September 15, 2025 • 62 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
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Daily Beloved, we are gathering here today to get through
this thing called life.
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You are listening to the Reset Yourself What to You
Podcast with your host Jimmy gun Solid. Thank you, Thank you,
thank you thinking, thank you. Let me check my audio
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is good. So in this weekly podcast, I focus on
sparkling unr confidence and igniting your belief in yourself. I'm
your host, and I am always very thrilled to share
my thoughts and research with you as we go along
on this journey together, You me him can nurture a
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mindset that empowers us to reach our fullest potential. I
write and record every episode to challenge my thinking, your thinking,
and to encourage you to reflect and inspire actionable steps
towards your personal growth. Whether you're facing a career transition,
seeking to overcome challenges, or simply striving for greater fulfillment
in life, this podcast is your go to resource for
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motivation and practical insights, or at least I hope it is.
My inspiration to do the show is to teach people
to focus more on what they can accomplish, so they
do the things they need to do when they need
to do them, so they ultimately get the things they
want when they wish to have them. And this episode
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is dedicated to everyone. Tell me what you want and
I will show you how to get it. The question
is are you willing to do the work now? Actually,
now that I think about it, I want to dedicate
this show to the one hundred and twelve Facebook friends
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that have chosen to unfriend me because of my post
about Charlie Kirk. I know you've at this point you've
had enough with the political stuff going on, But the
bottom line is you have to understand, to me, as
a podcaster, as an old musician, radio DJ, everything freedom
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of speech. When I think of why what happened happened,
it was because of freedom of speech. To me, it
wasn't about his true beliefs, or his spiritual beliefs, or
the fact that he was this or that, or the
many things that you hear, which I find funny because
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again it's a matter of perspective that people could watch
certain videos and see certain things. But again you have
a right to your opinion. But yes, this show is
dedicated to those one hundred and twelve people that felt
that I was crazy or whatever you see as a podcaster.
For you know, speech is very important to me. In fact,
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in fact, for years, when I was an AIM control
officer and I would post something about animals, I used
to post all the time. You can only imagine. I
would post my opinion and I would sure, and then
within a couple hours or whatever, I would have some
family member or someone write to me like, oh my god,
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there's somebody on Facebook criticizing your opinion or saying this,
this and that. Whenever I post, I rarely go back.
Usually I don't even post, like on the actual app.
I post from different apps, and I schedule my times,
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So I'm really not on as much as you'd think.
But you have to understand, if I have freedom to
stand in my soapbox and speak my piece, so does
anyone else. But sticks and stones have never really hurt me.
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So I don't care what people say about me because
it doesn't hurt me. If i'm and if there was
some truth to it, some validity, then I you know,
and I took it personally, like if somebody calls you
something and it offends you, then there's obviously truth to it,
because I don't know. If someone said, hey, you're you know,
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a big ugly woman, I would be like okay, And
the same goes with any other name you can think of.
If it offends you, then there's truth to it. I
don't care. I have been called growing up. I was
called a spic, I was called other things, and I'm like, yeah, okay, whatever,
I really don't care. It doesn't offend me, Like why
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would it, unless, like I said, if it did, then
there's something there. Someone says something about you and it
bothers you because there's something to it. Funny thing is
about like an hour ago, I received a private message
on Facebook, uh some basically from someone I didn't know,
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a friend on Facebook or I'm sorry, a Facebook friend
on Facebook, an animal person, which obviously is probably, I think,
based on their site, clinically insane. But they wrote to
me a post that I shared talking about the shooting,
and all she wrote was someone named Jimmy Gonzalez. That's me,
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should be watching his back from Ice, which has a
quota and is rounding up all brown American citizens in
the summer. I get dark, luckily, but and green card
holders rather than joining organizations that hate brown people. So
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you think you're a part of them until you see
their true face. They don't care of your claim to
be a MAGA, which I never said I was, but
I assume because I shared something about Charlie Carroll, all
of a sudden, Caro Charlie Kirk, I'm automatically a mega follower,
but they hate all Hispanic and black people. MAGA hates
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all Hispanic and black people. Last I checked, two of
the largest groups on instant messag on mess Instagram are
actually Latinos for Trump and Black Trump. Get your shit right. Hey,
many people just talk out of their ass. But anyway,
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and I mean this to that person, thank you so
much for the head heads up. I will watch my
back from ice. Then I actually had another person a
few days ago, somebody actually knew for quite a number
of years, which least that was off. Uh. Basically, that
person again shared a picture and said that I posted
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and said, you know, I hope Charlie Kirk doesn't get
too famous for anything. The amount of ignorance that these
people are letting go, like the diarrhea of their mouth
they're having, is fascinating to me. So if we could
just for a moment, can we please just have a
moment of silence for not just Charlie Kirk, but really
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for his wife and children. Sticks and stones. So once again,
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I was working on a few different topics, and I
don't know if it was a daydream or what it
was a dream that I had sleeping, I don't know,
but I woke up and I just wrote this entire podcast.
And it's funny because let me just's I'm on the
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second floor, this is where my office is, and this
is where he lives. He doesn't get along with the
other animals. But it amazes me sometimes why who speaks
through me when I pick a certain topic and just
write from beginning to ending an entire podcast. So the
way I see it is this is for somebody out there.
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Hopefully it makes you think, or many of you think.
But basically, let me begin with old patterns, old beliefs,
old programming, your thoughts, your habits, They create your actions.
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Especially to all the people that are losing their minds
and being just mean. Understand this. You are sitting in
your driver's seat of where you want to go and
how you want to be seen. Stop blaming mom and dad,
or some horrible shit that happened years ago. This is
not saying what happens should ever be forgotten, but at
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some point in your life you must take back control
of your life and no longer live life as a victim,
choose to live life fully. It is your right right
so that you may feel was taken from you, but
in your mindset you can take it back, and may
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take time. It may take most of your life to
take it back, but it's possible. You don't have to
live worried and stress and miserable for the rest of
your life for something that happened when you are nine.
It doesn't define you. It is a simple thought. If
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you do nothing, nothing can change it's it is. It
is impossible, But I mean understand if you go on
living a lifestyle that you are not pleased with, whether
it's not having enough money, enough love, enough pride in yourself,
living the lifestyle that you are not pleased with, whether
it is I don't know, whatever, whatever is meaning, whatever
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your meaning of success is or happiness or love is,
you can get it back. I have been blessed to
see other people do that. It's it is not as
simple as flipping a switch. But it is very doable,
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and more people are standing up and choosing to live
a life by their own design, not one that filled
my head as I grew up to believe so many
things that I now look back on and find myself questioning,
even feeling guilty for not understanding. Some of them are
wanting to follow those footsteps of people that I grew
up with any longer. Now understand this is not some
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new age woo woo belief. All I'm taking talking about
is reprogramming your mind, just changing your thoughts, not saying
burning sage or writing things down on the mirror and
this and that. You know I've shared that, I've said that,
But all I'm talking about simply is changing your mindset.
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Right now, I hate to sound like a broken record,
but as a hypnotherapist, this was the backbone of how
the mind works. Your mind is broken down into two parts,
the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. The conscious mind
controls the day to day thoughts decisions. Many in my
field refer to this part of the mind as you're
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chattering monkey. Yes it's a chattering monkey, it just doesn't
shut up. While the subconscious mind operates ninety five percent
of the time managing thoughts, emotions, and actions largely without
your conscious awareness. It becomes a reservoir. This it becomes
a reservoir for memories, for past experience, for habits, and
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information learned by the conscious mind. The conscious mind is talking,
subconscious mind is taking. It's the deep filing cabinet. A cabinet.
It's deeply programming, shaped by childhood experiences and life events,
forming long standing patterns that influence us. Hopefully. Now again,
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I've explained this many times and many different things. You
have a breakdown of both. But how they work together?
You ask, Okay, the conscious mind, okay, so that's the
chattering monkey takes new experiences and information and stores it
into the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind access is this
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stored information to influence your thoughts, your feelings, your behaviors,
often with conscious mind's knowledge. It's listening. The two are
connected and the conscious mind can influence okay, the subconscious
mind by consciously choosing positive thoughts and behaviors through the
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subconscious heavily influenced present actions and beliefs. So what is
happening during all this gibber jabber between the front and
the back, not literally front and back, but let's just
say that it's a classic example of the subconscious mind
in action. Is driving a car. Okay, your subconscious is
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driving a car. When you first learn it requires intense
conscious effort, but with practice, the process becomes automatic and effortless,
with your subconscious mind managing the steering, gearing changes, and
the awareness of obstacles, allowing your conscious mind to handle
other tasks like talking or listening to music. So I
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still remember to this day my uncle paid for a
driver a driving school to take me on a lesson.
Actually was his friend. And I had already been practicing
driving since I was like thirteen, so but my uncle
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wanted to make sure. So I got into a car
with the instructor and I just I never forget, like
getting in the car and you turn the car and
you focus on this, you focus on that, and you
go forward and just be very careful. And this instructor
pretty much was like the hands on ten and two
and you want to focus on zone one, zone two,
zone three, zone four, And I'm like, what is he
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talking about? And it's like the front of the left
of the car, the front right of the car, the
center of the car, the back of the car, the
left of the car, the right of the car, you know,
and it's just like you're like this bubble and you
have to protect yourself and all this stuff, and everybody
has a way of teaching. But I remember, uh being
somewhat comfortable driving. I never I only had one lesson. Like,
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we drove around for a bit, we came back and
he told him because he's like he doesn't need it.
But I remember still thinking to myself, holy crap, Like
there's a lot involved in driving that I didn't know.
So when up happening was for the first, you know,
for the next ten, fifteen, twenty times, I remember driving
like it was no longer I was no longer focused
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on like even almost where I was going, I was
focused on one, two, three, four, five six, this mirror,
that mirror, the rear mirror. You know, God forbid. Don't
touch the radio, don't touch anything. Just stare at the road.
