October 8, 2025 • 49 mins
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Daily Beloved, we have gathered here today to get through
this thing called life. You are listening to the Reset
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Yourself What You Podcast with your host, Jimmy Dunzalad.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello. May we begin with an apology
to some of my listeners that this podcast is a
little late. I've been juggling quite a bit of things
over the past few days. I don't want to get
into it. It's not important, but just trying to make time.
Trying to make time, and I'm here, so let's begin.
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In this weekly podcast, I focus on sparking your inner
confidence and igniting your belief in yourself. I'm your host
and I'm always very thrilled to share my thoughts and
research with you. As we go along on this journey. Together,
we can nurture a mindset that empowers us to reach
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our fullest potential. I write a record every episode to
challenge our thinking and to encourage us to reflect and
inspire actionable, realistic steps towards our personal growth. Whether you're
facing a career transition, seeking to overcome challenges or simply
striving for greater fulfillment in your life. This podcast is
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your go to resource from motivation and practical insights. My
inspiration to do this show is to teach people to
focus more on what they can accomplish, which is a lot.
If I believe in you, so should you, so that
you can do the things you need to do when
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you need to do them, so that ultimately you can
get the things you want when you wish to have them.
And this episode is dedicated to every single one of you.
Tell me what you want and I will show you
how to get it. The question is are you're willing
to get off your ass and do the work and
stop complaining? And actually, this is a good podcast. I've
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been going back and forth writing it for quite a
while now and hopefully it really inspires you and makes
you think. I would like to begin with the comparison
of you dealing with being uncomfortable or challenged like a seed.
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A seed, yes, a seed. See yourself right now as
a seed beneath the soil, where it's dark, where it's quiet,
and it's comfortable, it's warm, but something incredible is happening
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inside of you. Soon before you know it, roots will
begin to spread and growth will begin to break through.
And though it feels tight now that pressure is not punishment,
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its progress, and before you know it, you're a seedling
and then hopefully a tree or a beautiful flower. But
in the beginning it was tough. That seed is tight,
and you have to break out of that seat, just
like a little baby chicken or a baby chick has
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to fight to get through that egg. Could you imagine
if it's like, oh, this is too much work, I
hate to burst your bubble. But without life challenging you,
how do you think you can grow? It's pretty ridiculous
to think that. And for my lazy listeners, you know who,
you are, always looking for the easy way, the easy
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journey without any sweat and tears. Sadly, if you do
something and you happen to reach your goal, the problem
is you'll never truly appreciate it. It's because you didn't
work for it, you didn't sweat for it, you didn't
earn it. It was probably handed to you. This, for me,
is a huge topic with people having every single thing
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handed to them, especially when they're young. You should be
taught to fish and not handed fish one day, that
generous hand that it's being giving you the fish, it's
not going to be there and what will you do
then reminds me of someone. Actually, I can think of
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three people who live an extremely disillusioned life of how
to raise their children. I understand that when your children
are young, you naturally wish to hold their hands and
make sure that life is easy. But the problem is
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life is not easy. It's so far from reality. Once
those children grow up in the real world, no longer,
nobody will no longer be handing them anything. And then
what do you keep them in a bubble? Do they
just choose to live in a bubble? Will they spend
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their lives trying to live on handout? I mean, why
living your life and not knowing what it's like to
earn something for work? It sucks. I remember my very
first check. I don't know if it was this I
was thirteen, but it's almost like I remember a check
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for like one oh eight or something like that, like
just right over one hundred, because I remember thinking to myself,
it's one hundred dollars. It was for a hardware store
called schwitz Er Hardware. I was thirteen. I was so hungry.
I ended up running that hardware store. I learned every
single person's job in that hardware store. I liked being challenged,
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I liked working. I liked learning. I like knowing that
I can what my value was. I liked being pushed.
And the thing is, like I said, when in tended
to you, you don't see it, But when you work
for it, you see the value of a dollar, and
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you see things differently in life. This lesson can mold
you into a very successful entrepreneur for your entire life,
or you can just complain for the rest of your
life because you never learned your value and you just
always will think money will just appear. And then the
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problem with that is you're the one who will keep
the roof over your head with limitations of how much
you're worth? How much are you worth? Like right now,
for those of you in your regular jobs getting paid X,
Y and z, is this what you think you're worth?
Is that it? You don't think there's a possibility of
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making more than that. Again, that's you know, having a
roof over your head. I don't mean like a home.
I think of how much you can grow? What limitations
do you have? And then for many, those are those
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that get to that first check and instead of complaining
about it, My only issue I remember when I got
my first check was who the hell was fika? You
know taxes? Like who is this person? But I immediately
saw my value and I was wondering, how do I
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make more? What other job here can I do to
make more money? Can I work more overtime? Every job
I've ever had, I've become a manager simply out of
wanting to know what I can do more, what I
can learn, not just settling. I can never remember when
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I was in My father was like, just get a
job in a factory, not criticizing people that do. But
I was just like, can I manage the factory? I
cannot just sit there and just I can't. Some people can,
And to me, you, my friend, it's a superpower. But
your limitations are your worst enemy. You are the one
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that from this point on, you create your limiting beliefs
or strong beliefs, and you figure out, hopefully what you
need to do to grow to welcome more abundance. We're
diving into a topic that can feel heavy for some,
but it's one of the most important things you'll ever face.
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Which is discomfort. Watch you to take a deep breath
right now and hold it, allow yourself to be grounded
in this moment. Wherever you are. You don't have to
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close your eyes, Please don't, especially if you're driving. But
just listen to what I'm saying about limiting beliefs and
that roof above your head that you is keeping you
from from growing, from expanding, from learning, instead of going
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on Facebook or watching TV, and you know, and being
so impressed with everybody else and all the things they're doing,
and you know so and so in this person, you
know they're worth this, and they're worth that. And now
I think, said Elon Musk, I think now he's worth
a trillion dollars. You have those that see that and
are inspired by that, and then you have so those
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that see that and are jealous of that. Which are
you not judging? I will tell you right now, my
entire life, I have always felt such inspiration for those
that do better than me. I don't see it as
a negative thing. I'm not jealous. I just see it as, oh,
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there's other ways, there's more possibility, there's more opportunities. If
that person can do it, so can I not? Oh,
I can't believe that person is doing it. What a jerk?
I mean? Is it a fear of failure? Is it
a fear of rejection? Or simply is it just that
I don't know if I can do this? And here's
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ther truth. Discomfort is where growth lives. Discomfort is the
only place growth lives. It is the foundation of discomfort.
Let just take a moment and understand what discomfort really is.
Discomfort is not punishment. It's not your life telling you
that you're failing, that you're failure. It's not a flaw
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in your character, because a lot of people take things
so personally. It's not. It's a signal, a signal that
something in your life, the cat is shifting like that,
that something is asking you to rise above the occasion,
to take that next step, that next level, the next
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version of yourself, because it's waiting. Opportunity is waiting for you,
Growth is waiting for you. Or you can just sit
there and you could either step forward or step back.
Think of it like stretching a muscle. When you lift weights.
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The resistance is uncomfortable. It hurts, muscles burn, you feel
the strain, But that strain is how strength is built.
