May 27, 2025 • 51 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Please note this show contains adult language and themes and
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Speaker 2 (00:23):
Dearly beloved, we'll gathered here today to get through this
thing called life.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
You are listening to the Reset Yourself What Need You podcast?
In your hosts An Unpolarce.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Hello, Hello, Hello, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.
I appreciate it. In this weekly podcast, I focus on
sparking your inner confidence and IGNITINGHH and igniting your inner
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belief in yourself, myself, ourselves, and Henry. As she said,
I'm your host to Miguzalees, and I am always very
extremely thrilled to share my thoughts and research with you
as we go along on this journey. Together, we can
nurture a mindset that empowers us to reach our fullest
potential to I write and record all this stuff every
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week to challenge my thinking too, and to encourage us
to practice, to reflect and inspire actionable, realistic steps that
we can take together. Actually, I have some things at
the very end which I think would be very great,
very good for you, whether you're facing a career transition,
seeking to overcome challenges, or simply striving for greater fulfillment
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in life. This podcast was created to be hopefully your
go to resource for a motivation and practical insights. My
inspiration to do this is to show, to teach, to
help you learn to focus more on what you can
accomplish so that you can get the things you want
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to be able to do the things you want to
do when you need to do them, so ultimately you
feel accomplished. You feel as this, you had stuff to do,
you did the work to do it, and now you
have it. Because that, to me, that's life. It's what
you do. You're not willing to do the work. As
I said my very next line, tell me what you
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want and I will show you how to get it.
The question is are you willing to do the work.
I've actually had a lot of people challenge me on that.
It's I go so you can tell me to do anything? Yeah,
I pretty much can't. Usually a third person person on
the outside can because I am not totally I'm not
in your head with the problems, most of them that
aren't even real, the fears that aren't even real. I
could just tell you, oh, for you to accomplish this,
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this and that. I think all you need to do
is focus on X, Y and Z and not a
B and C. It's up to you, it's your life.
But it's like, that's why, sometimes, not always, you want
to find somebody who's not judgmental, not a jerk, not
a complete ass, who really does have your best interest
in heart and will sadly. I say sadly because for
some of us it's very difficult tell you the truth
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even when it hurts. Today, I'm going to talk about
embracing the unknown, the power of being open minded, curious,
and the opportunity to see the opportunity in life's ever
unfolding journey that you have in front of you so far,
look back at everything you've already done. Life is a
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series of many, many unfolding moments. If I had if this,
if I had the graphics, I would have a debate
the pages of a book being scrolled by, each brimming
with potential, from the mundane to the miraculous. Every day
we are now presented with so many opportunities, some grand
and obvious, others quiet and subtle. The key to recognizing
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and seizing these opportunities lies not in predicting outcomes or
controlling every steps but in cultivating, creating an open mind,
nurturing a sense of curiosity, and letting go of that
F word, Oh, that F word. In a world driven
by uncertainty and change, it is our ability to remain open,
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to try, to fail, to learn, and to grow. This
is what transforms the ordinary to the extraordinary. This episode
explores the importance of wrecking thatie and embracing opportunities by
developing open mindedness and curiosity. This episode is supposed to
be about trying, trying, and sadly, the F word is
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going to come up quite a bit because the F
word is the the villain, the arch nemesis to trying.
It addresses how the F word and ignorance often holds back,
how impermanence can be a guide instead of a threat,
and how a shift in perspective that's all it is,
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can lead us to a more abundant and fulfilling life.
The life, think about it, the life you're living right now,
wherever you are, right now, sitting dealing whatever the bills
you have in front of you. The complaining about talks
is the fact that you have dishes that you need
to wash, the bed that you haven't made because you're
just so fucking lazy. The bottom line is you can
change your life dramatically. There was a I already thought
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about that. There was a video of a forgive me
for if I'm wrong, a sergeantal lieutenant, a colonel, somebody
in a college. Kids were graduating, and this gentleman came
to speak and his whole focus is on making the bed,
and I was like, what, Yes, because it's the little
things that if you cannot to do the little things
because you see them as tedious, you're not gonna accomplish
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the big things. If you're toasting bread and you're leaving
out crumbs, if you're just putting dirty dishes in the sink,
if you're leaving clothes that are that are washed in
the washing machine for too long because you just I
don't have time? Why not? What the hell are you doing?
Are you focusing? Basically, it's not that you don't have time.
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I hate what people say I don't have time. No,
it's just that you have choices, and many of you
just decide to make bad choices. So you decide to
forget that the washing machine has clean clothes in it,
and now you're gonna put them in the dryer and
they smell like like like like crap or the dishes
that you know, you just decided to instead of like
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eating and washing. A lot of people are like, yeah,
but I want it. You do it right, So after
dinner washing dishes. Yeah, but I'm tired. I'll washing them tomorrow.
So then tomorrow they sit there all day because you
have to go to work, you have to go somewhere.
So now when it's time to clean them, you're you're
fighting with these dishes because all the crumbs are so
stuck to it and it's impossible. So now you're mad
at the dish basically because you're lazy. Just do it,
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resolve it. And I at first, yes, I get it.
I'm a realist. It may be it may be a
little difficult, but once you do it twice, three times,
four times, the fifth time, you make the bed in
a row, the sixth, seventh, and eighth time, you just
keep doing it to the point that when you don't
do it, you're gonna be like, oh, something's wrong. What
then I do the bed? You just do it. You
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just do it, because, as this person said, if you
can't do something as simple as making the bed and
you think you're gonna accomplish great wonderful masks and crate
and credit. Possibly, I doubt it. It's the little thing Allulijah.
Opportunities are the seeds of change. They come in many forms.
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You're not gonna see them because you're not even making
the bed or washing the dishes. But when you see
these opportunities, things will land on your lap, like a
job offer, a new friendship, a random idea, or even
a challenge that pushes us beyond ooh our comfort zone.
At times, opportunities are loud and demanding, like that rooster
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in the background. At other times they whisper quietly, requiring
attunement and stillness to perceive what you need to do next.
The Latin roots of the word opportunity is opportunity tass,
meaning a favorable time or convenient. Think about it. When
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an opportunity lands, are going to laugh. You're it's almost
like you created a new thing, like, oh my god,
I new possibility, a new hobby, and new interest in
new relationship with new love. Yet life seldom offers chances
at a convenient moment, and that's the problem. A lot
of times, when these things happen, it may not be
the right time. So what we do, I feel subconsciously,
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is we create doubt, fear. You know, it's not really
for me. I don't know why. I'm not gonna even
bother why instead do your research. They are often disguised
as problems, coincidences. They're strange invitations, but they're nudging you
towards growth, whether we ask for it or not. Don't
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walk away from opportunity. You do that enough, it stops coming.
To recognize opportunity, we must first believe that it exists everywhere,
because for me, for me, it exists everywhere. It's not
just in ideal situations, but in hardship and detours and
even in loss. By adopt the mindset that life is
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always working in our favor, we become more receptive to
what each moment holds. An open mind is not an
empty mind, not at all. It is a flexible, receptive one.
It is the mindset that acknowledges that we do not
and cannot work or know everything. If you think you
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know everything about what you know, you're really limiting yourself. Sadly,
because I will be eighty year hopefully I will be
eighty years old, and I'll still say, I'm here to learn.
I'm here to learn something new. Today, I was replacing
the battery in one of my cameras in the barn,
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and somebody's at the front door and the cat ran
like a dog. That's so funny. But I was replacing
the battery and for some reason the screw just would
not work. And I was getting so frustrated because I'm
at the top of a ladder up on a pole
inside the barn. But I don't get mad anymore, so
I just fought with it. I finally got it off.
I carefully, it was raining. I carefully brought it into
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the house. I sat down at the table, and I
googled some information about like what am I doing wrong,
and it showed me a few different ideas how to
take it apart, and I did and I was like, oh,
that's how it works. And because of that, I was like,
I now I could really take apart the entire camera
and put it back. The same thing goes for a
weed whacker that was given to me as a gift
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this past week, and it actually sat in my barn
in my garage for three days, two days because the
weed whacker part worked, you know, the little strings perfect,
and then when I went to switch it to the blade,
which is why I bought it, because I have a
lot of stuff here that's very thick and will not
come down with a weed whacker. All of a sudden,
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it is. It is as if the weed whacker just said,
I'm not working anymore. I don't like your yard. And
I took it apart within two days, probably eight times each.
I thought a lot. I thought illogically. I googled. I
saw five videos, and the funny thing is all five
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videos said a different way of doing it. It just
did not make sense. But in the interim while I
was doing this, because of this, I had to loosen
this cable from that crank shaft and move this, and
take that off, and take the plastic cover off, and
look at the engine where the gas goes in, and
then where the little thing is and the pulley goes
to this, and then the spark plug and how that
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works and this and that things that I really never knew.
And when all is said and done, I can take
that at that weed whacker completely apart and put it
back together simply. Okay, here's the weed whacker, and then
you have the pole, here's the blade over here. Okay,
So because of a problem that I had here for
three days, I figured out this entire thing here, how
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to take it apart and put it back together again.
I'm no longer a screw this, throw this break that.
That's stupid. That's ignorance. To ignorance, that's ignorance. That's just
fear of the unknown. Or we're not liking that. I
may not know everything, because I could tell you something.
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I know a lot, and you know what, I know nothing.
I don't know anything compared to what I would love
to know. For the rest of my life, the very
last day of my life, I will still be learning.
