? What challenged me? What made
me feel like shit? Who was mean to me? And
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then you ask yourself, well, why what was it me?
Maybe I did something wrong? Maybe I just screwed up.
It happens. I said, shit, I shouldn't have said. Maybe
I was envious, maybe I was jealous. But as a hypnotherapist,
a specialist in subconscious mind, I will teach you something
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before you go to bed, those last few minutes. That's
why you hear like, never go to bed angry, never
you know, never go to bed fighting with somebody. It's
actually true because the last thing you want to do
is when you're like really starting to fall asleep, and
I mean like you're going through the different stages of sleep.
That's what I do as a hypnotist with you. I
bring you through those stages where your conscious mind the
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chattering monkey. Okay, right now you're listening to me with
your conscious mind, I make it shut up, I make
it relax, and I focus on your subconscious mind back here.
Let's just say that is where the axis I need
to get to to figure out what you think is
it and it's really not. And that's where I tell
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you to feel love, to forgive, to let go, to believe.
So when you without hypnosis, when you're going to bed,
you know how now I'm talking about like those last
few minutes right before you go to bed you're just
about falling asleep. Fill your mind with beautiful thoughts, positive thoughts,
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with love, with courage, with compassion, Smile, be grateful for
the day, look forward to the night, and hopefully you'll
have tomorrow. This way of thinking helps you process today
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and makes you realize that you did your best, that
you are enough. And this helps you reinforce your presence
and you end your evening with peace rather than just
mental clutter. Don't ever go to bed angry. Go to
bed almost like dream before you dream? What is it
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you want in life? What are your dreams, your goals?
See them as you're going to bed, how you want
to see everything? See it play out in your mind,
over and over and over before you go to bed.
You'd be surprised how many times you end up dreaming that, yes,
I understand there's a lot going on as the show
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began always, but that doesn't mean you must be swept
away by it. You are allowed to stop, you are
allowed to breathe, You are allowed to live this moment fully,
and in doing so, you unlock the most powerful version
of yourself, the one who is resilient, aware, loving and free.
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And like this you live the best day, the best month,
and life begins with a single breath, a single moment
of presence, and that moment is now. I hope I
made you think. I hope I made you question your existence,
your day, and to appreciate every tomorrow, every today, and
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be grateful for all of the experiences of the past
that have made you who you are. Right now, keep
this in mind. Choose action over excuse, purpose over comfort,
and the work that matters over the distractions, the many
distractions that just don't because I know there are many,
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most of them don't. My name is Jimmy Gonzalez and
this was the Reset Yourself twenty two podcasts. Thank you
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It means a lot to me. Many many blessings to
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Hello, Hello, Hello, as she said, my name is Jimmy
Gonzalez and this is the Reset Yourself twenty two Podcasts,
Episode one, one hundred and seventy five. I remember one hundred.
I remember actually doing one hundred like it was. Actually
I remember a lot of them, but one hundred and
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seventy five podcasts. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Thank
you to the regulars that every week tune in to,
some of you that actually will skip a month of
them and then all of a sudden, just like listen
to them all at once, and they write to me
about it, different thoughts, comments, the reviews. I appreciate it,
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as I said, more than you'll ever know. Thank you,
Thank you for listening. Thank you for the many listeners
across the many different platforms. Spreaker obviously is my host,
but a lot of I get have a lot of
listeners on Apple and a few other places, and for
that thank you. But in this weekly podcast, I focus
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on sparking your inner confidence and igniting your belief in yourself.
I'm your host and I am always very thrilled to
share my thoughts and research with you. As we go
along in this journey. Together, we can nurture a mindset
that empowers us to reach our fullest potential. I write
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a record every episode with him and challenge our thinking
and to encourage us to reflect and inspire actionable, realistic
steps towards our personal growth. Whether you're facing a career transition,
seeking to overcome challenges, or simply striving for greater fulfillment
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in life, this podcast is your go to research or
resource for motivation and practical insights. Our inspiration, my inspiration
to do this is to show each of us that
we need to teach people to focus more on what
they can accomplish, so that they can do the things
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they need to do when they need to do them,
so that they ultimately get what they want when they
need them. Basically, it's paying forward. It's not just focusing
on you and your needs. It's just a greater good
of sharing the time on this planet that we all
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have by bettering ourselves, loving ourselves, respecting ourselves, forgiving ourselves,
but at the same time empowering those around us, and
as one we move mountains. I share with you every week.