I think it's funny when I know people that complain
about being in pain and I tell them to do
exercise and stretch it out, and they're like, oh, but
it hurts. I'm like, yeah, it's going to once, twice,
three times. The fourth time you've built a muscle. The
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fifth time you're getting stronger, the sixth time you're getting stronger.
The seventh time, no more pain. That's science. So for
those of you that are like, that's not no, that's science.
Life works the same way emotional, mental, spiritual. They all
respond to resistance in the same way. That tension is
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very necessary. But then why do so many run from it?
Most people spend their lives running from discomfort, and I
get it, because it's uncomfortable. But instead we distract ourselves.
We scroll endlessly, We binge watch shows our days with
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noise because silence makes us face the feelings we'd rather ignore.
But here's the thing. Running doesn't make it to go away.
Closing the door on it doesn't make it go away,
Ignoring it doesn't make it go away. Avoidance doesn't make
it easier, and comfort comfort doesn't help you evolve. Think
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about it. Every time you've grown into a stronger version
of yourself. It's because you leaned in, because you accepted
the challenge. You didn't just stumble into it. You faced it.
Those moments, you know, the ones that scared you, the
moments that challenged you, the moments that made you doubt yourself,
and you pushed through it. Anyway, Discomfort is the doorway.
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Comfort is the room you get stuck in. Here's a paradox.
I want you to hold this in your mind. Grow
both rarely feels good and discomfort rarely feels bad in
the way you think. Let me explain. When you're uncomfortable,
it doesn't always scream pain. Sometimes it whispers it. Sometimes
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it's a quiet tension you feel in your chest when
you know you're about to step into something new. Sometimes
it's fear. Fear that you might fail, or that you're
not enough, fear that people will judge you, or that
you might make the wrong choice again. I always like
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to go back to the whole concept of kids in
a classroom. You know, when you're young and the teacher
asks for those that don't know, please raise your hand,
and that you actually have children that won't raise their
hand because they're embarrassed to raise their hand, not realizing
that the reason you're in school is to learn not
to be popular in front of other kids that are
now just as ignorant as you because nobody bothered to
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ask a question. So now you slid through school, you
slid through high school, and some people actually think it's cool, Like, yeah,
I was cool. I sat in the back of the room.
I didn't learn anything. I was popular. But now I
cheated myself because it wasn't just about learning what they
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teach you in school. It's about learning so much more.
It's about learning who you are, what you can do
and what you can't do, what your limiting beliefs are,
and how you can stand above them, raise yourself over them.
But instead you just you cheated yourself. Let me get
real for a second. There have been times in my life, jobs, risks,
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personal challenges where I wanted also comfort. I wanted to
feel safe, I wanted to stay in my lane, but
the opportunities that mattered the most they come wrapped in discomfort.
I remember time when I wasn't sure I can hand
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a big change, a risk that could have gone either way,
but my mind screamed, don't do this, you might fail.
My gut was tense, my body was on edge. I
made myself sick, and yet I pushed forward at some point,
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and you know what happened. I didn't just survive. I grew.
I learned. I succeeded. I became someone stronger, more confident,
more grounded than I was right before. That's the power
of leaning into discomfort. It forces you to discover what
you're made of. It reveals strength that you didn't know
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you had. Here's something that would change everything if you
take it seriously. Discomfort is a mirror. It reflects where
you're avoiding growth. It shows you where you've been playing small.
It exposes the places that you've been hiding from your potential.
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When you start to view discomfort this way, it stops
being an enemy and it now becomes your guide. Instead
of asking why is this happening to me? Start asking
what is the moment? This moment trying to teach me?
That simple shift, That simple mindset changes everything. It moves
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you from fear to curiosity, from resistance to learning, from
pain to purpose. So at this point I want you
to think about it. Think about one area in your life.
I'm talking to you. That's uncomfortable right now, something that
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may be nagging at your subconscious making you think that
you can't. Maybe it's a goal, Maybe it's a fear.
You've been caring for years and you just keep running
from it. Why Why are you cheating your life? The
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universe gave you, God gave you such a beautiful life,
and you're cheating. You're cheating it instead of trying to
escape it. Sit with it, notice it, name it, Breathe
through it, because the very thing that feels heavy right
now is shaping you into who you're were, or are
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meant to become. As I said, discomfort is not punishment,
it's preparation. And that's where I want. I want to
go a little bit deeper into the real, raw, motivational
side of leaning into this stuff, challenging yourself, pushing yourself,
and how to use it to reset yourself, actionable ways
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to grow through it, to run through it. Now, let's
get into a part that most people avoid, the part
that shakes them to the core. They take it and
they will use it as fuel for real change. Because
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here's the truth, most of us don't just feel discomfort.
We fight it, We argue with it, we spend energy
wishing it wasn't there, but that energy is wasted. Discomfort
isn't something to conquer, it's something to channels, something to
work with. When you lean into discomfort, you gain clarity.
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You begin to see patterns in your life you couldn't
see before because now you're like, I can do this.
Think of it. Like I said, I mentioned a few
podcasts go tying your shoe, learning how to tell time,
writing and cursive learning your multiplication. I mean those are
things that like, right, But trust me, right before that
moment you were like I can't do this. Here we
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are twenty thirty, ten, fifteen, whatever years later and you're like, yeah, okay,
I learned that, right, But at one point in your
life you didn't think you could think about the last
time something felt hard to you to do with something
that you just felt as a challenge, and you're like,
I can't do this. Maybe you were learning a new skills,
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starting a new job, or stepping into an unknown social situation.
At the time, it probably felt completely and totally impossible.
You might have questioned yourself constantly, can I do this?
Can I do this? Can I do this? Am I enough?
I can't do this? I can't do this, I'm not enough.
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But here's the lesson you probably didn't see in that moment.
That discomfort was your trainer. It trained your patience, It
trains your focus, It trained your ability to handle uncertainty.
And God, those lessons they carry far beyond the single situation.
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They build the kind of resilience that will serve you
for the rest of your life. Here's a few examples
sing many of us experience but often overlook as growth opportunities.
You start in your job, or maybe you take a
risk in your current career and it's scary, understandable. You
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feel out of place, unsure, maybe even inadequate. Those first
few months are full of discomfort. But if you push through,
as I know you have time and time again, you
gain confidence, new skills, and a sense of accomplishment that
staying in your old routine can never ever give you.
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In relationships, discomfort often shows up in how we connect
with people, difficult conversations, boundaries, setting boundaries, or ending relationships
that just no longer serve you. All of this hurts,
of course, it hurts, It sucks. It's change. I know
quite a few people that have such an issue with change.
But you can't live life without change. Just because you
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don't like something. The universe isn't asking you what you
like or dislike. The universe doesn't give a shit. It
will push you because that's what life is. Life is
about pushing you your limits, pushing them, making them more,
not more limits, but making them smaller. Hurdling, jumping over walls,
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jumping over fences, challenging yourself. And then while you're doing this,
you're teaching yourself emotional intelligence, self respect, and in authentic
connection with yourself. Not how I do and compare to
other people. I don't care about other people. It's challenging
you to be a better person than you were yesterday,
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last week, a month ago, five weeks ago. It's about
facing your own limitations, admitting that you don't know something
it happens, You recognize bad habits, you confront your fears.
