June 19, 2025 • 63 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Please note this show contains adult language and themes and
is intended for mature audiences only.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Listener discretion is advised. Jay Beloved, we all gathered here
today to get through this thing called life.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
You are listening to the Reset Yourself, What Need You
Podcast with your host Jimmy Dunhalin.
Speaker 3 (01:04):
Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello, Hi. Henry's been just going around
and around and around. So, as she said, welcome to
the what is this?
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Wow? I push this back a little, get back back,
go back back. This is episode one hundred and eighty
of the Reset Yourself twenty two podcast. Actually, I'm recording
this a day late because we're having a lot of
work done in the house and it's been very noisy here,
so it's actually very difficult for even for me to
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record the meditation in between hammering, and they're doing a
lot of stuff with the foundation. But thank you for
tuning in. In this weekly podcast, I focus on sparking
your inner confidence and igniting your belief in your self.
I am your host, and I'm all please very thrilled
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to share my thoughts and research with you as we
go along on this wonderful journey of life together. You,
me and Henry can nurture a mindset that empowers us
to reach our fullest potential. I write a record every
episode to challenge your thinking and to encourage you. Be
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us to reflect and inspire, move, come on, move actionable
steps towards personal growth. Whether you're facing a career transition,
seeking to overcome challenges, or simply striving for great or
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fulfillment in your life. Hopefully Hopefully, this podcast is your
go to resource from motivation and practical insights. My inspiration
to do this show is to teach people to focus
more on what they can accomplish, so that they can
do the things they need to do when they need
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to do them, so that ultimately you get the things
you want when you wish to have them. And this
episode hmmm is dedicated.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
To you.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Yeah you were last Stop raising your hand. You were
last week, So this one's to you. Tell me what
you want and I will show you how to get it.
The question is are you willing to get off your
ass and do the work. Let's get started with today's topic. Basically,
I want to talk about the rest of your life.
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What yes, the rest of your life starting today, not
focusing on the future as in like you know, one
hundred years from now. I'm talking about like the rest
of your life, like starting tomorrow, starting tomorrow. What the
page tonight, the page is folded over tomorrow, What are
your plan?
Speaker 4 (04:02):
Is it?
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Yeah, I just have to run some errands and that's
pretty much it. And that's it, which is fine. I
think that's awesome. But then the day after tomorrow, the
day after that, week after that, month after that, what
are you doing? Like, what are your plans? Because understand
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that you are not finished. Your life is not finished
until your last breath, obviously, so and you still are
becoming becoming What you ask, well, you tell me what
are you becoming? Are you becoming a success? Are you
becoming a part of a family, part of a relationship.
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Are you becoming part of a team at work or
in sports? Are you becoming successful? Are you becoming ill?
Are you becoming sad, miserable, successful, angry, filled with rage?
Are you surrendering to life, giving up on it all?
Or are you shooting to be successful? Or are you
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taking life by the horns starting right now? Lots of questions, obviously,
but do you know what only you have the answers,
not your spouse not your parents, not your best friend,
not those people on social media. But one thing that
I do know for a fact is that you are
not finished yet, and that you, as I said, you
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are still growing. You are still learning. Keep this concept
in mind, You're still evolving. I want to talk about growth, resilience,
self renewal, all of your choices, good and bad, and
the eternal potential to begin again and again. I don't
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know how old you are. I'm fifty five. I have
begun again and again. I have worn many different hats.
I have ended my chapters as I so choose, and
I'm like, all right, I've done, I've done X. I
could only go so far with it. Now I want
to try why. I do that for a year, I
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do that for six months. I do that for five years.
Then one day I wake up and I go, okay,
I'm good. Now I want to try Z. And that's
how my life has been. It's not that I get bored.
It's just that I work it till the top. I
accomplish usually every I could tear right now, every job
I've ever had, even my first job. I became a supervisor.
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I became a supervisor, a manager. I ran departments and
why because I get bored. But that's the honest true.
It's just that I can't sit there and just put
a nut on a screw, a not on a screw.
I'm just that type of person. There are people that
do that, and to me, I've mentioned this in the past,
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you people have superpowers to be able to do that
for twenty three, thirty two, thirty six, forty years. That
is something that I actually admire. I do things and
I get to the point that I'm like, Okay, what's next,
What's next? What's next? Because I'm evolving, I'm growing, and
I'm still becoming. I'm still becoming. Becoming to me, is
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like going on a journey. And as you go on
this journey, it's like almost like driving on a road somewhere.
It's not like it's not a loop. It's not like
you just see the same tree going by in but no,
it's like new neighborhoods, new trees, new fences, new dog,
barking cat crossing the street. Ooh, new house, new Like
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just for those of you that know, I hate going
the same way to some place at the same time,
the same way over and over and over. I can't.
I always have to find a new way. That's why
I think it's word. When people say I'm lost, it's like,
that's impossible. You can't be lost. You just keep going
and you end up getting somewhere and basically, guess what,
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You've learned something because when you got lost, you figured
out that there's a corner story you didn't know about,
or a little pizza place over there you didn't know about,
or an ice cream shop that was literally right around
the corner that you never knew about because you chose
to take the same way over and over. I can't.
I love my life. I love the experience of life.
I love the experience of seeing, learning, getting to know people,
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going into new ice cream shops, different We went to
a coffee shop this past week in Louisville and which
is Brew. It was amazing. It was amazing because we
walked in very small. Look it up which is Brew
Louisville if you find it. If it's funny because if
you go to the band's website, there's a picture from
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the inside looking at the door with the ladies. She
started her act. She was a singer, but she started
her act with Feathers and so here we come around
the street and we're about to go in, and I
noticed that the entire group of people are looking at
the door. She's standing in the doorway looking in, and
I'm like standing right there. So there's a picture that
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I'm actually standing like, and I just and one of them,
Melissa to but she's just a leg You actually see
me like looking like what is she doing? Because we
didn't know that somebody would be performing a band at
this quite it's a tiny coffee shop, but it's adorable.
But life is not a closed story. Like I said,
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it doesn't end until it ends. It is not a
completed painting or a sealed book. Even when you feel
like everything is behind you or you have lost too
much time, the truth remains there is still so much
ahead of you. I think it's funny when people are
in certain relationships, certain jobs and they actually think this
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is it, this is how it is, and it's like
six weeks, six months from now, you're in a new relationship,
a different house, a different state, and you look back
and it's like, you know, who is this new person
I'm with? You know, or like you know, you lose
a pet, which is a horrible thing. It's a horrible thing,
but all of a sudden you find yourself a year
from now with a different pet, reliving a new life,
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a new actions, new steps. Like I don't believe, you
don't replace things, You just move on. You evolve, your
relationships evolve. Every moment is a new beginning. Each day
is an invitation to start new. The long road ahead
of you is it something to fear, it's something to
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walk with wonder and my favorite word, curiosity. You're not behind,
You're becoming. You're not lost, You're learning how to return.
You may have veered off track. You may have fallen.
We all fall I have. I've fallen like on my face,
and I've gone right back up again. You may have
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even forgotten who you are. At times it happens. It
happens you find yourself going off this journey that you
actually thought that by the end of this year you
would be doing this, and you look back and you're like,
oh my god, I am like over here. What is
wrong with that? Absolutely nothing. The question you have to
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keep asking yourself is as you go through it, is
this where you want to be? Is this where you
want to be? Is this where you notice that's the
key word. This is where you want to be, not
the new person that you're dating that you're so into
them and their thing is I want to I just
want to live in the Antarctica, and you're like, okay,
we're going to move there. But I hate the cold.
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But I love that person. I think that's a wonderful thing.
The problem is there comes a point relationships that things
go back to the way they were and all of
a sudden, the true you comes out and now that
person's like, you're changed, and it's just like you didn't.
It's just that you created a facade to fit in
to make sure that this relationship works, and now you're
looking going, I'm not happy, it's normal. None of that
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means that you are done with your life, because as
long as you are breathing, as I said, you are
still building the life. You are still building the life
that you were meant to live. I mean, even Charlie
Brown in the Peanut cartoons, if you don't know who
he is, you're not that young. But supposedly the football
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would be held for him and he would come and
he would kick the ball and he would fall because
the ball would be pulled away. If you ever notice
he keeps doing it, make fun of him now, but
still he keeps doing it, and he keeps doing it.
Then they break for commercial, and then they never show
that he got back up again. He just stays at
his back and he goes, you know, oh dear, woe
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is me whatever. But maybe at that point, maybe you
never know. Maybe when the commercial comes, it is actually
when he stands up and he beats the hell out
of her, but he still continues forward because he's willing
to do it again. He wasn't done. I think it's
funny when people surrender on projects or ideas, or marriage
or friendships, as they just feel like all of a sudden,
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it's over. I'll never love again, I'll never do this again,
I'll never do that again. And I'm speaking from experience.
I believe from my experience in my life and my
choice in words, is that whenever I say I will
never do something again, it is always somehow thrown back
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in my face that I have to eat my words
and try again and again and again, and sometimes I
will forget about it. And then a year later, five
years later, fifteen years later, twenty years later, that thing
that I said I will never do again is reintroduced
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in my life, and I have to try it again.
So the illusion of being done to me is quite
silly and funny. You're never done until you are six
feet below. Many of us were raised with a silent
pressure that by a certain age we should have it
all figured out, that by twenty five, thirty five, forty five,
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we should have arrived somewhere. We measure our lives by
external timelines and compare our pace with others. Stop comparing
your life to others. Stop looking on social media to
see what other people your age are doing. Please, that's
just stupid. The time you're wasting studying other people, study yourself.
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Look in the mirror. Look in the mirror. That's your competition.
Your competition is your mirror. Your villain in life is
your mirror. That person right in front of you, that's
the person that you're up against. That's the person that's
challenging you. That's the person that is telling you you
don't have the confidence, you're not worthy, you don't deserve it.
