226. From Hardship to Hero: How to Transform Challenges into Triumphs with Sun Yong Kim-Manzolini

In this heartfelt episode, I'm joined by Sun Yong Kim-Manzolini, as she shares her inspiring journey of transformation and resilience. She faced seemingly insurmountable challenges, only to rise above them and emerge as the hero in her own life.

Sun Yong reveals the raw and powerful emotions experienced during times of adversity. She explores the courage it takes to confront hardships head-on and the strength required to turn them into stepping stones toward a brighter, more fulfilling future.

This episode is a testament to the human spirit's incredible capacity for growth and change. It's a reminder that within every challenge lies the potential for triumph, and within every heart lies the power to become a hero. Let Sun Yong's wisdom and compassion guide you as you embark on your own journey from hardship to heroism.

Sun Yong Kim-Manzolini is the CEO of Lush Enterprises, LLC, where she's paying it forward by teaching other people, particularly single mothers, how to use her "unique miracle system" to trade options so they can spend less time working and more time on what matters most. After retiring from her $35,000 a year job in December 2015, with no money in her checking or savings accounts, and it being too early to access her retirement accounts, Sun Yong threw herself into Options Trading, and quickly surpassed her goal, making $178,000– 6x her income that first year. She believes true freedom is the ability to be who you want and do what you want without fear and intimidation; to live out your dreams with financial security, and it is dedicated to guiding people toward long-term success. 

Tune in to discover how you can harness your inner strength, embrace your vulnerabilities, and transform your life's challenges into triumphant victories. This episode is not just a story of overcoming—it's a celebration of the resilient spirit within us all

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Episode Transcript

(00:00):
Welcome to Rewiring Health. If you're a high achieving woman
feeling trapped in the endless cycle of guilt and exhaustion
from always putting others first, then this is your
sanctuary. I'm Doctor Kelly Kessler, your
dedicated empowerment mentor, and I'm here to tell you that
it's time to reclaim your peace,health, and happiness.

(00:20):
Imagine waking up every day feeling energized and
unapologetically living for yourself.
Together, we'll break down the walls that have been holding you
back and unlock the vibrant, unstoppable force that you truly
are. It's time to put yourself first,
embrace your authentic self, andlive a life that's not just
endured, but celebrated. Now let's dive in.

(00:46):
This is such a powerful conversation I have with Sonjung
Kim Manzolini. She shares how she started from
the ultimate hardship and how she went through so many
tremendous challenges in her childhood and through her
journey, learned that she was not a victim of her
circumstances, that she was actually the creator of her

(01:07):
life. And this is such a powerful
conversation where there are so many gold Nuggets that you could
pull from it to really transformyour life and realize how much
power you have within you. Sun Yong Kim Manzolini is the
CEO of Lush Enterprises LLC, where she's paying it forward by
teaching other people, particularly single mothers, how

(01:30):
to use their unique miracle system to trade options so they
can spend less time working and more time of what matters most.
After retiring from her 35,000 ayear job in December 2015, with
no money in her checking or savings account and it being too
early to access her retirement accounts, Sung Young threw

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herself into options trading andquickly surpassed her goal of
making $178,000 six times her income that first year.
She believes true freedom is theability to be who you want to be
and do what you want to do without fear and intimidation,
to live out your dreams with financial security and she is

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dedicated towards guiding peopletowards long term success.
This is a powerful conversation and I'm just so grateful for
everything she shared in it. And it will leave you with every
mixture of emotions after you listen to it and allow you to
see the beauty, the strength andthe power that we all possess

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within ourselves. So welcome, Sun Yong Kim
Manzolini, I am so honored to have you on the podcast today.
I know there's gonna be so much.We've just been chatting and I
feel like this is gonna be such a great episode.
So many things that are come going to come forth in this.
So thank you for being here. Thank you.
Absolutely. So one thing I just want to

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start with because I, you know, I read a little bit of your
story and I would love for you to share a little bit more of
that of like overcoming adversity, coming through on the
other end of some challenges. And how something that we can
all relate to is like feeling the sense of scarcity, like not
having enough, this fear based way of living where we're like
wondering, like, how am I going to get through the next day and

(03:15):
how can I provide for myself? Can you share a little bit of
your story and where did you come from and where are you
today? Sure, boy, that is that's a big
question. And I know that we don't have
like 10 years to talk about it, but I'll sum it up.
But basically, I grew up in South Korea and just out of the

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blue, you know, I just remember my mother just went into a room
to have a baby and I never just sitting by the door that where
she went in because we didn't, you know, we were too poor to go
to the hospital, you know? And so I remember just sitting
waiting, waiting, waiting, waiting for my mother to come
out. And she never came out.

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And only thing that I know was like, I heard the baby crying.
So as a little girl, I just like, OK, I don't know what
happened to my mom, but you know, we have a new baby.
So that's how my life kind of came to realizations.
And right after that, my dad basically said, I told my sister
and say, OK, you take care of Sun Young.

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And then he never told me. I don't think she even told my
sister. He just left us.
He just basically left and didn't tell us where he was
going or he'll be back when nexttime.
He just left. And so my sister and I, we
basically became an instant orphan right at the moment.
And so, you know, I felt like, OK, my dad told my sister to

(04:42):
take care of me. So I'm OK, you know, as long as
I, I am with somebody. So she and I, we ended up in an
orphanage in Moppal. I don't know, lived there for a
couple of years. And I remember in that
orphanage, there's two things that I realized, you know,
sometimes we live our life and we see things, we hear things
and we are like, OK, you know, this, this and this that.

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So when I went to that orphanage, I remember the
orphanage workers would always talk about like, oh, we got
another baby today and they would open the door and that
they would hear the baby crying and all, but that's how they
knew that that they had another baby dropped off the door
because they heard the baby crying.
So they would open the front door and that the babies would
be wrapped in a thin blanket middle of the winter.

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And I remember witnessing that as that they were picking it up
and I was just watching what's going on in the orphanage.
And then something that I realized was, ah, it's normal
for my dad to leave us. It's like that's what happens to
every family. So then I wasn't so mad at my
dad. I was like, OK, it's normal
thing, you know? And then another thing that I

(05:47):
realized that orphanage was as the days go by and I would just
look out the window and I saw other kids playing outside.
And I thought to myself, I go, why can I be?
Why can I go outside and play like my friends are playing?
I didn't realize that I, I mean,I nobody told me that I cannot
walk, but I cannot walk, you know, I, I didn't have a normal

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family say, OK, do you know thatyou cannot walk?
Do you know something's wrong with your lip?
Do you know, you know what I mean?
Nobody ever talked to me. I was basically like ignored and
abandoned, just like, you know, And so I didn't know anything
that was wrong with me other than I was just getting around
with my, my hip and my hands andmy knees and getting around this

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way. That's what I knew.
But I knew everybody was walking.
And so when I resonated with my friends, like I'm going to go
play outside, but I couldn't. And I think one point, just a
few years later, my sister, justjust out of nowhere, she showed
me a picture and she says, this is the place where I'm going to

(06:52):
take you. And I said, what do you mean?
She goes, well, you have to go this place.
And I said, why? And she says that's where
they're going to teach you how to walk.
And I said, well, I don't want to.
I don't want to walk. You know, I don't.
Here I am. I wanted to walk to play outside
with the Prince. But then when my sister says,

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I'm going to take you to somewhere else.
And I was like, no, no thanks, Idon't want to walk.
So basically she and I, we argue, basically she says, yes,
you must go. And I said, no, I don't want to
go. She ended up taking me there.
And when I went to a second orphanage was in Cajun in South
Korea. And I was so shocked because I
saw all these kids were handicapped.

