June 24, 2025 • 55 mins
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Daily, Beloved, we are gathering here today to get through
this thing called life.
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You are listening to the Reset Yourself Let Me to
You podcast with your hosts.
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Hello, Hello, how are you? I hope you're well. We
take one of these off a little bit. It's been
a hot, hot few days, but it is what it is.
Would expect before I know, it'll be cold and people
will be complaining about that too. So in this weekly podcast,
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I focus on sparking your inner confidence and igniting your
belief in yourself. I am your host, and I am
always very thrilled to share my thoughts and research with
you as you go along on this wonderful journey. Together, you,
I and Henry, who is stretched out right here, can
nurture a mindset that empowers us to reach our fullest potential.
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I write to record every episode to challenge your thinking
and to encourage you, hopefully to reflect and inspire actionable,
realistic steps towards your personal growth, whether you're facing a
career transition, seeking to overcome challenges, or simply striving for
greater fulfillment in life. This podcast hopefully is your go
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to resource for motivation and practical insights. I know it
is for many, and for that, thank you. My inspiration
to do this show is to teach people to focus
more on what they can accomplish so they can do
the things they need to do when they need to
do them, so that ultimately they get the things they
want when they want to have them. And this episode
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is dedicated to you. Back to yes you talking to yes,
you see me looking at you. I'm looking at you directly.
It's dedicated to you. Tell me what you want and
I will show you how to get it. The question
is are you willing to do the work? You can
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tell me? We ask I can. I don't care what
it is. You may not like my answers. You may
not like what I have to say about how to
get it, because a lot of it has to do
with getting off your acid doing it. But it doesn't
matter what you say you want, bring it, email me.
I've actually had people do that. Email me, message me,
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text me. Tell me what you want. I will tell
you how to get it. So how has your life
been going? It has been good? Pretty good? Great, or well,
it's okay, Jimmy, It's all right. My favorite is life sucks.
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The fact that people still have the audacity to say that,
why because you were irresponsible and forgot to pay a bill,
because you chose to drop out of school, you chose
to listen to those that actually had good advice and
follow the advice of some loser friends. So now here
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you are looking back, going my life sucks. That is
a matter of your opinion and a sad one. That
is life is what you make of it. It is
all based on your perception of it. Even when shit
goes totally wrong, there are people right in the middle
of it going well. It is what it is. Your
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life and experiences are seen only through your eyes, your battles,
your challenges. They're for you to deal with and hopefully
at this point learn from. If you are lucky, then
you may have gotten through a part of your life
with someone that is very special. But people come and
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go in your life, like the stories in the chapters
of your life's book. I tend to often think back
when I hear the song Somebody that I used to know,
You know, the song by Goite and Kimbra with the
main lyric somebody. Now you're just somebody that I used
to know. You See, as you go through your life,
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people do come and go, friendships, jobs, hobbies, cars, houses,
and sadly even pets. But you are still here. Why
why you you think you're still here to work that
nine to five job, pay your bills and hopefully and
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have a decent weekend and then complain Monday morning that
Monday sucks and so does life. You really think that's
why you're still here. God, that's fucking pathetic. I hope not.
You think you're there just watch TV all week and exist.
You think the universe, God Goddess moved so many mountains
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so that you can exist today, so that you can
just sit there and just waste your life watching TV
or scrolling on the phone. Consider this a challenging show.
Usually people were like, well, you know, everybody's different. Now
I'm gonna be like, no, life is way too amazing,
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too magical, too beautiful, too intense for your purpose to be.
I'm here to play video games all day and that
be a part of the planet that you live on,
the planet that you live on rent free, the planet,
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that nothing is owed to you, and that you must
earn it, you must sweat for it. You must work
for it by helping others, by helping others move mountains,
by inspiring everybody you see, and being good to animals.
That's as cute, He's like, am hah. But I mean
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you are the main character in your life. So right
now today, I ask of you, what has changed in
your life over the past year? How about five years,
and you know what, let's skip. How about twenty years,
how about forty years? What has changed? New stories? New
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plot lines? You see, by middle age, your story has
probably had some very major plot twists since when you
were ten twenty twenty one. Were you once was on
a path with someone so special and everything was looking
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so good, and before you know it, they became someone
that you used to know. Do you have memories of
sitting with a family, breaking bread with loved ones and
their family, and now they are no longer part of
your story and they have just become strangers memories of
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your past. It is almost as if they were never
a part of it. I've had that a few times.
I think about it often. How weird that is the
amount of time you'd spend with someone with somebody's family,
going through so many actions and hobbies, their interest and
now all of a sudden, fast forward five, ten, twenty
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years and you're with a new group of people, a
new crowd, new interests. They're no longer a part of
your life. You may have had plans to become someone
special you yourself when you were young, you wanted to be
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a and for whatever reason, it didn't work out, And
now you're a doing It's amazing how life does that? Huh?
Your interests have changed, your hobbies have changed, Your life
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has changed mentally, physically, spiritually, You're in a whole new path. Yes,
this is the magic of life, to think. It is
all about the choices that you have made that have
led you to today. Happy with some maybe not with others.
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That doesn't matter, You're still here. But one thing I
do know, and I can guarantee, is that you have
the free will to make the choices that will lead
you onto the path that you so choose to be on. Wait,
but he or she made me do this or that,
or for my young listeners that still believe that, hey,
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that's fine. For my older, wiser listeners, please just stop
your choice your path. You could have said no, but
you chose not to. But that's fine, but please do
not point fingers at others. You made some stupid mistakes.
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You made some stupid choices. So what you're starting right now,
and you can continue to make your choices of how
your day, your week, your year will end. It's up
to you now how your next relationship will pan out.
To live an exemplary life, you must be okay with
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accepting your choice is good, bad, and really dumb. You
are human, and you have and will continue to do
some dumb shit. Yes you, I'm talking actually all of you,
talking to all of you. Trust me, you're gonna continue
to do some really dumb shit. My opinion, the more
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mistakes the better. The more I fall, the more I learn,
It really makes me a wiser person. Well, unless I
am choosing to not listen. But I do. Every mistake
I do, I ponder it, I question it. Who did
I hurt? What did I say wrong? There have been
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some amazing people in my life, and there have been
some amazingly shitty people in my life too, But this life,
it goes on and on and on, and I'm still
here and so are you. How many anchors do you
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still have connected to someone that hurts you, that lied
to you, that cheated on you, that broke your heart.
Now here's the funny. A lot of people say, no, no, no,
I forgot about them. I don't really care. But when
I mentioned that description, pictures went up in your mind.
That son of a itch. What they did to you
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is for them to deal with with their sins, with
their actions, and not for you to still be carrying
it around weighing you down after all these years. You
must let go and release them, because it is you,
you that are allowing them to live with their sins
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and your head rent free. Because back in eighty four,
and in ninety three, and in two thousand and nine,
in twenty twenty one, that person hurt my feelings, that
person says something that traumatized me. That whatever am I
asking you to forget? You can't even through knows this.
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It's it's pointless. Why why would you want to forget
a lesson? But forgiving is not for them, forgiving is
for you. That's when people get that confused. People are like,
I'm not gonna call so and so. I didn't tell
you to call anybody, but you're the one carrying the
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weight of what they did to you, five, ten, fifteen,
twenty years later, things that were said, actions that were
done against you. But the best life, Your best life
is a clear life, a clear life where there is
no static there's no bullshit, there's no anger, there's no resentment,
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there is no remorse. Without that, you can now truly
focus clearly on where you need to go, what you
need to do, and what you want without doubt, without shame,
without with confidence, a heart filled with love and not
with hatred, truly letting go you then and only then
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can easily move forward and start focusing on your life
and start designing exactly what it is you want, not
just saying the words, but feeling in your soul what
you want to do, where you want to go, who
you want to be, and to live the life that
you so choose. This podcast is not about listening to
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some of the sentences that I happen to this or anything
inspirational to listen to sentences and then repeat what I
said because he said this and I think it's good,
and then I can see you still doing the same
stupid shit. If that's the fact, please stop listening to
this podcast. It's just it's a waste of time. This
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podcast is for you to listen and at times to
break it down. I mean, there's a lot of inspirational
people that I listen to, and I will I will
listen to them for you know, an hour, half an hour,
a few hours, and yes, at times I lose myself
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in their train of thought and there will be a
sentence or two that they say that it is also
as if I heard them stop and say, Jimmy, you
gotta believe in yourself, and it resonates with me for
the next few hours, a few days. I'm like, he's right,
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she's right. I really do have to believe in myself
and let go and have confidence and not just be
one of these people that write these men you know,
these mantras down or you know, it's like I will
believe in myself, I will be good, And it's just like,
do you believe it? Absolutely not. Your life is a gift.
