June 10, 2021 • 21 mins
Has anyone ever told you you’re being too emotional? Have you told yourself that you’re being too emotional? If someone ever says this to you, stand proud and say, I'm proud to be emotionful! This episode dives into what it actually means to be emotionful, what are emotions, how emotionful people tend to be more empathetic and compassionate.
I also go into things to consider if someone says "You're too emotional":
- Consider the source of who is telling you this.
- Can lead to negative coping mechanisms
- Someone may tell you you’re emotional primarily for negative emotions, not happy, content emotions. But just like happy and positive emotions, negative emotions need to come out too.
We often turn to negative coping mechanisms such as:
- Shutting down - internalizing emotions
- Suppressing it - smile and pretend
- Becoming self conscious and insecure - judge ourselves negatively
- Holding your emotions in and stuffing them inside - creates energy inside, leading to depression, anxiety, feeling completely insecure. So, don’t disregard your emotions - positive or negative
Emotionful people tends to feel things more deeply and for longer than the average person. People who are highly emotional are often deeply compassionate, empathetic and self-aware, but at the same time may feel exhausted from feeling all the feels all the time.
Let's take a step back into what is emotion: Emotions are psychological states brought on by neurophysiological changes, variously associated with thoughts, feelings, behavioural responses, and a degree of pleasure or displeasure.
Emotionful: Of or relating to your emotion, exhibiting emotion
Use your emotions in a positive way, how can you use them to better yourself, to positively impact your life, to learn something new about yourself? Take the time to explore your emotions, rather than dismissing them or someone else dismissing them saying you’re being emotional. .
- Don't repress your emotions, aim for regulating your emotions
- Identify what you're feeling and what is the key source, or trigger of this emotion
- Accept all of your emotions, positive and negative
- Keep a journal - get it out and brain dump to make more room for positive thoughts and positive coping mechanisms
- Try deep breathing, or even tapping meditation
- Know when to express yourself. Set time aside to express yourself, and sometimes it’s not expressing yourself to someone. Writing it down, praying about it, expressing it to God or your higher power whatever that is. Get control of this - know when it’s appropriate by setting time aside to work through your emotions.
- Give yourself some space - give yourself time - be gentle with yourself, have empathy for yourself
- Use positive self-talk and actually listen to yourself.
That’s it for this episode. If you can relate to this, please follow this podcast so you never miss an episode and share this podcast to those who may need it. If you need help, I am a mindset and life coach - DM me @susanfink.rise or you can also check out my site risemindset.com to connect. I want you to remember is you’re not alone in this journey. Stay connected, reach out, there are solution out there to help you!
My mission is to help as many people as I can and I cannot do that without you. Thank you, thank you thank you for listening, thank you for your support in sharing this podcast to help others. And until next time, I appreciate, I empathize, and I am here for you. and...We...can do this
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Susan Fink (00:09):
Hey, everyone, and welcome to the rise with the
light podcast. My name is SusanFink. And this is my weekly
podcast dedicated to supportingfamilies raising children with
special needs. I'm on a missionto provide hope and positivity
through sharing my personalinsights, stories, mindset
perspectives, and ways tonavigate through this journey.
Let's get started.
(00:47):
Hi, there. And thank you so muchfor joining me today, I wanted
to quickly mention as I alwaysdo, please make sure you follow
this podcast so that you don'tmiss another episode. And if
these episodes are helping youplease leave a star rating a
comment or share this podcast tohelp other people. As you know,
my mission is to help as manypeople as I can. And I cannot do
that without you. So thank you,again, so much for being here
today. So let's jump right intothis episode all about being
(01:10):
emotion full. So has anyone evertold you that you're being too
emotional? Or maybe have youtold yourself that you're being
too emotional, I have been toldso many times in my life, that I
am an emotional person that Ifeel emotion very strongly. And
sometimes people have told methat I'm being too emotional
(01:32):
about different situations aboutcircumstances that are going on
that I'm being too emotional.
And quite honestly, that wouldmake me so frustrated, that
would make me even moreemotional, because I'm already
an emotional state. Andsomeone's telling me, I'm being
too emotional. But we have totake a step back for a second.
