September 10, 2025 • 20 mins
What happens when losing your children means losing yourself completely? After four devastating deaths, Vickie Menendez faced something even more terrifying than grief - she became nobody.
"When my kids passed away, it's like that identity was dissolving," she admits. "Even though I still had my son with my second husband, it's like when you lose those things, like you lose your home, you lose your job, you lose a relationship, you lose your children. Then you start asking these questions, who am I?"
The woman who had been defined as "mother" for decades suddenly had no children to mother. The identity that had anchored her entire existence was gone. She wasn't just grieving her babies - she was grieving herself.
But in her darkest moment of complete dissolution, Vickie created something that would save her: the butterfly field visualization. Instead of remembering her daughter dying in a hospital bed, she imagined their last moments together in a field of wildflowers where her daughter turns into thousands of butterflies, saying "bye for now."
"Every time I think of her, we go to that field together," Vickie explains. Those butterflies didn't just help her remember her daughter - they taught her how to become someone new.
Discover how a woman who became nobody when everything fell apart used butterflies to rebuild her identity from absolute nothing - and why your complete dissolution might be exactly what you need to discover who you're truly meant to be.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Ladies and gentlemen, welcome back to part two of
Rise from the Ashes.
I'm joined once again withVicky Menendez, who has just
shared one of the most powerful,profound journeys I've ever
heard.
But what she's done with it ismore inspiring.
We've gone from losing her son,her daughter, her husband,
(00:28):
through pain, throughtribulation, and really
inspiring other people.
This is what life is about.
It's about moving on andinspiring other people, rising
from the ashes into a new levelof awareness, and Vicky has done
(00:49):
just that.
Vicky, thank you very much forsharing your incredible journey
with me and the listeners here.
You shared earlier that theawareness heightened and it
brought around a new vibrationfor yourself.
What I find even more profoundis what you've done with that
(01:10):
vibration and how you'reimpacting not just the localized
, but people internationally.
Can you explain a bit about whoyour client is, who you're
looking for, who people find youand what that process is when
you help them?
Speaker 2 (01:27):
I think that, of course, mothers I feel very
connected to mothers because Iam a mother, I know what it
feels like to have that loss andmy avatar is a little bit
different because I can connectwith so many different types of
(01:49):
loss.
Now I've had the stillborn,I've lost children to addiction,
I've been in the hospital withsomeone for days on end only to
lose them, and then the shock oflosing someone and never even
being able to identify them,never seeing them again.
And I think that could connectwith people during the COVID era
(02:12):
where you were losing peopleand they really don't know how
to process that.
They don't know how to.
I think sometimes they don'tfeel like they should be happy
(02:39):
again and I feel like that Iwant to show them by them
connecting with that joy andthat love and happiness within
themselves.
It raises their vibration sothat they can connect with us.
And there's so many differentways that they do that.
Just by a butterfly coming andlanding on your lap to the other
(03:11):
day, a rainbow shot into thewater.
I have the bay right in frontof me and I'm standing on the
balcony and a rainbow justshoots right into the water and
it's rare that you see the endof a rainbow, and I've done that
twice since my kids passed.
I've seen the end of a rainbowand I know that it's them just
(03:32):
coming and tugging at my heart.
So I really feel like I canconnect just with mothers who
have lost children either, evenif it's just one child or
multiple children.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
There's a whole different dynamic there that's
so profound the signs you'regetting, understanding and
communication, but also theself-awareness.
And so the self-awareness bitis the most, probably the most
profound part of this, becauseit's the part that most just
want to push down and not feelor see, because it's a
(04:09):
protection mode of if I, if it's, if I know it, it becomes real
or reality.
But reality is what you make ofit.
Reality is creation of anenergetic vibration that we all
hold.
Some people call God frequency,some people call it universe.
Whatever it's the samevibration, just dressed up in
(04:38):
different ways.
The profound effects you haveon people and their journeys
aren't just for short term,they're for a much longer
process.
Can you, if you will, explainthe process that you have to
help go deeper into these layersand extract the energy they
have and the potential withinthem?
Speaker 2 (04:56):
I know that when I went through I leaned on all of
those years that I've had inself-care and wellness and then
with the new tools of processingthat emotion, and I realized,
especially just in the past, inthe last year, that sustainable
growth is having a regulatednervous system.
(05:19):
When you're in a state of fightor flight and some people have
been in that state their entirelives that's not something you
just shut off.
It takes time, for you don't goto the gym once you know and
work out and say, okay, I'm donefor life.
