October 14, 2025 • 58 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Please note this show contains adult language and themes and
is intended for mature audiences only.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Listener discretion is advised. Jay Beloved, do you gather here
the day to get through this thing called life? Listening
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to the reset yourself? What did you podcast with your hosts? You?
You know, you know, you know? And that is me,
Thank you for thank you. It's actually cheering for Henry
and like co producing Pat, not me. It's just going
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around the room. So how are you all? Where we
are on this planet? I could speak for here that
Bottumn has begun and it's my favorite season. And the
good thing about here is that it's very slow up
in Connecticut. It was like the leaves started changing and
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before you know it, the leaves were empty, Well, the
trees were empty. Here's my co producing here. It's incredibly
beautiful because you could really enjoy everything and it's wonderful.
I love this time with the hold on. I'm having
some turmeric tea. In this weekly podcast, I focus on
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sparking your inner confidence and igniting your belief in yourself.
I'm your host and I'm always very thrilled to share
my thoughts and research with you as we go along.
Together on this beautiful journey. I believe and I do
I do every week that we can nurture a mindset
that empowers us to reach our fullest potential, Yes, fullest potential.
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I write and record every episode to challenge your thinking
and to encourage you, us, me and him to reflect
and inspire actionable steps towards personal growth. Whether you're facing
a career transition, seeking to overcome many challenges, or simply
just striving for greater fulfillment in life. Aren't we all
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this podcast as you go to resource for motivation and
practical insights. My inspiration to do this so is to
teach people to focus more on what they can accomplish.
To teach you to focus more on what you can see.
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That's such a powerful word. Can not, could, and would
it should? It, can accomplish and hopefully will accomplish, so
that you can do the things you need to do
when you need to do them, so that ultimately you'll
have everything you want in your life when you want it.
This episode is dedicated to all of you, to every
single one of you. Tell me what you want and
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I will show you how to get it what Yes, actually,
I'll tell you how to get it. It's very easy.
The question is are you going to be defensive when
I tell you what you need to do. I want
to be a doctor, but you got to go to school.
Well I don't like school. Well you need to you
need school to be a doctor. Do you have money
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for tuition? Well I don't have money? Okay? Are there grants?
Is there any loans? Well I don't know what school
are you going to? Well I don't know who offers
the courses you want. I'm not sure you'll never be
a doctor. See how simple it is, the question is
are you willing to do the work for it? So? Oh,
before I begin, people have asked me behind me, what
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those pictures are? That are Those are my ancestors. Here
here those two right there, right there, those are my parents.
And then this is my grandmother, my mother's mother, my grandfather,
which kind of looks They say it looks like me
a lot, But to me, it looks kind of like
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a billy Joel. Look, that's a he was a baker.
And then this is my father's parents. And then these
are more answers. It's great grandparents, great great grandparents. And
then here here it's fascinating that's my own uncle, the
uncle that I talk about often. This is my uncle
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and my aunt right there. So basically behind me, I
have a table with glasses. You can look this up.
I have a thing. I'm Spanish, so I have a
thing called aboveda bove da. It's an altar to my ancestors.
It's dishes filled with water that you have to It's
not something you can set up and just whenever you want. No,
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it's set up to them. And then basically it's my
that was cool, do it again. It's my way of
connecting with my ancestors. And simply when I pray, I
just pray and I talk and most likely them they're
just like but still it's a holy thing for me.
So I've actually had it for people build their own
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that they were interested in doing it for their ancestors.
So let's begin with the word of the day. And
I even have a definition. Resilience the capacity to a
stand or to recover quickly from difficulties. Toughness, sentence, the
remarkable resilience of so many institutions, the ability of a
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substance or object to spring back into shape. Elasticity. You know,
life has this funny way of reminding us who's really
in charge? Is it you? Are you in charge of
your life? That's a great question. Usually when I get that,
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I either get the glazed over eyes yeah I'm not sure,
or you don't admit it that you're not. Are you
in charge of your life? For you? I asked this question,
not you, but you yes. On a scale of one
to ten. How resilient do you think you are? How
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strong are you? How easy are do you feel that
you are to bounce back when life bushes you down? Obviously,
obviously we're all in a different place, and I like
to think that I like to think that like how
strong we are and how able we are to fight
back and stand up for ourselves is based a lot,
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obviously on our history and our life experiences and how
tough they were. I think some people that, well, it's
a matter of opinion, it's a matter of belief, it's
a matter of upbringing of what you believe in. Because
I know of people that have been through hell and back,
have some crazy stories and are more confident and stronger
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than most people that have ever met. And then I've
met people that are complete opposite. I know people that
have had everything handed to them, which is not a
bad thing. If you did, God bless you. I think
it's wonderful, run with it. And all they do is
complain that life is still difficult for them. Seriously, how
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has life affected you? Where do you stand? How strong
do you feel when basic things happen? Do you flinch?
Do you immediately cry because you can't handle it? And
you know it's not a bad thing. It's just understand
that as life goes on, you need to learn how
to be actually have a little bit of a tougher
skin to get through life, because, my friend, it's very hard.
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If you want to live in your home and never leave,
that's fine, and it'll work for you, And understand it's
not gonna work for you long because life still happens
and you're gonna have to at some point leave your home.
But at some point you have to leave your home.
And if you're going to live your life and fear,
unsure of yourself, filled with doubt, there are things you
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can do to better yourself, to strengthen yourself, to challenge
yourself to I don't like to use the word fix
because I don't believe you're ever broken. It's just to
work on how to strengthen yourself. It's basically going to
the gym of the mind, of the body, of the
spirit to get strength to be able to handle life's
many beatdowns, because there are there are many, and it's
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the ones that know how to handle it. Not because
you're stronger than anybody or smarter than anybody, has nothing
to do with that. It's just they're able, they're more resilient,
and they're able to deal with it, see it for
what it is and begin to work on the next
chapter and put it behind them, instead of spending the
next ten years talking about something that happened thirty years ago.
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That's pointless. It's basically not letting things outside affect you.
It's how you let yourself affect you, and how you
let yourself be controlled by things that you just ca change,
especially by people, especially by people that you can't change
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and in most situations, honestly, and I hate to be
a jerk about this, but people that actually really don't
matter in your life, because sadly I could agree that
you know, there's at least a handful of people in
your life right now that believe in you, love you,
would die for you. They truly cherish you. And many
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times we tend to put these people to the side.
And then the bullies, the people that are just stronger minds.
We do everything they say because well, if they're stronger,
they seem like they know more, so I'm going to
follow them. But is it best for you all this
time that you're building up somebody else, You should be
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learning about yourself and bettering yourself and doing what it
takes to make yourself a better person. They may come
across as stronger, but I've come to learn that the
people that talk the most, the people that are the
toughest or seem the toughest. Many times it's a facade.
Also not always, but it can be. So instead of
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focusing on where everybody stands in their life and what
people offer and what people don't, the mean people, the
good people, the loving people, focus on yourself, focus on
bettering you because to me, the more focus you put
on yourself and the bettering yourself, the more you can
give back to the world around you. After the fact,
Why do you think I do this podcast? Do you
really think I have my shit that together? Absolutely not.
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But it got to the point of listening to enough coaches,
life coaches, inspirational people. I was like, I want to
do that. I mean, I've always been one. I've always
loved the stage. Back when I was in music, I
was always in the stage. When I was in Animal control,
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I was always in the stage. Who would have thought?
And I love the stage. And I love sharing, and
I love sharing love, and I love sharing, guiding, sharing
telling stories. Because my thing has always been in a
room of five hundred. If I can make one person
think differently and see themselves for who they truly are
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and start working on themselves, I did my job, Mike Drop,
so focus on bettering you. At some point you come
to realize that when you were young, many of us
created some sort of facade for someone was very very young.
Grammar school, some high school, some are college, and some
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in life. But we created a facade to survive for
whatever reason. And now fast forward five twenty forty years,
we find ourselves so involved in this facade, so entangled
with this mask that we have created, that when you
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ask them certain stories, the first answer is well, I
don't know. And if somebody asks you about your future,
your interest, your goals, your first answer is well, I
don't know then you need to stop because the bottom
line is you do. No, I don't you do. You
were born with a purpose. You were born with many purposes.
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Think about that. You weren't born to just sail through
life and just be and have no journey. In mind.
We all have journeys, we all have goals. As I said,
we all have purpose. But what ends up happening is
throughout our lives of wearing so many masks. I find
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it fascinating that people in twenty twenty five are still
walking around with masks. And I've actually talked to certain
people about it, and they've actually kind of said it
in so many words that it's now become a blanket
like linus. If you don't know who that is. It up.
But it's a security thing. They feel safe behind it,
which I understand. People are like, oh, they're dumb, they're stupid. No,
I get it. I'm like, you know, it became more
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to them than COVID. It became more like I'm hiding
from which is not a good thing. But who am
I to judge? If it works for them for now,
it could be temporary, hopefully it's not forever. I mean,
there are people that wear glasses. Melissa loves to wear glasses.
She loves hiding behind her glasses. I think it's fine.
I actually remember I wore glasses for many years and
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then I had lasik and I didn't need them anymore.
