September 30, 2025 • 77 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Please note this show contains adult language and themes and
is intended for mature audiences only.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Listener discretion is advised. Daily Beloved, we're gathering here today
to get through this thing called life. You are listening
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to the Reset Yourself? What You Podcast? Your hosts? Hello, Hello, Hello,
How are you guys doing? I hope you are doing well.
I can't complain. Actually, what's the point of it. I
had a wonderful weekend. Actually was Melissa's birthday. She is
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getting younger every year, which is a blessing for everyone.
And concluding herself, it's been good. The weather is starting
to change a little bit. It's still a little too
warm for me, but it's overall it's beautiful. The leaders
are starting to fall and I cannot complain. And of
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course Henry is living the life. So in this weekly podcast,
I focus on sparking your inner confidence, yes yours, and
igniting your belief in yourself. I am your host and
I'm always very thrilled to share my thoughts and research
with you. As we go along on this journey together,
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we can nurture a mindset that empowers us to reach
our fullest potential. And God do I believe that so much,
and that is why I write a record every episode
to challenge his our thinking and to encourage us to
reflect and inspire actionable steps towards our personal growth. Whether
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you're facing a career transition, seeking to overcome challenges, or
simply striving for greater fulfillment in your lives. This podcast
as you go to resource for motivation and practical insights.
My inspiration, my weekly inspiration, is to do this so
that hopefully I can inspire you and teach you and
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guide you to focus on what you can accomplish, so
that you can do the things you need to do
when you need to do them, so that ultimately you
get the things you want when you wish to have them.
And this episode is dedicated to every single one of
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you as you hear this weekly. It's funny so many
people write to me and question it, but it's the truth.
Tell me what you want and I will show you
how to get it. The question is how you're willing
to do the work. I think about it. Most people
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I feel in life don't show up fully. I too
have had my days, my moments that I just didn't
show up to life fully. Instead, you drag through your mornings,
you scroll through your nights, you scroll on your phone
for countless hours, you have to listen in conversations, and
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you coast through work. You get there before you know,
you're just looking to end the day and just get home,
and then on to Wednesday, on to Thursday, on to Friday,
and then the weekend comes. Do you truly show up
to your weekends? Do you truly enjoy your weekends? Or
do they just also fly by? Before you know it?
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It's Sunday evening and you're complaining that the weekend went
by too quickly. I mean, life doesn't always give you
trophies for just being present physically. You've got to be mentally, emotionally,
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spiritually engaged. I want to start with a simple question,
but it's one that carries weight. I want you to
really hear it and then let it land. As I
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said you right now, are you showing up? Not just
physically because maybe you woke up, brush your teeth, had
your coffee, and walked out the door, But I mean,
are you really showing up for your life? Are you
fully here, fully awake, actually really listening to me? Fully aware?
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Think about that, fully aware, fully present, in the moments
that make up your day, your relationships, your dreams, your goals.
I have a friend I won't mention their name, and
I find it fascinating that while we're speaking to each other,
they will just go They would just look over me
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go uh huh yeah, okay, uh yeah yeah, And I
will change the conversation mid sentence, and this person has
no idea what's happening because they are somewhere else. I
just don't want you to miss an opportunity that's right
in front of your face. As I have witnessed, many
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people do things drop on our laps very often, and
a lot of times you're not present to really acknowledge it.
It's easy to think we are. We tell ourselves I'm here,
I'm doing what I have to do. Right, you show
up to work, you punch in, I'm here. But life
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has a way of slipping by, doesn't it. As I said,
before you know it, it's Sunday night, and you're like, oh,
where did the weekend go? Those days when you wake
up exhausted, distracted, or mentally checked out, maybe you're half
listening in a conversation like my friend, scrolling through your
phone while your family is talking to you, or going
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through the motions at work marking time. Instead of creating
an impact at work, you're just there to get a paycheck.
You might even feel a nagging emptiness at the end
of the day. Where did it all go? Did I
even live today? It's like going. For those of you
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that know I'm a hypnotherapist and a good comparison with people,
ask me what it's like, I'm like, well, actually, we
kind of do hypnosis on ourselves daily when usually a
big example is when we're driving. When you've driven someplace enough,
it gets to the point that you no longer have
to do the ten and two and focus on driving.
You just start driving and before you know it, you're
halfway there, and before you know it, you're there and
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you've arrived. And the whole time you've been either on
your cell phone or focused on the radio or listening
to a song or thinking about your day, you're not
consciously saying I need to take a left turn here,
I need to take a left turn there, I need
to take a right turn here, I need to turn
into this drug. You just know where you're going. It
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just becomes a part of you, which is fine. The
problem is, in a lot of these situations, there are
other things that happen that we just tend to not listen,
tend to not focus until the sentence is done, and
God forbid the turn. The person turns around and says
what did I just say? And you have no clue.
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You do the oh yeah, yeah, no, what was that again?
I want you to sit with that feeling for a moment.
Think about last week, maybe even last month. How often
do you feel that you fully showed up? And I
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don't mean like physically just to work, but let's say,
in an important conversation with a loved one, with talking
to your children, talking to your boss, even praying, even meditating,
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are you focused on what you're saying, what you're asking for.
Are you truly raising your vibration? Are you just going
through the words? It's because what I do is what
you do. And here's the thing. It's not just your body,
not just your presence, but your heart, your mind, your spirit,
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all engaged, ready and intentional. To manifest something, you have
to have real intention behind it. For years, I taught
vision boards and it's interesting because the more I taught it,
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the more I lost interests, not so much in the
concert of vision boards. I've used them many times and
they've brought me a lot of success. But often well,
I start to watch people as they do the vision board,
and it's again they're looking for instant gratification. I put
this picture up of Italy. I shall be in Italy.
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I see myself flying right now because there's a pic. No, no,
it's not the way it works. It's not the way
it works. You know. It's like you, there's there's steps,
there's many steps for some things. There's not many steps,
but it's like how focused on are you on what
you want? And like not just like oh, I want
to go to Italy? Like I love like shocking people
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When they'll turn to me, it's like, well, you know,
my plan, my bucket list is to go to Italy.
So I turned to them like, well, how much is
a flight? What airline would you go through, what airport
would you fly out of? Who would you go with?
When would you go? What time of year? What's the
weather like in the summer, what's the weather like in
the winter. Do you like Italian food? Is it for
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family visit? Is it is historical? Is it just sightseeing?
What are you going to be visiting Where are you going? Museums, boutiques, restaurants,
see Because to me, that's how you truly manifest the
things you want. You have to truly see them in
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your mind's eye, you have to feel them in your heart.
Study it. Get the book, you know, get those old
travel books, you know, visiting Italy and you begin to
put yourself, your mind, your spirit, everything on that trip.
Knowing how much airfare is I will not me, but
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I have had people that have been very successful after
listening to this concept of planning out, journaling, seeing the
trip happen before it's happened, and they've come back to
me like, guess what I went? I did it? Why?
Because they actually did the homework, They did the research.
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They didn't spend their entire lives going, you know, with
this bucket list of just nothing, just thoughts. I would
like to take a cruise to wear oh to an
island which one not sure how much is it? I
don't know, bigger large cruise ship, not sure, you're never going.
It's almost like wanting to play the lottery, but you
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won't go to the corner store to buy the ticket.
But I want to be a millionaire. When was the
last time we bought a lottery ticket? Yeah? You know,
I just I mean, I'm not a gambler at all,
but you know, I've had that conversation with many that
have said to me, I want to become a millionaire
and playing lottery. It's like, how often do you play lottery?
Not often? I want to be rich. Do you have
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a job. No, I'm interested in being a culinary chef. Fascinating, Okay, good.
Do you realize what's involved in being a culinary chef?
I've had I know, I can think of two people
off the top of my head that loved cooking at home,
went to culinary school, and then when they graduated, they
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realized is that basically most restaurants you'd be cooking at night.
Not always, but in both situations yes, And both of
them are like, that's not what I want. And it's like, well,
didn't you plan ahead? So one of them completely didn't
do it, and the other one started working for a
Pfizer pharmaceutical in their cafeteria during the day. And he
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loves cooking. It doesn't matter if it's at night, if
it's a five star restaurant or anything. He just wanted
to cook. And he's still doing well and he still
loves his job. But it's again, part of manifesting what
you want is knowing what it is, what's involved. I
know this isn't easy and I know it can feel heavy.
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I'm adding responsibility to you to plan ahead. Oh my god,
I don't have time for that. Then how bad do
you want the things you want? Because showing up fully
requires effort, It requires intention, and it requires honesty with yourself.
It requires looking at yourself in ways that are always comfortable.
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We all have the days we don't want to look,
we don't want to notice, we don't want to take
responsibility for our lives. You're human. It happens. We all
have the moments that we say, I'll just coast today,
I'll just do the minimum. And that's okay sometimes why not?
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But when that becomes the norm, Monday becomes Wednesday becomes Friday,
and then you have Sunday night. Monday becomes Wednesday, and
then you have Friday, then it becomes Sunday night. That's
when life starts to pass you by. I've been there,
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You've probably felt it times when I was exhausted from
working late from being pulled in a million directions from
life's many demands, physically present, mentally checked out, or moments
when I thought I was helping someone, but I wasn't
really there. I wasn't fully listening, I wasn't fully caring.
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And you know what, the people around me could feel it,
life could feel it, and more importantly, I could feel
it in myself. I was on autopilot, cruise control. So
today I want to explore this idea of showing up.
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I want you to ask yourself what it really means
to be fully present in your own life, not just
for the big moments in life, even the small ones,
because the small moments are the ones that build a
life and hold up and create the big ones. They
are the ones that shape relationships, create trust, and build
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the foundation for your They are the ones that define
the quality of your life. Throughout this today's episode, I'll
share a personal story here there observations, reflections, and I'll
guide you to think about the ways that you can
show up and what happens when you don't. And toward
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the end, I'll offer a few exercises and challenges that
can help you hopefully start practicing presence and full engagement
in every aspect of your life. So I want you
to start by taking a deep breath. Now obviously we're
not going into meditation. Just a deep breath, just wherever
you are. Just don't have to close your eyes and
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allow it to fill your lungs and hold it for
a moment. Man release, feel your body, feel your mind,
feel your heart, and just for a moment, ask yourself,
am I showing up today? Not tomorrow, not next week,
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right now? Not feel the depressing feelings or anxiety about
tomorrow today right now? Are you sitting here? Are you
are you walking while you're listening to this podcast? Are
you sitting somewhere comfortably, maybe having some tea? Are you
driving in your car? Be safe? Are you here? Because
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this is this is where life happens. Life is happening
right now. The past already happened, the future hasn't come yet.
If we can learn to show up fully in this moment,
we don't just live, we thrive. So let's talk about
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this struggle, the struggle of finding focus and to make time,
which seems to be so difficult so many people. I
just don't have the time, and it's just right, I
get it. But the thing is, you do have enough time,
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and when it's something you truly, truly, truly want to do,
magically you make the time. It just happens. You don't
have to think about it because your priorities change. Because
here's the truth, most of us don't show up the
way we could. And it's not always laziness, it's not
always a lack of care. It's life. Life is busy,
life is distracting, Life is exhausting, and sometimes it can
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be overwhelming. I get it, Trust me, I get it.