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They were like walking with the crutches and walking with the
limp and wheelchairs. And I thought, I have never seen
so many kids like that in one time.
You know, you see one kid, you know, here and there, but
everybody, everywhere, I turn around different parts of the
building as soon as I went into the orphanage was like shocking.
And, and so my sister, I think she talked to this orphanage

(07:56):
worker for a long time. And I think, I don't know for
sure, but I think she was tryingto, you know, we got a tour of
the place, you know, and then after that we went to the office
and she was talking to her for along, long time.
Like, I don't know, like two or three hours.
And finally, you know, and the whole time I was holding onto
her hand. We were holding hands together
because she's the only person I have a hope for, you know?

(08:17):
And anyway, so finally she says,you know, I have to go to the
bathroom. And I said, OK, no problem, I'll
go with you, you know? And she says, well, you can't.
And I go, why not? Because every time I have to go
to the bathroom, she had to comewith me because she had to take
care of me to be able to, you know, go to the bathroom.
And so we all gone to the bathroom together.

(08:38):
So it wasn't anything out of theordinary.
But all of a sudden this time she says, like, I can't come.
And I go, what do you mean I can't come?
And she says, well, you know, I'll be right back.
I'll be right back. And so just fighting back and
forth, like, you know, not wanting to let her let go of her
hands and everything. And she finally, I finally let

(08:59):
her go. I finally said OK, you know,
it's this is not going to go. And what can I say?
She has to go to the bathroom and she promised me, she pinky
promised me that she's going to come back.
So I thought she was going to the bathroom and then I waited

(09:21):
all day. Dinner time came, she never came
back. So that day I realized that I
can't trust anybody. I'm so sorry.
I'm sorry. No, no, don't, don't ever

(09:42):
apologize for crying. I'm so sorry.
That's that's my heart goes out to you.
It's past it's but when you talkabout it's like you're relieving
the anyway. Absolutely.
So she never came back. So that's the day I said, OK, I
can't trust anybody and I hate the world.

(10:06):
And I wanted to tell my mom. I never saw her assuming that I
thought she was dead, obviously.And I just wanted to crawl back
into her dead body in the womb and or wanted to tell her what
happened. I said, mom, after you passed
away, this is what happened. I wanted to tell her that.

(10:29):
But anyway, so I lived with thatkind of feeling, hating the
world, not trusting everybody. So when I lived in that second
orphanage, I never smiled. I never talked to anybody
because I just thought, you know, world has nothing to
offer, you know, nothing but cold, you know, coldness.

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So one of the orphanage staff showed me how to stand up
hanging onto the rail. They have a rails all over, all
throughout the hallways in that because it was like a handicap
rehab center. And so the people that kids have
a family, they drop them off there.
So they could, you know, stay there because of their families,

(11:17):
can take care of them 24/7. A lot of them, some of them,
they can even feed themselves, you know, so there's all kinds
of disabilities. So but everybody got around.
But here's me, I couldn't even get up to get on the wheelchair
either. I just like scoot myself on the
floor that way. And so every day when she showed
me like what to do, she can spend time with me one-on-one.

(11:39):
Not like America where we have aphysical therapist or
occupational therapist like that.
And this is an old and I'm, you know, I'm pretty old now, right?
And, and so she showed me what to do a couple of times, like
just hang out to the rail and just stand up.
That's what you're going to do. And then she left me and I did
that every single day. I don't know how many day, every

(12:00):
single day. I have nothing better to do.
The my life in that orphanage was just existing from meal to
meal. Like they gave us a breakfast
and only thing that I could lookforward to was like, when is
lunch? What is for lunch?
You know, there's not too much of A choice, you know, and, but

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I practice what she showed me every day.
It took me about two years to learn to walk.
So when I was about, I would sayabout six or seven years old, I
remember. But you know, like I said,
learning to walk was like hanging out, sitting down,
hanging up, getting up, sitting down, hanging up and, you know,
standing up. Once I got really good at that,

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then I had to take a step. So then then I would take a step
with my right foot and then leftfoot like that.
And then pretty soon that's whatI could do.
So one day everybody that works there because they knew that
I've been practicing and things like that.
And they said, OK, now this is the time that you're going to
take a a step. And, and I said, OK.

(13:03):
So obviously I thought they weregoing to be next to me because
I'm so used to hanging on to something, right?
So I thought they were going to be something next to me like a
chair or someone, some hands, nothing.
Everything was cleared surround me.
And they says take a walk. And I was so scared because I
don't know. I never stood up on my own

(13:25):
without hanging up to anything. And so they says take a step.
Everybody's watching me, you know, because it was a big
moment for them too, you know. And, and they says take a step.
And I said no, I was like shaky.And finally they says, and I
said what's going to happen is the floor is going to move.
And I take a step and I go no. And I go, Are you sure?

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You know? So I had all kinds of doubts,
like I didn't trust anything. I didn't trust anybody, anything
or nothing. So finally I took a step with my
right foot. And I remember like nervous and
I took a right step and I had a big smile on my face because I
thought floor didn't move and I'm still standing here.
So then they said take another step.

(14:05):
So then I think that that was the moment I start taking steps
to walk. Wow.
Oh my gosh. So that was, that's why I'm
still walking. Well, and then I live there and
a lot of, you know, physical, mental abuse going on in there.
Like if someone did something and nobody fessed up, then we

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all got punished with the stickswith our hands.
We have to, you know, and then if we didn't do our homework or
if we didn't get the homework right, we got hit all the time
and just all kinds of things that went through to go forward.
When I was 14 years old, I was adopted by American family, but
we had a Peace Corp worker, MissJen.

(14:48):
She was there for like a year ortwo and after her Peace Corp
work was done in our orphanage, she says when I go back to
America, I promise you guys, youknow, tried to find you guys a
family because you guys really want to have a family.
I said sure. So we were having hoping, hope,
hope, hope to have that happen. Never happened and she took one

(15:08):
of the a boy adopted her and shetook it with him with her and
everything. So at age 14, I got a letter
from a family saying that that they want to they want to adopt
A special needs a child and theywant they want me and I'm like
what? I go me.
It's like, so after they wrote me a letter and everything and I

(15:29):
didn't believe. And then they say, yeah, we
really want you. We want to adopt you.
We really, you know, And so theytold me like, they have six of
their own kids by, you know, birth.
And then they adopted their one child.
So they had seven kids. And then, you know, the mom and
dad and then they said, here's the pictures.
This is going to be your siblings and then here we are
and you're going to have a family.
I can't believe it. You know, they wrote to me in

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English and I have to have translations and everything.
And so I can't believe it. Anyway, I was excited, but I was
very scared because I thought I don't want to have another
rejections, you know, I don't want to have another, you know,
abandonment issues. So I really didn't believe it.
I really didn't believe for a long time.
And they wrote to me, you know, at least every two weeks or
something I would get a translation.

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And it was age 14, soon as I turn 14 years old in May 14th
and then May 27th I came to America.
And when I came to America, it was just, I was really crying.
I was sad because I was leaving my friends, you know, I don't
have a family in in Korea, but my friends were orphanage was my
home, you know, growing up therefor like 9-10 years.

(16:33):
So, and then I came to America and they showered me with the
everything that I ever needed, apurse, a bra, underwear, a
dress, shoes, and just more thanone piece of clothing.
And I was shocked. And I was like, Oh my God, like
this is more than I ever asked for.
Like I don't need anything else rest of my life.