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Tell me what you want and I will show you
how to get it, but you have to be willing
to do the work. I know that in our lives
there is just so much going on, and that's why
I decided to write an episode about the power of
stopping and just being in the moment in all of
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its complexity, Because sometimes it seems like it doesn't slow down.
But from the moment we wake up, we are completely
immersed in our responsibilities and the noise and the endless
demands put on us. That alarm clock buzzes, children crier chatter,
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emails flood in, family members need support, and the day's
tasks begin to pull us in a dozen different locations.
Think about it. You wake up and you haven't even
got out of bed yet, and you're already scrolling the world.
In today's fast paced world, we're busy has become a
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badge of honor. I have so much to do, I
am juggling so much. It is easy to get lost
in the blur of motion and noise. We often find
ourselves reacting to life rather than engaging with it consciously.
But in the midst of all this chaos, there lies
an incredible opportunity to stop, to be president, to choose
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to live deeply rather than just exist quickly. I want
to talk about the importance of cultivating presence amidst the
WorldWind of our daily lives. It invites you to consider
that even when there is a lot going on in
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your home, with your family, at work, or within our
own thoughts, we still have the power to choose how
we show up every day. That power lies in our
ability to stop, to breathe, and to connect with the moment.
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It is here in this grounded awareness, that resilience I'll
mention that word a few times during this episode, is born,
and a better day, a better month, and a better
life will begin to unfold in front of us. From
the instant our eyes open in the morning, we are
pulled into life's momentum. We might hear the ding of
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a phone notification before we even, as I said, sit
up out of bed. Maybe a child is already asking
for breakfast, or a partner reminds us of a schedule change,
and the many things we have to do by noon.
The kitchen is already a flurry of activity. The commute
to where we need to go is rushed, and meetings
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or deadlines loom on the horizon. Appointments after appointment, and
everything I need to do by noon, by two, by
four thirty. Even at home, the rhythm rarely slows, chores away,
family needs persist, and mental to do lists continue to
expand and expand and expand. SOID note here where I live,
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we are what's considered on slow time. This is Central time,
where I am not Eastern as I've been used to
my entire life. But the funny thing is I live
literally not far from the line. So every day, whether
it's an appointment or whatever I need to do, I
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need to check if it's on Eastern or Central. And
the funny thing is when you make appointments, people will
say to you, are you on slow time or on
fast time? And it's just that's when you begin to
truly appreciate when you're on fast time, up a little
bit more north and to the east, and you get
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to go, as I like to think of it, back
in time. So let's say for example, in a town
up north called Elizabethtown, and I'm done for the day
and I'm driving back home, I go back in time.
If it's four o'clock. I now know that by the
time I get home, it'll be three o'clock. It's the
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little things that you appreciate that extra hour, and it
happens often. And it's funny because in the beginning it
was a pain in the ass. It was very confusing
for me. But now I enjoy it. I enjoy teasing
myself with the fact that I get to go back
in time. Home is going back and slowing down. It's
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funny because these experiences are I'm not unusual. Most people
today live with constant, overlapping demands from multiple domains work, family,
personal goals, health concerns, financial pressures, and social expectations. And
beneath these outer responsibilities lies the inner chatter of the mind,
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self doubt, worry, hopes, and dreams. Will we accomplish everything
we want by end of day, by end of month,
by end of our life? God, we carry on so much.
We are doing so much, and an awful It often
feels like we just there's not gonna be enough time
or space to do it or to just be in
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the moment. But in truth, the more chaotic life becomes,
the more vital it is to create that space, because
otherwise we risk losing ourselves, not in a dramatic way,
but slowly, subtly, and the routine of surviving rather than
just living. We can spend years, and many of us
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do right autopilot, wondering why joy feels distant, why time flies,
and why we feel so disconnected from ourselves and the
people that we love. When we choose to not pause,
we disconnect not only from the present moment, but from ourselves.
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We stop hearing our own inner guidance. I don't have
time for that little voice anymore. I have shit to do.
We lose touch with our creativity or joy and our
emotional truth. We begin to operate like machines. We become efficient,
but perhaps not fulfilled. I've brought this up in the
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past few podcasts, especially since I moved from Connecticut to
Kentucky now nine months ago, ten months ago, nine months ago.
It's I forced we force ourselves by moving to now
really just be in the moment and not just saying
it over and over, because for us, this is like
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a hard reset where I knew I no longer choose
to or want it to live in the rat race,
and to be able to really experience living my life
moment by moment. You see, the responsibilities of life haven't changed.
