May 15, 2025 • 18 mins
What if the biggest obstacle to your reinvention wasn’t your skills, money, or time—but your mindset?
In this episode of Rock Your Reinvention, we’re diving into 5️⃣ practical strategies to help you shift from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset—because real transformation starts in your head. Whether you’re pivoting careers, starting a business, or just craving more fulfillment, these tools will help you stay resilient, confident, and aligned with your goals.
You’ll learn how to:
✅ Embrace challenges and turn failure into feedback
✅ Practice your growth mindset in real time
✅ Focus on consistent effort (not instant results)
✅ Ask for help without guilt or shame
✅ Surround yourself with people who elevate your thinking
If you’ve been stuck in self-doubt or waiting for the “perfect moment,” this episode is your wake-up call. Your mindset is the most powerful (and free!) tool you have. Let’s put it to work.
Key Takeaway:
🧠 Your growth mindset is your secret weapon in reinvention. With intention and daily practice, you can overcome self-doubt, embrace challenges, and create the life and career you truly want.
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If you're looking for additional support through coaching, visit my website to learn more about working together and my signature program EDIT Your Life™: www.karinfreeland.com/life-coaching
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Karin Freeland (00:00):
Welcome to Rock Your Reinvention, where I help
high-achieving career women likeyou get unstuck, make your
corporate exit strategy, andsuccessfully transition to your
next chapter.
Hi, I'm your host, KarinFreeland, a certified life coach
and corporate exit strategist.
Whether you want to start abusiness, become a speaker, or
something else, I'm here to giveyou the tools and strategies to
(00:23):
shift your mindset, build yourconfidence, and take bold
actions so you can rock yourreinvention.
Ready?
Let's go.
What if I told you the biggestthing holding you back from your
reinvention isn't your resume,your bank account, or even your
time?
(00:43):
It's your mindset.
This might surprise you, butone of the most important tools
you need to rock any reinventionis a growth mindset.
Yes, you heard me correctly.
that's why I dedicated anentire chapter of Grab Life by
the Dreams to developing agrowth mindset because if you
(01:06):
can operate consistently from agrowth mindset then you're going
to be far more successful andactually enjoy the journey of
your transformation than if youstay in that fixed mindset it
probably sounds like ano-brainer right?
I mean on the surface this isall very logical and it makes a
ton of sense.
But the issue is that when youhit a challenge or a roadblock
(01:29):
during your reinvention, you areprobably going to default into
what you have been conditionedto do for most of your life,
which is to jump right into thatfixed mindset while things are
difficult.
So that old inner critic startsto chime in, right?
I knew this wasn't gonna work.
I knew you didn't have theskills to achieve this goal,
(01:53):
right?
And we just beat ourselves up,fixed thinking.
What I believe a fixed mindsetis more often than not is a
defense mechanism, right?
It's something that we use tokeep us safe or to save face,
even if it's just in our ownmind.
But now that you know theimportance of a growth mindset,
(02:16):
you can take some very specificsteps to cultivate one for
yourself.
And I wanna share five waysthat I have found and that have
worked with my clients to helpdevelop a growth mindset.
And I wanna take you throughthose today.
Okay, the first thing I wannatake you through is embracing
challenges and befriendingfailure.
(02:40):
Let me break down each of thesefor you.
Embracing challenges.
When you face a difficultsituation, and let's be clear,
when you're going through anyreinvention, you will face
difficult times.
I want you to look at this asan opportunity for growth.
What can you learn from thisexperience?
(03:02):
And that learning will besomething that stays with you
forever, right?
This then expands your skillset and what you bring to the
table as a human being.
You know, Tony Robbins did someresearch on what he calls the
six human needs.
And one of those needs isgrowth.
(03:25):
That is something that everyoneneeds in their life.
It's not a want.
It's not a nice to have.
No, no.
It is a basic need for everyhuman.
And it makes so much sensebecause if we aren't growing,
then what are we?