It's uncomfortable. I get it. It's uncomfortable as hell, but
it's how you break free from patterns that hold you
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back and start one day hopefully living challenging and every scenario,
the common threat is very simple. Discomfort precedes growth. You
can't skip the stretch and you can't avoid the pressure
if you want transformation, here's a mindset that game that changes.
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Instead of thinking I can't handle this, start saying this
is uncomfortable because I'm growing, I can't handle this. Instead
say this is uncomfortable, but I know I'm growing, I
know I'm learning. Instead of thinking I wish this were easier.
I wish this were easier, but I know it's preparing
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me for something bigger. Just missing that little end piece,
so I wish this were easier, that's fine, but I
know it's preparing me for something bigger. That one small
shift turns pain into opportunity, fear into guidance, resistance into resilience.
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And the more you practice it, the more natural becomes.
Discomfort stops being the enemy and starts being the roadmap.
And this is when you take it all in and
you embrace the process. It's a beautiful thing. Now let's
go a little bit deeper. I want you to imagine
a few things. Every time you have faced discomfort and
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stayed present in the moment, grounded focused, something changed inside
of you. Maybe you discovered the strength you didn't know
you had. Maybe you learned patience. Maybe you finally proved
to yourself that you are capable. Every time you avoided discomfort,
something stayed the same. Nothing changed. At that point, you
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lose momentum, you delay growth, and you just stay in
a situation that's safe. But it becomes stagnant, especially especially
when we're watching the entire world around this grow and
do things, and we're just like, why do they have
all that stuff? Because they're doing the work. The choice
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is yours, my friend, always, the choice is yours, and
yes you. And here's the kicker. You don't have to
wait for life to throw you into uncomfortable situations. You
can seek them out intentionally. Take on a challenge that
you've been avoiding, have the conversation with somebody that you've
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been postponing, Step into an opportunity even if it scares you.
Do it purposely, do it, consistence, consistently, and watch yourself transform.
Here's a practical way to work with discomfort. Every day
you ready, big one, You're ready, Notice it, Yes, just
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notice it. When discomfort arises, stop breathe name it. What
I mean by that is say I feel uneasy, I
feel tense, I feel afraid, instead of just oh my god,
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realize it's there, and then you sit with it. You
don't react immediately. You breathe, and you allow it to
exist without judgment. There's something that you need to do
in the next few minutes or next day or week
or whatever, and it's not going to be easy. But
you ask yourself, what is this feeling trying to teach me?
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What is this lesson trying to teach me? And allow
the answer to arise naturally. Don't force it. Even a
tiny action, a tiny action towards the discomfort. A discomfort
is progress. It's proof you're willing to grow and become wiser.
Do this daily and you'll start seeing patterns. You'll start understanding.
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My favorite thing is you ready yourself. Remember the show
is called Reset Yourself, not resets your friends on Facebook.
Reset the cool kids, reset the celebrities or the popular people.
I don't care about them. Reset yourself. You will start
understanding yourself in ways comfort never could teach you. Of course,
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I always have some type of exercise I have somewhere
at the end, but simple ones, the discomfort Journal. Write
down moments of discomfort every day for a week. If
something bothered you, even if you didn't deal with it
the way you should have, that's fine and a couple
of days, I've gone by, sit at your computer, sit
on you piece of paper, get a crayon, Write it out.
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What was it that you scared? Was scared you? What
fear did you deal with? So you're being aware with it?
And then ask yourself, how did you respond to it?
And that's fine. I ran from it, I cried, I
couldn't handle it, I ignored it. I slammed the door
on it. That's fine, but write it down now. Once
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you're done, take another breath, and then ask yourself, how,
not saying you're going to just write it down, how
could you respond differently next time? And then write that out?
Even though at this time you're like, well I probably
won't do that, I don't care, but write it down.
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How would you? How could you respond differently to this discomfort,
to this challenge, to this fear, because it's it's really
what you What I'm asking you is to reframe the
fear for each uncomfortable situation you're writing down the lesson
it could offer you Next to it, write one action
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that you can take to embrace it rather than avoid it.
How could you have handled it differently? How could you
have perceived the situation differently. You're not sure, Ask somebody
next to you, this is a situation, this is the
fear I felt. How would you handle it? Not comparing,
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but sometimes we hear other people's opinions. It just makes
us think. Right now, visualize yourself stronger, See yourself six
months from now, stronger, having learned more. And then all
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of a sudden, you see yourself dealing with the same
discomfort that you deal with six months ago, and you're like,
that used to make me uncomfortable, doesn't anymore. It's very simple.
Every morning, take five minutes to breathe deeply as you
should before you wake up, a start throwing her phone,
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wake up. Look around. If you have pets, hug them.
If you have loved ones, hug them. And then say
to yourself, I'm blessed for today. I'm blessed for today.
And then you focus on any physical or emotional discomfort
you feel currently, and you tell yourself, this moment is
preparing me, this moment, this day will shape me into
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a bigger, better, more experienced, livelier, more successful person. Do
it consciously, Do it with a friend. Nothing wrong with that.
We've been taught to believe that growth should feel like
confidence and excitement. It should be incredible. It's not. At first.
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Growth usually feels like confusion, like chaos, like losing control.
You know, it's like growing pain. Sometimes growing pains hurt.
It feels like I don't know what I'm doing. And
then you're still doubting yourself. You're trying to challenge yourself,
and I applaud you, but just probably doubting yourself. Should
I even be doing this? Am I worthy? I feel
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like I don't know what I'm doing? And that's exactly
where you're supposed to be. What yes think about the
seed burned in that dirt. From the outside, it looks
like it's being crushed. It's in the darkness, it's surrounded
by pressure. But inside that little seed, something beautiful is
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actually happening. It's going to crack open, and obviously that
crack hurts, but it's the only way the sea can
grow roots and reach the light that's us. Discomfort cracks
us open so we can stretch into something bigger. When
life feels like it's pressing down on you, when everything
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feels uncertain or out of control, it might just be
that the universe is saying you're ready to bloom, you're
ready to shine. It's where it life gets real, and
discomfort really starts. Here. We create this fear of usually
sometimes most likely nothing. It's not always the situation itself.
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It's a story you tell yourself about it. You think
this is too hard, I'm not ready. This must mean
something's wrong with me. But discomfort doesn't mean you're unprepared.
It means you're being upgraded. You're leveling up. You're just
used to the old version of you, that comfortable level. Second,
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in a video game, you're on level two forever because
it's easy. I don't want to deal with level three.
But you challenge yourself and before you know it, you're
on level nine, level twelve, level twenty two, level fifty six.
And like any upgrade, it takes time to install. It
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takes time to learn. You've got to shut down some
old programs, some old programming. You've got to release outdated beliefs.
You've got to stop saying I can't hand lists and
start saying I'm learning how to Discomfort is the bridge
between I'm making a bridge who you were and who
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you're becoming, and crossing that bridge does take faith, not
blind faith, but the kind that whispers, I've been through worse,
haven't you? Haven't you been through some really shitty times already,
but you survive them because you're here, you survive them.
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Speaking of surviving, even for those that have dealt with discomfort,
run from discomfort and just have been okay, a good
comparison is cows. What cows. Cows spend their lives running
from this storm. I have cows right outside my window.
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Every time there's a storm. You don't see them take off.