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Everything about it is a gift. Guess what, even the
tough times, even the challenges, even when shit goes bad,
it's a gift. It's your chance to be able to
move forward, to grow, to love, and to live a
happier life. Even after being shit on by someone. You
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must want to continue to live your life even though
you keep getting dragged down through the mud. You just
keep wiping down and getting up, and you keep wiping down,
and something bad happens, and something else bad happens. And
what happens is you create habits. I can honestly say
I'm good at it. I'm good at it now. I
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see weird shit that happens, things that I know should
hurt me and break me, and I just trust me.
I don't do a cartwheel or a dance, but I
just accept it and see it for what it is
and what happened, and go okay, So what's next? Now?
Let me harp on this what just happened? No, what's next?
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How will I better myself because of this challenge, because
of this sadness, this misery, this accident, whatever, this tragedy.
To live by design means to deliberately shape your life,
your time, your energy, your value, your relationships, and your
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purpose according to what deeply matters to you, what matters
to you. It is a creative act, a rebellion against
apathy and a commitment to living fully awake, not numb.
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Not every time. Every time, see no offense. I'm not
trying to pick pointing fingers, but it's like, oh, life
is stuff, so I need I need to get numb.
I need to get drunk. I need to get high
to to deal. Come Monday morning, you still have to deal.
I mean if there was a magic pill that I
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was having a shitty day and I could take this
magic pill and my problems just went away. Shit, yeah,
I understand. Then that's something that I would have understood
as a kid. When I started meeting kids that were
doing drugs to just be numb, I would understand life.
I would be I got it, get me a pill.
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I want to take five. But wait a minute, Wait
a minute, Wait a minute, wait wait wait wait wait.
So you've had a shitty week, stressful week. You have
your worries, your anger, your problems, people are hurting you,
shooting on you. You're not happy with anything. So you're gonna
go and find yourself at the bottom of a bottle
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or having taken some drugs to lose your mind and
to become numb. Wait a minute, doesn't it come back
on Monday? Do the problems lessen? Do they resolve? Themselves.
Actually sometimes they do, but I mean realistically, Come on,
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so now, fast forward. You're like, I want to live
my life by design. I want to create my own life.
I want to make my own choices. I want X,
I want Y, and I want Z. And if he
has it and she has it, why can't I have it? Why?
Because you have spent your last twenty years fucking off,
being numb, not taking your life seriously. You have to
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take your life seriously. What do you want? That choice
starts today. To live by design is to intentionally craft
your life like an architect drafts a building or a
composer right to symphony. It requires your your imagination, you're discipline,
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and your courage. It means you stop outsourcing your choices
to the memories of the past or the expectations of others.
Oh my god, I want what everybody else has. I don't.
I have no interest of going to someplace tropical. I
have no interest in jumping on a cruise. I call
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me weird. I just never did. I like colder places,
I like cabins. I love farm life. It's funny. So
many people have asked me, why why did you move
to Kentucky and I'm like, well before, besides it being
extremely like extremely cheaper and a lot easier to live
here and save money and do my own thing, why not.
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It's not like I just picked up my bags and
just moved to the first place. We did homework. Melissa
actually did homework. I'm not gonna take credit for that.
She did research state by state by state and had
to base it not on what the stats say, but
what works best for us our interest, because it starts
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off with us sitting down and writing and going, what
are your interest? What is it you want? What is
it you wish to have? What is it you don't
want to have? What do you want to deal with?
What don't you want to deal with? The only factor
that wasn't brought into this was we didn't realize how
incredible Southern people were. Notice I did in say Kentucky
Southern people in general, but I can't say in Kentucky
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these are the nicest people I have met yet. And
it's funny because I've mentioned that in groups, different Kentucky
county groups, and you always get those people, are you crazy?
Now here? Well, every place is good and bad. Where
I came from was a rat race. It was a
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money hungry place. It was just competition, and what are
you doing? And how come I'm not doing better than you?
And how come you're not doing better than me? And
that here nobody cares. And I mean that at least
the entire county I'm in right now, and a few
others I don't see it. It's a lot slower here.
The race has ended here, you know it never began.
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People just choose to live to live, and it's easier
to live by design and a place where I feel comfortable.
It's not about living by design, is not about perfection.
It's not about rigidity. It's not about controlling every outcome
of your life with total complete control. Now, if you
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come here thinking that you're going to control time, go
home and it doesn't happen. This is this is God's Lands,
as some say. It's a place where you come to
truly enjoy the sound of cows and chickens in the background,
watch grass grow quickly and be a part of the storms,
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and bathe in the sun. It's magical. But it's about
my alignment to my life. It's about narrowing the gap
between my inner truth and my outer life. It's about
living in a way that honors what matters most to me.
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It's not always comfortable, but it is always empowering to
live by design. To live by this design, what does
he mean? It's to set clear intentions for your life,
to live in alignment with your values, to say noted
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distractions and yes to my purpose. To take radical responsibility
for your experiences in your life. To build habits that
support your future, good habits, not stupid shit. To create
meaning rather than wait for it. I like that one.
To navigate life with curiosity, creativity, and courage. In short,
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it's to become the author of your own existence rather
than a passive character in someone else's story and how
they live in Why do so many people choose to
not live by design? Well? If living by design is
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so empowering, why do so people choose it? Well? The
answers are complex, but here's the basics. One is conditioning,
which is a big one from childhood. Many of us,
most of us are conditioned to follow certain scripts, to
go to a certain school, get a certain job, to
settle down, to obey, to conform, to have children, pick
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a fence dog, you know, the two kids. Everything we
internalize these messages often mistaken them for our own desires.
And this is why I know so many people that
either halfway through that ride either jump the fuck off
or say they're happy, which there are many that are.
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But then all of a sudden something happens, there's a tragedy,
the spouse, one of the spouse's passes. Then all of
a sudden, that person loses their shit, and people are like,
what happened? They were living, They weren't living their true life.
They might have been content, they might have been happy,
but now the fact that they have the chance to
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get to know who they really are, as some people say,
they lose their shit. It's basically like, right now, you're
living a certain life, doing your own thing. If I
was to hand you a check for five hundred million dollars,
how quickly would your life change? Why? Oh, because I
have money now that has nothing to do with it.
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Why because you could buy more crap? No, you can
still live happy, you can still save up, you can
still buy the certain things. You don't need to get
a yacht. You barely own a home, and you're gonna
buy an eighty. I've heard so many stories, which is funny,
of people losing their shit after the window lottery. But
it is it's conditioning to obey, to conform. A big
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one is fear, Yes, yes, DF word. Living by design
requires stepping into the possible unknown. What if my choice
doesn't work out? Yana? Who fucking cares? You try and
you try again. I think by this age in your life,
you realize that you have tried quite a few times,
so fear. By the time you get to like middle age,
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fear shouldn't be an issue of anything. By now, you've
been through it all. You've been through the rodeo so
many times that when things happen, you're going, Okay, it happens, Well,
how do I resolve it? It demands the courage to
let go of the familiar and risk failure, judgment, rejection.
I've never been judged. I don't really care. You know
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what I probably have. I just didn't care. It's my life.