We're stagnant.
We're stuck.
And that doesn't feel verygood.
(03:45):
So it's really critical if youwant to rock your reinvention
that you start to embrace thesechallenges and see them as areas
of opportunity for growth.
The second piece of this isbefriending failure.
And you might be like, Karin,why would you suggest this?
Why would I become friends withmy failure?
(04:06):
And I know it might seem likecrazy talk, but I really
encourage you to love yourfailures just as much as your
success.
Because it's in the failuresthat we learn and grow.
And we just got done talkingabout the importance of growth.
One of my big failures early inmy career was back when I was
(04:26):
in corporate, I was a sales repcame as a result of me lying to
a client to get them on a call.
So I call this it director andI kept saying, you know, it's
Karin from T-Mobile and hewouldn't return my calls.
He wouldn't pick up the phone.
So one day I got this brilliantidea to say, I'm Emily from
Microsoft.
And I'm so embarrassed.
I can't believe I did that, butI did.
(04:48):
And he gets on the phone andI'm like, Oh, Hey, I'm like,
have you been ignoring my calls?
I'm like, this is Karin fromT-Mobile.
And let me tell you why heripped me a new one.
The whole deal blew up in myface.
I never got the client and itwas an incredibly painful
experience.
It was a big failure, but youknow what?
I learned so much and I am soglad that it taught me that very
(05:13):
valuable lesson that integrityis more important than getting
the sale.
And I'm glad I learned it whenI did.
So by becoming friends with myfailure, I could ensure that it
didn't happen again.
Your failures are justfeedback, right?
They're not death sentences.
(05:34):
And so often we treat them likeit's going to end our career.
You know, I went on to have avery successful sales career,
both at T-Mobile and at othercompanies before I climbed my
way to chief of staff and otherroles.
It was not the end of theworld, but again, it taught me
something.
And so learn to love thosefailures, embrace those
(05:55):
failures.
And here's what I'll say.
Sometimes the failures areblessings in disguise.
You know, sometimes I wonder,if my first book, my memoir, you
know, wasn't that successfulbecause actually God was saving
me from going down a path thatwasn't good for me anyway.
And I fully believe that thatis part of the reason why I
(06:17):
achieved the level of successthat I did, but it didn't really
go any further.
And so I can be thankful forthat.
I can be thankful for thoseso-called failures.
It didn't achieve the level ofsuccess that I was hoping for,
that I was thinking it wouldreach, but maybe that was
actually a blessing in disguiseso that I could be available for
other things.
(06:38):
We have to always be lookingfor those silver linings.
Now that you've embraced thechallenges and you've befriended
failure, the second thing Iwant you to practice is your
growth mindset.
You have to actually put thisinto practice.
You can't just read about agrowth mindset or listen to this
podcast episode and expect towake up tomorrow and be like,
(06:58):
yeah, I'm super positive and Ihave a great growth mindset.
No, you have to actually catchyourself when you're in a fixed
thinking mode and actively shiftyourself out of it, right?
There is work here that needsto be done.
It's not just about being awareof it, but then what do we do
when we're aware?
I recently invested in a townhome so that we could rent it
(07:22):
out as an additional revenuestream.
And more than once I foundmyself wanting to throw my hands
in the air and walk away.
You know, we hit snags.
I ran into situations where Iwasn't sure what to do next.
There were nights I sat on thefloor surrounded by all these
legal documents and paperwork.
And I'm like, what am I doing?
Why did I get myself into this?
(07:43):
And that's when I knew I'mlike, wait a second, I'm in
fixed thinking again.
I gotta practice my growthmindset.
And so I would simply, it'svery easy, I would just ask
myself, what would my growthmindset say?
How would I react if I wasoperating in a growth mindset
right now?
(08:03):
And I would instantly find away forward.
Every single time I'd be like,oh, I know, I'll ask a friend.
Oh, I know, I'll research it onGoogle.