You're just focusing where you're going and how who's coming
out in front of you and the cars. And I
remember thinking to myself, I don't want to drive. But
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as I just mentioned, conscious mind, subconscious mind, the conscious
mind is a chattering monk, and be careful, be careful,
be careful. Look to the left, look to the right,
look to the left, look to the right, look to
the But as most of us, as years go on,
you're all of these rules, regulations, thoughts, process goes into
your subconscious mind and they just become known. And did
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you ever get in a car, turn it on, started
driving and where you're going? And they didn't even process
the fact that there were stop lights, there was a
right on red, there was you know, somebody beeped and
you were careful. There was a pedestrian in the street,
dog walking. Oh my god, look there's a diner. All
this stuff was happening, and you weren't actually really focused.
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I mean, you are driving, and that's not actually being irresponsible,
it's it's just what happens. Uh. The subconscious mind just
takes over, so you no longer have to focus on
you know, ten and two and this and that. Before
you know it, you're now you could you could, you
could you know, you could use the phone, the phone,
you could you shouldn't use the phone while you're driving,
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but you could use the radio. You can use this,
you could use that because you've become so comfortable in
yourself that your subconscious mind is driving the car. The
same thing with life. Your subconscious mind is like the
underground and know, it's like it's like Big Brother watching.
It knows what it needs to know, and it does
what it needs to do. But how do I change this?
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If it's that confusing to me, if I just don't
like my thoughts, and you know, if I'm not that
in control of myself. Well, here's the problem for many
that that five percent that I said, uh, the conscious
mind is only five percent. Subconscious mind is ninety five
percent of your thoughts. We allow our mind to focus
on it, so the beliefs will allow us to guide
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us throughout the day. I am happy to see. Thank God,
this is where I'm gonna go with this. The amount
of people turning to meditation and hypnosis not just to
stop smoking or reading, but choosing to clean out their
mental filing cabinets of old, stale, limiting beliefs that at
some point you find yourself asking do these thoughts even
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serve me? It is these beliefs many so strong that
they continue to not allow you to move forward. They
fill you with fears, fill you with dreams sometimes put
goals and make you believe that they will just always
be at a distance. I hope, but I will always hope.
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But you have to understand these limiting beliefs that are
in your mind. They weigh you back like a huge
anchor stuck deep in the ocean way below, no longer
allowing you to sail forward because you believe all this shit.
You still believe that you can't change your mind. You
still believe all the fears that you still carry. Something
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happens in fear, and you run and you react instead
of sitting there and processing what's happening and going well,
what is the concept behind this fear? Is there any
reality to it? Has it ever hurt me in any way? No?
Should I continue to have this fear? No, you break
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this chain to this anchor, because understand, it's these things
that don't allow you to move forward and live a happy,
clear life. So what is happening is you start, it
starts to affect other things. So before you know it,
it starts limiting many things in your life, and before
you know you're just filled with fear of everything. And
I know quite of a people like this, and it's
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funny because whenever I see it, my heart breaks because
it's it's just a shame that they choose to live
like this instead of just living. Chain must be broken.
And without even understanding these beliefs, are children now also
believe in many of these things that these types of
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parents share with them, sometimes not even thinking about it.
But now it becomes their children's limiting beliefs. I mean understand.
Although I came from a household of love, my father
always felt that there there was a lack, lack of everything,
which now looking back, yes, we lived in a neighborhood
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that was that was, that was tough, that was you know,
there was a lot of lack. In my actual home,
there was never lack. Yes, I didn't have name brand sneakers,
I didn't have all the video game consoles. I didn't
have all that stuff, but I had now looking back,
I had the love of cat. But I had a
lot of love and I know, I see you think
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so too. And I had animals I had, you know,
I mean, which was that was still to this day
very important to me. But my father's beliefs, It's funny.
It was my uncle, which I've mentioned in other podcasts
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that fought hard, worked hard, worked smart. He believed in
the American dream and understood that there was enough pie
for everyone. So he strived and he worked, and he sacrificed,
and not only took a piece of pie for him himself,
but he invested in himself and he made his own
big pie that he ended up sharing with thousands of
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people in so many different ways. And it was so
cool growing up witnessing all of this. But for me,
little kid, this was a conundrum. For me, young boy,
listening to two completely different views, was at every single
family function. As I got older, I got to spend
more and more time with my uncle, and I can
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say now that my core beliefs now are rooted because
of him, in having belief in faith in myself and
dreams and goals and not always focusing on lack do.
My father's beliefs pop up from time to time, of course,
but as time goes on they become quieter and quieter.
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And I only reflected my father now and the good
times we had. I see no reason to continue to
dislike him or hate him for being the person he was.
He had many good qualities because of him. I actually
got to learn and see the balance in life. You
see both sides, so I appreciate him. You need dark,
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you need you need light, you need evil, you need goodness,
you need you have. You know, if you can't have
rainy rainy days without the sun, and vice versa, you
do need them both because it helps you experience and
enjoy the other one even more. But because of him,
I have the interesting curiosity and drive to use my
hands to fix everything, which I fix everything around here,
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And it's really because of him. Now, as you can see,
I had a very loud, chattering monkey that only talked
about lacking my life and wanting more of this and
more of that. As for money, and that there was
never enough. But at some point in your life you
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can only decide what to do next with your life
with the next moment, how will you make what you
feel you need? Like? What do you need in life? Really?
So many people are like, oh, I wish I'd made
more of this. I wish I did more of that,
But I mean, what are you actually doing to do it?
It shocks me whenever, Like I love challenging people. When
people come to me and say, oh I wish I
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had a new car, I'm like Oh my god, what
kind of car? What is your budget? When would you
like to get it? Four door? Two doors, sports car?
Good on? And you just stare you almost like well
I just I was just talking out of my ass.
I'm like, oh, okay, and that's why you'll never have anything.
No one is coming to give you free handouts. You
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must give to receive, and when you receive, always remember
to give to me. This one is one of the
most powerful laws of life. But when you want something
in your life, I mean, this isn't about like manifestation.
This is just about like, whoa do you really want it?
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How many people say I want a million dollars? And
it's like, okay, how are you willing to work for it?
Are you willing to rob a bank for it? Are
you willing to play the lottery for it? And they
I've said that to people and they just stare at
me like with a dumb face, like I want X,
Y and Z. Okay, oh my god, really, so what
are you gonna do about it? What to get X,
Y and Z? Well, I blah, it's like stupid, what
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do you want? So a goal, set of date, set
a time, start working towards it. For those of you
that believe that I've been positive my entire life. No
good things don't always happen to me. But if you
have shitty attitude, which I've learned in time to not have,
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if you always want lack, you will always be poor,
you will always be unhealthy. Those people with that mentality,
I say, shame on you, and I hope you don't
have children to pass these weak beliefs onto. Yes they
are weak, and you know what they're yours. Enjoy them,
but don't pass them on to others. Don't bring them
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out to family and friends. You know, don't be that
friend that comes over and people are, oh God, so
and so is here and you just walk in You're like,
blah blah, live stocks. Everything sucks this and that I've
had I know one specific, but I know a few people,
But I know one specific person that just was had
a magical talent of just being miserable about everything. And
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we no longer speak because of this, because it's just like,
please stay away, keep the misery over there. But weak
habits that you're continuing to fuel day after day, week
after week, month after month, we'll just never go away.
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And then, of course people wait for the new year
to roll along, which will be soon before you know it,
and people think, oh, my life's gonna change, because come,
you know, I'm just gonna close my eyes and goes,
I want a million dollars or I want a new career,
or I want a new car, or I want a
new relationship. And it's like, all right, what are you
doing to get it? Nothing? How serious are you truly
willing to do the work to get the things you want? No,
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but Jimmy, how do I do it? I hate to
sound as simple, but it's basically taken the time to
shut up and just under your thoughts. This is where
I have to bring in the word, the word meditation.
When was the last time you meditated or prayed? Not
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just God please give me this, or God please ton't
know that. God doesn't want to hear that. Everybody has
a belief about that. I just believe God is so good.
He has given me so much. I would never want
to call him, contact him, pray to him and be like,
you know you blah blah blah, you did it my God.
I don't know about you, guys. My God is too good.
Every morning, my God gives me more uh. We have
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so many hummingbirds, and I'm talking about like big to little,
little little hummingbirds. And every time one goes by, I
always I'm always there to watch it, and I watch
it and I'm like, I'm blessed to be able to
I mean a humming I've never seen hummingbirds. I think
I saw one in Connecticut one time. They're always here.
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It's funny here is here, I am in Farmtown, USA.
It's a lot easier to do it than running that
never ending rat race where I used to live. Here,
you are focused to smell the farm animals and truly
enjoy life here. I have slowed down enough to talk
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to hear my God speak to me at dawn with
the beautiful sunrise, and at night in the darkness, when
I'm reminded how vast universe is. Because I could see
every single star shining above my home. Whenever I walk
through the yard, I walk in complete darkness. Why would
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I want to turn the light on. I don't have
to worry about if I see where I'm gonna go,
because I know I'm gonna go where I need to
go because I have the light from above shining down.
It's like diamonds in the sky, something that I longed
for up north. If I saw a few stars up there,
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I was shocked. Here, it's a blanket, it's every night
I've been here. Actually, I just got, you know, my
one year anniversary here, and I still feel as excited
as I was when I first moved out. Nothing has changed.
In fact, I feel more and more in love with
where I am with my life. I don't take anything
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for granted. I look up often and I'm very thankful
for everything and everyone. But this is a mindset that
I have worked with for years. I have molded and remolded,
and a few times had to start again because I
wasn't happy with where I was going or who I
was becoming throughout my life. I had to rethink my life,
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question my actions, and deeply ponder am I happy? This
is not about who led me astray or who hurts
me again. That's holding you back. You're allowing somebody else
hold you back. If you feel like you're broken, if
you feel like you can't understand, those are scars that
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you are the one that keeps picking at them and
not allowing them to just heal. Here's some science. The
word of the day is neuroplasticity. Neuroplasticity means that you
can change yourself at any moment, scientifically proven. Yes, science
scientists actually like believe in this stuff now, not woo voodoo.