And I love that. I long for that. I love
learning how things tick and why they tick, and how
to do this and how to I love it. I
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love it. Tell you better yourself. An open mind is
not an empty mind. People often assume that being open
minded means indecisive or you're just ungrounded. No. In truth,
it takes great strength to remain mentally and emotionally flexible
in a world that demands fixed answers, and open mind
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is rooted in humility. To be humble, the understanding that
our way is not the only way. A lot of
people what, yes, your way is not the only way.
I just had a relationship. I'm sorry, I just had
a conversation with somebody about being in a relationship and
how to see being in a relationship. To me, the
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number one reason why really people think relationships end because
of cheating, or they don't. Actually they do cheating, money,
all those things, But it's not the cheating or the money.
It's the communication that goes along with these things. It's
to talking about why I don't feel the way I
do anymore, or why I fear money, or why I'm
afraid of where our bills are going or not going,
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or what's going on, or a life or you know,
I chose to live a life that now I decide
I really don't want you because I lied in the beginning.
I created a complete facade of who I was and
I wasn't And now it's time for me to come
back out again and now I'm in a relationship, or
you're gonna be like, who are you? Anyway? I am
who I always was, but I really wanted to be
with you, so I created a facade that happens in
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almost well many relationships and now you know again years later,
the person's like, you've changed. No, you didn't, It's just
that now you're becoming, You're letting the real person let
their hair down and being who you are. Why shitty communication.
So now let's go on to the topic of curiosity.
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Curiosity of being in a good really ring, Curiosity of
being a good relationship, Curiosity of goals, setting dreams, anything.
Curiosity is the engine of growth. Be curious, my friends.
It is the desire to know more, to see beyond
what is currently visible, and to ask what if. The
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simple question holds the power to revolutionize and change your life.
You can go from from a pauper to a millionaire
in one day by asking questions. Yes. Yes, are naturally curious.
A lot of times we as adults just screw it
up for them. We put fear into their minds. They
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explore a question and try without hesitation. Somewhere along the
path to adult hold, many of us lose that spirits,
that hunger, that drive. We trade curiosity for cautions, spontaneity
for structure. Yet curiosity is not frivolous. It is essential.
It opens doors to innovation, self discovery, and a very
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meaningful connection, meeting new people every day, We remain curious.
We see the world as a place of wonder, not threat.
Challenges become experiments, Failures become feedback. I love that. I
want to put that on a T shirt. Failures become feedback,
and success becomes just one of the many possible outcomes,
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not the sole reason to begin. If you're trying something,
if you're getting a job because it pays well, that's
a shame, because at some point it may and then
you're gonna be like, why am I even doing this job?
You get a job because you like it. Obviously, if
it doesn't pay well, I get it. But there are
people that do very well and make a job begin
to pay well because they love it, and they make
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that job amazing. What keeps us from trying, it's to shame.
Often it is fear, not of actual danger like being
attacked by a lion that doesn't happen or being eaten
by a shark, but of imagined, imagined failure. Think about it.
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So you hear something all of a sudden, you feel fear,
but you know so has something already happened to you?
Speaker 1 (17:42):
Well know?
Speaker 3 (17:42):
Do you know why you're scared?
Speaker 1 (17:43):
Well?
Speaker 3 (17:44):
No to me, that's fear fueled by ignorance, a lack
of understanding. Well, what is actually happening? Why is it happening?
What is happening? How does it work? How does it tick?
How does it talk? How do I figure it out?
Because what happens is you won't be anywhere. It'll be like, okay,
remember the first time you drove a car. For those
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of you that drive cars, the first time he drove
a car. I remember. I remember Gary Kneppler. Gary Kneppler
was my driving instructor, and it was funny. My uncle
paid for it because he felt that, you know, just
sitting with my dad in the car and he's like, no,
I want to know that you know what you're doing.
And but you know what, Gary Nppler, I took one
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one driving test and I remember I ended up with driving.
He felt so comfortable. I jumped in the highway. I
drove up. He lived up in Monroe. I drove up
to his house because he had to go. His wife
called while he was in the car, could you come
get something? So he was like do you mind? I
was like sure. I jumped on the highway. I drove
up to Monroe. I went to his house, he ran in,
came out. I'm sitting there. But understand, the thing is,
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when I first sat in the car, he had this
whole focus on the steering wheel and focusing on ten
and two and this and that and blah blah blah
and the logistics of what you have to look for.
And I almost felt like I was driving a crazy machine,
a robot. And I had to make sure that, oh
my god, and I knew exactly what I was doing,
and focused on the mirror and focus on the back,
and focus on the lights, and focus on the headphone
and not focused on the radio, and don't focus on this,
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but focus on the chair and phone. And then halfway
through that drive I was driving, I became one with
the car. When I got back from my first and
only lesson, I remember we pulled up to the house.
My uncle pulled up because he wanted to meet with
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because they were business friends, and he gary, how are
you good, good, good Louie, And he's like, so how
to go. He's like, he doesn't need my help. He's
a natural. No fear just I was curious how it worked.
Fear is fueled by ignorance, by a lack of understanding
of what could be. What if I flipped a car,
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What if the car catches fire. What if I started
driving and I flew off the highway. What if i'm
the highway out truck hits me. Because I'm more afraid
of the highway, I'm terrified of parking lots. More, more
accidents happen in parking lots. It's like more dog bites dog.
But when at chihuahua bite somebody, people are like, they
don't even talk about it. When a piple bite somebody,
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it's news, well because it's bigger, But I'm talking about
the statistics. It's a bite. It's still a bite, just
like an accent is an accident. To me, cutting across
a parking lot is is almost like I've never had
an accent a parking lot. But it's that's where fear
is because there's no logistics in it. There's no lanes,
there's there's no rhyme or reason. I'm just cutting across
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aisles to get from here to there, and other people
are focused on getting to the exit or the entrance,
and it's just like that's what we're focused on. On
a highway. Everybody is going straight, and the fear like, yeah,
but you're going faster, or there's trucks, they're in their lane.
I'm in my lane and I'm going. I'm focused. That's
it now again, if you know what, if a truck
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comes in, then it's kind of it's there, but it's
also your fault because you're not paying attention. I'm driving
and I'm watching his tires the whole time. And trust me,
as I said in the driving thing in the beginning,
yes you're driving and you're like, okay, the tires, the tires.
After a while, I just know when I'm driving and
there's a tractor trailer next to me, I automatically know
I'm looking at the tires. And if I notice that
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on a curve the tires have to come in a
little bit to the lane, I either decide I'm going
to pass attractor trailer, I'm going to go behind the
tractor trailer. That's it. There's no fear, there's no doubt,
there's nothing. It's called flying. We're driving. Just like with
a pilot, Pilots do their thing. They focus on what
they're doing, same thing as when you're in a car.
You focus on what you're doing if you're still driving
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with fear. Obviously, in practice that's pretty much what it is.
Practice and curiosity to be a better whatever it is
you do. Because as I just said, fear is fueled
by ignorance. Fear whispers that if we try and fail,
we will lose something irrevocable, irrecoverable. Sorry, our status are confidence,
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our placed in the world. But in truth, the only
loss is that of not trying at all. No experience,
no matter how painful or challenging, is wasted every attempt refinance.
This to me, this crazy thought. And somebody doesn't talk
about fear. To me, fear if I don't believe in
the whole concept of it's evil. But if anything was evil,
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fear is evil. Something is being whispered into your ear,
just like the snake supposedly whispered talked to Eve. Fear,
this doubt, that question, this question that without her thinking
it through or actually turning to Adam and go, what
do you think you know? We're in this together, what
should we do? Let's think about this concept instead of
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just going yes, no, I'm just gonna who cares or
not do it at all? That's to me what fear
is fear is is evil, it's it's doubt, it's it's
not for you, it's you know, people think it's good.
You need it. Fear, you know God. You know, if
a tree is falling here undernea and you underneath it
and you feel fear, yeah you run. But if you're
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just standing out there and you see a tree and
you're thinking, I'm not going to walk under that tree
over there, because what if it falls on me, It's
like fear thrives and ignorance. We fear what we don't understand.
But once we engage with something new, even if we
don't master it, we realize that it's not so frightening.
After all, Knowledge dispels fear. Knowledge dispels fear, and actions
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breed courage. The impermanence of all things is like one
of the most liberating truths in life is that everything,
every single thing in life is temporary. Joy fades, pains, oftens, seasons, change,
people come, people go. Nothing stays the same, not even
our fears, our limitations. Impermanence can feel unsettling at first
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when we want things to stay familiar, predictable, controllable, But
then the reality is change is constant, it's constant. So
I think it's funny. I know a few people that are.
You know, I don't like change. I'm afraid of change
and da da da da. Right, but changes life, I
mean if you live on it. No, actually no, I
always use that if you live on an island. Yeah,
but an island, change is too Seasons, change oceans. You know,
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you get a tsunami, you get a beautiful da, you
get a stormy. You're surrounded by change. Either you chalk
up to it and learn to deal with it. Saying
you don't like it, it's like, oh, okay, so what like,
I don't care if you don't like it. You have
to deal with it. It's life. It's like, don't even think
of saying, well, that's not how I am, or this
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is not that's ignorance. That's ignorance. When we accept in permanence,
we stop trying to hold on so tightly to what
we to have nothing of. We realize that even if
things don't so as planned, even if we stumble, even
if we fall horribly, you're ready, this too shall pass.