I mean, there's a lot of cows next door, and
it's just funny that you see all of these cows
and then all of a sudden there's a storm there.
The wind begins, and all of a sudden they're gone.
But then you have the bison, the bison, not the buffalo.
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The buffalo does too, but I'll explain that in a moment,
the bison will run into the storm rather than fleeing
from it, which is a strategic behavior to minimize the
time that they spend in bad weather. You see, to
the bison, by charging directly into the storm, they pass
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through it more quickly, which is often a more efficient
approach than just trying to outrun it or evade it
or hiding from it. You have to deal with it
at some point. And here's the paradox. Even though discomfort
is messy, there's a stillness that lives inside you if
you're brave enough to look. Now, why did I say
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bison and not buffalo? Will buffalo also run into a
storm too? But bison are native to North America and
buffalo actually are not trivia there for you guys. But now,
when everything in your life feels uncertain, which is probably often,
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that is when you have to stop trying to control
it all and start listening to it all. You can't
outthink a discomfort. You have to sit with it. You
can't run from it. You have to acknowledge it. You
have to take a breath, close your eyes, and ask yourself,
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what is this feeling trying to teach me? What is
this fear that I'm feeling trying to show me? Sometimes
the lesson isn't obvious. Sometimes it's patient, times it's self worth.
Sometimes it's letting go of people, places or versions of
yourself that no longer suit you, no longer fit you.
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Growth demands release and release is always uncomfortable. But the
more you learn to sit in that discomfort, without numbing yourself,
without escaping from it. The more powerful you become because
now you're not controlled by anything. You're not controlled by fear.
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You've made peace with it. You've looked at it, and
you've looked at it right in the face, and go,
I will no longer fear you, because I know what
you are truly about. As I said, you've made peace
with it. Now, let's think about those uncomfortable moments that
challenge you. Let's get personal for a second. Think about
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the time in your life when you didn't know how
you were going to get through something, a loss, a
hearda could transition, a test, a risk that scared the
hell out of you. Yet and yet here you are,
still listening, still standing, stronger, wiser, and more grounded than before.
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Right at that time, you probably thought this is going
to break me. Did it? It built you, It strengthened you.
And that's the beauty of discomfort. It shows you what
you're capable of. It exposedes strength you didn't even know
you had. The next time life starts shaking things up,
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remind yourself, I've been uncomfortable before, and I came out
better every single time. I've been uncomfortable before, and I
came out better Every single time you learn to lean in,
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discomfort becomes a compass. It points you towards growth. That
uneasy feeling, it's not punishment, it's preparation. It means that
you're stretching or growing, you're learning or expanding. Your mind
is growing, You're stepping into something so much bigger, And
even though your mind might scream this is too much,
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your soul already knows this is necessary. The gift of
discomfort is awareness. It reveals who you are when things
don't go as planned. Have you ever had a time
in your life that things just didn't go as planned?
Things just blow up in your face? Are you still here?
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Anyone can stay calm when life is easy, But how
you respond when life gets tough, that's who you really are,
Not when you're on top. It's when you're on bottom,
trying to figure out who the hell you are or
how you're gonna survive the evening. Now, let's talk about
how you can turn discomfort into purpose. So how do
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we actually use discomfort instead of just surviving it? Getting
just buy it once again? You reframe it when you
feel that tension Instead of saying why me, you ask yourself,
why is this moment trying to grow in me? Why
do I have to keep dealing with this fear, this mindset?
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I'm afraid again, I'm uncomfortable again, right, and it's gonna
happen again and again, and it's gonna keep happening because
you won't face it. If you're nervous about something, it's
probably because it matters, it's important. If it feels heavy,
it's probably because it's meaningful. Discomfort is proof that you
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care enough to change. You're willing to work about something,
you believe in something, hopefully yourself. That's something that's something
to honor, not avoid it, not run from it. So
the next time you find yourself in that space of uncertainty,
remember you're not stuck. You're just in transition. You're not lost,
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You are evolving. Feel that discomfort in your chest, in
your mind, wherever it sits, and instead of pushing it away,
look at it, as I said, write it down. What's
going on in your mind? How do you feel? Where
do you feel this discomfort in your chest, in your
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head and your heart? What is happening? Write it out
or tell somebody this is a this is what's going
on in my body. It's here to help you what
you're it's you're in mid lesson. Every time you've broken
a pattern, you've learned a lesson, or you walked away
from something that wasn't serving you. Discomfort was a messenger.
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So today, don't run from it. Welcome it. Why would
I want that? Because you want to learn and you
want to never have to deal with it again. Let
it remind you that you are alive and that you
are growing, and that you are capable of more than
you think. Because the truth is, comfort might feel safe,
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but it will never make you stronger. Discomfort, on the
other hand, builds character, builds resilience, It builds you think
about it, Think of your past when you face this
comfort and came out stronger. There have been times that
you have done it. What did you learn from each
one of those lessons, those moments? What part of you
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was born through that struggle. What's one thing in your
life now that feels uncomfortable? Situation, a goal or relationship
and ask yourself, why why do I feel this way?
What is trying to teach me? And then see yourself
dealing with it like even if you haven't yet, imagine
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if whatever is bugging you just to make believe it
doesn't anymore, then see yourself six months from now what
you can actually focus on other things instead of continuing
to go back to this discomfort. Before you know it,
you're growing stronger, calm, or wiser. What would that future
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say about what you're going through at that point? What
you've learned, how much more confident you feel? What would
that future say? How would you feel? Think about that
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no longer. And here's the thing. You've done it already.
You've done it already on so many different occasions. You
have faced so many any different things and you've beat them.
But there will be a couple couple things here and
there you're like, nope, nope, nope, nope, nope. And I'm
not telling you to run into them head first. I'm
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just telling you to acknowledge what they are. Notice I said,
just write down how you think you would feel if
you just dealt with it, and how that would change
your life. See it in front of you, the discomfort,
the solution, and then the peace that you find after
the fact. Breathe through it. Take five minutes ten minutes
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to sit quietly each day, every morning, every night, to
ask yourself, how did I do today? What did I
learn today? What did I fail at today? People have
such an issue with failing. I don't see what the
problem is. How could you not fail unless you were
born knowing every single thing in the world, which I
know certain people that think they do. But let's be really,
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you're going to fail. You're going to have to raise
your hand in class and ask it's life when discomfort rise.
When discomfort rises, instead of reacting, first breathe and remind yourself,
this is how I grow. Remember, the goal isn't to
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chase comfort, is to chase growth. You're not focused on discomfort.
You're focusing on growth, and growth is never painless. But
my friends, it is always worth it. You're not being tested,
You're being transformed. So breathe, trust in yourself, and keep
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walking forward and never forgets. Discomfort is not your enemy.
It's your evolution in motion. I hope I made you think.
I hope I made you question your existence and to
appreciate every tomorrow, every today, and to be grateful for
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all of the experiences of the past that have made
you who you are. Right now, keep this in mind,
transaction over excuse, purpose over comfort, and the work that
matters over the distractions that don't. My name is Jimmy
Gonzales and this was the Reset Yourself twenty two podcasts.
Go forward and live your life to the fullest. Thank
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you so much for listening, liking, and especially sharing with others.
It means so much to me. Many blessings to you all.
Be well, Be well, be well and prosper.
