The Reset Yourself 22 Podcast (Episode173) "Adapt or Fail"

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Please note this show contains adult language and themes and
is intended for mature audiences only. Listener discretion is advised. Daily, Beloved,

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we have gathered here today to get through this thing
called life. You are listening to the Reset Yourself What

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You Podcast with your host Jimmy gun Solid. Hello, hope
you are all well. Welcome to the Reset Yourself twenty
two podcast, Episode one hundred and seventy three with Henry
and his Butt. In this weekly podcast, I focus on

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sparking your inner confidence and igniting your belief in yourself.
Actually my belief too. I am your host and I'm
always very thrilled to share my thoughts and research with you.
As we go along on this journey together you we
can nurture a mindset that empowers us to reach our

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our fullest potential. I write a record every episode to
challenge our thinking and to encourage us to reflect and
inspire actionable steps towards personal growth. Whether you are facing
a career transition, seeking to overcome challenges, or simply striving
for great or fulfillment in your life, this podcast has

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been the go to resource for a ridiculous amount of people,
and for that I thank you for motivation and practical insights.
Tell me what you want and I will show you
how to get it. The question is are you willing
to do the work? Oh? Yeah, are you willing to

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do the work? Humans adapt at many many levels, including biologically, culturally,
and through learned behaviors. For examples, for example, our ancestors
adapted physically to walk long distances and survive in the

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African savannah. I know I'm starting this this episode straight in,
but it's interesting to me. While culturally they learn to
control fire and developed council practices for dic decision making
from cavemen to where we are today. Adaption is also

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crucial for surviving natural disasters, where people rebuild and rebuild
and just rebuild again, proactively maintain and learn from past events. Hopefully.
I want to start off with a few reasons why

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it is important for you to learn to adapt. And
it's not even something that you know, could, should, would. No,
you have to to survive on this planet, maybe if
you were alone, but even then it would become adapting
to your environment, as man and women have done for

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years and years and years and years. We've adapted the northerners,
you know, they wear more fur coats, they're more protected
from the weather. The Southerners they wear less, and you know,
to deal with the sun, to deal with everything they
have to. You know, in the tropics we adapt. How

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come we don't have people from the tropics up in
Alaska still wearing you know, as little as possible. You
can't because you have to adapt. And I mean, how
simple is that. It's just it makes perfect sense. But
yet when it comes to life, when it comes to
our problems, when it comes to relationships, when it comes

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to work, when it comes to making lots and lots
of money, and when it comes to making lots and
lots of less money, you learn to adapt. You learn
to do without or you do with more, but hopefully
you still don't go crazy. But we've been forced to adapt.

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So as I just started the show, it's like, how
important it is to learn to adapt. But realistically it's
either you do or you don't survive, or at least
you don't live comfortably. By simply saying I'm going to
adapt instead of walking through life going no, I'm not
doing that, or I can't do this, or I'm not
gonna try this, or I'm not gonna try that. It's

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just like and I understand in most situations. But here's
the thing. When push comes to shove, you don't have
a choice, so you just do things. And it sucks
because I do know that there are a lot of
people that aren't strong minded, aren't strong willed, and just

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can't for whatever reasons. When they were young, they weren't
teaching they weren't taught coping skills. But here's the thing,
as we get older, we no longer need mom and
dad to teach us how to cope with life. At
that point, you see the necessity of having to get
through life and you figure it out. You surround yourself

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with stronger people. You surround yourself with survivors. You learn
from those that you need to learn from. If you
see yourself as a weak person, you don't surround yourself
with weak people. Sadly, we are attracted to them like
minded people. But I've always been always taught to go up,

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spend your time with people higher than you, spend your
time with people that you can learn from, people that
can teach you skills to survive. I've always had this thing,
and half of you're going to think I'm weird for this,
but I don't even know where it originated. But I

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have this thing that when I meet certain people in
my life, I will ask myself, in case of a
zombie apocalypse, you know, the end of times, and we're
still We're still here walking around with just a lot
less everything's falling apart, as they're show in many many pictures.
Everything is growing over with vines and trees, and it's like,
you know, it's it's like the Walking Dead. Even that's

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a great example of the Walking Dead. So if you
were to wake up tomorrow morning there's no power, no internet, nothing,
and you basically look out your window. And I'm not
going to say there's zombies because I'm sorry, it's an
interesting idea. It's just I've never i mean, already have

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them now walking around in our malls. But I'm talking
about just like, all right, what are you going to do?
Who are you going to surround yourself with? And this
isn't like a show about fear. This is a show
about the need to learn to adapt. So, for example,

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during COVID, I personally got to see how a lot
of people, more more than I thought, would just adapt.
It's just okay, I need to figure out what to
do and how to do it. And I remember, I
remember those first few weeks, A lot of people were
walking around, well walking around posting on Facebook, like, you know,

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screw government control. This is a crock of shit. Blah
blah blah. I don't believe in it. The vaccines are
crap and whatever, and nobody can tell me what to do.
My life's not changing. But it did. There was some

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serious control there and people just a lot of people
just lost their minds. And it's like, you know, what
am I going to do if I can't go to
my typical meeting, What if I can't do the normal
things that I do every day? I mean I have
to go to the gym, I have to go play poker,

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I have to go golfing. I mean, it's what I do.
It's what I've been doing for ten twenty thirty years, right,
And this is the government's way of pulling the rug
out from under you and showing you who is really
in control. And people, pretty much the people who are
who survived are and are still here with full mental

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capacity adapted. What are you gonna do? All? Right? So
instead of losing your shit, you try to figure out
what can you do with what you have? You know, obviously,
you know, do you have enough water, do you have
enough things to survive? For whatever? I mean, God forbid,
we don't have toilet paper. I mean it's toilet paper

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that I never understood. It's like worst comes to worst,
you wash your ass with a hose. I mean, and
again people are likeugh, no, that's called adaption. That's adapting.
If worst comes to worse, you wash your hands with
a garden hose, or your ass with a garden hose,
or you brush your teeth at a garden holes because
that's just the way it is. And you have to
adapt because basically you need to focus on the important

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thing is in your life and not how and where
to clean your butt regularly with really good ply toilet paper.
That's insanity. But there's there's different forms of adaption. You
have cultural adaption. So for example, going somewhere where your

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neighborhood is changing. I knew of a gentleman whose mom
still lives in the Bronx and she is Italian. And
for those of you that don't know this, the Bronx
is mostly Spanish. So obviously, to continue to live where
she was, and to adapt, she learned. She didn't have
to learn fluid Spanish, but she learned the basics just

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to get by, just to be able to fit in
a little bit better, to make yourself seem more approachable
by her neighbors, and learning the main words, and then
of course, you know, not only getting involved in their
food and their culture, but sharing of hers. So you know,
she became very popular in her neighborhood. But I mean,

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you learn to adopt local customs and understanding others' norms
and how they tick, because it's either shit or get
off the pods. So at that point it's like, well
I'm not moving. Well, if you are old school Italian
and everybody around you in Spanish, I mean you have

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two choices again three You either move, you sit there
and just be angry at everybody around you for you know,
because everything's changed on you. Or you learn to adapt
and you just learn some basic words and you welcome
them in and then of course getting a little bit
more involved. You have survival adaptions, which I was just