It takes work and you have tobuild that muscle and in this it
(05:43):
takes time for your system andfor your nervous system to
really be able to stay in astate of calm or for you to be
able to get yourself there andknow how to do that.
And then, once you learn how todo that, then the work that you
do really is more sustainableand it's not like you're always
(06:05):
going to stay in that state ofcalm, but when something does
trigger you, you know what to doto get back to where you need
to be.
And then, as you build thatmuscle, it's like things bother
you less and you look at thingstotally different, because you
used to look at something as atrigger, as something that
someone's doing to you, and thenit's revealed that everything,
(06:30):
of course, is happening for youand through you.
And what can I learn from thisso that I can move on to the
next level?
And each level that you go tojust creates this lightness,
this airiness to just how youmove through life.
It's just more graceful thanbeing in the muck, being in the
(06:53):
mud.
It's like trying to move yourfeet through mud Now it's like
you're walking through water andit's a lot easier to move
through that than to movethrough quicksand or mud.
So it's a process and peoplehave to know that wherever they
are in that moment is exactlywhere they're supposed to be.
(07:14):
We just have to learn how toembrace it and how to meet it
and be okay with being in it Fora little while, but knowing
that you're going to get up andyou're going to have those wings
To just fly around.
But you're going to go Inbetween those stages and it's
(07:34):
something that you can learn Todance with and be okay with.
Wherever you are in that momentand know that you're not
failing, you're not taking twosteps back.
Some people say I take one stepforward and two steps back.
That's something we need tochange that mindset.
That's not what it is at all.
It's just the process, and canyou be okay with that and know
(08:00):
that you're exactly where youneed to be in that moment?
Speaker 1 (08:04):
I think that's great advice Before I know you've just
released a book.
I want to need to be in thatmoment.
I think that's great adviceBefore I know you've just
released a book.
I want to speak about that in amoment.
Who are you now?
That you could not have been afew years ago Because this is a
very intentional question in theway it's phrased because you've
(08:25):
got two identities at least onthis journey, and you alluded to
it earlier about leveling upthrough this process who are you
now?
Speaker 2 (08:36):
There is no way you could have been that person
before this journey started nowI don't have identities toward
being a mother or being a wife,or being all of these things
that society and family andeverything hands to us
(08:58):
throughout our lifetime.
All of those things, especiallywhen my kids passed away, it's
like that identity wasdissolving, you know, even
though I still had my son withmy second husband.
It's like when you lose thosethings like you lose your home,
you lose your job, you lose arelationship, you lose your
(09:21):
children then you start askingthese questions who am I?
And can we connect with ouressence?
We're compassionate, we'reloving, we're caring and really
focus on that, because that'swhat people feel from you, not
that you're a mother or thatyou're a CEO or that you're this
(09:42):
person or that person, and Ijust feel like that I've really
connected more with who I cameinto this life, as Just the pure
essence of who I'm supposed tobe and who God made me to be.
We're all made in His image andso we're all amazing, we're all
(10:03):
magnificent, we're all brilliant.
And can we bring that out?
Can we see that we are enough,that we are everything?
Because we tend to compareourselves to other people and
they're more successful than whycan't I do that?
And then that self-talk thatinternal dialogue just brings.
(10:25):
You're sending out thatfrequency and you're
broadcasting at every moment.
So what are you saying?
What are you saying to yourself?
What are you saying out loud?
What are?
Are you thinking that all islike a mirror so you get that
back from the universe?
They send back to youeverything that you're putting
out there.
Changing that inner dialogue isprobably one of the biggest
(10:48):
changes that I think people canmake yeah, 100, and to that
point.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
That doesn't happen overnight.
It takes years sometimes to noteven accomplish but to even
make a dent in the society'simpact, corporate impact,
labeling, etc.
Etc.
It's conditioning.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
We've been conditioned our entire life and
to think that you can do that ina few months, or even a few
years, it's like it's becauseit's a process.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Yeah, and it's a lifelong process.
I talk about this when I'mhelping people, but it's all
about understanding the languagefrom you said earlier, mindset,
that's a limitation straightaway.
A set is a limitation, it's abox.
So I embody the mind state,which is the awareness of
(11:42):
becoming the soul and a verygranular essence of who you
already are, and rememberingthat process.
There's personal development,bs that goes out, and I know
you've got to spoke aboutmindsets and a metric that is
wrong and been overused for somany times and diluted.
(12:05):
So it's about time we like whatyou're saying about changing
the language, changing theformats, changing what we're
doing at a internal level.
