June 3, 2025 • 64 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Please note this show contains adult language and themes and
is intended for mature audiences only. Listener discretion is advised.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Dearly beloved, we have gathered here today to get through
this thing called life.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
You are listening to the Reset Yourself twenty two Podcasts
with your host Jimmy Gunzalas.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello, Yes, my name is Jimmy go
and Dalas And this is the Reset Yourself twenty two
podcast episode when seventy eight Wow. In this weekly podcast,
I focus on sparking your inner confidence and igniting your
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belief in yourself. I'm your host, and I'm always very thrilled.
Let me fix that. I'm always very thrilled to share
my thoughts and research with you as we go along
on this journey together you me we can nurture a
mindset that empowers us to reach our fullest potential.
Speaker 4 (01:47):
I write a record every episode to challenge.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Your thinking and my thinking while I'm actually writing it,
and to encourage us to reflect, which I do so often,
and inspire actionable, realistic steps towards personal growth, whether you're
facing a career transition, seeking to overcome challenges, or simply
striving for greater fulfillment in life. This podcast hopefully can
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be your go to resource for motivation and practical insights.
My inspiration to do this show is to teach people
to focus more on what they can accomplish so they
do the things they need to do when they need
to do them, so that ultimately you can get the
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things that you want when you wish to have them.
And of course this episode is dedicatedicate it to you,
not you you were last week, you were like a
month ago. So you yes, you tell me what you
want and I will show you how to get it.
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Doesn't matter what it is, I will show you how
to get it. The question is are you willing to
do work? That seems to be the big issue. There's
a phrase that echoes deeply through the minds of those
on the brink of greatness, yet are tempted to just
settle and stop. You did not get this far. To
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only get this far. It is a call, a whisper
from the soul, reminding you that your journey is still unfolding,
that the chapters ahead hold just as much, if not more, promise,
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than the ones you've already written. This is not a
finish line. It's not a race. It's merely a checkpoint.
Every success, every failure, every heart break, every moment of
bliss has led you here right now. Where you are
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right now, think about that, wherever you are, in your
car and your home, sitting on your couch, sitting in
a porch, walking your dog. I have quite a few
dog walkers.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
It is to leap forward, to jump forward, to continue
starting the moment this podcast is done.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
Life is not meant to be lived in neutral, and
it shouldn't be an autopilot. You're not here to just survive.
You're not here to just create, to learn, to give,
to receive, to evolve, to pay taxes, and to die.
And while time may seem like it's slipping through your fingers,
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the real measure of your life is not the ticking
of a clock, but the rhythm of your heart, the
moment it beats with purpose, with courage, and with joy.
The truth is, there is so much for you out there.
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The question is will you claim it or you just
watch it go by because you're not done. Too many
people stop right before that breakthrough. There's this picture I
love comes up every so often of two men side
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by side, just in the same position, and they both
have a pickaxe and they're digging, and the first one
digs and digs, and he could see the sweat coming
off of him, and it just gets to the point
that he gives up, not realizing that if you look
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at the picture on the side behind, like maybe a
foot away, are diamonds and treasures.
Speaker 4 (06:09):
The second picture he actually receives.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
Him, because he keeps going, he keeps hustling, he keeps
moving forward.
Speaker 4 (06:24):
You didn't come this.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
Far through pain, through healing, through learning and unlearning. To
stay stuck in the comfort of what you already know
of where you are, to wake up, to have the
same routine, to do the same thing to take the
same street to the same place that you've been going forever,
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to have lunch at the exact same time, the exact
same meal, to drive to the exact same place every day,
to go home, to sit in the same exact chair,
to eat the exact same meal, to watch the exact
same TV. And to look forward to just falling asleep
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and starting again tomorrow. I actually know a few people
like this, and.
Speaker 5 (07:15):
To each their own I would I would scream simply
because I have been blessed for many, many years to experience.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
You. I have had the most magical conversations, meaningful conversations,
wonderful conversations with people, with loved ones, with strangers. I
this past weekend we went down to Bowling No to
Glasgow to an ice cream shop called the Creamery. I
highly recommend it. And upon walking into place was packed
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and there was this lady sitting like right where you
have to go by to get to the booth to
order the ice cream. And obviously you can tell she
was much much much older. And as I walked by,
as I do with everybody, I make eye contact and
I smiled, and there ses holding her eyes cream with
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this little cover thing as a strawberry ice cream. I
know that because she made sure to show me each
strawberry and that they were fresh, and she had a
smile that I can see the child in her, like
even though she was older and wrinkly, when she smiled,
I can see the child in her. And she looked
so happy. And it's funny because I made sure to
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keep her in my conversation. So when I went to order,
I'm looking and that she immediately what are you getting?
You know, sitting over there, but she's like, what are
you getting And I told her, and she said, oh,
I like this, and I like that. You should try this,
and you should try that. So I ended up getting
something and then I walked back and I just, you know, basically,
you know, I hope you enjoy the day.
Speaker 4 (09:01):
I hope you enjoy your ice cream.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
She's like, and she just started telling me stories about
her life and everything. That she's ninety two years young,
no complaints, no this and that, and this hurts, and
that hurts, and I can't do this and I can't
do that.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
That's just such a crock of shit.
Speaker 3 (09:18):
It's such an excuse to surrender, to give up. She
was young again, just sitting there, and you could tell,
trust me, she was fragile.
Speaker 4 (09:31):
She wasn't like you really strong. She was fragile.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
But that memory, that nostalgia, that moment of that ice
cream shop with that ice cream cone got rid of
all the pain and she was young again. And she
told me, she goes, I come here every time I'm
home and I'm bored, and I know I shouldn't put
who cares? And then it's funny because I mean, she
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was older, so I'm like, how'd you get here? She's like,
I drive that's my car. I was like what. She's like, yeah,
I drive here. And I was like, and where we
were was a very busy section, Like the parking is odd,
so you have to back into traffic, you know those places.
And she's like, oh no, honey, you don't know. And
we sat there. We talked about all her grandchildren and
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great grandchildren and that she was from Louisiana and that
she moved to Kentucky sixty five fifty five fifty five.
And I was just like, that's amazing, God bless you.
Oh yeah, please sit down, and Melissa came over. We
sat down and we were there for about like almost
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an hour, just talking about the wonders of life, not
about how bad things are and how high taxes are
and about Trump and the politics, and we're just talking
about the beauty of eating ice cream and enjoying life
for what it is, enjoying this beautiful little place, enjoying
the town. She told us, the history of her and
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her husband and her grand It's just we're talking about
what makes life important. She saw opportunities her entire life,
and she stated it, life is brimming with opportunity. You see,
we live in a universe of many, many, many possibilities.
Every day is an unopened gift. Every moment's a doorway
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to a different path, because life is not a straight line.
If you hear my dogs, they always do that. It's
a branching tree. Think about it. You are the trunk
of the tree, and above you are the many branches,
the many chances, places that you could go, people you
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could meet, and parts of yourself that you can awaken
simply by sitting there, you know what, by sitting at
home and realizing I'm bored, I'm gonna get up. I
just get some ice cream. It's the simplest of things.
God blessed this ninety two year old lady. We decided
that we were going to meet often, and we're going
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to go back, and you know, we're a text her like, hey,
we yeah, text her and that we'll meet you there
and everything, and I miss her. It's funny. I was
thinking about the other that we were doing something. I
was like, I missed that lady. I wonder how she's doing.
And the best part, the best part is that you
are the only one who can choose your path. That
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means that you have the power, this immense power that
so many of us hide from it. Some many of
us decide to when they have the chance to grow,
they just complain, I can't do this, I can't do that,
blah blah blah. You don't know, it's not that easy.
That's a funny one. Whener I hear that, I laugh
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out loud.
Speaker 4 (12:50):
It was in my mind.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
I laughed because I'm like, that is just a big
crop excuse of nonsense. It's just an excuse to not
do things, to not try things. So not just live.
There's a god, there's a god above us. We gave
us life. He wants you to live. He wants you
to try to venture. He doesn't want you to sit
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and complain.
Speaker 4 (13:13):
And and just be.
Speaker 3 (13:18):
Wants you to be. You get to know you, like
really you, and challenge yourself. This is not just about ambition.
It's about a liveness. Real living isn't about doing the
same thing day in and day out. It's about stretching.
It's about reaching, touching parts of yourself that you haven't
met yet, whether it's learning a language, traveling somewhere unknown,
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healing from your past, or starting something no one believes in.
Speaker 6 (13:47):
But you.
Speaker 3 (13:49):
This is your invitation to try because time is finite,
but life is infinite in potential. Yes, time is limited,
Yes your life will that lasts forever, So why piss
it away? Now? There are so many people that act
like they're already dead, they're waiting to die. This lady's
ninety two years old. She's not even thinking about it.
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She's thinking about that ice cream and how good, how
fresh the strawberries are. That's exactly what makes it precious.
The point isn't to watch the hands of the clock.
It's to feel the beat of your own heart, to
notice how it accelerates with passion, love, excitement, and risk,
to wake up and say today matters. You don't live
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by deadlines alone. You live by mornings filled with sunlight,
by moments of laughter, by tears that remind you that
you are alive, by conversations that stir something real inside
of you, by the knowing that right now, right now,
is all you truly have waiting. Don't live for some day,
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put the clock down. Don't tell yourself you'll start next
month or next year. Your life is happening now, your breath,
your choice is your moments. They are your life. And
the truth is life is shorter than you think, so,
don't waste your days hoping to for something, hopefully at
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some point someday, maybe next month, to change. You are
the change. You are the change maker. Get up and
make the seconds, the minutes, the hours, the days, the weeks,
the months, and the years count, because again, nobody's holding
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you back except you. We often look outside ourselves for
reasons why we're not where we want to be. We
blame time, ccumstances, and my favorite, everyone else, including God.
But more often than not, the real reason is internal fear,
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self doubt, and comfort. You might not realize it, but
the biggest cage in your life is the one that
you built to feel safe, and it's your little cocoon
of safety. Safety is a beautiful thing, but it's also
very seductive. It tells you not to risk, not to leave,
not to jump, not to shine too brightly, not to
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try too much, not to risk everything. It says, stay here.
Speaker 4 (16:35):
You know this.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
You're comfortable in this little, this little box right here.
You can't fail here, because that's pretty much why people
have fears, because they're afraid to.
Speaker 4 (16:46):
Fail.
Speaker 3 (16:48):
You have fear afraid to fail, because when you aren't
afraid to fail, you're willing to do research. You're willing
to investigate, You're willing to figure out why you have
the fear, what you're willing to do and try and
just do it. But here's the truth. Comfort zones don't
just protect you, they can fine you. Growth lives outside
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of comfort. It lives in the unknown, in the uncertain
and the scary but exhilarating choice to step into something new.
You are the gatekeeper of your potential. No one is
stopping you from chasing your dream, from building something extraordinary,
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from becoming the person you know you are meant to be.
Nobody's stopping you.
Speaker 4 (17:39):
Except well you.