Oh, I'll consult with myrealtor on this.
She might know what to do next.
There was always something Icould do to recalibrate my
thinking and my approach.
And the same is gonna be truefor you.
(08:24):
When you catch yourselfslipping into that fixed
mindset, you wanna activelyshift into a growth mindset by
asking yourself just a couple ofthose simple questions.
It's not rocket science, butthe thing is most of us are too
busy to recognize we're in afixed mindset or we're too busy
(08:45):
to pause and take the time toask ourselves those questions
and to think through what thenext steps are going to be.
But if you do this, I promiseyou, you're going to develop a
growth mindset faster than youcan say growth mindset.
It will really start to becomesecond nature for you.
The third way you can build outyour growth mindset is to focus
(09:09):
on effort.
Definitely in our society, wecelebrate natural talent.
When something comes easy, wejust assume, oh, they're a
prodigy.
That person is so good.
They're so talented, right?
But if we struggle to acquire askill or understand a concept,
(09:30):
then we think, oh, we must notbe cut out for it.
Oh, we're just not that good.
We're not that talented.
We're not that smart.
But the growth mindset alwayssays the opposite.
It says success comes from hardwork, from dedication, and
perseverance.
And it's that last one,perseverance, that I think is
(09:54):
the biggest issue in today'sculture, at least in what I see
with my clients, right?
We're in a world whereeverybody wants to be an
overnight success, right?
And that's what it seems to beon social media.
All of a sudden, this personjust blows up.
They have 100,000 followers,and they're making a million
dollars.
And you're like, what is goingon?
So we struggle when we're notas far along as we think we
(10:16):
should be or as others appear tobe.
We might wonder why our bigbreak hasn't come yet.
And then we end up giving upfar too early.
But often the things that areworth working for, they take
time to come to fruition.
I've been in business for fiveyears.
I'm still not where I want tobe, but I'm happy where I am
(10:38):
because I know it's right whereI'm supposed to be.
This is exactly where God wantsme right now at this moment in
history.
Now, if you're not putting inthe effort to acquire a skill or
to improve whatever it is orreach that goal that you're
trying to achieve, then that's adifferent story, right?
(11:00):
Because then it's very easy toget tactical and go, okay, what
are the things that that youshould be doing right now to
make sure that you're advancingthe ball, right?
What do you need to do toensure that you're staying
motivated, that you're on taskor putting the right tools and
resources in place?
(11:20):
So for example, if you'restarting a business, but you
only log on one hour a day, Ican tell you right now, you're
not putting in enough effort foryour business to be successful.
It has nothing to do withtalent.
If however, you're putting inan eight hour day, five days a
week, and you're not gettingclients, then we have another
issue.
You're putting in the propereffort in that scenario, but it
(11:44):
isn't translating, right?
But we got to stop focusing onnatural talent or things just
coming easy.
If something's a struggle, thatdoesn't mean you're not cut out
for it.
So operating from a growthmindset means we focus on
effort, not just talent.
The fourth thing you can do ifyou want to cultivate a growth
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mindset, and this I know mightmake some of you cringe, but
start asking for help.
Yeah, it's that easy.
One thing that a woman with agrowth mindset does is asks for
help.
She doesn't struggle in silenceor pretend she knows it all.
Because see, your ego and yourfixed mindset tell you that if
(12:29):
you ask for help, oh, thenyou're weak.
Or someone might think you'redumb.
Like, how did you not knowthat?
What a stupid question.
But that's not really true.
The ones that achieve the mostsuccess are the women who are
courageous enough to speak upand get support.
So what if instead ofpretending that you knew how to
(12:52):
build that business website, youjust posted in Facebook and
asked somebody and foundsomebody who loves that stuff
and could answer all yourquestions?
Wouldn't that be a godsend?
What do you need to ask forhelp right now in your life or
in your career?
Pinpoint it, write it down, andI want you to commit to asking
for help in the next 24 hours.