The highs and the lows are both fleeting. What remains
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is our willingness to just get off our asses and
continue on our journey. To truly grow, we must learn
to try without being attached to the results. This does
not mean we stop caring. It means we detach our
worth and happiness from a single outcome, because there are
so many outcomes at the end of the day, there
are so many things that could happen based on your
decisions from this morning. At the end of the day,
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trying is a leap of faith. It says I believe
in possibility, and I'm willing to step into the unknown.
Whether things work out as expected or not. The mere
act of trying is what makes our brains grow. When
we try without fear or expectation, we reclaim our freedom.
We become less concerned with success and more focused on
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the expression, the experience and evolution evolution of life. We
find you in the process, not just the result. Think
about when you were three years old, what yeah, three, five, ten, fifteen, sixteen,
driver's license, twenty, twenty five, thirty, I don't know how
old you're Let's keep going forty fifty, fifty five, sixty, seventy,
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seventy five, eighty ninety. All of those chapters, all of
that expression, all of those experiences, all of the ups,
all of the downs, all of the happiness, all of
the heartbreaks, but the evolution of you and who you
are right now today based on all that stuff we
find join the process, not just the final result. Life
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is not just a checklist of achievements that you have
to accomplish to get your I have to do this
by this age, and I have to two children, and
I have to white pick of fence by this age,
and the dog by that age. And I have to
make sure I have my four oh one k I
have my retirement by this age, and I pay my
taxes by that age, and I do my medicine by
this age, and I resolve this by that age. And
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I'm going to focus on this and the whole time.
You hear, and you watch the clock, and I'm gonna
do this. I'm gonna pay my taxes, and I'm gonna
prepare on this and that and then I die. What
an exciting sad life. My opinion, my podcast, Live your
life to the fullest. Take a breath, be silly, laugh,
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try something, do something, goes somewhere, Challenge yourself every day.
What matters is not how fast we move, but that
we keep moving. A body in motion stays in motion.
That's so proven to me every day when I go
to the gym and I see somebody who's eighty ninety, Yes,
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what Yeah, body in motion stays in motion. As you
get older, your body is falling apart. It's what it
is every day. Oh, by the way, we're all dying, Jimmy,
don't say that we are. Every day we're dying. It's
not a Hollywood thing that you're gonna drop dead today.
I'm talking about day. Your body's breaking down. The older
you get, the more your body breaks down. So as
you get older, you're supposed to fight more. You're supposed
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to do more. You're supposed to walk more. You're supposed
to do more exercise, not less exercise. And that goes
from mind too. The older you get, if you don't
use it, you'll lose it. You think more, you challenge
your mind more, because again you're fighting against time. Time
is running out, but you could keep expending it. You
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keep extending it over and over and over. No, I'm
not ready. I love this life. I want to keep going.
I want to keep trying. I want to do something
new today. What matters that you keep moving the journey
rewards the open hearted in the willing, not just the
people are just prepared. Abundance is a mindset. Abundance is
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not just about material wealth. When you think of abundance,
if you just think money, it's not about money. It's
about prospective and life and how great life is. It
is the belief that life is full of potential, that
there is more than enough to go around, more love,
more growth, more ideas, more and more and more chances
and possibilities. A scarcity mindset. I was born with a
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scarcity mindset that I must protect what I have, And
abundance mindset says, there is more where that came from.
Remember the story of my uncle and my father, both
of them rest in peace. My uncle had the there's
always more where that came from. Give, give, gift, gift,
because I make more, I work, I create. I'm a creator.
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And then you have all the other mindset. I you know,
you don't know what when the next meal is coming from.
But I'm a consumer. All I do is consume, and
I have and I own. Okay, And when we live
with an abundance mindset, we stop cleaning to things, things
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become things. We start contributing more. We stop, We stop
fearing loss and start creating our own value. We realize
that life does not run out of opportunities and only
ask us to remain open to them. We reframe we
see failure differently. Failure is not this horrible thing. Failure
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is not the opposite of a success. It is a
part of it. You need failure. Every inventor, artist, and
innovator has faced failure. What sets them apart is their
willingness to keep trying more and more and more. When
we reframe failures feedback. I love that failure is feedback.
We free ourselves from the shame of imperfection. We start
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seeing each setback as a stepping stone, that's all it is.
So there is a river in front of you, and
there's stepping stones across it, and you can't say, look,
I'm afraid of water. Nobody asks you. You have to
get from here to there. You have to get from here, okay.
So the woods behind you are on fire. I help
you with that. And the fire is hot and it
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hurts and you feel it, and your clothes are getting hot,
and you need to cross this river. It's not a
crazy river, little one, And there are stones going across it.
There's no time for what if I fall? What if
I drown? What if I trip?
Speaker 4 (31:25):
What?
Speaker 3 (31:26):
No? Is I need to get from here to there?
Does that mean to just run across like a madman?
It's up to you. I still wouldn't. I would step
onto the first one, make sure it's stable. I say
this because I've done this quite a few times, and
step onto the next one, the third one. Put my
foot on it and see if it wabbles a little bit.
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Maybe I could go on that one over there. And
I think through my steps. But I get across. I'm
focused on what I need to do to get from
here to there? What will keep me from going across?
Or let me just focus on the fire behind me?
Where do you fall? Think about it? Do you just
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get across? Do you not even bother? You just go
I would just burn? Or do you say no, I
need to get across. You're right because everything that I want,
cherished and work for is on that other side. That's mine,
and I'm going to get across by any means necessary.
I may even jump in the water and swim. But
this river's like you know, it's just a few inches.
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So what do you do or do you go across?
And the first stumble, as in life, you fall into
the water, and then you go, all right, I'm done,
because that's what you do in life. And then we
focus on the fact that we fell, and then we
go on Facebook while we're in the middle of the
river and you know, and take pictures of ourself and
then we're like, I fell, And then everybody goes prayers
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and I send you positivity and no, you get back up.
You're wet, you're a little embarrassed to feel silly, but
you look back and you see that fire getting closer,
and you get back up on the next rock and
you keep going. Every day. You should have questions that
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you ask yourself throughout the day, exploring topics, curiosity, things
that you're curious about, why things are done the way
they are. You don't have to get too involved, but
don't be afraid to ask questions. Remember remember school. You
know I can tell you right now, I always had
my hand up. I just told the story to somebody
recently that I was a type of kid that if
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you know, obviously you have to get one hundred to
pass test, but if you get a sixty seventy, you
pass and you know I, let's say a sixty, and
I ended up getting a seventy two. I didn't leave
running for joy. I was always a weird kid. I
never just left the classroom going I passed. No. I
always stayed back, found the teacher and said, can I
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ask you a question? I was like, oh, what about
my test? Oh yeah, you passed, congratulating No. No, no, I
got four wrong, but you passed. No, I didn't. School
has never been about passing or failing. To me, you know,
making my parents happy, getting my report card and you know,
being able to enjoy summer. I could care less about them.
My thing is I'm in school to learn. I want
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to know what did I screw up on? What did
I think was the right answer that wasn't? Because I
don't want to be the idiot walking around now sharing
wrong information with people, because I will never know. And
my teacher would always all right, let's get the right
answers out and be like, okay, you put B it
was a and then we go over it really quick
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and I'm like, oh, okay. And on this one the
answer was three hundred. You put three ten. I'm like why, Oh,
and then now I know I still have the seventy
two again, I don't care. I really I was never
one for that. I always did pretty good in school.
Actually I did really well in school. But my thing
was just the fact that I was curious. I wanted
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to learn. It was in a competition with the other kids.
And what did you get Tommy, and what did you
get married? And what? I don't really care what they got,
because what that comes to, fear of raising my hand.
If I raised my hand, I'm going to look like
so I'm gonna look stupid and not know what I'm doing.
It's school. Why do you think you were there? You
were there to learn. It wasn't a popularity contest with
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other kids that were just as dumb as you, that
didn't know the question. So now you have a room
with thirty kids, nobody's willing to raise their hand and
ask a question because they're afraid. So then why were
you there to begin with? To look good? You're never
going to be a master of everything. Go through life
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as a student. I don't care if you're you know,
thirty fifty, seventy and eighty ninety. Go through life as
a student, eager to learn eager to ask why does
that do that? How does that work? Why are you
doing what you're doing? You know, why can't you do
it like this? Why can't you do it like that?
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And with that you reflect often about your questions about
who you are, what's going on, why things happen. It
makes life so much more interesting, so much more enjoyable.
And then of course you you you just by the
end of the day, you're happy that you asked, that,
you learned, that you tried, instead of that you just
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went through the day numb. I'm just gonna go through numb.
I don't know what's going on. I don't really care.
People talk to me. I don't really listen. I don't
question anything. It is. That's a shame. I question everything.
And if I if I'm listening to somebody talking and
they're just talking, rambling on, I don't listen. I just
all right, you know I I'm not gonna waste time
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with you. My life is very valuable to waste it
with somebody who's just miserable and unhappy. Sorry, I don't care.
I want to spend my life with amazing people, incredible people,
inspiring people, educated people that will make me better. That
will make me happy, that'll make me smile, that it
makes me feel loved. Stretch beyond your comfort zone. This
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is where transformation happens. This is how you better yourself
by trying new things. The same old, same old. Tomorrow
will be the same old, same old, and next week
will be still the same old, same old, and the
following day will be the same old, same old. Here's
a few exercises I want you to try, preferably with somebody,
so you could challenge yourself and be honest with yourself.
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But one is called the champion letter. Ah. So when
I say champion, what do you think of? Who do
you think of? Champion? Let's change the name inner champion
because I don't care about those people. I'm focused on you,
your inner champion. I'm not a champion, Yes you are.