Think about a typical day. You wake up, maybe not
fully arrested, or your phone buzz is immediately, the news
is on, emails are piling up, thing ding, ding, thing, thing,
all these noises. You got Facebook, you have Instagram, you
have TikTok, you have a messenger. You go through your
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morning routine, half a wake barely, barely noticing what really
matters at that time. You know what it is, the sunrise,
the birds outside, the feel of your feet on the floor,
the sound of your loved ones, the presence of your children, pets.
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You take a moment to pet them, You take a
moment to hold your children, to kiss your loved ones,
then you get to work or whatever your tasks are,
and you do what needs to be done mechanically without
intention your present physically, yes, but mentally, spiritually, emotionally maybe
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not so much. And this isn't new. Many of us
live like this, thinking we'll catch up on life later.
We say, I'll rest this weekend, I'll reconnect next month,
I'll show up tomorrow. But tomorrow comes and tomorrow comes again,
and we still find ourselves on autopilot. We think we're
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living fully, but are we only existing? You do what
you can, but it's just not enough to check the
box that needs to be done to really know what
you're doing. Because a lot of times we may say it,
but are you fully invested in you? And of course,
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like I said, what's the biggest issue in our lives? Technology?
And trust me, I love technology. I use it often,
but now owning a farm here in Kentucky, when I
you know, like when I first started doing all these
repairs and taking care of the animals, I automatically have
my phone on me. I no longer carry it and
of course mostly yells at me because I should. But
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when I'm out there, I don't want to be bothered
I want to focus on my animals, their needs, making
them a little bit more comfortable. And then for those
of you that have animals, and especially on a farm,
there is always something to repair, there's always something to fix.
But for many of us, we have phones, we have
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social media, we have TV, we have analysts scrolling. These
things pull your attention away from the moment that you're
actually in avoidance of avoidance, Sometimes showing up is heart
Maybe it's hard to face a relationship honestly, a difficult conversation,
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or even your own feelings of the day, or the
decisions that you have to make that you and me
don't want to right now. It happens, Trust me, it happens.
You're present in your body, but your mind is elsewhere, thinking, worrying, spinning,
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could as should have would a fear of failure or judgment.
Some days we don't show up because we're afraid we'll
just fall short of the day, so we don't even try.
We hold back. All of these are real feelings. Trust me,
I'm not judging. I'm just being honest. They're human, you're human.
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And here's the kicker. The more often we operate like this,
the heavier life feels. The less we show up, the
more disconnected we feel from ourselves, from our work, from
the people that we truly care about. That creeping sense
of something's missing grows quietly in the background until one
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day you realize weeks, months, maybe even years have gone
by and you barely remember living them. I want you
to picture that for a moment. Think about the last month,
this last month. Are there moments you wish you had
been a little bit more present. Times you weren't listening.
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Maybe an opportunity landed on your lap and you didn't act.
You weren't quick enough, You didn't honor your own energy
or your own potential. Maybe it was a loved one,
Maybe it was at work. Maybe it was even a
moment where you could have done something for yourself. You
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could have gained something, you could have learned something, and
you didn't. It passed you by. Let that memory, that's
a moment, sit for a moment and just acknowledge it.
Trust me, It's not about like making you feel bad
the fact that you screwed up or whatever. Now, No,
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not at all. It's about focus on the future, what's next.
Let's be honest. This isn't about shame. It's not about guilt.
Life isn't handing out report cards, but it's recognizing the
gap between who we are and who we could be.
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That's the first step to change, because once you see it,
know that you have a choice. You can continue coosting
through life, or you can start showing up fully, consciously,
intentionally every single day. This struggle, this resistance is inertia.
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It's universal. Everyone feels it at some point. Even the
people who seem like they have it altogether, they too
have days when they just go through the motions. But
here's the difference. The people who thrive, who build meaningful lives,
are the ones who recognize the struggle and they do
something about it. They don't wait for motivation or perfect conditions.
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They just show up anyway. And here's where most people
kind of get stuck, thinking showing up is a grand gesture.
I'm here. Is that good enough? It has to be dramatic?
Huh that they need hours of uninterrupted focused, perfect energy,
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perfect conditions. Everything has to be so perfect once they
show up, or if not, the day just went to crap.
The truth is showing up is important, but it's still
it's a small start, A conversation where you really listen,
to attack as you tackle fully instead of half heartedly.
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A choice to rest when your body needs it instead
of forcing yourself through the day. Excuse me, a moment
of awareness in the middle of distraction. It's in those
moments repeat it over time that life transforms, slowly, imperceptibly.
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You become someone who lives instead of simply existing. You
reclaim presence, attention, and energy. You begin to notice things
that you've been missing, faces, smiles, the warmth of sunlight,
the birds singing above, the smell of roses, the quiet
of the evening, the sound of the rain, and more importantly,
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you begin to notice yourself, your desires, your needs, your strengths,
and your limitations. So today I want you to reflect,
where in your life are you only have present? Where
have you been coasting in your personal relationship amongst friendships
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at work? And what would it feel like to take
one small step towards showing up fully focused and really ready.
Because showing up isn't a single heroic act, It's a practice,
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a daily choice, and that moment you start, the moment
you notice the gap and decide to act, you reclaim
You reclaim your power. You reclaim your life. We've talked
about what it looks like when we don't show up
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and the caust it carries in our lives. If I may,
I want to go a little bit deeper. Why do
we avoid showing up? Why is it so hard to
be fully present, sometimes, fully engage, fully awake in our
own lives? The truth is, as I've said before, it
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is human. We're wired to avoid discomfort, uncertainty, and effort.
Our minds, our bodies, and emotions are constantly negotiating between
the desire for ease and that pull of purpose, and
let me tell you, most of the time, ease wins.
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One major reason we avoid showing up is the effort.
For those of you that know me, yes, fear, fear
of failure, fear of judgment, fear of not being enough.
Maybe it's fear that if we really show up in
a relationship and a conversation or our work will screw
it up. Or maybe it's fear that if we look
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at ourselves honestly, we'll discover we haven't been living the
way we hoped. Fear can be subtle, creeping in like
a shadow. It whispers not today, wait, maybe later, and
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too often we listen to that and later becomes tonight,
which becomes tomorrow, which becomes next week, and before you
know it, it's twenty twenty six. Then, of course, another
reason is just exhaustion, mental, emotional, physical, because life has
a way of draining you in countless ways. Deadlines, obligations, responsibilities,
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endless noise from phones, news, social media, all of it pulling,
tugging at our attention thousand directions, and then we're tired.
Our energy is low, and it feels impossible to show
up fully. So what happens. You just put it in
a cruise control and you just we tell ourselves, I'll
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do better tomorrow. I'll deal with it tomorrow. There's always tomorrow.
I get it. Then there's a distraction, not just the
obvious ones like screens and notifications constantly blurring on my
cell phone, but the distractions within our own minds, the worry,
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the anxiety, the self criticism, the rumination on the past
or the planning for the future. Even when our body
is here, our mind can be somewhere else entirely. Does
that happen to you? And when that happens, are you
truly showing up? No matter how hard you try, are
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you truly showing up? And then, of course are wonderful
habits that we create, and then trying to always be
in the comfort zone instead of challenging ourselves. We've learned
patterns over years how to move through life with minimal resistance.
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Showing up fully often requires stepping out of these comfort zones,
and sometimes it's theaser. Just stay in them, facing challenges
and bracing discomfort. Oh my god, that's so hard. Our
brains don't like hard. They like familiar, they like safe,
they like easy. So we stick to the familiar, even
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when it leaves us feeling unfulfilled. Sometimes sometimes we avoid
showing up because of internal conflicts or unresolved emotions. Guilt, shame, resentment, anger.
These feelings create a fog between us in the present moments.
They distract us, They hold this back. They make it
hard to engage with life fully, and we don't always
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realize it's happening. We just feel off. Do you ever
feel off? Do you ever feel disconnected? You ever feel drained?
Like something's missing but we can't name it. Finally, finally,
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there's the illusion of someday. Ah, that's a great word.
The trap of thinking that we'll show up later, someday
over the rainbow, when conditions then will be perfect, when
we have more energy, more time, or clarity right sometimes
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never someday, Sorry, some day never comes because life is
always moving. Tomorrow will always be tomorrow. Conditions are never perfect.
Energy ebbs and flow, and clarity only comes when you engage,
when you act, when you show up right here, right now.
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All of these reasons, fear, exhaustion, distraction, comfort zones, unresolved emotions,
and the someday illusion are very real. They're normal, they're human,
but they are also the obstacles that keep you from
living fully, and recognizing them is the first step towards
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breaking free from them. Here's the key insight. Avoiding showing
up isn't just about laziness. It's it's not a moral failing.
It's a signal. It's your mind and body body telling
you something important. Hey, you're tired, you're afraid, you're distracted,
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you are mentally out of a life or physically out
of alignment. But once you see it, you can respond.
You can choose differently. You can start showing up, consciously, intentionally, fully,
fully taking care of yourself. You know I'm tired. I'm tired.
I'm tired. Well, maybe there's something wrong with you. Maybe
it's just you know. Do you need vitamins? Do you
need a better diet? Don't just go with it. I
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worry about my listeners. I want to make sure you're healthy.
I want to make sure you live as long as possible.
Your body throws red flags? Do you see them? The
question you have to ask yourself, and I want you
to ask it honestly. What are you avoiding? Who are
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you avoiding? What are you running from? What would it
look like if you faced it head on and showed up?
Because showing up isn't easy. It requires courage, discipline, and awareness.
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But the reward being fully alive, fully present, fully engaged,
is worth every ounce of effort, and once you start practicing,
the small actions build momentum. Showing up because a habit
of lifestyle, a way of being ah, it is so good.
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Let you feel connected with the universe around you. You matter.
But now that we've explored why we avoid showing up,
the fears of distraction is the exhaustion and the habits,
it's time to imagine the other side. What does it
actually look like to show up? Fully in your own life,
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How does it feel and what does it demand from you?
Showing up fully doesn't mean being perfect. It doesn't mean
every day is flawless or that every moment is completely
and totally filled with production. It just means it being present,
being aware of, being engaged, being honest with yourself, being
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honest with yourself, being honest with yourself. It means stepping
into your day with intention, recognizing your energy, your time,
your focus, and committing to using it consciously. Let's break
it down into four areas. Wonderful areas body, mind, heart,
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and spirit. Let's start with the body, your temple. Your
body is your vessel, your vehicle through life. Showing up
for your body means listening to it the red flags.
My stomach really hurts, Oh my god, what are you
doing about it? I to go away. My knee has
been bothering me. Oh my god, what are you doing
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about it? Ah, It'll be fine tomorrow. Are you truly rested?
Are you nourished? What is your diet? Moving in ways
that support your health. It doesn't require a perfect diet
or a marathon every day. It's about awareness and respect.
Start your day by noticing how your body feels in
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the morning, Oh, it's in pain. It hurts my back,
hurts my leg right, So what are you doing about it?
And you're not just gonna let it happen? You stretch,
you breathe, you move intentionally, you do tai chi, you
do yoga. Yes, there's things you can do, or you
could just go to the gym, you could work out,
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or you know what, go for a walk. Go for
a walk in the morning, before work, after dinner, go
for a walk. I didn't say marathon, I didn't say triathlon.