(13:13):
How's that for an actionabletip?
Gotta put this stuff into play.
Ask for help.
I just did this the other day.
I'm doing a keynote later thismonth and someone was asking,
they were asking to see mypresentation.
They want to basically hear thespeech before I give it live.
(13:34):
So I went into a Facebook groupand I just asked a bunch of
women who are already speakers,like, Hey, how do you handle
this?
Do you record a video?
Do you set it up on zoom andjust invite them to come to like
a mini talk?
Like, how do you do this?
Um, and so I got a ton offeedback from other women who
were speakers and then I couldfigure out my path forward based
on all of that information.
We don't have to figure thisout on our own ladies.
(13:56):
There's other people who canhelp us.
achieve our goals, rock ourreinvention, but you have to be
willing to ask for help.
And if you are in fixedmindset, you will not ask for
help because you will just staythere and wallow in it.
But if you are truly operatingfrom growth mindset, you will
have no problem raising yourhand and asking someone for
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assistance.
All right, my last tip, numberfive, is to check your circle.
I'm sure I've said this on theshow before, but according to
Jim Rohn, you are the average ofthe five people you spend the
most time with.
So it is critical to surroundyourself with people who have a
growth mindset.
(14:38):
If you're constantly aroundcoworkers or family members who
have a fixed mindset, this isgoing to massively hinder you.
If you want to become anentrepreneur and no one else in
your family is an entrepreneurand no one believes that you can
be an entrepreneur, that'sgoing to be a really hard uphill
(14:58):
battle.
And we can't always cut thesepeople out of our lives.
I mean, I guess you could, butsometimes we don't want to cut
these people out of our lives.
Maybe we can limit some of ourinteraction with them.
But one of the ways that I liketo look at it and the way I
typically work with my clientsis that we can expand our circle
so that we start to spend moretime with people who do have a
(15:21):
growth mindset, or in this case,who are entrepreneurs, who can
uplift us and support us.
And that's why I created myFacebook group, Successful
Working Women RackingReinvention, so that you would
have a place to connect withother women going through
similar challenges, who aregoing through different life
changes.
So I encourage you, if you'renot in the Facebook group, get
(15:41):
in there, come to one of ournetworking events, get to know
the women in there and justwatch how your life and your
goals start to come to fruition,right?
Your life starts to change.
Things start to happen for youwhen you get in close proximity
of empowered women, okay?
There's something reallypowerful about that.
(16:02):
So come be with us because yourcircle is everything.
I've said this before for sure.
Your network is your net worth.
So you've got to expand yournetwork.
You've got to have more peoplein your circle who are doing the
types of things that you wantto be doing because it's going
to motivate you.
You're going to be like, oh,this is possible.
There's other people doing it.
(16:23):
And I always think if someoneelse can do it, then surely I'm
capable.
I was thinking that withrenting the townhome.
with being a landlord now andhaving a rental property.
I'm like, there's so manypeople I know that have rental
properties.
Like surely I can be as smartand talented as them.
Like surely they're not theonly ones who can figure this
(16:45):
out.
We just have to have thatbelief in ourself.
And that comes with the growthmindset.
So let's do a quick recap.
If you are ready to put thisinto play, you need to one,
embrace those challenges andbefriend failure.
Two, practice your growthmindset on a regular basis.
This needs to be a consistentway of living.
(17:07):
You need to three, focus oneffort.
It's not just about talent.
It may take some time for youto grasp something.
That's okay.
It doesn't mean it's not foryou.
You can figure this out.
Number four, start asking forhelp.
Number five, check your circle.
Get around those people who aregonna uplift you and help you
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achieve your goals.
Well, that does it for thisepisode.
Trying to reinvent your lifewithout a growth mindset is kind
of like trying to drive a carwithout a steering wheel, okay?
You just, you can't do it.
So if you haven't beenprioritizing your mindset, that
needs to shift today.