Now I have them and I'm fine with them. But
it's just we all have our way of doing things.
But the thing is how much control does it have
over you? But at some point you can't let them
mask the glasses and all those other things define you,
because again, that person that you created in the past ten, twenty, thirty,
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forty years ago, who was that person originally? What was
that person's dreams and goals? You know, when you were
in grammar school, what did you want to be when
you grew up? When you're in high school, which most
people it changes, But now in high school, what did
you want to be when you grew up? In college?
And then now, sitting at your new job or wherever
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you are now, do you find yourself dadreous and looking
through the window of your office at somebody else over there,
wondering what they're doing, how much they're making, how happy
are they? Which is fine, it happens, that's a human thing,
But when you start just studying those people and doing
what they do, and just I hate to say it,
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but envying and being jealous of them. That's not healthy.
If anything, you know what you do, You leave your office,
you go downstairs, you cross the street, you go into
their building, you go upstairs, and you find out what
they do, why they do it. Not always, but chances
are you come to this is actually happened to me
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many times. People over there, when you ask them about
their life, they're more curious about your life, even though
you're thinking you have nothing to offer, your life sucks,
and they're over there wondering, Wow, that person looks happy
over there. I'm so curious about what that person is
doing in their life. I'd say sometimes when we take
the time to talk to people, to physically leave our homes,
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go to a coffee shop somewhere, sit at an area
where there's a lot of people, and just say something
to somebony. Before you know it, twenty minutes have gone
by and you're in a wonderful conversation about life and
weather and time and space. And as you can tell,
I do that, and I love that because even though
you're talking and expressing your life and listening to others,
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you were reconnecting with yourself on many different things, and
you're seeing yourself differently, and before you know it, you're
talking to them about your past, and instead of doing
it with shame, come to find out, there's some pride
in there. There are some things that you've done in
your life that were pretty badass that you forgot about,
and now the people in front of you are going,
oh my god, you did this, this and that. That's
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so interesting, that's so cool, And you're like, I guess,
but I mean asking somebody, as I ask you right now,
what do you want to do with your life? What
are your goals and dreams? And if your first thought
is I don't know if anything, your answer shouldn't be
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an answer right away. It shouldn't a question like that.
It really should be silence, a moment of silence, because
a question like that should trigger something inside of you
that if I just opened that door by asking you
what do you want to do with your life? What
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are your dreams? What are your goals, I've actually opened
the door to a space in your mind that has
not been looked at, walked in, investigating in years, because
through through your life. You've put just shoved stuff back
in there, You've hidden stuff, You've box stuff, so many skeletons,
forcing that door closed, thinking to yourself that actually you
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can never revisit that closet. Those dreams and goals are
just not happening. Funny thing is the sad thing is
you without I don't know most of you, but I
know this for a fact. Many of you have proven
it time and time again. Certain things in your life
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that you truly, truly, truly, truly wanted times ten times
one hundred. You made the time, you made the effort,
and you found the money if you needed it. You
had resilience. What is your resilience level? Because to go
through this life, you have to be willing to get
up when you're pushed down, bounce back when you're knocked down.
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You know the old saying sticks and stones may break
my bones. Yeah it's stupid. Let me tell you something.
My bones may break, and they have, but my mind
will not. And the older I get, and I'm talking
like day by day, not week by week in month,
but no day by day, actually hour by hour. Here
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I can honestly say I've become a completely and total person.
And I say it every day. I was just talking
about it half an hour ago. My perception of life
around me, the people around me, how things grow, and
how things have to die, has become now just second
nature to me. It is what it is. It's not
something that I'm going to lose my mind over flip
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out over because something has happened in the news, good
or bad. It's news, and tomorrow there will be news,
and then there will be new news and newer news,
and after that there'll be even guess what, yes, more news.
Because there's a world out there happening. People are doing
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things good, bad and horrendous. But I mean, what are
you doing? The question is are you happening around the world?
Are you happening to other people? Are you offering of
yourself to other people? Are you doing things? Are you
accomplishing things? So while everybody is getting a piece of
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their pie, their life pie, some people are stealing it
and some from you. People take advantage of you. I
know that and your dreams and your goals that you're
choosing to put them in a box because you feel
that their life is more interesting. You know what celebrities
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do and what happens in soap operas and TV shows
is so much more interesting than my own life. So
I'm going to focus and live vicariously through other people.
A little bit of entertainment is fine, but what are
you doing with your life? Stop watching other people live
their lives while you're watching yourself live their lives. There
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are so many people around us that feel that they
are that they should be going for it, and maybe
they don't, and then one day you wake up when
you're forty fifty seventy and you're like, what the fuck
I pissed away a good part of my life doing something,
being married, working at a job, being a part of
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something that I really didn't want to remember. The mask.
That's when a lot of times people peel that mask
off and they're like they look at their face for
the first time since they were a teenager. I've actually
had that happen with clients. You know, they come in
to lose weight, or for smoking, or for pain management
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or a past life regression, and before you know it,
they're questioning why all of this happens. Because that's my focus.
I focus. When you are eating too much, smoking too much,
when you have an addiction, what community are you part
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of then, who are you surrounding yourself around? You're an alcoholic,
but you hang out at a bar. I mean, you
can't change things. That's why hypnosis people are like, oh
does it work? Oh, it works miraculously. I've had a
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seventy plus year old man stop smoking after fifty years
in one session. Why because he wanted it, He was
tired of it. He understood the severity of what it
was doing to him and the importance of what his
life was. I've had other people living with fear, people
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living with lack of confidence, trusting themselves. I had one lady,
whiles I haven't thought of her in a while, she
came in. I remember being outside of my building watching
her as she pulled up in this escalade, young lady,
much younger than me, and she was doing extremely well
for herself. And she had just started while she was
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working at a business, and she took it over, and
then she took over another two, so she had three
of them at a verien age. And she just had
a baby recently, and she was married and life was great.
She had the mcmahonsion. She had everything most of us
think life is. And the reason she was coming in
was because she wanted to find herself because she had
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failed attempt of suicide twice. So it's funny because they
started the conversation with all their stuff, and I'm looking
at her clothes and her attitude and I'm like, Wow,
this girl got it going out and that's good for her,
And then all of a sudden, the tears come. Do
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you have the power to get up and fight for
what you want every single morning and not put it
off until this Thursday? Or I'll deal with it next week,
or you know what? I just I can't. Maybe maybe
maybe you know what November or you know what New
Year's resolution? Stupid, I'll wait till spring. So by spring
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you've completely forgotten. And then sometime Midsummer you're revisiting that
goal in that dream you know what, I should have
been doing that, And then before you know it, we're saying, wow,
we're already at the end of twenty twenty six and
what have you done. That's when you start to revisit
your your goals and dreams again. It's a never ending loop.
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And I know many of you can understand and relate
to this, but it's a never ending loop of wasting
and and just wasted time. You know, the hourglass with
the sand, the sand, you do understand that you can't
flip that site. Imagine that we can just flip it
sideways for a couple of days, make the sand stop.
But it doesn't. We're getting older every day. I'm getting older.
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I'm finding myself going to the doctor for more checkups.
So this hurts. That hurts. I'm a diabetic. They're gonna
put me on this medicine, switch to that medicine. The
good thing is, since I've been here, it's it's it's
I feel it. It's gotten better. And I think a
lot of it is is mindset. It's not. I don't
live in a rat race. I'm enjoying the moments. I'm
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enjoying my meals, I'm enjoying my relationships. I'm enjoying my animals.
I'm not focused on he said, she said, who said?
What's going on? Because at this point, because my life
now has become such a magical place, I just don't care.
If anything, I go, oh my God, and then I
just you know, I'll pray for that person. I'll light
a candle for them, I'll send them positive energy. That's all.
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I can do. I'm not gonna lose sleep over that person,
because why how much sleep have you lost for others?
And then, of course you know you have you know,
the internet, which doesn't help. The Internet is a wonderful thing.
The Internet is a horrible thing. And you always hear
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people say stuff like, oh, you know, you know, yeah,
everything is getting quicker. Time is getting quicker, the days
are going by quicker. Yeah. No, No, it's not that's
not true. You hear it all the time, and it's
a matter of opinion, it's a matter of perception. For me,
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my life has actually dramatically stopped, slowed down back to
where it was supposed to be. You know, the grains
of sand. It's almost like people now are tapping the
top of it. No, my sand is dropping the way
it's supposed to be normally. I'm enjoying it, and I'm
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not in fear of when that last granule of sand drops.
When I die, I die. The focus isn't on the
end of the game. The focus is on the game
that I'm playing now. For my young people, when you're
playing a video game, are you are you just thinking
about your last man, your last quarter. No, you're thinking
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of winning, you're thinking of playing, You're thinking of your
next adventure. You're looking for cheat sheets, cheat codes, You're
trying to figure out how to win this level, to
get to the next level successfully and understand that the
next level begins hard again, and then you fight through
it and then you win, and then you have another level,
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which does it start easy? Apps litly not. They start
a little bit hard for you, and every level is challenging,
and that's why you're drawn to that game. Same thing
with life. For me, I wake up early and every
day I look up at the clouds and the sky
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and I say thank you for such a beautiful sky
because it is Kentucky, because the land is so vast here,
so it's just it's very different. The clouds are very different,
and it's a beautiful thing. And then I focus on
my animals and I focus on feeding them and you know,
opening their pens and making sure their pens are safe.