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That's the person. But life is not linear. Growth doesn't
follow schedules. People have this thing with scheduling. There, life
doesn't follow schedules. Becoming who you are meant to be
is not a race with a finish line. It's a
process of unfolding and learning, of deepening your thinking, of
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learning and unlearning, and learning and unlearning and deepening your thinking,
and learning and unlearning and deepening your thinking. You are
not done when you make a mistake. You are not
done when you get rejected. You are not done when
you fall apart. You're not even done when you feel
completely lost. You are still becoming. And maybe maybe that's
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the point, my friends. You are all each and every
one of you is a work in progress, and that
is so beautiful. And I mean that, I mean it's
all perception. How you choose to see your life, your day,
your month, last year, how you did last week, how
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you acted in your last relationship romantic relationship. Are you
willing to just surrender every time you are not pleased
with your choice and just jump off a cliff because
it is just perspective? Or do you see the choice
you made as a poor choice and they immediately get
up and stand up and try to figure out how
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to make better choices, hopefully quickly, and not just make
a mistake and spend the rest of your life complaining
because you know, back in eighty five you did something.
You cheated on somebody, what a piece of shit, and
now you just deem yourself a piece of shit. It's
just like, now you're human and you did that. So
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here's a secret. Ready, don't do it again. I know,
I know you're like, WHOA, yeah, I'm sureos. Just don't
do it again. You did a dick move. Just don't
do it again. You treated somebody like a jerk. Don't
do it again. It's actually not that involved. I've made
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many mistakes because to me, they are constant challenges that
maybe just maybe I wasn't thinking it through completely. Maybe
I jumped the gun. Maybe I should have taken a
time to breathe. It's funny, listen, I were just talking
about this that five years ago, ten years ago, five
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ten years ago, I was a bull, and I would listen.
I wouldn't listen to most people. I'm in arees, so
I would just headfirst first. I had an idea, head first,
head first. The only good thing is I never blamed
other people. So if I went head first as my
decision and I screwed things up, I was the first
to put my hand up and go. I chose to
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go head first. I chose to not plan ahead, and
I made some stupid mistakes. I don't have an issue
with that. I don't have a pride issue letting people
know that I did something wrong. I don't care like
I did something. I'll let people and hey, I did
something wrong. You know, I'm gonna tell you that I
did something wrong so that hopefully you'll learn from my stupidity.
And you want to do something wrong too, I do
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it because I care, but I think with age, as
you get older, hopefully you find yourself luckily. Now this
is interesting. As your body slows down, to me, your
mind slows down, but not in a bad way. I mean,
like you start to think things through, you start to
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process things differently, but which also causes your mind to
not be able to race from zero to sixty in
a second. You're still there. The problem is still there,
the situation is still there. Does it really matter if
it's done tonight or tomorrow? Surprisingly, most things don't. You
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may say yeah, yeah, no, I got it. This has
to get done right now. Chances are it doesn't. Most
things don't. It's not the end of the world. Just
because you choose to. Now you're causing negative ripples for
everybody else because I want this done this way, and
even though I know it's probably wrong, I don't care.
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I guess I'm like Charlie Brown too, because I have
fallen on my ass many many times, and in fact,
if I told you stories, there's way too many for
this podcast. But I have never ever, ever felt defeated.
I've never felt like I was surrendering or giving up
or walking away from anything. I don't have that issue,
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Thank god. I have this odd thing that I immediately
think to myself, Okay, what did I do wrong? Even
if it happened because of someone else's choices, because I
was listening to somebody else's advice, I will not turn
and say I screwed up because so and so told me. Sorry,
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that's that's a crack of shit and just an excuse,
because you know, when so and so told you, you
should have the mindset to be able to really think
it through. Is it a good idea? Is it is
it in my best interest? Will I benefit from it?
And then, of course this is where my mindset comes in.
What is the worst case scenario? Think about it? What
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is the worst thing that could happen to so many
people when they when they want great things to happen,
they think of the wonderful things. I actually, I do
fifty to fifty. I do fifty to fifty. I will
think of all the wonderful possibilities. But then I'm like, okay,
so what's the worst thing that could happen? And then
I think about it. It will that be such a
bad thing? And ninety nine percent of the time is
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really not. So I'm like, all right, well, I'll try it.
If it works good. If it doesn't, that's fine because
I've already prepared myself for the worst case scenario. And
then I think to myself, how did I do it wrong?
What did I do wrong? Why did I do it wrong?
Why did I think like that? What if the most
beautiful thing about you is not your perfection, but it's
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the process of life. It's the journey that you're going through.
What if being a work in progress means that you
are just simply life. It's part of life. Progress is living,
it's evolving, it's engaging in life, being a part of everything,
not just sitting back in the corner watching as the
world goes by. Every great piece of our art, architecture
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or invention was once just a mess of drafts, failures,
restarts and risks, drafts, failures, restarts and risks everything. You're
no different all this artwork that you hear like, oh
it's sold on you know, this auction house hold it
for you know, forty three billion dollars. At one point
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there was a blank at canvas. It's not like it
just magically appeared. Just like you, there are times that
you are a blank canvas. There is beauty in your
becoming and trying again and showing up after the disappointment,
showing up after the disappointment, and growing beyond past self
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and choosing today even when yesterday was difficult. It's a
big person. There's a big person that screws up and
has no issues showing back up again next day, going hey,
and they're like, oh my god, aren't you embarrassed? Don't
know why why I'm embarrassed Because I made a mistake.
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I made some poor choices. That's stupid. Why who are
you that you're so perfect to be throwing you know
how they say stones at glass houses, It's like, I
wouldn't think so here's a question. If somebody was to
describe you in a few sentences, how would they describe you?
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How close would their description be to the description that
you think they would say? That's a tough one because
automatically you're thinking of, oh, well they would say this,
this and that. Yeah, but that's what you think? What
what is your thought process? What would you think? Think
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about that? I mean, that's very easily solved. Find somebody
that's neutral, not a kiss ass, that will tell you
like it is. Those are the best people to be around.
And it's funny cause a lot of people find those
people difficult because they're like, you know, they're mean, they're tough.
That's what you want in your life. That's what you
want in your life, not somebody that's just gonna like
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applaud everything you do and put you on a pedestal
and think you're wonderful, cause there are chances that you're not.
And to me, I'd rather have somebody say, Jimmy, you
know that thing you did last week was actually kind
of stupid, and I'd be like why See. I don't
get offended why they have an opinion, but I want
to know why they saw that, because a lot of
times people are on the outside looking and see more.
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Understand that how you see your life may not be
as perfect as you think it is. It might not
be the facade that you're putting out to the world
on Facebook or on Instagram. Because to me, when people
get to know you, a lot of times they want
to get to know the real you, not this fake
facade of who you are, like on a dating site.
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I like kayaking and cross country skiing and weightlifting and
blah blah blah. Well was the last time you did
any of this? Yeah, but chicks will dig it. Then
you're attracting the wrong kind of people. I want people
to be attracted to me, the real me, the imperfect me,
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and I want to be I want to meet somebody
who is also imperfect, somebody who is going through life, living, learning,
laughing at themselves as so do. I surround yourself with
people that will be true to you and not complainers.
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Not complainers. Keep those people away. But that's understand That's
usually why people like you, the real friends, the real relationships.
They're attracted to your honest just the way you are,
not this mask that people create. And it's sad because
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you on the other hand, field the need to make
believe that you're some sort of superhero and that you're
changing the world and you're letting people. Oh, if you
watch Dayline. I've been watching Daylight recently, and there's a
lot of men that like, will spend five, ten, fifteen
years to the point that they marry and have kids
with a family, and it turns out the entire thing
has been bullshit. And of course, fifteen years down, you know,
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the lady's like, what you know, he was a pedophile,
he was a rapist, he was an embezzler. No way,
and I'm like, wow, that is yours a super villain.
But you know, that's a talent to be able to
do that. And then the people are like, even some
families actually like I never knew my brother was like that.
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But that's that's you know, who you can be or
who you're really really not. I mean, what are you
choosing to be? Who are you choosing to be in
your life? What are you choosing to do to hang
out with the people? Your circle? Who is your circle
of friends? Think about it right now, who is your
circle of friends? Real friends? Who is your circle of friends?
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And even your life what are you choosing to do
for a living? Choosing to do for a living? Feel like, well,
I mean I have a job and I have to work. No,
you don't. You have a job, and that's a wonderful thing.
But you don't have to work that job. You choose
to work that job. You could work someplace else that
makes you happier for a dollar or less or sometimes
two dollars more. But you're willing to just sit and
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be comfortable with your life. Who are you choosing to
hang out with? What are you choosing to do for money,
for life, for career, to feed your family, to feed
your own face? What do you choose? What are you?
What are you choosing to do to feed your what
are you eating? What's your health like? Are you a
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good person? Are you committing out there committing crimes to
make money to feed your family? Think about it. Both
people are trying to feed their family. Some are doing
it by having a nine to five, others are doing
it by committing crimes. Or like I said, are you
driven and focused for a better future for yourself and
for them? Ask yourself these questions. A lot of people
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don't like to deal with this stuff. They don't like
to feel with the reality of like, well, who they are,
and understand that if you do find yourself in a
situation that you're like, yeah, I'm a total mess up
and I am screw it up, and you can change.
You can change. There's no reason why you can't change.
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Or you can sit there and just talk about the
many things you want to do, wish to do, need
to do, could and should do, and things you want
to accomplish in all of this stuff, and then six
days from now, six weeks from now, six years from now,
nothing in your life has changed. Nothing. Think about that.
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That's a good question based on who you are today
and who you were last year, same time this year,
same time this year, last year. Where were you a
year from a year ago? Because it's funny a lot
of people will try to, like present, where will they
be a year from now? That's fine, that's impossible to
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ever know. We can guess, we could assume, we could try.
But I'm still wondering, who were you last year today?
Where were you, what were you doing, where were you living,
who were you dating, what were you eating, what were
you watching on television? What were you hooked on? It
paints a good picture of where you stood. Think about
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that because you're challenging yourself knowing that you're not done yet.
You are still becoming you, You are still evolving, you
are still learning about yourself. Every day. You should be
learning something new about yourself every morning, every every every
every evening. You should be learning something new about the
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day that you just had. Every evening right before you
go to bed. I'm not talking about you have to
sit up and take notes. It's just you. You think
about it, You're like, what was my day? Like what
did I do? What did I accomplish today? Did I
do the things? And it's not about like picking on yourself,
it's just breaking it down. This morning, I plan on
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doing A B and C and I don't know how
I got to lement op okay, but did you accomplish it?
Because trust me here, oh every day I start with
I'm gonna do this, just this and that. And it's funny.
Melissa laughs a lot because by the end of the
day she's like, so what you do? And I will
bring up five things, sometimes those original things and then
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five things which I never planned. Today was that day? Actually,
yesterday was that day too. I had all these plans
to do all this stuff, and the night before too,
and I just think it's kept getting in the way.