And I want to dissect this alittle bit. If someone is
telling you that you're beingtoo emotional, I think you need
(01:53):
to consider the source who'stelling you this, maybe that
person is going on the defensiveabout something, and they're
just trying to deflect it backonto you. But consider the
source who is telling you,you're being too emotional. And
what's the problem with beingemotional? Seriously, what is
the problem? A lot of timespeople have told me I'm being
(02:14):
too emotional, primarily as arelates to negative emotions,
where I'm not happy, and I'mhaving anxiety or having issues
or sadness, or depression orthings like that. So a lot of
times people have told me, I'mbeing too emotional, because
they don't like my negativeemotions. But just like being
happy, and having any positiveemotions, just like those are
(02:37):
coming out, negative emotionsalso have to come out. And
oftentimes, when someone istelling you that you're being
too emotional, that can actuallylead to some negative coping
mechanisms of handling youremotions. Some of these negative
coping mechanisms are thingsthat I've done to where I've
completely shut down and I'veinternalized my emotions and
(03:00):
keeping them in, that actuallyis really negative for yourself,
for your body, for your stresslevel, anxiety, depression, all
of those things. So shuttingdown is not a positive way of
dealing with your emotions. Butit is a coping mechanism. If
someone's telling you thatyou're being too emotional. A
lot of times people just smileand pretend that they're okay
and put on a happy face, just tosuppress it around people who
(03:23):
think that they're beingemotional. And a lot of times
this can lead to beingcompletely self conscious, very
insecure, and then we startjudging ourselves negatively. So
dealing with your emotions in anegative way. And with these
negative coping mechanisms isnot healthy at all, holding on
to your emotions inside andstuffing them down inside
(03:43):
actually creates energy insideof your body, and can lead to
depression, anxiety, and justfeeling completely insecure and
unhappy. So these negativecoping mechanisms are not good.
But oftentimes, that's whatwe're left with when someone
does tell us that we're beingtoo emotional, or we're telling
ourselves that we're being tooemotional. So let's take a step
back in what is actually emotionand what is an emotional person.
(04:08):
So emotions are basically thepsychological states that were
brought on by different changesthat are happening. And they are
associated with thoughts,feelings, and behavioral
responses, and a degree ofpleasure or displeasure. So
things that are happy thingsthat are good things that are
bad. So that's basically youremotions, your, the state that
(04:31):
you're brought into dealing withyour thoughts, your feelings,
your behavior, your responses towhatever's going on around you.
Now, let's talk about emotionalpeople. A highly emotional
person is someone who tends tofeel things more deeply and for
maybe longer than a normalperson, an average person. So a
lot of times highly emotionalpeople are often really, really
(04:51):
compassionate people. They'revery empathetic people very self
aware, and at the sametime they get exhausted from
feeling all of this and feelingeverything all the time. And I
can completely attest to all ofthis, I feel like for me as a
person, I am very compassionateand empathetic to other people
(05:12):
especially. And I do have adegree of self awareness. I know
and I've learned a lot aboutmyself, I'm much more self aware
than I have been ever. But Ialso do get drained and
exhausted by feeling all thefeelings by all the highs and
the lows and being just, youknow, responding to those
emotions and responding to thedifferent situations with my
(05:32):
emotions. So it's notnecessarily a bad thing to be
emotional, not a bad thing tofeel your emotions, it's not a
negative thing to understandwhat's going on around you, and
to respond to what is happeningaround you. So don't be
discouraged. If someone tellsyou that you're being emotional,
(05:54):
you're actually reallycompassionate and empathetic,
and that's a positive thing. AndI titled this episode, go ahead,
be emotion full and emotion fullis actually Of or relating to
your emotion and exhibiting thatemotion. So in a lot of
different readings that I'vedone, emotional is actually not
necessarily the correct word.
(06:19):
When people are telling you thatyou're being emotional. Emotion
full is actually the correctword. And it's basically saying
you're full of emotion, right,you relating to your emotion,
you're exhibiting emotion fromsomething that's going on, you
have a reaction and a responseto whatever is happening around
you. So that's being emotionfull, and I'm like, go for it be
(06:41):
emotion full. So like I said,being emotion full is not
necessarily a bad thing. But itbecomes bad when we are not able
to regulate our emotions. And itdoes affect our day or weeks or
months, it affects a lot ofother areas of our lives. And
our emotions can come outnegatively, if we don't know how
(07:01):
to handle them correctly, andhave positive coping mechanisms
of dealing with our emotions.
The other thing for me is thatmy emotions can really drain me,
like I mentioned earlier. And sohaving ways of dealing with my
emotions and letting them go,especially the negative emotions
is so critical for me, I am sodeeply affected by a lot of
(07:23):
different things positive andnegative. And that comes with
being an emotion full person.