And you know there's wildlife here. So that's a game,
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and you have to make sure that you know everything
can survive now for winter. So I'm starting to plan
in the back of my mind what I need to
do to prepare them to make their lives a little
bit more comfortable during the winter. One thing about like
I said, fall here, it lasts a lot longer, so
I have more time. It seems it's the same amount
of time, but it is. But I mean hopefully, hopefully,
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and I mean this hopefully. This podcast is something that
will make you think about how resilient you are and
how willing are you to fight for what you want
every single day, not today and Thursday and maybe Friday morning.
Not oh it's Monday again. It shouldn't be Monday again.
It's just another day that you need to continue fighting
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and moving forward on your dreams and goals and aspirations
because you have no control of that part. There's always
something that you can do in the meantime to keep
your flame burning. So if there's a plan that you
have that's not gonna happen till spring, I actually have
something that I'm working on that I'm going to do
in spring. It doesn't mean that I'm not going to
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do anything forward until spring. Every day there should be
something put all those thoughts and goals and dreams, if
anything on the back burner on simmer, but every day
you should be working towards it, whether it's a phone call,
a conversation, an email, maybe some reading on the topic,
preparing you more and more so that by the time
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winter's almost over, you've already set with so many ideas
and you're ready to just spring into action. Melissa wa
like that, if I believe in you, then you can
get all of this done. You can plan, you can prepare,
you can't organize, you can visualize, and then life throws
something at you, knocks you down, knocks the wind out
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of your lungs. So what it might be losing someone
you love, losing a job that you thought was secure,
or watching a dream you worked your tail off, being
married for many, many years and your better half passes
and at that moment you think your life is completely
and totally over. But here's the thing. Adversity isn't here
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to ruin you. It's here to reveal you. Resilience isn't
something that you're born with. It's something you build brick
by brick, through every trial, every setback, and every I
can't do this moment you somehow you know, takes a
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brick away. And if you're listening right now, I want
you to remember the simple truth you made it through
one of your worst days so far. That's not luck.
That's strength, that's resilience. That's proof that whatever you face next,
you've got it in you to rise again and again
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and again. Even when the storm comes. Remember the storm
always teaches let's be honest. Adversity doesn't show up politely.
It barges, oh God, It slams the door in and
dares you to react. It challenges you, it threatens you.
But the storm doesn't come to this destroy you. Even
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in situations that the storm comes and destroys somebody's home,
that is when I see in the news the strongest people,
the most resilient people. After a few tears, they're already thinking, Okay,
I need to get back on my life, I need
to begin again. They don't sit on an empty shell
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of a lot with their home completely thrown everywhere and
just go, well, I'm going to sit here for the
next ten years and pity myself. No, that happens for
a few hours. You go through some pictures, you feel
the pain, and then immediately you start to well, I
don't need this and I don't need that. And you
know what, I've always wanted to knock that wall down. Hey,
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you know what, Now we can put up a new fireplace.
Now we could put a playground. Now, we could do this,
We could do that because we've been giving a second chance.
That's called resilience. Think about how steel is created, how
it's forged. It's not forged in comfort, not in still air,
but in the heat of fire. That's how steel is
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forged in fire, and that's life. It's that fire that
teaches you what you, yeah, you are made of. When
things fall apart, you start to see what really matters,
what's solid, what's real, and then you start to see
what's noise, even people. You find out who stands by you.
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You learn what you truly value and what kind of grits. Oh,
I could go for grits. I like grits lives inside
your soul. Here's the hard truth. You don't grow much,
actually don't grow at all, when things are easy. Comfort
never taught anyone in character. It's the struggle that shows
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you your strength. You might bend on the pressure, but
you don't have to break. Did that rhyme? That's cute?
And even when you do, even if you fall flat
on your face, which you have, I know you have
it's not the end. Are you still laying on your face?
Sometimes breaking is a part of rebuilding. Adversity clears away
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the unnecessary. It simplifies your life in the harshest way possible,
but in doing so it shows you. Let's clear up
a misconception right now. Resilience isn't about pretending everything's fine.
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You don't have to be made of stone. None of
us were. We're made of flesh and bone. You don't
have to smile through pain or act like you've got
it all under control always. It's okay to lose your shit.
It's normal to cry. I cry. I cry at movies.
Real resilience is feeling it all, feeling the fear, the grief,
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the frustration, but now not allowing it to control you
or paralyze you. Because if you're paralyze, you can't move,
you can't grow. It's being honest enough to say this hurts,
but strong enough to add and I will get through
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it as I have time and time again. See, people
think resilience is about all about toughness. Now it's more
about flexibility. It's being able to bend with the storm
instead of snapping under it. A tree that's too rigid
gets torn about by the wind. But a tree with
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roots and flexibility that go deep are able to sway,
it moves, and this tree will survive. That's what you're
learning to be, not unbreakable, but unshakable. But what happens
when the rug gets pulled out from under you, when
life shifts under your feet, that's a big one. There's
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that moment, you know, the one when your whole life shifts.
Think about right now, top thing, something that happened in
the past year, five years, ten years that you like.
It hit you like a bomb. It tore a piece
of your heart out. Maybe you lost something you thought
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it was permanent. Maybe someone betrayed you, somebody walked out
on you. Maybe the job that you saw yourself with
security being in for the next thirty years just ended.
Those are the crossroad moments in your life. They force
you to either retreat or rebuild. When everything you knew
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stops working, that's when resilience kicks in. That's when life
is challenging. That's the old saying that that's when Jesus
is carrying you on the beach. The footprints simple, but
I've always loved that. I always thought that was the
most beautiful concept, because that's when people turn to God
and the universe and go, why have you done this
to me? Because it's part of the plan. Part of
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the plan is to knock you on your ass because
I think you've gone a little bit too comfort comfortable,
or you have been focusing on putting all of your
eggs in somebody else's basket. No, I want you to shine.
I want you to grow. It's choosing to say, Okay,
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this happened, Now what what's next for you? It's allowing
yourself to fall apart long enough to feel, but not
long enough to stay there. You get up, and you
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get up again, and you get up again, and you
dust yourself off and you start walking again, even if
it's slow, even if it's messy, because movement is medicine.
The older you get, the more you move. To my
older listeners, there, don't move less, move more. Your body
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is starting to die. It's starting to break down, your
muscles are starting to wither. Walking less is actually helping it.
It depends. I mean, if you're looking to die earlier,
that's fine, God bless you. But I mean for most
of us, as you get older. I actually went to
a different gym in a different town the other day,
and I went at an odd time. I went at
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two o'clock in the afternoon, and I was like, way
by far the youngest person there. I I kind of
fit in because I have gray in my beard. But
everybody there was a gray head. It's a gang called
the gray Head. And it was fascinating to me because
I was I couldn't stop watching them. They were so active.
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Nobody was complaining, nobody was talking about how old they are,
and all you know, I'm seventy, I'm eighty, I'm not.
Everybody was hustling, everybody was like everybody had their headphones on.
There was a couple ladies in the little bicycles that
you'd like lean back into, were just reading. Other people
watching television. Other people were just There was two ladies
that were actually almost dancing, and they were They were
much older, I mean much older, but the glow that
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came off of them was much younger than me. The
best way you can overcome adversity is to stop trying
to fix the past and start focusing on what's right
in front of you right now. You can't change what happened,
but you can control how you respond to it, and
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that's where your power lives. Now, let's talk about the
five what I consider the five foundations building resilience. It's
about doing real work, not just listening to this podcast
and when I'm done, go that was good, and then
just continuing to do the same shit over and over.
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It's like it's lunacy because it's not just about bouncing back,
it's about bouncing forward. What are you going to do
for today? What are you going to accomplish for today,
by the end of this week, by the end of
this month. Here are five foundations that I feel I
feel you can start building today. Number one self awareness,
which is for everything. Self awareness knowing who you are,
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knowing your breaking points, knowing your triggers, and understanding what
drains your energy and what does rebuild it, what restores it.
The more honest you are with yourself, the more control
you have of you over your own reactions. So that's
that whole Get in front of a mirror thing and
know who the hell you actually are. And if you're
wearing a mask, take it off, just take it off.
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If you think people won't like the person you are,
fuck them. I don't care. And neither should you. If
they don't love you who for who you truly are,
you're living a lie. And trust me, don't think it's
not gonna come back. It's gonna come back at some point.
The longer your way, the worse it's gonna be. But
be you, because everything I mean to me, A big
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thing is perspective. When you're in the thick of it,
everything feels permanent, like nothing's gonna change, nothing's ever. Oh
my god, this happened, and that's it. My life is over.
I think that's so funny when people say that. But
nothing in life is permanent, not the pain, not the fear,
even the chaos. Step back and remind yourself, as this
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famous saying, that this is temporary, because it is that
mindset alone can save your sanity. Again, back to that
moment that the shit hit the fan in your life.