All I said was go for a walk. Honor your
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energy levels. If rest is needed, give it without guilt.
Showing up for your body allows you to show up
for life. When you're exhausted or ignoring basic needs, your
presence is compromised. But when your body feels supported, even
small actions become very powerful. So that was body. Let's
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go right up here. Your mind is constantly spinning, it's
constantly working, it's constantly planning, it's constantly worrying, it's constantly analyzing,
and then it's replaying everything. Showing up for your mind
means being aware of your thoughts without letting them control you,
and not letting anybody live in your head rent free.
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You already are dealing with so much, and now you're
gonna let other people live in this at No, take
a moment to pause before reacting anything that happens in
your life, anything that happens in your life. Create a
habit that you stop for what may feel like a minute.
It's only two or three seconds, but just take a set.
Don't respond quickly, don't react horribly. Notice see when your
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attention drifts, bring it back. Choose focus over distraction, clarity
over chaos. It's not about controlling every thought. It's about
noticing where you are mentally and choosing to engage intentionally.
When your mind is present, your decisions are clearer, your
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creativity opens, and your interactions become richer. And then, of course,
you have your heart center of it all. Your heart
guides your connections with yourself and others. Showing up for
your heart means allowing vulnerability, compassion, and empathy to guide
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your actions that anger rage. Are you listening deeply to
someone without judgment? Are you acknowledging your own feelings instead
of suppressing them. Are you extending kindness and patience to yourself?
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Are you Showing up emotionally doesn't mean exposing yourself recklessly.
It means being honest, being available, and responsive to life's
emotional currens. When your heart is engaged, relationships deepen and
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even mundane moments gain meaning. They become special. Finally, I
do need to now have to spirituality. Spirituality your spirit
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doesn't have to be religious, but it is the essence
of your connection to life, purpose and meaning. For those
of you that don't know, I have been a meditation
teacher for over twenty years. I think now it's like
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twenty two years. I remember the first time I sat down,
I was like, I could not do it. You know
what it is? I could, It's just that I was
thinking the wrong thing. I wasn't focused on what I
should have been focused on. I wanted to be like
a monk in a movie, just sit there up on
the top of a cliff and shut out the world completely.
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And I couldn't because my mind was racing what's wrong
with me? And I speak from experience when it comes
to so many of my students that have come to
my classes in Orange and Middletown and different places that
we've had meditations, It's always been my mind is racing. Yeah,
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but what do you focused on? Are you living aligned
with your values and intentions? Are you engaged in the
accident nurture your inner self, your creativity, your service, your
gratitude or your mindfulness? Or are you just stressed out
over everybody on Facebook and what's happening? And I need
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to jump on this whole political game thing and I
don't like so I'm going to allow anger and rage
and sadness And why why focus on your spirit? When
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your spirits engaged, life becomes fuller. Moments aren't just passing quickly.
They're alive. They're vibrant and meaningful. Small actions begin to
demonstrate full presence. Showing up fully isn't always dramatic. It
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often shows up in small, consistent actions, small baby steps.
Giving your full attention to a conversation without distraction, completing
a task with focus and intention rather than rushing through it,
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taking a moment to just breathe and notice your surroundings,
Practicing gratitude or reflection at the start or end of
every day. Engaging in something someone that challenges you, even
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if it's uncomfortable. Each small act compounds over time, life
begins to feel richer relationships, more authentic, and your own
self respect grows. You start noticing that showing up isn't
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a burden, It's a gift you give yourself and to
the world around you. Your presence is amazing. I feel
that people that you know are lucky to know you,
and vice versa. Let me share a personal example. A
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few years ago, I was hosting a meditation workshop. It
was a meditation slash sound healing at a place up
in Connecticut. It was beautiful as around the holidays, and
I was I mean, I don't just show up with
my balls and start playing and go Everybody close your eyes,
feel the energy. Now I always have to show up earlier.
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I always have to feel the energy of the room.
I always have to make sure the flow of the
room is good, it's peaceful. But I was physically present,
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but I was still mentally scattered, thinking about sometimes when
it happens. It was a new venue, new room, new sound,
and I was worried about will they be happy? Will
my timing be good? That I shut off my phone
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once I began. I don't have to go to the bathroom, now,
do I? But then the session started and I realized
I wasn't fully there. I paused, I took a deep breath,
I centered myself, and I just recommitted to being present.
The shift, surprisingly was immediate. I noticed my energy changing,
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and it changed the energy in the room the way
participants just felt more comfortable because, as many of you,
hear it over and over and over and then I'll
ask people and they're not sure what it means. We
are energy. We are all energy. Animals are amazing. I
have many, and they feel your energy. When an animal
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sees some they don't like, they know it. When you
get to that point, you can do it too. You
ever walk in a room and you're just like, I
don't like being here, I feel weird, Or you meet
somebody for the you meet somebody for the first time
and it is as though you have known them your
whole life. And then there are those times that you
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meet people that you're just like, I don't like that person,
which is funny because you have no reason not to
unless they did something. But a lot of times we
have done that. Why because they remind you of somebody
that you you know from eighth grade? Is that fair
to them? Is it because they didn't treat you exactly
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what you wish they would have right then and there. Well,
maybe they're having a crappy day. It happens, it does happen.
But I, like I said, I personally took it. I
went in deep, and I centered myself, and I recommitted
to being present. I showed up fully. The entire experience
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transformed for them, for me, for everyone involved. This is
the power of presence. It's accessible to everyone in every
moment once you commit to it. I want to make
some actionable steps that I think you could work on
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to get better at this One om is reflection. Yes, reflection.
Reflection alone is to me, in my opinion, the most powerful.
But without practice, insight doesn't become change. So let's let
me explain the practical path, concrete steps you can take today, tomorrow,
and every day to show up fully in your life
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with awareness. The first step to showing up is simply
noticing when you aren't showing up. Awareness is your superpower.
Begin by taking stock of your day. Ask yourself, where
am I fully present? Where am I distracted? Use moments
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of pause while brushing your teeth, drinking coffee, or just
walking from here to there to check with yourself. Check
in with your mind, your body, your heart, your spirit.
Trust me, there's always time. You're driving a car from
here to there, you're in an office and you're just
going down to get some copies made. While you're doing it,
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check yourself if you have time, which I recommend, and
I mean now, we could do it anywhere. You could
just do it on your phone. You could do it
on your computer. Quickly, journal briefly about your observations today
of who you are, what's going on in your life,
where are your thoughts going and why? And those red
flags that you keep complaining about. Oh, I keep getting
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you know, acid reflux. I keep y'all just keep popping pills. Well,
a lot of those pills aren't medication. They're just to
help quiet it. Even a few sentences that you jot
down and can create a form of clarity. Awareness is
the seed. Without it, we keep autopiloting autopiloting. Never thought
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I'd say that word. Through life without realizing what is
slipping past us. Build micro habits of presence. Showing up
fully doesn't require huge dramatic changes. I tell people to
work out, they join a gym, and they do all
this stuff, and then within you know. I'm like, so,
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how did gym go? Yeah? I went. I went once.
I always tell people. I always tell clients that you
have come for weight loss. They expect I'm going to
give them this hardcore regimen that they're going to join
the Olympics and they need to lose sixty five pounds.
I tell them to start off by drinking more water
and to make sure that every day they go down
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to the mailbox. What yes, if you have a If
you don't, it's understandable. Walk around your block, walk around
your yard, your yard. But that's not enough. Stop thinking
so far ahead. You're creating new habits. Your habit now.
As you get home, you turn the tea on, you sit,
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you sit in front of it, you have dinner while
watching TV, you fall asleep during it, and then you
go to bed. That's awesome, I've done it. But I
I I'm very tough with myself. If I feel that
yesterday I slacked off, today I go to the gym.
And I have a farm, so I could just walk
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from here to the end of my property and back
and I come back and if it's a warm day,
I sweat and my just parts of my property and
are very hilly, so I make sure I go up
the hills, and I have a gigantic, hoarse Holly who
usually nudges me all the way up, which is hilarious.
And then if I don't do it, she bites me,
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which sucks. Most magical moment of your day is the morning,
because it's another chance at life your life. Begin your
day with a short ritual that centers you stretching, meditation, journaling,
or like I said, you know, everybody talks about a
quiet you know, cup of coffee, cup of coffee, well good,
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while you're having a cup of coffee, ponder give it
your full attention, and then throughout your day do check
ins as I said Paul's breathe, and ask yourself, am
I fully here? And then, of course, don't drawn yourself
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with a million things at once. Trust me, I'm a
master at it. Focus on one task at a time
instead of multitasking. Give it your full energy and attention.
These micro habits train your mind to be present and
help build momentum towards larger actions. Let me share something
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very private. I have come to the realization of of
course you learn about ADHD and autism and all these
different things, and you know, we joke I have this
and I have that. So finally I became aware of something,
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so I scheduled time I met with my doctor. I
went over it read. So I scheduled time with a
psychologist and she gave me a very intensive, intensive quiz
and then we talked before, we talked after and she
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was like, yeah, you have you have severe ADHD. And
she goes, You'd be surprised how many adults of my
generation are just we've become numb to the concept and
we just think this is the way life happens. I
can go to whenever I need to study or work
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or practice, I go to Panera. I don't know if
you some of you may have heard of that. It's
one of my favorite places, Panera, where I can have
a healthy lunch. And I will go and I'll bring
some books, stuff to read, stuff to study, and I'll
have my Usually I have a half soup, half salad.
If I'm really hungry, I'll have full both. But and
after the fact, I will sit there and I will
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focus on what I'm doing. The problem with that is,
tell me if this resonates with you. I'm sitting there
and I could reread the same page ten times. I
can hear their conversation while I'm trying to read my page,
listening to the girl yell out last names for whose
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food is next, the order that the new order that's
coming in, whether they want a bagel or a chocolate
croissant or maybe a cookie. I hear the music above
the fountain going off every so often, and then the
buzzing of those little buzzers that your food is ready,
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you know, those little table ones. And to me, at
fifty five years old, it was a super power. This
is awesome. So I go to my psychologist, my new psychologist,
and she's like, yeah, you have some very DHD and
you should try something called There's a lot of different things,
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but she put me on something called Straterra. So I
was like, all right, you know, of course, I read
all about it, did the Google research, and I even
joined some Facebook Straterra groups, and I took it. Usually
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they say it takes a week, everybody's different within three days.
It was monumental. I actually, for the first three four
days of taking it, I found myself constantly getting emotional
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and crying, as I feel like I want to do
now because It is as if everything that was going
on just went like this, and I was able to
read an entire page without having to hear if they're
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gonna have a chocolate cookie or a chocolate croissant. Now,
mind you, I guess there's still a superpower there doing
it for fifty five years, I could all of a sudden,
like just refocus and hear them, or hear the order,
or hear the fountain machine, or the door opening and closing,
that squeaky little door that sometimes you hear in the background,
the music playing with the song that you like or dislike,
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or the people next to you talking about something that's
way too personal. And then, of course in my situation,
I have me to listen in front of me talking
and she'd get mad because it just seems like you're
not listening. But then she would test me and I
would repeat exactly what she said, and again in my
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mind it was I'm superman. What I'm doing is I'm
tiring my body, tiring my mind. I'm trying to take
every buddy and everything in. I was focused. I could focus.