Speaker 3 (17:42):
So let go, let go of the excuses of stories,
the doubts, because starting right here, right now, in this moment,
right now, you can rewrite your entire life. You can
get up, you can find a new job. You can
quit a job. You can walk out of a relationship.
You can get divorced, you can get married, you can
start a relationship, you can find a better paying job.
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You could move out of your home, you can move
into apartment. You can move out of an apartment, and
you can move into a home. Oh but I don't
have good credit, Oh but I don't have money. Excuses,
but Jimmy, you need their excuses.
Speaker 4 (18:20):
They are excuses.
Speaker 3 (18:23):
I mean, I mean to my younger audience, you know,
maybe you don't have the experience of life. To my
older audience, let's just say fifty and up. If you're
still playing games with excuses, well, you can't do this,
and you can't. You're lying to yourself. You're cheating yourself,
you're hurting yourself because I know, and you know, and
you know that I know that, you know that. It's
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all bullshit.
Speaker 4 (18:47):
It's just an excuse.
Speaker 3 (18:49):
I can't. It's hard, it's impossible. It's too hard, it's
too impossible. Oh my god. They're not truths. They're complete nonsense,
just as excuses. They're fear wearing masks. They are beliefs
rooted in a fear of what may go wrong, not
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in what could go right. Hard. Yeah, it might be,
but heart is not a bad thing. I've never seen
heart as I see. To me, everything is an opportunity.
It's an obstacle that I want you to get over, around,
or under. Usually I will just knock it down, but
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I do the math in my mind. I need to
do X, Y and Z. Okay, how am I going
to do it? How am I going to accomplish it?
Because it needs to be done. I'm sorry, and for
this I thank my father. My father was a very stubborn,
closed minded man, but when it came to the concept
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of it has to be done, obviously, when you're ten
years old, you're just like, I don't want to do it.
But if you're still doing that at forty to fifty
sixty seventy eight, that's a fucking problem because by this
time you're wiser, and the minute an obstacle stands in
front of you, your first thought should be how am
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I going to do this? How am I going to
accomplish this? What do I need to do to get
it done? Because it has to get done. I'm not
doing that. I'm not doing this. I'm not doing Wow.
So you're not living, you're not enjoying, you're not savoring
the gift of life that you've been given. Hard again,
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just an excuse. Change your language, shift your mindset. Try
replacing I can't with I'm learning. Replace it's hard with
it's something new to me. Replace impossible. I hate that
word because for me, I've always it's funny because I
remember the first time learning English. First time I saw
that word impossible, I actually saw I am possible. I
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am possible, and replace impossible with unfamiliar. The minute somebody
tells you to do something that you're not sure of,
understand that it's because it's something new. It's something unfamiliar,
that's all it is. Of course, you're not going to
know how to do I think it's funny, but well,
I don't know how to do that. I would assume
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you don't. I mean, you don't know everything. There are
people that know so much that don't know everything. So
you really think when I say, hey, you should do this,
like I don't know how to do that? Okay, cooking
the fact that there are still people that just don't cook.
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Let's be grown up here. It's an excuse. You are
lazy if I offend you, tough shit, But the bottom
line is it's the truth. If you don't know how
to clean, if you don't know how to cook, if
you don't know how to do this, if you know
how to do that, just it's being lazy because your
first thought is, Okay, this needs to get done. I
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need to figure out how to do it. And here's
the smack in the face to my older crowd. There's Google,
there's YouTube videos, you can do anything. Something breaks Google
it like, that's usually what somebody like me does. What
do you think that I just pull the information out
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of my ass? No, I if I'm not sure, if
I'm kind of sure, which usually what happens. I have
a lot of knowledge and a lot of things, but
not enough so like I have I have a I
had a router, a no, a repeater, a WiFi repeater
out here for the barn and garage to get WiFi out.
Speaker 4 (22:51):
There, and it just stopped working.
Speaker 3 (22:53):
And I tried everything and it stopped working. And I Google.
And here's the thing. Google did it work Because it's
such a new item. I couldn't find the problem that
I was having. So instead of like.
Speaker 4 (23:05):
Throwing it because I was about I was gonna throw.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
It through the window, I just I don't really need
it right away. So I took time to think, to
breathe on it. And it took me a few days,
and I kept thinking, try A, try B try C,
why isn't this working? Try D, like what is not happening?
And then I started breaking it backwards, disconnected the whole thing,
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brought it downstairs, connected it directly worked, But then I
figured out, wait a minute, power, and you're like, what,
you didn't plug it in? Actually, yes, it was plugged in.
The issue is that that socket on that wall there's
obviously something wrong to it because when I plug it in,
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the light barely turns on, so there's not enough power
going to that socket. So when I ran to extension
cord over here to this wall magic, I didn't say
can't do it. I thought it through change your language,
as I said, shift your mindset. I can't. So I'm
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learning it's hard to. It's new, impossible to. It's just unfamiliar,
and I'm going to figure it out. You're not born
to shrink. You're born to expand, to stretch into spaces
you once thought were off limits. Again, there's no reason
you should ever say I don't know how to do that.
Speaker 4 (24:39):
That's the I mean.
Speaker 3 (24:40):
Come on, most things in your life, hopefully you don't
know how to do. These changes in life create changes
in your reality. At first glance, the phrase you think
it's easy may seem harmless. These are these sayings that
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I think are just so destructive because they're so inbred
that you just automatically say these negative things, so it's
it's a casual remark, it's you know. It might even
come with a smile or a joke, like I think
it's easy. It expresses doubt, resistance, disbelief about someone else's efforts,
but beneath its surface lies a mindset shaped by assumptions, comparisons,
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and subtle dismissal of someone else's journey or skill. Over time,
this simple phrase reveals much more than frustration or disbelief.
It reflects our relationship with effort, with trying, our understanding
of growth, and our ability to emphasize, to truly grow
into the best versions of ourselves. We must stop saying
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you think it's easy, because it is a statement that
not only limits others, but also limits ourselves. It subtly
reinforces the idea that child are unfair, that success should
come with struggle visible to all, and that ease is
somehow undeserved.
Speaker 4 (26:11):
This essay, this session, this.
Speaker 3 (26:15):
Conversation I'm having with you explorers why it's crucial to
eliminate this phrase and many negative phrases from our emotional maturity, humility,
and human connection. We will uncover what it truly means
I do every day, try to uncover how it makes
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sense to get to trust me.
Speaker 4 (26:37):
Because it's just it's normal.
Speaker 3 (26:39):
It's a normal, especially if it's been in bread to
us that you repeat these negative sayings, these sayings that
make you feel that you are just not worthy, you
are not able bodied, of course you are. At the
heart of saying you think it's easy is often a
deeper emotional truth. Oh God, yes, yes, it's about the
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fucking word and not fuck fear. We fear our own inadequacy.
We fear that someone else's confidence or composure reflects a
gap in our own ability, Instead of asking ourselves, what
could I learn from this person, or like, well, teach me,
help me, inspire me, drive me. What do they know
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that I don't yet to understand? Which is usually a lot.
That's why I try to you always you should spend
time with people that can teach you, not people that
can take from you. We defensively push the thought away
with a dismissive phrase, oh, I can't do that, I can't.
The amount of damage we do to our mind, to
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our bodies when we say such naive phrases like that
or I can't or I won't shouldn't win it. My
favorites three stupid things actually makes you wonder how many
incredible opportunities have of you. And I'm speaking to you
shut down slam doors on because it was easier to
allow ignorance to take over instead of thinking it through
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the steps of what you are actually being asked to do.
I'm asking you to take that box over there and
put it over there.
Speaker 4 (28:18):
I can't why.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
Your first thought to a question is I can't. It
needs to be done. I don't know. Like I said,
once you find yourself doing this thing that thirty seconds
ago was instead a hard thing and it was an
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I can't to now it's done, is because you put
your mind to it, you thought it through, you realize
that you know, that's the thinking of an eight year
old child that says I can't or I don't know
if I can, I I for whatever, it's just an
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I can't even think.
Speaker 4 (29:04):
It's just excuses.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
And every day I go out and I enjoy myself
and I feel inspired by this lady. Her name was Simone.
Actually her name is Mary, but she's like my real
name is Simone from Louisiana. But it's just like so
you have somebody like her getting in a car and
just getting an ice cream on her own in a
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very busy section and not thinking, not thinking, yeah, but
what about the traffic? What about this? What I want?
An ice cream cone? The meaning of life is to live,
not sit back somewhere and kind of watch from the
sidelines as everyone else lives their life, and you choose
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to just not partake in this miracle of life. Then
people will say it's okay, I am fine just being
a wallflower on the dance floor. You know those people
that just go to dance floors and just stand against
the wall, and then they have the audacity and nerve
to like point at people that are look he looks stupid,
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he looks silly, she looks dumb, she can't even dance.
Speaker 4 (30:11):
Blah blah blah.
Speaker 3 (30:13):
Trust me, I speak from experience because I have danced
at many clubs, I've DJ'ed even more, and I've watched
these people, both the wallflowers and the wallflowers that are
pointing and the wallflowers that are scared. But then you
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have people that will say, well, I'm okay, I'm okay
right here, it's okay, I'm okay. So I'm like, why
are you here? Then believe what you want. Bottom line
is you want to be there. You want to be
on that dance floor. You want to be a part
of this. But it's easier to just be like, no,
it's okay, I'll just stand here. I'll pay that, you know,
the thirty dollars to get in and then just stand
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over here and just watch as everybody else has fun.
And I just don't take surround yourself with people that
will help you onto the dance floor of life. As
a DJ, like I said, I have come down from
the booth surprise during the middle of my sets. I
used to do this during the middle of my sets.
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I would come down while the music is still playing.
I know how long I have for the next record? Yes, record,
And I've grabbed many hands and have explained to them
that you've paid admission to be here today, do you
really want to dance? And I've never had anybody say
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absolutely not. They just look at me in fear, the
same way they look at their life, their journey, their paths,
their opportunities. Silly is the person that paid their mission
to life and wants to watch as everyone else laughs
and loves because they feel that they aren't worthy or
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they are too simple because they were just never taught
to do the side step. What. Yes, when I would
step on the dance floor from the booth, I would
pull them out, these freaked out people by the hand
onto the dance floor. And yeah, not everybody can dance,
just not everybody understands the concept. The concept is you
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are you are enjoying the music, not like I need
to know the hottest new craze. It's like that's crazy.
You're there to feel the music. You're there to enjoy
the music. And I pretty much would just stand side
by side with them and just.
Speaker 4 (32:43):
Literally going.
Speaker 3 (32:47):
And look at them and look down at their legs,
and you immediately look down at their feet, and I'm like,
just go left to right. I'm not asking you to
go crazy. I'm not asking to move your hips on that.
Don't even clap to the rhythm, you probably can't. Just
left to right, left to right, if you know the words,
start singing. Don't watch other people because you're not here
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for them, and they trust me, they're not here for you.
You're here to just enjoy the atmosphere and the music.