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It's just to focus and where I put my energy
that has And I'm learning that every day more and
more to maneuver around what matters more most in this moment,
which really is what's important. Instead of constantly living by
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the clock, I now live by the minute, by the second,
and I take the time to look at it all
every chance I have to look out at the sky,
at the clouds, at the sun, at the cows, at
the horses, at the chickens. I do every drive that
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I take from here to there, I don't focus on
getting there anymore. I don't focus on making sure that
it's at the right time. Between here and there, the
drive is going to happen, so I might as well
enjoy the drive, enjoy the moment, enjoy my company, enjoy conversation,
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enjoy my ride, and enjoy everything that I see out
in the distance, the fields, the cows, the farms, the barns,
and him. You enjoy it all, and you learn to
truly savor it all, even the silliest of moments. In fact,
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this weekend I had to build another coup. Thank you
to Melissa for putting up with me during this time.
I built another coup for my chickens. For now. I
have three age groups and I needed to make one
now for what I guess you would consider my teenagers,
you know, the middle children. So now they have a
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very nice, roomy chicken apartment which I recently because it's clean.
I went and laid down in and it is nice.
It was very nice actually, and I had to set
it up because we do have creatures of the night
that may come through and do their thing. So because
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of that, I wanted to make sure that they were
secure and they were safe, and it was enjoyable for
me and hopefully for Melissa. And my dog's oouncer is barking.
So now this new chicken apartment now has, as I said,
a lot of room, and like I said, you get
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to really slow down and take in the energy of
my barn. My barn was built before the nineteen hundreds.
It's every time I walk in there think about it.
Every single day I've been walking in there now.
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For nine months, and it was amish built. It's beautiful
hand hewn wood, the old beams.
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It was a tobacco barn. And the funny thing is
I got to meet a lot of the neighbors that
grew up climbing those beams and hanging tobacco as kids.
And I can't help but stand there and wonder, Wow,
if this barn could talk, just the stories of everyday life,
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making a living. So many suns, that's so many beautiful days,
so many storms, but it still stands. Many consider chickens
to just be another animal, another form of protein, and
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you know, meat substance. You know, they just feed us
eggs and their meat. But I personally don't use their
plan on using them for meat chickens, But I do
appreciate that many the many gifts that they give me.
Every day, I receive eggs like crazy, and then in return,
like I said, I make sure that they are safe
and that they are comfortable, and that they can enjoy
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their lives as much as they help me enjoy mine.
You see, when you slow down, there's something to be
said for really being able to focus on the big
picture that's racing by and you're no longer glancing at
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it quickly, but you're taking it all in. When this happens,
you really get to look around, Conversations become more interesting,
food becomes to taste better. This is when you really
start to appreciate every single thing that you have, especially,
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like I said, the smallest of things that we don't
even bother with. I hate to compare this, but I
always have to because I've been in that position, and
I know what it's like to be forced to have
to see your life from a perspective that you may
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no longer have it. Laying in a hospital bed, that
is usually when people focus on how important life was
and you hope that it can still be. A life
is moment. Here you are laying in a bed, listening
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to that stupid machine beep, waiting to see where the
nurse is, where food is, looking out the window, wondering
what everybody else is doing while I'm sitting here, hopefully healing.
As you listen to this right now, think about it,
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there may be somebody, hopefully not you, but somebody in
that situation in a hospital somewhere or sick at home
and not be able to really enjoy the moment. Praying God,
please please please give me that second chance. And sadly,
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how quickly many of us get it, and how quickly
we just click auto pilot all over again, focused on
the watch, the time, where I need to be, how
long I need to be there. Instead of stopping and
enjoying the journey there, enjoying just being there, you really
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start to You're forced to slow down and enjoy it all,
and you realize every breath you take you can't help
but really smiling more, laughing more, and of course you
know it's it's I'm a realist. I mean, you still
have the bad moments. Of course I still do. But
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this comes down to how much time you choose to
allocate towards the good and the bad. Yes, you do
need time, take time to stop and and and focus
on bills and worry and problems. But my issue is
we focus too much on those problems and not solving
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the problems, not fixing the We just focus on the problem.
If something happens and your first reaction is uh oh,
you get nothing out of that? Uh oh means nothing.
The answer should be okay, okay, what am I gonna do?