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talking about behavioral like being hypervilagent, being prepared in case
of a disaster. You know, it's like people wait until
the last minute to figure out if they have candles,
if they have water, if they have animals, where you're
gonna put them, they have crates, do they have cages?
Do you have enough food? Do you have enough medication?
For everybody? Because you want to learn not to rely

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on others. Half of the reason why we're here in
Kentucky is this is the land. This area of the
country is where you learn to not have to rely
on others. And we we tend to emotionally distance ourselves
from people. Can only that can only bring us problems. So,
like I said, you know when when my thing with

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like you know, the world coming to an end, I
would ask myself or I'll ask you right now if
if you woke up this morning and you went to
turn on the TV. No TV, no radio, nothing, no power.
Number one, do you think that you're prepared with the
basics to get by a radio with batteries, candles, you know,

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clean water, stuff like that. Number Two, who would you
count on to help keep you protected? The people that
you have around you right now? Do you feel that
they can keep you protected and not just like you know,
guns and killing people. But I'm like knowing how to
assist you in fending for ourselves instead of just having

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that person that's just gonna be like, oh my god,
Oh my god, what are we gonna do? What are
we gonna do? What are we gonna do? Usually in
movies like Walking Dead, that person just gets killed quickly
because it's like the rest of them is like, we
need to survive and we can't have you. You can't run,
you can't hide. All you do is complain. You gotta go,
So I mean, what are you going to do? And

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then of course adapting and changing your life. How many
of us have changed our lives in the later years,
such as doctor ben Kosami starting he started an i hospital.
He's a doctor at the age of fifty eight, and
here being in Kentucky. I kind of knew about this,

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but I always thought it was fascinating that Colonel Sanders
actually started Kentucky Fried Chicken at the age of sixty five.
And it's funny because I've actually had conversations with a
lot of young people that are like in their twenties
and thirties, and they feel that if they don't survive
by the time they're twenty or thirty, that life is over.
And it's like you don't realize. For some of us,

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we have redone and redone and rewritten and erased and
edited and started again our chapters of life, and I
plan on doing it until I'm dead. Right now, I'm
going through a whole new chapter in my life, not
only as a farmer as Kentuckian, but I'm learning a
new skill which at some point in the future I'll

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bring it up, but for now I'm learning to do
something else. It's went on. It's like it's called evolving.
You want to continue to learn new things, new skills
which bring you adaption in the workplace, being flexible, learning
new skills, embracing change, and working effectively in the diverse teams,

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which are all important in the workplace adaptability skills. I
actually met a girl yesterday at Low's who I just
finished writing a review for her website, because I for
Lowe's website, because I always do. I always write positive
reviews negative ones. If it really bothers me, I will
write it directly to them, to whomever. But her name

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was Chandler. She was very young, and I was buying
soil and it was four bags or ten bucks, so
I wanted eight bags, and there was six on the ground.
There weren't anybody anymore. Actually, it was a skin above.
So I went and found two very young fellows who
were right outside the gates where you really can't come
in on the side there, and they were just you know,

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and I'm standing there and they can see me, and no,
they weren't on break and I found this out after
the fact, but I'm like, okay. So she was walking by.
She was pulling two large displays of flowers. She was
pushing one, pulling the other, and they were both three
times the size of her. And she was small, petite,

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and she had a vest on and it wasn't the
regular low's vest. It was a marketing vest so that
was her department. So she just seized me and she stops,
you can I help you? And I was like, actually,
it's okay. I was looking for them to help me
or whatever, and she's like, no, no, I can help you.
So she kind of like rolled her eyes a little bit,
stopped left, those big carts came over, said what do
you need? I said, well, these are eight I want

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eight bags. I have six and there's two more I
would like but from up there, and she's like don't
worry about it. So she disappeared and I saw her
just leave through the garden center out the front of
the store, and I'm like, where's she going? And she
took a left, and about like five minutes later, she
came back carrying these two bags of soil and I

(17:26):
was truly impressed. She slammed them in the cart and
she's like, do you need anything else? And I was like, actually,
I went to your seed section. I want to plant
some sunflowers and there weren't any there. And she's like, no, no, no, no, no,
come on, and she took me back inside through the
side door and took me to the seed section. Was like,
what are you looking for? And I told her. She goes, well, understand,

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you have this and this and this and these are
planning at this time and that time and this time.
And I was shocked because this youngly asked her how
long she's been working there? She goes, three years. She
started in one department, she went to another department, she
ended up working for another department, and she's still there.
And it's like, I wrote an amazing review for something
like this. Because she learned to adapt, she learned to

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better herselves to do what she can to basically one
day rule the world and or at least lows and
I was very, very impressed. So that to me is
learning new skills, learning what it takes to be better,
not you know, go to a job and oh god,
I hate these people. And you know, my thing has

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always been if I'm working for eight hours, I'm going
to be busy for eight because here's a secret for
so many people that don't know this. When you show
up to work and you're there for eight hours and
you put in the work, eight hours will seem like four.
I have actually when I worked as animal control, actually

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even before that, when I worked as a maintainer for
the city. I walked in started my day going, okay,
I need to do like four tasks, five tasks. I
need to be here, be there, drop this off, do that,
do that, do this, And the day always ran out
before I could even finish. And that's how busy I was.
It's like my day started, I did something and it
was one thirty and I was like, oh my god,

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I missed lunch. That happened all the time. Then I
knew a group of guys. They were nice people. They
went in, they ran through their job, spent about a
half an hour tops. Then they sat at a round

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table in the back room until noon. Then they'd have
to get up because you know, they have to go
for lunch. Now they need to come back, run through
their offices quickly. They were done by one and then
they would chill hide. Actually, as they would say hide,

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they would just disperse and if you quotum, they would
complain how they have so much do in this and that.
But and I'm like, oh my god, the lazy of
the lazy ulie, which one are you. I'm just curious.
Are you somebod who goes to work and complains that,
actually you have too much to do? Because if that's

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the case, then you shouldn't be working there. You're cheating them.
Yes they're paying you, but you're cheating your bosses. So
I mean, learn to adapt in the workplace or get out.
And the same goes with basic change in life. Adopting
a mindset of courage among friendship, among career resilience, and
focusing on what you can control in your life, what

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you can change in your life. That's what's important when
it comes to the adaption for change and then like,
when you have problems that come along in your life,
are you one of these people that take the problem before,
before you've actually dissected your problem, truly dissected your problem,

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or do you see the problem in automatically uh oh?
Which I'm actually thinking of doing a podcast called uh oh,
because that, to me is the most annoying fucking thing.
That's something that you hear children say. It's like, oh
my god, there's a bad situation. Oh no, oh God.
It's like no, I just go okay, there's a bad situation.
How do we resolve it? What do we do to
fix it? Well, how do we get through it? How

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do we put it behind us? Instead of just oh no?
And then like I'm going to spend the next ten
to fifteen minutes stressing. That's just a waste of my mind,
my physical body. Why would I put myself under stress.
It's like, there's a situation. I'm now fifty five. There

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have been many situations in my life that are the
exact same thing. So when the situation comes back again,
I just go into my memory and go, okay, so
what did I do last time? How did I resolve it?
And resolve it? Because life is an extremely unpredictable journey,
but so much of it we've already been around. I've