And the good news is, this isthe best part.
(17:48):
It costs you nothing to changeyour mindset and you have 100%
control over it.
That's what makes this such apowerful tool.
That's what makes you sounstoppable when you have a
growth mindset.
And look, if you don't have acopy of my book yet, grab Life
by the Dreams.
It's available,karenfreeland.com forward slash
(18:09):
dreams.
Get yours now.
It's a very small investmentthat will help shift your
mindset forever.
So do yourself a favor and geta copy today.
Thanks for tuning in.
I hope you're inspired to takeaction by committing to one of
the tips or strategies we talkedabout in today's episode.
If you want more accountabilityand support, I've got your
(18:32):
back.
Book a complimentary empoweredexit strategy call today.
Visit karinfreeland.com tolearn more and book your
45-minute session.
Welcome to Rock Your Reinvention, where I help
high-achieving career women likeyou get unstuck, make your
corporate exit strategy, andsuccessfully transition to your
next chapter.
Hi, I'm your host, KarinFreeland, a certified life coach
and corporate exit strategist.
Whether you want to start abusiness, become a speaker, or
something else, I'm here to giveyou the tools and strategies to
(00:23):
shift your mindset, build yourconfidence, and take bold
actions so you can rock yourreinvention.
Ready?
Let's go.
What if I told you the biggestthing holding you back from your
reinvention isn't your resume,your bank account, or even your
time?
(00:43):
It's your mindset.
This might surprise you, butone of the most important tools
you need to rock any reinventionis a growth mindset.
Yes, you heard me correctly.
that's why I dedicated anentire chapter of Grab Life by
the Dreams to developing agrowth mindset because if you
(01:06):
can operate consistently from agrowth mindset then you're going
to be far more successful andactually enjoy the journey of
your transformation than if youstay in that fixed mindset it
probably sounds like ano-brainer right?
I mean on the surface this isall very logical and it makes a
ton of sense.
But the issue is that when youhit a challenge or a roadblock
(01:29):
during your reinvention, you areprobably going to default into
what you have been conditionedto do for most of your life,
which is to jump right into thatfixed mindset while things are
difficult.
So that old inner critic startsto chime in, right?
I knew this wasn't gonna work.
I knew you didn't have theskills to achieve this goal,
(01:53):
right?
And we just beat ourselves up,fixed thinking.
What I believe a fixed mindsetis more often than not is a
defense mechanism, right?
It's something that we use tokeep us safe or to save face,
even if it's just in our ownmind.
But now that you know theimportance of a growth mindset,
(02:16):
you can take some very specificsteps to cultivate one for
yourself.
And I wanna share five waysthat I have found and that have
worked with my clients to helpdevelop a growth mindset.
And I wanna take you throughthose today.
Okay, the first thing I wannatake you through is embracing
challenges and befriendingfailure.
(02:40):
Let me break down each of thesefor you.
Embracing challenges.
When you face a difficultsituation, and let's be clear,
when you're going through anyreinvention, you will face
difficult times.
I want you to look at this asan opportunity for growth.
What can you learn from thisexperience?
(03:02):
And that learning will besomething that stays with you
forever, right?
This then expands your skillset and what you bring to the
table as a human being.
You know, Tony Robbins did someresearch on what he calls the
six human needs.
And one of those needs isgrowth.
(03:25):
That is something that everyoneneeds in their life.
It's not a want.
It's not a nice to have.
No, no.
It is a basic need for everyhuman.
And it makes so much sensebecause if we aren't growing,
then what are we?
We're stagnant.
We're stuck.
And that doesn't feel verygood.
(03:45):
So it's really critical if youwant to rock your reinvention
that you start to embrace thesechallenges and see them as areas
of opportunity for growth.
The second piece of this isbefriending failure.
And you might be like, Karin,why would you suggest this?
Why would I become friends withmy failure?