Never had an issue with rejection. This is when fear
will do to me. It's the devil will whisper in
your ear. It's safer to stay where you are. To
be in fear. Don't go outside, don't challenge yourself, don't
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think outside the box. That's fear speaking, that's what's keeping
you back, and that's not good. Life can be overwhelming,
of course it can, but that's because it's magical, it's beautiful,
it's larger than life. Life can feel chaotic and fast
paced when survival takes priority, Intentional living can seem like
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a luxury. Many feel too exhausted to even imagine a
different path. I'm okay where I am? I think, yeah,
I'm okay, But then all of a sudden, the possibility
opportunity of something else comes along, and they jump on
that shit. Why. That's why I always tell people when
it comes to like, especially like jobs or relationships, a
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lot of people will be like, I am so happy. Yes,
you are so happy until a new job comes along
offering you more money or better hours, or a relationship
you know you're in a shitty relationship, but you know what,
it's good. And then a new person comes along in
your life, and how quickly you start bashing the person
that you were supposedly so happy with. Why Because there's
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a new opportunity, there's morning. Many people go through life
without clarity, without seeing what they really want. They're just confused.
Many people never pause long enough to ask what they
truly want. Without clarity, we drift without vision. We survive,
but we never thrive because we're not truly clear. We've
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never taken the time to really think, what is it
you want to me? It's gotten to the point, at
this age, at this point in my life, I want health.
Health has become my wealth. Ain't that crazy? Health has
become my new wealth? And peace, to be able to
wake up next to someone that I love dearly, surrounded
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by my animals, to go have a cup of coffee,
to go out my side door, open the door, look
out at the clouds, at the sun, to see whatever
God is preparing for my day, a stormy day, rainy day,
a hot day, whatever it is. I'm not complaining. Whatever
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He throws my way, I accept it and I shall catch.
And then one that comes along since we were kids
is self doubt, the voice of the inner critic, which
is usually ourselves. It's a loud voice. You can't do this,
you can't dream big, you're not worthy, you're stupid, you're dumb,
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you don't have what it takes, says who. Then, of course,
if you live on social media, and then you know
you just listen to what everybody says, and celebrities and
what they do and watching talk shows and soap operaism,
and this is how they live their life. And then
you start comparing it to your own. It's like, don't
that's called television, that's fake land. In a world that
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glorifies productivity over presence, distraction over depth, and conformity over authenticity,
living by design seems like a radical act, but it
is one that it is up to you to choose
to do. But radical does not mean impossible, It means revolutionary.
Get up, stand up. The first revolution is within your heart.
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When we do not live by design, we live by default. Oh,
it is like going through life on cruise control and autopilot.
Every day is the same day. I'm gonna wake up
at exactly the same time, eat lunch at the same time,
do the same thing, go to bed at the same time.
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We react instead of respond, We survive instead of thrive.
We wake up at forty or sixty or eighty wondering
where did my years go. We build lives that look
good on the outside but feel hollow within. The cost
of living by default includes regret for the unlived life,
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burnouts from chasing goals, that just don't even matter, disconnection
from self and others, numbness, boredom. How can you be
bored in this life? I think that's fascinating. I knew
of a friend of a friend that always complained that
they were bored. I'm like, how you can do anything,
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and I'm not talking about what any money. Stop with
the money. You can do things for free. Melissa and
I do things for free all the time. Our trip
is actually us. So whether we go to a mall,
whether we go to a restaurant, whether we go to
a park, whether we go on a boat ride, whether
we just go for a walk on our property. See,
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it's perception. It's not the property, it's the company. It's
a sense of meaninglessness or purposelessness that people have. As
Victor Frankel wrote, I've quoted him before, life is never
made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning
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and purpose. What is your meaning and what is your purpose?
Living by design restores meaning. It reminds us that life
is not something that happens to us. It is something
that we participate in, shape and create. Every single day.
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You are creating you because you have the power of choice.
Everything changes when you recognize that you have a choice.
You may not control what happens to us, but we
can always choose our response. We can choose to wake up.
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We can choose to stop sleepwalking through life. We can
choose to dream, design, and do the power of choice
is the power to define your success, reclaim your time,
shape your habits, heal your past, and create your new future.
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Or by the end of this podcast, it comes to
an end, it turns off. Maybe you watch something else,
maybe get a bite to eat. Then before you notice,
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time to go to bed. No goals, no dreams. Instead
not realizing that your life becomes an art every moment,
a brushstroke, every day of fresh canvas to start over
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if you want, If you choose to live by design,
you need a framework. Here. Here are some some I
would like to say guides on this journey. Clarity. I
mentioned that just a few paragraphs ago, and that's a
big one. You need to get honest about what you want.
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You need to get honest about what you want and
also you're ready in what you don't want. You need
to reflect on your values and deepest desires, journal, meditate,
and seek stillness to hear that inner voice what is
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your vision? Sit there and close your eyes and imagine
your ideal life one year, five years, ten years from now.
What does a meaningful life look to like toue you?
Because I can guarantee you a meaningful life to you
does not look like a meaningful life to me. And
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that's the beauty of each and every one of us.
And then of course you must be real realize that
you must dream without censorship. Not I wish to do this,
but I would like to do that. But if I
can only do that, But it's a sense of alignment
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and your mind of what it is you really want,
and start to focus on it and allow it to sink.
Identify where your life is out of sync with your values?
What are you doing wrong? Try to figure it out?
It and most of us know, we just don't admit
to it. But so what make small courageous changes to
move towards alignment. Balance, Create goals and systems that support
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your vision. Break big dreams into realistic small steps, track
your progress and adjust as needed boundaries. Say no to
what drains you, say yes to what nourishes You protect
your time, energy and focus. Focus on a growth mindset,
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Embrace failure, what yes. Embrace failure as feedback. Be willing
to evolve, be willing to learn continuously. Community. Surround yourself
with people who support your growth, people that want to
see you do well, really want to see you do well.
Seek mentors, accountability, and connection. Living by design is not
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a solo act. It's not easy. It is nurtured in community,
supported by tools, and grounded in ongoing reflection. It's a journey.
It's an inner journey. While strategy is important, the real
journey of living by this is inner. It's about healing
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your relationship with yourself. It's about recognizing your worth, confronting
your fears, and choosing presence over performance. Because you must
ask what stories am I telling myself? What is coming
out of my mouth and my ears are listening to
that believe I can't do this, I'm fat, I am incompetent,
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i am incapable. What patterns are you repeating? What are
you afraid of now? What moves you on? What lights
you up? What inspires You must unlearn the noise of
the world and relearn the wisdom within. You must unlearn
the noise of the world and relearn the wisdom within.
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The answers are already there in your head, that big
ass head of yours. All the answers you want to
write there with this big ass head. It's not a forehead,
it's a five six head. But you have to listen.
Living by design means you no longer betray yourself for approval.
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You no longer postpone your life for permission. You step
into your own authority and live like you fucking mean
it again. Will it be easy now? Feel as easy
when it be worth it. There will be many obstacles
along the path. There will be a lot of dickheads
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and jerks that are trying to knock you off because
they're envious of you, jealous of you. Challenges will come,
doubts will rise. You will fall off track time and
time again. Hopefully not as much, but I'm a realist,
but every fall is part of the path. Expect, resistance, anticipate, discover,
do not let anyone stop you. Right now, you're dealing
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with your inner critic, your self doubt, your fear of judgment,
your setbacks, your failure, your perfectionism, and your comparison to
everybody else there. These are not signs that you are failing,
my friend. They are signs that you are stretching. Please
keep going and adjust your sales, but stay the course.