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You can change your brain at any moment. Now, I'm
not talking about the new age thing again sitting and
burning incense, but I'm talking about neuroplasticity being scientific proof
that proves that we are not hardwired forever. How about
that phrase, you can't teach an old dog new tricks. Actually,
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it's complete bullshit. It reminds me of older people in
my life that are like, you know, I'm dwo old,
I can't do not true. I feel bad for you
that you believe that, because you're just lying to yourself
and cheating the journey you have of just truly enjoying
yourself because you're like, I can't because I'm this, or
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I'm that. It's just I feel sorry for you. I
pray for you that you believe this nonsense. But I
mean it's up to you to choose to surrender to
life and to live your life fully as you so wish.
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It's your right, but please do not spread this message
of surrendering to life because you feel it is too hard. Sadly,
you have to understand that life shouldn't be hard, and
it isn't hard. Life is a gift from God, from
the universe above. We are all born, born with purpose
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with many throughout our lives. We give back, we share,
we love, we laugh. To me, that is the meaning
of my life. We don't go through life complaining and
ditching and feeling that we weren't given our dues to manifest.
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You must say it loud, you must say it proud.
But if you don't believe in it truly, if you're
just repeating words, it's not gonna happen. As you're eating
a shitty meal. You're like, I wish I was dry,
I was thinner, I wish I was healthier. You're eating
a shitty meal. So even when it comes to the
New Age angle, work is still involved, as in everything
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you do in your life, work is always involved. If
you sit there and just hope that everything will be
resolved in front of you while you sit there and
do nothing, Sadly, you have I was gonna say another
thing coming, you have nothing incoming. So that dog, yes
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can be taught new tricks. It may be tough, because
it may be slower because it is an old dog
with a lot of old mindsets, but it can be taught.
So now what is what is the concept? Getting back
to the word neuroplasticity, It's just changing your brain. The
ability of your brain to form and recognize synaptic connections
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to the brains remarkable. It is your brain is remarkable.
The ability to change and reorganize its structure, its function,
it's connections in response to new experiences, learning, even of injury.
Neuroplasticity offers real hope and this is again looked it up.
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It's real to everyone, from stroke victims to dyslexics. So
can you change habits and beliefs? Yeah, if you so
choose to. If you have I have a fear of something,
you continue to have it, change it? You just okay,
you don't want to, that's fine. You're okay with hurting
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your body, with not being appreciative of your life. That's
on you again. You have a freedom. You have a
freedom to be to live in fear. We spend so
much time doing others and how they think, how they live,
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and how they are able to accomplish the things that
they have and many will revel when others fail because
it makes it easier with our weak minds to feel
as if now they are too. They are part of
this failure club that we are a part of. Oh,
that they failed so that I could we all failed.
Envy and jealousy are ridiculous and such a waste of time.
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I revel in seeing someone do well, even better than myself.
I want my daughter to do better than me, and
I want my friends to do better than me. I
went in to outshine everything I've ever done, because that's
how I learned. It gives me hope that if they
can work harder and do better, then so can I.
It gives me hope, And now I ask often, are
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you willing to do the work or is it easier
to sit there and just point fingers and feel good
when others fall. I know a girl that only was
attracted to pieces of shit. Yeah, she would only date
pieces of shit. It was weird. Every guy she dated
was worse than the next, and it was amazing how
she could find like horrible people. But she said, it's
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easier for me to date and she described regular guys
because those guys that are doing better will expect her
to get out there and hustle also and work hard.
So sadly she ended up so finally meeting and dating
a wonderful Surprisingly, after a while she did she found
the guy that was wonderful that I met him, and
I was like, I'd marry him. Hard worker, extremely driven,
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And what do you think happened? He wanted her to
do better for herself. He wanted her to succeed in life,
and he wanted her to go back to school because
she didn't finish, so she can have a better job.
He didn't want her to depend on him. She wanted
her to be able to take care of herself and
make ample amount of money. He believed in her, he
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saw in her something. She did that, so guess what happened? Yeah,
she dumped him and now she is back to the
bottom of the barrel. Her life is so much easy
enough because she is dating. I want everyone to understand
the severity of what I am talking about. Stop complaining
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and then apologizing to me for making poor choices and
living the life you should not be living. Life is
not happening outside your window or on the boob tube.
It is happening inside of you. It's funny. I don't drink.
I never have, and I think it's fascinating whenever I
happen to comment that in somewhere, Like if somebody is
sitting there drinking and they will say, oh, would you
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like a drink, and I'm like, no, actually I don't drink,
thank you. Immediately their first reaction is always well, you
know I don't drink. This much easier either, are you
know I usually don't go to bars, Or I'm like,
why are you defending yourself? I don't see the point
unless you feel that what you're doing is wrong. I
don't drink because it's my choice. If you choose to drink,
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that's on you. I'm trust me. I'm not gonna judge you.
I don't care enough unless you're losing your mind and
you're being violent. I have an issue with that. But
if you're just sitting there drinking, having whatever, I don't
really why would I why? But it always makes me
kind of smirk because I'm like, Wow, they're doing so
well and everything is so perfect. Why do they have
to make such a big deal that they're drinking. I
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don't care, but I mean I do feel that all
of this worry. All of these complaining, all this bullshit,
this this negative talk, especially what's happening now, is such
a waste of time. It's such a waste of life.
And as I said, it used to happen to me
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while I was writing this. I remember I recall my
aunt and I driving through the east side of Bridgeport
on East Main Street. We were just about to go
under the train tracks there's a bridge. And this was
the eighties when Bridgeport was actually, like at is worse.
So it is not horrible yet, but in the eighties
it was bad. Crack was huge, and someone painted in
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graffiti over the road like actually on the train bridge,
east side, best side, east side, best side, and at
that time the east side was the worst side. And
I turned to my aunt and I said, that's true,
and she looked at me with such sadness and asked
me think about what I just said. Here I am
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now forty plus years later, still thinking about it. Shitty
neighborhood crime was through the roof. So let's try to
convince ourselves with some arts that's not that bad. Instead
of working and cleaning the problem, throwing a band aid
over it and just saying forget about it. You must
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do the work. Now understand how it may seem to
many that being negative is easier, But it took years
for me to do the work and to understand. And
I could say that that train bridge screwed with my
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mind because I was just trying to make the best
out of like a shitty mindset. But now and for
the past so many years, I am aware of them,
all these stupid thoughts, and every day and in every
way I'm doing better and better. I find the good,
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and I find the good and I find the good.
Now understand that words are powerful, but it is the intention.
So even if I was to say something stupid, somebody
is like, don't say that. It's the intention behind it.
So if you say that, then you don't understand what
I'm talking about. Whenever you say anything, for it to happen,
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you have to have true intention. So to turn it
back on you, if you say I want a million
dollars or I want a good education, or I want
a better car in this and that you're just saying
it that nothing's gonna happen. You have to believe in it.
You have to have the intention in it that you
want better. For yourself. So now I have a question
for all of you. How are you living your life?
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Are you living your life as a zombie? Are you
on autopilot, just going through the steps day in and
day out, same old, same old. Every Monday I do this,
and every Friday I do that, and life is just
going on. Which if you don't want to see growth
and expansion, and that's fine, but the beginning of many
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opportunities in your life will PLoP on your lap when
you get out there and do things, when you talk
to people, when new people, new places, when you challenge yourself,
when you're not afraid to drive somewhere and just walk
in and say hi, I'm Jimmy. Like today today, I
have a friend who owns a farm that he does straw,
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and hey like, I'm talking a lot, and he needed help.
So he called me earlier this morning and I got
there and I ended up moving sixteen thousand pounds of straw, yes,
filled like big straw. Hey like, it was amazing. I
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didn't think I could run. I walked in. It was
just a massive wall and I just started with one.
I didn't complain. I didn't get there and go it's
too hot it's to this. It's too much. I can't hand.
My back hurts. I'm fine. I went and I started
with one bail, and before you know it, I did.
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There was a gentleman with me, a much older gentleman,
which I felt bad for because he kept taking breaks.
But he has been doing this for years, but he
hadn't done it in like three or four years. But
he kept me laughing. But I did all of the work,
bringing it down to the cart and dropping it for him,
and then he just shifted it where he needed to because
I wanted him to do the least amount of possible
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work because he was so funny. But his talking kept
me laughing. But I didn't focus on the whole job.
I focused on one bin, then two, then three bins.
Before you know it, I put one hundred and two
bins on one cart. Then in the other cart, I
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put one hundred and five bins. Now, mind you, the
first cart, the each bin weighed between sixty to seventy pounds.
The second cart, the bins weighed between seventy five to
one hundred pounds. Yes, that's a lot. But I didn't
use my muscle per se I did, but I used
my mind, and I lifted carefully and I shifted and
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instead of bringing up a long story, I brought down
which made it so much easier to put it into
this huge cart. And I left and I was I
couldn't believe it. Like I actually took pictures. I'm like, wow,
I can't believe we did this. No complaining, no bitching,
no this, no that it had to be done, and
it was done. But with that attitude, when you become
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habitual with it, it starts to help you, it starts
to guide you. And if your first thought is always
complaining and bitching, and you're never gonna get anything you want, like,
you have to create the habit of every single thought,
and it takes time. But every single thought is positive.
Every single thought is a possibility of something better. But
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there are so many people that want more in life
and do nothing to get it. All they do is
criticize everybody else. And to these people, I you know,
I feel bad, but I mean, at some point, if
you want to get off your ass and see things happen,
you and I speaking to you have to turn off
cruise control and you have to grab your steering wheel
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and you have to choose to go where you wish,
and you have to reprogram your mind, your mindset. Let
me share the concept of cognitive restructuring or CBT cognitive
behavioral therapy. It's a type of psychotherapy Okay, big words,
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ignore them that focuses on the relationship between your thoughts,
your feelings, and your behaviors. Your thoughts, your feelings, and
your behaviors. CBT thoughts influence your feelings and behaviors. Negative
thoughts can lead to negative emotions and unhealthy behaviors. That
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makes sense. Positive thoughts, positive feelings and behaviors. Negative thoughts,
negative feelings and behaviors. By changing your negative thoughts, individuals
can improve their mood and wellbeing. It's logical. If you're
in a good mood, you're gonna have a good day.