And it's funny because within a few minutes you see
them forget that I'm even there, and they for the
first time, actually, even though they've been here for an
hour or two, listening to the music now in the
dance floor, they're actually now a part of the music,
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and their face changes completely. They close their eyes and
they're actually listening to the rhythm, to the beat, to
the melody, and trusting in the music and getting lost
in the lights and the bass and if only for
a song or two, allowing themselves to just be in
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the moment, to just be in life. How beautiful harmony
on the dance floor. Then of course you have others
that I said, that would just point look at that moron,
look at that idiot. I ignore those people. Do not
give bullies power. They are powerful as long as you
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feed them. So from this moment on, what are you
going to do next? When the music starts playing, what
are you going to do next? Because my advice go
do it all, try experience live well, wait till this
podcast is over and then you know, or you can
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just crawl back into your cocoon. This life, your life
is not a rehearsal. You don't get a second run
you get one chance, and it's happening. Now. You are
here to experience as much as you possibly can. That
means trying, failing, love, leaving, building, rebuilding, and discovering what
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makes your soul come alive. Don't let your fears rob
you of experiences. Go skydiving if it terrifies you. Start
that business, even if you don't know every step. Say
yes to that opportunity. Say no to the ones that
drain you. Fall in love even if your heart has
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been broken. Travel, explore, create, art, right the book, have
deep conversations, be vulnerable, cry, laugh, scream. Live. You are
not meant for a small life. You are not meant
for your You were meant for depth, intensity, beauty, and fullness.
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You were meant to leave this world having lived. So
don't waste another second waiting. Make every moment count. Think
about it. I did this once along got time ago.
You've died.
Speaker 4 (36:06):
And you're laying in your coffin.
Speaker 3 (36:12):
And here comes everybody that you've known throughout your life,
and probably a lot of people that you never do.
But so what is what do you think they're talking about?
Speaker 4 (36:21):
What do you think they're saying?
Speaker 3 (36:23):
This person had a spectacular life, this person lived every moment.
This person enjoyed everything.
Speaker 4 (36:34):
What a great life?
Speaker 3 (36:37):
Or yeah they really they really didn't do much. I
mean yeah, I mean there was a nice person. They're
nice people, you know. They spent most of their life
complaining and complaining and and bitching, and they live their
lives through other people. They spent their life listening to
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the stories of others instead of creating their own. Don't
just sit around hoping that something will happen one day.
Be the things that happen. Your dreams are not going
to knock on your door. You have to chase them down, relentlessly, joyfully, passionately.
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Wake up each day and ask which I do? How
can I make today matter?
Speaker 4 (37:26):
And then my mind starts racing.
Speaker 3 (37:29):
But even if the steps are small, take them. Progress compounds,
momentum builds. Your job is to move not perfectly, not quickly,
but consistently. Don't wait for permission. Don't look for guarantees,
because there aren't any. The people who live fully are
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the ones who act with courage, despite the fear, despite
the uncertainty, dance in the rain afraid. You don't have
to know exactly where the world leads. You just have
to walk it. You've come too far to quit now,
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you've already proven that you have what it takes. Trust me,
you're like me me, Yeah you have. You're still here,
so trust me. You've made enough mistakes. You've done a
lot of stupid shit. Yes to you, I'm talking Actually,
I'm talking to all of you.
Speaker 4 (38:27):
You've all done stupid shit.
Speaker 3 (38:32):
So what life is too beautiful? Keep going, keep growing,
keep giving, keep being the person who chooses to live.
Life is short, it's messy, it's beautiful, it's full of pain,
but it's also full of joy, endings, beginnings. But above all,
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this life that we're talking about, that it can keep
commenting on, is sures you don't get this far to survive.
You get this far to live, to thrive, to expand,
and to become. So don't stop go further. As you know,
I often end my podcast with some work, and I
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must say that I plaud those that are doing the
work that write to me. And sometimes, you know, with
a good friend and they sit there with somebody learning
so much about themselves and their friend. Because a good friend,
a good friend, not an acquaintance, but a good friend
will keep you focused and honest. Because a lot of
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these things that I do. At the end of the podcast,
you end up blind to yourself. People think that they
are who they're not there, You're not. So sometimes you
need a reminder of somebody sitting right in front of you, going,
that's not really you. And then you decide, but you
need somebody who will keep you honest and on track
with where you should be on your journey and not
all the way over there. And if you ask, who cares,
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obviously I do, because that's why I do these podcasts.
I do them for you. Yes you, yeah, I'm talking
about you. Do the work and you will get better.
Do the work and you will get better. Three times,
do the work and you will get better. Those limiting
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beliefs often begin inside our minds before they ever reach
our lips. We see someone else's success, and the inner
critics starts. They must have had it easy, they must
have the help. We put people in pa I don't
put anybody in a pedestal. God is on my pedestal.
That's pretty much it to me. Everybody else is equal
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to me. There are some that have own more, live
more or healthier than I am, and I respect them.
And there are men who are have less than me,
doubt themselves a lot more than I do. I mean,
but I still see us as equal. Like I told
you in the past and other podcasts, we all start
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the race at the same point, the beginning, and then
through life, some stumble, some some take up, some cheat,
some jump in a car to get to the end,
to go quicker. But the bottom line is, you know
we're all going to get to the end at some point,
which you know, we all know what the end is.
But through the trials and tribulations of life, how we
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get there's that's where we differ. So for you to
be running and trying to be like that person or
this person, it's like, understand that person made different choices.
Speaker 4 (41:45):
Life is all about choices, as choices you make.
Speaker 3 (41:49):
So if you see somebody your age who seems to
be doing better in life, better relationship for whatever reason
you may think is better, they have more money, they
have more this, they have more that. Obviously they made
more choices, better choices than you. You didn't.
Speaker 4 (42:06):
Am I condemning you for that?
Speaker 3 (42:08):
Am I punishing you? Absolutely not. You still have life,
You still could make new choices. You can still decide
to be more responsible more, you know, more worthy, But
you know, do the work. Do the work. Remember, like
I said, those limiting beliefs often begin inside our minds
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before they ever reach our lips. Those are limiting beliefs
in here to grow, we must rewrite that inner dialogue.
When we see someone's achievements, we can think, what can
I learn from this? Or I wonder what it took
them to get there? Now, Oh my god, they're so successful.
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I'm jealous. I'm not jealous of anyone. I admire people,
I applaud people.
Speaker 4 (42:56):
I respect people.
Speaker 3 (42:58):
When I see somebody doing better than I am, or
in a position that I would like to be in,
if anything, I'll tap their knowledge. How'd you do it?
And not just the good part, not the great decision? Now,
I want to know everything, Like I want to know
where you screwed up, what your poor decisions were, Like,
that's how you learn from others. That's why we're here,
eight billion of us on this planet. We're here to
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learn from each other, not to be a team of one.
And like, screw everybody, I'm going to do this alone.
You're going to make it a lot more difficult. What
can I learn from this person? What can I learn
from this situation. This shift opens the door to mentorship,
to curiosity and self belief. It also gives us back
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our agency. We stop seeing success as something granted only
to the lucky and seeing, and start seeing it as
something available to the committed. Here's the Worknumber one. I
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ask of you, on your laptop, on your phone, or
on a piece of paper, write a letter to your
future self that you will read one year from now.
What yes, so market for same data as today, but
twenty twenty six and put it somewhere and describe what
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you've done today, who you've become today to this point,
and what risks you took so far. Speak with love,
clarity and belief. Read it aloud and let it become
your force. What inspires you, where you see yourself, what
you plan to do?
Speaker 4 (44:48):
Nothing negative?
Speaker 3 (44:49):
Please, no complaining, please, no complaining, Just how life is
going so far.
Speaker 4 (44:58):
You're writing this to yourself. That's a good one.
Speaker 3 (45:06):
And like I said, open it up next year, same time.
Most of it you'll forget about and then when you
read it you be like that was me. I've actually
heard of people that do this every year. They do
it for New Years or whatever. What my plans are,
what my goals are, where I see myself. Well, you
know who's in my life, who am I dating, who
am I married to, what animals I have, where I live?
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But keep it to positive things, no negative. Just leave
the negative and the complaints. Please just bury the complaints.
Stop being complainer. People think complaining helps you. Actually it doesn't.
Complaining helps you when you complain and you go, Okay,
there's an issue and then you fix it. If like
an hour later, you're still an hour later you're still
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complaining about the same thing, that's a problem. Here's another one,
and this is a biggie. You ready face one fear
this week. One Choose something that makes you uncomfortable.
Speaker 4 (46:11):
Think of something that makes you uncomfortable.
Speaker 3 (46:14):
Of course, I you know, I'll mention things like public speaking,
reaching out to a stranger, trying something new, whatever, But
do it start small. Small. I'm not saying jump out
of a plane. I'm telling you start small. What's the
first thing that comes to your mind when I said
something that.
Speaker 4 (46:34):
A fear you have?
Speaker 3 (46:36):
And building courage is like you know, strengthening a muscle.
You do it slow and you build it up and
you build it up. Okay, try that face one fear
this week.
Speaker 4 (46:47):
Next one.
Speaker 3 (46:49):
Set a growth goal every month. So if you have
that calendar up that's just blank or just has doctor's appointment,
pay taxes, grooming, a point like, how about using it
for something more interesting. By the fifteenth of the month,
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I want to accomplish X, Y, and Z. By the thirtieth,
I want to do a B and C and just
start writing it out. Some things will be kind of silly,
but trust me, the more you get involved with this,
the more interesting things you'll come up with. And notice
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I didn't say tomorrow, I said two weeks from now,
and then two weeks from now. You're giving yourself more
than enough time to find the resources, figure out what
you need to do, find help if you need it,
find inspiration, google it what I need to do to
do it? Google ten videos. But choose something that makes
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you a little like I said, just something that you've
been wanting to do for a while, something that's been
on that back burnier that.
Speaker 4 (47:59):
I can't do that.
Speaker 3 (48:00):
Of course you could do it. Learn a new skill,
trying new experience started. Just start a conversation, go into
a place where there's people talking and get involved. Don't
just sit there and again wallflower and just h m hmm,
that's fine and dandy. Talk ask questions. I don't know
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what to say, right, ask questions, because what ends up
happening is that's how you start cracking that shell, open it.
And as the conversations going, you're asking questions, there's gonna
be more conversations because now there's more answers. That's how
you do it, that's how you and then you build camaraderie,
you build friendships.
Speaker 4 (48:51):
But do this, like.
Speaker 3 (48:54):
You'd be surprised just these alone so far. Well, you'll
have changes in your life. This is a funny one
remove one safety net. What yes identify one way that
you are clinging to comfort, either staying in a job
you hate, avoiding confrontation. You know, I don't want to
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start trouble. I'm not saying into a fight, but like,
let's you have somebody in your life that just it's annoying,
makes you unhappy, and it's just like, you know, I
don't want to say so, I don't want to hurt
I hate that. I don't want to hurt their feelings. Well, yeah,
you'll hurt their feelings if you're an asshole. But if
you know, we're adults, most of us, and I should
be able to tell you how I feel about whatever,
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and I'll try to say it respectively.