How are we gonna resolve this? I take control of
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my life. I took control of my life many years ago,
and I have not let go of it. That's why
I am not an uh oh person. I see something,
I see an issue, and I take My first reaction
is take action, not worry, not stress. It's a waste
of my time. When we're always rushing to the next thing,
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we don't have time to appreciate the beauty of what's
happening right now. A quiet moment with a child, to
share a laugh with a partner, the way sunlight filters
through a window. These things are easily missed when our
attention is consumed by what comes next. God, that's so
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true on a deeper level. Because of this, our relationships suffer,
and presence is one of the greatest gifts we can
offer others being in the moment, But when our mind
is elsewhere, our connection becomes shallow. Children, partners, friends, they
all feel the difference. When we are just distracted by time,
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and perhaps most tragically, we begin to feel like strangers
to ourselves. We may wake up one day and wonder
how we even got here, or why we feel empty
despite achieving so much. But disconnection is not a life sentence.
I mean, the antidote is very simple, though not always easy.
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It is basically to stop breathe and return to the present.
I recently went to eat dinner at a restaurant here,
and I could tell that our waiter was probably a
little bit on newer side, and he wasn't great at
balancing what it takes to be weight staff, which to me,
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I so applaud my weight staff always. I appreciate them.
I know, I know it's it's not easy for this,
especially for the amount of money they make. They have
to cater to some real assholes. And that's why I
always go above and beyond to be super nice to them.
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I mean, be happy with my service all of the time.
But this guy was funny because we were sitting there
just waiting for some dishes. I always bring something home
to my dogs, and waiting for some little containers to
put some stuff, and I could I could watch him
and I could see that he kept he was balancing
four five tables, and two of them there was a
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lot of people at and I would notice it every
time he would get to that table, which one was
in front of me and one was behind me. We
were in the middle. He would just forget because as
he walked up to each other table, they would throw
new things at him, and it wasn't until he passed
us that he would look and go oh yeah, and
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he went, oh my god, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry.
My thing is Number one, I'm sitting here. Number two,
I already ate, thank you. Number three. I'm very comfortable. Okay.
I'm comforted with my body, I'm comforted with my mind,
and I'm comfortable in this chair because there are so
many horrible places where I can be right now, and
if I have to wait another few minutes, so be it.
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I'm blessed that I grew up in a household that
my parents, which is funny because as a kid I
didn't understand. But now I look back and I'm like,
so so grateful to my parents that taught me presence.
I need you while I am doing X, Y and
Z to sit there and wait. And luckily we didn't
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have iPads and tablets and phones with no I just
sat there and deduce. Or what I truly enjoyed was
just looking out the window and daydreaming, what do I
want to do? Who do I want to be? I
did that constantly, what can I do with my life?
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How many different hats am I going to wear? Who
will I become? Where will I end up? So taught
me patience, especially when it comes to a situation like that,
instead of being rude and obnoxious, It's like, I mean,
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mind you, if I really had someplace to go, I
would just get up and help myself at you know,
heading for the door. But I count not only my blessings.
I count my minutes, and I enjoy as I sit
there and I look around and I take it all in.
I enjoy my company, and I enjoy and am blessed
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by the meal that I just had. And I was
taught to breathe, and for that I am so grateful.
But again, you have to learn. You have to learn
to stop, even for a few seconds, and to reclaim
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your power and to say I choose to be here now,
no matter what is going on. For some of us,
it's a radical act of self awareness and self love.
Stopping doesn't mean you abandon your responsibilities. It means you
meet them with clarity now and intention, rather than just
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running into I have so much to do. I am
balancing and juggling the world. Chances are you're probably doing
a shitty job at it. You can't do five, four, six,
seven things at once. You can't. You think you can,
You can't. Trust me. I try, but I still have
to take a moment in between tasks to focus on
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that task and finish it from start to finish. Yes,
I can do four or five things at once, but realistically,
I'm putting my energy towards one until it's done. Because
when we stop and ground ourselves in the moment, we
access a much much deeper sense of calm, because then
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when we're done with that task, we appreciate it. We
don't just like, Okay, I'm done with that, onto the
nesk next. I finished the chicken coop. I actually went
and laid in it. I looked up in a round.
This is cool. I hope they feel safe. I even
saged it. I blessed it. That's what I do. I
put positive energy into it that they are protected God's creatures.
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And when you do this, your breath slows down, your
mind settles and remember what matters most, and you begin
to act from purpose rather than reaction. And in this
place of presence, we often find solutions to the very
problems that seem so overall pressing. You see, when you stop,
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inspiration arises, compassion returns, and gratitude begins to truly unfold.