So so thank you for sharingthat, your book.
I want to hear about your book.
It's behind you.
I can't see it because it'sblurred, so can we put it in
front of you?
Thank you, there we go.
(12:26):
That's it.
Put it in front of your body,that's it.
Yeah, let's see it now.
So the book what's it about?
Where people can find it andawesome.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
I love that mandela's that I colored.
So, yeah, brings the book tolife.
This book came to me when I wasin the hospital with my
daughter and I had opened a zoomcall for her friends to call in
and talk to her, and I calledit the Crystal's Butterfly
Effect so that's where the nameof the book came from was from
(13:03):
that Zoom call that I set up andher friends would come, they
would jump on.
I would have it open for acouple hours every morning and
people would just dial in.
They would have the link andthey would dial in and they
would just talk to her.
Just dial in, they would havethe link and they would dial in
and they would just talk to her.
They would.
This always gets me becausethey would always talk about
(13:24):
things that they did together,this experience that they had
when they were teenagers, or thetime that she stayed on the
phone with them for hoursbecause they needed her.
And I met my daughter all overagain.
As they get older, you're notas in their life, like you don't
know every facet of their lifeand what's going on in their
(13:45):
life, and by hearing them talkto her, it was like opening a
whole new portal to her, to her,and I knew that I had to write
about this.
I had to share with the worldwhat I experienced in that 48
(14:06):
days.
It was like inside of me and itneeded to come out, because
that was part of my healing,that was part of me being able
to work with these emotions andthese events that happened.
And in the book you'll see asection where I visualized our
last moments, my daughter and I,and the last day.
(14:27):
I knew that.
I just had a feeling that thatwas the day.
I had been thinking for acouple of weeks about this
experience that I was going tocreate for us.
And instead of thinking of hernow in her hospital bed, we're
in the middle of a big fieldwith wildflowers and the sun
(14:51):
shining and the birds arechirping and the insects are
making their sounds, and it'sall like a serenade.
And we're walking through thisfield together and she looks at
me, she stands, turns to me andsays bye for now, and she turns
into thousands of butterfliesand they're flying all over the
(15:12):
field and they're landing onflowers, and those are the
people that she's going to lookover in the spirit realm.
Those are the people that she'sgoing to protect and be there
for, and it was just so helpfulto me because I didn't realize
how helpful it was until yearslate, until in the last few
(15:35):
years.
Every time I think of her.
We go to that field together,and so that's one thing that I
have in the book.
That I really suggest thatpeople do is to take their self
out of those last moments, and Ihave one for my sons as well.
But that is I don't know.
It's one of the most beautifulthings that I did while I was in
(15:58):
the hospital was to create thatmovie, that internal movie, and
then every year I go and add anelement.
This year I added her dog,sokka.
She loved animals and her dogis running through the field
with us now, and next year it'llbe something else that I add.
(16:18):
So the Sokka keeps expanding,it keeps growing, but what it
does is it sends my mind tosomething that's good, to
something that's happy about herlife, not going into the depths
of sorrow that she's gone.
I'm adding an element to itthat I know would make her smile
or that would make me smile.
(16:39):
And then, with the mandalas inthe book, my son was an artist
and I put those mandalas inthere, not only as a healing art
form but to honor him.
And then the letters in theback of the book.
Writing a letter to yourchildren can be one of the most
(17:01):
powerful things that you do, andthen writing a letter that
they're writing back to you.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
I love that.
So where can people find thebook?
Obviously it's on Amazon, it'son your website.
Can you just say where they canget it and how they can get in
contact with you if they want tohave a conversation?
Speaker 2 (17:22):
Sure, if you go to vickimanendezcom and there's a
tab and it's actually on themain page as well, but there's
an Audible version and theAudible version has a 111-page
living journal that you get forfree when you buy the Audible
version and you can just.
It's a flip book and as youlisten, you can flip through,
(17:46):
look at the pictures, look atall of the profound quotes that
I have in there.
All of the heart of the book isin there and there's pictures
in there that you won't find inthe physical book.
And when you buy the bookdirectly from me too, you get a
signed copy and there's a fewlittle extras that I put in
there.
That's really nice.
(18:07):
There's a heart stone that I putin there so that you can put
that in your change purse.
You can put it in your pocketEvery time you feel it or touch
it.
It's a reminder to be grateful,to just show that gratitude for
being alive, for having all ofthe money that you need to come
to you.
It's like showing moregratitude just means that you
(18:29):
have more to be grateful for.
And that has white sage.