Speaker 4 (49:44):
But the bottom line is I need to get my
point across.
Speaker 3 (49:46):
And then if I'm not completely happy with our relationship
for whatever reason, I tell you, and then you turn
to me and you go, oh, and here's the thing,
you're ready. Ninety percent of the time they're gonna be like,
I didn't know you felt that way, which I think
is fascinating. So you have two people, and one person
is creating all of this thought in their mind, Oh
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my god, and this is happening and I'm not sure
and blah blah blah blah.
Speaker 4 (50:11):
The other person's just.
Speaker 3 (50:12):
Living their life. And I've seen this many times with
the clients. All of a sudden, they're like, she didn't know.
He never knew. Of course they don't. If you, guys
have been together for twenty years and you're not happy
and you have questions, and they're still like, let's do this,
let's do that, and life is great. Obviously they don't know,
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which is not fair to you and especially not fair
to them. And of course that's when people are like well,
I don't want to hurt different there You're not. You can't.
And here's the thing. If they were ones to get
angry and hurt, then they're just jerks. They shouldn't be
in your life anyway. You know, the people that I
surround myself, my very small circle of friends, I can
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walk up and just say whatever.
Speaker 4 (50:56):
I feel, whenever I feel how I feel.
Speaker 3 (50:58):
If they get offended by me, it's their problem, not mine,
because they know where my heart is. They know that
I'm not doing it to be mean. They know I'm
doing it.
Speaker 4 (51:06):
Because I care. I have that father energy. I guess
that's what I've been told.
Speaker 3 (51:10):
But do this work? And of course you know, when
I did this, I was like, well, you have vision boards,
which those of you know how I feel about vision boards.
Vision boards are basically a board that you create. You
get a poster board, whatever, you cut out pictures and
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you put it on there the things that you see
yourself doing. I've done probably five in my life, and
three of them have been exactly verbatim, exactly whatever I've
put down has happened. Yes, it has amazing. And if
your question, well, what do I put on the board,
that's a problem. Then you need to do some meditation,
you need to do some soul searching. What is it
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you see yourself doing? Don't ask other people. This isn't
a cheating thing when you look over at the other
person's desk and like, what are you putting? That's this
is my life?
Speaker 4 (52:03):
What's your life?
Speaker 3 (52:04):
What are your interests, what are your goals? What are
your hobbies? We all have them. If you think you
don't have them, it's because you're not opening yourself to
wanting to step out and try things.
Speaker 4 (52:15):
Just try it all.
Speaker 3 (52:16):
If you don't have a hobby, if you don't have
a goal.
Speaker 4 (52:19):
Guess what, try it all.
Speaker 3 (52:22):
But what if I don't like it? Bingo?
Speaker 4 (52:24):
That's the idea.
Speaker 3 (52:25):
You try it, you don't like it, Okay, onto the next,
on to the next, because at some point you're going
to find that, well, I do like doing this, and
that's how it works.
Speaker 4 (52:36):
But if you're gonna sit there and.
Speaker 3 (52:37):
Go I'm not gonna try anything, well, you're never gonna
like anything, which makes you boring. But a vision board
fill it with the possibilities, the photos, the words. It
doesn't have to be pictures. It could be words for magazines.
Believe strength vacation, abundance, hell, health. You can just write it.
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You don't have to find the words. Pictures, Pictures that
inspire you what your future home is going to look like?
What you're dying You go to uh Pinterests, great place,
cut out pictures of situations, of cars, of trips, vacations, water, parks.
I'm using parks, zoos, restaurants, dishes of food, things that
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you're willing to try, things that you're not sure, but
you know what I'm going to try. Instead of having
this wall in front of you, it's a possibility board.
Think about it. It's possibility, feelings of growth, feelings of positivity,
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things that inspire you as you do them. Ask yourself
to start every morning, Am I going to use this day? Well?
Am I going to have a good day? Reclaim your time,
your energy, your presence. Every day look forward at the day.
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Don't look at it's like there's three things I need
to do. But no, no, no, no, no, How are you going
to change today? Who are you going to inspire today?
You didn't come this far to get this far. You're
not done, You're just getting started. The world is waiting
not for your perfection, but.
Speaker 4 (54:31):
For your participation.
Speaker 3 (54:35):
Don't waste your time hoping life happens to you. Go
out and happen to life. That's a T shirt. There's
so much more ahead. I am fifty five and I
never thought at the beginning of fifty four that I
would own a farm in Kentucky. But I'm here, and
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do you know what. I've been here since September? Do
you know that every single morning when I let my
dogs out and I look out across the fields, I
still say to myself, I'm in Kentucky. You're like, really still? Yes, Well,
I've lived in Connecticut for fifty four years.
Speaker 4 (55:13):
I mean, it's.
Speaker 3 (55:16):
Still amazing to me. And I am I'm envious of myself,
of my life, of the possibilities. I'm jealous of what
I'm going to do.
Speaker 4 (55:26):
Yet isn't that weird?
Speaker 3 (55:30):
I guess. I guess the problem was I knew what
I wanted, but it was it still wasn't painted well
on a canvas. It was blurry. Like Melissa and I
would talk about what we want. We know we want
to move out of Bridgeport, we know why, we know
where that we want to go. We're just not sure where.
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Like I said, the canvas wasn't clear yet. The trim,
you know what this is. This is like a puzzle.
There you go, you know, when you make a puzzle,
you get the pieces and the trim is done. You
start working on the corners because you know, a flat side,
I know. And some of the corners are done. There
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may be a few center pieces, a couple of pieces
here and there together, but.
Speaker 4 (56:17):
You still don't have a final picture.
Speaker 3 (56:20):
So this is life, but this one your life didn't
come with a box. There's no picture done that you
can go by. Sorry, you have to figure it out.
In fact, the pieces are being generated as you manifest them.
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Oh yes, Oh, it's just.
Speaker 4 (56:49):
You don't see all of it.
Speaker 3 (56:50):
No, no, no, no, no. Every day, five puzzles pieces appear,
seven puzzle pieces appear, maybe one tomorrow, maybe three.
Speaker 4 (57:01):
The next day.
Speaker 3 (57:04):
You are manifesting these pictures, these pieces of a puzzles
as you go along. So what is your final picture
going to be? You just have a thought today of
what you want to accomplish. And there's an odd shaped piece.
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Where does it go? Hmm? Does it go in the corner?
Does it go in the center. Is it part of
the sky? Is it part of that white thing. Whatever
that is? Is that a tree?
Speaker 2 (57:34):
Hm?
Speaker 3 (57:36):
Where or where does this piece go? Don't ask me,
don't ask anyone, because no one really.
Speaker 4 (57:43):
Knows what your final picture will look like.
Speaker 3 (57:46):
Many will assume based on what I think would be
best for meat. Wait wait, I meant for you.
Speaker 4 (57:56):
You know what you want? That's part of life.
Speaker 3 (58:00):
I love when I go deep with someone and after
a struggle or a tug of war, of pulling and
prodding over and over, the truth finally comes out.
Speaker 4 (58:08):
I want this.
Speaker 3 (58:12):
Or I am or I am not? What's my family
and friends want or wish me to be? Do the work.
Sorry to sound like a broken record, but meditation is
such a reset button for so many. Did you know that?
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In twenty twenty two, I look this up. This is
real and estimated sixty point five three million American adults
practice meditation. That's representing eighteen point three percent of the
adult population. That's badass. That's people that know it. They
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figured it out. This makes me happy because as my
close minded, closed minded father thought to meditate or even
Chinese stirfry was only for Asian people, which is hilarious. Yes,
he was. He was racist in a way his own way.
Not in a bad way, just like you know. But
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he was closed minded, and when I started following the
Buddhist path that I you know, I have my Buddhist
altar here and everything, he was just say, you know,
you're not Chinese, and I'm like, you have no clue, dude.
I have to be content with my choices and how
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I choose to live my life, doing the things I
choose to do. Even if I look silly on the
dance floor, I am the one dancing to life's rhythms
and not watching everyone's else's dance moves. Still think you
can't meditate for those that still have this limiting belief
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that I have, that I have had the honor to
teach many people that this silly belief is not silly
and that it helps you focus on connecting with yourself.
You see, you have mind, you have body, and your spirit,
and you must find balance in these three. That's why
I think it's interesting that people that focus so much
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on work but won't go to the gym because they
don't have time, or they don't have time to eat
a healthy meal. Because I don't have the time because
I have to do this and I have to do
That funny thing is I know many people that have
worked two jobs, three jobs, have children, have pets, have
a house to claim, have bills to pay, and they manage.
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Does this mean that they're better than you? Absolutely not.
Speaker 4 (01:00:50):
It means they just figured it out.
Speaker 3 (01:00:52):
They learn to breathe between thoughts, breathe between.
Speaker 4 (01:00:57):
Your thoughts and just jumple them all together.
Speaker 3 (01:01:03):
I can't mention balance without sharing one of my favorite
verses of the Bible, Ecclesiastes three. To everything, there is
a season. It's all about finding balance. To everything, there
is a season and a time to every purpose under Heaven.
A time to be born and a time to die.
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A time to plant and a time to pluck up
what you planted, a time to kill you know what
I mean, and a time to heal. A time to
break down and a time to build up, a time
to weep and a time to laugh. There is a
time to mourn, and there's a time to dance. There's
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a time to cast away stones and a time to
gather stones together. A time to embrace and a time
to refrain from embracing. There's a time to get in,
a time to lose, a time to keep, and a
time to cast away, a time to rend and a
time to sew, a time to keep silence and a
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time to speak, a time to love and a time
to hate. There's a time of war and there's a
time of peace. So as I began this podcast, I
did not come this far to just come this far.
I hope I made you think. I hope I made
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you question your existence and the many possibilities that you
have the minute this podcast is over, and that you
appreciate every tomorrow, every today, and be very very very
very very very very very grateful for all of the
experiences of the past that have made you who you are.
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Right now, keep this in mind. Choose action over excuse,
purpose over comfort, and the work that matters over the
distractions that don't. My name is Jimmy Gonzalez, and this
was to reset yourself twenty two podcasts, Go forward and
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live your life. To the full list.
Speaker 4 (01:03:20):
Thank you so much for listening, and I mean that,
Thank you so much for liking.
Speaker 3 (01:03:25):
Thank you so much for sharing like this podcast is
on so many different platforms and I am very honored.
It means a lot to me, many many blessings to
each and every one of you. Be well, and Prospero.
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the one on one approach, feel free to reach out.
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Dearly beloved, we have gathered here today to get through
this thing called life.
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You are listening to the Reset Yourself twenty two Podcasts
with your host Jimmy Gunzalas.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello, Yes, my name is Jimmy go
and Dalas And this is the Reset Yourself twenty two
podcast episode when seventy eight Wow. In this weekly podcast,
I focus on sparking your inner confidence and igniting your
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belief in yourself. I'm your host, and I'm always very thrilled.