It is in the space between doing that and being
that you feel reborn every day, every morning, and being
is where our strength lives. I ask that you strive
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to become resilient through presence. Resilience is again, it's not
about powering through every challenge with brute force. It's about adaptability, awareness,
and inner strength, and presence is the foundation of all three.
When we are present, we are more aware of our
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emotional state. We recognize when we are overwhelmed and can
respond with self care rather than just collapse. We become
better at setting boundaries, managing stress, and choosing our battles wisely,
and not going through life wanting to be numb. I
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know many that have that do, but you have to
understand that going through life numb, to me, you're cheating life.
You're lying to life. You're being a gift you're giving.
You're given a gift to enjoy it all, but it's
too much, so I'm just going to be numb through
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it instead of facing a head on like the bison.
I was sharing that with somebody this weekend that you
always hear these things about where the buffalo roams. It's
so funny. Yeah, it's not true. There are no buffalo
in the US. What. Yeah, there's no buffalo. It's bison.
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Buffalo is an animal that's from Asia and Africa and
has very different horns. We have just gotten lazy for
way too long and seen bison and just called it buffalo,
to the point that we have buffalo New York and
the buffalo bills. And you know, it's funny because there's
a company in Kentucky that he actually has, like you know,
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we're the buffalo roams. We've all heard that, and I
just think it's funny because well, they haven't roamed here.
I mean, yes, they are in zoos, and they are
in private facilities, private you know, private ownership that people
may have them, but roaming, No, it's it's bison. And
the beauty of why I even bring this up is
because the bison, unlike cows. One thing about living here
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is right outside my door, I have a kettle farm
right there, and there's hundreds of cows there and then
to the back hundreds of cows. And I've gotten to
really study them. Yes, I watched them daily, how they
react to whether, how they react to each other, and
it's fascinating. And a few months about a month ago,
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I actually walked right up to the fence and I
stood there and it was funny because it was like
you could hear, like the tread, the soft trample of
as I got closer to the fence, there was probably,
in my view easily about fifty of them right next
to each other. And as I got closer to the fence,
it was like and he got away from me, and
then I stopped, and they stop. And then I turned around
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and I started walking away from the fence slowly, and
I could hear, I could feel them right at the
fence and they're looking at me. And I turned around
and I started walking towards the fence again. This went
on for like ten minutes. But the energy that they
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gave off was massive. It's they have big spirits, and
it's pretty cool. It's pretty cool. But the funny thing
is I find is that cows when there is a storm,
when they're scared, they run from it. Bison or as
many of you like to say, buffalo, they don't. They
run to it. That's actually a tattoo I want to get.
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I want to get a bison tattoo because I love
the concept that when you have a problem, you don't
to get numb from it. You don't run from it,
you don't hide from it. You find the solution for it.
Whatever the problem is. There's people that their problem is death,
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and what do they do. They fight it, they find
the answers. They go to different doctors, they go to
different surgeons, different hospitals. They fight it. Or you can
just crawl up into a ball and die. It's up
to you. But the bison, when there's a storm coming,
they actually go in it because their mentality is the
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quicker you go through it, the quicker you come out
at the back. Running from your problems is kind of
a waste. It's always going to be there. You have
to solve your problem, think about it. Like I said,
when we are present, we are more aware of our
emotional state, and this is when we recognize when we
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are overwhelmed and can respond with self care rather than,
like I said, just surrendering to the world. You take
control and you become better at setting boundaries, managing your stress,
and choosing your battles wisely, presence. Being present also allows
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us to find meaning in the difficulty that we are in.
Rather than seeing challenges as threats and uh oh, we
begin to view them as teachers. We learn to ride
the waves of life with grace. As I've said to
somebody recently, the older we get, the wiser you get,
the more you've been around. This is a rodeo that,
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my friends, you have ridden so many times. If you
find yourself in the golden years, in your golden years,
still stressing over the pettiness of life, haven't you been
around enough? As I've shared in a few podcasts, a goal,
it's like the world coaster ride. You've been around enough.
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You've seen mourning, you've seen evening, you've seen morning, you've
seen evening, you've seen storms, you've seen sickness. You've felt great,
you have felt miserable, you have had great moments, bad moments,
sad moments, happy moments, and you keep going around. So
to go through it again and feel as if you've
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never gone through it, that's a problem. That's a problem
that you need to reference and find the strength, the knowledge,
And sadly, most of it just comes from here. You've
already been here presence and understand that this kind of
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resilience just doesn't help survive hard times, it helps us
grow through them. It makes us more compassionate, and more
courageous and more connected to our wonderful lives. Ends with
the simple, powerful decision to stop and return to this moment.