You have been through hell, you have been back three times.
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You have put up with so much shit shaid horrible situations.
You have failed, you have fucked up. You have dropped
the ball time and time again. If you're listening to
this podcast, you're still here. So you've mastered quite a
few things, not perfectly, but you've mastered quite a few
things and you are the champion of many things. This
is about strengthening your self worth and self belief. What
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I want you to do, hopefully on a piece of paper,
but it doesn't matter whether use a pen, crayon, or
on your computer. Write a letter to yourself from the
perspective of that amazing person. See that confidence that you
just build up when I said you've done so much?
Yeah you have, And for that, feel good about yourself,
that voice inside that knows your strength, your potential and
you're worth the version of you that still believes in
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your ability to grow and succeed, not the I don't
know anything, I'm a failure. I'm just gonna go through
life numb and dumb. Numb is dumb. I'm not gonna
go through life numb and dumb. I'm gonna go through
life curious, wanting to learn, wanting to better my stuff
and remind myself with my strength, my qualities that I
am proud of, not like I'm really good at this,
but I'm bad at that.
Speaker 4 (39:05):
Now.
Speaker 3 (39:05):
This isn't a pro and con list. This is a
pro list. I want you to write down the strengths
you've done, the things that you're very proud of the
past moments when you've overcome doubt, adversity, the encouragement that
you've had to explore the unknown, that the chances that
you took in your life, you've taken some great chances.
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Do this once, maybe do it once a month. Reconnect
with who you are next, next month, and the next month.
By the end of the year, where you stand what
you've accomplished. My next thing is called the three to
five minute courage courage stretch. Yes, not a physical stretch,
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as in training your brain to take small, bold actions
each day. Take three minutes, let's just pick three to
do something that stretches your comfort zone. Something just a
little daring. I'm not saying to jump off an antenna
or to learn how to fly. I'm just small things
like start a conversation with a complete and total stranger.
Like you're walking through somewhere and you see somebody over there.
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Challenge yourself to go start a conversation, not hi, how
are you, and then have them talk for an hour.
That's not a conversation. A conversation is between two people.
They talk, you talk, they talk, you talk, they talk,
you talk. So I do it all the time. I
love to do it. I've always been curious. That's my curiosity.
I can start a conversation with anybody anywhere, at any time,
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in any place, and actually you could too. It's based
on just curiosity. So if you're saying all I can't
is because you're just not curious, but you should and
it's not hard to do, and when you do it
and you get good at it, you realize, like, oh crap, BUCkies.
Every time I go into BUCkies, it's like the biggest
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gas station in the world. Every time I go there,
I always start a conversation with one of the people
working there, the lady refilling the sugar, the lady doing this,
the guy cutting the meat. I will go up and
asking him a fascinating question about what they're doing, why
they do it, why they love it. I had a
conversation with the guy about the artwork in the bathroom,
because they always have amazing artwork in the bathroom out
of BUCkies, and the guy ended up telling me the
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whole story about the last artist and that he met
somebody famous that came in that bought start a conversation
with a stranger. Another thing I want you to do
is if you're in a situation that you're in a
group of people and they ask any questions. I love
that it's like any questions and everybody just and all
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of a sudden, nobody has questions. So my thing is, then,
why are you even here? You're here because you had
questions about the topic. You have questions. Your fear is
I don't want to sound like the dumb one, right, No,
you're getting it wrong. The dumb one is the one
who's sitting there going that's the dumb one. The smart
one is that I don't know. Can you go over
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that again? I I don't know. Maybe I dozed off,
I was daydreaming. I don't know that whole topic about X,
Y and Z. Can you explain it differently? I didn't
get it. It just wasn't explained to it. I just
I don't know. And trust me, they're not gonna be
like no, They'll be like, sure, oh my god, let's
go over it. Because whenever I've done that, I've always
had two or three kids after the fact hit me
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on the shoulder and go thank you, And I'm like,
why didn't you ask? And I don't know. I didn't
want to look stupid. No, you look stupid now with
your hand now, and you know, to me, that's a
it's a beautiful thing. Then another thing I want you
to do if you could, is again, maybe keep writing,
or you know what, just sit on the couch and
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think about this at the end of your day. Every
day a what if list? For example, what if I
took a class in something that I've never tried. What
if I reached out to the person that I admire
just ask questions. I will write to authors on Facebook.
I will right to people that are doing great things.
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I would say, hey, I read your story. Great job,
I think it's wonderful. A restaurant that I've never even
been to, but the person has a great story about them,
I will write them aster, Oh my god, I'm proud
of you. This is awesome. You should do that. By
the way, speaking of restaurants, there's a movie called Nona's Nonnas.
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Watch it. Watch it. It's funny. I was watching it
with Melissa the other night, and turns out my daughter
was watching it the same night a few hours later
from her house. It is such a good movie. It
talks about somebody really facing their fears, dealing with problem,
the loss of his mom, and then his Nona, his grandmother,
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and wanting to give back to their memory. And it's
a great movie. Twice I got very emotion I cried
during one part the applause. Just remember me when you
see that the applause. But what if I reached out
to a person, somebody from my past, somebody from you
know I've always you know, I wanted to talk to
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but I'm not sure, you know, or somebody that just
have a conversation with. Stop waiting for the right time.
That's so stupid. The right time. There's no right time.
I mean, you don't need to act on these things immediately,
but just explore these thoughts of what you can and
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should do and could do and all these things. Instead
of just saying could, should, would do them, just do them.
Another thing is an opportunity. This I got from a
book that I read a long time ago that I
alway thought it was interesting. It's an opportunity scavenger hunt,
turn your awareness to notice, to notice new possibilities. So
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my thing is sit at home, sit a timer for
fifteen minutes because obviously we don't have time to do
anything because we're so busy. And to go through your
house your home, your workplace, online, online especially, and find
five opportunities big or small that you haven't noticed before.
Things that could be good for you. An up and
coming community event, a concert, a book club, a problem
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that you have had that you can solve right now.
There's a sowing machine in the back room that I
have been wanting to deal with for years, but you know,
it's just you know, I'm going to go right now
on Google and Google it and try to figure out
how to fix that one machine. Actually, I say that
because I did a problem that you could help solve
for somebody else. Remember, the world doesn't evolve around you
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help others or a person that you wanted to connect with,
or a creative idea that excited you. But for some reason,
for some whatever, you were like, well, you know, I
really want to do that, but you know what, and
I hate the money. Well I don't have the money
for all, right, So start today focusing on the money
for it. If you don't focus on the money for it,
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it's never gonna happen. Because when you start focusing on
hiring to get the money and the possibilities, you're creating
the energy and then it will happen. It's going to
happen because it's at least in my life, that's how
it's happened. And do this often, challenging yourself, challenging that
brain of yours that just sits there and just watches
TV all day. It's like, challenge your brain. It's a
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beautiful mind, it's expansive, it's never ending the thoughts. Challenge it.
And then, of course be careful what you say, because
when you say negative things, people around you don't care,
but your brain's listening. So when you say I'm fat
on this, on this, on that, you actually start to
believe that bullshit. So reinforce positive self recognition. Keep a
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running list of the things that make you feel proud, empowered, curious.
Include never forget small wins. We tend to have these
challenges that we accomplish and then we just kind of
forget about them, Like the fact that when I was
ready to get my CDL my commercial driver's license. When
I got my CDL, it was difficult because everybody I
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knew was getting like the basic CDL B. I'm kind
of an overachiever, which is can be annoying, but it's
it's what I am, and I'm proud of it. But
I not only I got my cdl A, then I
went and got all of my endorsements, you know, the liquids,
the triples, the doubles, the triples, I have, my motorcycle,
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I have basically everything. Because that's the type of person
I am. I took on the challenge and it was
a difficult part, not because of the studying or the testing,
because I had to go to the DMV for every
single endorsement at a separate Saturday. So for a month
and a half pretty much I was at the DMV
every Saturday. But I didn't care. I just it was
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something I needed to do for me. Not to turn
around and post on this is way before face, but
not to post on fay, Hey everybody, look, I got No,
I don't really care. It's just because it's something I
needed to accomplish for myself and I did it. The
truth is simple life. Your life is always offering conclusions.
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The question is are you open to We're even seeing
them and receiving them. Opportunities don't always come wrapped in
clarity and comfort. Sometimes they arrive at us with questions,
with disruptions, with just quiet nudges. But beneath them all
is a deeper invitation to grow, to explore, and to
become something somewhat amazing. If we remain open, curious, and
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willing to try new things, without clinging to certainty or
fearing the unknown, we will step into a life of
richness and meaning, not because we always get what we want,
but because we honor what life gives. All this temporary. Yes, yes,
we are here, still on this journey, but I ask
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you to not waste your time fearing the unknown. Instead, try, try, try,
and most importantly trust that was good twice. Trust in
yourself and take the next step with open hearts, open mind.
I hope I made you think. I hope I made
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you question your existence and think about, at least for
a moment, made you feel really good about yourself and
to appreciate every tomorrow, every today, and to be grateful
for all of the experiences of your past, all of
them of your past that have made you who you are.
Right now, keep this in mind. Choose action over excuse,
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purpose over comfort, and the work that matters over the
distractions that don't. My name is Jimmy Zalace and this
was the resell yourself twenty two podcasts, Go forward and
live your life to the fullest. Thank you so much
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a lot to me. Many many blessings to you all,
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Speaker 2 (00:23):
Dearly beloved, we'll gathered here today to get through this
thing called life.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
You are listening to the Reset Yourself What Need You podcast?