Let me fix that. I'm always very thrilled to share
my thoughts and research with you as we go along
on this journey together you me we can nurture a
mindset that empowers us to reach our fullest potential.
Speaker 4 (01:47):
I write a record every episode to challenge.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Your thinking and my thinking while I'm actually writing it,
and to encourage us to reflect, which I do so often,
and inspire actionable, realistic steps towards personal growth, whether you're
facing a career transition, seeking to overcome challenges, or simply
striving for greater fulfillment in life. This podcast hopefully can
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be your go to resource for motivation and practical insights.
My inspiration to do this show is to teach people
to focus more on what they can accomplish so they
do the things they need to do when they need
to do them, so that ultimately you can get the
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things that you want when you wish to have them.
And of course this episode is dedicatedicate it to you,
not you you were last week, you were like a
month ago. So you yes, you tell me what you
want and I will show you how to get it.
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Doesn't matter what it is, I will show you how
to get it. The question is are you willing to
do work? That seems to be the big issue. There's
a phrase that echoes deeply through the minds of those
on the brink of greatness, yet are tempted to just
settle and stop. You did not get this far. To
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only get this far. It is a call, a whisper
from the soul, reminding you that your journey is still unfolding,
that the chapters ahead hold just as much, if not more, promise,
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than the ones you've already written. This is not a
finish line. It's not a race. It's merely a checkpoint.
Every success, every failure, every heart break, every moment of
bliss has led you here right now. Where you are
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right now, think about that, wherever you are, in your
car and your home, sitting on your couch, sitting in
a porch, walking your dog. I have quite a few
dog walkers.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
It is to leap forward, to jump forward, to continue
starting the moment this podcast is done.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
Life is not meant to be lived in neutral, and
it shouldn't be an autopilot. You're not here to just survive.
You're not here to just create, to learn, to give,
to receive, to evolve, to pay taxes, and to die.
And while time may seem like it's slipping through your fingers,
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the real measure of your life is not the ticking
of a clock, but the rhythm of your heart, the
moment it beats with purpose, with courage, and with joy.
The truth is, there is so much for you out there.
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The question is will you claim it or you just
watch it go by because you're not done. Too many
people stop right before that breakthrough. There's this picture I
love comes up every so often of two men side
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by side, just in the same position, and they both
have a pickaxe and they're digging, and the first one
digs and digs, and he could see the sweat coming
off of him, and it just gets to the point
that he gives up, not realizing that if you look
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at the picture on the side behind, like maybe a
foot away, are diamonds and treasures.
Speaker 4 (06:09):
The second picture he actually receives.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
Him, because he keeps going, he keeps hustling, he keeps
moving forward.
Speaker 4 (06:24):
You didn't come this.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
Far through pain, through healing, through learning and unlearning. To
stay stuck in the comfort of what you already know
of where you are, to wake up, to have the
same routine, to do the same thing to take the
same street to the same place that you've been going forever,
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to have lunch at the exact same time, the exact
same meal, to drive to the exact same place every day,
to go home, to sit in the same exact chair,
to eat the exact same meal, to watch the exact
same TV. And to look forward to just falling asleep
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and starting again tomorrow. I actually know a few people
like this, and.
Speaker 5 (07:15):
To each their own I would I would scream simply
because I have been blessed for many, many years to experience.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
You. I have had the most magical conversations, meaningful conversations,
wonderful conversations with people, with loved ones, with strangers. I
this past weekend we went down to Bowling No to
Glasgow to an ice cream shop called the Creamery. I
highly recommend it. And upon walking into place was packed
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and there was this lady sitting like right where you
have to go by to get to the booth to
order the ice cream. And obviously you can tell she
was much much much older. And as I walked by,
as I do with everybody, I make eye contact and
I smiled, and there ses holding her eyes cream with
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this little cover thing as a strawberry ice cream. I
know that because she made sure to show me each
strawberry and that they were fresh, and she had a
smile that I can see the child in her, like
even though she was older and wrinkly, when she smiled,
I can see the child in her. And she looked
so happy. And it's funny because I made sure to
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keep her in my conversation. So when I went to order,
I'm looking and that she immediately what are you getting?
You know, sitting over there, but she's like, what are
you getting And I told her, and she said, oh,
I like this, and I like that. You should try this,
and you should try that. So I ended up getting
something and then I walked back and I just, you know, basically,
you know, I hope you enjoy the day.
Speaker 4 (09:01):
I hope you enjoy your ice cream.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
She's like, and she just started telling me stories about
her life and everything. That she's ninety two years young,
no complaints, no this and that, and this hurts, and
that hurts, and I can't do this and I can't
do that.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
That's just such a crock of shit.
Speaker 3 (09:18):
It's such an excuse to surrender, to give up. She
was young again, just sitting there, and you could tell,
trust me, she was fragile.
Speaker 4 (09:31):
She wasn't like you really strong. She was fragile.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
But that memory, that nostalgia, that moment of that ice
cream shop with that ice cream cone got rid of
all the pain and she was young again. And she
told me, she goes, I come here every time I'm
home and I'm bored, and I know I shouldn't put
who cares? And then it's funny because I mean, she
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was older, so I'm like, how'd you get here? She's like,
I drive that's my car. I was like what. She's like, yeah,
I drive here. And I was like, and where we
were was a very busy section, Like the parking is odd,
so you have to back into traffic, you know those places.
And she's like, oh no, honey, you don't know. And
we sat there. We talked about all her grandchildren and
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great grandchildren and that she was from Louisiana and that
she moved to Kentucky sixty five fifty five fifty five.
And I was just like, that's amazing, God bless you.
Oh yeah, please sit down, and Melissa came over. We
sat down and we were there for about like almost
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an hour, just talking about the wonders of life, not
about how bad things are and how high taxes are
and about Trump and the politics, and we're just talking
about the beauty of eating ice cream and enjoying life
for what it is, enjoying this beautiful little place, enjoying
the town. She told us, the history of her and
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her husband and her grand It's just we're talking about
what makes life important. She saw opportunities her entire life,
and she stated it, life is brimming with opportunity. You see,
we live in a universe of many, many, many possibilities.
Every day is an unopened gift. Every moment's a doorway
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to a different path, because life is not a straight line.
If you hear my dogs, they always do that. It's
a branching tree. Think about it. You are the trunk
of the tree, and above you are the many branches,
the many chances, places that you could go, people you
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could meet, and parts of yourself that you can awaken
simply by sitting there, you know what, by sitting at
home and realizing I'm bored, I'm gonna get up. I
just get some ice cream. It's the simplest of things.
God blessed this ninety two year old lady. We decided
that we were going to meet often, and we're going
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to go back, and you know, we're a text her like, hey,
we yeah, text her and that we'll meet you there
and everything, and I miss her. It's funny. I was
thinking about the other that we were doing something. I
was like, I missed that lady. I wonder how she's doing.
And the best part, the best part is that you
are the only one who can choose your path. That
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means that you have the power, this immense power that
so many of us hide from it. Some many of
us decide to when they have the chance to grow,
they just complain, I can't do this, I can't do that,
blah blah blah. You don't know, it's not that easy.
That's a funny one. Whener I hear that, I laugh
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out loud.
Speaker 4 (12:50):
It was in my mind.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
I laughed because I'm like, that is just a big
crop excuse of nonsense. It's just an excuse to not
do things, to not try things. So not just live.
There's a god, there's a god above us. We gave
us life. He wants you to live. He wants you
to try to venture. He doesn't want you to sit
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and complain.
Speaker 4 (13:13):
And and just be.
Speaker 3 (13:18):
Wants you to be. You get to know you, like
really you, and challenge yourself. This is not just about ambition.
It's about a liveness. Real living isn't about doing the
same thing day in and day out. It's about stretching.
It's about reaching, touching parts of yourself that you haven't
met yet, whether it's learning a language, traveling somewhere unknown,
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healing from your past, or starting something no one believes in.
Speaker 6 (13:47):
But you.
Speaker 3 (13:49):
This is your invitation to try because time is finite,
but life is infinite in potential. Yes, time is limited,
Yes your life will that lasts forever, So why piss
it away? Now? There are so many people that act
like they're already dead, they're waiting to die. This lady's
ninety two years old. She's not even thinking about it.
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She's thinking about that ice cream and how good, how
fresh the strawberries are. That's exactly what makes it precious.
The point isn't to watch the hands of the clock.
It's to feel the beat of your own heart, to
notice how it accelerates with passion, love, excitement, and risk,
to wake up and say today matters. You don't live
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by deadlines alone. You live by mornings filled with sunlight,
by moments of laughter, by tears that remind you that
you are alive, by conversations that stir something real inside
of you, by the knowing that right now, right now,
is all you truly have waiting. Don't live for some day,
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put the clock down. Don't tell yourself you'll start next
month or next year. Your life is happening now, your breath,
your choice is your moments. They are your life. And
the truth is life is shorter than you think, so,
don't waste your days hoping to for something, hopefully at
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some point someday, maybe next month, to change. You are
the change. You are the change maker. Get up and
make the seconds, the minutes, the hours, the days, the weeks,
the months, and the years count, because again, nobody's holding
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you back except you. We often look outside ourselves for
reasons why we're not where we want to be. We
blame time, ccumstances, and my favorite, everyone else, including God.
But more often than not, the real reason is internal fear,
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self doubt, and comfort. You might not realize it, but
the biggest cage in your life is the one that
you built to feel safe, and it's your little cocoon
of safety. Safety is a beautiful thing, but it's also
very seductive. It tells you not to risk, not to leave,
not to jump, not to shine too brightly, not to
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try too much, not to risk everything. It says, stay here.
Speaker 4 (16:35):
You know this.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
You're comfortable in this little, this little box right here.
You can't fail here, because that's pretty much why people
have fears, because they're afraid to.
Speaker 4 (16:46):
Fail.
Speaker 3 (16:48):
You have fear afraid to fail, because when you aren't
afraid to fail, you're willing to do research. You're willing
to investigate, You're willing to figure out why you have
the fear, what you're willing to do and try and
just do it. But here's the truth. Comfort zones don't
just protect you, they can fine you. Growth lives outside
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of comfort. It lives in the unknown, in the uncertain
and the scary but exhilarating choice to step into something new.
You are the gatekeeper of your potential. No one is
stopping you from chasing your dream, from building something extraordinary,
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from becoming the person you know you are meant to be.
Nobody's stopping you.
Speaker 4 (17:39):
Except well you.
Speaker 3 (17:42):
So let go, let go of the excuses of stories,
the doubts, because starting right here, right now, in this moment,
right now, you can rewrite your entire life. You can
get up, you can find a new job. You can
quit a job. You can walk out of a relationship.
You can get divorced, you can get married, you can
start a relationship, you can find a better paying job.
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You could move out of your home, you can move
into apartment. You can move out of an apartment, and
you can move into a home. Oh but I don't
have good credit, Oh but I don't have money. Excuses,
but Jimmy, you need their excuses.