But when do I finally start to live my life?
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The life that so many of us get lost in
our lives. And from time to time we find ourselves
being inspired, empowered by a podcast, by a book, by
a movie, by some amazing conversation with wonderful friends, that
inspire us, that help us, that challenge us to believe
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in ourselves and do better for ourselves. But when do
you know to finally take the leap to just jump
forward and choose when to begin to take control of
your life? What is the best day, the best month,
so that you can now have your best life. It's
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tempting to believe that a great life life is the
result of just big changes, a new job, a better house,
more and more money, because money is what's going to
make my life perfect. But the truth is that a
beautiful life is built one moment at a time. It
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is created through the small, consistent practice of choosing presence.
You can have the best day, not because everything goes perfectly,
but because you decide to meet the day with gratitude, curiosity,
and presence. You can have the best month, not because
there are no problems, but because you face them with
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resilience and love. You can have the best life, not
because you escape chaos, but because you find yourself finding
peace within this chaos. Every day starts to say some good,
some bad. If you ask yourself what kind of day
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am I going to have? I usually tell people it's
your choice, and they look at me as if they
don't have control of their day. I didn't ask to
have my car breakdown. I didn't ask to have cancer.
I didn't ask for my house to burn down, for
a tornado to take my barn. I understand that, but
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how did you view the situation. I have had the
pleasure in the past of being a worker, a representative,
a rescuer for the ASPCA, and I got to go
to a few different locations, Joplin, Missouri being the one
that that was hit by a tornado, and I got
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to meet people actually in Tennessee. Also, I got to
meet people that were sitting there was this lady. I'll
never forget her. She's she's like just burned into my memory.
Just imagine driving down the street where the entire neighborhood
is pretty much gone. Luckily, some of the houses are
smoothly gone. Others are just destroyed in and there are
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remnants of people. But I came across this one lot
where there was just the base of the house and
a chair and a lady sitting there and you could
see in the background out in the distance some of
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her well stuff. And my job at that time was
to go to each home and to check and see
if there are animals and you know, anybody left or whatever.
And it was quite weird walking up to her and
she's just sitting there, and I mean like her her
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foundation was clean, just one chair and her. And as
we got closer it was me and another volunteer. She
said to me. I said hello, and she said hello,
and all she had to say was I would offer
you lemonade if I could. I can't help, but but
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but find myself silly when I complain over stupid shit,
you know, having to sit somewhere and wait, or not
having everything exactly how I want it. And the funny
thing is that entire section that I went to, they
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rebuilt because, as I told somebody the other day, for them,
the house, the stuff, that's all it is. They really
do value their lives. That's why so many will say, like,
you know, when people lose their house is like, you know,
why do you keep your building? Are you stupid? You
know I would just move, And I get it, and
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I'm not gonna lie to you. It's hard not to
agree with that way of thinking. But to them, they
don't value their home. They don't value their things. They
value their lives. They value the moment. They value the
fact that they weren't injured, they weren't hurt. They love
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their land, they love as I love to say, they're dirt.
Like I said, being down here is very different. It's
not just another state. It's a very different way of thinking.
And I have yet to meet anybody who thinks the
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way I used to when I was up north. Here
it's you truly live in the second and you're grateful
for everything, whether it's good, bad, or ugly, you're just
grateful for it. Like I said, you can have the
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best day, not because everything goes perfectly because you decide
to meet the day with gratitude, curiosity, and presence, you
can have the best life. Every morning you are invited
to choose how you will show up, how you will
begin your day. Will you rush blindly through it? Or
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will you stop breathing arrive fully in the moment? Will
you stop when you have that cup of coffee? Look
out as I do, look out my kitchen window at
the view that I have. There is a house, I
have another house. Our neighbor is way out there on
the top of a hill, and between us there's about
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like two hundred head of cattle all in you know,
it's just beautiful to look at. And every more, Actually,
when I wash dishes, I've always been I don't mind
washing dishes. I love to clean my house. But it's funny.
Where I used to live, all I saw was my
neighbor's backyard with tons of stuff. He was a hoarder,
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and it is what it is now. There's no fence
and it's just land that goes on as far as
you can see. And every morning I have my cup
of coffee and I take time to just even if
I'm just washing dishes, I look out that window and
I stop. When was the last time you stopped? Instead
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of complaint? Even washing dishes? Oh, I hate washing dishes.