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I was just so shocked because not only they thought, but they
showered me with like, you know,with but to them it was like
basic necessary things. But to me, it was like the, the,
the gift that I have never ever had, you know, so I was just so
grateful and I was just like, so, so excited.
I was like cloud 99. I'm not, I just can't believe
it. Like anybody would do this to me

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period, you know? And so life was really exciting.
But the same token, I was very scared because I knew that I
have a lot to learn. I didn't know any English at
all. I didn't even know my alphabet
at age 14, just coming, you know, from Korea.
So my mother, she sacrificed a lot of her time during that
summer because of the summer just began in America and I just

(17:39):
got done with the junior high inorphanage.
And so she taught me basic like all my alphabets, my basic Hi,
how are you? You know, my name is those
things that I could go to schoolin junior high when the fall
starts. So she sacrificed a lot of her
time and I learned that. But during that time, every time
people would smile at me or or look at me and attacking to them

(18:03):
and I didn't understand English right.
So they would just say and then laugh or smile, I would thought
they were they were making a funof me because in orphanage I was
bullied by other kids. They were making a fun of me the
way I looked. And so when I came to America
and I saw everybody smiling at me, I thought they were just
making a fun of me. And I thought, this is not going
to work. I say, you know, no matter what,

(18:25):
people are making a fun of me. And I thought, right, And so
anyway to go floor fast and, andso then, you know, my family
says OK. And I thought to myself, oh,
this is like a golden opportunity.
I have a, a second chance in my life, you know, And so they
taught me all the basic needs and they said, you know, just,
you know, study hard and you know, get a good paying job and

(18:47):
then you'll be fine, you know, just pay your bills and you're
OK. So I did everything what they
told me to do because I don't know, you know, they know they
raised 7 kids, right? Right.
And and so I did exactly. And besides, like I was so
afraid that if I didn't do my part, if I didn't learn enough
English to be able to have a conversations with them or

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learning to learn to accept the family and learn to have a
relationship with the family andto love the strangers that I
have never met before because I just got done dislocating
myself, you know, like not trusting anybody and hating the
world and everything. And I have to learn all that And
it's like, I just can't do this overwhelming because I don't

(19:29):
want to get sent back because I,I don't want to be a failure to
them. I don't want them to be
disappointed. So a lot of times we live a life
thinking that we don't want to disappoint our parents or, or
you know what I mean, our kids or whatever, you know, And so we
do those things, right. And so I studied really hard and
everything. I would get up at 4:00 in the
morning and I would take all thesummer classes.
I did everything extra just to make sure that, you know, I meet

(19:52):
my, you know, expectations and their expectations.
So I don't get sent back to Korea, but that's not what they
were thinking. But in my mind, it's
unbelievable. You know, they would just don't
want me no matter what anyway. So I ended up, you know,
graduating with the, you know, one point away from high honors.
I didn't graduate with honors. And then I was scholarship, went
to school. And then I decided to take a

(20:13):
shortcut and became a medical assistant.
I love that. I don't want to work at the
hospital changing beds. You know, medical systems, you
get to give shots and do all kinds of stuff, you know, help
with surgeries in the office. I love that kind of work.
So I thought, so I ended up landing in that job.
It was my dream job and I did itfor 33 years, like every single

(20:34):
day. Like I'd get up in the morning
so excited, you know, like I wanted to go to bed early, you
know, the night before because Iwas excited to go to work.
It was like my dream job, you know, and after doing it for 33
years, I have learned a lot of valuable lessons from my
patients, you know, because you get to know your patients and

(20:54):
they become your family and you know, they tell me a lot of
their stories and everything. It's a very, I loved it.
Like I said, I loved it. And I have learned so much
lessons from my patients and my work that I decided to retire
earlier than I ever expected. Well, number one biggest reason
was that I wasn't making enough money.
I was struggling living paycheckto paycheck and I was struggling

(21:17):
to pay bills because I was married for 14 years and I got
divorced and raising kids as a single mother.
And here I am with a successful,you know, a queer woman loving
my job. And then but I was struggling
trying to, you know, keep thingsup to, you know, provide for my
kids and everything. And that became a priority

(21:38):
because I thought what happened to my family, I thought they
didn't have enough money. So maybe they gave me a way, you
know, if they had enough money, maybe they would have kept me.
And then they were able to, you know, access the services, pay
for the services to, you know, help me to walk and all those so
many things went through my mind.
And after I came to America and everything, you know, and
besides, another thing that I wanted to tell you is like this

(21:59):
family fixed me all up. They gave me a leg surgery.
They gave me a lip surgery. They just fixed me all up so I
could look in the mirror and I could smile just I could walk.
I mean, just so many things likeI just like unbelievable, you
know, it's just like I'm shut anyway.
So, so a dream job and realizingand learning a lot of valuable
lessons. And then, but the reason I

(22:20):
learned the valuable lessons because I had open mind.
I wanted to learn. It's not like, oh, that's just a
story. That's why you're telling me.
If we don't have a open mind, wewon't learn anything.
We'll just hear it one year, letit go the other.
Like you heard that before, right?
But if even now I have every single day, even with my own
family, with my own kids and my husband, I always want to learn

(22:42):
something. And I always have my hearts
open, my ears open with the passion because it matters.
You know, what they have to say is it matters.
And so we have to live our life that way.
And so learning those valuable lessons and I decided I thought,
OK, I got to make more money. You know, I thought it does not

(23:03):
make sense. It does not match my dream job.
And I was not getting my dream income, you know, So that's my
turning point was like, OK, I got to do something.
And besides, I don't want to retire when I become an age.
I'm so old, so exhausted physically and mentally.
So when I'm forced to retire, I'll probably end up in the

(23:26):
hospital. You know, like I seen a lot of
our patients too, you know, theyretire after working for 34
years, becoming ACEO in the highest ladder ladder in their
career. And then they retire one they're
exhausted mentally and physically.
So we saw them going to emergency rooms, coming to see
the doc instead of spending their time and money on a

(23:48):
vacations after their retirement, they would come back
because they're, they they're sosick, they couldn't even go on a
vacations or their spouses, you know, as I saw that.
And and then some people like they retired, they didn't have
enough money. So they ended up going back to
same job or a lot of them, you know, they start a new job and
they start from the very bottom of the ladder instead of, you

(24:11):
know, so I thought to myself, ifI'm going to retire, I don't
want to do that. So I might as well just work
till I'm exhausted to, you know,really a retired age in like 70
or whatever, you know, so those are the things that deciding
factors. And I didn't really have any
other skills other than medical assisting.
And everybody's worried, you know, like, what are you going
to do when you retire? And I have to tell my doctor,

(24:32):
it's like, OK, I'm going to retire.
It's like when I go year and this was 2014 and he says do you
have any money? And I said no, I only had a $10
in my, you know, checking account.
Like I said I'm living paycheck paycheck, right?
And my doctor told me, he says Icannot retire until I have a
least $1,000,000 or more saved up because by the time we

(24:53):
retire, we're like same age 2 weeks apart.
So he says by the time we retire, we have to have more
than $1,000,000 to be able to keep up with the inflations, you
know, going up. And I thought, and that really
scared me because not only I can't ever make $1,000,000
looking at this job, so that means I could never retire.
So I did it just the opposite. I said, well, if I stay here, I
know I'm going to stay broke. If I stay here, I know that I

(25:16):
will be able to, you know, so I ended up retiring in 2015.
Exactly. You're from the conversations.
Retired. Yeah.
And then, and then I decided to do some real estate investments
and financial, you know, investments and things like
that. And I ended up going to a
seminar with the properties, rental properties.

(25:40):
And then at there they introduced the option trading
and they said, so you know, the real estate, you know,
investors, you guys can make lots of money and they're like,
Oh yeah, really. Well, I have a rental home and
I'm not making any money. I'm losing money, you know,
because I was single mom. And then when I got remarried, I
decided to use a house that I was living with my kids as a
rental. And but I didn't have any

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skills, I didn't have any properstrategies.
I didn't have any mentor or coach.
So therefore I was just doing iton my own just by hearsay, you
know, like people say if you have a rental, you're going to
make money. So I just didn't gone by that
and I was losing money. And so I went to the seminar for
the real estate to try to learn the skills.
I can make money on the rentals that I was losing money on.