Speaker 4 (18:20):
They are excuses.
Speaker 3 (18:23):
I mean, I mean to my younger audience, you know,
maybe you don't have the experience of life. To my
older audience, let's just say fifty and up. If you're
still playing games with excuses, well, you can't do this,
and you can't. You're lying to yourself. You're cheating yourself,
you're hurting yourself because I know, and you know, and
you know that I know that, you know that. It's
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all bullshit.
Speaker 4 (18:47):
It's just an excuse.
Speaker 3 (18:49):
I can't. It's hard, it's impossible. It's too hard, it's
too impossible. Oh my god. They're not truths. They're complete nonsense,
just as excuses. They're fear wearing masks. They are beliefs
rooted in a fear of what may go wrong, not
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in what could go right. Hard. Yeah, it might be,
but heart is not a bad thing. I've never seen
heart as I see. To me, everything is an opportunity.
It's an obstacle that I want you to get over, around,
or under. Usually I will just knock it down, but
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I do the math in my mind. I need to
do X, Y and Z. Okay, how am I going
to do it? How am I going to accomplish it?
Because it needs to be done. I'm sorry, and for
this I thank my father. My father was a very stubborn,
closed minded man, but when it came to the concept
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of it has to be done, obviously, when you're ten
years old, you're just like, I don't want to do it.
But if you're still doing that at forty to fifty
sixty seventy eight, that's a fucking problem because by this
time you're wiser, and the minute an obstacle stands in
front of you, your first thought should be how am
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I going to do this? How am I going to
accomplish this? What do I need to do to get
it done? Because it has to get done. I'm not
doing that. I'm not doing this. I'm not doing Wow.
So you're not living, you're not enjoying, you're not savoring
the gift of life that you've been given. Hard again,
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just an excuse. Change your language, shift your mindset. Try
replacing I can't with I'm learning. Replace it's hard with
it's something new to me. Replace impossible. I hate that
word because for me, I've always it's funny because I
remember the first time learning English. First time I saw
that word impossible, I actually saw I am possible. I
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am possible, and replace impossible with unfamiliar. The minute somebody
tells you to do something that you're not sure of,
understand that it's because it's something new. It's something unfamiliar,
that's all it is. Of course, you're not going to
know how to do I think it's funny, but well,
I don't know how to do that. I would assume
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you don't. I mean, you don't know everything. There are
people that know so much that don't know everything. So
you really think when I say, hey, you should do this,
like I don't know how to do that? Okay, cooking
the fact that there are still people that just don't cook.
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Let's be grown up here. It's an excuse. You are
lazy if I offend you, tough shit, But the bottom
line is it's the truth. If you don't know how
to clean, if you don't know how to cook, if
you don't know how to do this, if you know
how to do that, just it's being lazy because your
first thought is, Okay, this needs to get done. I
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need to figure out how to do it. And here's
the smack in the face to my older crowd. There's Google,
there's YouTube videos, you can do anything. Something breaks Google
it like, that's usually what somebody like me does. What
do you think that I just pull the information out
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of my ass? No, I if I'm not sure, if
I'm kind of sure, which usually what happens. I have
a lot of knowledge and a lot of things, but
not enough so like I have I have a I
had a router, a no, a repeater, a WiFi repeater
out here for the barn and garage to get WiFi out.
Speaker 4 (22:51):
There, and it just stopped working.
Speaker 3 (22:53):
And I tried everything and it stopped working. And I Google.
And here's the thing. Google did it work Because it's
such a new item. I couldn't find the problem that
I was having. So instead of like.
Speaker 4 (23:05):
Throwing it because I was about I was gonna throw.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
It through the window, I just I don't really need
it right away. So I took time to think, to
breathe on it. And it took me a few days,
and I kept thinking, try A, try B try C,
why isn't this working? Try D, like what is not happening?
And then I started breaking it backwards, disconnected the whole thing,
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brought it downstairs, connected it directly worked, But then I
figured out, wait a minute, power, and you're like, what,
you didn't plug it in? Actually, yes, it was plugged in.
The issue is that that socket on that wall there's
obviously something wrong to it because when I plug it in,
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the light barely turns on, so there's not enough power
going to that socket. So when I ran to extension
cord over here to this wall magic, I didn't say
can't do it. I thought it through change your language,
as I said, shift your mindset. I can't. So I'm
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learning it's hard to. It's new, impossible to. It's just unfamiliar,
and I'm going to figure it out. You're not born
to shrink. You're born to expand, to stretch into spaces
you once thought were off limits. Again, there's no reason
you should ever say I don't know how to do that.
Speaker 4 (24:39):
That's the I mean.
Speaker 3 (24:40):
Come on, most things in your life, hopefully you don't
know how to do. These changes in life create changes
in your reality. At first glance, the phrase you think
it's easy may seem harmless. These are these sayings that
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I think are just so destructive because they're so inbred
that you just automatically say these negative things, so it's
it's a casual remark, it's you know. It might even
come with a smile or a joke, like I think
it's easy. It expresses doubt, resistance, disbelief about someone else's efforts,
but beneath its surface lies a mindset shaped by assumptions, comparisons,
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and subtle dismissal of someone else's journey or skill. Over time,
this simple phrase reveals much more than frustration or disbelief.
It reflects our relationship with effort, with trying, our understanding
of growth, and our ability to emphasize, to truly grow
into the best versions of ourselves. We must stop saying
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you think it's easy, because it is a statement that
not only limits others, but also limits ourselves. It subtly
reinforces the idea that child are unfair, that success should
come with struggle visible to all, and that ease is
somehow undeserved.
Speaker 4 (26:11):
This essay, this session, this.
Speaker 3 (26:15):
Conversation I'm having with you explorers why it's crucial to
eliminate this phrase and many negative phrases from our emotional maturity, humility,
and human connection. We will uncover what it truly means
I do every day, try to uncover how it makes
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sense to get to trust me.
Speaker 4 (26:37):
Because it's just it's normal.
Speaker 3 (26:39):
It's a normal, especially if it's been in bread to
us that you repeat these negative sayings, these sayings that
make you feel that you are just not worthy, you
are not able bodied, of course you are. At the
heart of saying you think it's easy is often a
deeper emotional truth. Oh God, yes, yes, it's about the
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fucking word and not fuck fear. We fear our own inadequacy.
We fear that someone else's confidence or composure reflects a
gap in our own ability, Instead of asking ourselves, what
could I learn from this person, or like, well, teach me,
help me, inspire me, drive me. What do they know
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that I don't yet to understand? Which is usually a lot.
That's why I try to you always you should spend
time with people that can teach you, not people that
can take from you. We defensively push the thought away
with a dismissive phrase, oh, I can't do that, I can't.
The amount of damage we do to our mind, to
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our bodies when we say such naive phrases like that
or I can't or I won't shouldn't win it. My
favorites three stupid things actually makes you wonder how many
incredible opportunities have of you. And I'm speaking to you
shut down slam doors on because it was easier to
allow ignorance to take over instead of thinking it through
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the steps of what you are actually being asked to do.
I'm asking you to take that box over there and
put it over there.
Speaker 4 (28:18):
I can't why.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
Your first thought to a question is I can't. It
needs to be done. I don't know. Like I said,
once you find yourself doing this thing that thirty seconds
ago was instead a hard thing and it was an
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I can't to now it's done, is because you put
your mind to it, you thought it through, you realize
that you know, that's the thinking of an eight year
old child that says I can't or I don't know
if I can, I I for whatever, it's just an
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I can't even think.
Speaker 4 (29:04):
It's just excuses.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
And every day I go out and I enjoy myself
and I feel inspired by this lady. Her name was Simone.
Actually her name is Mary, but she's like my real
name is Simone from Louisiana. But it's just like so
you have somebody like her getting in a car and
just getting an ice cream on her own in a
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very busy section and not thinking, not thinking, yeah, but
what about the traffic? What about this? What I want?
An ice cream cone? The meaning of life is to live,
not sit back somewhere and kind of watch from the
sidelines as everyone else lives their life, and you choose
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to just not partake in this miracle of life. Then
people will say it's okay, I am fine just being
a wallflower on the dance floor. You know those people
that just go to dance floors and just stand against
the wall, and then they have the audacity and nerve
to like point at people that are look he looks stupid,
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he looks silly, she looks dumb, she can't even dance.
Speaker 4 (30:11):
Blah blah blah.
Speaker 3 (30:13):
Trust me, I speak from experience because I have danced
at many clubs, I've DJ'ed even more, and I've watched
these people, both the wallflowers and the wallflowers that are
pointing and the wallflowers that are scared. But then you
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have people that will say, well, I'm okay, I'm okay
right here, it's okay, I'm okay. So I'm like, why
are you here? Then believe what you want. Bottom line
is you want to be there. You want to be
on that dance floor. You want to be a part
of this. But it's easier to just be like, no,
it's okay, I'll just stand here. I'll pay that, you know,
the thirty dollars to get in and then just stand
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over here and just watch as everybody else has fun.
And I just don't take surround yourself with people that
will help you onto the dance floor of life. As
a DJ, like I said, I have come down from
the booth surprise during the middle of my sets. I
used to do this during the middle of my sets.
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I would come down while the music is still playing.
I know how long I have for the next record? Yes, record,
And I've grabbed many hands and have explained to them
that you've paid admission to be here today, do you
really want to dance? And I've never had anybody say
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absolutely not. They just look at me in fear, the
same way they look at their life, their journey, their paths,
their opportunities. Silly is the person that paid their mission
to life and wants to watch as everyone else laughs
and loves because they feel that they aren't worthy or
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they are too simple because they were just never taught
to do the side step. What. Yes, when I would
step on the dance floor from the booth, I would
pull them out, these freaked out people by the hand
onto the dance floor. And yeah, not everybody can dance,
just not everybody understands the concept. The concept is you
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are you are enjoying the music, not like I need
to know the hottest new craze. It's like that's crazy.
You're there to feel the music. You're there to enjoy
the music. And I pretty much would just stand side
by side with them and just.
Speaker 4 (32:43):
Literally going.
Speaker 3 (32:47):
And look at them and look down at their legs,
and you immediately look down at their feet, and I'm like,
just go left to right. I'm not asking you to
go crazy. I'm not asking to move your hips on that.
Don't even clap to the rhythm, you probably can't. Just
left to right, left to right, if you know the words,
start singing. Don't watch other people because you're not here
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for them, and they trust me, they're not here for you.
You're here to just enjoy the atmosphere and the music.