You know I love washing dishes because if I'm washing dishes,
it means that I just had a great meal. If
I'm washing clothes, it means that I had clothes to
wear again. See what I mean of how you see
your life? Sometimes the problems that we create aren't problems.
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Every moment you are invited to choose how you will
show up. Think about that. Are you gonna wake up
and just start complaining? Hopefully? I don't know if you are.
Do you know of anybody who is a constant complainer,
who can complain about everything? A lot of times we
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let the noise of life drown us instead of finding
stillness within our lives, and sadly the choice is yours.
Sometimes we get lost in the idea that we can't
just take a break, we can't just smell the roses
because we just have too much on our plates. Is
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I want to ask that you find the courage to pause,
because it does. It takes courage to slow down in
a world that is always rushing. It takes courage to
be intentional when everyone else is reactive. It takes courage
to say I will not live on autopilot, I will
just be here and now. But when you make that choice,
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everything changes. You begin to feel more alive, You become
more present for your loved ones. You experience more joy,
and more creativity and a lot more clarity. You discover
that even amidst the chaos, or perhaps because of it,
you are capable of living deeply, beautifully and truthfully. This
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is the essence of mindfulness, resilience, and true fulfillment. And
it is available to you in every single moment, in
every single day, and all you have to do is stop.
Of course, as many of you know, I like to
give out homework, and I always recommend that you do
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it with someone that'll keep you honest, and we'll share
things about you that you sometimes don't see. But here's
a few exercises that I thought of. One is very simple.
It's called My favorite time is the morning pause. You
know that cup of coffee. Now, I need to get dressed.
I need to do this because I'm running late. You
know what, Set the clock a little bit earlier, Go
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to bed early, go to bed early. You know why
you're missing the day you're missing so many opportunities. Begin
your day with intention and presence before you check your
phone or get out of bed, take three minutes, you
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know what forget three minutes? Three minutes? It's one hundred
and twenty seconds. No, no, no, how about just sixty seconds?
Actually no, it's not. It's one hundred and eighty. But
place your hand on your chest or your stomach and
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feel your breath. Do it while you're laying in bed,
Sit up in bed, get out of bed and just
stand right there. Or maybe I have to go pee? Good,
go pee, And then while you're sitting on the toilet
you're ready, place your hand on your chest or your
stomach and feel your breath and ask yourself, how do
I want to feel today? What do I want to
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bring to this day? And intentions, simple intentions that you
could just say and truly mean today. I will stay
calm today, I will not lose myself in X, Y
and Z. I will be present today. I will be
kind to myself. This is something I bring up often.
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How many of you don't. Most of you don't even
realize how negative you are to yourselves. People talking about others,
bullying and others. But people bully themselves constantly. Remember what
you say, you hear, and what you hear, you begin
to feel and believe I'm this, I'm that, I'm fat,
I'm this, I'm stupid. Keep saying it, keep saying it,
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because your subconscious mind is going, Okay, this is it.
We're writing this shit and cement. Then I, as a hypnotist,
have to come later on and just no, it's not true.
This small pause sets the tone for the entire day
and helps your respond rather than react to life's demands.
Think about it. So you have an entire day ahead
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of you of so many ups and downs and this
and that. All I'm asking you to do is just
take a few minutes. Do it while you're sitting in
the toilet, do it while you're in the shower. Thank
you to just go. I have running water, it's it's hot.
I'm blessed, I have a roof over them. I'm blessed.
I ate, or I'm going to eat. I'm blessed. I
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have a car to get to where I need to
go to or I have some change to take the
bus or an uber to get to work. I'm blessed,
I'm alive, I'm blessed. This is what will set the
tone for the rest of your day. Then I have
something that I like to call the one minute anchor
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one minute again another one sixty seconds purpose to bring
back yourself back to the moment during stress or overwhelm. Yes,
what you want me to focus on it? Yeah? Uh.
When you're clear and you're just relaxing, think about the
moment that you lost it last when you felt overwhelmed.
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And then stop and take a moment and close your eyes,
take a few slow, deep breaths and say silently, that
was then, This is now. I am here, My feet
are on the ground. Now, I'm surrounded by oxygen. I'm
in my body, my bones, my flesh, my blood, and
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think about it. So much is happening in my body
right now, so much. But I'm past it. Whatever storm
I dealt with, I was the bison I went through,
And I'm here. That was yesterday, that was last week.