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Daily Beloved, we have gathered here today to get through
this thing called life. You are listening to the Reset
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Yourself What You Podcast with your host, Jimmy Dunzalad.
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Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello. May we begin with an apology
to some of my listeners that this podcast is a
little late. I've been juggling quite a bit of things
over the past few days. I don't want to get
into it. It's not important, but just trying to make time.
Trying to make time, and I'm here, so let's begin.
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In this weekly podcast, I focus on sparking your inner
confidence and igniting your belief in yourself. I'm your host
and I'm always very thrilled to share my thoughts and
research with you. As we go along on this journey. Together,
we can nurture a mindset that empowers us to reach
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our fullest potential. I write a record every episode to
challenge our thinking and to encourage us to reflect and
inspire actionable, realistic steps towards our personal growth. Whether you're
facing a career transition, seeking to overcome challenges or simply
striving for greater fulfillment in your life. This podcast is
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your go to resource from motivation and practical insights. My
inspiration to do this show is to teach people to
focus more on what they can accomplish, which is a lot.
If I believe in you, so should you, so that
you can do the things you need to do when
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you need to do them, so that ultimately you can
get the things you want when you wish to have them.
And this episode is dedicated to every single one of you.
Tell me what you want and I will show you
how to get it. The question is are you're willing
to get off your ass and do the work and
stop complaining? And actually, this is a good podcast. I've
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been going back and forth writing it for quite a
while now and hopefully it really inspires you and makes
you think. I would like to begin with the comparison
of you dealing with being uncomfortable or challenged like a seed.
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A seed, yes, a seed. See yourself right now as
a seed beneath the soil, where it's dark, where it's quiet,
and it's comfortable, it's warm, but something incredible is happening
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inside of you. Soon before you know it, roots will
begin to spread and growth will begin to break through.
And though it feels tight now that pressure is not punishment,
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its progress, and before you know it, you're a seedling
and then hopefully a tree or a beautiful flower. But
in the beginning it was tough. That seed is tight,
and you have to break out of that seat, just
like a little baby chicken or a baby chick has
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to fight to get through that egg. Could you imagine
if it's like, oh, this is too much work, I
hate to burst your bubble. But without life challenging you,
how do you think you can grow? It's pretty ridiculous
to think that. And for my lazy listeners, you know who,
you are, always looking for the easy way, the easy
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journey without any sweat and tears. Sadly, if you do
something and you happen to reach your goal, the problem
is you'll never truly appreciate it. It's because you didn't
work for it, you didn't sweat for it, you didn't
earn it. It was probably handed to you. This, for me,
is a huge topic with people having every single thing
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handed to them, especially when they're young. You should be
taught to fish and not handed fish one day, that
generous hand that it's being giving you the fish, it's
not going to be there and what will you do
then reminds me of someone. Actually, I can think of
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three people who live an extremely disillusioned life of how
to raise their children. I understand that when your children
are young, you naturally wish to hold their hands and
make sure that life is easy. But the problem is
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life is not easy. It's so far from reality. Once
those children grow up in the real world, no longer,
nobody will no longer be handing them anything. And then
what do you keep them in a bubble? Do they
just choose to live in a bubble? Will they spend
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their lives trying to live on handout? I mean, why
living your life and not knowing what it's like to
earn something for work? It sucks. I remember my very
first check. I don't know if it was this I
was thirteen, but it's almost like I remember a check
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for like one oh eight or something like that, like
just right over one hundred, because I remember thinking to myself,
it's one hundred dollars. It was for a hardware store
called schwitz Er Hardware. I was thirteen. I was so hungry.
I ended up running that hardware store. I learned every
single person's job in that hardware store. I liked being challenged,
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I liked working. I liked learning. I like knowing that
I can what my value was. I liked being pushed.
And the thing is, like I said, when in tended
to you, you don't see it, But when you work
for it, you see the value of a dollar, and
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you see things differently in life. This lesson can mold
you into a very successful entrepreneur for your entire life,
or you can just complain for the rest of your
life because you never learned your value and you just
always will think money will just appear. And then the
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problem with that is you're the one who will keep
the roof over your head with limitations of how much
you're worth? How much are you worth? Like right now,
for those of you in your regular jobs getting paid X,
Y and z, is this what you think you're worth?
Is that it? You don't think there's a possibility of
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making more than that. Again, that's you know, having a
roof over your head. I don't mean like a home.
I think of how much you can grow? What limitations
do you have? And then for many, those are those
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that get to that first check and instead of complaining
about it, My only issue I remember when I got
my first check was who the hell was fika? You
know taxes? Like who is this person? But I immediately
saw my value and I was wondering, how do I
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make more? What other job here can I do to
make more money? Can I work more overtime? Every job
I've ever had, I've become a manager simply out of
wanting to know what I can do more, what I
can learn, not just settling. I can never remember when
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I was in My father was like, just get a
job in a factory, not criticizing people that do. But
I was just like, can I manage the factory? I
cannot just sit there and just I can't. Some people can,
And to me, you, my friend, it's a superpower. But
your limitations are your worst enemy. You are the one
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that from this point on, you create your limiting beliefs
or strong beliefs, and you figure out, hopefully what you
need to do to grow to welcome more abundance. We're
diving into a topic that can feel heavy for some,
but it's one of the most important things you'll ever face.
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Which is discomfort. Watch you to take a deep breath
right now and hold it, allow yourself to be grounded
in this moment. Wherever you are. You don't have to
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close your eyes, Please don't, especially if you're driving. But
just listen to what I'm saying about limiting beliefs and
that roof above your head that you is keeping you
from from growing, from expanding, from learning, instead of going
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on Facebook or watching TV, and you know, and being
so impressed with everybody else and all the things they're doing,
and you know so and so in this person, you
know they're worth this, and they're worth that. And now
I think, said Elon Musk, I think now he's worth
a trillion dollars. You have those that see that and
are inspired by that, and then you have so those
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that see that and are jealous of that. Which are
you not judging? I will tell you right now, my
entire life, I have always felt such inspiration for those
that do better than me. I don't see it as
a negative thing. I'm not jealous. I just see it as, oh,
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there's other ways, there's more possibility, there's more opportunities. If
that person can do it, so can I not? Oh,
I can't believe that person is doing it. What a jerk?
I mean? Is it a fear of failure? Is it
a fear of rejection? Or simply is it just that
I don't know if I can do this? And here's
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ther truth. Discomfort is where growth lives. Discomfort is the
only place growth lives. It is the foundation of discomfort.
Let just take a moment and understand what discomfort really is.
Discomfort is not punishment. It's not your life telling you
that you're failing, that you're failure. It's not a flaw
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in your character, because a lot of people take things
so personally. It's not. It's a signal, a signal that
something in your life, the cat is shifting like that,
that something is asking you to rise above the occasion,
to take that next step, that next level, the next
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version of yourself, because it's waiting. Opportunity is waiting for you,
Growth is waiting for you. Or you can just sit
there and you could either step forward or step back.
Think of it like stretching a muscle. When you lift weights.
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The resistance is uncomfortable. It hurts, muscles burn, you feel
the strain, But that strain is how strength is built.