(04:06):
And I know it might seem likecrazy talk, but I really
encourage you to love yourfailures just as much as your
success.
Because it's in the failuresthat we learn and grow.
And we just got done talkingabout the importance of growth.
One of my big failures early inmy career was back when I was
(04:26):
in corporate, I was a sales repcame as a result of me lying to
a client to get them on a call.
So I call this it director andI kept saying, you know, it's
Karin from T-Mobile and hewouldn't return my calls.
He wouldn't pick up the phone.
So one day I got this brilliantidea to say, I'm Emily from
Microsoft.
And I'm so embarrassed.
I can't believe I did that, butI did.
(04:48):
And he gets on the phone andI'm like, Oh, Hey, I'm like,
have you been ignoring my calls?
I'm like, this is Karin fromT-Mobile.
And let me tell you why heripped me a new one.
The whole deal blew up in myface.
I never got the client and itwas an incredibly painful
experience.
It was a big failure, but youknow what?
I learned so much and I am soglad that it taught me that very
(05:13):
valuable lesson that integrityis more important than getting
the sale.
And I'm glad I learned it whenI did.
So by becoming friends with myfailure, I could ensure that it
didn't happen again.
Your failures are justfeedback, right?
They're not death sentences.
(05:34):
And so often we treat them likeit's going to end our career.
You know, I went on to have avery successful sales career,
both at T-Mobile and at othercompanies before I climbed my
way to chief of staff and otherroles.
It was not the end of theworld, but again, it taught me
something.
And so learn to love thosefailures, embrace those
(05:55):
failures.
And here's what I'll say.
Sometimes the failures areblessings in disguise.
You know, sometimes I wonder,if my first book, my memoir, you
know, wasn't that successfulbecause actually God was saving
me from going down a path thatwasn't good for me anyway.
And I fully believe that thatis part of the reason why I
(06:17):
achieved the level of successthat I did, but it didn't really
go any further.
And so I can be thankful forthat.
I can be thankful for thoseso-called failures.
It didn't achieve the level ofsuccess that I was hoping for,
that I was thinking it wouldreach, but maybe that was
actually a blessing in disguiseso that I could be available for
other things.
(06:38):
We have to always be lookingfor those silver linings.
Now that you've embraced thechallenges and you've befriended
failure, the second thing Iwant you to practice is your
growth mindset.
You have to actually put thisinto practice.
You can't just read about agrowth mindset or listen to this
podcast episode and expect towake up tomorrow and be like,
(06:58):
yeah, I'm super positive and Ihave a great growth mindset.
No, you have to actually catchyourself when you're in a fixed
thinking mode and actively shiftyourself out of it, right?
There is work here that needsto be done.
It's not just about being awareof it, but then what do we do
when we're aware?
I recently invested in a townhome so that we could rent it
(07:22):
out as an additional revenuestream.
And more than once I foundmyself wanting to throw my hands
in the air and walk away.
You know, we hit snags.
I ran into situations where Iwasn't sure what to do next.
There were nights I sat on thefloor surrounded by all these
legal documents and paperwork.
And I'm like, what am I doing?
Why did I get myself into this?
(07:43):
And that's when I knew I'mlike, wait a second, I'm in
fixed thinking again.
I gotta practice my growthmindset.
And so I would simply, it'svery easy, I would just ask
myself, what would my growthmindset say?
How would I react if I wasoperating in a growth mindset
right now?
(08:03):
And I would instantly find away forward.
Every single time I'd be like,oh, I know, I'll ask a friend.
Oh, I know, I'll research it onGoogle.
Oh, I'll consult with myrealtor on this.
She might know what to do next.
There was always something Icould do to recalibrate my
thinking and my approach.
And the same is gonna be truefor you.
(08:24):
When you catch yourselfslipping into that fixed
mindset, you wanna activelyshift into a growth mindset by
asking yourself just a couple ofthose simple questions.