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This is your life. No one else can design it
for you. Throughout history, Throughout history, countless people have defied
convention to live by design, From artist entrepreneurs, from my
activists to explorers. They chose intention over inertia. They followed
a quiet voice within that said there is more good,
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go find it. Continue Steve jobs, families, he said from Apple,
your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone
else's life. Maya Angelou create herself through writing, activism, and
unwavering self expression. She just let it all out. Nelson
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Mandela spent twenty seven years in prison, yet emerged with vision,
purpose and forgiveness. You don't have to be famous to
live by design. Every Day people quit jobs every day,
people leave toxic relationships every day, people start new businesses
every day, people move to new cities every day, people
change habits every day, people reclaim health, and every day
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people rediscover joy. These are the quiet, powerful revolutions that
change everything. Here are some practical exercises. As you know,
I like to give you work sometimes at the end
of these shows, hopefully you deal with somebody else. But
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the ideal day exercise I think is to write out
your ideal day from morning tonight. It doesn't have to
be for today, for even tomorrow. You could write it
out and do it next week. But your ideal day
from morning tonight, what do you do? Who are you with?
How do you feel right now? What is your ideal day?
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What do you do? Who are you with? How do
you feel? And maybe if you do it and you
like what you did, pick two days, you knowlet's start
with the weekend, Saturday and Sunday. Now, speaking of value,
knowing your values, what are your top five values in life?
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Think about that and then reflect on whether your current
life reflects them. I've have quite a few people go, yeah,
I know it does. What are your top five values?
And then reflect on whether your life reflects them? And
then how about doing a little life audit? Really sure,
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review the main areas of your life, which would basically
be a health, relationship, career, finances, personal growth, spirituality. Rank
them from one to ten of how you are thriving,
where are you're surviving, how well are you doing in
your health, in your relationships, in your career, and your
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finances and your personal growth. How well are you doing?
Rank them one to ten? Where are you thriving? Where
are you just barely surviving? Every moment we wake up,
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we are offered a silent truth that you are alive
and that we are free to choose. Whether this feels
empowering or overwhelming depends largely on our own awareness, our upbringing,
our surroundings, and our courage. But still it is true.
To be alive is to be offered choice, and to
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be human is to possess freedoms. You have so many freedoms,
so innate that we often overlook their their sacredness. We
live in a world of infinite forks in the road. God,
there are so many. Some we walk blindly past. Others
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we fixate on, paralyzed by the weights of decision. Should I,
shouldn't I? Could I? Could I. But no matter how
conscious or unconscious we are of it, out of it,
we are always choosing to remain still as a choice
to speak or stay silent, to try again, or to
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give up to love, or to close off to learn
or to retreat into ignorance. These are all our choices,
and the freedoms that allow for those choices, Whether granted
by society, protected by law, or given by nature, shape
the entire course of our lives. This podcast will explore,
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if it hasn't, hopefully at some point in so many
of these episodes, the vast terrain of your mind, of
your choices and your freedoms. It should break down all
of your personal, emotional, mental, spiritual, and moral dimensions of
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human liberty. Questioning not only what your choices have been,
but what you're doing with them. Begin with the internal
gift of awareness, your consciousness, the very fact that you
are able to reflect on your life right now as
you listen to me. The fact that you can sit
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there and go, hmm, maybe I should have tried harder,
Maybe I shouldn't have dated that person, or spent that money,
or done X, Y and Z. But from the moment
you recognize yourself in the mirror, your life is marked
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by the unfolding of decisions. The child who chooses to
hide or speak up, the adolescent who chooses rebellion or conformity,
the adult who chooses survival over or fulfillment. Each is
operating from this base levels of inner liberty. It's the
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freedom you have to choose what you want. Any of
us depending on where we live and under what government
or societal structure, are granted freedoms by law. At least
I know in this country right now. In this podcast
is listened to by quite a few people in different countries,
different continents. We all have different abilities to do different
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things in our life. I pray for everyone on this
show that we all have the freedom of movement, the
ability to walk, drive, or travel without undue restriction. Freedom
of speech to express our thoughts, ideas, opinions, our beliefs
without censorship. Freedom of assembly to gather, to break bread,
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to create community. This is a big one for me
because I just think it's funny that people to this
day still criticize others freedom of religion or belief. In
your life, you have the ability to worship or reject worship,
do as you so choose, just don't hurt others. And
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the freedom, especially with the Internet, the freedom to learn
and learn and learn, the ability to work, start a business,
or choose a path to self sufficiency. These freedoms, while
seemingly standard too many, so many of you just take
them for granted, are luxuries imparts of the world where
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oppression reigns. To have these is to hold a sacred trust,
not only to use them, but to defend them when
they're threatened. Are you emotionally free or are you still
ruled by fears, old wounds, past betrayals, inherited shame, or
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societal expectations. Many people are illegally free, yet emotionally imprisoned.
Emotional free is the choice to forgive rather than cling
to resentment, to trust again after being broken, to express
your true feelings without apology, to let go of rolls
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that no longer fit who you are. Mental freedom means
you choose what you think right now. You can agree
with what I'm saying or not. You don't just accept
what you've been taught, and you shouldn't. I always tell
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people look it up, do your homework, do your research.
Does this belief serve me? You seek truth, not comfort.
You learn and unlearn. You deprogram yourself from what the
world has told you you must be. And this is
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where you design your mic, your mind like a garden,
pulling the weeds of fear, hate, limitation, planting seeds of clarity, openness,
and crystal and critical thoughts, Releasing jealousy, enveep just I
want to live a life of clarity, of hope, of love,
of faith, true faith, not saying I believe and then
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doubting with fear two seconds later, I believe, and I
really do believe. Mental freedom is a superpower. Mindset is everything.
Few use it most outsourced to tradition, media or public opinion.
What about you? You can't choose differently, literally and spiritually.
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You can't wake up and go through the motions, or
you can wake up and go to your potential, to
your responsibility, to your brief time on this planet. It's
very brief. Each morning is a fork in the road.
It really just think about it. Will you honor the
day or will you waste it away? Will you walk
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in alignment or where you walk with your goals? Or
let the winds of distraction just blow everything around like dust?
To try again, to begin, to show up, to speak,
to write, to risk, to act. You are always one
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decision away. I love this. You right now are one
decision away from completely changing your life. One message, one yes,
one more attempt. You are not as stuck as you feel.
You are just afraid of choosing something unfamiliar. Choosing to
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try is one of the most courageous acts of your life.
You don't have to say yes to everything. You don't
have to please everyone. You can walk away from things
that don't serve you. You have the freedom to reclaim
your time, your space, your energy, and your peace. Saying
no is an act of self respect, and you're allowed
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to choose it even when it disappoints others. Some people
have had their dreams crush so earlier that they forget
that they could dream again. But you still can. You
can still imagine a future that you want and work
backwards from it. You can dream and not apologize for it.
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What will you do with the freedoms that you are given.
You can use them selfishly or meaningfully. You can grow
complacent or become a voice for those without voice, be
their voice. You can chase comfort or chase growth. Freedom
is not only a privilege, it is a responsibility. The
freer you are, the more you owe the world your integrity,
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your purpose, and your compassion. Living by design is not
a destination. It is a daily decision. It is the
quiet courage to choose meaning over motion, purpose over passivity,
and growth over comfort. It is that radical act of
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remembering that this is your one life and that you
are free to shape it. You hold the pen. You
are the author right now. You can start a new
chapter at any time, no matter your past, no matter
your age, no matter your circumstance. You can choose today
to live awake because you are not a victim of life.
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You are the creator of it. And the choice is yours.
So breathe deeply. Know that you can begin again, design
wisely and live fully. And it is at this time
that I say, I hope I made you think. I
hope I made you question your existence and to appreciate
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every tomorrow, every today, and to be grateful for all
of the experiences of the past that have made you
who you are. Right now, keep this in mind. Choose acting,
action over excuse, purpose over comfort, and the work that
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matters over the distractions that don't. My name is Jimmy
Gonzalez and this was the Reset Yourself twenty two podcasts.
Go forward and live your life to the fullest. Thank
you so much for listening, liking, and especially sharing with others.
It means a lot more to me than you will
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this thing called life.