In your hosts An Unpolarce.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Hello, Hello, Hello, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.
I appreciate it. In this weekly podcast, I focus on
sparking your inner confidence and IGNITINGHH and igniting your inner
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belief in yourself, myself, ourselves, and Henry. As she said,
I'm your host to Miguzalees, and I am always very
extremely thrilled to share my thoughts and research with you
as we go along on this journey. Together, we can
nurture a mindset that empowers us to reach our fullest
potential to I write and record all this stuff every
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week to challenge my thinking too, and to encourage us
to practice, to reflect and inspire actionable, realistic steps that
we can take together. Actually, I have some things at
the very end which I think would be very great,
very good for you, whether you're facing a career transition,
seeking to overcome challenges, or simply striving for greater fulfillment
(02:06):
in life. This podcast was created to be hopefully your
go to resource for a motivation and practical insights. My
inspiration to do this is to show, to teach, to
help you learn to focus more on what you can
accomplish so that you can get the things you want
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to be able to do the things you want to
do when you need to do them, so ultimately you
feel accomplished. You feel as this, you had stuff to do,
you did the work to do it, and now you
have it. Because that, to me, that's life. It's what
you do. You're not willing to do the work. As
I said my very next line, tell me what you
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want and I will show you how to get it.
The question is are you willing to do the work.
I've actually had a lot of people challenge me on that.
It's I go so you can tell me to do anything? Yeah,
I pretty much can't. Usually a third person person on
the outside can because I am not totally I'm not
in your head with the problems, most of them that
aren't even real, the fears that aren't even real. I
could just tell you, oh, for you to accomplish this,
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this and that. I think all you need to do
is focus on X, Y and Z and not a
B and C. It's up to you, it's your life.
But it's like, that's why, sometimes, not always, you want
to find somebody who's not judgmental, not a jerk, not
a complete ass, who really does have your best interest
in heart and will sadly. I say sadly because for
some of us it's very difficult tell you the truth
(03:39):
even when it hurts. Today, I'm going to talk about
embracing the unknown, the power of being open minded, curious,
and the opportunity to see the opportunity in life's ever
unfolding journey that you have in front of you so far,
look back at everything you've already done. Life is a
(04:02):
series of many, many unfolding moments. If I had if this,
if I had the graphics, I would have a debate
the pages of a book being scrolled by, each brimming
with potential, from the mundane to the miraculous. Every day
we are now presented with so many opportunities, some grand
and obvious, others quiet and subtle. The key to recognizing
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and seizing these opportunities lies not in predicting outcomes or
controlling every steps but in cultivating, creating an open mind,
nurturing a sense of curiosity, and letting go of that
F word, Oh, that F word. In a world driven
by uncertainty and change, it is our ability to remain open,
(04:47):
to try, to fail, to learn, and to grow. This
is what transforms the ordinary to the extraordinary. This episode
explores the importance of wrecking thatie and embracing opportunities by
developing open mindedness and curiosity. This episode is supposed to
be about trying, trying, and sadly, the F word is
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going to come up quite a bit because the F
word is the the villain, the arch nemesis to trying.
It addresses how the F word and ignorance often holds back,
how impermanence can be a guide instead of a threat,
and how a shift in perspective that's all it is,
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can lead us to a more abundant and fulfilling life.
The life, think about it, the life you're living right now,
wherever you are, right now, sitting dealing whatever the bills
you have in front of you. The complaining about talks
is the fact that you have dishes that you need
to wash, the bed that you haven't made because you're
just so fucking lazy. The bottom line is you can
change your life dramatically. There was a I already thought
(05:57):
about that. There was a video of a forgive me
for if I'm wrong, a sergeantal lieutenant, a colonel, somebody
in a college. Kids were graduating, and this gentleman came
to speak and his whole focus is on making the bed,
and I was like, what, Yes, because it's the little
things that if you cannot to do the little things
because you see them as tedious, you're not gonna accomplish
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the big things. If you're toasting bread and you're leaving
out crumbs, if you're just putting dirty dishes in the sink,
if you're leaving clothes that are that are washed in
the washing machine for too long because you just I
don't have time? Why not? What the hell are you doing?
Are you focusing? Basically, it's not that you don't have time.
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I hate what people say I don't have time. No,
it's just that you have choices, and many of you
just decide to make bad choices. So you decide to
forget that the washing machine has clean clothes in it,
and now you're gonna put them in the dryer and
they smell like like like like crap or the dishes
that you know, you just decided to instead of like
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eating and washing. A lot of people are like, yeah,
but I want it. You do it right, So after
dinner washing dishes. Yeah, but I'm tired. I'll washing them tomorrow.
So then tomorrow they sit there all day because you
have to go to work, you have to go somewhere.
So now when it's time to clean them, you're you're
fighting with these dishes because all the crumbs are so
stuck to it and it's impossible. So now you're mad
at the dish basically because you're lazy. Just do it,
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resolve it. And I at first, yes, I get it.
I'm a realist. It may be it may be a
little difficult, but once you do it twice, three times,
four times, the fifth time, you make the bed in
a row, the sixth, seventh, and eighth time, you just
keep doing it to the point that when you don't
do it, you're gonna be like, oh, something's wrong. What
then I do the bed? You just do it. You
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just do it, because, as this person said, if you
can't do something as simple as making the bed and
you think you're gonna accomplish great wonderful masks and crate
and credit. Possibly, I doubt it. It's the little thing Allulijah.
Opportunities are the seeds of change. They come in many forms.
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You're not gonna see them because you're not even making
the bed or washing the dishes. But when you see
these opportunities, things will land on your lap, like a
job offer, a new friendship, a random idea, or even
a challenge that pushes us beyond ooh our comfort zone.
At times, opportunities are loud and demanding, like that rooster
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in the background. At other times they whisper quietly, requiring
attunement and stillness to perceive what you need to do next.
The Latin roots of the word opportunity is opportunity tass,
meaning a favorable time or convenient. Think about it. When
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an opportunity lands, are going to laugh. You're it's almost
like you created a new thing, like, oh my god,
I new possibility, a new hobby, and new interest in
new relationship with new love. Yet life seldom offers chances
at a convenient moment, and that's the problem. A lot
of times, when these things happen, it may not be
the right time. So what we do, I feel subconsciously,
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is we create doubt, fear. You know, it's not really
for me. I don't know why. I'm not gonna even
bother why instead do your research. They are often disguised
as problems, coincidences. They're strange invitations, but they're nudging you
towards growth, whether we ask for it or not. Don't
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walk away from opportunity. You do that enough, it stops coming.
To recognize opportunity, we must first believe that it exists everywhere,
because for me, for me, it exists everywhere. It's not
just in ideal situations, but in hardship and detours and
even in loss. By adopt the mindset that life is
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always working in our favor, we become more receptive to
what each moment holds. An open mind is not an
empty mind, not at all. It is a flexible, receptive one.
It is the mindset that acknowledges that we do not
and cannot work or know everything. If you think you
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know everything about what you know, you're really limiting yourself. Sadly,
because I will be eighty year hopefully I will be
eighty years old, and I'll still say, I'm here to learn.
I'm here to learn something new. Today, I was replacing
the battery in one of my cameras in the barn,
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and somebody's at the front door and the cat ran
like a dog. That's so funny. But I was replacing
the battery and for some reason the screw just would
not work. And I was getting so frustrated because I'm
at the top of a ladder up on a pole
inside the barn. But I don't get mad anymore, so
I just fought with it. I finally got it off.
I carefully, it was raining. I carefully brought it into
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the house. I sat down at the table, and I
googled some information about like what am I doing wrong,
and it showed me a few different ideas how to
take it apart, and I did and I was like, oh,
that's how it works. And because of that, I was like,
I now I could really take apart the entire camera
and put it back. The same thing goes for a
weed whacker that was given to me as a gift
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this past week, and it actually sat in my barn
in my garage for three days, two days because the
weed whacker part worked, you know, the little strings perfect,
and then when I went to switch it to the blade,
which is why I bought it, because I have a
lot of stuff here that's very thick and will not
come down with a weed whacker. All of a sudden,
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it is. It is as if the weed whacker just said,
I'm not working anymore. I don't like your yard. And
I took it apart within two days, probably eight times each.
I thought a lot. I thought illogically. I googled. I
saw five videos, and the funny thing is all five
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videos said a different way of doing it. It just
did not make sense. But in the interim while I
was doing this, because of this, I had to loosen
this cable from that crank shaft and move this, and
take that off, and take the plastic cover off, and
look at the engine where the gas goes in, and
then where the little thing is and the pulley goes
to this, and then the spark plug and how that
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works and this and that things that I really never knew.
And when all is said and done, I can take
that at that weed whacker completely apart and put it
back together simply. Okay, here's the weed whacker, and then
you have the pole, here's the blade over here. Okay,
So because of a problem that I had here for
three days, I figured out this entire thing here, how
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to take it apart and put it back together again.
I'm no longer a screw this, throw this break that.
That's stupid. That's ignorance. To ignorance, that's ignorance. That's just
fear of the unknown. Or we're not liking that. I
may not know everything, because I could tell you something.
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I know a lot, and you know what, I know nothing.
I don't know anything compared to what I would love
to know. For the rest of my life, the very
last day of my life, I will still be learning.