Oh it was hard, Oh pain, Oh my god, I'll
never make it. I'll never make it tomorrow. How will
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I make it to tomorrow? And then tomorrow came, And
then it was the next day, and then it was
a week from now, and then you look back and
then before you know, the pain kind of got a
little bit softer. And you know people, well, it doesn't
go away. Okay, fine, it really does. If you keep
holding onto it, you don't forget it, but you also
don't keep revisiting it. It's almost like getting stabbed one
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day and then four years from now you're telling somebody
the story, and to describe the story, you stab yourself again.
Because that's actually what people do on Facebook all the time,
which I think is fascinating. Let me keep revisiting it
by let me keep stabbing myself instead of showing them
the healed scar and how I have overcome it. Shit happens,
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life happens, Plans fall apart, people change, doors closed. But
understand that there's a pivot point. You don't need the
road to look how you imagined it exactly. You just
need to keep going. You need to keep walking, You
need to keep driving. You need to keep right thinking, planning,
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and understand that you are not alone. You are not alone.
Now who are you surrounding yourself with? Because oh, the
word friend, that's such a fucked word. I think Facebook
made the friend the word differently, so now people think
that Facebook friends our friends for life. I hope they
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are for you, but I've had I have three accounts
that each one has almost five thousand, So that's almost
fifteen thousand friends. And I can honestly say I have
maybe less than five true friends. Even the strongest people
need someone good. Don't isolate yourself when things get tough.
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Reach out, talk to your people, Lean on your tribe.
Who is your tribe? Think about that? I love that word.
Who is your tribe? Do you have a tribe? Do
you have somebody you could write too that they will
respond to you with honesty, not judgment, not being a ballbuster,
not saying mean things, which obviously a lot. Here's the thing.
A lot of times people will say to me like, oh,
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you're tough, You're a dick, You're no, I'm not. I'm
just saying things with love, and I will say it
before and i'll say it after. What I'm telling you
is what I think, based on what you feel, because
you shared it with me, you should do when you
ask me for advice, I'm not going to give you
the advice of how I would handle it because I'm
a different person, so I would say things different, i
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would react differently. So for me to say like oh,
I would just go and kick the ry and knowing
you you won't, so I'm not going to give you
that advice. That's a waste. That's just ego me trying
to tell you that I'm stronger than you because I'm
I'm not afraid to kick someone. When I give advice,
I base it on listening to on knowing this good
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friend and what I think they can handle it, and
how I think they could react to it. But resilience
grows faster when it's shared with others. And then, of
course you should have faith, faith in yourself, faith in life,
faith in God, in the life that he has gifted
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you in the bigger picture of it all. Sometimes you
want to understand why things are happening, but that's okay,
you're not supposed to. But you keep the faith that
every setback is redirecting you somewhere important because it is.
And then, of course, trust me, I'm not saying to
go fight, fight fight. There's times that after a long day,
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you are beat, you are tired. Understand you're not weak,
You're just tired. You're still human. You've been strong for
for way too long, especially for my listeners that have
been wearing masks for years. That's extra weight you've been
caring if somebody you're not holding it all together while
the world keeps moving along. But it's okay to pause.
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It's okay to say I need a minute. That's what
my Monday morning mind's I meditations are. For Rest isn't quitting,
it's recovery. You need to rest if your body's exhausted,
rested if your heart is heavy, breathe if your mind
is spinning, Step away and get quiet. Because resilience doesn't
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mean you never fall. It means you rise again. Rest
it smarter, calmer, and more determined now after you did
after the last bout. Don't rush your healing. Some lessons
take time to settle in. But never let a setback
convince you that you're finished. You're not rebuilding and learning
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more about yourself as you go along because you're trying
to find purpose in pain. Think about that. You ever
noticed that some of the strongest people you know have
been through absolute hell. It's because pain has a way
of shaping purpose. When you survive something that you could
have that could have broken you, it changed how you
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viewed the world. You start to care more deeply about
the world. You emphasize more freely, you understand that life
isn't just about surviving. It's about using what you've been
through to make something meaningful. Remember the scars. The scars
tell stories, their proof that you fought your battles and
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came out wiser. And when you share those stories, when
you help someone else through the darkness you once knew.
That's when pain transforms into purpose. That's when you realize,
as you weren't being punished, you are being prepared. I mean,
let's get practical for a moment. When adversity hits, emotions
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run wild. So there's a simple way to navigate through
all of this chaos. Number One, as I said, awareness
is you acknowledge it. You don't pretend it's not happening.
You face it head on. You can't heal what you
won't name. Two, you breathe before you react. Don't just
say I'm gonna go I'm gonna do something right away.
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I'm gonna do no, no, no, shut up, stop, take twenty
four hours, take sleep on it. Emotions are terrible, horrible, horrendous.
Decision makers respond with calm first and then act second.
And of course, you can't change the world, it can
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only change you. So change how you see the world.
Change how you feel about the world, and the world
will return. Change back. Focus on what you can control.
Not everything is fixable, not everybody is fixable, but something
always is. It's your attitude, it's your next step, it's
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your effort. And then it's how you view the world
that's reframing the story of your life. The reframing what
just happened? Instead of why me? Ask what can I
learn from this? Why did this happen to me? And
then try to figure it out. What did you most
likely do wrong or perceive in a way that you
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shouldn't have. It's not a big deal, it's okay. That's
one shift that changes everything. And then while you're doing
you're moving forward, one action at a time. Small steps
still count. Every step you take proofs to life that
you're not giving up, because every morning is your turn
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to rise. So here's what it all comes together. Adversity
isn't a sign that you're cursed or unlucky. It's a
call to grow. It's universe, God, fate, whatever you believe,
saying that you I'm speaking to you are ready for more.
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You have faced heartbreak, disappointment, fear, maybe even a lot
of failure, but you're still standing. You're still here, and
that means that there's still more for you to do.
Don't look back in anger, don't look back with regret,
look back with respect because you've survived things that others
never even saw coming. Resilience is your legacy, and the
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next time life throws you a curveball, you know exactly
what to say. I've been here before, I know how
to get back up, and I will get back up.
Everyone loves a comeback story, the athlete who has counted out,
the person who hit rock by atom and built a
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new life, the dreamer who failed and dared to try
again and again and again. But what most people don't
see is that quiet middle before before the end, before
the big success, the part between the fall and the rise.
A lot of people don't see that. The messy rebuilding
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you see yours. You think you're in your rebuild forever.
The nights when you're too exhausted to care and too
subborn to quit, that's where the real transformation happens. A
comeback isn't flashy, it doesn't happen overnight. It's the result
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of a thousand small choices made in silence, choices to
believe again, to show up again, to rebuild yourself worth
peace by peace by peace. When life knocks you down,
the first instinct isn't you survival? It's how do I
get through this? But once you survive, once the dust settles,
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the next question is now, what what's next? That's when
you begin crafting your comeback. You stop asking why did
this happen to me? Instead you ask it as an
interested question, why did this happen to me? And then
you start asking what can I do? What have I learned?
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And let me tell you the moment right there, that moment,
it's a beautiful moment, It's an empowering moment. That's when
you take your power back. Something bad happens. Why is
this happening? Every person you admire, every success story you've
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ever heard, started with someone who refused to stay down.
They didn't wait for the perfect moment. They started exactly
where they were, bruise, broken on, sure, but determined. Because
resilience isn't built in the wind, in the wind win,
It's built in the willingness to begin again, even when
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it still hurts like a son of a bitch. Failure
gets such a bad reputation, doesn't it It really does.
I think failure is amazing. People act like failing is
some kind of final verdict, like once you fall short,
that's it, game over, You're done. But failure isn't the
opposite of success. It's the path to it. Every mistake
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you've ever made has been teaching you something vital about yourself.
Failure strips away the illusion of perfection. It humbles you.
It forces you to see where your limits are and
invites you to push them. Think about Edison, Thomas Edison,
the inventor who said, I have not failed, but I've
just found ten thousand ways that something it just would
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not work that's demanded did delight persistence, And you can
do the same. The question isn't did I fail, It's
that I learned something that makes me stronger than next time.
Because every setback is information, it's a blueprint for improvement.
The only real failure is quitting before you've learned what
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the moment was that meant to teach you. When you
start seeing your failures as part of the process, you
stop being afraid of trying again, you stop hesitating, you
start experimenting, you start creating momentum again, and that's when
doors will start opening. So the next time something in
your life falls apart, which it will if it hasn't,
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don't hang your head in shame, stand tall and say, okay, learn.
Let's go again and again and again, because every master
was once a beginner who refused to give up. Let's
slow down for a second, because not every response to
adversity is about action always. Sometimes it's about just being still,
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because I want to teach that about finding peace when
life hits hard. Your instinct might be to scramble, to run,
to cry, to scream, to fix everything immediately, to fill
the silence with movement. But some problems can't be solved
that way. Some do need quiet, some need practice. Stillness
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is what lessons, what lets the lessons rise to the surface.
It isn't the silence that clarity shows up. If you're
always reacting, always rushing, you'll miss the message, the lesson
hidden in the storm. Take time to pause, take walks
without your phone, Sit in silence for just five minutes
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a day, Breathe, reflect, Listen to what your soul has
been trying to tell you. Stillness isn't laziness. It's alignment,
and once you're aligned, every action you take becomes ten
times more effective. About that, I hope I really do.