It was kind of funny, but that's just the thing.
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We focus on the petty things. And my question to
you is what are your hopes and dreams and what
it's just taking your life a little bit more seriously
and questioning like what you would do and what you
think you'd do, and because you never know. Here's a
quick story. So in Connecticut, for my Connecticut people, it
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is close to impossible to get a gun. And I
understand there have been many crimes and a lot of
people feel strongly against guns. I'm one of those, but
I've always known that it's good to have one, and
I just never thought it doesn't help that they make
it impossible for you to get one. And then the
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laws in Connecticut are very weird that God forbids somebody
breaks into my house and they get a paper cut
while they're robbing my house, they consume me, and it
has happened. There was a story of a gentleman who's
breaking into the house, fell through the skylight and hurt
himself on the way down. He sued the homeowner in
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one which is funny, but it happens. So I get
down here to Kentucky, and you would think it's a
free for all because here getting a gun is very easy.
And actually no, because when I've told this to Connecticut people,
they're like, oh my god, that's horrible. Actually no, it's not.
There is such a level of respect amongst neighbors, amongst
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business owners. And here's the thing. So many people carry
a gun. And I know there are people right now
that are cringeing, Oh my god, that's horrible. Oh my god.
Yeah I did too. I did too. But when you
walk into like a a supermarket and you see grandmothers,
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grandmothers walking with an exposed site arm on their side,
a revolver, which is actually kind of funny or just
average person because here you can carry out or in concealed.
And here, yes, no, you can't just buy any gun.
You have to go someplace buy it, and they do
run a check through the state state troopers and it's
a very involved form. But here it's about protect Here
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most people have them for farms and animals to you know,
protect their animals. But it's I'm amazed at like, because
I'm not gonna lie when I first thought, I was like,
oh my god, this is crazy. This isn't good. There
must be people shooting like there's no there's just a
level of respect that everybody knows that everybody else do
you assume they're carrying. And it's almost like there's more
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of a sense of unity and protection amongst each other,
which was which for me. It took a while. I'm
not gonna lie to you, it took a while. So
now I carry a gun and a little gun. Nothing crazy,
but it's fascinating to me. Just a different mindset because
I was willing to evolve. I was willing to challenge myself.
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I was willing to learn how other people think and
why they think, and that just goes that's wrong. Based
on my knowledge of Connecticut history, I'm basing on my
knowledge and experience of Kentucky and Kentucky laws and and
what they do and how they protect themselves. And it works.
It works. It's amazing, but it works, and I'm extremely
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responsible with it. I've watched every video. I've gone to
a shooting range and actual real one where you have
to fill out lots of forms and you have to
watch a video and then they talk to you and
they and make sure you're not like insane with a gun.
But I read everything I was supposed to and I've
learned quite a bit, and I go to target practice,
which again, while I was in the middle of target practice,
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I was like, wow, who am I? Who am I?
Speaker 1 (35:16):
You know?
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Who would I have seen myself doing this last year?
App absolutely not. But I've come to learn that, you know,
guns don't kill people. People kill people. And it's like, oh,
but without a gun, then Nick use a Chinese star,
they use a Ninja Nain the sword, they could use anything.
There's other ways to solve that problem. But that's that's
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for not even my show. That's just something else. But
I went into this new thing, this new venture, this
new frame of mind, with an open mind, and I
was willing to learn and ask a lot of questions
and do the things the right way and to be responsible.
So I thought outside the box and I tried something
that I never thought I would. And I was very
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appreciative of these no lessons, this new so called hobby,
because now I know that the long road ahead of
me is a wonderful gift. It really is. Now I
can protect my family and especially my animals. But it
is not something that I fear anymore. I respect it.
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You know, every time I wear my gun, trust me,
I'm not like hey, everybody, you know it's it's still
very like i've been. I've been wearing it now for
a month and it's still weird. But it's a level
of respect, which is funny because the person I bought
it from, they were like, when you when you lose
the like when it's nothing to you, that's not good.
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You should always know that it is a tool. It
is a weapon to protect yourself and hopefully it to
protect others and not just as I use the wrong
word for that, just a hobby. I'm just gonna go
shoot just to shoot. But it's prerogative and you do
what you want. But it's very intriguing to me. It's
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a very different way of looking at things from here
to Connecticut, from my life to your life right now.
And I'm talking about that from the way I'm talking
now to how you're listening at home. We have a
lot of different history, a lot of different ways of thinking.
So hopefully there are things that I say that will
inspire you and just make you realize that as I've
always said simply, you're a badass. You're worth it. You
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can do the work you deserve it if you're willing
to put the time into it. The asday I love
to say, the sweat equity. It's easy to look at
the long road ahead of you sometimes and feel overwhelmed,
and you tend to think how far you still have
to go, and sometimes you may just freeze, you may
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just stop. But the long road ahead of you is
not a punishment, as I said, it is an invitation
to possibility. There is still time to all in love,
to forgive yourself, to start the thing you've been avoiding,
to write that book, that journal, to move to the
place that you dreamt about, to heal, to focus on healing,
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and to continue to become become what. Don't see the
long road ahead as a burden, see it as a freedom.
This journey means that there is still more to explore
ahead of you about the world and about yourself. There
is still time to be surprised by life, to learn
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who you are in a new chapter. Because you're not
too late. The road is still waiting for you. You
are not lost, You are rerouting. We all veer off
course of times We all make decisions that we regret.
We let fear, comfort or circumstance lead us down paths
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that sometimes we don't feel right and our gut is screaming,
don't do it, and you still do. But veering off
course doesn't mean you're lost forever. Sometimes you're just testing
out the waters over there, which is fine. It simply
means you are rerouting. Sometimes. Basically, when you have a
like your Google map or whatever you use in your car,
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sometimes you pass the street and what does she do?
Not a problem? You don't have to completely change, Just
go to the next block and come around, just like
a GPS recalculates when you miss a turn. Your life
is always willing to reorient itself if you are willing
to learn and to listen and move again. Even if
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you've been stuck for years, months, days, or numbed, or
you have numbed yourself to the truth or let self
doubt silence your inner voice, understand, the path is still
open and it's always your choice to get back on
because you are not stuck, you are not broken, you
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are not behind. You're just becoming aware again, and awareness
is the first step towards change. The courage to start again.
Starting again can feel terrifying. There is the voice in
your head that says, what's the point I tried before?
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But beginning again is not failure, it's strength. Every time
you choose to start over, you are declaring that your
past does not own you, that your future is still
in your hands. To start again is to trust again
that this time can be different, that you've learned something,
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that the process is worth it, that you are worth
the effort. Even the smallest steps forward is the progress.
Even the smallest yes to your inner calling is such
a momentum momentum movement you do. Don't need to leap,
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it helps, but you need to begin. Every feel would
push off your path. Well, that's fine, because you're not powerless.
You are really not powerless. Sadly, we tend to give
too much of our power, our control to others, and
sometimes these people suck. And when they're good people, that's
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a good thing. When they're loving people, loving friends, trusting people,
it's fine. But sadly, at times we give our power,
ourselves to people that aren't that great, and they end
up taking advantage of us. They end up hurting us,
they end up bursting our bubbles, making us feel that
we are not competent, that we are not worthy, that
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we should not dream, that we should not move forward
and do the things that we want to do, because
it's silly, it's stupid, it's a waste of time. In fact,
we should just surrender, right, give up, usually like they have.
That's why I've always tell people, if you're going to
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do something, follow in the footsteps of the people that
have actually walked the path that you want to walk.
Don't follow in the past of people that have failed
and just give it up. And then those people are
telling you, don't bother doing this. I did it and
it sucks, and it's like thanks, but no thanks. I'm
gonna I'm gonna surround myself by the people that are
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where I wish to be, have the positive mindset that
I want to have. Don't surrender live. I've seen people
do this on the most ridiculous amount of occasions, where
people be to mimic the stronger friend and do what
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they say and act as they act, and they believe
in what they believe, and usually this person doesn't give
a shit, and they become their followers, their sheep, and
it's a shame because I've sat with many of these
people during let's say a meditation session and have opened
their minds and realized that they have been off their
path for quite some time and it's fine. And sometimes
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through hypnosis sessions, I try to have them pinpoint back
when in their life, when in your life that you
felt that you were on the right road, and then
all of a sudden, here we are now and you're
looking back, going when did I veer off the road?
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When did I make that turn out the fork that
I really shouldn't have, to the point that I don't
recognize who I am, what I'm doing. I don't like
where I work, I don't like who I'm married to
or who I'm dating. I hate my house. Usually it's
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because you met somebody new, somebody who has more control
of the relationship, somebody who pretty much made you believe
that what you wanted was what they wanted. Now fast forward,
you know, two, three, four, or five years, and you
don't recognize yourself. You find yourself living someplace where, like
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I said, you just you're looking around and going, what
life am I living? Is this what I want? You
find yourself in a career that almost you don't remember
why you started. If you happen here a drill, I'm
having some work done still in the house. So it
comes and goes, But think about it. You find yourself
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in a job and say, well, I took the job
for you know, I'm just gonna take the job. It's
going to pay the bills, and I'm going to focus
on something else. I'm going to focus on saving, to
focus on getting a career or going back to school.
But for now this is great, which I agree with you.
But then you get lazy, and now you look back
and go, wow, who the hell did I become? Does
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any of this resonate with you? Are you in any
of these relationships that you're just not happy that you
just just don't know what happened and where you left off,
where you fell off the path. Sometimes we were pushed
off course by life circumstances and we didn't choose it happens.
But then sometimes things happen to you that you just
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have no control of and that change that change your
life horribly, like illness, lost job changes, financial struggles, betrayals,
global chaos, and before you know it, you're sitting at
home contemplating if you should take a vaccine, or now
because you want to go shopping, you don't you want
to wear a mask, or you don't want to wear
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a mask, or you don't want to get vaccinated, and
you're like, when did this happen? And as quickly as
it came, it's gone. It can make you feel helpless,
But even when life pushes you again, you are not powerless.
You can't always control what happens to you, but you
can control what happens in you and how you see everything.