I think it's funny when I know people that complain
about being in pain and I tell them to do
exercise and stretch it out, and they're like, oh, but
it hurts. I'm like, yeah, it's going to once, twice,
three times. The fourth time you've built a muscle. The
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fifth time you're getting stronger, the sixth time you're getting stronger.
The seventh time, no more pain. That's science. So for
those of you that are like, that's not no, that's science.
Life works the same way emotional, mental, spiritual. They all
respond to resistance in the same way. That tension is
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very necessary. But then why do so many run from it?
Most people spend their lives running from discomfort, and I
get it, because it's uncomfortable. But instead we distract ourselves.
We scroll endlessly, We binge watch shows our days with
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noise because silence makes us face the feelings we'd rather ignore.
But here's the thing. Running doesn't make it to go away.
Closing the door on it doesn't make it go away,
Ignoring it doesn't make it go away. Avoidance doesn't make
it easier, and comfort comfort doesn't help you evolve. Think
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about it. Every time you've grown into a stronger version
of yourself. It's because you leaned in, because you accepted
the challenge. You didn't just stumble into it. You faced it.
Those moments, you know, the ones that scared you, the
moments that challenged you, the moments that made you doubt yourself,
and you pushed through it. Anyway, Discomfort is the doorway.
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Comfort is the room you get stuck in. Here's a paradox.
I want you to hold this in your mind. Grow
both rarely feels good and discomfort rarely feels bad in
the way you think. Let me explain. When you're uncomfortable,
it doesn't always scream pain. Sometimes it whispers it. Sometimes
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it's a quiet tension you feel in your chest when
you know you're about to step into something new. Sometimes
it's fear. Fear that you might fail, or that you're
not enough, fear that people will judge you, or that
you might make the wrong choice again. I always like
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to go back to the whole concept of kids in
a classroom. You know, when you're young and the teacher
asks for those that don't know, please raise your hand,
and that you actually have children that won't raise their
hand because they're embarrassed to raise their hand, not realizing
that the reason you're in school is to learn not
to be popular in front of other kids that are
now just as ignorant as you because nobody bothered to
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ask a question. So now you slid through school, you
slid through high school, and some people actually think it's cool, Like, yeah,
I was cool. I sat in the back of the room.
I didn't learn anything. I was popular. But now I
cheated myself because it wasn't just about learning what they
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teach you in school. It's about learning so much more.
It's about learning who you are, what you can do
and what you can't do, what your limiting beliefs are,
and how you can stand above them, raise yourself over them.
But instead you just you cheated yourself. Let me get
real for a second. There have been times in my life, jobs, risks,
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personal challenges where I wanted also comfort. I wanted to
feel safe, I wanted to stay in my lane, but
the opportunities that mattered the most they come wrapped in discomfort.
I remember time when I wasn't sure I can hand
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a big change, a risk that could have gone either way,
but my mind screamed, don't do this, you might fail.
My gut was tense, my body was on edge. I
made myself sick, and yet I pushed forward at some point,
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and you know what happened. I didn't just survive. I grew.
I learned. I succeeded. I became someone stronger, more confident,
more grounded than I was right before. That's the power
of leaning into discomfort. It forces you to discover what
you're made of. It reveals strength that you didn't know
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you had. Here's something that would change everything if you
take it seriously. Discomfort is a mirror. It reflects where
you're avoiding growth. It shows you where you've been playing small.
It exposes the places that you've been hiding from your potential.
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When you start to view discomfort this way, it stops
being an enemy and it now becomes your guide. Instead
of asking why is this happening to me? Start asking
what is the moment? This moment trying to teach me?
That simple shift, That simple mindset changes everything. It moves
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you from fear to curiosity, from resistance to learning, from
pain to purpose. So at this point I want you
to think about it. Think about one area in your life.
I'm talking to you. That's uncomfortable right now, something that
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may be nagging at your subconscious making you think that
you can't. Maybe it's a goal, Maybe it's a fear.
You've been caring for years and you just keep running
from it. Why Why are you cheating your life? The
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universe gave you, God gave you such a beautiful life,
and you're cheating. You're cheating it instead of trying to
escape it. Sit with it, notice it, name it, Breathe
through it, because the very thing that feels heavy right
now is shaping you into who you're were, or are
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meant to become. As I said, discomfort is not punishment,
it's preparation. And that's where I want. I want to
go a little bit deeper into the real, raw, motivational
side of leaning into this stuff, challenging yourself, pushing yourself,
and how to use it to reset yourself, actionable ways
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to grow through it, to run through it. Now, let's
get into a part that most people avoid, the part
that shakes them to the core. They take it and
they will use it as fuel for real change. Because
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here's the truth, most of us don't just feel discomfort.
We fight it, We argue with it, we spend energy
wishing it wasn't there, but that energy is wasted. Discomfort
isn't something to conquer, it's something to channels, something to
work with. When you lean into discomfort, you gain clarity.
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You begin to see patterns in your life you couldn't
see before because now you're like, I can do this.
Think of it. Like I said, I mentioned a few
podcasts go tying your shoe, learning how to tell time,
writing and cursive learning your multiplication. I mean those are
things that like, right, But trust me, right before that
moment you were like I can't do this. Here we
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are twenty thirty, ten, fifteen, whatever years later and you're like, yeah, okay,
I learned that, right, But at one point in your
life you didn't think you could think about the last
time something felt hard to you to do with something
that you just felt as a challenge, and you're like,
I can't do this. Maybe you were learning a new skills,
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starting a new job, or stepping into an unknown social situation.
At the time, it probably felt completely and totally impossible.
You might have questioned yourself constantly, can I do this?
Can I do this? Can I do this? Am I enough?
I can't do this? I can't do this, I'm not enough.
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But here's the lesson you probably didn't see in that moment.
That discomfort was your trainer. It trained your patience, It
trains your focus, It trained your ability to handle uncertainty.
And God, those lessons they carry far beyond the single situation.
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They build the kind of resilience that will serve you
for the rest of your life. Here's a few examples
sing many of us experience but often overlook as growth opportunities.
You start in your job, or maybe you take a
risk in your current career and it's scary, understandable. You
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feel out of place, unsure, maybe even inadequate. Those first
few months are full of discomfort. But if you push through,
as I know you have time and time again, you
gain confidence, new skills, and a sense of accomplishment that
staying in your old routine can never ever give you.
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In relationships, discomfort often shows up in how we connect
with people, difficult conversations, boundaries, setting boundaries, or ending relationships
that just no longer serve you. All of this hurts,
of course, it hurts, It sucks. It's change. I know
quite a few people that have such an issue with change.
But you can't live life without change. Just because you
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don't like something. The universe isn't asking you what you
like or dislike. The universe doesn't give a shit. It
will push you because that's what life is. Life is
about pushing you your limits, pushing them, making them more,
not more limits, but making them smaller. Hurdling, jumping over walls,
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jumping over fences, challenging yourself. And then while you're doing this,
you're teaching yourself emotional intelligence, self respect, and in authentic
connection with yourself. Not how I do and compare to
other people. I don't care about other people. It's challenging
you to be a better person than you were yesterday,
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last week, a month ago, five weeks ago. It's about
facing your own limitations, admitting that you don't know something
it happens, You recognize bad habits, you confront your fears.