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That's something I say. I'm saying it's making you think.
I'm gonna leave it there. No more exercises, no more journaling,
no more. It's up to you now, want you to
think about it. I hope I made you think. I
hope I made you question your existence and to appreciate
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every tomorrow, every today, and be grateful for all of
the experiences of the past, because that's what they are,
the past that have made you who you are. Right now,
keep this in mind. Choose action over excuse, purpose over comfort,
and the work that matters over the distractions that don't.
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I'm your host and I'm always very thrilled to share
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Together on this beautiful journey. I believe and I do
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To teach you to focus more on what you can see.
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That's such a powerful word. Can not, could, and would
it should? It, can accomplish and hopefully will accomplish, so
that you can do the things you need to do
when you need to do them, so that ultimately you'll
have everything you want in your life when you want it.
This episode is dedicated to all of you, to every
single one of you. Tell me what you want and
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I will show you how to get it what Yes, actually,
I'll tell you how to get it. It's very easy.
The question is are you going to be defensive when
I tell you what you need to do. I want
to be a doctor, but you got to go to school.
Well I don't like school. Well you need to you
need school to be a doctor. Do you have money
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for tuition? Well I don't have money? Okay? Are there grants?
Is there any loans? Well I don't know what school
are you going to? Well I don't know who offers
the courses you want. I'm not sure you'll never be
a doctor. See how simple it is, the question is
are you willing to do the work for it? So? Oh,
before I begin, people have asked me behind me, what
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those pictures are? That are Those are my ancestors. Here
here those two right there, right there, those are my parents.
And then this is my grandmother, my mother's mother, my grandfather,
which kind of looks They say it looks like me
a lot, But to me, it looks kind of like
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a billy Joel. Look, that's a he was a baker.
And then this is my father's parents. And then these
are more answers. It's great grandparents, great great grandparents. And
then here here it's fascinating that's my own uncle, the
uncle that I talk about often. This is my uncle
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and my aunt right there. So basically behind me, I
have a table with glasses. You can look this up.
I have a thing. I'm Spanish, so I have a
thing called aboveda bove da. It's an altar to my ancestors.
It's dishes filled with water that you have to It's
not something you can set up and just whenever you want. No,
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it's set up to them. And then basically it's my
that was cool, do it again. It's my way of
connecting with my ancestors. And simply when I pray, I
just pray and I talk and most likely them they're
just like but still it's a holy thing for me.
So I've actually had it for people build their own
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that they were interested in doing it for their ancestors.
So let's begin with the word of the day. And
I even have a definition. Resilience the capacity to a
stand or to recover quickly from difficulties. Toughness, sentence, the
remarkable resilience of so many institutions, the ability of a
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substance or object to spring back into shape. Elasticity. You know,
life has this funny way of reminding us who's really
in charge? Is it you? Are you in charge of
your life? That's a great question. Usually when I get that,
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I either get the glazed over eyes yeah I'm not sure,
or you don't admit it that you're not. Are you
in charge of your life? For you? I asked this question,
not you, but you yes. On a scale of one
to ten. How resilient do you think you are? How
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strong are you? How easy are do you feel that
you are to bounce back when life bushes you down? Obviously,
obviously we're all in a different place, and I like
to think that I like to think that like how
strong we are and how able we are to fight
back and stand up for ourselves is based a lot,
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obviously on our history and our life experiences and how
tough they were. I think some people that, well, it's
a matter of opinion, it's a matter of belief, it's
a matter of upbringing of what you believe in. Because
I know of people that have been through hell and back,
have some crazy stories and are more confident and stronger
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than most people that have ever met. And then I've
met people that are complete opposite. I know people that
have had everything handed to them, which is not a
bad thing. If you did, God bless you. I think
it's wonderful, run with it. And all they do is
complain that life is still difficult for them. Seriously, how
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has life affected you? Where do you stand? How strong
do you feel when basic things happen? Do you flinch?
Do you immediately cry because you can't handle it? And
you know it's not a bad thing. It's just understand
that as life goes on, you need to learn how
to be actually have a little bit of a tougher
skin to get through life, because, my friend, it's very hard.
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If you want to live in your home and never leave,
that's fine, and it'll work for you, And understand it's
not gonna work for you long because life still happens
and you're gonna have to at some point leave your home.
But at some point you have to leave your home.
And if you're going to live your life and fear,
unsure of yourself, filled with doubt, there are things you
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can do to better yourself, to strengthen yourself, to challenge
yourself to I don't like to use the word fix
because I don't believe you're ever broken. It's just to
work on how to strengthen yourself. It's basically going to
the gym of the mind, of the body, of the
spirit to get strength to be able to handle life's
many beatdowns, because there are there are many, and it's
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the ones that know how to handle it. Not because
you're stronger than anybody or smarter than anybody, has nothing
to do with that. It's just they're able, they're more resilient,
and they're able to deal with it, see it for
what it is and begin to work on the next
chapter and put it behind them, instead of spending the
next ten years talking about something that happened thirty years ago.
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That's pointless. It's basically not letting things outside affect you.
It's how you let yourself affect you, and how you
let yourself be controlled by things that you just ca change,
especially by people, especially by people that you can't change
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and in most situations, honestly, and I hate to be
a jerk about this, but people that actually really don't
matter in your life, because sadly I could agree that
you know, there's at least a handful of people in
your life right now that believe in you, love you,
would die for you. They truly cherish you. And many
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times we tend to put these people to the side.
And then the bullies, the people that are just stronger minds.
We do everything they say because well, if they're stronger,
they seem like they know more, so I'm going to
follow them. But is it best for you all this
time that you're building up somebody else, You should be
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learning about yourself and bettering yourself and doing what it
takes to make yourself a better person. They may come
across as stronger, but I've come to learn that the
people that talk the most, the people that are the
toughest or seem the toughest. Many times it's a facade.
Also not always, but it can be. So instead of
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focusing on where everybody stands in their life and what
people offer and what people don't, the mean people, the
good people, the loving people, focus on yourself, focus on
bettering you because to me, the more focus you put
on yourself and the bettering yourself, the more you can
give back to the world around you. After the fact,
Why do you think I do this podcast? Do you
really think I have my shit that together? Absolutely not.
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But it got to the point of listening to enough coaches,
life coaches, inspirational people. I was like, I want to
do that. I mean, I've always been one. I've always
loved the stage. Back when I was in music, I
was always in the stage. When I was in Animal control,
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I was always in the stage. Who would have thought?
And I love the stage. And I love sharing, and
I love sharing love, and I love sharing, guiding, sharing
telling stories. Because my thing has always been in a
room of five hundred. If I can make one person
think differently and see themselves for who they truly are
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and start working on themselves, I did my job, Mike Drop,
so focus on bettering you. At some point you come
to realize that when you were young, many of us
created some sort of facade for someone was very very young.
Grammar school, some high school, some are college, and some
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in life. But we created a facade to survive for
whatever reason. And now fast forward five twenty forty years,
we find ourselves so involved in this facade, so entangled
with this mask that we have created, that when you
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ask them certain stories, the first answer is well, I
don't know. And if somebody asks you about your future,
your interest, your goals, your first answer is well, I
don't know then you need to stop because the bottom
line is you do. No, I don't you do. You
were born with a purpose. You were born with many purposes.
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Think about that. You weren't born to just sail through
life and just be and have no journey. In mind.
We all have journeys, we all have goals. As I said,
we all have purpose. But what ends up happening is
throughout our lives of wearing so many masks. I find
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it fascinating that people in twenty twenty five are still
walking around with masks. And I've actually talked to certain
people about it, and they've actually kind of said it
in so many words that it's now become a blanket
like linus. If you don't know who that is. It up.
But it's a security thing. They feel safe behind it,
which I understand. People are like, oh, they're dumb, they're stupid. No,
I get it. I'm like, you know, it became more
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to them than COVID. It became more like I'm hiding
from which is not a good thing. But who am
I to judge? If it works for them for now,
it could be temporary, hopefully it's not forever. I mean,
there are people that wear glasses. Melissa loves to wear glasses.
She loves hiding behind her glasses. I think it's fine.
I actually remember I wore glasses for many years and
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then I had lasik and I didn't need them anymore.
Now I have them and I'm fine with them. But
it's just we all have our way of doing things.
But the thing is how much control does it have
over you? But at some point you can't let them
mask the glasses and all those other things define you,
because again, that person that you created in the past ten, twenty, thirty,
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forty years ago, who was that person originally? What was
that person's dreams and goals? You know, when you were
in grammar school, what did you want to be when
you grew up? When you're in high school, which most
people it changes, But now in high school, what did
you want to be when you grew up? In college?
And then now, sitting at your new job or wherever
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you are now, do you find yourself dadreous and looking
through the window of your office at somebody else over there,
wondering what they're doing, how much they're making, how happy
are they? Which is fine, it happens, that's a human thing,
But when you start just studying those people and doing
what they do, and just I hate to say it,
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but envying and being jealous of them. That's not healthy.