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Hello, Hello, how are you? I hope you're well. We
take one of these off a little bit. It's been
a hot, hot few days, but it is what it is.
Would expect before I know, it'll be cold and people
will be complaining about that too. So in this weekly podcast,
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I focus on sparking your inner confidence and igniting your
belief in yourself. I am your host, and I am
always very thrilled to share my thoughts and research with
you as you go along on this wonderful journey. Together, you,
I and Henry, who is stretched out right here, can
nurture a mindset that empowers us to reach our fullest potential.
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I write to record every episode to challenge your thinking
and to encourage you, hopefully to reflect and inspire actionable,
realistic steps towards your personal growth, whether you're facing a
career transition, seeking to overcome challenges, or simply striving for
greater fulfillment in life. This podcast hopefully is your go
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to resource for motivation and practical insights. I know it
is for many, and for that, thank you. My inspiration
to do this show is to teach people to focus
more on what they can accomplish so they can do
the things they need to do when they need to
do them, so that ultimately they get the things they
want when they want to have them. And this episode
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is dedicated to you. Back to yes you talking to yes,
you see me looking at you. I'm looking at you directly.
It's dedicated to you. Tell me what you want and
I will show you how to get it. The question
is are you willing to do the work? You can
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tell me? We ask I can. I don't care what
it is. You may not like my answers. You may
not like what I have to say about how to
get it, because a lot of it has to do
with getting off your acid doing it. But it doesn't
matter what you say you want, bring it, email me.
I've actually had people do that. Email me, message me,
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text me. Tell me what you want. I will tell
you how to get it. So how has your life
been going? It has been good? Pretty good? Great, or well,
it's okay, Jimmy, It's all right. My favorite is life sucks.
(03:43):
The fact that people still have the audacity to say that,
why because you were irresponsible and forgot to pay a bill,
because you chose to drop out of school, you chose
to listen to those that actually had good advice and
follow the advice of some loser friends. So now here
(04:08):
you are looking back, going my life sucks. That is
a matter of your opinion and a sad one. That
is life is what you make of it. It is
all based on your perception of it. Even when shit
goes totally wrong, there are people right in the middle
of it going well. It is what it is. Your
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life and experiences are seen only through your eyes, your battles,
your challenges. They're for you to deal with and hopefully
at this point learn from. If you are lucky, then
you may have gotten through a part of your life
with someone that is very special. But people come and
(04:51):
go in your life, like the stories in the chapters
of your life's book. I tend to often think back
when I hear the song Somebody that I used to know,
You know, the song by Goite and Kimbra with the
main lyric somebody. Now you're just somebody that I used
to know. You See, as you go through your life,
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people do come and go, friendships, jobs, hobbies, cars, houses,
and sadly even pets. But you are still here. Why
why you you think you're still here to work that
nine to five job, pay your bills and hopefully and
(05:33):
have a decent weekend and then complain Monday morning that
Monday sucks and so does life. You really think that's
why you're still here. God, that's fucking pathetic. I hope not.
You think you're there just watch TV all week and exist.
You think the universe, God Goddess moved so many mountains
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so that you can exist today, so that you can
just sit there and just waste your life watching TV
or scrolling on the phone. Consider this a challenging show.
Usually people were like, well, you know, everybody's different. Now
I'm gonna be like, no, life is way too amazing,
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too magical, too beautiful, too intense for your purpose to be.
I'm here to play video games all day and that
be a part of the planet that you live on,
the planet that you live on rent free, the planet,
(06:44):
that nothing is owed to you, and that you must
earn it, you must sweat for it. You must work
for it by helping others, by helping others move mountains,
by inspiring everybody you see, and being good to animals.
That's as cute, He's like, am hah. But I mean
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you are the main character in your life. So right
now today, I ask of you, what has changed in
your life over the past year? How about five years,
and you know what, let's skip. How about twenty years,
how about forty years? What has changed? New stories? New
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plot lines? You see, by middle age, your story has
probably had some very major plot twists since when you
were ten twenty twenty one. Were you once was on
a path with someone so special and everything was looking
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so good, and before you know it, they became someone
that you used to know. Do you have memories of
sitting with a family, breaking bread with loved ones and
their family, and now they are no longer part of
your story and they have just become strangers memories of
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your past. It is almost as if they were never
a part of it. I've had that a few times.
I think about it often. How weird that is the
amount of time you'd spend with someone with somebody's family,
going through so many actions and hobbies, their interest and
now all of a sudden, fast forward five, ten, twenty
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years and you're with a new group of people, a
new crowd, new interests. They're no longer a part of
your life. You may have had plans to become someone
special you yourself when you were young, you wanted to be
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a and for whatever reason, it didn't work out, And
now you're a doing It's amazing how life does that? Huh?
Your interests have changed, your hobbies have changed, Your life
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has changed mentally, physically, spiritually, You're in a whole new path. Yes,
this is the magic of life, to think. It is
all about the choices that you have made that have
led you to today. Happy with some maybe not with others.
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That doesn't matter, You're still here. But one thing I
do know, and I can guarantee, is that you have
the free will to make the choices that will lead
you onto the path that you so choose to be on. Wait,
but he or she made me do this or that,
or for my young listeners that still believe that, hey,
(09:59):
that's fine. For my older, wiser listeners, please just stop
your choice your path. You could have said no, but
you chose not to. But that's fine, but please do
not point fingers at others. You made some stupid mistakes.
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You made some stupid choices. So what you're starting right now,
and you can continue to make your choices of how
your day, your week, your year will end. It's up
to you now how your next relationship will pan out.
To live an exemplary life, you must be okay with
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accepting your choice is good, bad, and really dumb. You
are human, and you have and will continue to do
some dumb shit. Yes you, I'm talking actually all of you,
talking to all of you. Trust me, you're gonna continue
to do some really dumb shit. My opinion, the more
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mistakes the better. The more I fall, the more I learn,
It really makes me a wiser person. Well, unless I
am choosing to not listen. But I do. Every mistake
I do, I ponder it, I question it. Who did
I hurt? What did I say wrong? There have been
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some amazing people in my life, and there have been
some amazingly shitty people in my life too, But this life,
it goes on and on and on, and I'm still
here and so are you. How many anchors do you
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still have connected to someone that hurts you, that lied
to you, that cheated on you, that broke your heart.
Now here's the funny. A lot of people say, no, no, no,
I forgot about them. I don't really care. But when
I mentioned that description, pictures went up in your mind.
That son of a itch. What they did to you
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is for them to deal with with their sins, with
their actions, and not for you to still be carrying
it around weighing you down after all these years. You
must let go and release them, because it is you,
you that are allowing them to live with their sins
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and your head rent free. Because back in eighty four,
and in ninety three, and in two thousand and nine,
in twenty twenty one, that person hurt my feelings, that
person says something that traumatized me. That whatever am I
asking you to forget? You can't even through knows this.
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It's it's pointless. Why why would you want to forget
a lesson? But forgiving is not for them, forgiving is
for you. That's when people get that confused. People are like,
I'm not gonna call so and so. I didn't tell
you to call anybody, but you're the one carrying the
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weight of what they did to you, five, ten, fifteen,
twenty years later, things that were said, actions that were
done against you. But the best life, Your best life
is a clear life, a clear life where there is
no static there's no bullshit, there's no anger, there's no resentment,
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there is no remorse. Without that, you can now truly
focus clearly on where you need to go, what you
need to do, and what you want without doubt, without shame,
without with confidence, a heart filled with love and not
with hatred, truly letting go you then and only then
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can easily move forward and start focusing on your life
and start designing exactly what it is you want, not
just saying the words, but feeling in your soul what
you want to do, where you want to go, who
you want to be, and to live the life that
you so choose. This podcast is not about listening to
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some of the sentences that I happen to this or anything
inspirational to listen to sentences and then repeat what I
said because he said this and I think it's good,
and then I can see you still doing the same
stupid shit. If that's the fact, please stop listening to
this podcast. It's just it's a waste of time. This
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podcast is for you to listen and at times to
break it down. I mean, there's a lot of inspirational
people that I listen to, and I will I will
listen to them for you know, an hour, half an hour,
a few hours, and yes, at times I lose myself
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in their train of thought and there will be a
sentence or two that they say that it is also
as if I heard them stop and say, Jimmy, you
gotta believe in yourself, and it resonates with me for
the next few hours, a few days. I'm like, he's right,
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she's right. I really do have to believe in myself
and let go and have confidence and not just be
one of these people that write these men you know,
these mantras down or you know, it's like I will
believe in myself, I will be good, And it's just like,
do you believe it? Absolutely not. Your life is a gift.