But since the pill, now I could really focus, not
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ninety nine percent, one hundred percent of what I'm doing,
and then again emotions and I cry because it's like, wow,
I go to the gym and I work out and
I'm not focused on everybody else's workout and the songs
that are playing and how many people are doing their
exercises right, and you know, what is that person wearing?
And you know, like the last time I went to
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the gym, there was actually a man in a kilt
and I was like, that's cool, instead of just focusing
on what I'm doing. In fact, this is a good one.
So I'm on the the the elliptical and they have
the screen, but I have the headphones that they're not connected,
so it's playing, but I'm listening to something else. So
here I'm listening. Just to give an idea. Here, I'm
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listening to a podcast and I'm watching usually like Discovery Channel,
and I click it so I could have the words underneath,
So I am listening to what they're saying, reading what's
being said, all while still listening to the music above. Yes,
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it's possible because I've done it for fifty five years.
Well not the first four or five, but you know,
now I'm at the gym and I'm focused on the
podcast and it's almost as if I just don't see
the television anymore, or I'm focused on the television and
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what they're saying just goes right by. It's freaky. I
couldn't be happier. But now I'm truly present, I'm truly here.
I'm fully here to focus on one task instead of
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the superpower of multitasking, I'm able to give it my
full energy and attention. These these habits that train your
mind to be present and help build momentum towards now
larger actions. And then, of course I really listen to
my body. I really feel my body. My body carries
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my life. Showing up fully means respecting all of my
body's signals, prioritizing rest. I sleep more now in Kentucky
than I ever did my entire life. Sleep isn't optional.
I used to joke all the time, I'll sleep when
I'm dead. Ask any of my family, my friends, and
my daughter. She'll say, ys, what Poppy says all the time,
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he'll sleep when he's dead. It's essential for clarity and energy.
Switch your matches, switch your sheet, switch your pillow, switch
temperature of your room. I love a cold room. Nourish
yourself with food, food and water that energizes you, not
fast food poison. Move your body daily. The older you get,
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the actual more you're supposed to move because your body
is slowly breaking down, so it's not like you move less,
you actually move more, even in small ways. You walk,
stretch your exercise. When your body feels supported, your mind
and heart follow through and become fully engaged. Neglecting the
body creates in visible barriers to presence. And then of
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course all the many intentions of the things that I
want in my life and how I see it and
how I view it, and how everything. Your mind is
your biggest instrument. Training it to focus and reflect allows
you to participate in your life fully. Practice mindfulness or
meditation daily, even for a few minutes every more. Every Monday,
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I do my Monday Morning minds I meditation. If you
go to YouTube, it's there. I always post it on
my Facebook. I keep it under ten minutes. Can't complain
it's under ten minutes because when you catch your attention drifting,
meditation helps you bring it back and then you start
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to really find yourself reflecting on life in general. Like
at the end of the day, right before you go
to bed. Where did I show up fully? Where did
I drift? Over time? This strengthens your ability to live
consciously rather than reactively. Every night, before you go to bed,
remember one thing right before you go to bed, like
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right when you're drifting off, The last thing you want
to do is go to bed fighting angry, pissed off, sad, depressed. Don't.
As you take that into the evening, you take that
into your dreams. Your mind is always listening to what
you're thinking, what you're saying. Over time, you fill yourself
with love, with guidance, and you see your mornings become
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clearer because you went to bed filled with gratitude, and
we have gratitude. What are you doing. You're opening your heart.
You're showing up fully with emotional support because your heart
is your compass. Listen deeply when others speak, without interrupting
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or planning your reply. I have a habit of doing
that because I am very passionate and I find myself
almost having two conversations. I need to say something. You
need to quiet. You need to be quiet for a moment,
allow yourself to feel emotions fully instead of suppressing them.
I found out that for a lot of people ADHD.
The reason we do that is because we feel like
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our thought will be gone. May we may miss it,
We may miss that moment, We may miss that I
gotta say, I gotta, I gotta say. Allow yourself to
feel the emotions fully instead of suppressing everything. But learn
to breathe before you speak, before you react. Learn to
breathe so you can feel for that moment and you're
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not an autopilot. And by doing this, you extend compassion
to yourself and to others, because it's small acts of
kindness and understanding that create ripples in your relationships and
your life. Engaging your heart transforms simple interactions into meaningful experiences.
And then, of course, connecting with spirit. Presence is since
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only about mind and body, it's about your spirit. Your
spirit connects you to your meaning, your purpose, and the
greater flow of life your life. Engage in practices that
remind you of your values and purpose. As I said,
and I keep repeating like a broken record, meditation, prayer, reflect,
creative expression, or service to others. Consider your choices daily.
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Am I living aligned with my highest intentions? Or am
I just pissing my day away? Celebrate moments of presence gratitude.
Gratitude is a powerful amplifier. When your spirit is involved,
showing up becomes deeply rewarding rather than a chore. And then,
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of course you turn steps into habits. You create, like
I said, daily rituals, mourning intentions, asking yourself, how will
I show up today? What is my day going to be?
Whether it's good or bad, it has nothing to do
with it. The secret is how you will approach it,
how you will acknowledge it, how you will react to it.
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And then lunchtime, at some point, whenever you sit to eat,
check in physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. And of course,
as I said, evenings, right before you go to bed,
how is your day? Ask yours? How is my day?
Could it have been better? Could I have been nicer?
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Could I have opened that door for that person or
donated money to that man? Did I do a dick
move today? Did I say something that I shouldn't have?
And I should apologize? No ego here. If you screw up,
just apologize. Structuring your life builds consistency. Consistency creates transformation.
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Challenging yourself to really start showing up, you need to
challenge yourself with one small but meaningful action each day.
Every day, yes, every day. Engage deeply in one conversation
without distraction, complete attack, keep been procrastinating on with your
full energy. Get a list of all the things that
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need to be done around the house, start from minor
to major. Spend uninterrupted time on self care, reflection. Step
outside your comfort zone in a small way every day.
Each challenge is a building block. It's making amazing proving
to yourself that you can show up fully, and each
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success strengthens that habit. Good enough, it's a habit. Showing
up is a practice, of course, but understand that showing
up is a lifelong practice, not a one time achievement.
Some days will be easier than others. Some moments you'll
fall short, and that's okay. What matters is noticing, recommitting,
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and moving forward. The reward is in perfection. It's life itself.
It's the beauty of being able to wake up again
and again, being awake to it, participating consciously and creating
meaning in every interaction that you have and every task
and every breath. Showing up fully as a gift to yourself,
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to others, into the world. I just went shopping a
little while ago to the IgA, and I got into
conversations with three people. Simple stuff, but it started from nothing,
and before you know it, one lady we kept bumping
into each other and She's just like, I don't know
where I'm going, I don't know what I'm buying, and
I'm like, I have a list and I still don't
know where I'm going or buying. We laughed. It's funny.
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I've explored what it means to show up and why
it's hard, and how to start practicing it. I'm asking
you to bring that mindset home because at the end
of the day, this isn't just a theory, this isn't
just reflection. This is about life, your life and the
choices that you make every single day. Showing up fully
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is a commitment. It's a commitment to yourself, to your relationships,
to your dreams, and to the life that you want
to live. And the truth is it's never too late
to start right now, in this moment. You can choose
to engage, to get up right now from wherever you are,
get up and let's do something. You can choose to
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participate in life. You can choose to be present in life,
or you can choose to sit back and let life
go by. Here's your challenge tonight, before you go to bed,
take a moment to reflect, as I said, on your day.
Where did I show up fully? Where did I hold back?
Where was I distracted or just completely disengaged? Did I
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just exist today? Do I remember what I did today?
That happens? How would it feel if I showed up
differently in those moments tomorrow? What if I ran through
today again completely the same thing tomorrow, but differently. The
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small act of awareness creates a bridge between you who
you are today and who you want to become tomorrow.
And then you take the breath and you release judgment,
you release guilt. I'm not talking about picking on yourself.
Showing up isn't about perfection. It's about presence. It's about trying, noticing, adjusting,
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and recommitting again. Some days will be elier than others.
Some weeks will be easier than others. Some moments you'll stumble,
and that's okay. What matters is noticing when you drift
maybe a little bit too far, and you bring yourself back.
And what matters is taking small intentional steps to live, awake, alive,
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and fully engaged. Think about the impact is practice could have,
not just on yourself, but on the people around you.
How would your relationships change if you showed up fully
in every single conversation. How would your work change if
you approached it with full focus and care. How would
your life change if you treated each day, each moment
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as a gift and an opportunity to just be fully present.
The path isn't always easy, but it's always worth it.
Showing up fully allows you to experience life and all
of its richness, its joys, the struggles, the lessons, the connections,
the growth. All that bad stuff. It's not bad. It
transforms ordinary moments into extraordinary experiences that builds trust, love,
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respect and meaning. And most importantly, it reconnects you to
your self. And then tomorrow morning, tomorrow morning, you open
your eyes and you ask yourself before you get out
of bed, am I showing up today? Am I showing
up fully? Am I showing up truly? Am I showing
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up completely? I am here? Carry this question with you
throughout the day, Let it guide your actions, your choices,
your thoughts, and your presence, and at the end of
the day, return to it. Reflect a just recommit. Life
doesn't wait moments, don't wait, people, don't wait. Your opportunity
to live fully is right now. Show up. Show up
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for yourself, show up for the people you love, show
up for the life that you've been given. And in
doing so, you will discover the depth of richness and
the power of being present. Because the simple truth is
when you show up fully, you reclaim your life. And
that is the greatest gift they can give to yourself
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and to the world around you. Remember mourning, be thankful,
be appreciative. Think of your day evening. How did you act,
how did you respond? And how did you react? I mean,
how did you did you do? Everything? You're supposed to
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your body Listening to your body. Listen to your body.
Your body is what's running your everything. Your body is
a machine, that is you. Don't just complain, Oh, I'm
getting old, so that gives me carbe blanche to just
rest more. Actually no it doesn't. You're getting old. You
need to work more. You need to walk more. You
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need to walk quicker, you need to sweat more. Popping
pills is not the answer. Mindful, be mindful, use your mind,
do meditation, listen to music and just relax and just
you know, what pet your dog, and just think of
the day, notice the tone of the day, the emotions,
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all the little subtle cues around you. It's very important
that you do all this. I mean this. Don't just
let it go to another week, another month. Before you
know it, October, November, and December is already here, and
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then we're focused on the new year again. Think about
what I'm saying because I hope I made you think,
I hope I inspired you, not enough for it to
last an hour, but for you to really think about
it throughout the day. Maybe sit with a loved one
and talk about what I just talked about and ask him,
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what do you think about this? Do you think I'm
like this? Do you think I'm present? And then you
learn to appreciate every single tomorrow, every today, and I
hope that you become grateful for all of the experiences
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to the Reset Yourself? What You Podcast? Your hosts? Hello, Hello, Hello,
How are you guys doing? I hope you are doing well.