It's not rocket science, butthe thing is most of us are too
busy to recognize we're in afixed mindset or we're too busy
(08:45):
to pause and take the time toask ourselves those questions
and to think through what thenext steps are going to be.
But if you do this, I promiseyou, you're going to develop a
growth mindset faster than youcan say growth mindset.
It will really start to becomesecond nature for you.
The third way you can build outyour growth mindset is to focus
(09:09):
on effort.
Definitely in our society, wecelebrate natural talent.
When something comes easy, wejust assume, oh, they're a
prodigy.
That person is so good.
They're so talented, right?
But if we struggle to acquire askill or understand a concept,
(09:30):
then we think, oh, we must notbe cut out for it.
Oh, we're just not that good.
We're not that talented.
We're not that smart.
But the growth mindset alwayssays the opposite.
It says success comes from hardwork, from dedication, and
perseverance.
And it's that last one,perseverance, that I think is
(09:54):
the biggest issue in today'sculture, at least in what I see
with my clients, right?
We're in a world whereeverybody wants to be an
overnight success, right?
And that's what it seems to beon social media.
All of a sudden, this personjust blows up.
They have 100,000 followers,and they're making a million
dollars.
And you're like, what is goingon?
So we struggle when we're notas far along as we think we
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should be or as others appear tobe.
We might wonder why our bigbreak hasn't come yet.
And then we end up giving upfar too early.
But often the things that areworth working for, they take
time to come to fruition.
I've been in business for fiveyears.
I'm still not where I want tobe, but I'm happy where I am
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because I know it's right whereI'm supposed to be.
This is exactly where God wantsme right now at this moment in
history.
Now, if you're not putting inthe effort to acquire a skill or
to improve whatever it is orreach that goal that you're
trying to achieve, then that's adifferent story, right?
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Because then it's very easy toget tactical and go, okay, what
are the things that that youshould be doing right now to
make sure that you're advancingthe ball, right?
What do you need to do toensure that you're staying
motivated, that you're on taskor putting the right tools and
resources in place?
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So for example, if you'restarting a business, but you
only log on one hour a day, Ican tell you right now, you're
not putting in enough effort foryour business to be successful.
It has nothing to do withtalent.
If however, you're putting inan eight hour day, five days a
week, and you're not gettingclients, then we have another
issue.
You're putting in the propereffort in that scenario, but it
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isn't translating, right?
But we got to stop focusing onnatural talent or things just
coming easy.
If something's a struggle, thatdoesn't mean you're not cut out
for it.
So operating from a growthmindset means we focus on
effort, not just talent.
The fourth thing you can do ifyou want to cultivate a growth
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mindset, and this I know mightmake some of you cringe, but
start asking for help.
Yeah, it's that easy.
One thing that a woman with agrowth mindset does is asks for
help.
She doesn't struggle in silenceor pretend she knows it all.
Because see, your ego and yourfixed mindset tell you that if
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you ask for help, oh, thenyou're weak.
Or someone might think you'redumb.
Like, how did you not knowthat?
What a stupid question.
But that's not really true.
The ones that achieve the mostsuccess are the women who are
courageous enough to speak upand get support.
So what if instead ofpretending that you knew how to
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build that business website, youjust posted in Facebook and
asked somebody and foundsomebody who loves that stuff
and could answer all yourquestions?
Wouldn't that be a godsend?
What do you need to ask forhelp right now in your life or
in your career?
Pinpoint it, write it down, andI want you to commit to asking
for help in the next 24 hours.
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How's that for an actionabletip?
Gotta put this stuff into play.
Ask for help.
I just did this the other day.
I'm doing a keynote later thismonth and someone was asking,
they were asking to see mypresentation.
They want to basically hear thespeech before I give it live.
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So I went into a Facebook groupand I just asked a bunch of
women who are already speakers,like, Hey, how do you handle
this?
Do you record a video?
Do you set it up on zoom andjust invite them to come to like
a mini talk?
Like, how do you do this?