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Everything about it is a gift. Guess what, even the
tough times, even the challenges, even when shit goes bad,
it's a gift. It's your chance to be able to
move forward, to grow, to love, and to live a
happier life. Even after being shit on by someone. You
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must want to continue to live your life even though
you keep getting dragged down through the mud. You just
keep wiping down and getting up, and you keep wiping down,
and something bad happens, and something else bad happens. And
what happens is you create habits. I can honestly say
I'm good at it. I'm good at it now. I
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see weird shit that happens, things that I know should
hurt me and break me, and I just trust me.
I don't do a cartwheel or a dance, but I
just accept it and see it for what it is
and what happened, and go okay, So what's next? Now?
Let me harp on this what just happened? No, what's next?
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How will I better myself because of this challenge, because
of this sadness, this misery, this accident, whatever, this tragedy.
To live by design means to deliberately shape your life,
your time, your energy, your value, your relationships, and your
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purpose according to what deeply matters to you, what matters
to you. It is a creative act, a rebellion against
apathy and a commitment to living fully awake, not numb.
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Not every time. Every time, see no offense. I'm not
trying to pick pointing fingers, but it's like, oh, life
is stuff, so I need I need to get numb.
I need to get drunk. I need to get high
to to deal. Come Monday morning, you still have to deal.
I mean if there was a magic pill that I
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was having a shitty day and I could take this
magic pill and my problems just went away. Shit, yeah,
I understand. Then that's something that I would have understood
as a kid. When I started meeting kids that were
doing drugs to just be numb, I would understand life.
I would be I got it, get me a pill.
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I want to take five. But wait a minute, Wait
a minute, Wait a minute, wait wait wait wait wait.
So you've had a shitty week, stressful week. You have
your worries, your anger, your problems, people are hurting you,
shooting on you. You're not happy with anything. So you're gonna
go and find yourself at the bottom of a bottle
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or having taken some drugs to lose your mind and
to become numb. Wait a minute, doesn't it come back
on Monday? Do the problems lessen? Do they resolve? Themselves.
Actually sometimes they do, but I mean realistically, Come on,
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so now, fast forward. You're like, I want to live
my life by design. I want to create my own life.
I want to make my own choices. I want X,
I want Y, and I want Z. And if he
has it and she has it, why can't I have it? Why?
Because you have spent your last twenty years fucking off,
being numb, not taking your life seriously. You have to
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take your life seriously. What do you want? That choice
starts today. To live by design is to intentionally craft
your life like an architect drafts a building or a
composer right to symphony. It requires your your imagination, you're discipline,
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and your courage. It means you stop outsourcing your choices
to the memories of the past or the expectations of others.
Oh my god, I want what everybody else has. I don't.
I have no interest of going to someplace tropical. I
have no interest in jumping on a cruise. I call
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me weird. I just never did. I like colder places,
I like cabins. I love farm life. It's funny. So
many people have asked me, why why did you move
to Kentucky and I'm like, well before, besides it being
extremely like extremely cheaper and a lot easier to live
here and save money and do my own thing, why not.
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It's not like I just picked up my bags and
just moved to the first place. We did homework. Melissa
actually did homework. I'm not gonna take credit for that.
She did research state by state by state and had
to base it not on what the stats say, but
what works best for us our interest, because it starts
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off with us sitting down and writing and going, what
are your interest? What is it you want? What is
it you wish to have? What is it you don't
want to have? What do you want to deal with?
What don't you want to deal with? The only factor
that wasn't brought into this was we didn't realize how
incredible Southern people were. Notice I did in say Kentucky
Southern people in general, but I can't say in Kentucky
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these are the nicest people I have met yet. And
it's funny because I've mentioned that in groups, different Kentucky
county groups, and you always get those people, are you crazy?
Now here? Well, every place is good and bad. Where
I came from was a rat race. It was a
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money hungry place. It was just competition, and what are
you doing? And how come I'm not doing better than you?
And how come you're not doing better than me? And
that here nobody cares. And I mean that at least
the entire county I'm in right now, and a few
others I don't see it. It's a lot slower here.
The race has ended here, you know it never began.
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People just choose to live to live, and it's easier
to live by design and a place where I feel comfortable.
It's not about living by design, is not about perfection.
It's not about rigidity. It's not about controlling every outcome
of your life with total complete control. Now, if you
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come here thinking that you're going to control time, go
home and it doesn't happen. This is this is God's Lands,
as some say. It's a place where you come to
truly enjoy the sound of cows and chickens in the background,
watch grass grow quickly and be a part of the storms,
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and bathe in the sun. It's magical. But it's about
my alignment to my life. It's about narrowing the gap
between my inner truth and my outer life. It's about
living in a way that honors what matters most to me.
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It's not always comfortable, but it is always empowering to
live by design. To live by this design, what does
he mean? It's to set clear intentions for your life,
to live in alignment with your values, to say noted
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distractions and yes to my purpose. To take radical responsibility
for your experiences in your life. To build habits that
support your future, good habits, not stupid shit. To create
meaning rather than wait for it. I like that one.
To navigate life with curiosity, creativity, and courage. In short,
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it's to become the author of your own existence rather
than a passive character in someone else's story and how
they live in Why do so many people choose to
not live by design? Well? If living by design is
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so empowering, why do so people choose it? Well? The
answers are complex, but here's the basics. One is conditioning,
which is a big one from childhood. Many of us,
most of us are conditioned to follow certain scripts, to
go to a certain school, get a certain job, to
settle down, to obey, to conform, to have children, pick
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a fence dog, you know, the two kids. Everything we
internalize these messages often mistaken them for our own desires.
And this is why I know so many people that
either halfway through that ride either jump the fuck off
or say they're happy, which there are many that are.
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But then all of a sudden something happens, there's a tragedy,
the spouse, one of the spouse's passes. Then all of
a sudden, that person loses their shit, and people are like,
what happened? They were living, They weren't living their true life.
They might have been content, they might have been happy,
but now the fact that they have the chance to
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get to know who they really are, as some people say,
they lose their shit. It's basically like, right now, you're
living a certain life, doing your own thing. If I
was to hand you a check for five hundred million dollars,
how quickly would your life change? Why? Oh, because I
have money now that has nothing to do with it.
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Why because you could buy more crap? No, you can
still live happy, you can still save up, you can
still buy the certain things. You don't need to get
a yacht. You barely own a home, and you're gonna
buy an eighty. I've heard so many stories, which is funny,
of people losing their shit after the window lottery. But
it is it's conditioning to obey, to conform. A big
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one is fear, Yes, yes, DF word. Living by design
requires stepping into the possible unknown. What if my choice
doesn't work out? Yana? Who fucking cares? You try and
you try again. I think by this age in your life,
you realize that you have tried quite a few times,
so fear. By the time you get to like middle age,
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fear shouldn't be an issue of anything. By now, you've
been through it all. You've been through the rodeo so
many times that when things happen, you're going, Okay, it happens, Well,
how do I resolve it? It demands the courage to
let go of the familiar and risk failure, judgment, rejection.
I've never been judged. I don't really care. You know
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what I probably have. I just didn't care. It's my life.