I can't complain. Actually, what's the point of it. I
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And concluding herself, it's been good. The weather is starting
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course Henry is living the life. So in this weekly podcast,
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igniting your belief in yourself. I am your host and
I'm always very thrilled to share my thoughts and research
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we can nurture a mindset that empowers us to reach
our fullest potential. And God do I believe that so much,
and that is why I write a record every episode
to challenge his our thinking and to encourage us to
reflect and inspire actionable steps towards our personal growth. Whether
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you're facing a career transition, seeking to overcome challenges, or
simply striving for greater fulfillment in your lives. This podcast
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My inspiration, my weekly inspiration, is to do this so
that hopefully I can inspire you and teach you and
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guide you to focus on what you can accomplish, so
that you can do the things you need to do
when you need to do them, so that ultimately you
get the things you want when you wish to have them.
And this episode is dedicated to every single one of
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you as you hear this weekly. It's funny so many
people write to me and question it, but it's the truth.
Tell me what you want and I will show you
how to get it. The question is how you're willing
to do the work. I think about it. Most people
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I feel in life don't show up fully. I too
have had my days, my moments that I just didn't
show up to life fully. Instead, you drag through your mornings,
you scroll through your nights, you scroll on your phone
for countless hours, you have to listen in conversations, and
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you coast through work. You get there before you know,
you're just looking to end the day and just get home,
and then on to Wednesday, on to Thursday, on to Friday,
and then the weekend comes. Do you truly show up
to your weekends? Do you truly enjoy your weekends? Or
do they just also fly by? Before you know it?
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It's Sunday evening and you're complaining that the weekend went
by too quickly. I mean, life doesn't always give you
trophies for just being present physically. You've got to be mentally, emotionally,
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spiritually engaged. I want to start with a simple question,
but it's one that carries weight. I want you to
really hear it and then let it land. As I
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said you right now, are you showing up? Not just
physically because maybe you woke up, brush your teeth, had
your coffee, and walked out the door, But I mean,
are you really showing up for your life? Are you
fully here, fully awake, actually really listening to me? Fully aware?
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Think about that, fully aware, fully present, in the moments
that make up your day, your relationships, your dreams, your goals.
I have a friend I won't mention their name, and
I find it fascinating that while we're speaking to each other,
they will just go They would just look over me
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go uh huh yeah, okay, uh yeah yeah, And I
will change the conversation mid sentence, and this person has
no idea what's happening because they are somewhere else. I
just don't want you to miss an opportunity that's right
in front of your face. As I have witnessed, many
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people do things drop on our laps very often, and
a lot of times you're not present to really acknowledge it.
It's easy to think we are. We tell ourselves I'm here,
I'm doing what I have to do. Right, you show
up to work, you punch in, I'm here. But life
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has a way of slipping by, doesn't it. As I said,
before you know it, it's Sunday night, and you're like, oh,
where did the weekend go? Those days when you wake
up exhausted, distracted, or mentally checked out, maybe you're half
listening in a conversation like my friend, scrolling through your
phone while your family is talking to you, or going
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through the motions at work marking time. Instead of creating
an impact at work, you're just there to get a paycheck.
You might even feel a nagging emptiness at the end
of the day. Where did it all go? Did I
even live today? It's like going. For those of you
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that know I'm a hypnotherapist and a good comparison with people,
ask me what it's like, I'm like, well, actually, we
kind of do hypnosis on ourselves daily when usually a
big example is when we're driving. When you've driven someplace enough,
it gets to the point that you no longer have
to do the ten and two and focus on driving.
You just start driving and before you know it, you're
halfway there, and before you know it, you're there and
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you've arrived. And the whole time you've been either on
your cell phone or focused on the radio or listening
to a song or thinking about your day, you're not
consciously saying I need to take a left turn here,
I need to take a left turn there, I need
to take a right turn here, I need to turn
into this drug. You just know where you're going. It
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just becomes a part of you, which is fine. The
problem is, in a lot of these situations, there are
other things that happen that we just tend to not listen,
tend to not focus until the sentence is done, and
God forbid the turn. The person turns around and says
what did I just say? And you have no clue.
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You do the oh yeah, yeah, no, what was that again?
I want you to sit with that feeling for a moment.
Think about last week, maybe even last month. How often
do you feel that you fully showed up? And I
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don't mean like physically just to work, but let's say,
in an important conversation with a loved one, with talking
to your children, talking to your boss, even praying, even meditating,
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are you focused on what you're saying, what you're asking for.
Are you truly raising your vibration? Are you just going
through the words? It's because what I do is what
you do. And here's the thing. It's not just your body,
not just your presence, but your heart, your mind, your spirit,
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all engaged, ready and intentional. To manifest something, you have
to have real intention behind it. For years, I taught
vision boards and it's interesting because the more I taught it,
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the more I lost interests, not so much in the
concert of vision boards. I've used them many times and
they've brought me a lot of success. But often well,
I start to watch people as they do the vision board,
and it's again they're looking for instant gratification. I put
this picture up of Italy. I shall be in Italy.
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I see myself flying right now because there's a pic. No, no,
it's not the way it works. It's not the way
it works. You know. It's like you, there's there's steps,
there's many steps for some things. There's not many steps,
but it's like how focused on are you on what
you want? And like not just like oh, I want
to go to Italy? Like I love like shocking people
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When they'll turn to me, it's like, well, you know,
my plan, my bucket list is to go to Italy.
So I turned to them like, well, how much is
a flight? What airline would you go through, what airport
would you fly out of? Who would you go with?
When would you go? What time of year? What's the
weather like in the summer, what's the weather like in
the winter. Do you like Italian food? Is it for
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family visit? Is it is historical? Is it just sightseeing?
What are you going to be visiting Where are you going? Museums, boutiques, restaurants,
see Because to me, that's how you truly manifest the
things you want. You have to truly see them in
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your mind's eye, you have to feel them in your heart.
Study it. Get the book, you know, get those old
travel books, you know, visiting Italy and you begin to
put yourself, your mind, your spirit, everything on that trip.
Knowing how much airfare is I will not me, but
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I have had people that have been very successful after
listening to this concept of planning out, journaling, seeing the
trip happen before it's happened, and they've come back to
me like, guess what I went? I did it? Why?
Because they actually did the homework, They did the research.
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They didn't spend their entire lives going, you know, with
this bucket list of just nothing, just thoughts. I would
like to take a cruise to wear oh to an
island which one not sure how much is it? I
don't know, bigger large cruise ship, not sure, you're never going.
It's almost like wanting to play the lottery, but you
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won't go to the corner store to buy the ticket.
But I want to be a millionaire. When was the
last time we bought a lottery ticket? Yeah? You know,
I just I mean, I'm not a gambler at all,
but you know, I've had that conversation with many that
have said to me, I want to become a millionaire
and playing lottery. It's like, how often do you play lottery?
Not often? I want to be rich. Do you have
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a job. No, I'm interested in being a culinary chef. Fascinating, Okay, good.
Do you realize what's involved in being a culinary chef?
I've had I know, I can think of two people
off the top of my head that loved cooking at home,
went to culinary school, and then when they graduated, they
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realized is that basically most restaurants you'd be cooking at night.
Not always, but in both situations yes, And both of
them are like, that's not what I want. And it's like, well,
didn't you plan ahead? So one of them completely didn't
do it, and the other one started working for a
Pfizer pharmaceutical in their cafeteria during the day. And he
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loves cooking. It doesn't matter if it's at night, if
it's a five star restaurant or anything. He just wanted
to cook. And he's still doing well and he still
loves his job. But it's again, part of manifesting what
you want is knowing what it is, what's involved. I
know this isn't easy and I know it can feel heavy.
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I'm adding responsibility to you to plan ahead. Oh my god,
I don't have time for that. Then how bad do
you want the things you want? Because showing up fully
requires effort, It requires intention, and it requires honesty with yourself.
It requires looking at yourself in ways that are always comfortable.
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We all have the days we don't want to look,
we don't want to notice, we don't want to take
responsibility for our lives. You're human. It happens. We all
have the moments that we say, I'll just coast today,
I'll just do the minimum. And that's okay sometimes why not?
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But when that becomes the norm, Monday becomes Wednesday becomes Friday,
and then you have Sunday night. Monday becomes Wednesday, and
then you have Friday, then it becomes Sunday night. That's
when life starts to pass you by. I've been there,
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You've probably felt it times when I was exhausted from
working late from being pulled in a million directions from
life's many demands, physically present, mentally checked out, or moments
when I thought I was helping someone, but I wasn't
really there. I wasn't fully listening, I wasn't fully caring.
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And you know what, the people around me could feel it,
life could feel it, and more importantly, I could feel
it in myself. I was on autopilot, cruise control. So
today I want to explore this idea of showing up.
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I want you to ask yourself what it really means
to be fully present in your own life, not just
for the big moments in life, even the small ones,
because the small moments are the ones that build a
life and hold up and create the big ones. They
are the ones that shape relationships, create trust, and build
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the foundation for your They are the ones that define
the quality of your life. Throughout this today's episode, I'll
share a personal story here there observations, reflections, and I'll
guide you to think about the ways that you can
show up and what happens when you don't. And toward
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the end, I'll offer a few exercises and challenges that
can help you hopefully start practicing presence and full engagement
in every aspect of your life. So I want you
to start by taking a deep breath. Now obviously we're
not going into meditation. Just a deep breath, just wherever
you are. Just don't have to close your eyes and
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allow it to fill your lungs and hold it for
a moment. Man release, feel your body, feel your mind,
feel your heart, and just for a moment, ask yourself,
am I showing up today? Not tomorrow, not next week,
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right now? Not feel the depressing feelings or anxiety about
tomorrow today right now? Are you sitting here? Are you
are you walking while you're listening to this podcast? Are
you sitting somewhere comfortably, maybe having some tea? Are you
driving in your car? Be safe? Are you here? Because
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this is this is where life happens. Life is happening
right now. The past already happened, the future hasn't come yet.
If we can learn to show up fully in this moment,
we don't just live, we thrive. So let's talk about
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this struggle, the struggle of finding focus and to make time,
which seems to be so difficult so many people. I
just don't have the time, and it's just right, I
get it. But the thing is, you do have enough time,
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and when it's something you truly, truly, truly want to do,
magically you make the time. It just happens. You don't
have to think about it because your priorities change. Because
here's the truth, most of us don't show up the
way we could. And it's not always laziness, it's not
always a lack of care. It's life. Life is busy,
life is distracting, Life is exhausting, and sometimes it can
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be overwhelming. I get it, Trust me, I get it.
Think about a typical day. You wake up, maybe not
fully arrested, or your phone buzz is immediately, the news
is on, emails are piling up, thing ding, ding, thing, thing,
all these noises. You got Facebook, you have Instagram, you
have TikTok, you have a messenger. You go through your
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morning routine, half a wake barely, barely noticing what really
matters at that time. You know what it is, the sunrise,
the birds outside, the feel of your feet on the floor,
the sound of your loved ones, the presence of your children, pets.
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You take a moment to pet them, You take a
moment to hold your children, to kiss your loved ones,
then you get to work or whatever your tasks are,
and you do what needs to be done mechanically without
intention your present physically, yes, but mentally, spiritually, emotionally maybe
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not so much. And this isn't new. Many of us
live like this, thinking we'll catch up on life later.
We say, I'll rest this weekend, I'll reconnect next month,
I'll show up tomorrow. But tomorrow comes and tomorrow comes again,
and we still find ourselves on autopilot. We think we're
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living fully, but are we only existing? You do what
you can, but it's just not enough to check the
box that needs to be done to really know what
you're doing. Because a lot of times we may say it,
but are you fully invested in you? And of course,
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like I said, what's the biggest issue in our lives? Technology?