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been on this rodeo many times, but understand that every
person encounters obstacles, failures, and moments of doubt along the way.
I'm a realist, I understand, however, what often determines the
outcome of these challenges is not the obstacle themselves, but
the mindset with how we approach these problems. This is

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why on my Facebook, if you look for my little picture,
which I never change, usually it's open mind living with
an open mindset, being adaptable, being flexible and willing to
learn everything, willing to do everything for the at least once.
Actually you shouldn't do it once, you just do it
three times. But instead of having a willing to learn,

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which can radically transform your life and how you see things,
instead of having a failure mindset, when that sees obstacles
before they even happen, the thought of it, and automatically
it's a dead end. It's a setback. It's a shame

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because it limits your growth, it limits your mindset, it
limits your potential, And instead of embracing adaptability, instead of
succumbing to the failure, the sphere of failure, which all
it does is offer individuals the chance. If you well,
it makes you live a shorter life, makes you live

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a sicker life, a life with stress. But if you
learn to deal with these things, if you learn to adapt,
the chance to live a fuller life, a more resilient life,
a more successful life is usually in the cards for
you because you become a survivor. As I said, think

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of like I said, you know the Apocalypse movies, think
of like the first cast of Walking Dead. That was
a show that I ended up watching. I thought it
was fascinating and then after a while to me just
got redundant. It's like more and more zombies and more
and more zon Oh, there's more zombies. And but what
I found interesting, which I as I do for everything,

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is psychology. The psychology behind that show is interesting. To
just watch certain characters and see who gets together, who groups,
who backstabs each other, who you think is worthy of
being an ally and who isn't, and who you'd be
who doesn't even make it through the end of the episode.

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It's fascinating to me, so as in real life. And
I know this is interesting, So again you wake up again.
World's come to an end. Basically, no more power. Stuff
like that, Who do you turn to? And do you
make it to the end of today's episode? Could you

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do you know how to survive? Or must you automatically
depend on this person that person? Because I can't even
wipe my own ass, I can even do the basic
necessities for me to take care of myself. I must
depend on every single person I know, which is a shame.
Because realisticy mindset, it's mindset. An open mindset often is

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linked with what psychologist Carol Dweck, which I've used, I've
quoted her many times. She calls it a growth mindset,
which refers to the belief that abilities and intelligence can
be developed through dedication, effort, and learning. When you go
through life with an open mindset, you allow yourself the

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grace to be a work in progress. It's not perfect,
it's not perfect. Every day you're learning. Every day you're learning.
Even the main characters in those shows stumble question themselves.
You're human. I mean, you're not perfect, but you're willing
to question yourself. You're willing to learn, you're willing to try,

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You're willing to fail, and then go Okay, Hopefully, if
I make it to the end of today's episode or
today tomorrow, I'm going to try again with what I've
learned of what not to do and how not to
do it. And a culture that often celebrates certainty, expertise,

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and immediate success, everything is immediate. In today's culture, choosing
to live openly can feel counterintuitive or even uncomfortable, because you,
God forbid, you don't want to let others know that
you make mistakes. Yet it is precisely this discomfort that
signals growth, because you should be willing to know that, yes,
I make mistakes. So when individuals cultivate an open mindset,

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they also develop emotional resilience. They understand. You understand that
negative outcomes do not define you. Just because you screw
up doesn't mean you already screw up. You got that,
just because you screwed up doesn't mean that you already
screw up. Rather than labeling yourself as a failure and

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then sharing it on Facebook, you have to be willing
to perceive and move forward and not give up. The
failure mindset is characterized by a belief that whe's ability
is are fixed. You are a piece of crap and
you will always be a piece of crap. And that's

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just the way it is. And this is how you
see yourself in your reflection, an innate lack of talent, intelligence,
and god forbid, you're not worthy? Why are you not worthy?
The belief system. This belief system promotes fear of driving,
fear of being judged, fear of stepping outside the unknown,

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you know, thinking outside the box. I'm not even in
the box. I kicked the box years ago, and I
set the box on fire. I'm not a part of
the box. I'm a part of Jimmy Gonzalez, and I
am my own project. I am my own my own book,

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writing my own chapters page to page, and every couple
of days I look back on some pages and think,
if I was pleased with what I wrote, how I
did it, how I handled it, And I have no
problem trying to make myself a better person for the
next chapter. I'm adapting. I mean, the cost of living

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with a failure mindset is so immense. It's so destructive.
It's stifles and stops creativity, limits personal and professional development,
and contributes to feelings of helplessness and depression. Worst of all,
worst of all, it closes the door. It closes all

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doors on the full range of human potential by convincing
people that change is impossible, Which is a shame that
if you believe that, if you believe, if you feel
that change is impossible, shame on you. Shame on you.
But adaptability, the ability to adjust oneself readily to different conditions,

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is perhaps the single most important skill for thriving in
a complex and ever changing world. Again, you don't live
on an island, and even in an island, you still
have to adapt to the environment. Here, you have to
adapt to the and to the people that live around you,
to neighbors, to friends, to family, to foes. Adaptable people

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are not those who never fail. They are the ones
who refuse to be defined as a failure. They shift
their approach, rethink their strategies daily, and learn from their experiences.
Please don't be one of these people that you hold

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a grudge, or you become defensive at everything, and God
forbid you take blame. Every night, right before I go
to bed, I ponder my day, the different things that
I did, the different tasks that I had to take
care of, How I did it, how I resolved them,

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Was I pleased with how I handled them. Was I
a good person today? Was I a compassionate person, considerate person?
Or did I say things? Did I act in ways
that I shouldn't have? And here's the thing. If I did,
I asked myself for forgiveness. I don't hold on to

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these emotions like oh my god, I'm gonna lose sleep,
because who cares. It's a lesson learned. I didn't react
the way I should have. So what I do is
tomorrow I will be a better person. I will act.
I will prepare myself in the morning to have a

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more positive day where I will welcome more obstacles and
deal with them head on instead of continued to be
fearful and scared of everything. I mean adaptability fosters innovation,
and I mean some of the greatest inventions, some of
the greatest scientific breakthroughs and social movements I've come from

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individuals who responded to failure not with despair, but with
creative perseverance. They didn't give up, which I will mention
some of those people. But I mean developing an open
mindset is not an overnight, overnight process. So again, don't
think that like, oh, I'm gonna do this today. No,

(32:13):
you're gonna start it right now and you're gonna work
on it every day for the rest of your life.
But here are some some things that you can do
quick little things. First off. First off is how you
see yourself, your review of yourself. You should review your
day every night, think about it, give yourself a review.

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Instead of seeing failure as proof of inadequacy and reframing
it as you know, reframe it as valuable information. Wow,
what I did, how I said, how I handle that
was not the best? Because here's the thing. Every setback
offers insights about what doesn't work and hints about what

(32:56):
may for tomorrow. But what helps is curiosity. Approach situations
with a sense of curiosity rather than judgmental. Again, I'm
not telling you to sit there in bed and just
like be angry at yourself. That's stupid, that's counteractive, counter productive,
it's just counterproductive. What was your day? Like, what did

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you do? And then for a moment, this is a
big one, remember ask yourself how the person that you
spoke to or what the things you know, how you
reacted how if you think it may have affected them,
not you? Because remember, as I love to say, the
world does not revolve around you. Will you share this planet.