And let your mind settle and ask what is one
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thing that I can do next? With clarity, I appreciate
the lesson that I've learned. I have moved on. I'm
here now, and let your mind settle why this works.
Dispras the cycle of panic fear. It's a waste of time.
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Fear is a fucking waste of time. I watched people
in it, and it's it's a shame because they don't
see what they are doing to their body. Instead of
facing fear, they let it control them. You ask yourself,
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You tell yourself, now I have now moved on. That
was yesterday. Today is a new day. And this will
break the cycle, as I said, of panic and fear,
and it will ground me in my body and in
the present moment, seeking purpose. And then your whole day
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has gone by. Okay, so you had your your morning,
you had your present day, and now you have the
evening reflection. Look at that, I'm yawning like as if
it's ready to go. It's morning. But yeah, you like
to sleep to end your day always with gratitude and
self connection. How to do that? Before you go to sleep,
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take five minutes before you reflect what moments today made
me feel alive? What made me smile, who made me
feel special? What inspired me? What challenged me? What made
me feel like shit? Who was mean to me? And
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then you ask yourself, well, why what was it me?
Maybe I did something wrong? Maybe I just screwed up.
It happens. I said, shit, I shouldn't have said. Maybe
I was envious, maybe I was jealous. But as a hypnotherapist,
a specialist in subconscious mind, I will teach you something
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before you go to bed, those last few minutes. That's
why you hear like, never go to bed angry, never
you know, never go to bed fighting with somebody. It's
actually true because the last thing you want to do
is when you're like really starting to fall asleep, and
I mean like you're going through the different stages of sleep.
That's what I do as a hypnotist with you. I
bring you through those stages where your conscious mind the
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chattering monkey. Okay, right now you're listening to me with
your conscious mind, I make it shut up, I make
it relax, and I focus on your subconscious mind back here.
Let's just say that is where the axis I need
to get to to figure out what you think is
it and it's really not. And that's where I tell
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you to feel love, to forgive, to let go, to believe.
So when you without hypnosis, when you're going to bed,
you know how now I'm talking about like those last
few minutes right before you go to bed you're just
about falling asleep. Fill your mind with beautiful thoughts, positive thoughts,
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with love, with courage, with compassion, Smile, be grateful for
the day, look forward to the night, and hopefully you'll
have tomorrow. This way of thinking helps you process today
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and makes you realize that you did your best, that
you are enough. And this helps you reinforce your presence
and you end your evening with peace rather than just
mental clutter. Don't ever go to bed angry. Go to
bed almost like dream before you dream? What is it
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you want in life? What are your dreams, your goals?
See them as you're going to bed, how you want
to see everything? See it play out in your mind,
over and over and over before you go to bed.
You'd be surprised how many times you end up dreaming that, yes,
I understand there's a lot going on as the show
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began always, but that doesn't mean you must be swept
away by it. You are allowed to stop, you are
allowed to breathe, You are allowed to live this moment fully,
and in doing so, you unlock the most powerful version
of yourself, the one who is resilient, aware, loving and free.
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And like this you live the best day, the best month,
and life begins with a single breath, a single moment
of presence, and that moment is now. I hope I
made you think. I hope I made you question your existence,
your day, and to appreciate every tomorrow, every today, and
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be grateful for all of the experiences of the past
that have made you who you are. Right now, keep
this in mind. Choose action over excuse, purpose over comfort,
and the work that matters over the distractions, the many
distractions that just don't because I know there are many,
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most of them don't. My name is Jimmy Gonzalez and
this was the Reset Yourself twenty two podcasts. Thank you
so much for listening, liking, and especially sharing with others.
It means a lot to me. Many many blessings to
you all. Be well and prosper.
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Football’s funniest family duo — Jason Kelce of the Philadelphia Eagles and Travis Kelce of the Kansas City Chiefs — team up to provide next-level access to life in the league as it unfolds. The two brothers and Super Bowl champions drop weekly insights about the weekly slate of games and share their INSIDE perspectives on trending NFL news and sports headlines. They also endlessly rag on each other as brothers do, chat the latest in pop culture and welcome some very popular and well-known friends to chat with them. Check out new episodes every Wednesday. Follow New Heights on the Wondery App, YouTube or wherever you get your podcasts. You can listen to new episodes early and ad-free, and get exclusive content on Wondery+. Join Wondery+ in the Wondery App, Apple Podcasts or Spotify. And join our new membership for a unique fan experience by going to the New Heights YouTube channel now!
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