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And then that's when they introduce like, Oh, you make,
you're going to make so much money.
I was excited because I need to make money not losing with the
rental properties. But they says, you know, there's
a, a ways that you could diversify it and, you know, make
money into option training. And I said, what is that?
I've never heard of it before. And so I looked into it and then
they says, you know, I said, what is the Intel said, well,

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you got to take a class. It's going to cost you this
much. And then plus you got to use the
computer. And I said, Oh, no thanks.
I hate computers. I don't want to learn my, you
know, new technologies, You know, at that time, you know,
and I was just kind of like, no,no, no, no thanks.
I went to opportunities. But then some of the things that
people tell me, like what I haveto do, like I said, no thanks.
So we, we live a life like that,you know, like we're waiting for

(27:08):
opportunities come to us. And sometimes we take ourselves
to where there's an opportunity.And then what we hear, we're
like, oh, not as good as I thought it was.
No thanks. So I just kind of like, no, no
thanks, I don't want it. Then I decided I thought, you
know, after I retire, my goal isto not to work for another
company. My goal is to stay home.

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And so I thought, well, real estate investments, I was going
to auctions and, you know, trying to get some properties
and things like that that took me away from home.
So I thought, I think what I'm going to do is I'm going to take
this option trading as a hobby, you know, not making money.
I'll take it as a hobby because we all need to do something fun.
And I don't want to spend a lot of money because I cannot touch

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any of my 4 O 1K pension plan because I retired earlier than I
ever expected. And so I thought I'm going to
pick up this hobby and I don't have to spend a whole lot of
money. But I did pay for education and
then I studied it. So 2016 I studied with my
virtual money and I was like seeing unbelievable results with
the virtual money And I'm like, I can't believe like I made
50,000 in one month or two weeksor three, you know, and I

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thought I was making 3035 thousand my job for 33 years and
I was happy with it. You know, I was OK, but here I
am with the virtual money. I'm making this kind of money.
So I thought what if, what if I could do this for with the real
money? What if and some, but I didn't
have any money. My husband was working and

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stuff. So I said, OK, why don't we just
take some money out of our home equity loan?
We're going to start somewhere. So we have to be resourceful.
Yeah, instead of buying, gettingnew things, getting a new, you
know what I mean, like having a brand new idea, it's like, OK,
what do we have? What can we use as a resource,
right. So we use the home equity loan

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took the money out and because the interest rate was pretty low
versus not getting a 14% of, youknow, regular signature loans,
whatever. And so we started with that and
so I practiced and studied and came up with the strategy called
unique medical system for housing trading.
And it's just very, very simple.And then and I taught all my

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kids and so they could do it. They do that too.
And then and then in 2017, I thought, OK, I'm going to have
to get brave. I cannot be on the riding a
bicycle with the training wheelsforever, right?
So I just have to be brave and take it, you know, so that I put
money in there with this we'll make it loan and I start
trading. And my first year I made like

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$178,000. Now my goal goal was to make
about 60 to 90,000. And I thought that would be
fantastic, you know, But I knew I could do that because I
practice with the virtual money.So I set a goal like making
90,100 at the most. And I had a step by step like,

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OK, if I want to make 100,000 a year, how much do I have to make
a month? And then I broke it down to how
much do I have to make a week and daily basis.
I broke it down to very, very small thing.
So it's not overwhelming like, oh, I got to make 100,000.
And then if market goes crazy, I'll go crazy, right?
But when you break down and you look at the numbers and you

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measure it, you know, and I can mind because I studied it for a
whole year, but normally it doesn't take a whole year.
I, I teach my clients all the time.
It doesn't take them a whole year, you know, like I give them
like 12-12 week course and things like that.
But for me, I studied because itwas my hobby, you know, and I
really came up with it. So, so when I was able to break

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down and how much do I have to make a day?
So my daily goal was to make X amount of money and I did that.
So like if I was to make a $2000a day and some days I would make
a 10,000. So then I would still try to
make a 2000 next day and then market something happens.
I have a cushion like OK, I madea 10,000 today.
So I'm OK. I'm still within my goal within

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my, you know, and so I was OK, but I still tried to make a 2000
no matter how much I make, you know, each day sometimes like I
make 30,000 a day and it's like still, I would say I still want
to make a 2000 and then have that.
And I already met like monthly goal making, you know, 30,000 in
in a week. I haven't met my goal, but I
still, you know, consistently tried to make a, you know, that

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way. So when I made over and above my
goal, like 178,000, I was like, Oh my gosh, like this is like so
cool, you know, and then just keep doing it.
And then a couple years later, my husband, he retired in 2017.
And when I was doing that and then we held that money that he
retired was like 164,000 from his TSP working for government.

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And then we held it in our IRA account for about a couple years
because we thought what should we do with this money?
Should we just give it to our investment companies?
And we thought, no, I could do it.
I just made 178,001 of my, you know, so I did that and I
invested his money, 164,000. I turned that into $604,000.

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Eleven months. Oh.
My gosh. 11. Months and.
So I have like a proof of all the paper trails for this, you
know, because I show it to my clients when they come to me
because obviously when I talk about it, they want to see it,
you know? And so, yeah, so we have that.
And so it was like exciting because when I, when I took my
$25,000 when I was working, whenI was learning and I gave it to

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an investment company and they lost it.
They they lost like 13,000. I only got $8000 of it.
And so I thought we're not doingthat.
So I did it. So we have to be bold and we
have to know, but we have to have a strategies.
And like I said, I took some classes and I had some, you
know, like a private coaching, you know, and then because I was
really serious, because I, if I could do this with this fake

(32:59):
money, like, why not take it to real money?
And so doing option trading, that's when I first made like
the first $1,000,000. Like I, I know that I could have
never done that, you know, because people that are around
me surround me, my, my kids, my family members, I don't, I don't
have anybody that is rich. They're comfortable, you know,

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and, but I never knew anybody that made a lot of money.
But I, I thought to myself was like, you know what, there's
some people out there making money as much as they want and
they are not tied down to a company.
So like, why not me? And so everything that I look at
in life, like it started an orphanage was like kids were
walking, why can I walk? You know, people are making

(33:43):
money not having to work for a company.
Why can't I? And so we really have to like
switch your mindset about like, you know, there's a people out
there. It doesn't have to be your best
friend that who's doing it. Or sometimes, you know, we see
our best friends do it and they failed, right?
And so do do we go by that? No, you know, so you really have

(34:03):
to say what do you want in life?Like how do you want your life
to be? And you have to really realize
you have to take a big giant step.
You know, it's like there's times where I was learning bike,
learn to riding bike when I was like 14 years old or probably
like 15 when I first came to America.
It was very scary, you know, and, and I fell down and then,

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you know, and then I don't want to get back up again.
Or sometimes when I got in a caraccident and I was so scared and
shaky and then I got hurt and luck going to physical therapy
and all those things. Do we stop driving a car because
something happened? Well, same thing with the life
like, you know, we want to do something.
We don't make it quite as fast as we want.
Or maybe there's a lot of obstacles and challenges that

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are coming our way. Do we quit?
No, because we would never be here.
I know I would never be where I am today, you know, having an
interview with you as a guest, you know?
That's. Guarantee.
I just want to first of all, just thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing your story on here.
And there's just so much vulnerability in, in your life's
journey. And I, I just really appreciate

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you sharing that because it gives that context of where you
are. You know, you could give the
second-half of that and say thatyou, you know, achieve the
success financially, but withoutthe back story, it, it's hard to
really grasp the journey and howmuch meaning there is behind
that. So I really appreciate you
sharing your journey. One thing that really stuck,
stuck out to me is that when youtalked about when you're making