And like I said, I am reallyproud to be emotion full, I
think it's a really positivething. We need to have emotion
for people in this worldcompassionate, empathetic
people, but it becomes reallydraining and it can really
(07:44):
affect us negatively. So how dowe actually deal with our
emotions in a positive way? Howcan we use our emotions in a
positive way? How can we usethem to better ourselves, to
positively impact our lives, tolearn something new about
ourselves, and to make sure thatour emotions do not affect the
rest of our days and our weeksand our months? And it doesn't
(08:06):
affect us long term. And now I'mtalking about negative emotions
here. positive emotions, I'mlike, Yes, let's feel all of
those two, but specifically, I'mtalking about negative emotions
here. So the first thing is toreally take the time to explore
your emotions, rather thandismissing them or someone else
dismissing them by saying thatyou're being too emotional, you
(08:28):
can now correct them and say,No, I'm being to emotion for not
emotional emotion full and fullof my emotions and feeling them
I'm exhibiting exhibiting them.
So don't dismiss those emotions.
Don't sweep them under the rug,don't repress them, repressing
them hold your emotions insideand can create that motion
(08:49):
inside your body, where it cancome out negatively with
depression and anxiety and fearand all of those things. So
don't hold them in. You have tohave a way to release your
emotions and to understand thembetter. So really try to
regulate your emotions ratherthan repress your emotions. And
like I said, Take time toexplore your emotions. Do you
really understand where they'recoming from, take a look at the
(09:13):
impact of what your emotionsare. Emotions are not negative,
but they can become negative ifwe actually don't get ahold of
them and really understand wherethey're coming from what is the
root cause, identify what yourtriggers are, and why you're
feeling the way you're feeling.
Another big part of beingemotion full is actually
accepting your emotions, exceptyour positive emotions, which is
(09:35):
a lot easier to do and acceptyour negative emotions too, in
my opinion, and in myexperience, I am not really able
to handle or deal with myemotions and work through them
until I've actually acceptedthem. I've acknowledged them I
accept them for what they are,and I work through how to let
(09:55):
them go.
And how to work through them ina positive way. So I mentioned
taking time to actually exploreyour feelings. Don't repress
them, try to work towardregulating your emotions,
identify what you're feeling,know what your triggers are with
those emotions, accepting thoseemotions, all of those things
(10:17):
are really important. Butthere's a lot of other ways that
you can deal with your emotionsthat you can handle, and really
address your emotions. Andagain, I'm talking more
specifically about negativeemotions here. And a few things
that I do is actually writing ina journal, getting it out, I
call this basically braindumping, I dump everything
(10:38):
that's in my brain out ontopaper, or even I usually type a
journal. So dumping all of thatout actually opens up more space
in your mind to work throughwhat your emotions are, but also
makes more space for you tointroduce new thoughts and more
positive thoughts. So keeping ajournal, whether it's a digital
(10:58):
journal, a written journal, justbasically brain dumping, writing
it out, getting it out of yourhead, is a really great step of
relieving yourself of thoseemotions, get it out of your
body, get it out of your brain,get it out of your thoughts,
deep breathing, I talked aboutthis in other episodes, but deep
breathing, and actually doingsome breath work can really help
(11:19):
you deal with your emotions,especially if they're related to
anxiety, I use breathingtechniques for anxiety all the
time. And when I feel emotionsheightened, I can feel that
tightness in my chest, I canfeel the tightness of the
tensing of my muscles, I canfeel just the headache coming
on, you know, just the effectsof having anxiety. And so I use
(11:40):
breathing exercises a lot. Andactually, I just learned a new
technique that it's not reallynew, but it's new for me that's
been around, it's calledtapping, tapping meditation. And
tapping meditation is actuallytapping different parts of your
head and your face, even yourcollarbone to actually tap while
you're doing a guidedmeditation, there's actually an
(12:01):
app called tapping, it may becalled tapping meditation or
tapping solution. But if yousearch in Google or Apple,
whatever that is that you have,you can find tapping meditation
solutions, and that actually hasreally helped me. And the
tapping seems to really bringyour mind to focus when you're
doing a guided meditation. Sothat's something that you might
(12:22):
want to try along with breathingexercises, a lot of times we're
dealing with negative emotions,we may actually express
ourselves at the wrong time. Soa big part of being emotion full
is actually knowing when toexpress yourself. So set aside
time to actually expressyourself. Sometimes it's also
(12:42):
not expressing yourself directlyto someone else. You could
express yourself by writing itdown, like we just mentioned,
about writing in a journal. Butyou can also express yourself
through prayer, throughmeditation, through a physical
activity, kickboxing, somethingphysical that kind of gets that
emotion out of you and adifferent way. You can also
(13:05):
express it to your God, yourhigher power, whatever that is
to you, whoever that is to you,but also talking to someone
directly when you're expressingyour emotions. But again, trying
to keep it positive and notnegative, and really getting
control over this. So gettingcontrol is also knowing when
it's appropriate to actuallyexpress yourself and express
(13:25):
those emotions in a positiveway, by setting time aside to
work through them. So this isn'talways easy for everyone,
because sometimes we becomereally impulsive. So this is
where a lot of restraint comesin. And we have to be really
self aware and know how weactually handle our emotions.