If anything, you know what you do, You leave your office,
you go downstairs, you cross the street, you go into
their building, you go upstairs, and you find out what
they do, why they do it. Not always, but chances
are you come to this is actually happened to me
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many times. People over there, when you ask them about
their life, they're more curious about your life, even though
you're thinking you have nothing to offer, your life sucks,
and they're over there wondering, Wow, that person looks happy
over there. I'm so curious about what that person is
doing in their life. I'd say sometimes when we take
the time to talk to people, to physically leave our homes,
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go to a coffee shop somewhere, sit at an area
where there's a lot of people, and just say something
to somebony. Before you know it, twenty minutes have gone
by and you're in a wonderful conversation about life and
weather and time and space. And as you can tell,
I do that, and I love that because even though
you're talking and expressing your life and listening to others,
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you were reconnecting with yourself on many different things, and
you're seeing yourself differently, and before you know it, you're
talking to them about your past, and instead of doing
it with shame, come to find out, there's some pride
in there. There are some things that you've done in
your life that were pretty badass that you forgot about,
and now the people in front of you are going,
oh my god, you did this, this and that. That's
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so interesting, that's so cool, And you're like, I guess,
but I mean asking somebody, as I ask you right now,
what do you want to do with your life? What
are your goals and dreams? And if your first thought
is I don't know if anything, your answer shouldn't be
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an answer right away. It shouldn't a question like that.
It really should be silence, a moment of silence, because
a question like that should trigger something inside of you
that if I just opened that door by asking you
what do you want to do with your life? What
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are your dreams? What are your goals, I've actually opened
the door to a space in your mind that has
not been looked at, walked in, investigating in years, because
through through your life. You've put just shoved stuff back
in there, You've hidden stuff, You've box stuff, so many skeletons,
forcing that door closed, thinking to yourself that actually you
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can never revisit that closet. Those dreams and goals are
just not happening. Funny thing is the sad thing is
you without I don't know most of you, but I
know this for a fact. Many of you have proven
it time and time again. Certain things in your life
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that you truly, truly, truly, truly wanted times ten times
one hundred. You made the time, you made the effort,
and you found the money if you needed it. You
had resilience. What is your resilience level? Because to go
through this life, you have to be willing to get
up when you're pushed down, bounce back when you're knocked down.
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You know the old saying sticks and stones may break
my bones. Yeah it's stupid. Let me tell you something.
My bones may break, and they have, but my mind
will not. And the older I get, and I'm talking
like day by day, not week by week in month,
but no day by day, actually hour by hour. Here
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I can honestly say I've become a completely and total person.
And I say it every day. I was just talking
about it half an hour ago. My perception of life
around me, the people around me, how things grow, and
how things have to die, has become now just second
nature to me. It is what it is. It's not
something that I'm going to lose my mind over flip
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out over because something has happened in the news, good
or bad. It's news, and tomorrow there will be news,
and then there will be new news and newer news,
and after that there'll be even guess what, yes, more news.
Because there's a world out there happening. People are doing
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things good, bad and horrendous. But I mean, what are
you doing? The question is are you happening around the world?
Are you happening to other people? Are you offering of
yourself to other people? Are you doing things? Are you
accomplishing things? So while everybody is getting a piece of
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their pie, their life pie, some people are stealing it
and some from you. People take advantage of you. I
know that and your dreams and your goals that you're
choosing to put them in a box because you feel
that their life is more interesting. You know what celebrities
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do and what happens in soap operas and TV shows
is so much more interesting than my own life. So
I'm going to focus and live vicariously through other people.
A little bit of entertainment is fine, but what are
you doing with your life? Stop watching other people live
their lives while you're watching yourself live their lives. There
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are so many people around us that feel that they
are that they should be going for it, and maybe
they don't, and then one day you wake up when
you're forty fifty seventy and you're like, what the fuck
I pissed away a good part of my life doing something,
being married, working at a job, being a part of
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something that I really didn't want to remember. The mask.
That's when a lot of times people peel that mask
off and they're like they look at their face for
the first time since they were a teenager. I've actually
had that happen with clients. You know, they come in
to lose weight, or for smoking, or for pain management
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or a past life regression, and before you know it,
they're questioning why all of this happens. Because that's my focus.
I focus. When you are eating too much, smoking too much,
when you have an addiction, what community are you part
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of then, who are you surrounding yourself around? You're an alcoholic,
but you hang out at a bar. I mean, you
can't change things. That's why hypnosis people are like, oh
does it work? Oh, it works miraculously. I've had a
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seventy plus year old man stop smoking after fifty years
in one session. Why because he wanted it, He was
tired of it. He understood the severity of what it
was doing to him and the importance of what his
life was. I've had other people living with fear, people
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living with lack of confidence, trusting themselves. I had one lady,
whiles I haven't thought of her in a while, she
came in. I remember being outside of my building watching
her as she pulled up in this escalade, young lady,
much younger than me, and she was doing extremely well
for herself. And she had just started while she was
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working at a business, and she took it over, and
then she took over another two, so she had three
of them at a verien age. And she just had
a baby recently, and she was married and life was great.
She had the mcmahonsion. She had everything most of us
think life is. And the reason she was coming in
was because she wanted to find herself because she had
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failed attempt of suicide twice. So it's funny because they
started the conversation with all their stuff, and I'm looking
at her clothes and her attitude and I'm like, Wow,
this girl got it going out and that's good for her,
And then all of a sudden, the tears come. Do
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you have the power to get up and fight for
what you want every single morning and not put it
off until this Thursday? Or I'll deal with it next week,
or you know what? I just I can't. Maybe maybe
maybe you know what November or you know what New
Year's resolution? Stupid, I'll wait till spring. So by spring
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you've completely forgotten. And then sometime Midsummer you're revisiting that
goal in that dream you know what, I should have
been doing that, And then before you know it, we're saying, wow,
we're already at the end of twenty twenty six and
what have you done. That's when you start to revisit
your your goals and dreams again. It's a never ending loop.
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And I know many of you can understand and relate
to this, but it's a never ending loop of wasting
and and just wasted time. You know, the hourglass with
the sand, the sand, you do understand that you can't
flip that site. Imagine that we can just flip it
sideways for a couple of days, make the sand stop.
But it doesn't. We're getting older every day. I'm getting older.
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I'm finding myself going to the doctor for more checkups.
So this hurts. That hurts. I'm a diabetic. They're gonna
put me on this medicine, switch to that medicine. The
good thing is, since I've been here, it's it's it's
I feel it. It's gotten better. And I think a
lot of it is is mindset. It's not. I don't
live in a rat race. I'm enjoying the moments. I'm
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enjoying my meals, I'm enjoying my relationships. I'm enjoying my animals.
I'm not focused on he said, she said, who said?
What's going on? Because at this point, because my life
now has become such a magical place, I just don't care.
If anything, I go, oh my God, and then I
just you know, I'll pray for that person. I'll light
a candle for them, I'll send them positive energy. That's all.
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I can do. I'm not gonna lose sleep over that person,
because why how much sleep have you lost for others?
And then, of course you know you have you know,
the internet, which doesn't help. The Internet is a wonderful thing.
The Internet is a horrible thing. And you always hear
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people say stuff like, oh, you know, you know, yeah,
everything is getting quicker. Time is getting quicker, the days
are going by quicker. Yeah. No, No, it's not that's
not true. You hear it all the time, and it's
a matter of opinion, it's a matter of perception. For me,
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my life has actually dramatically stopped, slowed down back to
where it was supposed to be. You know, the grains
of sand. It's almost like people now are tapping the
top of it. No, my sand is dropping the way
it's supposed to be normally. I'm enjoying it, and I'm
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not in fear of when that last granule of sand drops.
When I die, I die. The focus isn't on the
end of the game. The focus is on the game
that I'm playing now. For my young people, when you're
playing a video game, are you are you just thinking
about your last man, your last quarter. No, you're thinking
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of winning, you're thinking of playing, You're thinking of your
next adventure. You're looking for cheat sheets, cheat codes, You're
trying to figure out how to win this level, to
get to the next level successfully and understand that the
next level begins hard again, and then you fight through
it and then you win, and then you have another level,
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which does it start easy? Apps litly not. They start
a little bit hard for you, and every level is challenging,
and that's why you're drawn to that game. Same thing
with life. For me, I wake up early and every
day I look up at the clouds and the sky
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and I say thank you for such a beautiful sky
because it is Kentucky, because the land is so vast here,
so it's just it's very different. The clouds are very different,
and it's a beautiful thing. And then I focus on
my animals and I focus on feeding them and you know,
opening their pens and making sure their pens are safe.
And you know there's wildlife here. So that's a game,
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and you have to make sure that you know everything
can survive now for winter. So I'm starting to plan
in the back of my mind what I need to
do to prepare them to make their lives a little
bit more comfortable during the winter. One thing about like
I said, fall here, it lasts a lot longer, so
I have more time. It seems it's the same amount
of time, but it is. But I mean hopefully, hopefully,
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and I mean this hopefully. This podcast is something that
will make you think about how resilient you are and
how willing are you to fight for what you want
every single day, not today and Thursday and maybe Friday morning.
Not oh it's Monday again. It shouldn't be Monday again.