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So what I tend to do is I'm always thinking
how that other person is thinking while I'm thinking about
what I'm thinking about when they're thinking. So explore different perspectives.
Curiosity keeps the mind open and active, and recognize that
your worth is not dependent on your success or failures.

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It's just how you live your life. You are a
dynamic individual, capable of growth regardless of any single outcome.
And never be afraid to challenge yourself every day. If
you're not, if you're just going through life just living,
you know, we'll get up watch the weather, watch TV.

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I walked over it here, I walked over there. Okay,
God bless you again. Would you be on the list
of needed people in case of, you know, the world
coming to an end? What do you bring to the table.
You need to normalize how you see yourself, but at

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the same time, how do you feel about it? Understand
that discomfort is a natural part of growth. It's okay,
But instead of avoiding your discomfort, accept it as a
sign that you are stretching yourself beyond limits. You are
challenging yourself every day. You know, who were you yesterday,
Who were you the day before? Who were you last week,

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last month, last year? Are you getting better at it?
Are you getting better at this game? Is your book
of life getting more interesting? Or is it just kind
of like just empty pages? And you should always be
proud and willing to patch yourself in the back when
you have a good day, not meaning that you like
you won the war. It's just you survived it. You

(35:31):
did a lot of good today. You made somebody smile,
you made somebody think. You focus on the process rather
than the end result. Praise yourself and others for their effort,
their creativity, their perseverance invested, regardless of the immediate outcome.
The young lady from yesterday, I just went up there,
so what's your name? And she told me and I

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said okay, and I said, I applaud you, I I
thank you. I appreciate the help you've given me. You've
gone a little bit above and beyond your pay grade,
and for that, I respect you and I thank you.
And she just looked at me like, you know, okay,
well thank you. You know you could tell she really
thought about it. She was like okay, she was like, well,

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thank you very very much. That means a lot to me,
And I was like, well, what you did meant a
lot to me made my life today a little bit easier.
Thank you. I love complimenting people and I never want
anything to return. I just do it because you should
pay forward every day. You should pay forward to at least,
my opinion, three to five people every single day, especially

(36:36):
people that are servicing you, people that are doing stuff
for you. You should be very extra extra kind to them.
But more importantly, let them know how appreciative you are
of them, because I mean, every day we are faced
with life's inevitable ups and downs, and you don't know
how what they're dealing with in their life. So it's

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important to have the resiliency to stand up and to
meet your new challenges head on without fear. Again, it's
not always easy, but whethering change is always possible if
you keep these tips in mind. These are some ideas

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that they put together. Number One, recognizing that change is happening.
I think it's funny people like I don't like change
or good for you. It's life. It's life. I have
tried to with clients, I have tried to find ways
around that. Well, you know what you live your life. No,
it's life. Change is happening. Change is going to happen.

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Run as much as you want, you don't have a choice.
Change is going to happen. It is common for people
to ignore the change that is happening around them for
various reasons, as Amanda Denny, the counselor at Centerstone, Denying
or delaying your reaction, however, can often be more stressful
then accepting the change early on. Remind yourself that things

(38:05):
will be okay and you've endured change before and have
been fine on the other side. What I like to do,
especially as I write my podcast this is actually this
is how a podcast started. Writing down the positive if
not all change is bad, even if it seems like
it at the time. Think back to times in your
life when you fear change, but in the end what

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you feared most didn't even happen. Most things that we
fear don't happen. They're created in our mind. They're non existent.
Because I get it. Changed can be scary, but it's
not always bad. Write down examples of when you felt
afraid of change, but realize that change was for the better,
and keep those close when you feel yourself getting anxious

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of what's to come. Remember those things. Having personal memories
of when you overcame change and it resulted in positive
outcomes can and will help ease your current fears because
you've already done it. When possible. Sometimes, yes, we see
change coming, and in those cases, such as starting a

(39:11):
new job or moving to a new city, you can
take steps to prepare yourself. So instead of freaking out
the oh my god, I have to move. Oh my god,
what am I going to do? What if I don't
make it, what if it doesn't work out? What? Okay,
So you know change is coming, so put on your
big girl of big boy pants and just do your research,

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do your homework. What is it we have to do
to get by? That's what we did to move her
to Kentucky. Actually, not me, Melissa, I'm not gonna lie.
We didn't just like pack our shit and go, which
is what people think, like, oh my god, you're just
packing your shit and go. No, for quite a few months,
we've been doing the math, and we've been doing the
research and what works and what doesn't. And you know,
we wrote down what we needed, what we wanted, what

(39:53):
we didn't want, and then we started studying the top
states and what states are offered to you know what,
and you know to whom. And it's funny how there's
a few states. At the time, it was Kentucky, South Dakota,
and Idaho. I think it was Idaho. Where like the

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three states that people were moving to. And I'm not
talking about what you think of, like, oh, you know,
I'm gonna go to Florida, I'm gonna you know, I'm
gonna go to the beach. No, I'm talking about like
where you can continue to live a realistic life where
you can make a living and live, where you can live,
where you can move and work but not have to
go crazy anymore. You could uh survive. And I see

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it every day because I'm on three pages of what's
going on in different counties. The amount of people moving
to Kentucky is is a lot more than I ever
would have thought. I'm like, because like you, a lot
of people are like, you know, Kentucky, and I'm like, yeah.
But the thing is when it comes to homesteading, which
is a very not say new, but it is new

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for some haven't even heard about it. But it's learning
to live off the land, not so much living off
the grid because that is that's very involved. It's just
learning how to live off without needing the government the
infrastructure as much, you know, getting you know, farm animals, gardening,

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solar panels, you know, wind turbines and stuff like that,
and like again not need, not wanting to be a
part of the rat race, the rat race. I hate
the rat race. But it's like funny because when when
once I've done this, I've always been into meditation twenty
plus years. But it's like when I moved here, it's quiet.

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It is so quiet because you don't notice where you
live more most of you live. Even though you walk
outside and you think it's quiet, there is a buzz.
There is a buzz of light poles, There is a puzz,
a buzz of noise pollution. There is you know, just
a constant and we adapt to it. You adapt to it,
you know how you know when it's not there anymore,
when you really physically pull yourself out of it and

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move someplace where there's no more noise pollution, where there's
no more buzz. I'm not gonna lie. The first couple
of nights sleeping here, I couldn't sleep. I was like
put something on it's too quiet. The only thing I
could hear is there's a donkey, which is quite He's

(42:32):
at a distance, but like he's the protector of his
farm and every soft and you'll hear him make a
noise through the hills, or roosters will will cock a
do do do, not just in the morning, but throughout
the day. And sometimes you'll hear him at night if
they just can't sleep. And then I have a cattle

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farm right next to me at a distance, but still
usually they're very quiet, but you'll hear the move and
some of them will have like cough and it sounds
like there's somebody out there, which is kind of scary.
But I will go out to let the dogs out
right before bed, and I'll let the lights. I have
lights all over the place on sensors, so I just

(43:13):
won't move to let the sensors go out. So I'm
sitting out there in complete darkness, and I mean dark,
like I don't see a foot in front of me.
And I have never felt so physically, mentally and spiritually
safer here than anywhere in my life. And it's funny

