S9. Episode 6: Divorce with Children with Donna C. Moss

Ever heard of Baby Einstein, Inside Out, or Mom’s House, Dad’s House? Join us for a fascinating discussion about all of this and more with psychotherapist, Donna C. Moss, who specializes in working with kids and teens of divorce. We discuss the notion of the parentalized child, and Donna emphasizes the importance of buying a pair of shoes for each household, not nesting, maintaining consistency, and getting kids connected to therapy so as to not “lock up” their feelings and instead assert their agency. Both Corey and Tracy have a lot to share about their personal experiences, particularly Tracy’s haphazard approach to life and Corey’s assertion she came out of the womb with a to-do list. In the end, they all agree it’s important to pay great attention to children’s thoughts, feelings, and reactions during the divorce process and get any help or support you can for them as they move through their own journeys, contending with the monumental changes that divorce brings. Show Notes: Baby Einstein-Learn more about this brand of children’s interactive learning products, many of which incorporate classical music. Children's Bill of Rights in Divorce-Read this list of rights asserted by children experiencing divorce. Internal Family Systems Therapy-Learn more about this type of therapy that helps people explore different wounded parts of their personality. Anger Wheel-Check out this book for kids called Sophia’s Anger Wheel of Choice to help children explore their feelings around anger. Feeling Wheel-Want to go deeper in your emotional exploration and find the words that describe exactly how you are feeling? Use the Feeling Wheel to get there! Mom’s House, Dad’s House-Check out this book with tools, resources, checklists, and more to help kids through divorce. The Co-Parenting Toolkit-Find out more about best practices in co-parenting. Inside Out-Check out this animated movie about how a young girl navigates her emotions after moving. Donna C. Moss-Learn more about Donna and her self-paced course for parents and therapists working with teens.