You're gonna feel better about life. If you're just gonna
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wake up and just hate the world and criticize this
and criticize that, and put this down and put that down,
you're gonna have a shitty day. Cognitive behavior teaches individuals
practical strategies to identify a challenge and modify your thoughts
and your behaviors. The benefits of this basically are for
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treating a wide range of mental health conditions, including anxiety yes,
depression yes, PTSD uh huh, and eating disorders. It helps
individuals develop coping mechanisms and improve their overall functioning. It
focuses on the present and teaches individuals to address current
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problems rather than dwelling on the past or the future
that hasn't happened yet. It provides a structured and goal
oriented or approach to therapy. Small thoughts, small thoughts. That's
why you always hear people say just focus on today. Yes,
just focus on today, because all you can focus on
really is, or should all you should be focusing on
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is today spending your entire day focused on what happened
back in nineteen seventy two. Remember the anchor. You can't
go forward if something is holding you back to the past,
you can't. Many therapists prefer this type of thinking, which
is just restructuring your mindset. And I know at this
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point a lot of you will not get it big words,
so I'm trying to break it down as easy as possible.
But hopefully you begin working on this, you begin to
see changes in your life and then decide you wish
to take it up a notch because you can do
basic CBT at home. But to me, when you get
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good at it and you feel comfortable, you should see
somebody who specializes in it for more advice, or just
watch better videos. But most of the battles we face
in life are aren't out there. Most of the battles
you face in your life are not out there. I'm
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pointing to a window. They start in here. The doubts,
the negative self talk, the stories that we tell ourselves
that hold us back because we're not worthy. And that's
when things like CBT come in. At this point, CBT
is about one simple truth. Your thoughts shape your feelings.
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Your feelings shape your actions, and your actions shape your life.
Your feelings, your actions, your life are shaped by your thoughts.
The beauty of a belief like this cognitive thinking is
that you don't need a fancy setup to practice it.
You can start, like I said, right at home, with
a pen, a paper, and a willingness to just be honest.
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You start catching those sneaky automatic thoughts that drag you down.
I'm not good enough. This always happens to me. Everybody's
out to get me. Everybody in my family is doing
better than me and I'm not. It's I am a target.
Blah blah blah, bullshit, bullshit. Uh, but you have to
have resilience this type of thinking, or what I'm asking
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you to do is to reframe these setbacks, these negative moments.
Instead of thinking, I failed, so I'm a failure, you
learned to think I failed, so I learned what doesn't work?
I took this test and I failed it? All right?
Why did I not study enough? Did I not understand
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the information? Did I not sleep enough the night before?
All right, that's fine. So what I do next? Instead
of walking around then f on my head going oh
me go, everybody look at me? I felt like and
with this confidence, the more you practice, the more you
realize you are not your thoughts. You're the one choosing
what your thoughts are. You are not your thoughts. You
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are choosing what they are, and that's your power. By
changing thought patterns, you free yourself from cycles of procrastination, doubt,
or fear. Suddenly you've got room to start focusing on
what really matters. Because when you start practicing this positive
mindset and you get rid of the negative aspects and
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all that nonsense, you get just shut up, you start
really being clearer in your mindset, and you know what again,
you know, but Jimmy, how do I do it? Okay?
Here are a few simple practices to share with you guys.
First one is called catch the thought. Write down one
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negative thought you notice today. Every time you say a
negative thought today, write it down. I'll never pass the test.
And then what you do is you ask yourself is
this one true? If so, what evidence do you actually
have of it? Think about it. I'm a bad driver, okay,
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so do you want to be a good driver. I mean,
I don't want to go through life thinking I'm a
bad this, I'm a bad disc, I'm a bad dad.
I focus on the good things I'm at am I
as good at everything. No, but why am I gonna
focus constantly letting everybody, Hey, everybody, I'm bad at it.
Like it's just hey, everybody, I'm good at that, that
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and that. And if being bad at something is such
a bad thing, I just practice. It's not that involved.
Just practice and you just get better at it. At
anything you do, you just practice and you get better
at it. Next one is called the thought record. Make
a chart with three columns. The first one you write
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the word situation. Basically, this is what happened. The next
one is the automatic thought, what did you tell yourself
when you saw that this happened? And then the third
one is an alternate thought, you're is the new one.
It's a more realistic, helpful perspective of the issue. Do
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this once a day for a week. It's like debugging
your own brain. Okay, so what happened I got into
a car accident? What you told yourself? It's everybody's fault
in the world that I got into a car accident,
the other person, the light, everything, everything. And then the
third one was, well, I'm okay, I wasn't hurt. A
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car can be replaced, thank God. Even though the other
person is completing total dipshit, They're fine. We were both
able to walk away from our accident. We survived. Lesson learned.
I will actually then think to myself, did I do
anything wrong? Instead of first like it was everybody else's fault.
Maybe I was driving too fast, maybe I wasn't paying
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attention where I was. Could it have maybe been a
little bit my fault? But you do it once a week.
Another one, it's called behavioral action. When your mood dips,
and your instinct is often to pull back. This is
when I ask you to flip the script. Pick one
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positive thing about yourself. So when you're sitting here going
the world socks, it's Friday night, I have nobody to
go out with. There's something wrong with me? Oh my god,
am I ugly? Am I?
Speaker 3 (54:45):
This?
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And my that? Even small? Right, one positive thing about you.
It doesn't matter what it is, because trust me, there's many.
Instead of again assuming that the whole world out there
is criticizing you, putting it out, not liking you, in
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my opinion is you weren't supposed to go out for
whatever reason, then I have a reframing exercise. I love
reframing the concept of basically taking something and reframing that thought.
At the end of each day, write down one challenge
that you faced today. Then writes one positive meaning that
you can take from that. Whatever happened, whatever happened that
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meeting today went horribly, it went badly. What's the positive thing?
I learned? What not to say, what not to do.
Maybe I wasn't dressed to impress, Maybe I was late,
maybe I wasn't ready, And I need to learn to
do it so that the next meeting, it won't go
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as badly. Basically, if you notice, all of these is
about reclaiming your authorship of your life. Instead of letting
old patterns write your story, you pick up the pen
and decide where the plot goes in your life. It's
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in practicing these techniques over and over and over and
over that you get better, and you become happier, and
you become wiser and calmer, and you become more intentional
with good things, with good thoughts, the kind of person
who inspires others just by the way you live. Because
before you know, you're gonna notice that, you're gonna be like, wow,
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people actually want to hang out with me. People want
to surround themselves with me. By me, I mean, can
you say that now? Can you say that people want
to be around you? Or are you a negative Nancy?
Maybe not a positive Paul. But understand you don't have
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to be like that forever. It is your choice and God,
you know. To me, all of these podcasts are very important, obviously,
but this one, this one, to me is one of
the most important mindset. That's why I got into hypnotherapy
because being able to tell people like just change your
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mind Stop being a douchebag. Stop not trusting in people.
Stop talking about the fact that your father wasn't a
father to you and wasn't loving because usually I will
say that it's so funny. So he'd be like, oh,
I wasn't loved by my father, Oh my god, and
I'll be like, oh, that's tough, you know. So did
you have anybody in your life? Oh, my grandfather was amazing.
He took me fishing, and he did this, and he
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did that. I'm like, good, that's your father. People are like, what, Yes,
father is not a title. Father is an energy. Okay,
it's more than just he was the one who get
you know, helped give you birth. No father is energy.
Mother is energy. So maybe the father in your life
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he made you, which is a good thing. But possibly
he just wasn't father material. But yet your grandfather was
for many years. So to me, that's your father energy
right there. It's not a bad thing. I hate when
people use titles constantly. It's like, you know, I have
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friends that have actually said, oh, my my neighbor was
more of a mother to me, or my my big
basketball coach was more of a father to me. They
made up for it my father was more like just
a friend or my father's and that's fine. I wouldn't,
you know, not gonna hold it against him for be like,
it's it's life. He's human first, human first. So hopefully
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something that I said here made you think these possibilities
that are very realistic and that you can quickly quickly
change your entire life. I've said this throughout the through
the series of podcasts many times, and I know quite
a few of you have. There's one gentleman that I
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think of that listens often, and he I remember trying
to share the podcast with him and he went to listen,
and finally he did, and he became one of my
biggest listeners. And that man changed. He changed his life
so much and I mean everything, And it was so
cool to watch because he got to the point that
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he just became a bump on a log and I'm
not happy and I'm not happy with this and I'm
not happy with that. And it's just like I watch
him now and I'm like, who the hell is that person?
And he thanks me, He's like, oh, you know because
of the podcast. I'm like, I'm just talking. You're the
one who has to take this information, information from many
different people, put it together and go I'm gonna run
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with this. And he ran with it, I mean like
Olympic style, and he's very happy and is love tremendously,
which is so cool. So you can't do it. And
you learn to appreciate every tomorrow, every today, and to
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be grateful for all of the experiences of the past
that have made you who you are. Right now, keep
this in mind. Choose action over excuse, purpose over comfort,
and the work that matters over the distractions that don't,
because there's a lot of distractions. My name is Jimmy
Gonzalas and this was to reset yourself twenty two podcasts.
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Go forward and live your life to the fullest. Please
thank you so much for listening, liking, and especially sharing
with others. It means so much to me and to Henry.
Many blessings to you all, Be well and prosper.