What are the behaviors andreactions that we have? And how
(13:46):
can we correct them, so that wecan express ourselves at the
right time and to the rightpeople. So I may have talked
about this technique in aprevious episode, but a way that
you can actually set time asideand compartmentalize your
thoughts and emotions isactually writing it on a post it
note. So when you have thatemotion or when you feel
anything coming up for you, andyou are starting to feel like
(14:08):
you're being emotion full, andit is just not the right time to
express yourself, you could beat work, you could be in the
middle of a disagreement withsomeone you could be at the
grocery store, you could just beanywhere and you need to
actually set time aside, you canwrite it down on a post it note
or it could be a digital post itnote in your phone, write down a
(14:28):
quick note about what you'rethinking what you're feeling,
what is the emotion and what isthe trigger. And when you come
home or when you have quiet timeto yourself, or when you're in a
position where you are able togive that those thoughts and
emotions your full attention.
That's when you can work throughyour emotions. You pull out that
post it note digital posted notewhatever that is that you wrote
(14:49):
it down, pull it out and workthrough that emotion. Think
about it. Understand thetriggers. What made you feel so
emotional or emotionFall about whatever you are
experiencing. And how can youactually know resolve those
emotions so that they don'taffect the rest of your day or
week or month. So this isactually a technique that I
(15:10):
learned while I was in therapy.
And it basically is a way ofcompartmentalizing, it's a way
of putting it on the shelf, andnot letting it take over what
you're doing in the moment, butgiving yourself some time to
then later express it and dealwith it, and handle it in a
positive way, in a constructiveway. When your emotion for a lot
(15:33):
of times, we may thinknegatively about ourselves,
especially if we're thinkingabout negative emotions, or
dealing with anxiety ordepression, or something
negative that's going on in ourlives. So a big thing that we
have to really identify is whatare those negative thoughts? And
how do we turn them intopositive thoughts. So positive
self talk is so critical for usbeing emotion for people, and
(15:57):
actually listening to ourselves,as emotion for people, we are
very compassionate andempathetic to other people. And
we actually listen to otherpeople a lot more than we
actually listened to ourselves.
So we actually need to listen toourselves. Understand, what are
we saying to ourselves, are webeing negative to ourselves,
turn that around and saysomething positive about
yourself. Instead of saying, Oh,I'm so emotional, and I can't
(16:19):
get ahold of my emotions. No,turn that around. And flip the
script, say something positiveto yourself. positive self talk
is so important for us to reallybreak through some of these
negative emotions that we may bedealing with. So instead of
saying, Oh, I'm so emotion fall,or I'm so emotional, like a lot
of people say to us, say I'mproud to be emotional, I'm proud
(16:39):
to be emotional, I'm going to beemotional. But I'm going to deal
with it in a positiveconstructive way. I'm going to
learn better coping mechanismsof how to deal with these
emotions. And the last thing Ireally wanted to touch on was
give yourself some space, giveyourself some time, be gentle to
yourself. I just recently wentthrough some pretty difficult
(17:01):
times, and my emotions are allover the place. And I was
definitely being emotion full, Iwas full of my emotions, I was
exhibiting those emotions, I wasresponding to those emotions.
And those emotions actually heldme down. They kept me from
really enjoying what was kind ofin front of me. And I had to
(17:22):
really be gentle to myself,because I was grieving, I needed
to go through those emotions, Ineeded to address them, I needed
to feel them. I didn't want topush them under the rug, I
didn't want to repress thoseemotions, because repressing
emotions can come out negativelyin other ways. So I needed to
get those emotions out. Andsometimes that takes time.
(17:42):
Second, to be a quick fix, insome cases, especially when
you're dealing with heavierthings, things that are a little
bit deeper, and they hit deeperfor you. So give yourself some
time, give yourself space, begentle, as emotion for people,
like I mentioned, we haveempathy and compassion for so
many other people. When you'rebeing emotional, and you're
(18:04):
dealing with differentsituations, circumstances,
relationships, whatever thosemight be. You also have to have
empathy and compassion foryourself. And I know I have a
difficult time with that. Soit's really even hard for me to
say that right now out loud, butit's true. So be gentle to
yourself, have empathy andcompassion for yourself. And
(18:25):
realize that being emotional isa really beautiful thing. And
understanding where thoseemotions come from is so
important. Being aware,accepting, knowing the ways in
which you can deal with youremotions in a positive way and
knowing when to express thoseemotions. So be proud to be
emotion full, go ahead, beemotion full. I'm proud of being
(18:48):
emotion full. I think we needmore emotion for people out
there. So I hope that thisepisode has helped you. I hope
that you can relate to this. Ifyou have heard the phrase,
you're so emotional, why are youbeing so emotional Stop being so
emotional. I hope this episodehas given you some light that
(19:08):
it's okay to be emotion full.