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You can choose your response. You can choose how you rise,
You can choose how you rebuild. The road may have cracked,
it happens, the road may have cracked, the winds may
have blown you sideways. But you still have the power
to stand back up and say, I am still here
and I am still becoming. There's always another chance. People
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give up on themselves too soon, They stop believing, They
assume the windows and doors have closed. But the truth
is the next chapter can begin whenever you so choose,
and I mean think about it. The next chapter can
begin when you choose to start writing your next chapter.
The only door that closed is the one that you
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stopped walking towards. You are not disqualified by your past.
You are not finished by your because of your age.
I hate that want. I'm old. There's a lot of
people out there much older than you're doing a lot
more than you. You are not too late for your dream.
There's always another chance, another chance to be kind to yourself,
to forgive yourself, to express your creativity all over again,
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to speak your truth, to take a leap of faith.
You are not at the end of your story. You
are not at the end of your story. This is
a funny story. What this means is basically that at
some point in your life, everything is going to line
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up just the way you want. Right the myth of
a rival I have arrived. There's stuff that I want.
I want to be this type of person. I want
to have this much money, I want to have this
type of relationship. I see all this in my mind,
and it's right here. It's right here. Let me okay,
it's right here. It's right here. See the distance that
I'm creating between here and there. It's almost like the
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horse that has the stick with the carrot hanging. You're
always just following this. It's right there. Oh, everything that
I want, Everything I want If I win the lottery,
I'll have everything I want. If I have X, Y,
and Z, I will have everything I want. You could
just so choose today to have everything you want by
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just putting your mind to it, creating plans, actually not
saying I wish, I want I What are we doing?
What are the steps? Write that ship out right now
now I have it here, Write it out. What do
you want to do? What are the steps? What do
you need to do to get there? Or you will
forever walk with that carrot dangling over there. Everything is
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going to line up just the way you want.
Speaker 1 (49:05):
I am.
Speaker 2 (49:06):
I am, I've done it many times. All your dreams, aspects, aspirations,
everything will happen on on on a day in the
future next Tuesday, next June, by Christmas next year. Next
year will be the year that you finally get up
and do the things that you've said you've wanted to
do since nineteen eighty four and eighty five and eighty six,
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and nineteen ninety two and nineteen ninety nine and two,
thy ten, twenty twelve, twenty fifteen. I tried it again.
I didn't really focus that much, so twenty twenty one,
by twenty twenty five. By two thousand and thirty, I
will be a multimillionaire. So what are you doing to
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get closer to that? Right now? What steps are you
taking today to make it happen? Because so far you
haven't done shit. I know many of you are like, yo, sorry,
have Well, you shouldn't be focusing on your failures, to
be learning from them and then immediately start focusing on
what is your next step? What's your next move? What
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is your next move? I think by now you you
know if if your choice was a successful one or
a bad one, And then by now if it was
a bad one, you could have started all over again
ten times over. But you've been harping on the mistake
and the mistake and the mistake and the mistake and
the mistake and the mistake, and then letting everybody know
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that you've made the mistake, or even worse, telling no one.
I can't tell anybody that I've made mistakes because it's
it's it's it's how I learned. Because chances are somebody
to be like, oh, what you're doing wrong? Is this
this net? Why don't you try that? And then you're
trying to oh my god, oh my God, I didn't know.
I have no problem asking for help. Why not if
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I don't know how to do something? Please, I will
find anybody. But could you guide me? Can you? Can
you show me how it's done? Instead of forcing myself
to veer off my path, my passion and then going
I'm not gonna do this because of pride. I'll be
happy when I get this job, when I lose that weight,
when I find this relationship, or when I have more money. Nope, nope, bullshit.
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But the idea that we will one day arrive and
never struggle again, it's a beautiful thing. But no, Now,
life is not about arrival. Life is about engagement, participation, curiosity, openness.
Even when you reach a goal, a new desire appears.
Even when you overcome something, another challenge will arise because
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you are not here to arrive. You are here to
just grow, to stretch, to become and that means you
will always be on the way. And that's not a flaw.
That's life. You've already survived so much, right. I just
think it's funny that throughout our life we are approached
with challenges, with hurdles, with problems that we feel like
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we are never going to survive that moment that today.
Do you remember grammar school situations, I'll never pass that
tes oh my god, problems in high school. I have pimples.
You just never thought you were gonna make it to
the next day, to Monday. And so many of these
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challenges came and went, and if they went, maybe they didn't,
maybe they weren't solved exactly how you wish they were.
But you're still here today. So it worked itself out
as it should have, as it could have, and now
you are here with me listening today. So basically, in
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the book of your life, those chapters that are behind you,
those chapters that you have learned from, hopefully, like the heartbreak,
the laws to self doubt, the silent nights all alone,
the hard choices, the easy choices, the days that you
didn't think you'd make it, that you wouldn't survive. There's
no way I'm gonna survive this, but you did. You're here,
You're right there. So obviously you are, I guess stronger
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than you think. So think about it. As of right now,
your track record are surviving? Is you ready? One? You're
still here? One that alone is proof that you, my friend,
that I mean you and you, and you and you
and even you can keep going, can keep trying and
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not just surviving, but thriving, becoming, becoming because you are
not broken. You are becoming more whole every day. What
is waiting for you out there tomorrow? There are so
many experiences that have not yet entered your life. People
who will love and understand you, Opportunities that will align
with your purpose, Moments of peace that you never imagined,
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Paths that will finally feel like home, Insights that will
heal you deeply. These things don't appear because you wait
and hope. They appear when you step toward them. They
show up when you start becoming again, because the world
has more to offer you. But you must open your hands.
You must be open to it. You must choose to begin.
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Becoming requires letting go. To become who you are meant
to be, you must be willing to release the old stories,
the limiting believes, the grudges, the fear of failure, the
illusion of control, the version of yourself that you have
clung to out of fear. Where has that gone you
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so far? Letting go is not losing It is creating space.
The more you release what no longer fits, the more
room you create for what's coming. I like that the
more you release what no longer fits is the more
room you create for what's coming, for who you are
still becoming. This moment is your starting line. Right now,
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reset your self. You don't have to wait for a
new year, or perfect plan or permission. The most powerful
moment in your life is right now. Because now is
when you decide. Not tomorrow, not after you fix everything,
not when you feel ready, not after you've won the lottery,
but now now, because now is all you ever truly have,
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and now is more than enough to begin again. Say
yes to this moment, Say yes to your life. Make
a promise to yourself. Make a vow, quiet vow that
I will no longer abandon myself. I will keep going.
I will remember that I am still becoming, and I
will choose to believe that the best is not behind me,
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it's ahead of me. Repeat this when you feel tired,
when you doubt, when you want to quit, because this
vow can carry you when your strength waivers. This vow
reminds you that you are not done. You are becoming
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someone stronger, someone wiser and more aligned, more balanced, more focused,
you don't have to do it alone. Becoming doesn't mean
doing it alone. Let people help you, Let people remind
you how amazing you are. Surround yourself with those who
support your journey. Surround yourself with those who support your
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journey and encourage your growth. If there is somebody in
your life, cat for if there is somebody in your
life that you think of when you have an idea
and you find yourself almost not wanting to tell them
because you already know they're gonna bust your balls. They're
gonna poke holes through your dreams, which sometimes is okay
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depending on who it is and how they say it.
When people come to me with ideas that I want
to poke holes through, I don't. What I do is
I challenge them to prove to me why they really
want to do it, and I'm not gonna have you
not to do it. I'm just gonna try to make
you see the good, the bad, and the ugly of
your thing. I like my thing is. I love when
people go for jobs because it pays really good. Chances are,
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the reason it's paying really good is because it's a
tough job. It's not like, well, this job pays an
extra ten dollars. So I'm just gonna go. And it's
a great job because I get to sit on my ass.
It's like no jobs that pay more usually it's because
there's more responsibility. And it's just funny because I know
if so many people that have taken that path, and
a few days later I see them and like, what
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happened to that? What job? The job that make? Oh
my god? They expected me to be responsible? Wow, Ask
for guidance, accept love, receive support. You are still becoming,
and so is everyone else around you. We are all
walking each other to the end. What you choose next
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matter is most. Whatever came before is behind you. Whatever
matters most is what you choose next. Will you choose
growth or comfort? Will you choose action over avoidance? Will
you choose belief over doubt? You don't need to have
all the answers. You don't. You just need to make
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the right next choice, and then the one after that.
Step by step, you'll find your way again. Becoming is
the purpose. You are not behind, You are not broken,
You are not too late. You are still becoming. Here's
a quick tidbit. Pauses for a second. Think of five things.
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Five things that you didn't think you would ever accomplish
in your life, and that you did. Trust me. These
things don't have to be huge in life changing. It
could be small and simple five things. But the bottom
line is the goal is to see the things that
you pondered for quite a while, sat on for too long,
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and then woke up and said, I'm going to accomplish
this task. I'm going to do this. Size doesn't matter.
And you did it, and hopefully you were thankful for it,
and you pattered yourself in the back for it instead
of just saying, Okay, that was awesome, what's next. Don't
be that person always always patch yourself in the back.
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Be thankful, be grateful. It's not being selfish, it's being grateful.
I've accomplished this. I've accomplished that. So, as I said,
think of a couple of things, five things, you know what,
ten things, three things whatever that you may have forgotten
at this point that you had. You know, you feel
like you're up against the wall and you weren't going
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to accomplish and you did it. You did it. I like,
right now, there's like a bunch of things that I
think that I just see that I'm like, oh, I
remember like, yeah, this is not gonna work. That's not
gonna happen. Fast forward. I've did it, I'm doing it.
It's done, and I'm like, wow, that's pretty cool. You
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never thought you would get past it, and now magically
guess what you did, And for that I applaud you.
You see, the purpose of life is not to finish
early or achieve everything before a deadline. The purpose of
life is to just become more deeply, more consciously, more
lovingly who you truly are. There is still a long
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road ahead of you. There are still so many possibilities,
There are still so many reasons to begin again. So
walk step forward. Choose today because you are not finished,
because you are still becoming. I hope I made you think.
I hope I made you question your existence and to
appreciate every single tomorrow before it has arrived, every today
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as it is happening, and be grateful for all of
the experiences of the past that you have made and
become the person you are now. Keep this in mind.
Choose action over excuse, purpose over comfort, and the work
that matters over the many distractions that don't. Because there
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are a lot. Trust me, I know my name is
Jimmy Gonzalez and this was the Reset Yourself twenty two podcasts.