It has pencils in there tocolor the mandalas.
It's just really it's a gift.
When you open it up, it's likeopening a Christmas present.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
I love that.
Thank you very much for sharingthat story and to the listeners
please share this message.
Please put it in the rightareas.
This is about you understandinga deeper level of who you are,
where you're going and inspiringnot just this generation but
future generations.
Thank you for being a part ofmy world.
(19:06):
Vicky, you're awesome.
Thank you very much for sharingthis story and being who you
are.
I truly appreciate you and yourtime.
My listeners.
Thank you, share the message.
You have an amazing blessed dayand make sure you always have
an amazing day on purpose.
Speak soon.
Ladies and gentlemen, welcome back to part two of
Rise from the Ashes.
I'm joined once again withVicky Menendez, who has just
shared one of the most powerful,profound journeys I've ever
heard.
But what she's done with it ismore inspiring.
We've gone from losing her son,her daughter, her husband,
(00:28):
through pain, throughtribulation, and really
inspiring other people.
This is what life is about.
It's about moving on andinspiring other people, rising
from the ashes into a new levelof awareness, and Vicky has done
(00:49):
just that.
Vicky, thank you very much forsharing your incredible journey
with me and the listeners here.
You shared earlier that theawareness heightened and it
brought around a new vibrationfor yourself.
What I find even more profoundis what you've done with that
(01:10):
vibration and how you'reimpacting not just the localized
, but people internationally.
Can you explain a bit about whoyour client is, who you're
looking for, who people find youand what that process is when
you help them?
Speaker 2 (01:27):
I think that, of course, mothers I feel very
connected to mothers because Iam a mother, I know what it
feels like to have that loss andmy avatar is a little bit
different because I can connectwith so many different types of
(01:49):
loss.
Now I've had the stillborn,I've lost children to addiction,
I've been in the hospital withsomeone for days on end only to
lose them, and then the shock oflosing someone and never even
being able to identify them,never seeing them again.
And I think that could connectwith people during the COVID era
(02:12):
where you were losing peopleand they really don't know how
to process that.
They don't know how to.
I think sometimes they don'tfeel like they should be happy
(02:39):
again and I feel like that Iwant to show them by them
connecting with that joy andthat love and happiness within
themselves.
It raises their vibration sothat they can connect with us.
And there's so many differentways that they do that.
Just by a butterfly coming andlanding on your lap to the other
(03:11):
day, a rainbow shot into thewater.
I have the bay right in frontof me and I'm standing on the
balcony and a rainbow justshoots right into the water and
it's rare that you see the endof a rainbow, and I've done that
twice since my kids passed.
I've seen the end of a rainbowand I know that it's them just
(03:32):
coming and tugging at my heart.
So I really feel like I canconnect just with mothers who
have lost children either, evenif it's just one child or
multiple children.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
There's a whole different dynamic there that's
so profound the signs you'regetting, understanding and
communication, but also theself-awareness.
And so the self-awareness bitis the most, probably the most
profound part of this, becauseit's the part that most just
want to push down and not feelor see, because it's a
(04:09):
protection mode of if I, if it's, if I know it, it becomes real
or reality.
But reality is what you make ofit.
Reality is creation of anenergetic vibration that we all
hold.
Some people call God frequency,some people call it universe.
Whatever it's the samevibration, just dressed up in
(04:38):
different ways.
The profound effects you haveon people and their journeys
aren't just for short term,they're for a much longer
process.
Can you, if you will, explainthe process that you have to
help go deeper into these layersand extract the energy they
have and the potential withinthem?
Speaker 2 (04:56):
I know that when I went through I leaned on all of
those years that I've had inself-care and wellness and then
with the new tools of processingthat emotion, and I realized,
especially just in the past, inthe last year, that sustainable
growth is having a regulatednervous system.
(05:19):
When you're in a state of fightor flight and some people have
been in that state their entirelives that's not something you
just shut off.
It takes time, for you don't goto the gym once you know and
work out and say, okay, I'm donefor life.
It takes work and you have tobuild that muscle and in this it
(05:43):
takes time for your system andfor your nervous system to
really be able to stay in astate of calm or for you to be
able to get yourself there andknow how to do that.
And then, once you learn how todo that, then the work that you
do really is more sustainableand it's not like you're always
(06:05):
going to stay in that state ofcalm, but when something does
trigger you, you know what to doto get back to where you need
to be.
And then, as you build thatmuscle, it's like things bother
you less and you look at thingstotally different, because you
used to look at something as atrigger, as something that
someone's doing to you, and thenit's revealed that everything,
(06:30):
of course, is happening for youand through you.