It's okay to have all of thosefeelings and emotions and deal
with them and respond to them.
But again, it's all aboutknowing positive coping
mechanisms, positive ways ofhandling our emotions. So if you
can relate to this, pleasefollow this podcast so that you
don't miss another episode andshare this podcast with somebody
(19:31):
who may need it. You mayactually want to share this with
someone else who you actuallythink is emotion full. Right?
You may want to give this tosomeone else and tell them about
this episode so that it can helpthem too. So if you need help,
I'm also a mindset and lifecoach and so DM me at Susan Fink
dot rise on Instagram. And youcan also check out my website at
(19:51):
rise mindset calm to connectwith me and to subscribe to my
newsletter as well. And I wantyou to remember
You are not alone in thisjourney. Oftentimes when we do
become really emotion for whenwe're dealing with negative
emotions, especially andespecially anxiety or
depression, things that I'vedealt with, I have felt so
(20:13):
alone. It's one of the biggestreasons why I started this
podcast so that other people donot feel alone in their journey.
So you are not alone. Stayconnected, reach out, there are
solutions out there to help you.
And as you know, my mission isto help as many people as I can,
and I cannot do that withoutyou. So thank you. Thank you.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank youso much for listening. Thank you
for your support and sharingthis podcast to help others and
(20:36):
until next time, I appreciate Iempathize and I am here for you
and we
Hey, everyone, and welcome to the rise with the
light podcast. My name is SusanFink. And this is my weekly
podcast dedicated to supportingfamilies raising children with
special needs. I'm on a missionto provide hope and positivity
through sharing my personalinsights, stories, mindset
perspectives, and ways tonavigate through this journey.
Let's get started.
(00:47):
Hi, there. And thank you so muchfor joining me today, I wanted
to quickly mention as I alwaysdo, please make sure you follow
this podcast so that you don'tmiss another episode. And if
these episodes are helping youplease leave a star rating a
comment or share this podcast tohelp other people. As you know,
my mission is to help as manypeople as I can. And I cannot do
that without you. So thank you,again, so much for being here
today. So let's jump right intothis episode all about being
(01:10):
emotion full. So has anyone evertold you that you're being too
emotional? Or maybe have youtold yourself that you're being
too emotional, I have been toldso many times in my life, that I
am an emotional person that Ifeel emotion very strongly. And
sometimes people have told methat I'm being too emotional
(01:32):
about different situations aboutcircumstances that are going on
that I'm being too emotional.
And quite honestly, that wouldmake me so frustrated, that
would make me even moreemotional, because I'm already
an emotional state. Andsomeone's telling me, I'm being
too emotional. But we have totake a step back for a second.
And I want to dissect this alittle bit. If someone is
telling you that you're beingtoo emotional, I think you need
(01:53):
to consider the source who'stelling you this, maybe that
person is going on the defensiveabout something, and they're
just trying to deflect it backonto you. But consider the
source who is telling you,you're being too emotional. And
what's the problem with beingemotional? Seriously, what is
the problem? A lot of timespeople have told me I'm being
(02:14):
too emotional, primarily as arelates to negative emotions,
where I'm not happy, and I'mhaving anxiety or having issues
or sadness, or depression orthings like that. So a lot of
times people have told me, I'mbeing too emotional, because
they don't like my negativeemotions. But just like being
happy, and having any positiveemotions, just like those are
(02:37):
coming out, negative emotionsalso have to come out. And
oftentimes, when someone istelling you that you're being
too emotional, that can actuallylead to some negative coping
mechanisms of handling youremotions. Some of these negative
coping mechanisms are thingsthat I've done to where I've
completely shut down and I'veinternalized my emotions and
(03:00):
keeping them in, that actuallyis really negative for yourself,
for your body, for your stresslevel, anxiety, depression, all
of those things. So shuttingdown is not a positive way of
dealing with your emotions. Butit is a coping mechanism. If
someone's telling you thatyou're being too emotional. A
lot of times people just smileand pretend that they're okay
and put on a happy face, just tosuppress it around people who
(03:23):
think that they're beingemotional. And a lot of times
this can lead to beingcompletely self conscious, very
insecure, and then we startjudging ourselves negatively. So
dealing with your emotions in anegative way. And with these
negative coping mechanisms isnot healthy at all, holding on
to your emotions inside andstuffing them down inside
(03:43):
actually creates energy insideof your body, and can lead to
depression, anxiety, and justfeeling completely insecure and
unhappy. So these negativecoping mechanisms are not good.