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like $35,000 and you're like, ifI stay, like, how do I have
anything different? And this is a trap that so many
of us can experience of like we're in this comfort zone.
This is what I've known. I've done this for 33 years.
Like, I don't know what's on theother side.
And so we can stay in this like fake sense of safety because
it's familiar and not ever take that leap of faith of like going

(35:52):
into the unknown. And so it can be that like
teetering point. Do I like bet on what I know or
do I bet on what could be? And so I so appreciate you
sharing that, like taking that leap of faith, trusting yourself
and just saying like, if I stay,I know what my future looks
like. If I don't stay, I can create

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what my future looks. Like, yeah, yeah, exactly.
I mean, and plus like being in there, it's like it's a, you
know, comfortable and you're making everybody satisfied.
You know, my parents are happy because they know that I love
job, you know, I love my job. It's like, oh, she's she's
happy. Good for you, you know, because
you're doing like exactly what you love doing and obviously and

(36:34):
you're good at it. You know the but they don't know
other side of the struggle. It's like, OK, mom, I'm having a
hard time, like struggling paying paycheck to paycheck, you
know, And we don't tell all thatugly story to other people.
You know, they just think that my life is just like really
nice. And a lot of my patients, like
they don't know that I, what I've been through.
I cannot tell my patients about my past because they're there to

(36:57):
get them feel better. And my job is to make them feel
better. And, you know, doing it with the
heart because I love doing what I'm doing, you know, and I just
love making them happy, making them feel, you know, happy and
healthy mentally and all that. But, you know, so we don't get
to talk about that. And so I thought, well, you
know, if if I become an entrepreneur and doing my own

(37:18):
things and I don't so there's a lot of scarcity that we could
think about it. OK, well, I don't know any other
skills. And I don't know anybody that
like to lean on that made money.You know, I don't know anybody.
And then plus, like, what is my kids and my parents going to
say? I'm going to disappoint them.
My kids said, mom, like, what are you going to do?
Like you, you're doing your patients love you, your doctor

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loves you. Everybody said, what are you
going to do? That's scarcely that.
People talk to us nearby, right?And I didn't dare to tell my
mom. It's like, I know I'm going to.
I just, you know, after I retired, you know, it's like so
yeah, people not only we have our own doubts sometimes, but
then we have to we are in that mom like 10 seconds for me.
You know, we have to. We can't be in it too long

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because it's going to take over.So we have to say, OK, I know I
want to retire and I know that Idon't have any money, but
there's a people out there doingit.
So I'm going to find a way. You know, and even though I
didn't have anything like prepare, but I did prepare, you
know, study those days and went to the real estate seminars and
all that. So I have a little bit more
knowledge and things. But, you know, so we have to

(38:22):
have open mind. But you know, a lot of times we
live our life in somebody else'sgender.
Like, Oh no, I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable.
Oh, no, I don't want them to saylike I'm crazy or, you know,
like, oh, you're making a mistake, you know, like you
don't know what you're doing. Like you have never done this
before. Why are you doing that?
You know what I mean? So all those voices come to us,

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right? And, and so, so you want to
avoid this. So just stay there.
You know, you just stay where you're comfortable.
And then at the same time, like you're, you're miserable as
heck, right, Because you're, you, you can't go on vacations.
You know, I mean, I mean, like Ihad a two weeks paid time off,
but I don't have any money to take my kids on vacation, you

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know, So instead, like instead of spending time on a vacations,
I would just clean or, or time for vacation was like going on a
picnic. I was also, and I'm going to be
able to taste the real life has to offer.
I'm going to be able to travel and taste their cultures and and
food and just things like that. And so it's really important to

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like stay healthy overall basis,like mental health and physical
health and financial health and spiritual health, because they
all go together, right? And so I tell people like I used
to tell my patients, like, do you exercise?
You know what, they used to complain to me?
It's like, oh, Sonya, I cannot move my arm, you know, I cannot
comb my hair or put my shirt over.

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And I said, why not? Because because it hurts.
And that's what. Did you get in an accident or
did you fall? No, I just woke up this morning
and I'm just really stiff and I'm just sore and I can't put
my. And I said, OK, so there's
nothing wrong with that. It's just sore.
Well, maybe the muscle is telling you that you need to
stretch the muscle, you know, and so it's safe for you to go

(40:12):
ahead and comb your hair, even though it hurts, go ahead and do
it again. You know, like you're a physical
therapist. You were right.
And, you know, exactly like whenI got in a car accident, I, I
couldn't even move my arm, like raise my arm.
And after I saw my doctor said, we'll go to physical therapy.
And then I went to physical therapy.
And then they says, I know it hurts.
You can't, but we got to go through this, you know,

(40:32):
workouts, you know, you got to do this every day, you know, two
or three times a week and come back and see us, you know, every
stuff. And I thought, but it hurts.
But but they said we have to do it.
Well, now I went through that process and now I could raise my
arm and I have my full mobility back, you know, and so we have
to think, live our life in that way, you know, mentally, like,

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you know, oh, I don't want to. I don't want to think about
that. You know, it's like, no, we have
to push through, right? We have to see the other side.
Exactly the, the power of the mind, it can never be
understand. I mean, it is so powerful in
everything we do. And just with you sharing your
story, I mean, there are so manythings that you could have used
as excuses for why you could nothave accomplished what you have

(41:13):
accomplished, but instead you use them as fuel.
And I want to go into that deeper because I think that's
such a huge point because so many of us can come up with
excuses like I've been through this, I've had this journey.
This is why I'm I can't do any better for myself.
But yet what you've said multiple times is like, what if
this does work out? What if I can do this?
And I'm going to show you how I can walk and that mental

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strength that you've had and that tenacity.
I would love for you to go into that.
Is that something you've always had?
Is that something you've cultivated?
Where did that come from and howdid you create that in your
life? I think because I suffer so
much, you know, there's been AIIisolated myself, you know,
because what happened, you know,with my dad, what, you know, he

(41:57):
did to us. And I isolated myself and I
thought, OK, I don't trust anybody and I don't care to talk
to anybody. Rest my life, you know.
And then as my life goes on, what you do, what you don't do,
right, what you do, what you don't do, life just goes on with
you without you, right? And so I was, you know, my life
was going on with the misery. Like I wasn't talking to

(42:19):
anybody. In fact, let me tell you like
quickly, another thing was like when I was witnessing other kids
that all the handicapped kids and all, like I said, 800% kids
were handicapped in that second orphanage, 80% of the kids had a
family, 20% was no family like orphans.
So we were all handicapped and Isaw some of the kids that was
chewing gum with the families and they would come back from

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the weekends with their families, would bring them
candies or chew gum. And one day I said I want to
chew gum and I could have asked somebody else, but I was
embarrassed. How many times were embarrassed
to ask somebody for help? Like, you know, I could have
gone to my friends, you know, somebody, you know, say, hey, I
want to chew a gum. It looks cool.
Like I want to, I want to be able to taste the gum, what the
gum tastes like, Right? I could have asked.

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I'm sure they would have given it to me, but I was too
embarrassed. And I and then besides, like,
they would know for sure. Like, Oh yeah, you're an orphan,
so you don't have any man. So yeah, I'll give it to you.
Or they may say, Nope, you're anorphan.
You don't have any, You don't get it.
You know, there's all kinds of scenarios that we could think
about, but my main goal was to say, I just want to chew a gum.
That's it. And so, you know, I was like 10
or 12 at the time, and I was walking because I learned to

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walk at six or seven. So my friend and I, we went
outside the orphanage and we found the gum.
And I'm going to go back to the question that you asked me, but
this is very important, OK? Because this is another one of
those things like, you know, howdid I do that?
So I went outside instead of asking.
I was twin beds to ask for help or give me a piece of gum or
whatever, borrow money to buy gum or anything.