And what can I learn from thisso that I can move on to the
next level?
And each level that you go tojust creates this lightness,
this airiness to just how youmove through life.
It's just more graceful thanbeing in the muck, being in the
(06:53):
mud.
It's like trying to move yourfeet through mud Now it's like
you're walking through water andit's a lot easier to move
through that than to movethrough quicksand or mud.
So it's a process and peoplehave to know that wherever they
are in that moment is exactlywhere they're supposed to be.
(07:14):
We just have to learn how toembrace it and how to meet it
and be okay with being in it Fora little while, but knowing
that you're going to get up andyou're going to have those wings
To just fly around.
But you're going to go Inbetween those stages and it's
(07:34):
something that you can learn Todance with and be okay with.
Wherever you are in that momentand know that you're not
failing, you're not taking twosteps back.
Some people say I take one stepforward and two steps back.
That's something we need tochange that mindset.
That's not what it is at all.
It's just the process, and canyou be okay with that and know
(08:00):
that you're exactly where youneed to be in that moment?
Speaker 1 (08:04):
I think that's great advice Before I know you've just
released a book.
I want to need to be in thatmoment.
I think that's great adviceBefore I know you've just
released a book.
I want to speak about that in amoment.
Who are you now?
That you could not have been afew years ago Because this is a
very intentional question in theway it's phrased because you've
(08:25):
got two identities at least onthis journey, and you alluded to
it earlier about leveling upthrough this process who are you
now?
Speaker 2 (08:36):
There is no way you could have been that person
before this journey started nowI don't have identities toward
being a mother or being a wife,or being all of these things
that society and family andeverything hands to us
(08:58):
throughout our lifetime.
All of those things, especiallywhen my kids passed away, it's
like that identity wasdissolving, you know, even
though I still had my son withmy second husband.
It's like when you lose thosethings like you lose your home,
you lose your job, you lose arelationship, you lose your
(09:21):
children then you start askingthese questions who am I?
And can we connect with ouressence?
We're compassionate, we'reloving, we're caring and really
focus on that, because that'swhat people feel from you, not
that you're a mother or thatyou're a CEO or that you're this
(09:42):
person or that person, and Ijust feel like that I've really
connected more with who I cameinto this life, as Just the pure
essence of who I'm supposed tobe and who God made me to be.
We're all made in His image andso we're all amazing, we're all
(10:03):
magnificent, we're all brilliant.
And can we bring that out?
Can we see that we are enough,that we are everything?
Because we tend to compareourselves to other people and
they're more successful than whycan't I do that?
And then that self-talk thatinternal dialogue just brings.
(10:25):
You're sending out thatfrequency and you're
broadcasting at every moment.
So what are you saying?
What are you saying to yourself?
What are you saying out loud?
What are?
Are you thinking that all islike a mirror so you get that
back from the universe?
They send back to youeverything that you're putting
out there.
Changing that inner dialogue isprobably one of the biggest
(10:48):
changes that I think people canmake yeah, 100, and to that
point.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
That doesn't happen overnight.
It takes years sometimes to noteven accomplish but to even
make a dent in the society'simpact, corporate impact,
labeling, etc.
Etc.
It's conditioning.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
We've been conditioned our entire life and
to think that you can do that ina few months, or even a few
years, it's like it's becauseit's a process.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Yeah, and it's a lifelong process.
I talk about this when I'mhelping people, but it's all
about understanding the languagefrom you said earlier, mindset,
that's a limitation straightaway.
A set is a limitation, it's abox.
So I embody the mind state,which is the awareness of
(11:42):
becoming the soul and a verygranular essence of who you
already are, and rememberingthat process.
There's personal development,bs that goes out, and I know
you've got to spoke aboutmindsets and a metric that is
wrong and been overused for somany times and diluted.
(12:05):
So it's about time we like whatyou're saying about changing
the language, changing theformats, changing what we're
doing at a internal level.
So so thank you for sharingthat, your book.
I want to hear about your book.
It's behind you.
I can't see it because it'sblurred, so can we put it in
front of you?
Thank you, there we go.
(12:26):
That's it.
Put it in front of your body,that's it.
Yeah, let's see it now.
So the book what's it about?
Where people can find it andawesome.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
I love that mandela's that I colored.
So, yeah, brings the book tolife.