(43:34):
because I know people that have come to visit who
have said the exact same thing after a few days, like,
oh my god, like this is unreal. I'm like, yeah,
how do you feel? Like? I feel very safe, Like
now I sleep better than I ever have my entire life.
So if calming your mind seems difficult for some of us,

(43:54):
you can try relaxing techniques obviously, like you know breathing
and this and that, and you know meditation. But the
thing is living the rat race. That's why people vacation
away from it. Like, think about it. People usually where
do they go to the islands to a beach, you
know why? Because they they need to get away from
the buzz, that constant buzz. It's affecting you. It's affecting

(44:16):
your body. But being here, it's like I'm involved in
what's around me. I'm involved with the chickens, I'm involved
with the animals. I'm involved with the land. I'm now
making boxes for gardening. I'm preparing for that season. You
get active. It's a great way to clear your head.
If you find yourself always stressed out, always worried about

(44:39):
Obviously you're not doing enough in your life. Get a hobby,
get involved, and I mean like more than you think,
not just like I'm going to go do something on
Thursday that'll take a couple No, I'm talking about like
something that needs you, something that draws from you, people
that want to be around you, that give you a
reason to live. So if you find yoursel sitting around

(45:00):
just worrying and complaining and stressing, you need to do
more stuff with your life, because I don't. I'm I
have a I have a list on my phone on
my like where's oh, it's over there. I have a
list on my phone right on the main screen. It's
a notepad list, and my first screen is about a
couple dozen things that need to be done, from huge

(45:22):
to small to really small. And then we have our
boards around the house of things that need to be done.
So to say that, I really have time to spend
just sitting there the entire day watching television, which is fine.
But if you're watching television and you're worried about the
world around you, that's the problem. Do things get out there,

(45:44):
become a part of the world around you. Remember, you're
not living here rent free, like you owe it to
this planet to give back, So give back. And I
mean what's important is to be kind to yourself while
you do this, there's a change. We can feel a
little bit out of control, and this is fine, especially

(46:04):
if you're transitioning from a war re war to trying
to find control. You may want to find yourself trying
to control everything at once. But this is when you
can give yourself a break, but to relax and think
and ponder and again to patch yourself in the back,
because yes, we struggle at times. No one can operate
at I've tried forgive yourself for these times. Forgive yourself

(46:29):
for the day or two or the hour here or
there that you just feel a little bit lost. But again,
it's it's it's being able to adapt every day. Monday morning, adapt,
Tuesday morning adapt, Wednesday morning, adapt, Thursday, Friday, Saturday adapt,
Sunday rest. But make time to learn how to survive,

(46:53):
how to run with the wind, fly with the wind,
float with where did I get that from? But just
to prepare yourself, to strengthen yourself, because I mean again,
there are a lot of people out there that are
willing to do it, and those are the people that
you want to be drawn to. So it is possible,
and I will prove it. I will prove it. I've

(47:14):
used some of these people before. Sorry, but I have
to because they are amazing. But it is possible to
learn to adapt or to change. Let me share with
you some notable people quickly. Thomas Edison, when asked about
the thousands of failed attempts before inventing the light bulb.
I could see his mother having said, probably like if

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I know her, like I know certain people here. Oh
my god, poor Tommy, you failed a thousand times. Poor Tommy,
Oh my god, he know his attitudes. I haven't failed
a thousand times. I have found a thousand ways that
things won't work a certain way. So let me continue
to one thousand and one, one thousand and two, one

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thousand and three. Assistance and ability to reframe how he
lives his life and how he sees things is what
opened his mindset and made him successful. JK. Rowling, Harry
Potter Fame. She continued to submit her manuscript despite repeated setbacks.

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People see the end result. It's like, oh my god,
she wrote a book and she became a billionaire. Not really.
She continued to submit her manuscripts despite many letdowns. Many
people turned her away, refusing her, and she just kept
moving forward. She kept believing what I have is good.
And trust me, if you keep doing that, there's somebody

(48:42):
out there who's going to believe in you. But if
you were to give up after the second to third
to fourth, I mean there's Billy Joel, Billy Joel, Yes,
Billy Joel. In the beginning, nobody wanted to touch him.
And look where he is now? Why because he believed
in his music. Do you believe in yourself whatever it
is you're doing, how much do you believe in it?
Is it enough to try it? And then your first

(49:04):
failure going okay and get all emotions, I'm a failure.
It's just that doesn't get you anywhere. Steve Jobs, he
was kicked out of his own company that he co founded,
and he adapted, exploring new ventures, tried so many new things,
which ultimately led him back to Apple, this time with

(49:24):
greater vision and resilience. For those of you who don't
know Frieda Frieda Calo, she was the lady you tend
to see in a lot of famous pictures from Argentina
that she has the unibrow, the dark hair, very beautiful woman.
She suffered from polio during her childhood and according to

(49:46):
some sources, also had spina bifida, which caused this dysmestria
in her right leg. But in addition to all of
these spinal problems which aggravate were aggravated by an accident
suffered in her adolescence and which left her with physical
issues for her entire life. Look her up Freedom, you

(50:08):
will see a picture of a dark haired lady, usually
dressed in his really beautiful dresses. And that's as far
as it goes, and it'll talk about the amazing things
she's done, and that the powerful person she does she was.
It won't talk about her sicknesses. She didn't want people
to know that, which is funny. How many people do
you know that want to emphasize in the world, I'm sick,

(50:29):
there's something wrong with me that this is how I
define myself. I'm sick. Even so, she became one of
the most famous artists of all time and an icon
of the twentieth century. Next is one of my favorite people.
Andrea Bocelli, the tenor. He's a musician, a writer, music producer.

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Of Italian origin. Andrea Bocelli has sold more than seventy
five million records by now, more than that. He was
born with congenital glaucoma that left him partly blind, something
that did not prevent him from taking piano lessons, being
partially blind until the age of six. However, at the
age of twelve, he suffered a blow during a soccer

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game that left him now completely blind. Endowed with the
spirit of innate improvement, he decided to focus entirely on music,
specially specifically singing and did you know that he also
studied law, which Shelley has received many many awards of
international procedure even has a beach named after him on

(51:36):
the Adriatic. That's funny. This is somebody that we all
can relate to because most of us watched his shows,
his movies. Michael J. Fox, one of the most famous
people with a well well known disability, the protagonist of
Back to the Future, was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease in
nineteen ninety one, when he was only twenty nine years

(51:58):
old and his career was in full success. Did he hide, run,
crawl under rock Now? He was told that he should
withdraw from the stage, but he did not stop being
an actor. Although at first it was not easy to
accept his illness, he liked many of us who is

(52:19):
also human, fell into depression and alcoholism. Yeah, Michael J. Fox.
But in the last decade he has not stopped working
and his foundation has raised over two hundred and thirty
three million for Parkinson's disease research. After more than twenty
five years and with the disease in a very advent badly,

(52:44):
Michael J. Fox continues to maintain his spirit of movement.
He has not surrendered. Now. I understand that what many
of you will do, because I have done it myself.
We tend to put celebrities, entrepreneurs, actors, authors on the
unattainable pedestal that somehow they were able to do everything

(53:07):
that they accomplished because they are just amazing. It's Michael J. Fox,
it's Andrea Bocelli, Oh my god, it's Thomas Edison. They're
just awesome. I am just I am not worthy. We
are just not We are different, we are weaker, we
are broken, We are lesser of a human which one
you say, Uh, that sounds ridiculous. Michael J. Fox, Andrea Pacelli,

(53:32):
name name whoever you want. We're all humans. We're all
the same. We all put our pants on the same way,
we all poop out of the same hole. We all,
you know, wake up sometimes not wanting to wake up.
We got off the side of the bed, or we
canna have coffee, We're gonna have tea, We're gonna have
orange juice. Do I want to get up? And I
am in the mood? My back hurts, my leg hurts.