And I love that. I long for that. I love
learning how things tick and why they tick, and how
to do this and how to I love it. I
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love it. Tell you better yourself. An open mind is
not an empty mind. People often assume that being open
minded means indecisive or you're just ungrounded. No. In truth,
it takes great strength to remain mentally and emotionally flexible
in a world that demands fixed answers, and open mind
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is rooted in humility. To be humble, the understanding that
our way is not the only way. A lot of
people what, yes, your way is not the only way.
I just had a relationship. I'm sorry, I just had
a conversation with somebody about being in a relationship and
how to see being in a relationship. To me, the
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number one reason why really people think relationships end because
of cheating, or they don't. Actually they do cheating, money,
all those things, But it's not the cheating or the money.
It's the communication that goes along with these things. It's
to talking about why I don't feel the way I
do anymore, or why I fear money, or why I'm
afraid of where our bills are going or not going,
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or what's going on, or a life or you know,
I chose to live a life that now I decide
I really don't want you because I lied in the beginning.
I created a complete facade of who I was and
I wasn't And now it's time for me to come
back out again and now I'm in a relationship, or
you're gonna be like, who are you? Anyway? I am
who I always was, but I really wanted to be
with you, so I created a facade that happens in
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almost well many relationships and now you know again years later,
the person's like, you've changed. No, you didn't, It's just
that now you're becoming, You're letting the real person let
their hair down and being who you are. Why shitty communication.
So now let's go on to the topic of curiosity.
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Curiosity of being in a good really ring, Curiosity of
being a good relationship, Curiosity of goals, setting dreams, anything.
Curiosity is the engine of growth. Be curious, my friends.
It is the desire to know more, to see beyond
what is currently visible, and to ask what if. The
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simple question holds the power to revolutionize and change your life.
You can go from from a pauper to a millionaire
in one day by asking questions. Yes. Yes, are naturally curious.
A lot of times we as adults just screw it
up for them. We put fear into their minds. They
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explore a question and try without hesitation. Somewhere along the
path to adult hold, many of us lose that spirits,
that hunger, that drive. We trade curiosity for cautions, spontaneity
for structure. Yet curiosity is not frivolous. It is essential.
It opens doors to innovation, self discovery, and a very
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meaningful connection, meeting new people every day, We remain curious.
We see the world as a place of wonder, not threat.
Challenges become experiments, Failures become feedback. I love that. I
want to put that on a T shirt. Failures become feedback,
and success becomes just one of the many possible outcomes,
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not the sole reason to begin. If you're trying something,
if you're getting a job because it pays well, that's
a shame, because at some point it may and then
you're gonna be like, why am I even doing this job?
You get a job because you like it. Obviously, if
it doesn't pay well, I get it. But there are
people that do very well and make a job begin
to pay well because they love it, and they make
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that job amazing. What keeps us from trying, it's to shame.
Often it is fear, not of actual danger like being
attacked by a lion that doesn't happen or being eaten
by a shark, but of imagined, imagined failure. Think about it.
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So you hear something all of a sudden, you feel fear,
but you know so has something already happened to you?
Speaker 1 (17:42):
Well know?
Speaker 3 (17:42):
Do you know why you're scared?
Speaker 1 (17:43):
Well?
Speaker 3 (17:44):
No to me, that's fear fueled by ignorance, a lack
of understanding. Well, what is actually happening? Why is it happening?
What is happening? How does it work? How does it tick?
How does it talk? How do I figure it out?
Because what happens is you won't be anywhere. It'll be like, okay,
remember the first time you drove a car. For those
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of you that drive cars, the first time he drove
a car. I remember. I remember Gary Kneppler. Gary Kneppler
was my driving instructor, and it was funny. My uncle
paid for it because he felt that, you know, just
sitting with my dad in the car and he's like, no,
I want to know that you know what you're doing.
And but you know what, Gary Nppler, I took one
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one driving test and I remember I ended up with driving.
He felt so comfortable. I jumped in the highway. I
drove up. He lived up in Monroe. I drove up
to his house because he had to go. His wife
called while he was in the car, could you come
get something? So he was like do you mind? I
was like sure. I jumped on the highway. I drove
up to Monroe. I went to his house, he ran in,
came out. I'm sitting there. But understand, the thing is,
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when I first sat in the car, he had this
whole focus on the steering wheel and focusing on ten
and two and this and that and blah blah blah
and the logistics of what you have to look for.
And I almost felt like I was driving a crazy machine,
a robot. And I had to make sure that, oh
my god, and I knew exactly what I was doing,
and focused on the mirror and focus on the back,
and focus on the lights, and focus on the headphone
and not focused on the radio, and don't focus on this,
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but focus on the chair and phone. And then halfway
through that drive I was driving, I became one with
the car. When I got back from my first and
only lesson, I remember we pulled up to the house.
My uncle pulled up because he wanted to meet with
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because they were business friends, and he gary, how are
you good, good, good Louie, And he's like, so how
to go. He's like, he doesn't need my help. He's
a natural. No fear just I was curious how it worked.
Fear is fueled by ignorance, by a lack of understanding
of what could be. What if I flipped a car,
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What if the car catches fire. What if I started
driving and I flew off the highway. What if i'm
the highway out truck hits me. Because I'm more afraid
of the highway, I'm terrified of parking lots. More, more
accidents happen in parking lots. It's like more dog bites dog.
But when at chihuahua bite somebody, people are like, they
don't even talk about it. When a piple bite somebody,
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it's news, well because it's bigger, But I'm talking about
the statistics. It's a bite. It's still a bite, just
like an accent is an accident. To me, cutting across
a parking lot is is almost like I've never had
an accent a parking lot. But it's that's where fear
is because there's no logistics in it. There's no lanes,
there's there's no rhyme or reason. I'm just cutting across
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aisles to get from here to there, and other people
are focused on getting to the exit or the entrance,
and it's just like that's what we're focused on. On
a highway. Everybody is going straight, and the fear like, yeah,
but you're going faster, or there's trucks, they're in their lane.
I'm in my lane and I'm going. I'm focused. That's
it now again, if you know what, if a truck
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comes in, then it's kind of it's there, but it's
also your fault because you're not paying attention. I'm driving
and I'm watching his tires the whole time. And trust me,
as I said in the driving thing in the beginning,
yes you're driving and you're like, okay, the tires, the tires.
After a while, I just know when I'm driving and
there's a tractor trailer next to me, I automatically know
I'm looking at the tires. And if I notice that
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on a curve the tires have to come in a
little bit to the lane, I either decide I'm going
to pass attractor trailer, I'm going to go behind the
tractor trailer. That's it. There's no fear, there's no doubt,
there's nothing. It's called flying. We're driving. Just like with
a pilot, Pilots do their thing. They focus on what
they're doing, same thing as when you're in a car.
You focus on what you're doing if you're still driving
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with fear. Obviously, in practice that's pretty much what it is.
Practice and curiosity to be a better whatever it is
you do. Because as I just said, fear is fueled
by ignorance. Fear whispers that if we try and fail,
we will lose something irrevocable, irrecoverable. Sorry, our status are confidence,
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our placed in the world. But in truth, the only
loss is that of not trying at all. No experience,
no matter how painful or challenging, is wasted every attempt refinance.
This to me, this crazy thought. And somebody doesn't talk
about fear. To me, fear if I don't believe in
the whole concept of it's evil. But if anything was evil,
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fear is evil. Something is being whispered into your ear,
just like the snake supposedly whispered talked to Eve. Fear,
this doubt, that question, this question that without her thinking
it through or actually turning to Adam and go, what
do you think you know? We're in this together, what
should we do? Let's think about this concept instead of
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just going yes, no, I'm just gonna who cares or
not do it at all? That's to me what fear
is fear is is evil, it's it's doubt, it's it's
not for you, it's you know, people think it's good.
You need it. Fear, you know God. You know, if
a tree is falling here undernea and you underneath it
and you feel fear, yeah you run. But if you're
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just standing out there and you see a tree and
you're thinking, I'm not going to walk under that tree
over there, because what if it falls on me, It's
like fear thrives and ignorance. We fear what we don't understand.
But once we engage with something new, even if we
don't master it, we realize that it's not so frightening.
After all, Knowledge dispels fear. Knowledge dispels fear, and actions
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breed courage. The impermanence of all things is like one
of the most liberating truths in life is that everything,
every single thing in life is temporary. Joy fades, pains, oftens, seasons, change,
people come, people go. Nothing stays the same, not even
our fears, our limitations. Impermanence can feel unsettling at first
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when we want things to stay familiar, predictable, controllable, But
then the reality is change is constant, it's constant. So
I think it's funny. I know a few people that are.
You know, I don't like change. I'm afraid of change
and da da da da. Right, but changes life, I
mean if you live on it. No, actually no, I
always use that if you live on an island. Yeah,
but an island, change is too Seasons, change oceans. You know,
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you get a tsunami, you get a beautiful da, you
get a stormy. You're surrounded by change. Either you chalk
up to it and learn to deal with it. Saying
you don't like it, it's like, oh, okay, so what like,
I don't care if you don't like it. You have
to deal with it. It's life. It's like, don't even think
of saying, well, that's not how I am, or this
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is not that's ignorance. That's ignorance. When we accept in permanence,
we stop trying to hold on so tightly to what
we to have nothing of. We realize that even if
things don't so as planned, even if we stumble, even
if we fall horribly, you're ready, this too shall pass.
The highs and the lows are both fleeting. What remains
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is our willingness to just get off our asses and
continue on our journey. To truly grow, we must learn
to try without being attached to the results. This does
not mean we stop caring. It means we detach our
worth and happiness from a single outcome, because there are
so many outcomes at the end of the day, there
are so many things that could happen based on your
decisions from this morning. At the end of the day,
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trying is a leap of faith. It says I believe
in possibility, and I'm willing to step into the unknown.