And trust me, I love technology. I use it often,
but now owning a farm here in Kentucky, when I
you know, like when I first started doing all these
repairs and taking care of the animals, I automatically have
my phone on me. I no longer carry it and
of course mostly yells at me because I should. But
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when I'm out there, I don't want to be bothered
I want to focus on my animals, their needs, making
them a little bit more comfortable. And then for those
of you that have animals, and especially on a farm,
there is always something to repair, there's always something to fix.
But for many of us, we have phones, we have
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social media, we have TV, we have analysts scrolling. These
things pull your attention away from the moment that you're
actually in avoidance of avoidance, Sometimes showing up is heart
Maybe it's hard to face a relationship honestly, a difficult conversation,
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or even your own feelings of the day, or the
decisions that you have to make that you and me
don't want to right now. It happens, Trust me, it happens.
You're present in your body, but your mind is elsewhere, thinking, worrying, spinning,
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could as should have would a fear of failure or judgment.
Some days we don't show up because we're afraid we'll
just fall short of the day, so we don't even try.
We hold back. All of these are real feelings. Trust me,
I'm not judging. I'm just being honest. They're human, you're human.
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And here's the kicker. The more often we operate like this,
the heavier life feels. The less we show up, the
more disconnected we feel from ourselves, from our work, from
the people that we truly care about. That creeping sense
of something's missing grows quietly in the background until one
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day you realize weeks, months, maybe even years have gone
by and you barely remember living them. I want you
to picture that for a moment. Think about the last month,
this last month. Are there moments you wish you had
been a little bit more present. Times you weren't listening.
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Maybe an opportunity landed on your lap and you didn't act.
You weren't quick enough, You didn't honor your own energy
or your own potential. Maybe it was a loved one,
Maybe it was at work. Maybe it was even a
moment where you could have done something for yourself. You
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could have gained something, you could have learned something, and
you didn't. It passed you by. Let that memory, that's
a moment, sit for a moment and just acknowledge it.
Trust me, It's not about like making you feel bad
the fact that you screwed up or whatever. Now, No,
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not at all. It's about focus on the future, what's next.
Let's be honest. This isn't about shame. It's not about guilt.
Life isn't handing out report cards, but it's recognizing the
gap between who we are and who we could be.
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That's the first step to change, because once you see it,
know that you have a choice. You can continue coosting
through life, or you can start showing up fully, consciously,
intentionally every single day. This struggle, this resistance is inertia.
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It's universal. Everyone feels it at some point. Even the
people who seem like they have it altogether, they too
have days when they just go through the motions. But
here's the difference. The people who thrive, who build meaningful lives,
are the ones who recognize the struggle and they do
something about it. They don't wait for motivation or perfect conditions.
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They just show up anyway. And here's where most people
kind of get stuck, thinking showing up is a grand gesture.
I'm here. Is that good enough? It has to be dramatic?
Huh that they need hours of uninterrupted focused, perfect energy,
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perfect conditions. Everything has to be so perfect once they
show up, or if not, the day just went to crap.
The truth is showing up is important, but it's still
it's a small start, A conversation where you really listen,
to attack as you tackle fully instead of half heartedly.
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A choice to rest when your body needs it instead
of forcing yourself through the day. Excuse me, a moment
of awareness in the middle of distraction. It's in those
moments repeat it over time that life transforms, slowly, imperceptibly.
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You become someone who lives instead of simply existing. You
reclaim presence, attention, and energy. You begin to notice things
that you've been missing, faces, smiles, the warmth of sunlight,
the birds singing above, the smell of roses, the quiet
of the evening, the sound of the rain, and more importantly,
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you begin to notice yourself, your desires, your needs, your strengths,
and your limitations. So today I want you to reflect,
where in your life are you only have present? Where
have you been coasting in your personal relationship amongst friendships
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at work? And what would it feel like to take
one small step towards showing up fully focused and really ready.
Because showing up isn't a single heroic act, It's a practice,
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a daily choice, and that moment you start, the moment
you notice the gap and decide to act, you reclaim
You reclaim your power. You reclaim your life. We've talked
about what it looks like when we don't show up
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and the caust it carries in our lives. If I may,
I want to go a little bit deeper. Why do
we avoid showing up? Why is it so hard to
be fully present, sometimes, fully engage, fully awake in our
own lives? The truth is, as I've said before, it
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is human. We're wired to avoid discomfort, uncertainty, and effort.
Our minds, our bodies, and emotions are constantly negotiating between
the desire for ease and that pull of purpose, and
let me tell you, most of the time, ease wins.
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One major reason we avoid showing up is the effort.
For those of you that know me, yes, fear, fear
of failure, fear of judgment, fear of not being enough.
Maybe it's fear that if we really show up in
a relationship and a conversation or our work will screw
it up. Or maybe it's fear that if we look
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at ourselves honestly, we'll discover we haven't been living the
way we hoped. Fear can be subtle, creeping in like
a shadow. It whispers not today, wait, maybe later, and
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too often we listen to that and later becomes tonight,
which becomes tomorrow, which becomes next week, and before you
know it, it's twenty twenty six. Then, of course, another
reason is just exhaustion, mental, emotional, physical, because life has
a way of draining you in countless ways. Deadlines, obligations, responsibilities,
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endless noise from phones, news, social media, all of it pulling,
tugging at our attention thousand directions, and then we're tired.
Our energy is low, and it feels impossible to show
up fully. So what happens. You just put it in
a cruise control and you just we tell ourselves, I'll
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do better tomorrow. I'll deal with it tomorrow. There's always tomorrow.
I get it. Then there's a distraction, not just the
obvious ones like screens and notifications constantly blurring on my
cell phone, but the distractions within our own minds, the worry,
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the anxiety, the self criticism, the rumination on the past
or the planning for the future. Even when our body
is here, our mind can be somewhere else entirely. Does
that happen to you? And when that happens, are you
truly showing up? No matter how hard you try, are
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you truly showing up? And then, of course are wonderful
habits that we create, and then trying to always be
in the comfort zone instead of challenging ourselves. We've learned
patterns over years how to move through life with minimal resistance.
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Showing up fully often requires stepping out of these comfort zones,
and sometimes it's theaser. Just stay in them, facing challenges
and bracing discomfort. Oh my god, that's so hard. Our
brains don't like hard. They like familiar, they like safe,
they like easy. So we stick to the familiar, even
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when it leaves us feeling unfulfilled. Sometimes sometimes we avoid
showing up because of internal conflicts or unresolved emotions. Guilt, shame, resentment, anger.
These feelings create a fog between us in the present moments.
They distract us, They hold this back. They make it
hard to engage with life fully, and we don't always
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realize it's happening. We just feel off. Do you ever
feel off? Do you ever feel disconnected? You ever feel drained?
Like something's missing but we can't name it. Finally, finally,
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there's the illusion of someday. Ah, that's a great word.
The trap of thinking that we'll show up later, someday
over the rainbow, when conditions then will be perfect, when
we have more energy, more time, or clarity right sometimes
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never someday, Sorry, some day never comes because life is
always moving. Tomorrow will always be tomorrow. Conditions are never perfect.
Energy ebbs and flow, and clarity only comes when you engage,
when you act, when you show up right here, right now.
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All of these reasons, fear, exhaustion, distraction, comfort zones, unresolved emotions,
and the someday illusion are very real. They're normal, they're human,
but they are also the obstacles that keep you from
living fully, and recognizing them is the first step towards
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breaking free from them. Here's the key insight. Avoiding showing
up isn't just about laziness. It's it's not a moral failing.
It's a signal. It's your mind and body body telling
you something important. Hey, you're tired, you're afraid, you're distracted,
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you are mentally out of a life or physically out
of alignment. But once you see it, you can respond.
You can choose differently. You can start showing up, consciously, intentionally, fully,
fully taking care of yourself. You know I'm tired. I'm tired.
I'm tired. Well, maybe there's something wrong with you. Maybe
it's just you know. Do you need vitamins? Do you
need a better diet? Don't just go with it. I
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worry about my listeners. I want to make sure you're healthy.
I want to make sure you live as long as possible.
Your body throws red flags? Do you see them? The
question you have to ask yourself, and I want you
to ask it honestly. What are you avoiding? Who are
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you avoiding? What are you running from? What would it
look like if you faced it head on and showed up?
Because showing up isn't easy. It requires courage, discipline, and awareness.
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But the reward being fully alive, fully present, fully engaged,
is worth every ounce of effort, and once you start practicing,
the small actions build momentum. Showing up because a habit
of lifestyle, a way of being ah, it is so good.
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Let you feel connected with the universe around you. You matter.
But now that we've explored why we avoid showing up,
the fears of distraction is the exhaustion and the habits,
it's time to imagine the other side. What does it
actually look like to show up? Fully in your own life,
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How does it feel and what does it demand from you?
Showing up fully doesn't mean being perfect. It doesn't mean
every day is flawless or that every moment is completely
and totally filled with production. It just means it being present,
being aware of, being engaged, being honest with yourself, being
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honest with yourself, being honest with yourself. It means stepping
into your day with intention, recognizing your energy, your time,
your focus, and committing to using it consciously. Let's break
it down into four areas. Wonderful areas body, mind, heart,
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and spirit. Let's start with the body, your temple. Your
body is your vessel, your vehicle through life. Showing up
for your body means listening to it the red flags.
My stomach really hurts, Oh my god, what are you
doing about it? I to go away. My knee has
been bothering me. Oh my god, what are you doing
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about it? Ah, It'll be fine tomorrow. Are you truly rested?
Are you nourished? What is your diet? Moving in ways
that support your health. It doesn't require a perfect diet
or a marathon every day. It's about awareness and respect.
Start your day by noticing how your body feels in
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the morning, Oh, it's in pain. It hurts my back,
hurts my leg right, So what are you doing about it?
And you're not just gonna let it happen? You stretch,
you breathe, you move intentionally, you do tai chi, you
do yoga. Yes, there's things you can do, or you
could just go to the gym, you could work out,
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or you know what, go for a walk. Go for
a walk in the morning, before work, after dinner, go
for a walk. I didn't say marathon, I didn't say triathlon.
All I said was go for a walk. Honor your
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energy levels. If rest is needed, give it without guilt.
Showing up for your body allows you to show up
for life. When you're exhausted or ignoring basic needs, your
presence is compromised. But when your body feels supported, even
small actions become very powerful. So that was body. Let's
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go right up here. Your mind is constantly spinning, it's
constantly working, it's constantly planning, it's constantly worrying, it's constantly analyzing,
and then it's replaying everything. Showing up for your mind
means being aware of your thoughts without letting them control you,
and not letting anybody live in your head rent free.
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You already are dealing with so much, and now you're
gonna let other people live in this at No, take
a moment to pause before reacting anything that happens in
your life, anything that happens in your life. Create a
habit that you stop for what may feel like a minute.
It's only two or three seconds, but just take a set.
Don't respond quickly, don't react horribly. Notice see when your
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attention drifts, bring it back. Choose focus over distraction, clarity
over chaos. It's not about controlling every thought. It's about
noticing where you are mentally and choosing to engage intentionally.