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Wow? I push this back a little, get back back,
go back back. This is episode one hundred and eighty
of the Reset Yourself twenty two podcast. Actually, I'm recording
this a day late because we're having a lot of
work done in the house and it's been very noisy here,
so it's actually very difficult for even for me to
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record the meditation in between hammering, and they're doing a
lot of stuff with the foundation. But thank you for
tuning in. In this weekly podcast, I focus on sparking
your inner confidence and igniting your belief in your self.
I am your host, and I'm all please very thrilled
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to share my thoughts and research with you as we
go along on this wonderful journey of life together. You,
me and Henry can nurture a mindset that empowers us
to reach our fullest potential. I write a record every
episode to challenge your thinking and to encourage you. Be
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us to reflect and inspire, move, come on, move actionable
steps towards personal growth. Whether you're facing a career transition,
seeking to overcome challenges, or simply striving for great or
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fulfillment in your life. Hopefully Hopefully, this podcast is your
go to resource from motivation and practical insights. My inspiration
to do this show is to teach people to focus
more on what they can accomplish, so that they can
do the things they need to do when they need
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to do them, so that ultimately you get the things
you want when you wish to have them. And this
episode hmmm is dedicated.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
To you.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Yeah you were last Stop raising your hand. You were
last week, So this one's to you. Tell me what
you want and I will show you how to get it.
The question is are you willing to get off your
ass and do the work. Let's get started with today's topic. Basically,
I want to talk about the rest of your life.
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What yes, the rest of your life starting today, not
focusing on the future as in like you know, one
hundred years from now. I'm talking about like the rest
of your life, like starting tomorrow, starting tomorrow. What the
page tonight, the page is folded over tomorrow, What are
your plan?
Speaker 4 (04:02):
Is it?
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Yeah, I just have to run some errands and that's
pretty much it. And that's it, which is fine. I
think that's awesome. But then the day after tomorrow, the
day after that, week after that, month after that, what
are you doing? Like, what are your plans? Because understand
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that you are not finished. Your life is not finished
until your last breath, obviously, so and you still are
becoming becoming What you ask, well, you tell me what
are you becoming? Are you becoming a success? Are you
becoming a part of a family, part of a relationship.
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Are you becoming part of a team at work or
in sports? Are you becoming successful? Are you becoming ill?
Are you becoming sad, miserable, successful, angry, filled with rage?
Are you surrendering to life, giving up on it all?
Or are you shooting to be successful? Or are you
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taking life by the horns starting right now? Lots of questions, obviously,
but do you know what only you have the answers,
not your spouse not your parents, not your best friend,
not those people on social media. But one thing that
I do know for a fact is that you are
not finished yet, and that you, as I said, you
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are still growing. You are still learning. Keep this concept
in mind, You're still evolving. I want to talk about growth, resilience,
self renewal, all of your choices, good and bad, and
the eternal potential to begin again and again. I don't
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know how old you are. I'm fifty five. I have
begun again and again. I have worn many different hats.
I have ended my chapters as I so choose, and
I'm like, all right, I've done, I've done X. I
could only go so far with it. Now I want
to try why. I do that for a year, I
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do that for six months. I do that for five years.
Then one day I wake up and I go, okay,
I'm good. Now I want to try Z. And that's
how my life has been. It's not that I get bored.
It's just that I work it till the top. I
accomplish usually every I could tear right now, every job
I've ever had, even my first job. I became a supervisor.
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I became a supervisor, a manager. I ran departments and
why because I get bored. But that's the honest true.
It's just that I can't sit there and just put
a nut on a screw, a not on a screw.
I'm just that type of person. There are people that
do that, and to me, I've mentioned this in the past,
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you people have superpowers to be able to do that
for twenty three, thirty two, thirty six, forty years. That
is something that I actually admire. I do things and
I get to the point that I'm like, Okay, what's next,
What's next? What's next? Because I'm evolving, I'm growing, and
I'm still becoming. I'm still becoming. Becoming to me, is
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like going on a journey. And as you go on
this journey, it's like almost like driving on a road somewhere.
It's not like it's not a loop. It's not like
you just see the same tree going by in but no,
it's like new neighborhoods, new trees, new fences, new dog,
barking cat crossing the street. Ooh, new house, new Like
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just for those of you that know, I hate going
the same way to some place at the same time,
the same way over and over and over. I can't.
I always have to find a new way. That's why
I think it's word. When people say I'm lost, it's like,
that's impossible. You can't be lost. You just keep going
and you end up getting somewhere and basically, guess what,
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You've learned something because when you got lost, you figured
out that there's a corner story you didn't know about,
or a little pizza place over there you didn't know about,
or an ice cream shop that was literally right around
the corner that you never knew about because you chose
to take the same way over and over. I can't.
I love my life. I love the experience of life.
I love the experience of seeing, learning, getting to know people,
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going into new ice cream shops, different We went to
a coffee shop this past week in Louisville and which
is Brew. It was amazing. It was amazing because we
walked in very small. Look it up which is Brew
Louisville if you find it. If it's funny because if
you go to the band's website, there's a picture from
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the inside looking at the door with the ladies. She
started her act. She was a singer, but she started
her act with Feathers and so here we come around
the street and we're about to go in, and I
noticed that the entire group of people are looking at
the door. She's standing in the doorway looking in, and
I'm like standing right there. So there's a picture that
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I'm actually standing like, and I just and one of them,
Melissa to but she's just a leg You actually see
me like looking like what is she doing? Because we
didn't know that somebody would be performing a band at
this quite it's a tiny coffee shop, but it's adorable.
But life is not a closed story. Like I said,
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it doesn't end until it ends. It is not a
completed painting or a sealed book. Even when you feel
like everything is behind you or you have lost too
much time, the truth remains there is still so much
ahead of you. I think it's funny when people are
in certain relationships, certain jobs and they actually think this
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is it, this is how it is, and it's like
six weeks, six months from now, you're in a new relationship,
a different house, a different state, and you look back
and it's like, you know, who is this new person
I'm with? You know, or like you know, you lose
a pet, which is a horrible thing. It's a horrible thing,
but all of a sudden you find yourself a year
from now with a different pet, reliving a new life,
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a new actions, new steps. Like I don't believe, you
don't replace things, You just move on. You evolve, your
relationships evolve. Every moment is a new beginning. Each day
is an invitation to start new. The long road ahead
of you is it something to fear, it's something to
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walk with wonder and my favorite word, curiosity. You're not behind,
You're becoming. You're not lost, You're learning how to return.
You may have veered off track. You may have fallen.
We all fall I have. I've fallen like on my face,
and I've gone right back up again. You may have
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even forgotten who you are. At times it happens. It
happens you find yourself going off this journey that you
actually thought that by the end of this year you
would be doing this, and you look back and you're like,
oh my god, I am like over here. What is
wrong with that? Absolutely nothing. The question you have to
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keep asking yourself is as you go through it, is
this where you want to be? Is this where you
want to be? Is this where you notice that's the
key word. This is where you want to be, not
the new person that you're dating that you're so into
them and their thing is I want to I just
want to live in the Antarctica, and you're like, okay,
we're going to move there. But I hate the cold.
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But I love that person. I think that's a wonderful thing.
The problem is there comes a point relationships that things
go back to the way they were and all of
a sudden, the true you comes out and now that
person's like, you're changed, and it's just like you didn't.
It's just that you created a facade to fit in
to make sure that this relationship works, and now you're
looking going, I'm not happy, it's normal. None of that
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means that you are done with your life, because as
long as you are breathing, as I said, you are
still building the life. You are still building the life
that you were meant to live. I mean, even Charlie
Brown in the Peanut cartoons, if you don't know who
he is, you're not that young. But supposedly the football
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would be held for him and he would come and
he would kick the ball and he would fall because
the ball would be pulled away. If you ever notice
he keeps doing it, make fun of him now, but
still he keeps doing it, and he keeps doing it.
Then they break for commercial, and then they never show
that he got back up again. He just stays at
his back and he goes, you know, oh dear, woe
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is me whatever. But maybe at that point, maybe you
never know. Maybe when the commercial comes, it is actually
when he stands up and he beats the hell out
of her, but he still continues forward because he's willing
to do it again. He wasn't done. I think it's
funny when people surrender on projects or ideas, or marriage
or friendships, as they just feel like all of a sudden,
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it's over. I'll never love again, I'll never do this again,
I'll never do that again. And I'm speaking from experience.
I believe from my experience in my life and my
choice in words, is that whenever I say I will
never do something again, it is always somehow thrown back
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in my face that I have to eat my words
and try again and again and again, and sometimes I
will forget about it. And then a year later, five
years later, fifteen years later, twenty years later, that thing
that I said I will never do again is reintroduced
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in my life, and I have to try it again.
So the illusion of being done to me is quite
silly and funny. You're never done until you are six
feet below. Many of us were raised with a silent
pressure that by a certain age we should have it
all figured out, that by twenty five, thirty five, forty five,
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we should have arrived somewhere. We measure our lives by
external timelines and compare our pace with others. Stop comparing
your life to others. Stop looking on social media to
see what other people your age are doing. Please, that's
just stupid. The time you're wasting studying other people, study yourself.
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Look in the mirror. Look in the mirror. That's your competition.
Your competition is your mirror. Your villain in life is
your mirror. That person right in front of you, that's
the person that you're up against. That's the person that's
challenging you. That's the person that is telling you you
don't have the confidence, you're not worthy, you don't deserve it.
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That's the person. But life is not linear. Growth doesn't
follow schedules. People have this thing with scheduling. There, life
doesn't follow schedules. Becoming who you are meant to be
is not a race with a finish line. It's a
process of unfolding and learning, of deepening your thinking, of
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learning and unlearning, and learning and unlearning and deepening your thinking,
and learning and unlearning and deepening your thinking. You are
not done when you make a mistake. You are not
done when you get rejected. You are not done when
you fall apart. You're not even done when you feel
completely lost. You are still becoming. And maybe maybe that's
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the point, my friends. You are all each and every
one of you is a work in progress, and that
is so beautiful. And I mean that, I mean it's
all perception. How you choose to see your life, your day,
your month, last year, how you did last week, how
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you acted in your last relationship romantic relationship. Are you
willing to just surrender every time you are not pleased
with your choice and just jump off a cliff because
it is just perspective? Or do you see the choice
you made as a poor choice and they immediately get
up and stand up and try to figure out how
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to make better choices, hopefully quickly, and not just make
a mistake and spend the rest of your life complaining
because you know, back in eighty five you did something.