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You are listening to the Reset Yourself What to You
Podcast with your host Jimmy gun Solid. Thank you, Thank you,
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is good. So in this weekly podcast, I focus on
sparkling unr confidence and igniting your belief in yourself. I'm
your host, and I am always very thrilled to share
my thoughts and research with you as we go along
on this journey together, You me him can nurture a
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mindset that empowers us to reach our fullest potential. I
write and record every episode to challenge my thinking, your thinking,
and to encourage you to reflect and inspire actionable steps
towards your personal growth. Whether you're facing a career transition,
seeking to overcome challenges, or simply striving for greater fulfillment
in life, this podcast is your go to resource for
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motivation and practical insights, or at least I hope it is.
My inspiration to do the show is to teach people
to focus more on what they can accomplish, so they
do the things they need to do when they need
to do them, so they ultimately get the things they
want when they wish to have them. And this episode
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is dedicated to everyone. Tell me what you want and
I will show you how to get it. The question
is are you willing to do the work now? Actually,
now that I think about it, I want to dedicate
this show to the one hundred and twelve Facebook friends
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that have chosen to unfriend me because of my post
about Charlie Kirk. I know you've at this point you've
had enough with the political stuff going on, But the
bottom line is you have to understand, to me, as
a podcaster, as an old musician, radio DJ, everything freedom
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of speech. When I think of why what happened happened,
it was because of freedom of speech. To me, it
wasn't about his true beliefs, or his spiritual beliefs, or
the fact that he was this or that, or the
many things that you hear, which I find funny because
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again it's a matter of perspective that people could watch
certain videos and see certain things. But again you have
a right to your opinion. But yes, this show is
dedicated to those one hundred and twelve people that felt
that I was crazy or whatever you see as a podcaster.
For you know, speech is very important to me. In fact,
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in fact, for years, when I was an AIM control
officer and I would post something about animals, I used
to post all the time. You can only imagine. I
would post my opinion and I would sure, and then
within a couple hours or whatever, I would have some
family member or someone write to me like, oh my god,
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there's somebody on Facebook criticizing your opinion or saying this,
this and that. Whenever I post, I rarely go back.
Usually I don't even post, like on the actual app.
I post from different apps, and I schedule my times,
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So I'm really not on as much as you'd think.
But you have to understand, if I have freedom to
stand in my soapbox and speak my piece, so does
anyone else. But sticks and stones have never really hurt me.
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So I don't care what people say about me because
it doesn't hurt me. If i'm and if there was
some truth to it, some validity, then I you know,
and I took it personally, like if somebody calls you
something and it offends you, then there's obviously truth to it,
because I don't know. If someone said, hey, you're you know,
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a big ugly woman, I would be like okay, And
the same goes with any other name you can think of.
If it offends you, then there's truth to it. I
don't care. I have been called growing up. I was
called a spic, I was called other things, and I'm like, yeah, okay, whatever,
I really don't care. It doesn't offend me, Like why
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would it, unless, like I said, if it did, then
there's something there. Someone says something about you and it
bothers you because there's something to it. Funny thing is
about like an hour ago, I received a private message
on Facebook, uh some basically from someone I didn't know,
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a friend on Facebook or I'm sorry, a Facebook friend
on Facebook, an animal person, which obviously is probably, I think,
based on their site, clinically insane. But they wrote to
me a post that I shared talking about the shooting,
and all she wrote was someone named Jimmy Gonzalez. That's me,
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should be watching his back from Ice, which has a
quota and is rounding up all brown American citizens in
the summer. I get dark, luckily, but and green card
holders rather than joining organizations that hate brown people. So
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you think you're a part of them until you see
their true face. They don't care of your claim to
be a MAGA, which I never said I was, but
I assume because I shared something about Charlie Carroll, all
of a sudden, Caro Charlie Kirk, I'm automatically a mega follower,
but they hate all Hispanic and black people. MAGA hates
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all Hispanic and black people. Last I checked, two of
the largest groups on instant messag on mess Instagram are
actually Latinos for Trump and Black Trump. Get your shit right. Hey,
many people just talk out of their ass. But anyway,
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and I mean this to that person, thank you so
much for the head heads up. I will watch my
back from ice. Then I actually had another person a
few days ago, somebody actually knew for quite a number
of years, which least that was off. Uh. Basically, that
person again shared a picture and said that I posted
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and said, you know, I hope Charlie Kirk doesn't get
too famous for anything. The amount of ignorance that these
people are letting go, like the diarrhea of their mouth
they're having, is fascinating to me. So if we could
just for a moment, can we please just have a
moment of silence for not just Charlie Kirk, but really
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for his wife and children. Sticks and stones. So once again,
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I was working on a few different topics, and I
don't know if it was a daydream or what it
was a dream that I had sleeping, I don't know,
but I woke up and I just wrote this entire podcast.
And it's funny because let me just's I'm on the
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second floor, this is where my office is, and this
is where he lives. He doesn't get along with the
other animals. But it amazes me sometimes why who speaks
through me when I pick a certain topic and just
write from beginning to ending an entire podcast. So the
way I see it is this is for somebody out there.
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Hopefully it makes you think, or many of you think.
But basically, let me begin with old patterns, old beliefs,
old programming, your thoughts, your habits, They create your actions.
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Especially to all the people that are losing their minds
and being just mean. Understand this. You are sitting in
your driver's seat of where you want to go and
how you want to be seen. Stop blaming mom and dad,
or some horrible shit that happened years ago. This is
not saying what happens should ever be forgotten, but at
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some point in your life you must take back control
of your life and no longer live life as a victim,
choose to live life fully. It is your right right
so that you may feel was taken from you, but
in your mindset you can take it back, and may
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take time. It may take most of your life to
take it back, but it's possible. You don't have to
live worried and stress and miserable for the rest of
your life for something that happened when you are nine.
It doesn't define you. It is a simple thought. If
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you do nothing, nothing can change it's it is. It
is impossible, But I mean understand if you go on
living a lifestyle that you are not pleased with, whether
it's not having enough money, enough love, enough pride in yourself,
living the lifestyle that you are not pleased with, whether
it is I don't know, whatever, whatever is meaning, whatever
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your meaning of success is or happiness or love is,
you can get it back. I have been blessed to
see other people do that. It's it is not as
simple as flipping a switch. But it is very doable,
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and more people are standing up and choosing to live
a life by their own design, not one that filled
my head as I grew up to believe so many
things that I now look back on and find myself questioning,
even feeling guilty for not understanding. Some of them are
wanting to follow those footsteps of people that I grew
up with any longer. Now understand this is not some
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new age woo woo belief. All I'm taking talking about
is reprogramming your mind, just changing your thoughts, not saying
burning sage or writing things down on the mirror and
this and that. You know I've shared that, I've said that,
But all I'm talking about simply is changing your mindset.
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Right now, I hate to sound like a broken record,
but as a hypnotherapist, this was the backbone of how
the mind works. Your mind is broken down into two parts,
the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. The conscious mind
controls the day to day thoughts decisions. Many in my
field refer to this part of the mind as you're
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chattering monkey. Yes it's a chattering monkey, it just doesn't
shut up. While the subconscious mind operates ninety five percent
of the time managing thoughts, emotions, and actions largely without
your conscious awareness. It becomes a reservoir. This it becomes
a reservoir for memories, for past experience, for habits, and
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information learned by the conscious mind. The conscious mind is talking,
subconscious mind is taking. It's the deep filing cabinet. A cabinet.
It's deeply programming, shaped by childhood experiences and life events,
forming long standing patterns that influence us. Hopefully. Now again,
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I've explained this many times and many different things. You
have a breakdown of both. But how they work together?
You ask, Okay, the conscious mind, okay, so that's the
chattering monkey takes new experiences and information and stores it
into the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind access is this
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stored information to influence your thoughts, your feelings, your behaviors,
often with conscious mind's knowledge. It's listening. The two are
connected and the conscious mind can influence okay, the subconscious
mind by consciously choosing positive thoughts and behaviors through the
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subconscious heavily influenced present actions and beliefs. So what is
happening during all this gibber jabber between the front and
the back, not literally front and back, but let's just
say that it's a classic example of the subconscious mind
in action. Is driving a car. Okay, your subconscious is
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driving a car. When you first learn it requires intense
conscious effort, but with practice, the process becomes automatic and effortless,
with your subconscious mind managing the steering, gearing changes, and
the awareness of obstacles, allowing your conscious mind to handle
other tasks like talking or listening to music. So I
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still remember to this day my uncle paid for a
driver a driving school to take me on a lesson.
Actually was his friend. And I had already been practicing
driving since I was like thirteen, so but my uncle
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wanted to make sure. So I got into a car
with the instructor and I just I never forget, like
getting in the car and you turn the car and
you focus on this, you focus on that, and you
go forward and just be very careful. And this instructor
pretty much was like the hands on ten and two
and you want to focus on zone one, zone two,
zone three, zone four, And I'm like, what is he
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talking about? And it's like the front of the left
of the car, the front right of the car, the
center of the car, the back of the car, the
left of the car, the right of the car, you know,
and it's just like you're like this bubble and you
have to protect yourself and all this stuff, and everybody
has a way of teaching. But I remember, uh being
somewhat comfortable driving. I never I only had one lesson. Like,
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we drove around for a bit, we came back and
he told him because he's like he doesn't need it.
But I remember still thinking to myself, holy crap, Like
there's a lot involved in driving that I didn't know.
So when up happening was for the first, you know,
for the next ten, fifteen, twenty times, I remember driving
like it was no longer I was no longer focused
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on like even almost where I was going, I was
focused on one, two, three, four, five six, this mirror,
that mirror, the rear mirror. You know, God forbid. Don't
touch the radio, don't touch anything. Just stare at the road.
You're just focusing where you're going and how who's coming
out in front of you and the cars. And I
remember thinking to myself, I don't want to drive. But
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as I just mentioned, conscious mind, subconscious mind, the conscious
mind is a chattering monk, and be careful, be careful,
be careful. Look to the left, look to the right,
look to the left, look to the right, look to
the But as most of us, as years go on,
you're all of these rules, regulations, thoughts, process goes into
your subconscious mind and they just become known. And did
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you ever get in a car, turn it on, started
driving and where you're going? And they didn't even process
the fact that there were stop lights, there was a
right on red, there was you know, somebody beeped and
you were careful. There was a pedestrian in the street,
dog walking. Oh my god, look there's a diner. All
this stuff was happening, and you weren't actually really focused.