And it's funny because within a few minutes you see
them forget that I'm even there, and they for the
first time, actually, even though they've been here for an
hour or two, listening to the music now in the
dance floor, they're actually now a part of the music,
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and their face changes completely. They close their eyes and
they're actually listening to the rhythm, to the beat, to
the melody, and trusting in the music and getting lost
in the lights and the bass and if only for
a song or two, allowing themselves to just be in
(33:55):
the moment, to just be in life. How beautiful harmony
on the dance floor. Then of course you have others
that I said, that would just point look at that moron,
look at that idiot. I ignore those people. Do not
give bullies power. They are powerful as long as you
(34:16):
feed them. So from this moment on, what are you
going to do next? When the music starts playing, what
are you going to do next? Because my advice go
do it all, try experience live well, wait till this
podcast is over and then you know, or you can
(34:38):
just crawl back into your cocoon. This life, your life
is not a rehearsal. You don't get a second run
you get one chance, and it's happening. Now. You are
here to experience as much as you possibly can. That
means trying, failing, love, leaving, building, rebuilding, and discovering what
(35:02):
makes your soul come alive. Don't let your fears rob
you of experiences. Go skydiving if it terrifies you. Start
that business, even if you don't know every step. Say
yes to that opportunity. Say no to the ones that
drain you. Fall in love even if your heart has
(35:25):
been broken. Travel, explore, create, art, right the book, have
deep conversations, be vulnerable, cry, laugh, scream. Live. You are
not meant for a small life. You are not meant
for your You were meant for depth, intensity, beauty, and fullness.
(35:48):
You were meant to leave this world having lived. So
don't waste another second waiting. Make every moment count. Think
about it. I did this once along got time ago.
You've died.
Speaker 4 (36:06):
And you're laying in your coffin.
Speaker 3 (36:12):
And here comes everybody that you've known throughout your life,
and probably a lot of people that you never do.
But so what is what do you think they're talking about?
Speaker 4 (36:21):
What do you think they're saying?
Speaker 3 (36:23):
This person had a spectacular life, this person lived every moment.
This person enjoyed everything.
Speaker 4 (36:34):
What a great life?
Speaker 3 (36:37):
Or yeah they really they really didn't do much. I
mean yeah, I mean there was a nice person. They're
nice people, you know. They spent most of their life
complaining and complaining and and bitching, and they live their
lives through other people. They spent their life listening to
(36:59):
the stories of others instead of creating their own. Don't
just sit around hoping that something will happen one day.
Be the things that happen. Your dreams are not going
to knock on your door. You have to chase them down, relentlessly, joyfully, passionately.
(37:20):
Wake up each day and ask which I do? How
can I make today matter?
Speaker 4 (37:26):
And then my mind starts racing.
Speaker 3 (37:29):
But even if the steps are small, take them. Progress compounds,
momentum builds. Your job is to move not perfectly, not quickly,
but consistently. Don't wait for permission. Don't look for guarantees,
because there aren't any. The people who live fully are
(37:50):
the ones who act with courage, despite the fear, despite
the uncertainty, dance in the rain afraid. You don't have
to know exactly where the world leads. You just have
to walk it. You've come too far to quit now,
(38:12):
you've already proven that you have what it takes. Trust me,
you're like me me, Yeah you have. You're still here,
so trust me. You've made enough mistakes. You've done a
lot of stupid shit. Yes to you, I'm talking Actually,
I'm talking to all of you.
Speaker 4 (38:27):
You've all done stupid shit.
Speaker 3 (38:32):
So what life is too beautiful? Keep going, keep growing,
keep giving, keep being the person who chooses to live.
Life is short, it's messy, it's beautiful, it's full of pain,
but it's also full of joy, endings, beginnings. But above all,
(38:58):
this life that we're talking about, that it can keep
commenting on, is sures you don't get this far to survive.
You get this far to live, to thrive, to expand,
and to become. So don't stop go further. As you know,
I often end my podcast with some work, and I
(39:19):
must say that I plaud those that are doing the
work that write to me. And sometimes, you know, with
a good friend and they sit there with somebody learning
so much about themselves and their friend. Because a good friend,
a good friend, not an acquaintance, but a good friend
will keep you focused and honest. Because a lot of
(39:39):
these things that I do. At the end of the podcast,
you end up blind to yourself. People think that they
are who they're not there, You're not. So sometimes you
need a reminder of somebody sitting right in front of you, going,
that's not really you. And then you decide, but you
need somebody who will keep you honest and on track
with where you should be on your journey and not
all the way over there. And if you ask, who cares,
(40:07):
obviously I do, because that's why I do these podcasts.
I do them for you. Yes you, yeah, I'm talking
about you. Do the work and you will get better.
Do the work and you will get better. Three times,
do the work and you will get better. Those limiting
(40:30):
beliefs often begin inside our minds before they ever reach
our lips. We see someone else's success, and the inner
critics starts. They must have had it easy, they must
have the help. We put people in pa I don't
put anybody in a pedestal. God is on my pedestal.
That's pretty much it to me. Everybody else is equal
(40:51):
to me. There are some that have own more, live
more or healthier than I am, and I respect them.
And there are men who are have less than me,
doubt themselves a lot more than I do. I mean,
but I still see us as equal. Like I told
you in the past and other podcasts, we all start
(41:12):
the race at the same point, the beginning, and then
through life, some stumble, some some take up, some cheat,
some jump in a car to get to the end,
to go quicker. But the bottom line is, you know
we're all going to get to the end at some point,
which you know, we all know what the end is.
But through the trials and tribulations of life, how we
(41:36):
get there's that's where we differ. So for you to
be running and trying to be like that person or
this person, it's like, understand that person made different choices.
Speaker 4 (41:45):
Life is all about choices, as choices you make.
Speaker 3 (41:49):
So if you see somebody your age who seems to
be doing better in life, better relationship for whatever reason
you may think is better, they have more money, they
have more this, they have more that. Obviously they made
more choices, better choices than you. You didn't.
Speaker 4 (42:06):
Am I condemning you for that?
Speaker 3 (42:08):
Am I punishing you? Absolutely not. You still have life,
You still could make new choices. You can still decide
to be more responsible more, you know, more worthy, But
you know, do the work. Do the work. Remember, like
I said, those limiting beliefs often begin inside our minds
(42:28):
before they ever reach our lips. Those are limiting beliefs
in here to grow, we must rewrite that inner dialogue.
When we see someone's achievements, we can think, what can
I learn from this? Or I wonder what it took
them to get there? Now, Oh my god, they're so successful.
(42:49):
I'm jealous. I'm not jealous of anyone. I admire people,
I applaud people.
Speaker 4 (42:56):
I respect people.
Speaker 3 (42:58):
When I see somebody doing better than I am, or
in a position that I would like to be in,
if anything, I'll tap their knowledge. How'd you do it?
And not just the good part, not the great decision? Now,
I want to know everything, Like I want to know
where you screwed up, what your poor decisions were, Like,
that's how you learn from others. That's why we're here,
eight billion of us on this planet. We're here to
(43:19):
learn from each other, not to be a team of one.
And like, screw everybody, I'm going to do this alone.
You're going to make it a lot more difficult. What
can I learn from this person? What can I learn
from this situation. This shift opens the door to mentorship,
to curiosity and self belief. It also gives us back
(43:41):
our agency. We stop seeing success as something granted only
to the lucky and seeing, and start seeing it as
something available to the committed. Here's the Worknumber one. I
(44:03):
ask of you, on your laptop, on your phone, or
on a piece of paper, write a letter to your
future self that you will read one year from now.
What yes, so market for same data as today, but
twenty twenty six and put it somewhere and describe what
(44:29):
you've done today, who you've become today to this point,
and what risks you took so far. Speak with love,
clarity and belief. Read it aloud and let it become
your force. What inspires you, where you see yourself, what
you plan to do?
Speaker 4 (44:48):
Nothing negative?
Speaker 3 (44:49):
Please, no complaining, please, no complaining, Just how life is
going so far.
Speaker 4 (44:58):
You're writing this to yourself. That's a good one.
Speaker 3 (45:06):
And like I said, open it up next year, same time.
Most of it you'll forget about and then when you
read it you be like that was me. I've actually
heard of people that do this every year. They do
it for New Years or whatever. What my plans are,
what my goals are, where I see myself. Well, you
know who's in my life, who am I dating, who
am I married to, what animals I have, where I live?
(45:30):
But keep it to positive things, no negative. Just leave
the negative and the complaints. Please just bury the complaints.
Stop being complainer. People think complaining helps you. Actually it doesn't.
Complaining helps you when you complain and you go, Okay,
there's an issue and then you fix it. If like
an hour later, you're still an hour later you're still
(45:53):
complaining about the same thing, that's a problem. Here's another one,
and this is a biggie. You ready face one fear
this week. One Choose something that makes you uncomfortable.
Speaker 4 (46:11):
Think of something that makes you uncomfortable.
Speaker 3 (46:14):
Of course, I you know, I'll mention things like public speaking,
reaching out to a stranger, trying something new, whatever, But
do it start small. Small. I'm not saying jump out
of a plane. I'm telling you start small. What's the
first thing that comes to your mind when I said
something that.
Speaker 4 (46:34):
A fear you have?
Speaker 3 (46:36):
And building courage is like you know, strengthening a muscle.
You do it slow and you build it up and
you build it up. Okay, try that face one fear
this week.
Speaker 4 (46:47):
Next one.
Speaker 3 (46:49):
Set a growth goal every month. So if you have
that calendar up that's just blank or just has doctor's appointment,
pay taxes, grooming, a point like, how about using it
for something more interesting. By the fifteenth of the month,
(47:10):
I want to accomplish X, Y, and Z. By the thirtieth,
I want to do a B and C and just
start writing it out. Some things will be kind of silly,
but trust me, the more you get involved with this,
the more interesting things you'll come up with. And notice
(47:31):
I didn't say tomorrow, I said two weeks from now,
and then two weeks from now. You're giving yourself more
than enough time to find the resources, figure out what
you need to do, find help if you need it,
find inspiration, google it what I need to do to
do it? Google ten videos. But choose something that makes
(47:52):
you a little like I said, just something that you've
been wanting to do for a while, something that's been
on that back burnier that.
Speaker 4 (47:59):
I can't do that.
Speaker 3 (48:00):
Of course you could do it. Learn a new skill,
trying new experience started. Just start a conversation, go into
a place where there's people talking and get involved. Don't
just sit there and again wallflower and just h m hmm,
that's fine and dandy. Talk ask questions. I don't know
(48:26):
what to say, right, ask questions, because what ends up
happening is that's how you start cracking that shell, open it.
And as the conversations going, you're asking questions, there's gonna
be more conversations because now there's more answers. That's how
you do it, that's how you and then you build camaraderie,
you build friendships.
Speaker 4 (48:51):
But do this, like.
Speaker 3 (48:54):
You'd be surprised just these alone so far. Well, you'll
have changes in your life. This is a funny one
remove one safety net. What yes identify one way that
you are clinging to comfort, either staying in a job
you hate, avoiding confrontation. You know, I don't want to
(49:19):
start trouble. I'm not saying into a fight, but like,
let's you have somebody in your life that just it's annoying,
makes you unhappy, and it's just like, you know, I
don't want to say so, I don't want to hurt
I hate that. I don't want to hurt their feelings. Well, yeah,
you'll hurt their feelings if you're an asshole. But if
you know, we're adults, most of us, and I should
be able to tell you how I feel about whatever,
(49:42):
and I'll try to say it respectively.