But oftentimes, that's whatwe're left with when someone
does tell us that we're beingtoo emotional, or we're telling
ourselves that we're being tooemotional. So let's take a step
back in what is actually emotionand what is an emotional person.
(04:08):
So emotions are basically thepsychological states that were
brought on by different changesthat are happening. And they are
associated with thoughts,feelings, and behavioral
responses, and a degree ofpleasure or displeasure. So
things that are happy thingsthat are good things that are
bad. So that's basically youremotions, your, the state that
(04:31):
you're brought into dealing withyour thoughts, your feelings,
your behavior, your responses towhatever's going on around you.
Now, let's talk about emotionalpeople. A highly emotional
person is someone who tends tofeel things more deeply and for
maybe longer than a normalperson, an average person. So a
lot of times highly emotionalpeople are often really, really
(04:51):
compassionate people. They'revery empathetic people very self
aware, and at the sametime they get exhausted from
feeling all of this and feelingeverything all the time. And I
can completely attest to all ofthis, I feel like for me as a
person, I am very compassionateand empathetic to other people
(05:12):
especially. And I do have adegree of self awareness. I know
and I've learned a lot aboutmyself, I'm much more self aware
than I have been ever. But Ialso do get drained and
exhausted by feeling all thefeelings by all the highs and
the lows and being just, youknow, responding to those
emotions and responding to thedifferent situations with my
(05:32):
emotions. So it's notnecessarily a bad thing to be
emotional, not a bad thing tofeel your emotions, it's not a
negative thing to understandwhat's going on around you, and
to respond to what is happeningaround you. So don't be
discouraged. If someone tellsyou that you're being emotional,
(05:54):
you're actually reallycompassionate and empathetic,
and that's a positive thing. AndI titled this episode, go ahead,
be emotion full and emotion fullis actually Of or relating to
your emotion and exhibiting thatemotion. So in a lot of
different readings that I'vedone, emotional is actually not
necessarily the correct word.
(06:19):
When people are telling you thatyou're being emotional. Emotion
full is actually the correctword. And it's basically saying
you're full of emotion, right,you relating to your emotion,
you're exhibiting emotion fromsomething that's going on, you
have a reaction and a responseto whatever is happening around
you. So that's being emotionfull, and I'm like, go for it be
(06:41):
emotion full. So like I said,being emotion full is not
necessarily a bad thing. But itbecomes bad when we are not able
to regulate our emotions. And itdoes affect our day or weeks or
months, it affects a lot ofother areas of our lives. And
our emotions can come outnegatively, if we don't know how
(07:01):
to handle them correctly, andhave positive coping mechanisms
of dealing with our emotions.
The other thing for me is thatmy emotions can really drain me,
like I mentioned earlier. And sohaving ways of dealing with my
emotions and letting them go,especially the negative emotions
is so critical for me, I am sodeeply affected by a lot of
(07:23):
different things positive andnegative. And that comes with
being an emotion full person.
And like I said, I am reallyproud to be emotion full, I
think it's a really positivething. We need to have emotion
for people in this worldcompassionate, empathetic
people, but it becomes reallydraining and it can really
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affect us negatively. So how dowe actually deal with our
emotions in a positive way? Howcan we use our emotions in a
positive way? How can we usethem to better ourselves, to
positively impact our lives, tolearn something new about
ourselves, and to make sure thatour emotions do not affect the
rest of our days and our weeksand our months? And it doesn't
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affect us long term. And now I'mtalking about negative emotions
here. positive emotions, I'mlike, Yes, let's feel all of
those two, but specifically, I'mtalking about negative emotions
here. So the first thing is toreally take the time to explore
your emotions, rather thandismissing them or someone else
dismissing them by saying thatyou're being too emotional, you
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can now correct them and say,No, I'm being to emotion for not
emotional emotion full and fullof my emotions and feeling them
I'm exhibiting exhibiting them.
So don't dismiss those emotions.
Don't sweep them under the rug,don't repress them, repressing
them hold your emotions insideand can create that motion
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inside your body, where it cancome out negatively with
depression and anxiety and fearand all of those things. So
don't hold them in. You have tohave a way to release your
emotions and to understand thembetter. So really try to
regulate your emotions ratherthan repress your emotions. And
like I said, Take time toexplore your emotions. Do you
really understand where they'recoming from, take a look at the
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impact of what your emotionsare. Emotions are not negative,
but they can become negative ifwe actually don't get ahold of
them and really understand wherethey're coming from what is the
root cause, identify what yourtriggers are, and why you're
feeling the way you're feeling.