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I mean, you are driving, and that's not actually being irresponsible,
it's it's just what happens. Uh. The subconscious mind just
takes over, so you no longer have to focus on
you know, ten and two and this and that. Before
you know it, you're now you could you could, you
could you know, you could use the phone, the phone,
you could you shouldn't use the phone while you're driving,
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but you could use the radio. You can use this,
you could use that because you've become so comfortable in
yourself that your subconscious mind is driving the car. The
same thing with life. Your subconscious mind is like the
underground and know, it's like it's like Big Brother watching.
It knows what it needs to know, and it does
what it needs to do. But how do I change this?
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If it's that confusing to me, if I just don't
like my thoughts, and you know, if I'm not that
in control of myself. Well, here's the problem for many
that that five percent that I said, uh, the conscious
mind is only five percent. Subconscious mind is ninety five
percent of your thoughts. We allow our mind to focus
on it, so the beliefs will allow us to guide
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us throughout the day. I am happy to see. Thank God,
this is where I'm gonna go with this. The amount
of people turning to meditation and hypnosis not just to
stop smoking or reading, but choosing to clean out their
mental filing cabinets of old, stale, limiting beliefs that at
some point you find yourself asking do these thoughts even
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serve me? It is these beliefs many so strong that
they continue to not allow you to move forward. They
fill you with fears, fill you with dreams sometimes put
goals and make you believe that they will just always
be at a distance. I hope, but I will always hope.
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But you have to understand these limiting beliefs that are
in your mind. They weigh you back like a huge
anchor stuck deep in the ocean way below, no longer
allowing you to sail forward because you believe all this shit.
You still believe that you can't change your mind. You
still believe all the fears that you still carry. Something
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happens in fear, and you run and you react instead
of sitting there and processing what's happening and going well,
what is the concept behind this fear? Is there any
reality to it? Has it ever hurt me in any way? No?
Should I continue to have this fear? No, you break
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this chain to this anchor, because understand, it's these things
that don't allow you to move forward and live a happy,
clear life. So what is happening is you start, it
starts to affect other things. So before you know it,
it starts limiting many things in your life, and before
you know you're just filled with fear of everything. And
I know quite of a people like this, and it's
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funny because whenever I see it, my heart breaks because
it's it's just a shame that they choose to live
like this instead of just living. Chain must be broken.
And without even understanding these beliefs, are children now also
believe in many of these things that these types of
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parents share with them, sometimes not even thinking about it.
But now it becomes their children's limiting beliefs. I mean understand.
Although I came from a household of love, my father
always felt that there there was a lack, lack of everything,
which now looking back, yes, we lived in a neighborhood
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that was that was, that was tough, that was you know,
there was a lot of lack. In my actual home,
there was never lack. Yes, I didn't have name brand sneakers,
I didn't have all the video game consoles. I didn't
have all that stuff, but I had now looking back,
I had the love of cat. But I had a
lot of love and I know, I see you think
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so too. And I had animals I had, you know,
I mean, which was that was still to this day
very important to me. But my father's beliefs, It's funny.
It was my uncle, which I've mentioned in other podcasts
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that fought hard, worked hard, worked smart. He believed in
the American dream and understood that there was enough pie
for everyone. So he strived and he worked, and he sacrificed,
and not only took a piece of pie for him himself,
but he invested in himself and he made his own
big pie that he ended up sharing with thousands of
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people in so many different ways. And it was so
cool growing up witnessing all of this. But for me,
little kid, this was a conundrum. For me, young boy,
listening to two completely different views, was at every single
family function. As I got older, I got to spend
more and more time with my uncle, and I can
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say now that my core beliefs now are rooted because
of him, in having belief in faith in myself and
dreams and goals and not always focusing on lack do.
My father's beliefs pop up from time to time, of course,
but as time goes on they become quieter and quieter.
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And I only reflected my father now and the good
times we had. I see no reason to continue to
dislike him or hate him for being the person he was.
He had many good qualities because of him. I actually
got to learn and see the balance in life. You
see both sides, so I appreciate him. You need dark,
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you need you need light, you need evil, you need goodness,
you need you have. You know, if you can't have
rainy rainy days without the sun, and vice versa, you
do need them both because it helps you experience and
enjoy the other one even more. But because of him,
I have the interesting curiosity and drive to use my
hands to fix everything, which I fix everything around here,
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And it's really because of him. Now, as you can see,
I had a very loud, chattering monkey that only talked
about lacking my life and wanting more of this and
more of that. As for money, and that there was
never enough. But at some point in your life you
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can only decide what to do next with your life
with the next moment, how will you make what you
feel you need? Like? What do you need in life? Really?
So many people are like, oh, I wish I'd made
more of this. I wish I did more of that,
But I mean, what are you actually doing to do it?
It shocks me whenever, Like I love challenging people. When
people come to me and say, oh I wish I
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had a new car, I'm like Oh my god, what
kind of car? What is your budget? When would you
like to get it? Four door? Two doors, sports car?
Good on? And you just stare you almost like well
I just I was just talking out of my ass.
I'm like, oh, okay, and that's why you'll never have anything.
No one is coming to give you free handouts. You
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must give to receive, and when you receive, always remember
to give to me. This one is one of the
most powerful laws of life. But when you want something
in your life, I mean, this isn't about like manifestation.
This is just about like, whoa do you really want it?
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How many people say I want a million dollars? And
it's like, okay, how are you willing to work for it?
Are you willing to rob a bank for it? Are
you willing to play the lottery for it? And they
I've said that to people and they just stare at
me like with a dumb face, like I want X,
Y and Z. Okay, oh my god, really, so what
are you gonna do about it? What to get X,
Y and Z? Well, I blah, it's like stupid, what
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do you want? So a goal, set of date, set
a time, start working towards it. For those of you
that believe that I've been positive my entire life. No
good things don't always happen to me. But if you
have shitty attitude, which I've learned in time to not have,
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if you always want lack, you will always be poor,
you will always be unhealthy. Those people with that mentality,
I say, shame on you, and I hope you don't
have children to pass these weak beliefs onto. Yes they
are weak, and you know what they're yours. Enjoy them,
but don't pass them on to others. Don't bring them
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out to family and friends. You know, don't be that
friend that comes over and people are, oh God, so
and so is here and you just walk in You're like,
blah blah, live stocks. Everything sucks this and that I've
had I know one specific, but I know a few people,
But I know one specific person that just was had
a magical talent of just being miserable about everything. And
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we no longer speak because of this, because it's just like,
please stay away, keep the misery over there. But weak
habits that you're continuing to fuel day after day, week
after week, month after month, we'll just never go away.
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And then, of course people wait for the new year
to roll along, which will be soon before you know it,
and people think, oh, my life's gonna change, because come,
you know, I'm just gonna close my eyes and goes,
I want a million dollars or I want a new career,
or I want a new car, or I want a
new relationship. And it's like, all right, what are you
doing to get it? Nothing? How serious are you truly
willing to do the work to get the things you want? No,
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but Jimmy, how do I do it? I hate to
sound as simple, but it's basically taken the time to
shut up and just under your thoughts. This is where
I have to bring in the word, the word meditation.
When was the last time you meditated or prayed? Not
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just God please give me this, or God please ton't
know that. God doesn't want to hear that. Everybody has
a belief about that. I just believe God is so good.
He has given me so much. I would never want
to call him, contact him, pray to him and be like,
you know you blah blah blah, you did it my God.
I don't know about you, guys. My God is too good.
Every morning, my God gives me more uh. We have
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so many hummingbirds, and I'm talking about like big to little,
little little hummingbirds. And every time one goes by, I
always I'm always there to watch it, and I watch
it and I'm like, I'm blessed to be able to
I mean a humming I've never seen hummingbirds. I think
I saw one in Connecticut one time. They're always here.
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It's funny here is here, I am in Farmtown, USA.
It's a lot easier to do it than running that
never ending rat race where I used to live. Here,
you are focused to smell the farm animals and truly
enjoy life here. I have slowed down enough to talk
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to hear my God speak to me at dawn with
the beautiful sunrise, and at night in the darkness, when
I'm reminded how vast universe is. Because I could see
every single star shining above my home. Whenever I walk
through the yard, I walk in complete darkness. Why would
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I want to turn the light on. I don't have
to worry about if I see where I'm gonna go,
because I know I'm gonna go where I need to
go because I have the light from above shining down.
It's like diamonds in the sky, something that I longed
for up north. If I saw a few stars up there,
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I was shocked. Here, it's a blanket, it's every night
I've been here. Actually, I just got, you know, my
one year anniversary here, and I still feel as excited
as I was when I first moved out. Nothing has changed.
In fact, I feel more and more in love with
where I am with my life. I don't take anything
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for granted. I look up often and I'm very thankful
for everything and everyone. But this is a mindset that
I have worked with for years. I have molded and remolded,
and a few times had to start again because I
wasn't happy with where I was going or who I
was becoming throughout my life. I had to rethink my life,
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question my actions, and deeply ponder am I happy? This
is not about who led me astray or who hurts
me again. That's holding you back. You're allowing somebody else
hold you back. If you feel like you're broken, if
you feel like you can't understand, those are scars that
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you are the one that keeps picking at them and
not allowing them to just heal. Here's some science. The
word of the day is neuroplasticity. Neuroplasticity means that you
can change yourself at any moment, scientifically proven. Yes, science
scientists actually like believe in this stuff now, not woo voodoo.