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But I just went outside and I found the gum on the street, you
know, so many people have been walking and I had to dig out the
gum from the, you know, pavement, the walkway, whatever.
And I remember digging out the rocks because it's been walked
in so many times and I have to dig it out and I pulled out the
rocks. I know it sounds gross, OK, but

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anyway, but I remember doing this, but I just said I want to
chew gum. That's what I did.
I want to chew gum and I went for it, right.
So I dug out the gum that the rocks biggest pieces I could and
then blew it out. I, you know, I didn't want to go
back inside the house, wash withthe water or nothing.
I just kind of brushed it off, all the sand or whatever, and I
chewed it. And I feel so good.

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I feel the coolest kid in town in that orphanage.
My friend and I were like, yeah,we did it, you know, like,
thumbs up and said we did it, you know.
But when I was chewing that gum,that gum was kind of crunchy
because there was a little bit of, you know, still things that
I could not take out, dig out all the way.
And then it was just a gum. I didn't know what to expect.

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I was just like, oh, I'm treating gums just like them.
I'm I feel cool, right? OK, so that is not happening in
orphanage now. When I came to America, when I
could buy a gum and I bought a gum and they came in so many
different colors and there's a different flavors and, and you
know, my family told me that youcould buy a bubble gum or
whatever. So I bought a bubble gum and

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then they show me how to blow a bubble and everything, you know.
And so I tried that and it's like so first time when I chewed
a gum, you know, brand new gum, it tastes so smooth.
There was no any like crunchiness.
And then it had a flavors. It's like a strawberry and
watermelon flavors. And I'm like, Oh my gosh.
And I was like. Hold of experience.

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And so going back to like, how did I get that?
I think that because when we dissociate with the things that
in the world, because it was so it was treated so cold that and,
and living my life like that, that I want to change how I'm

(45:55):
living. And I cannot wait for someone to
come to me. So, you know, orphanage, they
could have said what they show me how to walk, but they they do
it every single day. But I say, here's how you do it.
And that just left me alone because they have to help other
kids, you know, but but they didn't come to say, OK, you
don't know how to work. So I'm going to spend every
single day with you until you walk.

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Now, if if I had that, my results were a lot faster.
But I have nothing to do but that, you know, orphanage,
nothing. So but we tell ourselves like,
OK, today's going to come. Today's going to pass and
tomorrow's going to come. How am I going to be different

(46:39):
tomorrow or even end of today? Like I woke up in this kind of
mood. How am I going to go to bed?
Am I going to go to bed with thesame kind of mood I woke up, It
was a bad mood. Or am I going to continue to
have a good mood and then go to bed in a good mood to kind of
continue with a good state of mind, right?
And so I think that I never gaveup on things.

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You know, the people say like, Ididn't give myself like a
limitation. I say, oh, I can't do it.
You know, I just, I want to chewa gum.
I know I'm going to do it. I'm going to find a way, right?
I'm going to, I don't know how to walk, but I'm going to do it
anyway. They show me what to do.
I'm going to practice every day.And I want to be able to get
around like those kids and then I'll be able to help them.

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You know, I want to contribute. Once I learn to walk, I'm going
to help them. And then I became a Gopher for
them. I would do all kinds of errands
for the ones I learned to walk. It was like, it was like my fun
job. And I was like, what do you
mean? Like, where do you want me to
go? You know, it's like I, you know,
so, so when not only when we learn to do things for ourselves
and things we need to really think about next step, it's
like, how can we provide, you know, to other people within our

(47:52):
circle, within our environment, right?
Because you can say, Oh, I learned to walk and I'm great,
you know? But like every day when I walk,
I feel so grateful. Like every day, like I take a
bath, I feel so grateful becauseI didn't get a bath every day in
orphanage. Only got a bath once a month.
No. Once a year, once a.
Year. Because we have to go to a

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public bath and not everybody could walk, so we have to push
them in the wheelchairs and there's not enough stuff to push
anybody. So we walked like a mile or two
to get to the public bath. And so if we were lucky, we got
2 bath a year and so every single day.
So you could see how my life is right now, I feel very rich, not

(48:34):
only financially, but I feel rich with all the things that I
get to do. Like I take a bathroom shower
every day. It's like I feel rich, you know,
and I get to change to a different shoes, more than just
one pair of shoes. I feel rich, you know?
So we have to really focus on like what we have because when
we focus on what we have, we're so spoiled.

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We're spoiled rap. We're spoiled rotten, you know,
we have so much. We have more than enough, you
know. So I think that having that
mindset of like nobody's going to tell me that I cannot do
anything. I have to tell myself I'm going
to get it. I'm going to be able to get the
gum that I'm going to. I don't care if it's a flavor

(49:18):
gum, I don't get, I just want tochew the gum.
It's so like even as a single mother, like Michael, I was
struggling, but I thought, I want to get a convertible.
And so before you have the moneyto buy convertible, you have to
go test drive and make sure thatyou like it.
You know, when you go test drive, like they have no idea
that you're going to, you have money to buy it now They assume

(49:38):
that I'm going to buy it now, but my back, my money, I'm going
to buy that car, save money enough like maybe five years.
But I just saw that much earlierbefore I had the money.
And so the things that we have to do that we want, we have to
because what if like I, I didn'ttest drive it and I save, save,
save, save like next 5 or 10 years and finally I get to the
money. Why?

(49:58):
I could have never done it at myjob, right?
But when I have the money and then I finally test drive in my
dream car, you know, convertible, What if I hate it?
Right. Yes.
So it is really important to really kind of like test what
you really want to do in a step before you get there.
And then you take the steps before you actually have the

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money, you know, So those are a lot of lessons that I can think
about that it's going to be a lesson for me.
But now at the back and, you know, as an entrepreneur and the
journey as an entrepreneur, it'slike all this.
So like, Oh my gosh, I didn't realize back then why?
Because we were not willing to learn lessons in that way, you

(50:42):
know what I mean? We just do what we have to do.
And so I think the most important take away for your
listeners is like, you know what, nobody's going to come to
you with the platter and say here you had a bad life.
Here's your opportunity. And some of us, we get an
opportunity, like I said, going to the seminar and they says,

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here's an opportunity. You can learn about the option
trading. And then I heard what it takes
and I go, ah, no thanks, No, thank you.
And so we can't be choosy. You mainly have to say, what is
your main goal? Like, where do you want to be
from now until even next year? And you don't compare yourself
to other people because, like, there's so many entrepreneurs
like me, I'm sure, you know, I'mnot the only one who's an

(51:26):
orphan. There's so many millions of, you
know, orphans out there, you know, have succeeded, right?
But our journey is different because we have learned
different lessons. Yeah, you know, just like going
to the like, say, I don't know, like going to the Walmart.
I tell this to my clients. Like, let's say there's a
Walmart and there's so many different ways to get there.
Depends on where you live, you know.
So when we're trying to accomplish like being a life

(51:49):
coach and there's like a zero life coaches out there.
But we're all different and we come in different directions
because we we are different, ourpersonnel is different and our
thinking is different, right. There's only one new.
Even the identical twins are still different.
They still, you know, they're similar, but not exact the way
how they think, right? And so there's only one new.

(52:10):
So we need to really value how valuable we are.
And when we think about it, like, what do we need?
Like we need a confidence, you know, we need to get rid of
fears. Well, when we lie on our
creator, which is God for me, and it may be different for
other people, but when we think about like, Oh my gosh, I was
created by my I was created by image of my creator.

(52:31):
Oh my gosh, and he could do anything.
He could do it. You know, we have a human power,
but when we, we like, we rely onour creator.
Some of the biggest challenges that we don't think that we
could do or the mistakes that wehave that we rely on him, we,
you know, surrender and then, you know, ask him.
We can accomplish anything. Oh my gosh, so true.