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We we all do it, and we assume that our
issues or our problems were a word or our stress
is unlike anybody else. What we go through daily is horrendous.
I need to post it on Facebook. And we have
it worse than anyone. All of our problems or keep

(54:16):
us down because to me, it's like when you have
enough problems, that's all you have to talk about. Do
you know anybody that their entire life revolves around problems?
I can think of three. It's fascinating to me. It's
just that's that's who they are. Problems define them and
and and it's like, you know, whatever you say, they
have it worse. It's like, you know, it's fat, it's

(54:38):
an art form, it's it's a miserable, it's a it's
art of misery. Stay away from those people, don't talk
to those people. Uh, that affects you, Okay, even your
subconscious it affects you. You're not helping them in any
way you want. You want to help them, You let
them know that they need to change, and then you

(54:59):
allow them to time to try to figure it out.
But it's just I keep those people at a one
hundred foot pole away from me. I don't need those
especially here. No, it's like if you want to come
and bring cheer, and I'm not saying you know, people
don't complain it. Of course you do. But when it
gets to the point that everything out of your mouth

(55:20):
is something negative, I don't want to be sorry. I
love myself too much and I respect myself too much.
But again, it is difficult for many of us, but
it's not impossible. Many of us turn to things like
the positive podcast and books and positive books and audible
and YouTube videos of people telling us that we can

(55:42):
and we can and we can, And for sure we
may believe that we can, but then you know, the
podcast is over, the book has closed, our lives go
back to the same, and we find ourselves with a
wall in front of us, are actually in a box
that we once again feel that we have no dreams,
no goals, and that we are not worthy, just not
meant to be happy. We're not meant to have all

(56:06):
the things that we want. And the sad thing is,
after so many podcasts, so many meditation sessions, so many
clients that I've met throughout the years, I hate to
break it down simply to just it's all about just
your mindset. Just your mindset. Change your mindset, change your life.
Allow yourself to adapt to the things around you, even

(56:29):
when everything goes badly. Understand that it's all based on
your view of it and how you perceive your day.
That is why you can take two people, Let's say
two brothers born to the same family. One becomes a
very successful entrepreneur and ends up having a family, some
amazing children, you know, the pick of fence to dog,
and life is as good as can be. Nothing is perfect,

(56:52):
but it's as good as can be. Then you have
the other one, again born to the same family, but
perceived all the issues and problems that the family had
as difficult, stressful, and he just could not adapt and
chose That's the word I haven't said yet. He chose
not to adapt, because it's you could choose to adapt.

(57:13):
He couldn't deal with it, so he turned to living
a numbed life, began drinking, doing drugs because I just
can't handle with reality. But instead of learning coping skills,
I would just rather hide under a rock, which is
what so many do. And it's like, but that doesn't
help you in any way at all. Somewhere, somehow his

(57:41):
brother picked up the coping skills that he needed to survive,
to be able to see life for what it is
and be able to just deal with it, work through it.
Have faith in himself, have faith in God. A lot
of people when they follow that deeply, is when you
hear them praying more and more and more that God
will help you. And it's like, right, but God has

(58:02):
already given you the tools. Now it's up to you
to figure out how to use them. Not to continue
to numb yourself and hide, because that's what you're doing.
You're hiding. You have to have faith in yourself. It's
not easy that by doing this you gain more in

(58:25):
your life. You receive more abundance, and you enjoy all
of the opportunities that life can and will and will
offer you. Whereas the other brother, who surrendered quickly and
decided to take the easy way, chose to not follow
or find guidance, and just created horrible negative habits, to

(58:46):
do less and less work, to believe in himself less
and less, and I don't know those easier to just
basically exist. And because of this, what he has received
in life has been a lot less than his so
calls successful brother that he probably now envies, it's jealous of,
because his brother chose to keep his nose clean, to

(59:09):
do the work, focus on better himself, and work hard
every day, day in and day out. As much as
we may believe this, nothing is handed to us. It
may seem like it to others, but there is always
a level of work of thought that needs to go
into our decisions to be able to accumulate life's things.

(59:29):
You surround yourself with good people, positive people. You live
a curious life where you want to learn more every day,
and the more you fail, the more you're willing to
get back up and learn more. As the famous Syvester
Stallone said one of the rock and movies, I don't
remember which one, it ain't about how hard you hit.

(59:50):
It's about how hard you can get hit and then
keep moving forward, how much you can take and keep
moving forward. Word think about it. The list of people
that I just gave you, many of them got hit
very hard, I mean beat down, but they found the

(01:00:10):
initiative to have faith and believe in themselves. Speaking of Rocky,
you think Rocky just wrote Rocky and it became a star. Actually, no,
in the beginning, nobody believed in him. Like he was
selling his stuff. He traded in his dog for money
to pay for things. I mean think then he bought
them back. But I mean you have to be willing
to sacrifice and sweat for what you want. I mean,

(01:00:33):
that's life. You're just waiting for the winning lottery tickets
to get you out of misery. But you know life
is going on and you might as well make the
best of it. And that's just because you failed to.
Just because you fail today doesn't mean you have to
fail for the rest of your life. Do you keep trying?

(01:00:56):
Do you keep fighting? You keep doing everything you can
to attain the things that you want? Does this mean
that you deserve them? I don't like the word deserve
because people don't. People go through life thinking that everything
is owed to them, and I disagree with that. You
don't deserve anything. Nothing is owed to you. You work,

(01:01:17):
you sweat, you strive for things. The people that I mentioned,
that's exactly what they did when they were knocked down.
They chose to not give up. They realize it every
day when they wake up. It's just another chance of
trying again and again and again and again and again.
And I mean, what does it take for you to
realize that you can't break the habit of failure, of

(01:01:40):
doubt and believe in yourself that if you just woke
up again this morning, the only thing keeping you from
trying again is and you're limiting beliefs. Which, if you
are a regular to my podcast, do you know how

(01:02:00):
I feel about limiting beliefs. They're bullshitet they are temporary.
One of my favorite concepts because, sadly, from my experience
with clients, most limiting beliefs aren't even yours. They were
put there by other people, many before you even understood
how to speak, read, or write. Fear of things that
really you had no reason to fear, things that you

(01:02:24):
didn't even didn't even affect you yet, but yet they
were already fearful. You already had triggers to things that
you had no reads. I was terrified as spiders before
I even saw one. Think about that, and I think
my first connection to spiders was spider Man. So you
think I would think, wow, if you get bitten by
a spider, if you become a spider man. But for
some reason, the idea of something with more legs than

(01:02:44):
me terrified me. And I would say that I don't
like things with more legs than me. I don't like spider.
But it's like, so what did a spider do to me?
So think about it? Where did that fear come? What
did I watch? What did I read? Was it something
I picked up in a past life? Was I killed
by a spider? I mean, think about think about that.
Like I I don't like I don't like scorpions. Why

(01:03:06):
because I don't like them? Okay, have you ever been
to the desert? Well? No, but I don't like scorpions.
I'm afraid of them. Have you ever dealt with one? No?
Have you ever actually seen one?