You cheated on somebody, what a piece of shit, and
now you just deem yourself a piece of shit. It's
just like, now you're human and you did that. So
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here's a secret. Ready, don't do it again. I know,
I know you're like, WHOA, yeah, I'm sureos. Just don't
do it again. You did a dick move. Just don't
do it again. You treated somebody like a jerk. Don't
do it again. It's actually not that involved. I've made
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many mistakes because to me, they are constant challenges that
maybe just maybe I wasn't thinking it through completely. Maybe
I jumped the gun. Maybe I should have taken a
time to breathe. It's funny, listen, I were just talking
about this that five years ago, ten years ago, five
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ten years ago, I was a bull, and I would listen.
I wouldn't listen to most people. I'm in arees, so
I would just headfirst first. I had an idea, head first,
head first. The only good thing is I never blamed
other people. So if I went head first as my
decision and I screwed things up, I was the first
to put my hand up and go. I chose to
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go head first. I chose to not plan ahead, and
I made some stupid mistakes. I don't have an issue
with that. I don't have a pride issue letting people
know that I did something wrong. I don't care like
I did something. I'll let people and hey, I did
something wrong. You know, I'm gonna tell you that I
did something wrong so that hopefully you'll learn from my stupidity.
And you want to do something wrong too, I do
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it because I care, but I think with age, as
you get older, hopefully you find yourself luckily. Now this
is interesting. As your body slows down, to me, your
mind slows down, but not in a bad way. I mean,
like you start to think things through, you start to
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process things differently, but which also causes your mind to
not be able to race from zero to sixty in
a second. You're still there. The problem is still there,
the situation is still there. Does it really matter if
it's done tonight or tomorrow? Surprisingly, most things don't. You
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may say yeah, yeah, no, I got it. This has
to get done right now. Chances are it doesn't. Most
things don't. It's not the end of the world. Just
because you choose to. Now you're causing negative ripples for
everybody else because I want this done this way, and
even though I know it's probably wrong, I don't care.
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I guess I'm like Charlie Brown too, because I have
fallen on my ass many many times, and in fact,
if I told you stories, there's way too many for
this podcast. But I have never ever, ever felt defeated.
I've never felt like I was surrendering or giving up
or walking away from anything. I don't have that issue,
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Thank god. I have this odd thing that I immediately
think to myself, Okay, what did I do wrong? Even
if it happened because of someone else's choices, because I
was listening to somebody else's advice, I will not turn
and say I screwed up because so and so told me. Sorry,
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that's that's a crack of shit and just an excuse,
because you know, when so and so told you, you
should have the mindset to be able to really think
it through. Is it a good idea? Is it is
it in my best interest? Will I benefit from it?
And then, of course this is where my mindset comes in.
What is the worst case scenario? Think about it? What
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is the worst thing that could happen to so many
people when they when they want great things to happen,
they think of the wonderful things. I actually, I do
fifty to fifty. I do fifty to fifty. I will
think of all the wonderful possibilities. But then I'm like, okay,
so what's the worst thing that could happen? And then
I think about it. It will that be such a
bad thing? And ninety nine percent of the time is
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really not. So I'm like, all right, well, I'll try it.
If it works good. If it doesn't, that's fine because
I've already prepared myself for the worst case scenario. And
then I think to myself, how did I do it wrong?
What did I do wrong? Why did I do it wrong?
Why did I think like that? What if the most
beautiful thing about you is not your perfection, but it's
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the process of life. It's the journey that you're going through.
What if being a work in progress means that you
are just simply life. It's part of life. Progress is living,
it's evolving, it's engaging in life, being a part of everything,
not just sitting back in the corner watching as the
world goes by. Every great piece of our art, architecture
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or invention was once just a mess of drafts, failures,
restarts and risks, drafts, failures, restarts and risks everything. You're
no different all this artwork that you hear like, oh
it's sold on you know, this auction house hold it
for you know, forty three billion dollars. At one point
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there was a blank at canvas. It's not like it
just magically appeared. Just like you, there are times that
you are a blank canvas. There is beauty in your
becoming and trying again and showing up after the disappointment,
showing up after the disappointment, and growing beyond past self
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and choosing today even when yesterday was difficult. It's a
big person. There's a big person that screws up and
has no issues showing back up again next day, going hey,
and they're like, oh my god, aren't you embarrassed? Don't
know why why I'm embarrassed Because I made a mistake.
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I made some poor choices. That's stupid. Why who are
you that you're so perfect to be throwing you know
how they say stones at glass houses, It's like, I
wouldn't think so here's a question. If somebody was to
describe you in a few sentences, how would they describe you?
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How close would their description be to the description that
you think they would say? That's a tough one because
automatically you're thinking of, oh, well they would say this,
this and that. Yeah, but that's what you think? What
what is your thought process? What would you think? Think
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about that? I mean, that's very easily solved. Find somebody
that's neutral, not a kiss ass, that will tell you
like it is. Those are the best people to be around.
And it's funny cause a lot of people find those
people difficult because they're like, you know, they're mean, they're tough.
That's what you want in your life. That's what you
want in your life, not somebody that's just gonna like
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applaud everything you do and put you on a pedestal
and think you're wonderful, cause there are chances that you're not.
And to me, I'd rather have somebody say, Jimmy, you
know that thing you did last week was actually kind
of stupid, and I'd be like why See. I don't
get offended why they have an opinion, but I want
to know why they saw that, because a lot of
times people are on the outside looking and see more.
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Understand that how you see your life may not be
as perfect as you think it is. It might not
be the facade that you're putting out to the world
on Facebook or on Instagram. Because to me, when people
get to know you, a lot of times they want
to get to know the real you, not this fake
facade of who you are, like on a dating site.
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I like kayaking and cross country skiing and weightlifting and
blah blah blah. Well was the last time you did
any of this? Yeah, but chicks will dig it. Then
you're attracting the wrong kind of people. I want people
to be attracted to me, the real me, the imperfect me,
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and I want to be I want to meet somebody
who is also imperfect, somebody who is going through life, living, learning,
laughing at themselves as so do. I surround yourself with
people that will be true to you and not complainers.
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Not complainers. Keep those people away. But that's understand That's
usually why people like you, the real friends, the real relationships.
They're attracted to your honest just the way you are,
not this mask that people create. And it's sad because
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you on the other hand, field the need to make
believe that you're some sort of superhero and that you're
changing the world and you're letting people. Oh, if you
watch Dayline. I've been watching Daylight recently, and there's a
lot of men that like, will spend five, ten, fifteen
years to the point that they marry and have kids
with a family, and it turns out the entire thing
has been bullshit. And of course, fifteen years down, you know,
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the lady's like, what you know, he was a pedophile,
he was a rapist, he was an embezzler. No way,
and I'm like, wow, that is yours a super villain.
But you know, that's a talent to be able to
do that. And then the people are like, even some
families actually like I never knew my brother was like that.
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But that's that's you know, who you can be or
who you're really really not. I mean, what are you
choosing to be? Who are you choosing to be in
your life? What are you choosing to do to hang
out with the people? Your circle? Who is your circle
of friends? Think about it right now, who is your
circle of friends? Real friends? Who is your circle of friends?
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And even your life what are you choosing to do
for a living? Choosing to do for a living? Feel like, well,
I mean I have a job and I have to work. No,
you don't. You have a job, and that's a wonderful thing.
But you don't have to work that job. You choose
to work that job. You could work someplace else that
makes you happier for a dollar or less or sometimes
two dollars more. But you're willing to just sit and
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be comfortable with your life. Who are you choosing to
hang out with? What are you choosing to do for money,
for life, for career, to feed your family, to feed
your own face? What do you choose? What are you?
What are you choosing to do to feed your what
are you eating? What's your health like? Are you a
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good person? Are you committing out there committing crimes to
make money to feed your family? Think about it. Both
people are trying to feed their family. Some are doing
it by having a nine to five, others are doing
it by committing crimes. Or like I said, are you
driven and focused for a better future for yourself and
for them? Ask yourself these questions. A lot of people
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don't like to deal with this stuff. They don't like
to feel with the reality of like, well, who they are,
and understand that if you do find yourself in a
situation that you're like, yeah, I'm a total mess up
and I am screw it up, and you can change.
You can change. There's no reason why you can't change.
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Or you can sit there and just talk about the
many things you want to do, wish to do, need
to do, could and should do, and things you want
to accomplish in all of this stuff, and then six
days from now, six weeks from now, six years from now,
nothing in your life has changed. Nothing. Think about that.
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That's a good question based on who you are today
and who you were last year, same time this year,
same time this year, last year. Where were you a
year from a year ago? Because it's funny a lot
of people will try to, like present, where will they
be a year from now? That's fine, that's impossible to
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ever know. We can guess, we could assume, we could try.
But I'm still wondering, who were you last year today?
Where were you, what were you doing, where were you living,
who were you dating, what were you eating, what were
you watching on television? What were you hooked on? It
paints a good picture of where you stood. Think about
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that because you're challenging yourself knowing that you're not done yet.
You are still becoming you, You are still evolving, you
are still learning about yourself. Every day. You should be
learning something new about yourself every morning, every every every
every evening. You should be learning something new about the
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day that you just had. Every evening right before you
go to bed. I'm not talking about you have to
sit up and take notes. It's just you. You think
about it, You're like, what was my day? Like what
did I do? What did I accomplish today? Did I
do the things? And it's not about like picking on yourself,
it's just breaking it down. This morning, I plan on
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doing A B and C and I don't know how
I got to lement op okay, but did you accomplish it?
Because trust me here, oh every day I start with
I'm gonna do this, just this and that. And it's funny.
Melissa laughs a lot because by the end of the
day she's like, so what you do? And I will
bring up five things, sometimes those original things and then
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five things which I never planned. Today was that day? Actually,
yesterday was that day too. I had all these plans
to do all this stuff, and the night before too,
and I just think it's kept getting in the way.
It was kind of funny, but that's just the thing.