(52:54):
So much gold and what you've. Just shared.
I just want to dissect a little bit more because like there's so
many things that you have said that I'm like, Oh my gosh, yes.
Like you are a living example ofthat.
Like, you know, if you're livingright now, you know, some of us
are like, oh, I'm trying to findmy purpose.
If you're living right now, you have a purpose.
Your story is uniquely designed to serve someone who's and so

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that is one thing I'm hearing from.
You and I love that the. Other thing is that gratitude,
the power of gratitude. Yes, if you have a breath right
now, you have something. Be grateful for it.
When we're in the thick of so much turmoil in our lives, we
can be like, what do I have to be grateful for?
But it's like those smallest things, like you start anchoring
yourself into that. You create a whole new destiny
for yourself. And there was something else

(53:35):
that you said that it, it's justreally, there's so many things.
I mean, I can really go out forever.
Like so many things I'm hearing from you that I absolutely love,
but that power of recognizing what you want in life, so many
of us get stuck in autopilot like, oh, I have to do this job,
I have to get this degree. This is just what I was supposed
to do. And you get in this autopilot

(53:56):
like Monday through Friday, herewe go again.
You know, the weekend's the same.
And then you never stop to ask yourself, what is it that I
actually want? Because we get so disconnected
from ourselves, we don't even know what we want.
And so it's like that mono pauseof like taking some
understanding of it, where you are in your life and what do you
want to look like? I'm not thinking like you're
just a victim of your circumstances.

(54:16):
It's truly the meaning that you give things is that creates the
power behind it all. So Oh my gosh, so much gold and
everything. So I really appreciate and
anchoring into the stories. I love the stories that you
shared because that's where it'slike we get into that
subconscious mind, the power of that.
It's like when we hear these stories, it might be a different
story for someone listening, butyou can understand that of like,

(54:36):
you know, I wanted that. I want it so bad and you can
think about something in your life like I want it so bad.
I'll do anything I can to get toit, even though you don't know
what that path looks like when you're starting.
So yeah, I mean, I mean, you know, the the.
You know, when we have a gratitude towards life that we
have to speak it. So in other words, like, you
know, this is some of the thingsthat I share with my clients is
this like if you have like a, like a talking about like a

(54:59):
gratitude or nurturing yourself,you know, like you have to
nurture yourself because nobody's going to nurture you
when you're a child. Your parents nurtured you,
right? And then when we grow up and
then live, you know, go out on our own, then we have to
nurture. But we're just nurturing our,
our career, we're nurturing our educations.
We're nurturing, you know something?
But we really don't nurture ourselves, the being, you know,

(55:22):
because when we learn to nurtureourselves, we could do anything,
we could compensate anything. We could share so much, we could
give so much. We could just, you know, just, I
mean, like there's just go on and on like a, a domino effects,
right. So one thing that that I do
practices every single day. It's like, like I said, when I,
I got up at 4:00 in the morning when I was 14, I still get up at
4:00 in the morning and instead of learning English, I'm doing

(55:43):
something else. And so it's been, it's like
everything that you do, it does take a small step that becomes a
hap and then it becomes your daily habit and you don't do it
for anybody else. You do it for you, right?
You don't expect the big results.
Just like it's like, you know, Iknow some churches like, you
know, like sometimes like we give, I used to think this like
I give 10%. I know I'm going to get it

(56:05):
blessed. Now I give, you know, like I
said, no, I don't need it. I give it because I want to, not
because, you know, I'm going to get blessed, right.
But The thing is, it's like whenwhen we talk about like, you
know, living daily life. So let's say like my husband and
I, you know, we, you know, we have a normal marriage problems,
like, you know, some days like we have a disagreements or

(56:26):
whatever and like we make feel bad at each other.
And so we, we practiced. I said, Mike, you know, as soon
as I said, honey, if we can argument, if I make you feel
really bad and feel like you don't feel like you're a good
husband or you feel like you failed as a husband or whatever,
then you need to, you know, lookin the mirror.
And as you're washing your handsin the bathrooms at the public
places or workplaces or whereverkids just sink whatever, as you

(56:49):
and you. And then when you have a like a
mirror, you know, obviously you look in the mirror and say, you
know what, I'm a good husband. The you know what, what son
young told me, what my wife, my wife just told me.
She doesn't mean it because she just said it because she was
just upset. But I'm a good husband and I'm a
good lover and I'm a good dad, you know, so we need to nurture
those things out loud. And so like it's all I tell my

(57:13):
husband, like we need to have more arguments.
So we have excuse to say those things, you know, nurture
ourselves more, you know, so like you could do that at work
too, like, you know, your boss or supervisor and say made you
feel like, you know, like you'regoing to get fired or you didn't
and do it enough. You didn't do it.
Your expectations. You go to the bathroom during
lunch hour, take a break and just say, you know what, I'm a
good employee. You know, I'm a I'm AI, you

(57:33):
know, they need me. I do a good job for them.
It's like I'm a very valuable, don't you know, have that last
word by somebody else's negativewords and don't live with that.
And then you go home and you just feel like, Oh, I had a bad
day. And then that really, you know,
turns into a family thing where,you know, everybody's affected
because of your mood, you know, because of what someone said,

(57:55):
you know, at school or your workor you know what I mean?
And so you always have to groundyourself and go to, you know,
just tell yourself and say, you know, I'm a good person.
I am, you know, I do my best. I mean, you know, you do
something on purpose, you know, bad then, you know, But in
general, like when you know thatyou try your hard, you did your
best within a time limits, whatever you can get your

(58:16):
project done, you know, with a timely manner.
And then then your boss was supervised and you know what you
should have this done, you know,but they don't know they they
were not under pressure like they were.
You just have to nurture yourself all and you have to
tell yourself this one and say I'm a good person.
They make sure they go by so good.
And you know, you're step by step, you're just nurturing it
and making yourself and give up massive confidence that you need

(58:40):
to live your life with so true. It's like it's anchoring into
your truth and the. Truth, like the anything that
says anything like you're not enough or you're not good, those
are all just those false storiesthat we hold on to as a like a
theme of protection. And like our ego holds on to
that for, to protect us, but it doesn't help us and it doesn't
serve us. So yeah, 100%.
Like just having those practicesof like coming home to yourself

(59:01):
and recognizing that other people's words are more of a
reflection of their inner world than your inner world.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, absolutely.
And just that they're not true. You know, because if they were
true, you know, we would have been divorced by now.
You know what I mean? You know, if I it was true, they
would have really fired me, right?
And so they're just saying that because how, you know, they're
have their own issues. So we have to understand it's

(59:21):
not all about us, it's about them, right?
But they put it on, they put it on to us to make them feel
better, you know, And so that's their issue.
And So what are we going to do to make ourselves feel?
We have to nurture them. We have to nurture ourselves and
say positive words, you know, just say, you know what, I'm a
good employee, like I'm a good mother.
You know, it's like, you know, Ido the best I can with the

(59:41):
circumstances. And so you just have to really
tell yourself that physically. And then every day, like when
you drive, you know, just be grateful.
Like you have a heater in your car when it's cold outside, you
know, and be grateful that you have you have a heat, you have
air conditioning when it's so cold outside, you have to be
grateful for every little things.
Like it sounds silly. Like every time I get a gas,
it's like, thank you, father, thank you that I have a money to

(01:00:04):
be able to fill up. Because there's been a times
where I ran out of gas and I drove the old cars and I broke
down on the phrase freeways all the time.
But if I didn't have those kind of journey in my life, I would
never like appreciate the new cars that I get to drive now.
I never get to appreciate it, but because I've been broken
down with my kids and because, you know, my hood's been

(01:00:25):
smoking, you know, I never had a, you know, a new 'cause when I
was a single mother. I mean, you know, so we really
have to just really be grateful for what we have and look around
and and just say, you know what and say it.
Don't just say, oh, I know I have it.
Just say I'm grateful. You have to really.
It's not like a mentorship. It's like I'm really grateful
when I get to take a bath. So can I have tub every day?
Like I get to grateful that I have a hot water to do dishes

(01:00:47):
with. I'm grateful and say thank you.
You don't always call up on yourhigher power only when you have
a bad day. You have to call up on your
higher power when you have a good day and say thank you
exactly because I used to live alife like, oh, I need help.
Like I'm having a bad day. Please help me.
Please help me. Now I'm saying, you know what,
thank you. Thank you for allowing me to

(01:01:09):
have this, you know, and then when I miss my, you know,
misplace my key and I can't findit, I got to go somewhere.
It's like, I know you're lookingat the key.
You know exactly what my key. I don't remember because I'm a
human being. My eyes are wide open, but I
cannot see why I left them. And I can't remember, but I know
you're looking at it. So help me.
Guide me to where I left my key.Show me.