It's just another day that you need to continue fighting
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and moving forward on your dreams and goals and aspirations
because you have no control of that part. There's always
something that you can do in the meantime to keep
your flame burning. So if there's a plan that you
have that's not gonna happen till spring, I actually have
something that I'm working on that I'm going to do
in spring. It doesn't mean that I'm not going to
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do anything forward until spring. Every day there should be
something put all those thoughts and goals and dreams, if
anything on the back burner on simmer, but every day
you should be working towards it, whether it's a phone call,
a conversation, an email, maybe some reading on the topic,
preparing you more and more so that by the time
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winter's almost over, you've already set with so many ideas
and you're ready to just spring into action. Melissa wa
like that, if I believe in you, then you can
get all of this done. You can plan, you can prepare,
you can't organize, you can visualize, and then life throws
something at you, knocks you down, knocks the wind out
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of your lungs. So what it might be losing someone
you love, losing a job that you thought was secure,
or watching a dream you worked your tail off, being
married for many, many years and your better half passes
and at that moment you think your life is completely
and totally over. But here's the thing. Adversity isn't here
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to ruin you. It's here to reveal you. Resilience isn't
something that you're born with. It's something you build brick
by brick, through every trial, every setback, and every I
can't do this moment you somehow you know, takes a
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brick away. And if you're listening right now, I want
you to remember the simple truth you made it through
one of your worst days so far. That's not luck.
That's strength, that's resilience. That's proof that whatever you face next,
you've got it in you to rise again and again
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and again. Even when the storm comes. Remember the storm
always teaches let's be honest. Adversity doesn't show up politely.
It barges, oh God, It slams the door in and
dares you to react. It challenges you, it threatens you.
But the storm doesn't come to this destroy you. Even
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in situations that the storm comes and destroys somebody's home,
that is when I see in the news the strongest people,
the most resilient people. After a few tears, they're already thinking, Okay,
I need to get back on my life, I need
to begin again. They don't sit on an empty shell
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of a lot with their home completely thrown everywhere and
just go, well, I'm going to sit here for the
next ten years and pity myself. No, that happens for
a few hours. You go through some pictures, you feel
the pain, and then immediately you start to well, I
don't need this and I don't need that. And you
know what, I've always wanted to knock that wall down. Hey,
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you know what, Now we can put up a new fireplace.
Now we could put a playground. Now, we could do this,
We could do that because we've been giving a second chance.
That's called resilience. Think about how steel is created, how
it's forged. It's not forged in comfort, not in still air,
but in the heat of fire. That's how steel is
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forged in fire, and that's life. It's that fire that
teaches you what you, yeah, you are made of. When
things fall apart, you start to see what really matters,
what's solid, what's real, and then you start to see
what's noise, even people. You find out who stands by you.
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You learn what you truly value and what kind of grits. Oh,
I could go for grits. I like grits lives inside
your soul. Here's the hard truth. You don't grow much,
actually don't grow at all, when things are easy. Comfort
never taught anyone in character. It's the struggle that shows
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you your strength. You might bend on the pressure, but
you don't have to break. Did that rhyme? That's cute?
And even when you do, even if you fall flat
on your face, which you have, I know you have
it's not the end. Are you still laying on your face?
Sometimes breaking is a part of rebuilding. Adversity clears away
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the unnecessary. It simplifies your life in the harshest way possible,
but in doing so it shows you. Let's clear up
a misconception right now. Resilience isn't about pretending everything's fine.
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You don't have to be made of stone. None of
us were. We're made of flesh and bone. You don't
have to smile through pain or act like you've got
it all under control always. It's okay to lose your shit.
It's normal to cry. I cry. I cry at movies.
Real resilience is feeling it all, feeling the fear, the grief,
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the frustration, but now not allowing it to control you
or paralyze you. Because if you're paralyze, you can't move,
you can't grow. It's being honest enough to say this hurts,
but strong enough to add and I will get through
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it as I have time and time again. See, people
think resilience is about all about toughness. Now it's more
about flexibility. It's being able to bend with the storm
instead of snapping under it. A tree that's too rigid
gets torn about by the wind. But a tree with
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roots and flexibility that go deep are able to sway,
it moves, and this tree will survive. That's what you're
learning to be, not unbreakable, but unshakable. But what happens
when the rug gets pulled out from under you, when
life shifts under your feet, that's a big one. There's
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that moment, you know, the one when your whole life shifts.
Think about right now, top thing, something that happened in
the past year, five years, ten years that you like.
It hit you like a bomb. It tore a piece
of your heart out. Maybe you lost something you thought
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it was permanent. Maybe someone betrayed you, somebody walked out
on you. Maybe the job that you saw yourself with
security being in for the next thirty years just ended.
Those are the crossroad moments in your life. They force
you to either retreat or rebuild. When everything you knew
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stops working, that's when resilience kicks in. That's when life
is challenging. That's the old saying that that's when Jesus
is carrying you on the beach. The footprints simple, but
I've always loved that. I always thought that was the
most beautiful concept, because that's when people turn to God
and the universe and go, why have you done this
to me? Because it's part of the plan. Part of
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the plan is to knock you on your ass because
I think you've gone a little bit too comfort comfortable,
or you have been focusing on putting all of your
eggs in somebody else's basket. No, I want you to shine.
I want you to grow. It's choosing to say, Okay,
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this happened, Now what what's next for you? It's allowing
yourself to fall apart long enough to feel, but not
long enough to stay there. You get up, and you
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get up again, and you get up again, and you
dust yourself off and you start walking again, even if
it's slow, even if it's messy, because movement is medicine.
The older you get, the more you move. To my
older listeners, there, don't move less, move more. Your body
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is starting to die. It's starting to break down, your
muscles are starting to wither. Walking less is actually helping it.
It depends. I mean, if you're looking to die earlier,
that's fine, God bless you. But I mean for most
of us, as you get older. I actually went to
a different gym in a different town the other day,
and I went at an odd time. I went at
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two o'clock in the afternoon, and I was like, way
by far the youngest person there. I I kind of
fit in because I have gray in my beard. But
everybody there was a gray head. It's a gang called
the gray Head. And it was fascinating to me because
I was I couldn't stop watching them. They were so active.
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Nobody was complaining, nobody was talking about how old they are,
and all you know, I'm seventy, I'm eighty, I'm not.
Everybody was hustling, everybody was like everybody had their headphones on.
There was a couple ladies in the little bicycles that
you'd like lean back into, were just reading. Other people
watching television. Other people were just There was two ladies
that were actually almost dancing, and they were They were
much older, I mean much older, but the glow that
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came off of them was much younger than me. The
best way you can overcome adversity is to stop trying
to fix the past and start focusing on what's right
in front of you right now. You can't change what happened,
but you can control how you respond to it, and
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that's where your power lives. Now, let's talk about the
five what I consider the five foundations building resilience. It's
about doing real work, not just listening to this podcast
and when I'm done, go that was good, and then
just continuing to do the same shit over and over.
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It's like it's lunacy because it's not just about bouncing back,
it's about bouncing forward. What are you going to do
for today? What are you going to accomplish for today,
by the end of this week, by the end of
this month. Here are five foundations that I feel I
feel you can start building today. Number one self awareness,
which is for everything. Self awareness knowing who you are,
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knowing your breaking points, knowing your triggers, and understanding what
drains your energy and what does rebuild it, what restores it.
The more honest you are with yourself, the more control
you have of you over your own reactions. So that's
that whole Get in front of a mirror thing and
know who the hell you actually are. And if you're
wearing a mask, take it off, just take it off.
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If you think people won't like the person you are,
fuck them. I don't care. And neither should you. If
they don't love you who for who you truly are,
you're living a lie. And trust me, don't think it's
not gonna come back. It's gonna come back at some point.
The longer your way, the worse it's gonna be. But
be you, because everything I mean to me, A big
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thing is perspective. When you're in the thick of it,
everything feels permanent, like nothing's gonna change, nothing's ever. Oh
my god, this happened, and that's it. My life is over.
I think that's so funny when people say that. But
nothing in life is permanent, not the pain, not the fear,
even the chaos. Step back and remind yourself, as this
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famous saying, that this is temporary, because it is that
mindset alone can save your sanity. Again, back to that
moment that the shit hit the fan in your life.
Oh it was hard, Oh pain, Oh my god, I'll
never make it. I'll never make it tomorrow. How will
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I make it to tomorrow? And then tomorrow came, And
then it was the next day, and then it was
a week from now, and then you look back and
then before you know, the pain kind of got a
little bit softer. And you know people, well, it doesn't
go away. Okay, fine, it really does. If you keep
holding onto it, you don't forget it, but you also
don't keep revisiting it. It's almost like getting stabbed one
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day and then four years from now you're telling somebody
the story, and to describe the story, you stab yourself again.
Because that's actually what people do on Facebook all the time,
which I think is fascinating. Let me keep revisiting it
by let me keep stabbing myself instead of showing them
the healed scar and how I have overcome it. Shit happens,
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life happens, Plans fall apart, people change, doors closed. But
understand that there's a pivot point. You don't need the
road to look how you imagined it exactly. You just
need to keep going. You need to keep walking, You
need to keep driving. You need to keep right thinking, planning,
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and understand that you are not alone. You are not alone.