It's uncomfortable. I get it. It's uncomfortable as hell, but
it's how you break free from patterns that hold you
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back and start one day hopefully living challenging and every scenario,
the common threat is very simple. Discomfort precedes growth. You
can't skip the stretch and you can't avoid the pressure
if you want transformation, here's a mindset that game that changes.
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Instead of thinking I can't handle this, start saying this
is uncomfortable because I'm growing, I can't handle this. Instead
say this is uncomfortable, but I know I'm growing, I
know I'm learning. Instead of thinking I wish this were easier.
I wish this were easier, but I know it's preparing
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me for something bigger. Just missing that little end piece,
so I wish this were easier, that's fine, but I
know it's preparing me for something bigger. That one small
shift turns pain into opportunity, fear into guidance, resistance into resilience.
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And the more you practice it, the more natural becomes.
Discomfort stops being the enemy and starts being the roadmap.
And this is when you take it all in and
you embrace the process. It's a beautiful thing. Now let's
go a little bit deeper. I want you to imagine
a few things. Every time you have faced discomfort and
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stayed present in the moment, grounded focused, something changed inside
of you. Maybe you discovered the strength you didn't know
you had. Maybe you learned patience. Maybe you finally proved
to yourself that you are capable. Every time you avoided discomfort,
something stayed the same. Nothing changed. At that point, you
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lose momentum, you delay growth, and you just stay in
a situation that's safe. But it becomes stagnant, especially especially
when we're watching the entire world around this grow and
do things, and we're just like, why do they have
all that stuff? Because they're doing the work. The choice
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is yours, my friend, always, the choice is yours, and
yes you. And here's the kicker. You don't have to
wait for life to throw you into uncomfortable situations. You
can seek them out intentionally. Take on a challenge that
you've been avoiding, have the conversation with somebody that you've
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been postponing, Step into an opportunity even if it scares you.
Do it purposely, do it, consistence, consistently, and watch yourself transform.
Here's a practical way to work with discomfort. Every day
you ready, big one, You're ready, Notice it, Yes, just
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notice it. When discomfort arises, stop breathe name it. What
I mean by that is say I feel uneasy, I
feel tense, I feel afraid, instead of just oh my god,
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realize it's there, and then you sit with it. You
don't react immediately. You breathe, and you allow it to
exist without judgment. There's something that you need to do
in the next few minutes or next day or week
or whatever, and it's not going to be easy. But
you ask yourself, what is this feeling trying to teach me?
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What is this lesson trying to teach me? And allow
the answer to arise naturally. Don't force it. Even a
tiny action, a tiny action towards the discomfort. A discomfort
is progress. It's proof you're willing to grow and become wiser.
Do this daily and you'll start seeing patterns. You'll start understanding.
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My favorite thing is you ready yourself. Remember the show
is called Reset Yourself, not resets your friends on Facebook.
Reset the cool kids, reset the celebrities or the popular people.
I don't care about them. Reset yourself. You will start
understanding yourself in ways comfort never could teach you. Of course,
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I always have some type of exercise I have somewhere
at the end, but simple ones, the discomfort Journal. Write
down moments of discomfort every day for a week. If
something bothered you, even if you didn't deal with it
the way you should have, that's fine and a couple
of days, I've gone by, sit at your computer, sit
on you piece of paper, get a crayon, Write it out.
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What was it that you scared? Was scared you? What
fear did you deal with? So you're being aware with it?
And then ask yourself, how did you respond to it?
And that's fine. I ran from it, I cried, I
couldn't handle it, I ignored it. I slammed the door
on it. That's fine, but write it down now. Once
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you're done, take another breath, and then ask yourself, how,
not saying you're going to just write it down, how
could you respond differently next time? And then write that out?
Even though at this time you're like, well I probably
won't do that, I don't care, but write it down.
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How would you? How could you respond differently to this discomfort,
to this challenge, to this fear, because it's it's really
what you What I'm asking you is to reframe the
fear for each uncomfortable situation you're writing down the lesson
it could offer you Next to it, write one action
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that you can take to embrace it rather than avoid it.
How could you have handled it differently? How could you
have perceived the situation differently. You're not sure, Ask somebody
next to you, this is a situation, this is the
fear I felt. How would you handle it? Not comparing,
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but sometimes we hear other people's opinions. It just makes
us think. Right now, visualize yourself stronger, See yourself six
months from now, stronger, having learned more. And then all
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of a sudden, you see yourself dealing with the same
discomfort that you deal with six months ago, and you're like,
that used to make me uncomfortable, doesn't anymore. It's very simple.
Every morning, take five minutes to breathe deeply as you
should before you wake up, a start throwing her phone,
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wake up. Look around. If you have pets, hug them.
If you have loved ones, hug them. And then say
to yourself, I'm blessed for today. I'm blessed for today.
And then you focus on any physical or emotional discomfort
you feel currently, and you tell yourself, this moment is
preparing me, this moment, this day will shape me into
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a bigger, better, more experienced, livelier, more successful person. Do
it consciously, Do it with a friend. Nothing wrong with that.
We've been taught to believe that growth should feel like
confidence and excitement. It should be incredible. It's not. At first.
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Growth usually feels like confusion, like chaos, like losing control.
You know, it's like growing pain. Sometimes growing pains hurt.
It feels like I don't know what I'm doing. And
then you're still doubting yourself. You're trying to challenge yourself,
and I applaud you, but just probably doubting yourself. Should
I even be doing this? Am I worthy? I feel
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like I don't know what I'm doing? And that's exactly
where you're supposed to be. What yes think about the
seed burned in that dirt. From the outside, it looks
like it's being crushed. It's in the darkness, it's surrounded
by pressure. But inside that little seed, something beautiful is
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actually happening. It's going to crack open, and obviously that
crack hurts, but it's the only way the sea can
grow roots and reach the light that's us. Discomfort cracks
us open so we can stretch into something bigger. When
life feels like it's pressing down on you, when everything
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feels uncertain or out of control, it might just be
that the universe is saying you're ready to bloom, you're
ready to shine. It's where it life gets real, and
discomfort really starts. Here. We create this fear of usually
sometimes most likely nothing. It's not always the situation itself.
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It's a story you tell yourself about it. You think
this is too hard, I'm not ready. This must mean
something's wrong with me. But discomfort doesn't mean you're unprepared.
It means you're being upgraded. You're leveling up. You're just
used to the old version of you, that comfortable level. Second,
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in a video game, you're on level two forever because
it's easy. I don't want to deal with level three.
But you challenge yourself and before you know it, you're
on level nine, level twelve, level twenty two, level fifty six.
And like any upgrade, it takes time to install. It
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takes time to learn. You've got to shut down some
old programs, some old programming. You've got to release outdated beliefs.
You've got to stop saying I can't hand lists and
start saying I'm learning how to Discomfort is the bridge
between I'm making a bridge who you were and who
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you're becoming, and crossing that bridge does take faith, not
blind faith, but the kind that whispers, I've been through worse,
haven't you? Haven't you been through some really shitty times already,
but you survive them because you're here, you survive them.
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Speaking of surviving, even for those that have dealt with discomfort,
run from discomfort and just have been okay, a good
comparison is cows. What cows. Cows spend their lives running
from this storm. I have cows right outside my window.
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Every time there's a storm. You don't see them take off.