When your mind is present, your decisions are clearer, your
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creativity opens, and your interactions become richer. And then, of course,
you have your heart center of it all. Your heart
guides your connections with yourself and others. Showing up for
your heart means allowing vulnerability, compassion, and empathy to guide
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your actions that anger rage. Are you listening deeply to
someone without judgment? Are you acknowledging your own feelings instead
of suppressing them. Are you extending kindness and patience to yourself?
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Are you Showing up emotionally doesn't mean exposing yourself recklessly.
It means being honest, being available, and responsive to life's
emotional currens. When your heart is engaged, relationships deepen and
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even mundane moments gain meaning. They become special. Finally, I
do need to now have to spirituality. Spirituality your spirit
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doesn't have to be religious, but it is the essence
of your connection to life, purpose and meaning. For those
of you that don't know, I have been a meditation
teacher for over twenty years. I think now it's like
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twenty two years. I remember the first time I sat down,
I was like, I could not do it. You know
what it is? I could, It's just that I was
thinking the wrong thing. I wasn't focused on what I
should have been focused on. I wanted to be like
a monk in a movie, just sit there up on
the top of a cliff and shut out the world completely.
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And I couldn't because my mind was racing what's wrong
with me? And I speak from experience when it comes
to so many of my students that have come to
my classes in Orange and Middletown and different places that
we've had meditations, It's always been my mind is racing. Yeah,
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but what do you focused on? Are you living aligned
with your values and intentions? Are you engaged in the
accident nurture your inner self, your creativity, your service, your
gratitude or your mindfulness? Or are you just stressed out
over everybody on Facebook and what's happening? And I need
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to jump on this whole political game thing and I
don't like so I'm going to allow anger and rage
and sadness And why why focus on your spirit? When
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your spirits engaged, life becomes fuller. Moments aren't just passing quickly.
They're alive. They're vibrant and meaningful. Small actions begin to
demonstrate full presence. Showing up fully isn't always dramatic. It
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often shows up in small, consistent actions, small baby steps.
Giving your full attention to a conversation without distraction, completing
a task with focus and intention rather than rushing through it,
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taking a moment to just breathe and notice your surroundings,
Practicing gratitude or reflection at the start or end of
every day. Engaging in something someone that challenges you, even
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if it's uncomfortable. Each small act compounds over time, life
begins to feel richer relationships, more authentic, and your own
self respect grows. You start noticing that showing up isn't
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a burden, It's a gift you give yourself and to
the world around you. Your presence is amazing. I feel
that people that you know are lucky to know you,
and vice versa. Let me share a personal example. A
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few years ago, I was hosting a meditation workshop. It
was a meditation slash sound healing at a place up
in Connecticut. It was beautiful as around the holidays, and
I was I mean, I don't just show up with
my balls and start playing and go Everybody close your eyes,
feel the energy. Now I always have to show up earlier.
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I always have to feel the energy of the room.
I always have to make sure the flow of the
room is good, it's peaceful. But I was physically present,
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but I was still mentally scattered, thinking about sometimes when
it happens. It was a new venue, new room, new sound,
and I was worried about will they be happy? Will
my timing be good? That I shut off my phone
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once I began. I don't have to go to the bathroom, now,
do I? But then the session started and I realized
I wasn't fully there. I paused, I took a deep breath,
I centered myself, and I just recommitted to being present.
The shift, surprisingly was immediate. I noticed my energy changing,
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and it changed the energy in the room the way
participants just felt more comfortable because, as many of you,
hear it over and over and over and then I'll
ask people and they're not sure what it means. We
are energy. We are all energy. Animals are amazing. I
have many, and they feel your energy. When an animal
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sees some they don't like, they know it. When you
get to that point, you can do it too. You
ever walk in a room and you're just like, I
don't like being here, I feel weird, Or you meet
somebody for the you meet somebody for the first time
and it is as though you have known them your
whole life. And then there are those times that you
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meet people that you're just like, I don't like that person,
which is funny because you have no reason not to
unless they did something. But a lot of times we
have done that. Why because they remind you of somebody
that you you know from eighth grade? Is that fair
to them? Is it because they didn't treat you exactly
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what you wish they would have right then and there. Well,
maybe they're having a crappy day. It happens, it does happen.
But I, like I said, I personally took it. I
went in deep, and I centered myself, and I recommitted
to being present. I showed up fully. The entire experience
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transformed for them, for me, for everyone involved. This is
the power of presence. It's accessible to everyone in every
moment once you commit to it. I want to make
some actionable steps that I think you could work on
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to get better at this One om is reflection. Yes, reflection.
Reflection alone is to me, in my opinion, the most powerful.
But without practice, insight doesn't become change. So let's let
me explain the practical path, concrete steps you can take today, tomorrow,
and every day to show up fully in your life
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with awareness. The first step to showing up is simply
noticing when you aren't showing up. Awareness is your superpower.
Begin by taking stock of your day. Ask yourself, where
am I fully present? Where am I distracted? Use moments
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of pause while brushing your teeth, drinking coffee, or just
walking from here to there to check with yourself. Check
in with your mind, your body, your heart, your spirit.
Trust me, there's always time. You're driving a car from
here to there, you're in an office and you're just
going down to get some copies made. While you're doing it,
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check yourself if you have time, which I recommend, and
I mean now, we could do it anywhere. You could
just do it on your phone. You could do it
on your computer. Quickly, journal briefly about your observations today
of who you are, what's going on in your life,
where are your thoughts going and why? And those red
flags that you keep complaining about. Oh, I keep getting
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you know, acid reflux. I keep y'all just keep popping pills. Well,
a lot of those pills aren't medication. They're just to
help quiet it. Even a few sentences that you jot
down and can create a form of clarity. Awareness is
the seed. Without it, we keep autopiloting autopiloting. Never thought
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I'd say that word. Through life without realizing what is
slipping past us. Build micro habits of presence. Showing up
fully doesn't require huge dramatic changes. I tell people to
work out, they join a gym, and they do all
this stuff, and then within you know. I'm like, so,
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how did gym go? Yeah? I went. I went once.
I always tell people. I always tell clients that you
have come for weight loss. They expect I'm going to
give them this hardcore regimen that they're going to join
the Olympics and they need to lose sixty five pounds.
I tell them to start off by drinking more water
and to make sure that every day they go down
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to the mailbox. What yes, if you have a If
you don't, it's understandable. Walk around your block, walk around
your yard, your yard. But that's not enough. Stop thinking
so far ahead. You're creating new habits. Your habit now.
As you get home, you turn the tea on, you sit,
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you sit in front of it, you have dinner while
watching TV, you fall asleep during it, and then you
go to bed. That's awesome, I've done it. But I
I I'm very tough with myself. If I feel that
yesterday I slacked off, today I go to the gym.
And I have a farm, so I could just walk
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from here to the end of my property and back
and I come back and if it's a warm day,
I sweat and my just parts of my property and
are very hilly, so I make sure I go up
the hills, and I have a gigantic, hoarse Holly who
usually nudges me all the way up, which is hilarious.
And then if I don't do it, she bites me,
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which sucks. Most magical moment of your day is the morning,
because it's another chance at life your life. Begin your
day with a short ritual that centers you stretching, meditation, journaling,
or like I said, you know, everybody talks about a
quiet you know, cup of coffee, cup of coffee, well good,
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while you're having a cup of coffee, ponder give it
your full attention, and then throughout your day do check
ins as I said Paul's breathe, and ask yourself, am
I fully here? And then, of course, don't drawn yourself
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with a million things at once. Trust me, I'm a
master at it. Focus on one task at a time
instead of multitasking. Give it your full energy and attention.
These micro habits train your mind to be present and
help build momentum towards larger actions. Let me share something
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very private. I have come to the realization of of
course you learn about ADHD and autism and all these
different things, and you know, we joke I have this
and I have that. So finally I became aware of something,
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so I scheduled time I met with my doctor. I
went over it read. So I scheduled time with a
psychologist and she gave me a very intensive, intensive quiz
and then we talked before, we talked after and she
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was like, yeah, you have you have severe ADHD. And
she goes, You'd be surprised how many adults of my
generation are just we've become numb to the concept and
we just think this is the way life happens. I
can go to whenever I need to study or work
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or practice, I go to Panera. I don't know if
you some of you may have heard of that. It's
one of my favorite places, Panera, where I can have
a healthy lunch. And I will go and I'll bring
some books, stuff to read, stuff to study, and I'll
have my Usually I have a half soup, half salad.
If I'm really hungry, I'll have full both. But and
after the fact, I will sit there and I will
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focus on what I'm doing. The problem with that is,
tell me if this resonates with you. I'm sitting there
and I could reread the same page ten times. I
can hear their conversation while I'm trying to read my page,
listening to the girl yell out last names for whose
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food is next, the order that the new order that's
coming in, whether they want a bagel or a chocolate
croissant or maybe a cookie. I hear the music above
the fountain going off every so often, and then the
buzzing of those little buzzers that your food is ready,
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you know, those little table ones. And to me, at
fifty five years old, it was a super power. This
is awesome. So I go to my psychologist, my new psychologist,
and she's like, yeah, you have some very DHD and
you should try something called There's a lot of different things,
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but she put me on something called Straterra. So I
was like, all right, you know, of course, I read
all about it, did the Google research, and I even
joined some Facebook Straterra groups, and I took it. Usually
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they say it takes a week, everybody's different within three days.
It was monumental. I actually, for the first three four
days of taking it, I found myself constantly getting emotional
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and crying, as I feel like I want to do
now because It is as if everything that was going
on just went like this, and I was able to
read an entire page without having to hear if they're
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gonna have a chocolate cookie or a chocolate croissant. Now,
mind you, I guess there's still a superpower there doing
it for fifty five years, I could all of a sudden,
like just refocus and hear them, or hear the order,
or hear the fountain machine, or the door opening and closing,
that squeaky little door that sometimes you hear in the background,
the music playing with the song that you like or dislike,
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or the people next to you talking about something that's
way too personal. And then, of course in my situation,
I have me to listen in front of me talking
and she'd get mad because it just seems like you're
not listening. But then she would test me and I
would repeat exactly what she said, and again in my
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mind it was I'm superman. What I'm doing is I'm
tiring my body, tiring my mind. I'm trying to take
every buddy and everything in. I was focused. I could focus.
But since the pill, now I could really focus, not
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ninety nine percent, one hundred percent of what I'm doing,
and then again emotions and I cry because it's like, wow,
I go to the gym and I work out and
I'm not focused on everybody else's workout and the songs
that are playing and how many people are doing their
exercises right, and you know, what is that person wearing?
And you know, like the last time I went to
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the gym, there was actually a man in a kilt
and I was like, that's cool, instead of just focusing
on what I'm doing. In fact, this is a good one.
So I'm on the the the elliptical and they have
the screen, but I have the headphones that they're not connected,
so it's playing, but I'm listening to something else. So
here I'm listening. Just to give an idea. Here, I'm
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listening to a podcast and I'm watching usually like Discovery Channel,
and I click it so I could have the words underneath,
So I am listening to what they're saying, reading what's
being said, all while still listening to the music above. Yes,
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it's possible because I've done it for fifty five years.