Never had an issue with rejection. This is when fear
will do to me. It's the devil will whisper in
your ear. It's safer to stay where you are. To
be in fear. Don't go outside, don't challenge yourself, don't
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think outside the box. That's fear speaking, that's what's keeping
you back, and that's not good. Life can be overwhelming,
of course it can, but that's because it's magical, it's beautiful,
it's larger than life. Life can feel chaotic and fast
paced when survival takes priority, Intentional living can seem like
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a luxury. Many feel too exhausted to even imagine a
different path. I'm okay where I am? I think, yeah,
I'm okay, But then all of a sudden, the possibility
opportunity of something else comes along, and they jump on
that shit. Why. That's why I always tell people when
it comes to like, especially like jobs or relationships, a
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lot of people will be like, I am so happy. Yes,
you are so happy until a new job comes along
offering you more money or better hours, or a relationship
you know you're in a shitty relationship, but you know what,
it's good. And then a new person comes along in
your life, and how quickly you start bashing the person
that you were supposedly so happy with. Why Because there's
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a new opportunity, there's morning. Many people go through life
without clarity, without seeing what they really want. They're just confused.
Many people never pause long enough to ask what they
truly want. Without clarity, we drift without vision. We survive,
but we never thrive because we're not truly clear. We've
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never taken the time to really think, what is it
you want to me? It's gotten to the point, at
this age, at this point in my life, I want health.
Health has become my wealth. Ain't that crazy? Health has
become my new wealth? And peace, to be able to
wake up next to someone that I love dearly, surrounded
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by my animals, to go have a cup of coffee,
to go out my side door, open the door, look
out at the clouds, at the sun, to see whatever
God is preparing for my day, a stormy day, rainy day,
a hot day, whatever it is. I'm not complaining. Whatever
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He throws my way, I accept it and I shall catch.
And then one that comes along since we were kids
is self doubt, the voice of the inner critic, which
is usually ourselves. It's a loud voice. You can't do this,
you can't dream big, you're not worthy, you're stupid, you're dumb,
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you don't have what it takes, says who. Then, of course,
if you live on social media, and then you know
you just listen to what everybody says, and celebrities and
what they do and watching talk shows and soap operaism,
and this is how they live their life. And then
you start comparing it to your own. It's like, don't
that's called television, that's fake land. In a world that
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glorifies productivity over presence, distraction over depth, and conformity over authenticity,
living by design seems like a radical act, but it
is one that it is up to you to choose
to do. But radical does not mean impossible, It means revolutionary.
Get up, stand up. The first revolution is within your heart.
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When we do not live by design, we live by default. Oh,
it is like going through life on cruise control and autopilot.
Every day is the same day. I'm gonna wake up
at exactly the same time, eat lunch at the same time,
do the same thing, go to bed at the same time.
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We react instead of respond, We survive instead of thrive.
We wake up at forty or sixty or eighty wondering
where did my years go. We build lives that look
good on the outside but feel hollow within. The cost
of living by default includes regret for the unlived life,
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burnouts from chasing goals, that just don't even matter, disconnection
from self and others, numbness, boredom. How can you be
bored in this life? I think that's fascinating. I knew
of a friend of a friend that always complained that
they were bored. I'm like, how you can do anything,
(32:30):
and I'm not talking about what any money. Stop with
the money. You can do things for free. Melissa and
I do things for free all the time. Our trip
is actually us. So whether we go to a mall,
whether we go to a restaurant, whether we go to
a park, whether we go on a boat ride, whether
we just go for a walk on our property. See,
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it's perception. It's not the property, it's the company. It's
a sense of meaninglessness or purposelessness that people have. As
Victor Frankel wrote, I've quoted him before, life is never
made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning
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and purpose. What is your meaning and what is your purpose?
Living by design restores meaning. It reminds us that life
is not something that happens to us. It is something
that we participate in, shape and create. Every single day.
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You are creating you because you have the power of choice.
Everything changes when you recognize that you have a choice.
You may not control what happens to us, but we
can always choose our response. We can choose to wake up.
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We can choose to stop sleepwalking through life. We can
choose to dream, design, and do the power of choice
is the power to define your success, reclaim your time,
shape your habits, heal your past, and create your new future.
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Or by the end of this podcast, it comes to
an end, it turns off. Maybe you watch something else,
maybe get a bite to eat. Then before you notice,
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time to go to bed. No goals, no dreams. Instead
not realizing that your life becomes an art every moment,
a brushstroke, every day of fresh canvas to start over
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if you want, If you choose to live by design,
you need a framework. Here. Here are some some I
would like to say guides on this journey. Clarity. I
mentioned that just a few paragraphs ago, and that's a
big one. You need to get honest about what you want.
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You need to get honest about what you want and
also you're ready in what you don't want. You need
to reflect on your values and deepest desires, journal, meditate,
and seek stillness to hear that inner voice what is
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your vision? Sit there and close your eyes and imagine
your ideal life one year, five years, ten years from now.
What does a meaningful life look to like toue you?
Because I can guarantee you a meaningful life to you
does not look like a meaningful life to me. And
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that's the beauty of each and every one of us.
And then of course you must be real realize that
you must dream without censorship. Not I wish to do this,
but I would like to do that. But if I
can only do that, But it's a sense of alignment
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and your mind of what it is you really want,
and start to focus on it and allow it to sink.
Identify where your life is out of sync with your values?
What are you doing wrong? Try to figure it out?
It and most of us know, we just don't admit
to it. But so what make small courageous changes to
move towards alignment. Balance, Create goals and systems that support
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your vision. Break big dreams into realistic small steps, track
your progress and adjust as needed boundaries. Say no to
what drains you, say yes to what nourishes You protect
your time, energy and focus. Focus on a growth mindset,
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Embrace failure, what yes. Embrace failure as feedback. Be willing
to evolve, be willing to learn continuously. Community. Surround yourself
with people who support your growth, people that want to
see you do well, really want to see you do well.
Seek mentors, accountability, and connection. Living by design is not
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a solo act. It's not easy. It is nurtured in community,
supported by tools, and grounded in ongoing reflection. It's a journey.
It's an inner journey. While strategy is important, the real
journey of living by this is inner. It's about healing
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your relationship with yourself. It's about recognizing your worth, confronting
your fears, and choosing presence over performance. Because you must
ask what stories am I telling myself? What is coming
out of my mouth and my ears are listening to
that believe I can't do this, I'm fat, I am incompetent,
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i am incapable. What patterns are you repeating? What are
you afraid of now? What moves you on? What lights
you up? What inspires You must unlearn the noise of
the world and relearn the wisdom within. You must unlearn
the noise of the world and relearn the wisdom within.
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The answers are already there in your head, that big
ass head of yours. All the answers you want to
write there with this big ass head. It's not a forehead,
it's a five six head. But you have to listen.
Living by design means you no longer betray yourself for approval.
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You no longer postpone your life for permission. You step
into your own authority and live like you fucking mean
it again. Will it be easy now? Feel as easy
when it be worth it. There will be many obstacles
along the path. There will be a lot of dickheads
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and jerks that are trying to knock you off because
they're envious of you, jealous of you. Challenges will come,
doubts will rise. You will fall off track time and
time again. Hopefully not as much, but I'm a realist,
but every fall is part of the path. Expect, resistance, anticipate, discover,
do not let anyone stop you. Right now, you're dealing
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with your inner critic, your self doubt, your fear of judgment,
your setbacks, your failure, your perfectionism, and your comparison to
everybody else there. These are not signs that you are failing,
my friend. They are signs that you are stretching. Please
keep going and adjust your sales, but stay the course.