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You can change your brain at any moment. Now, I'm
not talking about the new age thing again sitting and
burning incense, but I'm talking about neuroplasticity being scientific proof
that proves that we are not hardwired forever. How about
that phrase, you can't teach an old dog new tricks. Actually,
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it's complete bullshit. It reminds me of older people in
my life that are like, you know, I'm dwo old,
I can't do not true. I feel bad for you
that you believe that, because you're just lying to yourself
and cheating the journey you have of just truly enjoying
yourself because you're like, I can't because I'm this, or
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I'm that. It's just I feel sorry for you. I
pray for you that you believe this nonsense. But I
mean it's up to you to choose to surrender to
life and to live your life fully as you so wish.
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It's your right, but please do not spread this message
of surrendering to life because you feel it is too hard. Sadly,
you have to understand that life shouldn't be hard, and
it isn't hard. Life is a gift from God, from
the universe above. We are all born, born with purpose
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with many throughout our lives. We give back, we share,
we love, we laugh. To me, that is the meaning
of my life. We don't go through life complaining and
ditching and feeling that we weren't given our dues to manifest.
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You must say it loud, you must say it proud.
But if you don't believe in it truly, if you're
just repeating words, it's not gonna happen. As you're eating
a shitty meal. You're like, I wish I was dry,
I was thinner, I wish I was healthier. You're eating
a shitty meal. So even when it comes to the
New Age angle, work is still involved, as in everything
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you do in your life, work is always involved. If
you sit there and just hope that everything will be
resolved in front of you while you sit there and
do nothing, Sadly, you have I was gonna say another
thing coming, you have nothing incoming. So that dog, yes
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can be taught new tricks. It may be tough, because
it may be slower because it is an old dog
with a lot of old mindsets, but it can be taught.
So now what is what is the concept? Getting back
to the word neuroplasticity, It's just changing your brain. The
ability of your brain to form and recognize synaptic connections
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to the brains remarkable. It is your brain is remarkable.
The ability to change and reorganize its structure, its function,
it's connections in response to new experiences, learning, even of injury.
Neuroplasticity offers real hope and this is again looked it up.
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It's real to everyone, from stroke victims to dyslexics. So
can you change habits and beliefs? Yeah, if you so
choose to. If you have I have a fear of something,
you continue to have it, change it? You just okay,
you don't want to, that's fine. You're okay with hurting
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your body, with not being appreciative of your life. That's
on you again. You have a freedom. You have a
freedom to be to live in fear. We spend so
much time doing others and how they think, how they live,
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and how they are able to accomplish the things that
they have and many will revel when others fail because
it makes it easier with our weak minds to feel
as if now they are too. They are part of
this failure club that we are a part of. Oh,
that they failed so that I could we all failed.
Envy and jealousy are ridiculous and such a waste of time.
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I revel in seeing someone do well, even better than myself.
I want my daughter to do better than me, and
I want my friends to do better than me. I
went in to outshine everything I've ever done, because that's
how I learned. It gives me hope that if they
can work harder and do better, then so can I.
It gives me hope, And now I ask often, are
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you willing to do the work or is it easier
to sit there and just point fingers and feel good
when others fall. I know a girl that only was
attracted to pieces of shit. Yeah, she would only date
pieces of shit. It was weird. Every guy she dated
was worse than the next, and it was amazing how
she could find like horrible people. But she said, it's
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easier for me to date and she described regular guys
because those guys that are doing better will expect her
to get out there and hustle also and work hard.
So sadly she ended up so finally meeting and dating
a wonderful Surprisingly, after a while she did she found
the guy that was wonderful that I met him, and
I was like, I'd marry him. Hard worker, extremely driven,
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And what do you think happened? He wanted her to
do better for herself. He wanted her to succeed in life,
and he wanted her to go back to school because
she didn't finish, so she can have a better job.
He didn't want her to depend on him. She wanted
her to be able to take care of herself and
make ample amount of money. He believed in her, he
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saw in her something. She did that, so guess what happened? Yeah,
she dumped him and now she is back to the
bottom of the barrel. Her life is so much easy
enough because she is dating. I want everyone to understand
the severity of what I am talking about. Stop complaining
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and then apologizing to me for making poor choices and
living the life you should not be living. Life is
not happening outside your window or on the boob tube.
It is happening inside of you. It's funny. I don't drink.
I never have, and I think it's fascinating whenever I
happen to comment that in somewhere, Like if somebody is
sitting there drinking and they will say, oh, would you
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like a drink, and I'm like, no, actually I don't drink,
thank you. Immediately their first reaction is always well, you
know I don't drink. This much easier either, are you
know I usually don't go to bars, Or I'm like,
why are you defending yourself? I don't see the point
unless you feel that what you're doing is wrong. I
don't drink because it's my choice. If you choose to drink,
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that's on you. I'm trust me. I'm not gonna judge you.
I don't care enough unless you're losing your mind and
you're being violent. I have an issue with that. But
if you're just sitting there drinking, having whatever, I don't
really why would I why? But it always makes me
kind of smirk because I'm like, Wow, they're doing so
well and everything is so perfect. Why do they have
to make such a big deal that they're drinking. I
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don't care, but I mean I do feel that all
of this worry. All of these complaining, all this bullshit,
this this negative talk, especially what's happening now, is such
a waste of time. It's such a waste of life.
And as I said, it used to happen to me
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while I was writing this. I remember I recall my
aunt and I driving through the east side of Bridgeport
on East Main Street. We were just about to go
under the train tracks there's a bridge. And this was
the eighties when Bridgeport was actually, like at is worse.
So it is not horrible yet, but in the eighties
it was bad. Crack was huge, and someone painted in
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graffiti over the road like actually on the train bridge,
east side, best side, east side, best side, and at
that time the east side was the worst side. And
I turned to my aunt and I said, that's true,
and she looked at me with such sadness and asked
me think about what I just said. Here I am
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now forty plus years later, still thinking about it. Shitty
neighborhood crime was through the roof. So let's try to
convince ourselves with some arts that's not that bad. Instead
of working and cleaning the problem, throwing a band aid
over it and just saying forget about it. You must
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do the work. Now understand how it may seem to
many that being negative is easier, But it took years
for me to do the work and to understand. And
I could say that that train bridge screwed with my
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mind because I was just trying to make the best
out of like a shitty mindset. But now and for
the past so many years, I am aware of them,
all these stupid thoughts, and every day and in every
way I'm doing better and better. I find the good,
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and I find the good and I find the good.
Now understand that words are powerful, but it is the intention.
So even if I was to say something stupid, somebody
is like, don't say that. It's the intention behind it.
So if you say that, then you don't understand what
I'm talking about. Whenever you say anything, for it to happen,
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you have to have true intention. So to turn it
back on you, if you say I want a million
dollars or I want a good education, or I want
a better car in this and that you're just saying
it that nothing's gonna happen. You have to believe in it.
You have to have the intention in it that you
want better. For yourself. So now I have a question
for all of you. How are you living your life?
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Are you living your life as a zombie? Are you
on autopilot, just going through the steps day in and
day out, same old, same old. Every Monday I do this,
and every Friday I do that, and life is just
going on. Which if you don't want to see growth
and expansion, and that's fine, but the beginning of many
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opportunities in your life will PLoP on your lap when
you get out there and do things, when you talk
to people, when new people, new places, when you challenge yourself,
when you're not afraid to drive somewhere and just walk
in and say hi, I'm Jimmy. Like today today, I
have a friend who owns a farm that he does straw,
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and hey like, I'm talking a lot, and he needed help.
So he called me earlier this morning and I got
there and I ended up moving sixteen thousand pounds of straw, yes,
filled like big straw. Hey like, it was amazing. I
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didn't think I could run. I walked in. It was
just a massive wall and I just started with one.
I didn't complain. I didn't get there and go it's
too hot it's to this. It's too much. I can't hand.
My back hurts. I'm fine. I went and I started
with one bail, and before you know it, I did.
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There was a gentleman with me, a much older gentleman,
which I felt bad for because he kept taking breaks.
But he has been doing this for years, but he
hadn't done it in like three or four years. But
he kept me laughing. But I did all of the work,
bringing it down to the cart and dropping it for him,
and then he just shifted it where he needed to because
I wanted him to do the least amount of possible
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work because he was so funny. But his talking kept
me laughing. But I didn't focus on the whole job.
I focused on one bin, then two, then three bins.
Before you know it, I put one hundred and two
bins on one cart. Then in the other cart, I
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put one hundred and five bins. Now, mind you, the
first cart, the each bin weighed between sixty to seventy pounds.
The second cart, the bins weighed between seventy five to
one hundred pounds. Yes, that's a lot. But I didn't
use my muscle per se I did, but I used
my mind, and I lifted carefully and I shifted and
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instead of bringing up a long story, I brought down
which made it so much easier to put it into
this huge cart. And I left and I was I
couldn't believe it. Like I actually took pictures. I'm like, wow,
I can't believe we did this. No complaining, no bitching,
no this, no that it had to be done, and
it was done. But with that attitude, when you become
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habitual with it, it starts to help you, it starts
to guide you. And if your first thought is always
complaining and bitching, and you're never gonna get anything you want, like,
you have to create the habit of every single thought,
and it takes time. But every single thought is positive.
Every single thought is a possibility of something better. But
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there are so many people that want more in life
and do nothing to get it. All they do is
criticize everybody else. And to these people, I you know,
I feel bad, but I mean, at some point, if
you want to get off your ass and see things happen,
you and I speaking to you have to turn off
cruise control and you have to grab your steering wheel
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and you have to choose to go where you wish,
and you have to reprogram your mind, your mindset. Let
me share the concept of cognitive restructuring or CBT cognitive
behavioral therapy. It's a type of psychotherapy Okay, big words,
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ignore them that focuses on the relationship between your thoughts,
your feelings, and your behaviors. Your thoughts, your feelings, and
your behaviors. CBT thoughts influence your feelings and behaviors. Negative
thoughts can lead to negative emotions and unhealthy behaviors. That
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makes sense. Positive thoughts, positive feelings and behaviors. Negative thoughts,
negative feelings and behaviors. By changing your negative thoughts, individuals
can improve their mood and wellbeing. It's logical. If you're
in a good mood, you're gonna have a good day.