Now who are you surrounding yourself with? Because oh, the
word friend, that's such a fucked word. I think Facebook
made the friend the word differently, so now people think
that Facebook friends our friends for life. I hope they
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are for you, but I've had I have three accounts
that each one has almost five thousand, So that's almost
fifteen thousand friends. And I can honestly say I have
maybe less than five true friends. Even the strongest people
need someone good. Don't isolate yourself when things get tough.
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Reach out, talk to your people, Lean on your tribe.
Who is your tribe? Think about that? I love that word.
Who is your tribe? Do you have a tribe? Do
you have somebody you could write too that they will
respond to you with honesty, not judgment, not being a ballbuster,
not saying mean things, which obviously a lot. Here's the thing.
A lot of times people will say to me like, oh,
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you're tough, You're a dick, You're no, I'm not. I'm
just saying things with love, and I will say it
before and i'll say it after. What I'm telling you
is what I think, based on what you feel, because
you shared it with me, you should do when you
ask me for advice, I'm not going to give you
the advice of how I would handle it because I'm
a different person, so I would say things different, i
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would react differently. So for me to say like oh,
I would just go and kick the ry and knowing
you you won't, so I'm not going to give you
that advice. That's a waste. That's just ego me trying
to tell you that I'm stronger than you because I'm
I'm not afraid to kick someone. When I give advice,
I base it on listening to on knowing this good
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friend and what I think they can handle it, and
how I think they could react to it. But resilience
grows faster when it's shared with others. And then, of
course you should have faith, faith in yourself, faith in life,
faith in God, in the life that he has gifted
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you in the bigger picture of it all. Sometimes you
want to understand why things are happening, but that's okay,
you're not supposed to. But you keep the faith that
every setback is redirecting you somewhere important because it is.
And then, of course, trust me, I'm not saying to
go fight, fight fight. There's times that after a long day,
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you are beat, you are tired. Understand you're not weak,
You're just tired. You're still human. You've been strong for
for way too long, especially for my listeners that have
been wearing masks for years. That's extra weight you've been
caring if somebody you're not holding it all together while
the world keeps moving along. But it's okay to pause.
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It's okay to say I need a minute. That's what
my Monday morning mind's I meditations are. For Rest isn't quitting,
it's recovery. You need to rest if your body's exhausted,
rested if your heart is heavy, breathe if your mind
is spinning, Step away and get quiet. Because resilience doesn't
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mean you never fall. It means you rise again. Rest
it smarter, calmer, and more determined now after you did
after the last bout. Don't rush your healing. Some lessons
take time to settle in. But never let a setback
convince you that you're finished. You're not rebuilding and learning
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more about yourself as you go along because you're trying
to find purpose in pain. Think about that. You ever
noticed that some of the strongest people you know have
been through absolute hell. It's because pain has a way
of shaping purpose. When you survive something that you could
have that could have broken you, it changed how you
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viewed the world. You start to care more deeply about
the world. You emphasize more freely, you understand that life
isn't just about surviving. It's about using what you've been
through to make something meaningful. Remember the scars. The scars
tell stories, their proof that you fought your battles and
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came out wiser. And when you share those stories, when
you help someone else through the darkness you once knew.
That's when pain transforms into purpose. That's when you realize,
as you weren't being punished, you are being prepared. I mean,
let's get practical for a moment. When adversity hits, emotions
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run wild. So there's a simple way to navigate through
all of this chaos. Number One, as I said, awareness
is you acknowledge it. You don't pretend it's not happening.
You face it head on. You can't heal what you
won't name. Two, you breathe before you react. Don't just
say I'm gonna go I'm gonna do something right away.
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I'm gonna do no, no, no, shut up, stop, take twenty
four hours, take sleep on it. Emotions are terrible, horrible, horrendous.
Decision makers respond with calm first and then act second.
And of course, you can't change the world, it can
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only change you. So change how you see the world.
Change how you feel about the world, and the world
will return. Change back. Focus on what you can control.
Not everything is fixable, not everybody is fixable, but something
always is. It's your attitude, it's your next step, it's
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your effort. And then it's how you view the world
that's reframing the story of your life. The reframing what
just happened? Instead of why me? Ask what can I
learn from this? Why did this happen to me? And
then try to figure it out. What did you most
likely do wrong or perceive in a way that you
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shouldn't have. It's not a big deal, it's okay. That's
one shift that changes everything. And then while you're doing
you're moving forward, one action at a time. Small steps
still count. Every step you take proofs to life that
you're not giving up, because every morning is your turn
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to rise. So here's what it all comes together. Adversity
isn't a sign that you're cursed or unlucky. It's a
call to grow. It's universe, God, fate, whatever you believe,
saying that you I'm speaking to you are ready for more.
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You have faced heartbreak, disappointment, fear, maybe even a lot
of failure, but you're still standing. You're still here, and
that means that there's still more for you to do.
Don't look back in anger, don't look back with regret,
look back with respect because you've survived things that others
never even saw coming. Resilience is your legacy, and the
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next time life throws you a curveball, you know exactly
what to say. I've been here before, I know how
to get back up, and I will get back up.
Everyone loves a comeback story, the athlete who has counted out,
the person who hit rock by atom and built a
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new life, the dreamer who failed and dared to try
again and again and again. But what most people don't
see is that quiet middle before before the end, before
the big success, the part between the fall and the rise.
A lot of people don't see that. The messy rebuilding
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you see yours. You think you're in your rebuild forever.
The nights when you're too exhausted to care and too
subborn to quit, that's where the real transformation happens. A
comeback isn't flashy, it doesn't happen overnight. It's the result
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of a thousand small choices made in silence, choices to
believe again, to show up again, to rebuild yourself worth
peace by peace by peace. When life knocks you down,
the first instinct isn't you survival? It's how do I
get through this? But once you survive, once the dust settles,
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the next question is now, what what's next? That's when
you begin crafting your comeback. You stop asking why did
this happen to me? Instead you ask it as an
interested question, why did this happen to me? And then
you start asking what can I do? What have I learned?
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And let me tell you the moment right there, that moment,
it's a beautiful moment, It's an empowering moment. That's when
you take your power back. Something bad happens. Why is
this happening? Every person you admire, every success story you've
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ever heard, started with someone who refused to stay down.
They didn't wait for the perfect moment. They started exactly
where they were, bruise, broken on, sure, but determined. Because
resilience isn't built in the wind, in the wind win,
It's built in the willingness to begin again, even when
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it still hurts like a son of a bitch. Failure
gets such a bad reputation, doesn't it It really does.
I think failure is amazing. People act like failing is
some kind of final verdict, like once you fall short,
that's it, game over, You're done. But failure isn't the
opposite of success. It's the path to it. Every mistake
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you've ever made has been teaching you something vital about yourself.
Failure strips away the illusion of perfection. It humbles you.
It forces you to see where your limits are and
invites you to push them. Think about Edison, Thomas Edison,
the inventor who said, I have not failed, but I've
just found ten thousand ways that something it just would
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not work that's demanded did delight persistence, And you can
do the same. The question isn't did I fail, It's
that I learned something that makes me stronger than next time.
Because every setback is information, it's a blueprint for improvement.
The only real failure is quitting before you've learned what
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the moment was that meant to teach you. When you
start seeing your failures as part of the process, you
stop being afraid of trying again, you stop hesitating, you
start experimenting, you start creating momentum again, and that's when
doors will start opening. So the next time something in
your life falls apart, which it will if it hasn't,
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don't hang your head in shame, stand tall and say, okay, learn.
Let's go again and again and again, because every master
was once a beginner who refused to give up. Let's
slow down for a second, because not every response to
adversity is about action always. Sometimes it's about just being still,
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because I want to teach that about finding peace when
life hits hard. Your instinct might be to scramble, to run,
to cry, to scream, to fix everything immediately, to fill
the silence with movement. But some problems can't be solved
that way. Some do need quiet, some need practice. Stillness
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is what lessons, what lets the lessons rise to the surface.
It isn't the silence that clarity shows up. If you're
always reacting, always rushing, you'll miss the message, the lesson
hidden in the storm. Take time to pause, take walks
without your phone, Sit in silence for just five minutes
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a day, Breathe, reflect, Listen to what your soul has
been trying to tell you. Stillness isn't laziness. It's alignment,
and once you're aligned, every action you take becomes ten
times more effective. About that, I hope I really do.
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That's something I say. I'm saying it's making you think.
I'm gonna leave it there. No more exercises, no more journaling,
no more. It's up to you now, want you to
think about it. I hope I made you think. I
hope I made you question your existence and to appreciate
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every tomorrow, every today, and be grateful for all of
the experiences of the past, because that's what they are,
the past that have made you who you are. Right now,
keep this in mind. Choose action over excuse, purpose over comfort,
and the work that matters over the distractions that don't.
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My name is jimm Gonzales and this was now your
You set yourself twenty two podcasts, go forward and live
your life to the fullest. I hope. Thank you so
much for listening, liking, and especially sharing with others. I
love the comments. I really appreciate them. Thank you, many, many,
many blessings to you all. Be well and.
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