Whether things work out as expected or not. The mere
act of trying is what makes our brains grow. When
we try without fear or expectation, we reclaim our freedom.
We become less concerned with success and more focused on
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the expression, the experience and evolution evolution of life. We
find you in the process, not just the result. Think
about when you were three years old, what yeah, three, five, ten, fifteen, sixteen,
driver's license, twenty, twenty five, thirty, I don't know how
old you're Let's keep going forty fifty, fifty five, sixty, seventy,
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seventy five, eighty ninety. All of those chapters, all of
that expression, all of those experiences, all of the ups,
all of the downs, all of the happiness, all of
the heartbreaks, but the evolution of you and who you
are right now today based on all that stuff we
find join the process, not just the final result. Life
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is not just a checklist of achievements that you have
to accomplish to get your I have to do this
by this age, and I have to two children, and
I have to white pick of fence by this age,
and the dog by that age. And I have to
make sure I have my four oh one k I
have my retirement by this age, and I pay my
taxes by that age, and I do my medicine by
this age, and I resolve this by that age. And
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I'm going to focus on this and the whole time.
You hear, and you watch the clock, and I'm gonna
do this. I'm gonna pay my taxes, and I'm gonna
prepare on this and that and then I die. What
an exciting sad life. My opinion, my podcast, Live your
life to the fullest. Take a breath, be silly, laugh,
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try something, do something, goes somewhere, Challenge yourself every day.
What matters is not how fast we move, but that
we keep moving. A body in motion stays in motion.
That's so proven to me every day when I go
to the gym and I see somebody who's eighty ninety, Yes,
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what Yeah, body in motion stays in motion. As you
get older, your body is falling apart. It's what it
is every day. Oh, by the way, we're all dying, Jimmy,
don't say that we are. Every day we're dying. It's
not a Hollywood thing that you're gonna drop dead today.
I'm talking about day. Your body's breaking down. The older
you get, the more your body breaks down. So as
you get older, you're supposed to fight more. You're supposed
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to do more. You're supposed to walk more. You're supposed
to do more exercise, not less exercise. And that goes
from mind too. The older you get, if you don't
use it, you'll lose it. You think more, you challenge
your mind more, because again you're fighting against time. Time
is running out, but you could keep expending it. You
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keep extending it over and over and over. No, I'm
not ready. I love this life. I want to keep going.
I want to keep trying. I want to do something
new today. What matters that you keep moving the journey
rewards the open hearted in the willing, not just the
people are just prepared. Abundance is a mindset. Abundance is
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not just about material wealth. When you think of abundance,
if you just think money, it's not about money. It's
about prospective and life and how great life is. It
is the belief that life is full of potential, that
there is more than enough to go around, more love,
more growth, more ideas, more and more and more chances
and possibilities. A scarcity mindset. I was born with a
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scarcity mindset that I must protect what I have, And
abundance mindset says, there is more where that came from.
Remember the story of my uncle and my father, both
of them rest in peace. My uncle had the there's
always more where that came from. Give, give, gift, gift,
because I make more, I work, I create. I'm a creator.
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And then you have all the other mindset. I you know,
you don't know what when the next meal is coming from.
But I'm a consumer. All I do is consume, and
I have and I own. Okay, And when we live
with an abundance mindset, we stop cleaning to things, things
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become things. We start contributing more. We stop, We stop
fearing loss and start creating our own value. We realize
that life does not run out of opportunities and only
ask us to remain open to them. We reframe we
see failure differently. Failure is not this horrible thing. Failure
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is not the opposite of a success. It is a
part of it. You need failure. Every inventor, artist, and
innovator has faced failure. What sets them apart is their
willingness to keep trying more and more and more. When
we reframe failures feedback. I love that failure is feedback.
We free ourselves from the shame of imperfection. We start
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seeing each setback as a stepping stone, that's all it is.
So there is a river in front of you, and
there's stepping stones across it, and you can't say, look,
I'm afraid of water. Nobody asks you. You have to
get from here to there. You have to get from here, okay.
So the woods behind you are on fire. I help
you with that. And the fire is hot and it
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hurts and you feel it, and your clothes are getting hot,
and you need to cross this river. It's not a
crazy river, little one, And there are stones going across it.
There's no time for what if I fall? What if
I drown? What if I trip?
Speaker 4 (31:25):
What?
Speaker 3 (31:26):
No? Is I need to get from here to there?
Does that mean to just run across like a madman?
It's up to you. I still wouldn't. I would step
onto the first one, make sure it's stable. I say
this because I've done this quite a few times, and
step onto the next one, the third one. Put my
foot on it and see if it wabbles a little bit.
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Maybe I could go on that one over there. And
I think through my steps. But I get across. I'm
focused on what I need to do to get from
here to there? What will keep me from going across?
Or let me just focus on the fire behind me?
Where do you fall? Think about it? Do you just
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get across? Do you not even bother? You just go
I would just burn? Or do you say no, I
need to get across. You're right because everything that I want,
cherished and work for is on that other side. That's mine,
and I'm going to get across by any means necessary.
I may even jump in the water and swim. But
this river's like you know, it's just a few inches.
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So what do you do or do you go across?
And the first stumble, as in life, you fall into
the water, and then you go, all right, I'm done,
because that's what you do in life. And then we
focus on the fact that we fell, and then we
go on Facebook while we're in the middle of the
river and you know, and take pictures of ourself and
then we're like, I fell, And then everybody goes prayers
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and I send you positivity and no, you get back up.
You're wet, you're a little embarrassed to feel silly, but
you look back and you see that fire getting closer,
and you get back up on the next rock and
you keep going. Every day. You should have questions that
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you ask yourself throughout the day, exploring topics, curiosity, things
that you're curious about, why things are done the way
they are. You don't have to get too involved, but
don't be afraid to ask questions. Remember remember school. You
know I can tell you right now, I always had
my hand up. I just told the story to somebody
recently that I was a type of kid that if
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you know, obviously you have to get one hundred to
pass test, but if you get a sixty seventy, you
pass and you know I, let's say a sixty, and
I ended up getting a seventy two. I didn't leave
running for joy. I was always a weird kid. I
never just left the classroom going I passed. No. I
always stayed back, found the teacher and said, can I
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ask you a question? I was like, oh, what about
my test? Oh yeah, you passed, congratulating No. No, no, I
got four wrong, but you passed. No, I didn't. School
has never been about passing or failing. To me, you know,
making my parents happy, getting my report card and you know,
being able to enjoy summer. I could care less about them.
My thing is I'm in school to learn. I want
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to know what did I screw up on? What did
I think was the right answer that wasn't? Because I
don't want to be the idiot walking around now sharing
wrong information with people, because I will never know. And
my teacher would always all right, let's get the right
answers out and be like, okay, you put B it
was a and then we go over it really quick
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and I'm like, oh, okay. And on this one the
answer was three hundred. You put three ten. I'm like why, Oh,
and then now I know I still have the seventy
two again, I don't care. I really I was never
one for that. I always did pretty good in school.
Actually I did really well in school. But my thing
was just the fact that I was curious. I wanted
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to learn. It was in a competition with the other kids.
And what did you get Tommy, and what did you
get married? And what? I don't really care what they got,
because what that comes to, fear of raising my hand.
If I raised my hand, I'm going to look like
so I'm gonna look stupid and not know what I'm doing.
It's school. Why do you think you were there? You
were there to learn. It wasn't a popularity contest with
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other kids that were just as dumb as you, that
didn't know the question. So now you have a room
with thirty kids, nobody's willing to raise their hand and
ask a question because they're afraid. So then why were
you there to begin with? To look good? You're never
going to be a master of everything. Go through life
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as a student. I don't care if you're you know,
thirty fifty, seventy and eighty ninety. Go through life as
a student, eager to learn eager to ask why does
that do that? How does that work? Why are you
doing what you're doing? You know, why can't you do
it like this? Why can't you do it like that?
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And with that you reflect often about your questions about
who you are, what's going on, why things happen. It
makes life so much more interesting, so much more enjoyable.
And then of course you you you just by the
end of the day, you're happy that you asked, that,
you learned, that you tried, instead of that you just
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went through the day numb. I'm just gonna go through numb.
I don't know what's going on. I don't really care.
People talk to me. I don't really listen. I don't
question anything. It is. That's a shame. I question everything.
And if I if I'm listening to somebody talking and
they're just talking, rambling on, I don't listen. I just
all right, you know I I'm not gonna waste time
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with you. My life is very valuable to waste it
with somebody who's just miserable and unhappy. Sorry, I don't care.
I want to spend my life with amazing people, incredible people,
inspiring people, educated people that will make me better. That
will make me happy, that'll make me smile, that it
makes me feel loved. Stretch beyond your comfort zone. This
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is where transformation happens. This is how you better yourself
by trying new things. The same old, same old. Tomorrow
will be the same old, same old, and next week
will be still the same old, same old, and the
following day will be the same old, same old. Here's
a few exercises I want you to try, preferably with somebody,
so you could challenge yourself and be honest with yourself.
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But one is called the champion letter. Ah. So when
I say champion, what do you think of? Who do
you think of? Champion? Let's change the name inner champion
because I don't care about those people. I'm focused on you,
your inner champion. I'm not a champion, Yes you are.
You have been through hell, you have been back three times.
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You have put up with so much shit shaid horrible situations.