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This is your life. No one else can design it
for you. Throughout history, Throughout history, countless people have defied
convention to live by design, From artist entrepreneurs, from my
activists to explorers. They chose intention over inertia. They followed
a quiet voice within that said there is more good,
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go find it. Continue Steve jobs, families, he said from Apple,
your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone
else's life. Maya Angelou create herself through writing, activism, and
unwavering self expression. She just let it all out. Nelson
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Mandela spent twenty seven years in prison, yet emerged with vision,
purpose and forgiveness. You don't have to be famous to
live by design. Every Day people quit jobs every day,
people leave toxic relationships every day, people start new businesses
every day, people move to new cities every day, people
change habits every day, people reclaim health, and every day
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people rediscover joy. These are the quiet, powerful revolutions that
change everything. Here are some practical exercises. As you know,
I like to give you work sometimes at the end
of these shows, hopefully you deal with somebody else. But
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the ideal day exercise I think is to write out
your ideal day from morning tonight. It doesn't have to
be for today, for even tomorrow. You could write it
out and do it next week. But your ideal day
from morning tonight, what do you do? Who are you with?
How do you feel right now? What is your ideal day?
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What do you do? Who are you with? How do
you feel? And maybe if you do it and you
like what you did, pick two days, you knowlet's start
with the weekend, Saturday and Sunday. Now, speaking of value,
knowing your values, what are your top five values in life?
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Think about that and then reflect on whether your current
life reflects them. I've have quite a few people go, yeah,
I know it does. What are your top five values?
And then reflect on whether your life reflects them? And
then how about doing a little life audit? Really sure,
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review the main areas of your life, which would basically
be a health, relationship, career, finances, personal growth, spirituality. Rank
them from one to ten of how you are thriving,
where are you're surviving, how well are you doing in
your health, in your relationships, in your career, and your
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finances and your personal growth. How well are you doing?
Rank them one to ten? Where are you thriving? Where
are you just barely surviving? Every moment we wake up,
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we are offered a silent truth that you are alive
and that we are free to choose. Whether this feels
empowering or overwhelming depends largely on our own awareness, our upbringing,
our surroundings, and our courage. But still it is true.
To be alive is to be offered choice, and to
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be human is to possess freedoms. You have so many freedoms,
so innate that we often overlook their their sacredness. We
live in a world of infinite forks in the road. God,
there are so many. Some we walk blindly past. Others
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we fixate on, paralyzed by the weights of decision. Should I,
shouldn't I? Could I? Could I. But no matter how
conscious or unconscious we are of it, out of it,
we are always choosing to remain still as a choice
to speak or stay silent, to try again, or to
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give up to love, or to close off to learn
or to retreat into ignorance. These are all our choices,
and the freedoms that allow for those choices, Whether granted
by society, protected by law, or given by nature, shape
the entire course of our lives. This podcast will explore,
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if it hasn't, hopefully at some point in so many
of these episodes, the vast terrain of your mind, of
your choices and your freedoms. It should break down all
of your personal, emotional, mental, spiritual, and moral dimensions of
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human liberty. Questioning not only what your choices have been,
but what you're doing with them. Begin with the internal
gift of awareness, your consciousness, the very fact that you
are able to reflect on your life right now as
you listen to me. The fact that you can sit
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there and go, hmm, maybe I should have tried harder,
Maybe I shouldn't have dated that person, or spent that money,
or done X, Y and Z. But from the moment
you recognize yourself in the mirror, your life is marked
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by the unfolding of decisions. The child who chooses to
hide or speak up, the adolescent who chooses rebellion or conformity,
the adult who chooses survival over or fulfillment. Each is
operating from this base levels of inner liberty. It's the
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freedom you have to choose what you want. Any of
us depending on where we live and under what government
or societal structure, are granted freedoms by law. At least
I know in this country right now. In this podcast
is listened to by quite a few people in different countries,
different continents. We all have different abilities to do different
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things in our life. I pray for everyone on this
show that we all have the freedom of movement, the
ability to walk, drive, or travel without undue restriction. Freedom
of speech to express our thoughts, ideas, opinions, our beliefs
without censorship. Freedom of assembly to gather, to break bread,
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to create community. This is a big one for me
because I just think it's funny that people to this
day still criticize others freedom of religion or belief. In
your life, you have the ability to worship or reject worship,
do as you so choose, just don't hurt others. And
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the freedom, especially with the Internet, the freedom to learn
and learn and learn, the ability to work, start a business,
or choose a path to self sufficiency. These freedoms, while
seemingly standard too many, so many of you just take
them for granted, are luxuries imparts of the world where
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oppression reigns. To have these is to hold a sacred trust,
not only to use them, but to defend them when
they're threatened. Are you emotionally free or are you still
ruled by fears, old wounds, past betrayals, inherited shame, or
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societal expectations. Many people are illegally free, yet emotionally imprisoned.
Emotional free is the choice to forgive rather than cling
to resentment, to trust again after being broken, to express
your true feelings without apology, to let go of rolls
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that no longer fit who you are. Mental freedom means
you choose what you think right now. You can agree
with what I'm saying or not. You don't just accept
what you've been taught, and you shouldn't. I always tell
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people look it up, do your homework, do your research.
Does this belief serve me? You seek truth, not comfort.
You learn and unlearn. You deprogram yourself from what the
world has told you you must be. And this is
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where you design your mic, your mind like a garden,
pulling the weeds of fear, hate, limitation, planting seeds of clarity, openness,
and crystal and critical thoughts, Releasing jealousy, enveep just I
want to live a life of clarity, of hope, of love,
of faith, true faith, not saying I believe and then
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doubting with fear two seconds later, I believe, and I
really do believe. Mental freedom is a superpower. Mindset is everything.
Few use it most outsourced to tradition, media or public opinion.
What about you? You can't choose differently, literally and spiritually.
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You can't wake up and go through the motions, or
you can wake up and go to your potential, to
your responsibility, to your brief time on this planet. It's
very brief. Each morning is a fork in the road.
It really just think about it. Will you honor the
day or will you waste it away? Will you walk
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in alignment or where you walk with your goals? Or
let the winds of distraction just blow everything around like dust?
To try again, to begin, to show up, to speak,
to write, to risk, to act. You are always one
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decision away. I love this. You right now are one
decision away from completely changing your life. One message, one yes,
one more attempt. You are not as stuck as you feel.
You are just afraid of choosing something unfamiliar. Choosing to
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try is one of the most courageous acts of your life.
You don't have to say yes to everything. You don't
have to please everyone. You can walk away from things
that don't serve you. You have the freedom to reclaim
your time, your space, your energy, and your peace. Saying
no is an act of self respect, and you're allowed
(52:01):
to choose it even when it disappoints others. Some people
have had their dreams crush so earlier that they forget
that they could dream again. But you still can. You
can still imagine a future that you want and work
backwards from it. You can dream and not apologize for it.
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What will you do with the freedoms that you are given.
You can use them selfishly or meaningfully. You can grow
complacent or become a voice for those without voice, be
their voice. You can chase comfort or chase growth. Freedom
is not only a privilege, it is a responsibility. The
freer you are, the more you owe the world your integrity,
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your purpose, and your compassion. Living by design is not
a destination. It is a daily decision. It is the
quiet courage to choose meaning over motion, purpose over passivity,
and growth over comfort. It is that radical act of
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remembering that this is your one life and that you
are free to shape it. You hold the pen. You
are the author right now. You can start a new
chapter at any time, no matter your past, no matter
your age, no matter your circumstance. You can choose today
to live awake because you are not a victim of life.
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You are the creator of it. And the choice is yours.
So breathe deeply. Know that you can begin again, design
wisely and live fully. And it is at this time
that I say, I hope I made you think. I
hope I made you question your existence and to appreciate
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every tomorrow, every today, and to be grateful for all
of the experiences of the past that have made you
who you are. Right now, keep this in mind. Choose acting,
action over excuse, purpose over comfort, and the work that
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matters over the distractions that don't. My name is Jimmy
Gonzalez and this was the Reset Yourself twenty two podcasts.
Go forward and live your life to the fullest. Thank
you so much for listening, liking, and especially sharing with others.
It means a lot more to me than you will
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ever understand. Many blessings to you all, Be well and prosper.
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