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We focus on the petty things. And my question to
you is what are your hopes and dreams and what
it's just taking your life a little bit more seriously
and questioning like what you would do and what you
think you'd do, and because you never know. Here's a
quick story. So in Connecticut, for my Connecticut people, it
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is close to impossible to get a gun. And I
understand there have been many crimes and a lot of
people feel strongly against guns. I'm one of those, but
I've always known that it's good to have one, and
I just never thought it doesn't help that they make
it impossible for you to get one. And then the
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laws in Connecticut are very weird that God forbids somebody
breaks into my house and they get a paper cut
while they're robbing my house, they consume me, and it
has happened. There was a story of a gentleman who's
breaking into the house, fell through the skylight and hurt
himself on the way down. He sued the homeowner in
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one which is funny, but it happens. So I get
down here to Kentucky, and you would think it's a
free for all because here getting a gun is very easy.
And actually no, because when I've told this to Connecticut people,
they're like, oh my god, that's horrible. Actually no, it's not.
There is such a level of respect amongst neighbors, amongst
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business owners. And here's the thing. So many people carry
a gun. And I know there are people right now
that are cringeing, Oh my god, that's horrible. Oh my god.
Yeah I did too. I did too. But when you
walk into like a a supermarket and you see grandmothers,
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grandmothers walking with an exposed site arm on their side,
a revolver, which is actually kind of funny or just
average person because here you can carry out or in concealed.
And here, yes, no, you can't just buy any gun.
You have to go someplace buy it, and they do
run a check through the state state troopers and it's
a very involved form. But here it's about protect Here
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most people have them for farms and animals to you know,
protect their animals. But it's I'm amazed at like, because
I'm not gonna lie when I first thought, I was like,
oh my god, this is crazy. This isn't good. There
must be people shooting like there's no there's just a
level of respect that everybody knows that everybody else do
you assume they're carrying. And it's almost like there's more
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of a sense of unity and protection amongst each other,
which was which for me. It took a while. I'm
not gonna lie to you, it took a while. So
now I carry a gun and a little gun. Nothing crazy,
but it's fascinating to me. Just a different mindset because
I was willing to evolve. I was willing to challenge myself.
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I was willing to learn how other people think and
why they think, and that just goes that's wrong. Based
on my knowledge of Connecticut history, I'm basing on my
knowledge and experience of Kentucky and Kentucky laws and and
what they do and how they protect themselves. And it works.
It works. It's amazing, but it works, and I'm extremely
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responsible with it. I've watched every video. I've gone to
a shooting range and actual real one where you have
to fill out lots of forms and you have to
watch a video and then they talk to you and
they and make sure you're not like insane with a gun.
But I read everything I was supposed to and I've
learned quite a bit, and I go to target practice,
which again, while I was in the middle of target practice,
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I was like, wow, who am I? Who am I?
Speaker 1 (35:16):
You know?
Speaker 2 (35:16):
Who would I have seen myself doing this last year?
App absolutely not. But I've come to learn that, you know,
guns don't kill people. People kill people. And it's like, oh,
but without a gun, then Nick use a Chinese star,
they use a Ninja Nain the sword, they could use anything.
There's other ways to solve that problem. But that's that's
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for not even my show. That's just something else. But
I went into this new thing, this new venture, this
new frame of mind, with an open mind, and I
was willing to learn and ask a lot of questions
and do the things the right way and to be responsible.
So I thought outside the box and I tried something
that I never thought I would. And I was very
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appreciative of these no lessons, this new so called hobby,
because now I know that the long road ahead of
me is a wonderful gift. It really is. Now I
can protect my family and especially my animals. But it
is not something that I fear anymore. I respect it.
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You know, every time I wear my gun, trust me,
I'm not like hey, everybody, you know it's it's still
very like i've been. I've been wearing it now for
a month and it's still weird. But it's a level
of respect, which is funny because the person I bought
it from, they were like, when you when you lose
the like when it's nothing to you, that's not good.
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You should always know that it is a tool. It
is a weapon to protect yourself and hopefully it to
protect others and not just as I use the wrong
word for that, just a hobby. I'm just gonna go
shoot just to shoot. But it's prerogative and you do
what you want. But it's very intriguing to me. It's
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a very different way of looking at things from here
to Connecticut, from my life to your life right now.
And I'm talking about that from the way I'm talking
now to how you're listening at home. We have a
lot of different history, a lot of different ways of thinking.
So hopefully there are things that I say that will
inspire you and just make you realize that as I've
always said simply, you're a badass. You're worth it. You
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can do the work you deserve it if you're willing
to put the time into it. The asday I love
to say, the sweat equity. It's easy to look at
the long road ahead of you sometimes and feel overwhelmed,
and you tend to think how far you still have
to go, and sometimes you may just freeze, you may
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just stop. But the long road ahead of you is
not a punishment, as I said, it is an invitation
to possibility. There is still time to all in love,
to forgive yourself, to start the thing you've been avoiding,
to write that book, that journal, to move to the
place that you dreamt about, to heal, to focus on healing,
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and to continue to become become what. Don't see the
long road ahead as a burden, see it as a freedom.
This journey means that there is still more to explore
ahead of you about the world and about yourself. There
is still time to be surprised by life, to learn
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who you are in a new chapter. Because you're not
too late. The road is still waiting for you. You
are not lost, You are rerouting. We all veer off
course of times We all make decisions that we regret.
We let fear, comfort or circumstance lead us down paths
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that sometimes we don't feel right and our gut is screaming,
don't do it, and you still do. But veering off
course doesn't mean you're lost forever. Sometimes you're just testing
out the waters over there, which is fine. It simply
means you are rerouting. Sometimes. Basically, when you have a
like your Google map or whatever you use in your car,
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sometimes you pass the street and what does she do?
Not a problem? You don't have to completely change, Just
go to the next block and come around, just like
a GPS recalculates when you miss a turn. Your life
is always willing to reorient itself if you are willing
to learn and to listen and move again. Even if
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you've been stuck for years, months, days, or numbed, or
you have numbed yourself to the truth or let self
doubt silence your inner voice, understand, the path is still
open and it's always your choice to get back on
because you are not stuck, you are not broken, you
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are not behind. You're just becoming aware again, and awareness
is the first step towards change. The courage to start again.
Starting again can feel terrifying. There is the voice in
your head that says, what's the point I tried before?
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But beginning again is not failure, it's strength. Every time
you choose to start over, you are declaring that your
past does not own you, that your future is still
in your hands. To start again is to trust again
that this time can be different, that you've learned something,
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that the process is worth it, that you are worth
the effort. Even the smallest steps forward is the progress.
Even the smallest yes to your inner calling is such
a momentum momentum movement you do. Don't need to leap,
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it helps, but you need to begin. Every feel would
push off your path. Well, that's fine, because you're not powerless.
You are really not powerless. Sadly, we tend to give
too much of our power, our control to others, and
sometimes these people suck. And when they're good people, that's
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a good thing. When they're loving people, loving friends, trusting people,
it's fine. But sadly, at times we give our power,
ourselves to people that aren't that great, and they end
up taking advantage of us. They end up hurting us,
they end up bursting our bubbles, making us feel that
we are not competent, that we are not worthy, that
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we should not dream, that we should not move forward
and do the things that we want to do, because
it's silly, it's stupid, it's a waste of time. In fact,
we should just surrender, right, give up, usually like they have.
That's why I've always tell people, if you're going to
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do something, follow in the footsteps of the people that
have actually walked the path that you want to walk.
Don't follow in the past of people that have failed
and just give it up. And then those people are
telling you, don't bother doing this. I did it and
it sucks, and it's like thanks, but no thanks. I'm
gonna I'm gonna surround myself by the people that are
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where I wish to be, have the positive mindset that
I want to have. Don't surrender live. I've seen people
do this on the most ridiculous amount of occasions, where
people be to mimic the stronger friend and do what
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they say and act as they act, and they believe
in what they believe, and usually this person doesn't give
a shit, and they become their followers, their sheep, and
it's a shame because I've sat with many of these
people during let's say a meditation session and have opened
their minds and realized that they have been off their
path for quite some time and it's fine. And sometimes
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through hypnosis sessions, I try to have them pinpoint back
when in their life, when in your life that you
felt that you were on the right road, and then
all of a sudden, here we are now and you're
looking back, going when did I veer off the road?
(43:48):
When did I make that turn out the fork that
I really shouldn't have, to the point that I don't
recognize who I am, what I'm doing. I don't like
where I work, I don't like who I'm married to
or who I'm dating. I hate my house. Usually it's
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because you met somebody new, somebody who has more control
of the relationship, somebody who pretty much made you believe
that what you wanted was what they wanted. Now fast forward,
you know, two, three, four, or five years, and you
don't recognize yourself. You find yourself living someplace where, like
(44:30):
I said, you just you're looking around and going, what
life am I living? Is this what I want? You
find yourself in a career that almost you don't remember
why you started. If you happen here a drill, I'm
having some work done still in the house. So it
comes and goes, But think about it. You find yourself
(44:51):
in a job and say, well, I took the job
for you know, I'm just gonna take the job. It's
going to pay the bills, and I'm going to focus
on something else. I'm going to focus on saving, to
focus on getting a career or going back to school.
But for now this is great, which I agree with you.
But then you get lazy, and now you look back
and go, wow, who the hell did I become? Does
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any of this resonate with you? Are you in any
of these relationships that you're just not happy that you
just just don't know what happened and where you left off,
where you fell off the path. Sometimes we were pushed
off course by life circumstances and we didn't choose it happens.
But then sometimes things happen to you that you just
(45:39):
have no control of and that change that change your
life horribly, like illness, lost job changes, financial struggles, betrayals,
global chaos, and before you know it, you're sitting at
home contemplating if you should take a vaccine, or now
because you want to go shopping, you don't you want
to wear a mask, or you don't want to wear
(45:59):
a mask, or you don't want to get vaccinated, and
you're like, when did this happen? And as quickly as
it came, it's gone. It can make you feel helpless,
But even when life pushes you again, you are not powerless.
You can't always control what happens to you, but you
can control what happens in you and how you see everything.
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You can choose your response. You can choose how you rise,
You can choose how you rebuild. The road may have cracked,
it happens, the road may have cracked, the winds may
have blown you sideways. But you still have the power
to stand back up and say, I am still here
and I am still becoming. There's always another chance. People
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give up on themselves too soon, They stop believing, They
assume the windows and doors have closed. But the truth
is the next chapter can begin whenever you so choose,
and I mean think about it. The next chapter can
begin when you choose to start writing your next chapter.
The only door that closed is the one that you
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stopped walking towards. You are not disqualified by your past.
You are not finished by your because of your age.