Well not the first four or five, but you know,
now I'm at the gym and I'm focused on the
podcast and it's almost as if I just don't see
the television anymore, or I'm focused on the television and
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what they're saying just goes right by. It's freaky. I
couldn't be happier. But now I'm truly present, I'm truly here.
I'm fully here to focus on one task instead of
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the superpower of multitasking, I'm able to give it my
full energy and attention. These these habits that train your
mind to be present and help build momentum towards now
larger actions. And then, of course I really listen to
my body. I really feel my body. My body carries
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my life. Showing up fully means respecting all of my
body's signals, prioritizing rest. I sleep more now in Kentucky
than I ever did my entire life. Sleep isn't optional.
I used to joke all the time, I'll sleep when
I'm dead. Ask any of my family, my friends, and
my daughter. She'll say, ys, what Poppy says all the time,
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he'll sleep when he's dead. It's essential for clarity and energy.
Switch your matches, switch your sheet, switch your pillow, switch
temperature of your room. I love a cold room. Nourish
yourself with food, food and water that energizes you, not
fast food poison. Move your body daily. The older you get,
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the actual more you're supposed to move because your body
is slowly breaking down, so it's not like you move less,
you actually move more, even in small ways. You walk,
stretch your exercise. When your body feels supported, your mind
and heart follow through and become fully engaged. Neglecting the
body creates in visible barriers to presence. And then of
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course all the many intentions of the things that I
want in my life and how I see it and
how I view it, and how everything. Your mind is
your biggest instrument. Training it to focus and reflect allows
you to participate in your life fully. Practice mindfulness or
meditation daily, even for a few minutes every more. Every Monday,
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I do my Monday Morning minds I meditation. If you
go to YouTube, it's there. I always post it on
my Facebook. I keep it under ten minutes. Can't complain
it's under ten minutes because when you catch your attention drifting,
meditation helps you bring it back and then you start
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to really find yourself reflecting on life in general. Like
at the end of the day, right before you go
to bed. Where did I show up fully? Where did
I drift? Over time? This strengthens your ability to live
consciously rather than reactively. Every night, before you go to bed,
remember one thing right before you go to bed, like
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right when you're drifting off, The last thing you want
to do is go to bed fighting angry, pissed off, sad, depressed. Don't.
As you take that into the evening, you take that
into your dreams. Your mind is always listening to what
you're thinking, what you're saying. Over time, you fill yourself
with love, with guidance, and you see your mornings become
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clearer because you went to bed filled with gratitude, and
we have gratitude. What are you doing. You're opening your heart.
You're showing up fully with emotional support because your heart
is your compass. Listen deeply when others speak, without interrupting
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or planning your reply. I have a habit of doing
that because I am very passionate and I find myself
almost having two conversations. I need to say something. You
need to quiet. You need to be quiet for a moment,
allow yourself to feel emotions fully instead of suppressing them.
I found out that for a lot of people ADHD.
The reason we do that is because we feel like
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our thought will be gone. May we may miss it,
We may miss that moment, We may miss that I
gotta say, I gotta, I gotta say. Allow yourself to
feel the emotions fully instead of suppressing everything. But learn
to breathe before you speak, before you react. Learn to
breathe so you can feel for that moment and you're
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not an autopilot. And by doing this, you extend compassion
to yourself and to others, because it's small acts of
kindness and understanding that create ripples in your relationships and
your life. Engaging your heart transforms simple interactions into meaningful experiences.
And then, of course, connecting with spirit. Presence is since
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only about mind and body, it's about your spirit. Your
spirit connects you to your meaning, your purpose, and the
greater flow of life your life. Engage in practices that
remind you of your values and purpose. As I said,
and I keep repeating like a broken record, meditation, prayer, reflect,
creative expression, or service to others. Consider your choices daily.
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Am I living aligned with my highest intentions? Or am
I just pissing my day away? Celebrate moments of presence gratitude.
Gratitude is a powerful amplifier. When your spirit is involved,
showing up becomes deeply rewarding rather than a chore. And then,
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of course you turn steps into habits. You create, like
I said, daily rituals, mourning intentions, asking yourself, how will
I show up today? What is my day going to be?
Whether it's good or bad, it has nothing to do
with it. The secret is how you will approach it,
how you will acknowledge it, how you will react to it.
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And then lunchtime, at some point, whenever you sit to eat,
check in physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. And of course,
as I said, evenings, right before you go to bed,
how is your day? Ask yours? How is my day?
Could it have been better? Could I have been nicer?
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Could I have opened that door for that person or
donated money to that man? Did I do a dick
move today? Did I say something that I shouldn't have?
And I should apologize? No ego here. If you screw up,
just apologize. Structuring your life builds consistency. Consistency creates transformation.
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Challenging yourself to really start showing up, you need to
challenge yourself with one small but meaningful action each day.
Every day, yes, every day. Engage deeply in one conversation
without distraction, complete attack, keep been procrastinating on with your
full energy. Get a list of all the things that
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need to be done around the house, start from minor
to major. Spend uninterrupted time on self care, reflection. Step
outside your comfort zone in a small way every day.
Each challenge is a building block. It's making amazing proving
to yourself that you can show up fully, and each
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success strengthens that habit. Good enough, it's a habit. Showing
up is a practice, of course, but understand that showing
up is a lifelong practice, not a one time achievement.
Some days will be easier than others. Some moments you'll
fall short, and that's okay. What matters is noticing, recommitting,
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and moving forward. The reward is in perfection. It's life itself.
It's the beauty of being able to wake up again
and again, being awake to it, participating consciously and creating
meaning in every interaction that you have and every task
and every breath. Showing up fully as a gift to yourself,
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to others, into the world. I just went shopping a
little while ago to the IgA, and I got into
conversations with three people. Simple stuff, but it started from nothing,
and before you know it, one lady we kept bumping
into each other and She's just like, I don't know
where I'm going, I don't know what I'm buying, and
I'm like, I have a list and I still don't
know where I'm going or buying. We laughed. It's funny.
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I've explored what it means to show up and why
it's hard, and how to start practicing it. I'm asking
you to bring that mindset home because at the end
of the day, this isn't just a theory, this isn't
just reflection. This is about life, your life and the
choices that you make every single day. Showing up fully
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is a commitment. It's a commitment to yourself, to your relationships,
to your dreams, and to the life that you want
to live. And the truth is it's never too late
to start right now, in this moment. You can choose
to engage, to get up right now from wherever you are,
get up and let's do something. You can choose to
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participate in life. You can choose to be present in life,
or you can choose to sit back and let life
go by. Here's your challenge tonight, before you go to bed,
take a moment to reflect, as I said, on your day.
Where did I show up fully? Where did I hold back?
Where was I distracted or just completely disengaged? Did I
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just exist today? Do I remember what I did today?
That happens? How would it feel if I showed up
differently in those moments tomorrow? What if I ran through
today again completely the same thing tomorrow, but differently. The
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small act of awareness creates a bridge between you who
you are today and who you want to become tomorrow.
And then you take the breath and you release judgment,
you release guilt. I'm not talking about picking on yourself.
Showing up isn't about perfection. It's about presence. It's about trying, noticing, adjusting,
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and recommitting again. Some days will be elier than others.
Some weeks will be easier than others. Some moments you'll stumble,
and that's okay. What matters is noticing when you drift
maybe a little bit too far, and you bring yourself back.
And what matters is taking small intentional steps to live, awake, alive,
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and fully engaged. Think about the impact is practice could have,
not just on yourself, but on the people around you.
How would your relationships change if you showed up fully
in every single conversation. How would your work change if
you approached it with full focus and care. How would
your life change if you treated each day, each moment
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as a gift and an opportunity to just be fully present.
The path isn't always easy, but it's always worth it.
Showing up fully allows you to experience life and all
of its richness, its joys, the struggles, the lessons, the connections,
the growth. All that bad stuff. It's not bad. It
transforms ordinary moments into extraordinary experiences that builds trust, love,
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respect and meaning. And most importantly, it reconnects you to
your self. And then tomorrow morning, tomorrow morning, you open
your eyes and you ask yourself before you get out
of bed, am I showing up today? Am I showing
up fully? Am I showing up truly? Am I showing
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up completely? I am here? Carry this question with you
throughout the day, Let it guide your actions, your choices,
your thoughts, and your presence, and at the end of
the day, return to it. Reflect a just recommit. Life
doesn't wait moments, don't wait, people, don't wait. Your opportunity
to live fully is right now. Show up. Show up
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for yourself, show up for the people you love, show
up for the life that you've been given. And in
doing so, you will discover the depth of richness and
the power of being present. Because the simple truth is
when you show up fully, you reclaim your life. And
that is the greatest gift they can give to yourself
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and to the world around you. Remember mourning, be thankful,
be appreciative. Think of your day evening. How did you act,
how did you respond? And how did you react? I mean,
how did you did you do? Everything? You're supposed to
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your body Listening to your body. Listen to your body.
Your body is what's running your everything. Your body is
a machine, that is you. Don't just complain, Oh, I'm
getting old, so that gives me carbe blanche to just
rest more. Actually no it doesn't. You're getting old. You
need to work more. You need to walk more. You
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need to walk quicker, you need to sweat more. Popping
pills is not the answer. Mindful, be mindful, use your mind,
do meditation, listen to music and just relax and just
you know, what pet your dog, and just think of
the day, notice the tone of the day, the emotions,
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all the little subtle cues around you. It's very important
that you do all this. I mean this. Don't just
let it go to another week, another month. Before you
know it, October, November, and December is already here, and
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then we're focused on the new year again. Think about
what I'm saying because I hope I made you think,
I hope I inspired you, not enough for it to
last an hour, but for you to really think about
it throughout the day. Maybe sit with a loved one
and talk about what I just talked about and ask him,
(01:14:33):
what do you think about this? Do you think I'm
like this? Do you think I'm present? And then you
learn to appreciate every single tomorrow, every today, and I
hope that you become grateful for all of the experiences
of the past that have made you who you are
right now. Keep this in mind. Choose action over excuse,
(01:14:55):
purpose over comfort, and the work that matters over the
distress the many distractions that don't. My name is Jimmy
Gonzalez and this was the Reset Yourself twenty two podcasts.
Go forward and Live your life to the fullest. Thank
you so much for listening, liking, and especially sharing with others.
(01:15:16):
It means a lot to me all the little messages
I get, and it's really cool. I just met somebody recently.
Speaker 1 (01:15:23):
Man.
Speaker 2 (01:15:23):
They texted me about a question and it's somebody that
knew me when I had my office in Middletown. They
used to come to my meditations and all this stuff.
And it turns out there's after quite a few years,
they're still listening to the meditation, still listening to the podcast,
and I got emotional. It just means a lot to
me to make that connectation, to see it's stick. Many
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blessings to you on especially to her. She knows who
she is. Be well and prosper.
Speaker 1 (01:16:18):
Hums brought to find ELSs h the you of every
day and hustle and do all they can to make
a difference in their lives and the lives of others.
If you are interested in learning more about the services
that Jimmy offers, visit www dot n O E m
a h h dot com. Jimmy offers a downloadable ebook
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and a link to his Mind's Eye meditation sessions, which
are both offered for free. Please consider it a gift
and for those that like the do it yourself approach,
Jimmy also offers pre recorded self hypnosis sessions. If you
prefer the one on one approach, feel free to reach out.
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