Another big part of beingemotion full is actually
accepting your emotions, exceptyour positive emotions, which is
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a lot easier to do and acceptyour negative emotions too, in
my opinion, and in myexperience, I am not really able
to handle or deal with myemotions and work through them
until I've actually acceptedthem. I've acknowledged them I
accept them for what they are,and I work through how to let
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them go.
And how to work through them ina positive way. So I mentioned
taking time to actually exploreyour feelings. Don't repress
them, try to work towardregulating your emotions,
identify what you're feeling,know what your triggers are with
those emotions, accepting thoseemotions, all of those things
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are really important. Butthere's a lot of other ways that
you can deal with your emotionsthat you can handle, and really
address your emotions. Andagain, I'm talking more
specifically about negativeemotions here. And a few things
that I do is actually writing ina journal, getting it out, I
call this basically braindumping, I dump everything
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that's in my brain out ontopaper, or even I usually type a
journal. So dumping all of thatout actually opens up more space
in your mind to work throughwhat your emotions are, but also
makes more space for you tointroduce new thoughts and more
positive thoughts. So keeping ajournal, whether it's a digital
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journal, a written journal, justbasically brain dumping, writing
it out, getting it out of yourhead, is a really great step of
relieving yourself of thoseemotions, get it out of your
body, get it out of your brain,get it out of your thoughts,
deep breathing, I talked aboutthis in other episodes, but deep
breathing, and actually doingsome breath work can really help
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you deal with your emotions,especially if they're related to
anxiety, I use breathingtechniques for anxiety all the
time. And when I feel emotionsheightened, I can feel that
tightness in my chest, I canfeel the tightness of the
tensing of my muscles, I canfeel just the headache coming
on, you know, just the effectsof having anxiety. And so I use
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breathing exercises a lot. Andactually, I just learned a new
technique that it's not reallynew, but it's new for me that's
been around, it's calledtapping, tapping meditation. And
tapping meditation is actuallytapping different parts of your
head and your face, even yourcollarbone to actually tap while
you're doing a guidedmeditation, there's actually an
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app called tapping, it may becalled tapping meditation or
tapping solution. But if yousearch in Google or Apple,
whatever that is that you have,you can find tapping meditation
solutions, and that actually hasreally helped me. And the
tapping seems to really bringyour mind to focus when you're
doing a guided meditation. Sothat's something that you might
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want to try along with breathingexercises, a lot of times we're
dealing with negative emotions,we may actually express
ourselves at the wrong time. Soa big part of being emotion full
is actually knowing when toexpress yourself. So set aside
time to actually expressyourself. Sometimes it's also
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not expressing yourself directlyto someone else. You could
express yourself by writing itdown, like we just mentioned,
about writing in a journal. Butyou can also express yourself
through prayer, throughmeditation, through a physical
activity, kickboxing, somethingphysical that kind of gets that
emotion out of you and adifferent way. You can also
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express it to your God, yourhigher power, whatever that is
to you, whoever that is to you,but also talking to someone
directly when you're expressingyour emotions. But again, trying
to keep it positive and notnegative, and really getting
control over this. So gettingcontrol is also knowing when
it's appropriate to actuallyexpress yourself and express
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those emotions in a positiveway, by setting time aside to
work through them. So this isn'talways easy for everyone,
because sometimes we becomereally impulsive. So this is
where a lot of restraint comesin. And we have to be really
self aware and know how weactually handle our emotions.
What are the behaviors andreactions that we have? And how
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can we correct them, so that wecan express ourselves at the
right time and to the rightpeople. So I may have talked
about this technique in aprevious episode, but a way that
you can actually set time asideand compartmentalize your
thoughts and emotions isactually writing it on a post it
note. So when you have thatemotion or when you feel
anything coming up for you, andyou are starting to feel like
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you're being emotion full, andit is just not the right time to
express yourself, you could beat work, you could be in the
middle of a disagreement withsomeone you could be at the
grocery store, you could just beanywhere and you need to
actually set time aside, you canwrite it down on a post it note
or it could be a digital post itnote in your phone, write down a
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quick note about what you'rethinking what you're feeling,
what is the emotion and what isthe trigger. And when you come
home or when you have quiet timeto yourself, or when you're in a
position where you are able togive that those thoughts and
emotions your full attention.
That's when you can work throughyour emotions. You pull out that
post it note digital posted notewhatever that is that you wrote
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it down, pull it out and workthrough that emotion. Think
about it. Understand thetriggers. What made you feel so
emotional or emotionFall about whatever you are
experiencing. And how can youactually know resolve those
emotions so that they don'taffect the rest of your day or
week or month. So this isactually a technique that I
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learned while I was in therapy.