I hate that want. I'm old. There's a lot of
people out there much older than you're doing a lot
more than you. You are not too late for your dream.
There's always another chance, another chance to be kind to yourself,
to forgive yourself, to express your creativity all over again,
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to speak your truth, to take a leap of faith.
You are not at the end of your story. You
are not at the end of your story. This is
a funny story. What this means is basically that at
some point in your life, everything is going to line
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up just the way you want. Right the myth of
a rival I have arrived. There's stuff that I want.
I want to be this type of person. I want
to have this much money, I want to have this
type of relationship. I see all this in my mind,
and it's right here. It's right here. Let me okay,
it's right here. It's right here. See the distance that
I'm creating between here and there. It's almost like the
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horse that has the stick with the carrot hanging. You're
always just following this. It's right there. Oh, everything that
I want, Everything I want If I win the lottery,
I'll have everything I want. If I have X, Y,
and Z, I will have everything I want. You could
just so choose today to have everything you want by
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just putting your mind to it, creating plans, actually not
saying I wish, I want I What are we doing?
What are the steps? Write that ship out right now
now I have it here, Write it out. What do
you want to do? What are the steps? What do
you need to do to get there? Or you will
forever walk with that carrot dangling over there. Everything is
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going to line up just the way you want.
Speaker 1 (49:05):
I am.
Speaker 2 (49:06):
I am, I've done it many times. All your dreams, aspects, aspirations,
everything will happen on on on a day in the
future next Tuesday, next June, by Christmas next year. Next
year will be the year that you finally get up
and do the things that you've said you've wanted to
do since nineteen eighty four and eighty five and eighty six,
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and nineteen ninety two and nineteen ninety nine and two,
thy ten, twenty twelve, twenty fifteen. I tried it again.
I didn't really focus that much, so twenty twenty one,
by twenty twenty five. By two thousand and thirty, I
will be a multimillionaire. So what are you doing to
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get closer to that? Right now? What steps are you
taking today to make it happen? Because so far you
haven't done shit. I know many of you are like, yo, sorry,
have Well, you shouldn't be focusing on your failures, to
be learning from them and then immediately start focusing on
what is your next step? What's your next move? What
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is your next move? I think by now you you
know if if your choice was a successful one or
a bad one, And then by now if it was
a bad one, you could have started all over again
ten times over. But you've been harping on the mistake
and the mistake and the mistake and the mistake and
the mistake and the mistake, and then letting everybody know
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that you've made the mistake, or even worse, telling no one.
I can't tell anybody that I've made mistakes because it's
it's it's it's how I learned. Because chances are somebody
to be like, oh, what you're doing wrong? Is this
this net? Why don't you try that? And then you're
trying to oh my god, oh my God, I didn't know.
I have no problem asking for help. Why not if
(50:54):
I don't know how to do something? Please, I will
find anybody. But could you guide me? Can you? Can
you show me how it's done? Instead of forcing myself
to veer off my path, my passion and then going
I'm not gonna do this because of pride. I'll be
happy when I get this job, when I lose that weight,
when I find this relationship, or when I have more money. Nope, nope, bullshit.
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But the idea that we will one day arrive and
never struggle again, it's a beautiful thing. But no, Now,
life is not about arrival. Life is about engagement, participation, curiosity, openness.
Even when you reach a goal, a new desire appears.
Even when you overcome something, another challenge will arise because
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you are not here to arrive. You are here to
just grow, to stretch, to become and that means you
will always be on the way. And that's not a flaw.
That's life. You've already survived so much, right. I just
think it's funny that throughout our life we are approached
with challenges, with hurdles, with problems that we feel like
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we are never going to survive that moment that today.
Do you remember grammar school situations, I'll never pass that
tes oh my god, problems in high school. I have pimples.
You just never thought you were gonna make it to
the next day, to Monday. And so many of these
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challenges came and went, and if they went, maybe they didn't,
maybe they weren't solved exactly how you wish they were.
But you're still here today. So it worked itself out
as it should have, as it could have, and now
you are here with me listening today. So basically, in
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the book of your life, those chapters that are behind you,
those chapters that you have learned from, hopefully, like the heartbreak,
the laws to self doubt, the silent nights all alone,
the hard choices, the easy choices, the days that you
didn't think you'd make it, that you wouldn't survive. There's
no way I'm gonna survive this, but you did. You're here,
You're right there. So obviously you are, I guess stronger
(53:13):
than you think. So think about it. As of right now,
your track record are surviving? Is you ready? One? You're
still here? One that alone is proof that you, my friend,
that I mean you and you, and you and you
and even you can keep going, can keep trying and
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not just surviving, but thriving, becoming, becoming because you are
not broken. You are becoming more whole every day. What
is waiting for you out there tomorrow? There are so
many experiences that have not yet entered your life. People
who will love and understand you, Opportunities that will align
with your purpose, Moments of peace that you never imagined,
(54:05):
Paths that will finally feel like home, Insights that will
heal you deeply. These things don't appear because you wait
and hope. They appear when you step toward them. They
show up when you start becoming again, because the world
has more to offer you. But you must open your hands.
You must be open to it. You must choose to begin.
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Becoming requires letting go. To become who you are meant
to be, you must be willing to release the old stories,
the limiting believes, the grudges, the fear of failure, the
illusion of control, the version of yourself that you have
clung to out of fear. Where has that gone you
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so far? Letting go is not losing It is creating space.
The more you release what no longer fits, the more
room you create for what's coming. I like that the
more you release what no longer fits is the more
room you create for what's coming, for who you are
still becoming. This moment is your starting line. Right now,
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reset your self. You don't have to wait for a
new year, or perfect plan or permission. The most powerful
moment in your life is right now. Because now is
when you decide. Not tomorrow, not after you fix everything,
not when you feel ready, not after you've won the lottery,
but now now, because now is all you ever truly have,
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and now is more than enough to begin again. Say
yes to this moment, Say yes to your life. Make
a promise to yourself. Make a vow, quiet vow that
I will no longer abandon myself. I will keep going.
I will remember that I am still becoming, and I
will choose to believe that the best is not behind me,
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it's ahead of me. Repeat this when you feel tired,
when you doubt, when you want to quit, because this
vow can carry you when your strength waivers. This vow
reminds you that you are not done. You are becoming
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someone stronger, someone wiser and more aligned, more balanced, more focused,
you don't have to do it alone. Becoming doesn't mean
doing it alone. Let people help you, Let people remind
you how amazing you are. Surround yourself with those who
support your journey. Surround yourself with those who support your
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journey and encourage your growth. If there is somebody in
your life, cat for if there is somebody in your
life that you think of when you have an idea
and you find yourself almost not wanting to tell them
because you already know they're gonna bust your balls. They're
gonna poke holes through your dreams, which sometimes is okay
(57:04):
depending on who it is and how they say it.
When people come to me with ideas that I want
to poke holes through, I don't. What I do is
I challenge them to prove to me why they really
want to do it, and I'm not gonna have you
not to do it. I'm just gonna try to make
you see the good, the bad, and the ugly of
your thing. I like my thing is. I love when
people go for jobs because it pays really good. Chances are,
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the reason it's paying really good is because it's a
tough job. It's not like, well, this job pays an
extra ten dollars. So I'm just gonna go. And it's
a great job because I get to sit on my ass.
It's like no jobs that pay more usually it's because
there's more responsibility. And it's just funny because I know
if so many people that have taken that path, and
a few days later I see them and like, what
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happened to that? What job? The job that make? Oh
my god? They expected me to be responsible? Wow, Ask
for guidance, accept love, receive support. You are still becoming,
and so is everyone else around you. We are all
walking each other to the end. What you choose next
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matter is most. Whatever came before is behind you. Whatever
matters most is what you choose next. Will you choose
growth or comfort? Will you choose action over avoidance? Will
you choose belief over doubt? You don't need to have
all the answers. You don't. You just need to make
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the right next choice, and then the one after that.
Step by step, you'll find your way again. Becoming is
the purpose. You are not behind, You are not broken,
You are not too late. You are still becoming. Here's
a quick tidbit. Pauses for a second. Think of five things.
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Five things that you didn't think you would ever accomplish
in your life, and that you did. Trust me. These
things don't have to be huge in life changing. It
could be small and simple five things. But the bottom
line is the goal is to see the things that
you pondered for quite a while, sat on for too long,
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and then woke up and said, I'm going to accomplish
this task. I'm going to do this. Size doesn't matter.
And you did it, and hopefully you were thankful for it,
and you pattered yourself in the back for it instead
of just saying, Okay, that was awesome, what's next. Don't
be that person always always patch yourself in the back.
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Be thankful, be grateful. It's not being selfish, it's being grateful.
I've accomplished this. I've accomplished that. So, as I said,
think of a couple of things, five things, you know what,
ten things, three things whatever that you may have forgotten
at this point that you had. You know, you feel
like you're up against the wall and you weren't going
(01:00:03):
to accomplish and you did it. You did it. I like,
right now, there's like a bunch of things that I
think that I just see that I'm like, oh, I
remember like, yeah, this is not gonna work. That's not
gonna happen. Fast forward. I've did it, I'm doing it.
It's done, and I'm like, wow, that's pretty cool. You
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never thought you would get past it, and now magically
guess what you did, And for that I applaud you.
You see, the purpose of life is not to finish
early or achieve everything before a deadline. The purpose of
life is to just become more deeply, more consciously, more
lovingly who you truly are. There is still a long
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road ahead of you. There are still so many possibilities,
There are still so many reasons to begin again. So
walk step forward. Choose today because you are not finished,
because you are still becoming. I hope I made you think.
I hope I made you question your existence and to
appreciate every single tomorrow before it has arrived, every today
(01:01:10):
as it is happening, and be grateful for all of
the experiences of the past that you have made and
become the person you are now. Keep this in mind.
Choose action over excuse, purpose over comfort, and the work
that matters over the many distractions that don't. Because there
(01:01:31):
are a lot. Trust me, I know my name is
Jimmy Gonzalez and this was the Reset Yourself twenty two podcasts.
Go forward and live your life to the fullest. Thank
you so much for listening, liking, subscribing, and especially sharing
with others. It means so much to me. Many blessings
(01:01:53):
to you all, Be well and prosper.
Speaker 1 (01:02:21):
The show was brought to you by no Emahnosis and
Healing and the mind SiGe Meditation and dedicated to all
those that get up every day and hustle and do
all they can to make a difference in their lives
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