I mean, there's a lot of cows next door, and
it's just funny that you see all of these cows
and then all of a sudden there's a storm there.
The wind begins, and all of a sudden they're gone.
But then you have the bison, the bison, not the buffalo.
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The buffalo does too, but I'll explain that in a moment,
the bison will run into the storm rather than fleeing
from it, which is a strategic behavior to minimize the
time that they spend in bad weather. You see, to
the bison, by charging directly into the storm, they pass
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through it more quickly, which is often a more efficient
approach than just trying to outrun it or evade it
or hiding from it. You have to deal with it
at some point. And here's the paradox. Even though discomfort
is messy, there's a stillness that lives inside you if
you're brave enough to look. Now, why did I say
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bison and not buffalo? Will buffalo also run into a
storm too? But bison are native to North America and
buffalo actually are not trivia there for you guys. But now,
when everything in your life feels uncertain, which is probably often,
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that is when you have to stop trying to control
it all and start listening to it all. You can't
outthink a discomfort. You have to sit with it. You
can't run from it. You have to acknowledge it. You
have to take a breath, close your eyes, and ask yourself,
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what is this feeling trying to teach me? What is
this fear that I'm feeling trying to show me? Sometimes
the lesson isn't obvious. Sometimes it's patient, times it's self worth.
Sometimes it's letting go of people, places or versions of
yourself that no longer suit you, no longer fit you.
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Growth demands release and release is always uncomfortable. But the
more you learn to sit in that discomfort, without numbing yourself,
without escaping from it. The more powerful you become because
now you're not controlled by anything. You're not controlled by fear.
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You've made peace with it. You've looked at it, and
you've looked at it right in the face, and go,
I will no longer fear you, because I know what
you are truly about. As I said, you've made peace
with it. Now, let's think about those uncomfortable moments that
challenge you. Let's get personal for a second. Think about
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the time in your life when you didn't know how
you were going to get through something, a loss, a
hearda could transition, a test, a risk that scared the
hell out of you. Yet and yet here you are,
still listening, still standing, stronger, wiser, and more grounded than before.
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Right at that time, you probably thought this is going
to break me. Did it? It built you, It strengthened you.
And that's the beauty of discomfort. It shows you what
you're capable of. It exposedes strength you didn't even know
you had. The next time life starts shaking things up,
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remind yourself, I've been uncomfortable before, and I came out
better every single time. I've been uncomfortable before, and I
came out better Every single time you learn to lean in,
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discomfort becomes a compass. It points you towards growth. That
uneasy feeling, it's not punishment, it's preparation. It means that
you're stretching or growing, you're learning or expanding. Your mind
is growing, You're stepping into something so much bigger, And
even though your mind might scream this is too much,
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your soul already knows this is necessary. The gift of
discomfort is awareness. It reveals who you are when things
don't go as planned. Have you ever had a time
in your life that things just didn't go as planned?
Things just blow up in your face? Are you still here?
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Anyone can stay calm when life is easy, But how
you respond when life gets tough, that's who you really are,
Not when you're on top. It's when you're on bottom,
trying to figure out who the hell you are or
how you're gonna survive the evening. Now, let's talk about
how you can turn discomfort into purpose. So how do
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we actually use discomfort instead of just surviving it? Getting
just buy it once again? You reframe it when you
feel that tension Instead of saying why me, you ask yourself,
why is this moment trying to grow in me? Why
do I have to keep dealing with this fear, this mindset?
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I'm afraid again, I'm uncomfortable again, right, and it's gonna
happen again and again, and it's gonna keep happening because
you won't face it. If you're nervous about something, it's
probably because it matters, it's important. If it feels heavy,
it's probably because it's meaningful. Discomfort is proof that you
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care enough to change. You're willing to work about something,
you believe in something, hopefully yourself. That's something that's something
to honor, not avoid it, not run from it. So
the next time you find yourself in that space of uncertainty,
remember you're not stuck. You're just in transition. You're not lost,
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You are evolving. Feel that discomfort in your chest, in
your mind, wherever it sits, and instead of pushing it away,
look at it, as I said, write it down. What's
going on in your mind? How do you feel? Where
do you feel this discomfort in your chest, in your
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head and your heart? What is happening? Write it out
or tell somebody this is a this is what's going
on in my body. It's here to help you what
you're it's you're in mid lesson. Every time you've broken
a pattern, you've learned a lesson, or you walked away
from something that wasn't serving you. Discomfort was a messenger.
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So today, don't run from it. Welcome it. Why would
I want that? Because you want to learn and you
want to never have to deal with it again. Let
it remind you that you are alive and that you
are growing, and that you are capable of more than
you think. Because the truth is, comfort might feel safe,
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but it will never make you stronger. Discomfort, on the
other hand, builds character, builds resilience, It builds you think
about it, Think of your past when you face this
comfort and came out stronger. There have been times that
you have done it. What did you learn from each
one of those lessons, those moments? What part of you
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was born through that struggle. What's one thing in your
life now that feels uncomfortable? Situation, a goal or relationship
and ask yourself, why why do I feel this way?
What is trying to teach me? And then see yourself
dealing with it like even if you haven't yet, imagine
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if whatever is bugging you just to make believe it
doesn't anymore, then see yourself six months from now what
you can actually focus on other things instead of continuing
to go back to this discomfort. Before you know it,
you're growing stronger, calm, or wiser. What would that future
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say about what you're going through at that point? What
you've learned, how much more confident you feel? What would
that future say? How would you feel? Think about that
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no longer. And here's the thing. You've done it already.
You've done it already on so many different occasions. You
have faced so many any different things and you've beat them.
But there will be a couple couple things here and
there you're like, nope, nope, nope, nope, nope. And I'm
not telling you to run into them head first. I'm
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just telling you to acknowledge what they are. Notice I said,
just write down how you think you would feel if
you just dealt with it, and how that would change
your life. See it in front of you, the discomfort,
the solution, and then the peace that you find after
the fact. Breathe through it. Take five minutes ten minutes
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to sit quietly each day, every morning, every night, to
ask yourself, how did I do today? What did I
learn today? What did I fail at today? People have
such an issue with failing. I don't see what the
problem is. How could you not fail unless you were
born knowing every single thing in the world, which I
know certain people that think they do. But let's be really,
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you're going to fail. You're going to have to raise
your hand in class and ask it's life when discomfort rise.
When discomfort rises, instead of reacting, first breathe and remind yourself,
this is how I grow. Remember, the goal isn't to
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chase comfort, is to chase growth. You're not focused on discomfort.
You're focusing on growth, and growth is never painless. But
my friends, it is always worth it. You're not being tested,
You're being transformed. So breathe, trust in yourself, and keep
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walking forward and never forgets. Discomfort is not your enemy.
It's your evolution in motion. I hope I made you think.
I hope I made you question your existence and to
appreciate every tomorrow, every today, and to be grateful for
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all of the experiences of the past that have made
you who you are. Right now, keep this in mind,
transaction over excuse, purpose over comfort, and the work that
matters over the distractions that don't. My name is Jimmy
Gonzales and this was the Reset Yourself twenty two podcasts.
Go forward and live your life to the fullest. Thank
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you so much for listening, liking, and especially sharing with others.
It means so much to me. Many blessings to you all.
Be well, Be well, be well and prosper.
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