Speaker 4 (49:44):
But the bottom line is I need to get my
point across.
Speaker 3 (49:46):
And then if I'm not completely happy with our relationship
for whatever reason, I tell you, and then you turn
to me and you go, oh, and here's the thing,
you're ready. Ninety percent of the time they're gonna be like,
I didn't know you felt that way, which I think
is fascinating. So you have two people, and one person
is creating all of this thought in their mind, Oh
(50:08):
my god, and this is happening and I'm not sure
and blah blah blah blah.
Speaker 4 (50:11):
The other person's just.
Speaker 3 (50:12):
Living their life. And I've seen this many times with
the clients. All of a sudden, they're like, she didn't know.
He never knew. Of course they don't. If you, guys
have been together for twenty years and you're not happy
and you have questions, and they're still like, let's do this,
let's do that, and life is great. Obviously they don't know,
(50:34):
which is not fair to you and especially not fair
to them. And of course that's when people are like well,
I don't want to hurt different there You're not. You can't.
And here's the thing. If they were ones to get
angry and hurt, then they're just jerks. They shouldn't be
in your life anyway. You know, the people that I
surround myself, my very small circle of friends, I can
(50:55):
walk up and just say whatever.
Speaker 4 (50:56):
I feel, whenever I feel how I feel.
Speaker 3 (50:58):
If they get offended by me, it's their problem, not mine,
because they know where my heart is. They know that
I'm not doing it to be mean. They know I'm
doing it.
Speaker 4 (51:06):
Because I care. I have that father energy. I guess
that's what I've been told.
Speaker 3 (51:10):
But do this work? And of course you know, when
I did this, I was like, well, you have vision boards,
which those of you know how I feel about vision boards.
Vision boards are basically a board that you create. You
get a poster board, whatever, you cut out pictures and
(51:32):
you put it on there the things that you see
yourself doing. I've done probably five in my life, and
three of them have been exactly verbatim, exactly whatever I've
put down has happened. Yes, it has amazing. And if
your question, well, what do I put on the board,
that's a problem. Then you need to do some meditation,
you need to do some soul searching. What is it
(51:53):
you see yourself doing? Don't ask other people. This isn't
a cheating thing when you look over at the other
person's desk and like, what are you putting? That's this
is my life?
Speaker 4 (52:03):
What's your life?
Speaker 3 (52:04):
What are your interests, what are your goals? What are
your hobbies? We all have them. If you think you
don't have them, it's because you're not opening yourself to
wanting to step out and try things.
Speaker 4 (52:15):
Just try it all.
Speaker 3 (52:16):
If you don't have a hobby, if you don't have
a goal.
Speaker 4 (52:19):
Guess what, try it all.
Speaker 3 (52:22):
But what if I don't like it? Bingo?
Speaker 4 (52:24):
That's the idea.
Speaker 3 (52:25):
You try it, you don't like it, Okay, onto the next,
on to the next, because at some point you're going
to find that, well, I do like doing this, and
that's how it works.
Speaker 4 (52:36):
But if you're gonna sit there and.
Speaker 3 (52:37):
Go I'm not gonna try anything, well, you're never gonna
like anything, which makes you boring. But a vision board
fill it with the possibilities, the photos, the words. It
doesn't have to be pictures. It could be words for magazines.
Believe strength vacation, abundance, hell, health. You can just write it.
(53:02):
You don't have to find the words. Pictures, Pictures that
inspire you what your future home is going to look like?
What you're dying You go to uh Pinterests, great place,
cut out pictures of situations, of cars, of trips, vacations, water, parks.
I'm using parks, zoos, restaurants, dishes of food, things that
(53:24):
you're willing to try, things that you're not sure, but
you know what I'm going to try. Instead of having
this wall in front of you, it's a possibility board.
Think about it. It's possibility, feelings of growth, feelings of positivity,
(53:46):
things that inspire you as you do them. Ask yourself
to start every morning, Am I going to use this day? Well?
Am I going to have a good day? Reclaim your time,
your energy, your presence. Every day look forward at the day.
(54:09):
Don't look at it's like there's three things I need
to do. But no, no, no, no, no, How are you going
to change today? Who are you going to inspire today?
You didn't come this far to get this far. You're
not done, You're just getting started. The world is waiting
not for your perfection, but.
Speaker 4 (54:31):
For your participation.
Speaker 3 (54:35):
Don't waste your time hoping life happens to you. Go
out and happen to life. That's a T shirt. There's
so much more ahead. I am fifty five and I
never thought at the beginning of fifty four that I
would own a farm in Kentucky. But I'm here, and
(54:56):
do you know what. I've been here since September? Do
you know that every single morning when I let my
dogs out and I look out across the fields, I
still say to myself, I'm in Kentucky. You're like, really still? Yes, Well,
I've lived in Connecticut for fifty four years.
Speaker 4 (55:13):
I mean, it's.
Speaker 3 (55:16):
Still amazing to me. And I am I'm envious of myself,
of my life, of the possibilities. I'm jealous of what
I'm going to do.
Speaker 4 (55:26):
Yet isn't that weird?
Speaker 3 (55:30):
I guess. I guess the problem was I knew what
I wanted, but it was it still wasn't painted well
on a canvas. It was blurry. Like Melissa and I
would talk about what we want. We know we want
to move out of Bridgeport, we know why, we know
where that we want to go. We're just not sure where.
(55:53):
Like I said, the canvas wasn't clear yet. The trim,
you know what this is. This is like a puzzle.
There you go, you know, when you make a puzzle,
you get the pieces and the trim is done. You
start working on the corners because you know, a flat side,
I know. And some of the corners are done. There
(56:13):
may be a few center pieces, a couple of pieces
here and there together, but.
Speaker 4 (56:17):
You still don't have a final picture.
Speaker 3 (56:20):
So this is life, but this one your life didn't
come with a box. There's no picture done that you
can go by. Sorry, you have to figure it out.
In fact, the pieces are being generated as you manifest them.
(56:44):
Oh yes, Oh, it's just.
Speaker 4 (56:49):
You don't see all of it.
Speaker 3 (56:50):
No, no, no, no, no. Every day, five puzzles pieces appear,
seven puzzle pieces appear, maybe one tomorrow, maybe three.
Speaker 4 (57:01):
The next day.
Speaker 3 (57:04):
You are manifesting these pictures, these pieces of a puzzles
as you go along. So what is your final picture
going to be? You just have a thought today of
what you want to accomplish. And there's an odd shaped piece.
(57:24):
Where does it go? Hmm? Does it go in the corner?
Does it go in the center. Is it part of
the sky? Is it part of that white thing. Whatever
that is? Is that a tree?
Speaker 2 (57:34):
Hm?
Speaker 3 (57:36):
Where or where does this piece go? Don't ask me,
don't ask anyone, because no one really.
Speaker 4 (57:43):
Knows what your final picture will look like.
Speaker 3 (57:46):
Many will assume based on what I think would be
best for meat. Wait wait, I meant for you.
Speaker 4 (57:56):
You know what you want? That's part of life.
Speaker 3 (58:00):
I love when I go deep with someone and after
a struggle or a tug of war, of pulling and
prodding over and over, the truth finally comes out.
Speaker 4 (58:08):
I want this.
Speaker 3 (58:12):
Or I am or I am not? What's my family
and friends want or wish me to be? Do the work.
Sorry to sound like a broken record, but meditation is
such a reset button for so many. Did you know that?
(58:36):
In twenty twenty two, I look this up. This is
real and estimated sixty point five three million American adults
practice meditation. That's representing eighteen point three percent of the
adult population. That's badass. That's people that know it. They
(58:57):
figured it out. This makes me happy because as my
close minded, closed minded father thought to meditate or even
Chinese stirfry was only for Asian people, which is hilarious. Yes,
he was. He was racist in a way his own way.
Not in a bad way, just like you know. But
(59:18):
he was closed minded, and when I started following the
Buddhist path that I you know, I have my Buddhist
altar here and everything, he was just say, you know,
you're not Chinese, and I'm like, you have no clue, dude.
I have to be content with my choices and how
(59:40):
I choose to live my life, doing the things I
choose to do. Even if I look silly on the
dance floor, I am the one dancing to life's rhythms
and not watching everyone's else's dance moves. Still think you
can't meditate for those that still have this limiting belief
(01:00:03):
that I have, that I have had the honor to
teach many people that this silly belief is not silly
and that it helps you focus on connecting with yourself.
You see, you have mind, you have body, and your spirit,
and you must find balance in these three. That's why
I think it's interesting that people that focus so much
(01:00:25):
on work but won't go to the gym because they
don't have time, or they don't have time to eat
a healthy meal. Because I don't have the time because
I have to do this and I have to do
That funny thing is I know many people that have
worked two jobs, three jobs, have children, have pets, have
a house to claim, have bills to pay, and they manage.
(01:00:47):
Does this mean that they're better than you? Absolutely not.
Speaker 4 (01:00:50):
It means they just figured it out.
Speaker 3 (01:00:52):
They learn to breathe between thoughts, breathe between.
Speaker 4 (01:00:57):
Your thoughts and just jumple them all together.
Speaker 3 (01:01:03):
I can't mention balance without sharing one of my favorite
verses of the Bible, Ecclesiastes three. To everything, there is
a season. It's all about finding balance. To everything, there
is a season and a time to every purpose under Heaven.
A time to be born and a time to die.
(01:01:25):
A time to plant and a time to pluck up
what you planted, a time to kill you know what
I mean, and a time to heal. A time to
break down and a time to build up, a time
to weep and a time to laugh. There is a
time to mourn, and there's a time to dance. There's
(01:01:48):
a time to cast away stones and a time to
gather stones together. A time to embrace and a time
to refrain from embracing. There's a time to get in,
a time to lose, a time to keep, and a
time to cast away, a time to rend and a
time to sew, a time to keep silence and a
(01:02:11):
time to speak, a time to love and a time
to hate. There's a time of war and there's a
time of peace. So as I began this podcast, I
did not come this far to just come this far.
I hope I made you think. I hope I made
(01:02:32):
you question your existence and the many possibilities that you
have the minute this podcast is over, and that you
appreciate every tomorrow, every today, and be very very very
very very very very very grateful for all of the
experiences of the past that have made you who you are.
(01:02:54):
Right now, keep this in mind. Choose action over excuse,
purpose over comfort, and the work that matters over the
distractions that don't. My name is Jimmy Gonzalez, and this
was to reset yourself twenty two podcasts, Go forward and
(01:03:16):
live your life. To the full list.
Speaker 4 (01:03:20):
Thank you so much for listening, and I mean that,
Thank you so much for liking.
Speaker 3 (01:03:25):
Thank you so much for sharing like this podcast is
on so many different platforms and I am very honored.
It means a lot to me, many many blessings to
each and every one of you. Be well, and Prospero.
Speaker 1 (01:04:08):
Today's show was brought to you by No Emagnosis and
Healing and the mind Sig Meditation and dedicated to follows
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Speaker 6 (01:04:18):
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