You have failed, you have fucked up. You have dropped
the ball time and time again. If you're listening to
this podcast, you're still here. So you've mastered quite a
few things, not perfectly, but you've mastered quite a few
things and you are the champion of many things. This
is about strengthening your self worth and self belief. What
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I want you to do, hopefully on a piece of paper,
but it doesn't matter whether use a pen, crayon, or
on your computer. Write a letter to yourself from the
perspective of that amazing person. See that confidence that you
just build up when I said you've done so much?
Yeah you have, And for that, feel good about yourself,
that voice inside that knows your strength, your potential and
you're worth the version of you that still believes in
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your ability to grow and succeed, not the I don't
know anything, I'm a failure. I'm just gonna go through
life numb and dumb. Numb is dumb. I'm not gonna
go through life numb and dumb. I'm gonna go through
life curious, wanting to learn, wanting to better my stuff
and remind myself with my strength, my qualities that I
am proud of, not like I'm really good at this,
but I'm bad at that.
Speaker 4 (39:05):
Now.
Speaker 3 (39:05):
This isn't a pro and con list. This is a
pro list. I want you to write down the strengths
you've done, the things that you're very proud of the
past moments when you've overcome doubt, adversity, the encouragement that
you've had to explore the unknown, that the chances that
you took in your life, you've taken some great chances.
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Do this once, maybe do it once a month. Reconnect
with who you are next, next month, and the next month.
By the end of the year, where you stand what
you've accomplished. My next thing is called the three to
five minute courage courage stretch. Yes, not a physical stretch,
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as in training your brain to take small, bold actions
each day. Take three minutes, let's just pick three to
do something that stretches your comfort zone. Something just a
little daring. I'm not saying to jump off an antenna
or to learn how to fly. I'm just small things
like start a conversation with a complete and total stranger.
Like you're walking through somewhere and you see somebody over there.
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Challenge yourself to go start a conversation, not hi, how
are you, and then have them talk for an hour.
That's not a conversation. A conversation is between two people.
They talk, you talk, they talk, you talk, they talk,
you talk. So I do it all the time. I
love to do it. I've always been curious. That's my curiosity.
I can start a conversation with anybody anywhere, at any time,
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in any place, and actually you could too. It's based
on just curiosity. So if you're saying all I can't
is because you're just not curious, but you should and
it's not hard to do, and when you do it
and you get good at it, you realize, like, oh crap, BUCkies.
Every time I go into BUCkies, it's like the biggest
(40:57):
gas station in the world. Every time I go there,
I always start a conversation with one of the people
working there, the lady refilling the sugar, the lady doing this,
the guy cutting the meat. I will go up and
asking him a fascinating question about what they're doing, why
they do it, why they love it. I had a
conversation with the guy about the artwork in the bathroom,
because they always have amazing artwork in the bathroom out
of BUCkies, and the guy ended up telling me the
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whole story about the last artist and that he met
somebody famous that came in that bought start a conversation
with a stranger. Another thing I want you to do
is if you're in a situation that you're in a
group of people and they ask any questions. I love
that it's like any questions and everybody just and all
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of a sudden, nobody has questions. So my thing is, then,
why are you even here? You're here because you had
questions about the topic. You have questions. Your fear is
I don't want to sound like the dumb one, right, No,
you're getting it wrong. The dumb one is the one
who's sitting there going that's the dumb one. The smart
one is that I don't know. Can you go over
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that again? I I don't know. Maybe I dozed off,
I was daydreaming. I don't know that whole topic about X,
Y and Z. Can you explain it differently? I didn't
get it. It just wasn't explained to it. I just
I don't know. And trust me, they're not gonna be
like no, They'll be like, sure, oh my god, let's
go over it. Because whenever I've done that, I've always
had two or three kids after the fact hit me
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on the shoulder and go thank you, And I'm like,
why didn't you ask? And I don't know. I didn't
want to look stupid. No, you look stupid now with
your hand now, and you know, to me, that's a
it's a beautiful thing. Then another thing I want you
to do if you could, is again, maybe keep writing,
or you know what, just sit on the couch and
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think about this at the end of your day. Every
day a what if list? For example, what if I
took a class in something that I've never tried. What
if I reached out to the person that I admire
just ask questions. I will write to authors on Facebook.
I will right to people that are doing great things.
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I would say, hey, I read your story. Great job,
I think it's wonderful. A restaurant that I've never even
been to, but the person has a great story about them,
I will write them aster, Oh my god, I'm proud
of you. This is awesome. You should do that. By
the way, speaking of restaurants, there's a movie called Nona's Nonnas.
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Watch it. Watch it. It's funny. I was watching it
with Melissa the other night, and turns out my daughter
was watching it the same night a few hours later
from her house. It is such a good movie. It
talks about somebody really facing their fears, dealing with problem,
the loss of his mom, and then his Nona, his grandmother,
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and wanting to give back to their memory. And it's
a great movie. Twice I got very emotion I cried
during one part the applause. Just remember me when you
see that the applause. But what if I reached out
to a person, somebody from my past, somebody from you
know I've always you know, I wanted to talk to
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but I'm not sure, you know, or somebody that just
have a conversation with. Stop waiting for the right time.
That's so stupid. The right time. There's no right time.
I mean, you don't need to act on these things immediately,
but just explore these thoughts of what you can and
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should do and could do and all these things. Instead
of just saying could, should, would do them, just do them.
Another thing is an opportunity. This I got from a
book that I read a long time ago that I
alway thought it was interesting. It's an opportunity scavenger hunt,
turn your awareness to notice, to notice new possibilities. So
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my thing is sit at home, sit a timer for
fifteen minutes because obviously we don't have time to do
anything because we're so busy. And to go through your
house your home, your workplace, online, online especially, and find
five opportunities big or small that you haven't noticed before.
Things that could be good for you. An up and
coming community event, a concert, a book club, a problem
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that you have had that you can solve right now.
There's a sowing machine in the back room that I
have been wanting to deal with for years, but you know,
it's just you know, I'm going to go right now
on Google and Google it and try to figure out
how to fix that one machine. Actually, I say that
because I did a problem that you could help solve
for somebody else. Remember, the world doesn't evolve around you
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help others or a person that you wanted to connect with,
or a creative idea that excited you. But for some reason,
for some whatever, you were like, well, you know, I
really want to do that, but you know what, and
I hate the money. Well I don't have the money
for all, right, So start today focusing on the money
for it. If you don't focus on the money for it,
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it's never gonna happen. Because when you start focusing on
hiring to get the money and the possibilities, you're creating
the energy and then it will happen. It's going to
happen because it's at least in my life, that's how
it's happened. And do this often, challenging yourself, challenging that
brain of yours that just sits there and just watches
TV all day. It's like, challenge your brain. It's a
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beautiful mind, it's expansive, it's never ending the thoughts. Challenge it.
And then, of course be careful what you say, because
when you say negative things, people around you don't care,
but your brain's listening. So when you say I'm fat
on this, on this, on that, you actually start to
believe that bullshit. So reinforce positive self recognition. Keep a
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running list of the things that make you feel proud, empowered, curious.
Include never forget small wins. We tend to have these
challenges that we accomplish and then we just kind of
forget about them, Like the fact that when I was
ready to get my CDL my commercial driver's license. When
I got my CDL, it was difficult because everybody I
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knew was getting like the basic CDL B. I'm kind
of an overachiever, which is can be annoying, but it's
it's what I am, and I'm proud of it. But
I not only I got my cdl A, then I
went and got all of my endorsements, you know, the liquids,
the triples, the doubles, the triples, I have, my motorcycle,
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I have basically everything. Because that's the type of person
I am. I took on the challenge and it was
a difficult part, not because of the studying or the testing,
because I had to go to the DMV for every
single endorsement at a separate Saturday. So for a month
and a half pretty much I was at the DMV
every Saturday. But I didn't care. I just it was
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something I needed to do for me. Not to turn
around and post on this is way before face, but
not to post on fay, Hey everybody, look, I got No,
I don't really care. It's just because it's something I
needed to accomplish for myself and I did it. The
truth is simple life. Your life is always offering conclusions.
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The question is are you open to We're even seeing
them and receiving them. Opportunities don't always come wrapped in
clarity and comfort. Sometimes they arrive at us with questions,
with disruptions, with just quiet nudges. But beneath them all
is a deeper invitation to grow, to explore, and to
become something somewhat amazing. If we remain open, curious, and
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willing to try new things, without clinging to certainty or
fearing the unknown, we will step into a life of
richness and meaning, not because we always get what we want,
but because we honor what life gives. All this temporary. Yes, yes,
we are here, still on this journey, but I ask
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you to not waste your time fearing the unknown. Instead, try, try, try,
and most importantly trust that was good twice. Trust in
yourself and take the next step with open hearts, open mind.
I hope I made you think. I hope I made
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you question your existence and think about, at least for
a moment, made you feel really good about yourself and
to appreciate every tomorrow, every today, and to be grateful
for all of the experiences of your past, all of
them of your past that have made you who you are.
Right now, keep this in mind. Choose action over excuse,
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purpose over comfort, and the work that matters over the
distractions that don't. My name is Jimmy Zalace and this
was the resell yourself twenty two podcasts, Go forward and
live your life to the fullest. Thank you so much
for listening, liking, and especially sharing with others. It means
(50:07):
a lot to me. Many many blessings to you all,
Be well and prosper.
Speaker 1 (50:37):
Each shell was brought to you by Nola Hypnosis and
Healing and the mind Sime Meditation and dedicated to almost
that get up every day and hustle and do all
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