This book came to me when I wasin the hospital with my
daughter and I had opened a zoomcall for her friends to call in
and talk to her, and I calledit the Crystal's Butterfly
Effect so that's where the nameof the book came from was from
(13:03):
that Zoom call that I set up andher friends would come, they
would jump on.
I would have it open for acouple hours every morning and
people would just dial in.
They would have the link andthey would dial in and they
would just talk to her.
Just dial in, they would havethe link and they would dial in
and they would just talk to her.
They would.
This always gets me becausethey would always talk about
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things that they did together,this experience that they had
when they were teenagers, or thetime that she stayed on the
phone with them for hoursbecause they needed her.
And I met my daughter all overagain.
As they get older, you're notas in their life, like you don't
know every facet of their lifeand what's going on in their
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life, and by hearing them talkto her, it was like opening a
whole new portal to her, to her,and I knew that I had to write
about this.
I had to share with the worldwhat I experienced in that 48
(14:06):
days.
It was like inside of me and itneeded to come out, because
that was part of my healing,that was part of me being able
to work with these emotions andthese events that happened.
And in the book you'll see asection where I visualized our
last moments, my daughter and I,and the last day.
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I knew that.
I just had a feeling that thatwas the day.
I had been thinking for acouple of weeks about this
experience that I was going tocreate for us.
And instead of thinking of hernow in her hospital bed, we're
in the middle of a big fieldwith wildflowers and the sun
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shining and the birds arechirping and the insects are
making their sounds, and it'sall like a serenade.
And we're walking through thisfield together and she looks at
me, she stands, turns to me andsays bye for now, and she turns
into thousands of butterfliesand they're flying all over the
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field and they're landing onflowers, and those are the
people that she's going to lookover in the spirit realm.
Those are the people that she'sgoing to protect and be there
for, and it was just so helpfulto me because I didn't realize
how helpful it was until yearslate, until in the last few
(15:35):
years.
Every time I think of her.
We go to that field together,and so that's one thing that I
have in the book.
That I really suggest thatpeople do is to take their self
out of those last moments, and Ihave one for my sons as well.
But that is I don't know.
It's one of the most beautifulthings that I did while I was in
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the hospital was to create thatmovie, that internal movie, and
then every year I go and add anelement.
This year I added her dog,sokka.
She loved animals and her dogis running through the field
with us now, and next year it'llbe something else that I add.
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So the Sokka keeps expanding,it keeps growing, but what it
does is it sends my mind tosomething that's good, to
something that's happy about herlife, not going into the depths
of sorrow that she's gone.
I'm adding an element to itthat I know would make her smile
or that would make me smile.
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And then, with the mandalas inthe book, my son was an artist
and I put those mandalas inthere, not only as a healing art
form but to honor him.
And then the letters in theback of the book.
Writing a letter to yourchildren can be one of the most
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powerful things that you do, andthen writing a letter that
they're writing back to you.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
I love that.
So where can people find thebook?
Obviously it's on Amazon, it'son your website.
Can you just say where they canget it and how they can get in
contact with you if they want tohave a conversation?
Speaker 2 (17:22):
Sure, if you go to vickimanendezcom and there's a
tab and it's actually on themain page as well, but there's
an Audible version and theAudible version has a 111-page
living journal that you get forfree when you buy the Audible
version and you can just.
It's a flip book and as youlisten, you can flip through,
(17:46):
look at the pictures, look atall of the profound quotes that
I have in there.
All of the heart of the book isin there and there's pictures
in there that you won't find inthe physical book.
And when you buy the bookdirectly from me too, you get a
signed copy and there's a fewlittle extras that I put in
there.
That's really nice.
(18:07):
There's a heart stone that I putin there so that you can put
that in your change purse.
You can put it in your pocketEvery time you feel it or touch
it.
It's a reminder to be grateful,to just show that gratitude for
being alive, for having all ofthe money that you need to come
to you.
It's like showing moregratitude just means that you
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have more to be grateful for.
And that has white sage.
It has pencils in there tocolor the mandalas.
It's just really it's a gift.
When you open it up, it's likeopening a Christmas present.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
I love that.
Thank you very much for sharingthat story and to the listeners
please share this message.
Please put it in the rightareas.
This is about you understandinga deeper level of who you are,
where you're going and inspiringnot just this generation but
future generations.
Thank you for being a part ofmy world.
(19:06):
Vicky, you're awesome.
Thank you very much for sharingthis story and being who you
are.
I truly appreciate you and yourtime.
My listeners.
Thank you, share the message.
You have an amazing blessed dayand make sure you always have
an amazing day on purpose.
Speak soon.
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