Speaker 2 (01:03:18):
No?

Speaker 1 (01:03:21):
Silly? It really is just funny how things are ingrained
in us, these these these crippling fears of things. I food,
I'm not gonna eat something? Why because I don't? Have
you ever tried it? No? But why won't you try?

(01:03:42):
Because I don't want to. Okay, have you ever tried
it before? No? Did it poison you in a past life? Well? No,
but I don't know what it tastes like. That doesn't
make any sense. You try something you like, it's not
gonna kill you, it's not going to poison you. You
try something like chances are you try fifty things today.

(01:04:02):
I'd say, honestly, thirty of them you're gonna love and
you can continue to eat. The other ones you either
despise or grossed out by your like, Eh, it's not
my palate, but it doesn't change anything. It's something that
you've created that you just think nope, And that nope
is to me, is a sin. It's a sin of

(01:04:23):
enjoying the life that God gave us, our maker gave us,
the universe has brought to us, and you're not willing
to give back and share and try and experience. It's
a shame. I mean, most of our fears were ingrained
in us by like I said, our parents are family
by television, by movies, fear of things that we really

(01:04:46):
just have no reason to fear. I just think it's
funny to be afraid of a spider or for me
it was a mechanical fucking shark. I mean, how stupid
because you know the chances of me being in the
middle of the ocean, you know, God forbid. I can't
remember the last time I went deep sea fishing, which
I did once, and the last thing I thought of

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was sharks. But little triggers were created in my mind
of doubt and fear instead of realizing that I have
the ability to adapt and to most importantly, do the
research as to the things that I question and fear
instead of just fearing. Don't fear with no reason. I
don't like something, I'm afraid of something. Why. I don't know.

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If you have a fear of something, research it. Because
when you research something and you realize the implications of
what it is and how it can affect you realistically
and honestly, not like a stupid movie, you realize that
most of the things that you fear are actually stupid,
and they are just creating more and more limiting beliefs
keeping you back from your life and your many many

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opportunities to try new things, go new places, visit, meet
new things. You have no reason to not try. This
does not mean I'm not telling you to walk into
the face of danger. Are all nilly dilly, But I
mean it means to do your research, do your due

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di diligence, with an open mind, with a responsible mind,
and knowing what you can and can't do realistically. And
you're about to go down a deserted alley, but your
spidey sense kicks up and says that you shouldn't go
down this deserted alley. My opinion is, don't listen to
my gut. Hm. Does this mean that you now must

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fear all of your alleys for the rest of your life?
Are you gonna listen to your gut or you're not
gonna listen to your gut? Maybe there was a movie
back in nineteen seventy three of a girl that went
down an alley and she was a bludgeoned to death.
So now here I am, twenty twenty five, I have
to walk through that alley. I'm not gonna go through there,
because God forbid I get bludgeoned to death. That your

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fears are pretty much that same thing. There's no difference.
Somewhere you made a connection to eating strawberries. I don't
like strawberries. Have you ever had one? No? Did it ever.
I mean maybe one in your and somebody gave you
one it was just disgusting, or somebody tried to beat

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you with a strawberry. No, but you won't try one.
No why, I don't know. You're going to miss out
of a lot of things in your life, a lot
of wonderful opportunities. Uh, they're they're just so you know
about the alleys. There's there's an alley in Nashville which
I'm dying to go to. It's it's a painter painters Alley,

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Publishers Ali, Printer's Alley. It's Printer's Alley. It's basically it's
where all the blues clubs are in a row. But again,
we paint these pictures of horror. I mean, what's back there? Uh?
Uh Freddy Krueger, you know, Jason. Uh, they're to come
out with a knife and kill me, because that's what
happens in alleys. So I'm never going to go down

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in alley again. When something makes us think, when something
makes us uncomfortable, when something bothers us to that point,
is your responsibility as a human being to look it up,
to research it, to get some information so you can
get rid of it and be like that was stupid.
I'm going to go down this alley first. You want
to see how true it is, how realistic it is,
what are the chances of it actually happening? I mean,

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I've gotten to surround myself as a hypnotherapist with people
that have had many, many habits that they self created
it with fear and misery and a lack of love
and strength, and they replaced it with fear and misguidance
because someone didn't tell them that they had the power

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to fight, to adapt, to adapt to life, to get
back up and up over and over and over again
in their lives. Can you imagine if the entire world
was filled with people that the day they were knocked down,
the first time they stayed down, nothing would be the same.

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Investors would stop investing, dancers would stop dancing, Singers would
no longer sing, Investors would just they'd walk away from
huge projects like no, forget it, it's not worth my time,
it's a risk. People would just give up my life.
But instead they felt the pressure to move on, to expand,
to want better for themselves, and to know that they

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had the ability to do it. Because you do, and
it is up to you, before you surrender, before you
wave the white flag, stop, do your due diligence, do
your research. Something something makes you think, something made you
feel uncomfortable, and that's fine, but this is your job
not to ask. Don't allow yourselves to feel don't allow

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yourself to feel feared. It's not even a healthy thing.
It affects your body, affects your mind. Bring sickness instead.
The minute the thought comes into your mind of a
situation that may scare you, My opinion is, first you breathe,
you stop, You don't think of it fearful a way,
You just go okay, before you get it. We're all

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worked up and fill with fear. You stop, and you say,
I want to know more about this situation. I'll give
you a wonderful example. Living here in Kentucky, we have
these wonderful things called sinkholes. Yes, they are scary as
as they sound. We are the proud owners of two

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of them. One of them is not so bad, the
other one seems like it's going down to the caverns
of hell. People here are very comfortable with the idea
that they have possibly on their property somewhere a sinkhole.
And if you did not know this because Kentucky sits
on a world of Swiss cheese where if we ever
had real earths, which we do have them, but very small,

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but most of the state would just disappear because we
are surrounded by caves. Yes, caves. There are more caves
here that We have so many caves that they are
like parks, you know, like other places around the world
have beautiful parks. We have caves where people come from
all over the world. It's crazy to come visit our caves.

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I mean, I've always thought we had a penn cave
in Pennsylvania, upstate New York. I thought that was cool. No,
this is like hardcore like people. You can kayak in
the cave. There's restaurants in some of the caves. You
could sleep over night in the caves. You have yoga
in the caves. They have bridges. The longest bridge is
underneath the cave. I mean, it'st I went to that one.