(01:01:29):
It works every time. I mean, you have to think about
those little things like it's a tactical.
It's so easy. Yes, I'm so, so right on.
It's that. Contrast like when you don't
live like that, you don't realize like how much you have
to be grateful for until you start like really looking for
that. And it's like, I've had that
experience like several years ago.
It's like there, like there was so much chaos in my life and I
was like, what do I have to be grateful for?

(01:01:51):
And now I look back, I'm like, my gosh, I had so much to be
grateful for. I, I couldn't see it.
And it's like, you know, this morning walked my son to the bus
stop and I'm like walking up on the grass.
I'm like, thank you, grass for being so soft.
And I like, thank you, sky. It's beautiful.
Like these little things that wetake for granted, we don't
realize, like, until we start seeing it.
And we have to train ourselves to see it.

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And then we get more of it in our life.
So yeah. So much power to that.
Yeah. So, you know, I just tell myself
like, no. We have to taste the rainbow
colors in the food, you know, because they tell you to eat
vegetables and greens and all this colorful stuff.
So why not live a life like a rainbow colors?
We get to experience rainbow colors, like bright because I
know that like when I first met my husband and you know, because

(01:02:34):
of his mother, you know, was like every time there's a rainy
or snowy and dark and cloud, like he gets depressed, you
know, So I guess like my husbandkind of picked that up, you
know, he was telling me. And so he's like, oh, no, it's
rainy. And I said, you know what?
I said, how about we're looking and say, you know what, thank
you for the rain. We need the rain.
Thank you for the snow. We need it because when we snow,

(01:02:55):
it's going to meltdown slowly. And we have water throughout the
summer, right? And then when it rains, it gets
to water or, or flowers, you know, or grass.
And so you'll grow good. And our vets also grow good.
So we have to look at everythingas like, you know, because it
doesn't rain every single day, 365 days, you know, a year, OK.
And then when there's a sunshine, blue skies like you
were talking about, like we haveto build it because there's

(01:03:17):
times where in my life, like everything was cloudy, dark and
scary, you know, it's like, I don't want to, like, I don't
want to talk to anybody. I don't care, you know, it's
like I just leave me alone, you know, but when we have to engage
ourselves into like living and experiencing, tasting the
rainbow calls a pride and and enjoy the every season, you

(01:03:38):
know, because the every season'snot going to last forever,
right? Every season passes.
It happens every year. It's a cavern.
It comes every year. It's like we know what's going
to happen. It's going to come like winter's
going to come. So when winter comes, like, Oh
my gosh, why is it hello, like you were like 40-50, well,

(01:03:59):
winter's been coming to you for 40-50 years.
You know what's different? It's just how we how we accept
the seasons and that we recognize the patterns is makes
the biggest difference 100%. It's like suffering is really
just resisting the flow of. Life, like we have to understand
there's gonna be highs and lows and we have to flow with it and
just understand it's a cycle. So yeah, it's so much truth, so

(01:04:21):
much gold. Oh my gosh, I feel like I could
talk to you all day. So many levels and things we
could go. Avenues down, we could.
Go. But I've so appreciated so much
of what you shared. I like there's so many things
that like, I feel like you couldlisten to this episode and pick
out different things left and right.
And I really appreciate everything you shared, your
journey, your story. It's profound, inspirational,

(01:04:42):
and I know it's going to touch alot of people who listen to
this. And for someone who wants to
connect with you, where can theyfind you and, and any resources
that they can? Well, you know, I'm on TikTok
and I'm on Instagram. Facebook, I have a personal page
Facebook and then two different business unique medical system
that system strategies that I, you know, that created for

(01:05:05):
option trading. And then there is what is a
unique microsystem and there's last, you know, prices as a seal
of the company that I, you know,found and create and we have a
business doing that. But yeah, so just anywhere.
And then YouTube, I have a YouTube channel on how to make
money with option trading. So like, if you have like a $500
and you could increase that to $5000 and within 30 days or

(01:05:28):
less, you know, there's some education videos that I've done.
So there's just so many things that they could, you know,
contact me. And also like, I have used so
many excuses and I have a, a book that I have written, it's
called invest in yourself and throw away your excuse, you
know, and to turn your life around.
So I use all these excuses like not now, maybe later, maybe next

(01:05:52):
year. Well, next year turned out to be
30 years later for some people. You know, sometimes I go what,
what tomorrow, what tomorrow turned out to be 4 years later
and, and still haven't done it. So it's really important to like
and I do a lot of shorts on Instagram that it's kind of like
no more excuses, get out of rut.You know how to pull yourself

(01:06:13):
out of the rut. You know, I do those things.
So look for those like minute reels that I do on Instagram and
tik toks and things. So it's kind of fun, like still
engaging with people. So thank you, Kelly.
I mean, this podcast that you created is just makes a huge
difference, you know, because wereally want to reach as many
people as you know, because the journeys that we keep going

(01:06:33):
through that those biggest lessons that we cannot learn
from, you know, with the school college degrees, right?
But we learn from the journey. And, you know, all of us, you
know, listeners, they have a lotto offer too.
You know, they just are offeringother people, you know, share
those stories. Not you know what I say?
It's not your story, because sometimes I used to say, Oh, I

(01:06:54):
don't want to share my story. It's embarrassing.
It's a, it's a bad and it's a dark and it's a, you know, it's
a, it's a, it's a sad, you know,but no, it's a gospel story.
But we have to be in it, you know, just like God wrote a
script and we have to be, you know, we're living the life,
right? So it's a God story.
It's not your story, right? And so share it because that's

(01:07:16):
it. You're right on.
And it's like, you know, if we suppress.
Our gifts and we wait, you know,20-30, forty years.
What are we not giving to someone else who could really
use the unique gifts that we have within us?
And so, you know, you're not only losing out on yourself, but
there's so many other people whoyou're here uniquely designed to
help that we, you might not be able to if you're not receptive
and open, just like you've shared, you know, and it's, it's

(01:07:38):
been wonderful. I'm going to put all your all
your links in the show notes. So if anyone's listening,
definitely connect. And I am so incredibly grateful
for everything you shared and that we've connected.
And I, I really enjoyed this today.
I did too. Thank you, Kelly, and I really,
really appreciate. That opportunity, like I said,
who knows that you created this podcast space, you know, like
five years ago, and it's like, wow.

(01:07:58):
You know, it's just like, so it's a keep going, you're doing
a good job and you're just really, really helping a lot of
people. It's really helping as a guest
too, you know, It's like, wow, you know?
So yeah, I appreciate it. Yeah.
I really hope it becomes a connector of like connecting
right? People with the right resources
so we can all just raise each other up together.
Yeah. Thank you so much.
Make a. Difference in the world right

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