And it basically is a way ofcompartmentalizing, it's a way
of putting it on the shelf, andnot letting it take over what
you're doing in the moment, butgiving yourself some time to
then later express it and dealwith it, and handle it in a
positive way, in a constructiveway. When your emotion for a lot
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of times, we may thinknegatively about ourselves,
especially if we're thinkingabout negative emotions, or
dealing with anxiety ordepression, or something
negative that's going on in ourlives. So a big thing that we
have to really identify is whatare those negative thoughts? And
how do we turn them intopositive thoughts. So positive
self talk is so critical for usbeing emotion for people, and
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actually listening to ourselves,as emotion for people, we are
very compassionate andempathetic to other people. And
we actually listen to otherpeople a lot more than we
actually listened to ourselves.
So we actually need to listen toourselves. Understand, what are
we saying to ourselves, are webeing negative to ourselves,
turn that around and saysomething positive about
yourself. Instead of saying, Oh,I'm so emotional, and I can't
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get ahold of my emotions. No,turn that around. And flip the
script, say something positiveto yourself. positive self talk
is so important for us to reallybreak through some of these
negative emotions that we may bedealing with. So instead of
saying, Oh, I'm so emotion fall,or I'm so emotional, like a lot
of people say to us, say I'mproud to be emotional, I'm proud
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to be emotional, I'm going to beemotional. But I'm going to deal
with it in a positiveconstructive way. I'm going to
learn better coping mechanismsof how to deal with these
emotions. And the last thing Ireally wanted to touch on was
give yourself some space, giveyourself some time, be gentle to
yourself. I just recently wentthrough some pretty difficult
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times, and my emotions are allover the place. And I was
definitely being emotion full, Iwas full of my emotions, I was
exhibiting those emotions, I wasresponding to those emotions.
And those emotions actually heldme down. They kept me from
really enjoying what was kind ofin front of me. And I had to
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really be gentle to myself,because I was grieving, I needed
to go through those emotions, Ineeded to address them, I needed
to feel them. I didn't want topush them under the rug, I
didn't want to repress thoseemotions, because repressing
emotions can come out negativelyin other ways. So I needed to
get those emotions out. Andsometimes that takes time.
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Second, to be a quick fix, insome cases, especially when
you're dealing with heavierthings, things that are a little
bit deeper, and they hit deeperfor you. So give yourself some
time, give yourself space, begentle, as emotion for people,
like I mentioned, we haveempathy and compassion for so
many other people. When you'rebeing emotional, and you're
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dealing with differentsituations, circumstances,
relationships, whatever thosemight be. You also have to have
empathy and compassion foryourself. And I know I have a
difficult time with that. Soit's really even hard for me to
say that right now out loud, butit's true. So be gentle to
yourself, have empathy andcompassion for yourself. And
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realize that being emotional isa really beautiful thing. And
understanding where thoseemotions come from is so
important. Being aware,accepting, knowing the ways in
which you can deal with youremotions in a positive way and
knowing when to express thoseemotions. So be proud to be
emotion full, go ahead, beemotion full. I'm proud of being
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emotion full. I think we needmore emotion for people out
there. So I hope that thisepisode has helped you. I hope
that you can relate to this. Ifyou have heard the phrase,
you're so emotional, why are youbeing so emotional Stop being so
emotional. I hope this episodehas given you some light that
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it's okay to be emotion full.
It's okay to have all of thosefeelings and emotions and deal
with them and respond to them.
But again, it's all aboutknowing positive coping
mechanisms, positive ways ofhandling our emotions. So if you
can relate to this, pleasefollow this podcast so that you
don't miss another episode andshare this podcast with somebody
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who may need it. You mayactually want to share this with
someone else who you actuallythink is emotion full. Right?
You may want to give this tosomeone else and tell them about
this episode so that it can helpthem too. So if you need help,
I'm also a mindset and lifecoach and so DM me at Susan Fink
dot rise on Instagram. And youcan also check out my website at
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rise mindset calm to connectwith me and to subscribe to my
newsletter as well. And I wantyou to remember
You are not alone in thisjourney. Oftentimes when we do
become really emotion for whenwe're dealing with negative
emotions, especially andespecially anxiety or
depression, things that I'vedealt with, I have felt so
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alone. It's one of the biggestreasons why I started this
podcast so that other people donot feel alone in their journey.
So you are not alone. Stayconnected, reach out, there are
solutions out there to help you.
And as you know, my mission isto help as many people as I can,
and I cannot do that withoutyou. So thank you. Thank you.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank youso much for listening. Thank you
for your support and sharingthis podcast to help others and
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until next time, I appreciate Iempathize and I am here for you
and we
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