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That was cool. We are very famous for them. I
mean right now where I am right now, Ryan, right now,
I live in the center of about five of them,
not even the far twenty thirty minutes for me and
and I have the two stinkholes, which I'm convinced that
these huncles are connected to those caves, and I have
spoke to some professionals in the fields who have said

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that they don't doubt it. But the people here adopted.
What are you going to do? Continue to live in
fear every fringle day you have to live. So they
choose to live. They choose to no longer live in fear,
and actually, you know, make themselves sick, because again, let
me continue to remind you that's what happens. Because fear

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is a momentary thing, something that happens to you and life.
You feel fear and then you fight it or you
deal with it, and then you get rid of it.
You don't continue to let it eat you and eat
you and eat you like a cancer. Because actually that's
what fear does. It eats you like a cancer, and
it makes you weaker and weaker, and before you know
your jointsert, before you know it, you're swelling up, before

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you know it, it's harder to walk, before you know it,
it's harder to bend, it's harder to get around because
it's eating you. Your mind is eating you. Fear is
not an apt thing to hold on to fear is
just a red flag that has waived, and then you
figure it out. Do you run or do you fight?
It's actually that simple. So if you continue to feel

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fear of things and you're not investigating, you're not running,
or you are not fighting them head on, that's a
problem because you're not adapting that you really need to
focus on. And I mean, like, starting today, right now,
this isn't another podcast that you listen to and you
feel aspired for a few minutes and then it ends
and then you're like, Okay, onto my regular miserable life. No,

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because if that's the situation, please, and I mean this
from the bottom of my heart, if you're not willing
to do the work that my podcast shares with people,
please stop listening. Just you're wasting time. And I know
that sounds kind of rude, but it's the truth because
I have had clients, i have had friends, and I've
had many many listeners that have asked me for guidance.

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I've gotten them to figure things out and how to
do it, and they've done the work and they've come
out above, stronger, more competitive, wealthier, filled in more abundance, respect,
love for themselves. More successful. So if day in and
day out you're listening to podcasts like me and other ones,
and reading positive books and all that stuff, and when

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it's done, you just go back to your regular life
of fear, anger, frustration, resentment, remorse, regret. Shame on you,
Shame on you, Shame on you. Obviously you have an
issue with self love, self respect, and you don't obviously
see your value. And that breaks my heart because it

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is pretty easy to do. Obviously there's work involved. But
every day and in every way, you do the work
and you get better at it, and before you know it,
you're becoming a better person, a newer person, stronger person,
a more successful person. That you have to start today,
of course. And I cannot go on without having some

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work for you. Yes, I know, rolling your eyes, but
do the work. And as I mentioned, and this is
a good time to deal it with somebody else, a
good friend, somebody you can go back and forth with
and share thoughts and ideas and ponder what can be
done on your behalf for your best benefit. Let us
begin building a flexible, open mindset, a daily practice creating

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positive good habits, getting rid of those stupid, annoying habits.
Here are some several exercises you can try. Number one
always is journal. Write stuff down, even if it's on
your phone, a notepad I have on my front page
what I need to do there. You could even put
stuff like reminders like believe in yourself, love yourself, challenge yourself,
respect yourself, forgive yourself, or write it on like I said,

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on a piece of paper somewhere on your mirror. A
lot of people that I've spoken to have written with
a dry erase marker or lipstick on their mirrors. When
they get up in the morning, they're putting your makeup on.
There's there's phrases right there on their mirror to remind
them I love you, respect yourself, I forgive you. You
got this. Every week, choose something to some type of expansion.

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Don't just live your life every day. Do something new,
something different, be curious, Try a new subject, pick up
a new hobby, read a new book, watch watch something,
watch it. Don't just watch a movie that doesn't go anywhere.
Watch something you can learn, Watch a documentary, something that
will inspire you to try something new. Remember when you

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were young, most of when when you were young, Excuse me,
I remember watching a Bruce Enter the Dragon. Bruce Lee
and me and my friend went out and we got
a punching bag and a Bruce Lee poster and we
set up his his basement like a gym because we're
gonna be like Bruce Lee. We had we had the
sticks in there. Oh my god, that was so funny,

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just we're watching a movie. And we did it every
weekend for an entire summer. We are we are a
martial artists. And then the next thing came out and
then we're like, all right, this is what we're doing.
But that's what life is to me. That's a keeps
you going. It just keeps you interested, intrigued, doing new things.
And it's always important. And this is a big one
for a lot of people. Challenge your comfort zone once

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a week, intentionally do something that pushes you slightly out
of your comfort zone. This could be speaking up in
a meeting, trying a new fitness class, starting a creative project,
reflecting afterward on what you learned rather than the wather
you succeeded or feel. It's something as simple as going
the same way to a place that I know. I
always try to go different ways because when I go

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different ways I learn new things. A lot of people
will say to me, like, wow, you just moved to Kentucky.
You know so much of it, right. Could you imagine
if I did the same three routes every time when
I went out, I'd still be No, that's stupid. Every
time I go out, I venture a new way I
will never go to. If I go one way, I
come back another way. Even I don't care about time.

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Time is a waste to me. It's like maybe this
one's an eight minutes longer. Who cares? It's a new
to get back? I Oh, did you know that I
ran by a new grocery store or a new antique shop,
or there's a park that I didn't realize is right
there because I took a different way. And then, of course,
what it helps remember negative what you say to yourself.

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Your mind here. So if you stir the morning, you
go I'm fat, I'm stupid, I'm lazy, I'm this, I'm that.
Your subconscious mind puts that in memory, and that's what
it is. Instead, you should be saying, I'm capable of
learning and growing, I am gutsy, I am confident. Challenges
are opportunities in disguise. I am not my mistakes. I

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am what I learned from. Read them oftenly say them often.
Living with an open, adaptable mindset. It's not just a
strategy for success. It's a philosophy of life. Think about that.
It's adaptability over fear, by welcoming challenges instead of shrinking

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from them, letting them eat you and make you crawl
into a box. Life is so beautiful. I wake up
five o'clock, six o'clock. I let the dogs out, and
then I walk the yard. I go let the chickens out.
I check on the pigeons, I check on the feral cats.
I come back, I brush the horse, I feed the horse,
I come back around. I do this every morning, and

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every morning I say it's a blessing to myself. I
get emotional that I am allowed second another chance to
be here and not where I was. Not that where
I was was that bad, But it was a rat race,
and I've never been, never been a prescriber to it.
The world is not static, neither are you. Your potential

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is boundless when you embrace the idea that who you
are today is only a starting point of who you
can become tomorrow. This was the Reset Yourself twenty two
podcasts teaching you that your mindset is about adapting and

(01:20:06):
not failing. I really hope you make this one account.
A lot of these sessions, a lot of these episodes
have been I feel good. I hear it from my
clients all the time, my listeners all the time. But
this is a good one to work on. This is
a good one to take seriously because changing your minds
will change your life and you can live the type

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of life you want to. You really could. I believe
in you. Why can't you? My name is Jimmy Gonzalez.
Thank you so much for taking the time to listen
to this podcast. Please, if you have not yet, like
and subscribe, and if you could share this with someone. Actually,
I know of somebody that wrote to me not that
long ago that one day they just went through the

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list of my podcast titles and based on what each
one was for, sent it to different people that they
felt could use them specifically. And for that I am
very grateful, because as I hope these podcasts can help you,
you'd be surprised how much they have helped me, because
I am, as I said before, every day, in every way,

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I'm just learning and learning and getting better and better.
I am learning, I'm living, and I'm loving my life
more and more. I really am, I truly am, and
that means the world to me. You mean the world
to me. That's why I do this because I am
a true believer in you, in us and everything that

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I've seen people do it every day. I believe in
all of us, and I believe in you. Thank you.

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