You're gonna feel better about life. If you're just gonna
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wake up and just hate the world and criticize this
and criticize that, and put this down and put that down,
you're gonna have a shitty day. Cognitive behavior teaches individuals
practical strategies to identify a challenge and modify your thoughts
and your behaviors. The benefits of this basically are for
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treating a wide range of mental health conditions, including anxiety yes,
depression yes, PTSD uh huh, and eating disorders. It helps
individuals develop coping mechanisms and improve their overall functioning. It
focuses on the present and teaches individuals to address current
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problems rather than dwelling on the past or the future
that hasn't happened yet. It provides a structured and goal
oriented or approach to therapy. Small thoughts, small thoughts. That's
why you always hear people say just focus on today. Yes,
just focus on today, because all you can focus on
really is, or should all you should be focusing on
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is today spending your entire day focused on what happened
back in nineteen seventy two. Remember the anchor. You can't
go forward if something is holding you back to the past,
you can't. Many therapists prefer this type of thinking, which
is just restructuring your mindset. And I know at this
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point a lot of you will not get it big words,
so I'm trying to break it down as easy as possible.
But hopefully you begin working on this, you begin to
see changes in your life and then decide you wish
to take it up a notch because you can do
basic CBT at home. But to me, when you get
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good at it and you feel comfortable, you should see
somebody who specializes in it for more advice, or just
watch better videos. But most of the battles we face
in life are aren't out there. Most of the battles
you face in your life are not out there. I'm
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pointing to a window. They start in here. The doubts,
the negative self talk, the stories that we tell ourselves
that hold us back because we're not worthy. And that's
when things like CBT come in. At this point, CBT
is about one simple truth. Your thoughts shape your feelings.
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Your feelings shape your actions, and your actions shape your life.
Your feelings, your actions, your life are shaped by your thoughts.
The beauty of a belief like this cognitive thinking is
that you don't need a fancy setup to practice it.
You can start, like I said, right at home, with
a pen, a paper, and a willingness to just be honest.
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You start catching those sneaky automatic thoughts that drag you down.
I'm not good enough. This always happens to me. Everybody's
out to get me. Everybody in my family is doing
better than me and I'm not. It's I am a target.
Blah blah blah, bullshit, bullshit. Uh, but you have to
have resilience this type of thinking, or what I'm asking
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you to do is to reframe these setbacks, these negative moments.
Instead of thinking, I failed, so I'm a failure, you
learned to think I failed, so I learned what doesn't work?
I took this test and I failed it? All right?
Why did I not study enough? Did I not understand
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the information? Did I not sleep enough the night before?
All right, that's fine. So what I do next? Instead
of walking around then f on my head going oh
me go, everybody look at me? I felt like and
with this confidence, the more you practice, the more you
realize you are not your thoughts. You're the one choosing
what your thoughts are. You are not your thoughts. You
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are choosing what they are, and that's your power. By
changing thought patterns, you free yourself from cycles of procrastination, doubt,
or fear. Suddenly you've got room to start focusing on
what really matters. Because when you start practicing this positive
mindset and you get rid of the negative aspects and
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all that nonsense, you get just shut up, you start
really being clearer in your mindset, and you know what again,
you know, but Jimmy, how do I do it? Okay?
Here are a few simple practices to share with you guys.
First one is called catch the thought. Write down one
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negative thought you notice today. Every time you say a
negative thought today, write it down. I'll never pass the test.
And then what you do is you ask yourself is
this one true? If so, what evidence do you actually
have of it? Think about it. I'm a bad driver, okay,
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so do you want to be a good driver. I mean,
I don't want to go through life thinking I'm a
bad this, I'm a bad disc, I'm a bad dad.
I focus on the good things I'm at am I
as good at everything. No, but why am I gonna
focus constantly letting everybody, Hey, everybody, I'm bad at it.
Like it's just hey, everybody, I'm good at that, that
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and that. And if being bad at something is such
a bad thing, I just practice. It's not that involved.
Just practice and you just get better at it. At
anything you do, you just practice and you get better
at it. Next one is called the thought record. Make
a chart with three columns. The first one you write
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the word situation. Basically, this is what happened. The next
one is the automatic thought, what did you tell yourself
when you saw that this happened? And then the third
one is an alternate thought, you're is the new one.
It's a more realistic, helpful perspective of the issue. Do
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this once a day for a week. It's like debugging
your own brain. Okay, so what happened I got into
a car accident? What you told yourself? It's everybody's fault
in the world that I got into a car accident,
the other person, the light, everything, everything. And then the
third one was, well, I'm okay, I wasn't hurt. A
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car can be replaced, thank God. Even though the other
person is completing total dipshit, They're fine. We were both
able to walk away from our accident. We survived. Lesson learned.
I will actually then think to myself, did I do
anything wrong? Instead of first like it was everybody else's fault.
Maybe I was driving too fast, maybe I wasn't paying
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attention where I was. Could it have maybe been a
little bit my fault? But you do it once a week.
Another one, it's called behavioral action. When your mood dips,
and your instinct is often to pull back. This is
when I ask you to flip the script. Pick one
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positive thing about yourself. So when you're sitting here going
the world socks, it's Friday night, I have nobody to
go out with. There's something wrong with me? Oh my god,
am I ugly? Am I?
Speaker 3 (54:45):
This?
Speaker 2 (54:45):
And my that? Even small? Right, one positive thing about you.
It doesn't matter what it is, because trust me, there's many.
Instead of again assuming that the whole world out there
is criticizing you, putting it out, not liking you, in
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my opinion is you weren't supposed to go out for
whatever reason, then I have a reframing exercise. I love
reframing the concept of basically taking something and reframing that thought.
At the end of each day, write down one challenge
that you faced today. Then writes one positive meaning that
you can take from that. Whatever happened, whatever happened that
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meeting today went horribly, it went badly. What's the positive thing?
I learned? What not to say, what not to do.
Maybe I wasn't dressed to impress, Maybe I was late,
maybe I wasn't ready, And I need to learn to
do it so that the next meeting, it won't go
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as badly. Basically, if you notice, all of these is
about reclaiming your authorship of your life. Instead of letting
old patterns write your story, you pick up the pen
and decide where the plot goes in your life. It's
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in practicing these techniques over and over and over and
over that you get better, and you become happier, and
you become wiser and calmer, and you become more intentional
with good things, with good thoughts, the kind of person
who inspires others just by the way you live. Because
before you know, you're gonna notice that, you're gonna be like, wow,
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people actually want to hang out with me. People want
to surround themselves with me. By me, I mean, can
you say that now? Can you say that people want
to be around you? Or are you a negative Nancy?
Maybe not a positive Paul. But understand you don't have
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to be like that forever. It is your choice and God,
you know. To me, all of these podcasts are very important, obviously,
but this one, this one, to me is one of
the most important mindset. That's why I got into hypnotherapy
because being able to tell people like just change your
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mind Stop being a douchebag. Stop not trusting in people.
Stop talking about the fact that your father wasn't a
father to you and wasn't loving because usually I will
say that it's so funny. So he'd be like, oh,
I wasn't loved by my father, Oh my god, and
I'll be like, oh, that's tough, you know. So did
you have anybody in your life? Oh, my grandfather was amazing.
He took me fishing, and he did this, and he
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did that. I'm like, good, that's your father. People are like, what, Yes,
father is not a title. Father is an energy. Okay,
it's more than just he was the one who get
you know, helped give you birth. No father is energy.
Mother is energy. So maybe the father in your life
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he made you, which is a good thing. But possibly
he just wasn't father material. But yet your grandfather was
for many years. So to me, that's your father energy
right there. It's not a bad thing. I hate when
people use titles constantly. It's like, you know, I have
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friends that have actually said, oh, my my neighbor was
more of a mother to me, or my my big
basketball coach was more of a father to me. They
made up for it my father was more like just
a friend or my father's and that's fine. I wouldn't,
you know, not gonna hold it against him for be like,
it's it's life. He's human first, human first. So hopefully
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something that I said here made you think these possibilities
that are very realistic and that you can quickly quickly
change your entire life. I've said this throughout the through
the series of podcasts many times, and I know quite
a few of you have. There's one gentleman that I
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think of that listens often, and he I remember trying
to share the podcast with him and he went to listen,
and finally he did, and he became one of my
biggest listeners. And that man changed. He changed his life
so much and I mean everything, And it was so
cool to watch because he got to the point that
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he just became a bump on a log and I'm
not happy and I'm not happy with this and I'm
not happy with that. And it's just like I watch
him now and I'm like, who the hell is that person?
And he thanks me, He's like, oh, you know because
of the podcast. I'm like, I'm just talking. You're the
one who has to take this information, information from many
different people, put it together and go I'm gonna run
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with this. And he ran with it, I mean like
Olympic style, and he's very happy and is love tremendously,
which is so cool. So you can't do it. And
you learn to appreciate every tomorrow, every today, and to
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be grateful for all of the experiences of the past
that have made you who you are. Right now, keep
this in mind. Choose action over excuse, purpose over comfort,
and the work that matters over the distractions that don't,
because there's a lot of distractions. My name is Jimmy
Gonzalas and this was to reset yourself twenty two podcasts.
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Go forward and live your life to the fullest. Please
thank you so much for listening, liking, and especially sharing
with others. It means so much to me and to Henry.
Many blessings to you all, Be well and prosper.
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Shall trot Susling and the minds.
Speaker 1 (01:01:25):
Of semitations at every day and do all they can
to make a difference in our lives, the lives of as.
If you are interested in learning more about the services
that Jimmy offers, Jimmy www dot M E M. A
h h dot com. Jimmy offers a downloadable ebook and
a link to his Mind's Eye meditation sessions, which are
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both offered for free. Please consider it a gift. And
for those that like the do it yourself approach, Jimmy
also offers pre recorded self hypnosis sessions. If you prefer
the one on one approach, feel free to reach out.
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