Um, and so I got a ton offeedback from other women who
were speakers and then I couldfigure out my path forward based
on all of that information.
We don't have to figure thisout on our own ladies.
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There's other people who canhelp us.
achieve our goals, rock ourreinvention, but you have to be
willing to ask for help.
And if you are in fixedmindset, you will not ask for
help because you will just staythere and wallow in it.
But if you are truly operatingfrom growth mindset, you will
have no problem raising yourhand and asking someone for
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assistance.
All right, my last tip, numberfive, is to check your circle.
I'm sure I've said this on theshow before, but according to
Jim Rohn, you are the average ofthe five people you spend the
most time with.
So it is critical to surroundyourself with people who have a
growth mindset.
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If you're constantly aroundcoworkers or family members who
have a fixed mindset, this isgoing to massively hinder you.
If you want to become anentrepreneur and no one else in
your family is an entrepreneurand no one believes that you can
be an entrepreneur, that'sgoing to be a really hard uphill
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battle.
And we can't always cut thesepeople out of our lives.
I mean, I guess you could, butsometimes we don't want to cut
these people out of our lives.
Maybe we can limit some of ourinteraction with them.
But one of the ways that I liketo look at it and the way I
typically work with my clientsis that we can expand our circle
so that we start to spend moretime with people who do have a
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growth mindset, or in this case,who are entrepreneurs, who can
uplift us and support us.
And that's why I created myFacebook group, Successful
Working Women RackingReinvention, so that you would
have a place to connect withother women going through
similar challenges, who aregoing through different life
changes.
So I encourage you, if you'renot in the Facebook group, get
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in there, come to one of ournetworking events, get to know
the women in there and justwatch how your life and your
goals start to come to fruition,right?
Your life starts to change.
Things start to happen for youwhen you get in close proximity
of empowered women, okay?
There's something reallypowerful about that.
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So come be with us because yourcircle is everything.
I've said this before for sure.
Your network is your net worth.
So you've got to expand yournetwork.
You've got to have more peoplein your circle who are doing the
types of things that you wantto be doing because it's going
to motivate you.
You're going to be like, oh,this is possible.
There's other people doing it.
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And I always think if someoneelse can do it, then surely I'm
capable.
I was thinking that withrenting the townhome.
with being a landlord now andhaving a rental property.
I'm like, there's so manypeople I know that have rental
properties.
Like surely I can be as smartand talented as them.
Like surely they're not theonly ones who can figure this
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out.
We just have to have thatbelief in ourself.
And that comes with the growthmindset.
So let's do a quick recap.
If you are ready to put thisinto play, you need to one,
embrace those challenges andbefriend failure.
Two, practice your growthmindset on a regular basis.
This needs to be a consistentway of living.
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You need to three, focus oneffort.
It's not just about talent.
It may take some time for youto grasp something.
That's okay.
It doesn't mean it's not foryou.
You can figure this out.
Number four, start asking forhelp.
Number five, check your circle.
Get around those people who aregonna uplift you and help you
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achieve your goals.
Well, that does it for thisepisode.
Trying to reinvent your lifewithout a growth mindset is kind
of like trying to drive a carwithout a steering wheel, okay?
You just, you can't do it.
So if you haven't beenprioritizing your mindset, that
needs to shift today.
And the good news is, this isthe best part.
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It costs you nothing to changeyour mindset and you have 100%
control over it.
That's what makes this such apowerful tool.
That's what makes you sounstoppable when you have a
growth mindset.
And look, if you don't have acopy of my book yet, grab Life
by the Dreams.
It's available,karenfreeland.com forward slash
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dreams.
Get yours now.
It's a very small investmentthat will help shift your
mindset forever.
So do yourself a favor and geta copy today.
Thanks for tuning in.
I hope you're inspired to takeaction by committing to one of
the tips or strategies we talkedabout in today's episode.
If you want more accountabilityand support, I've got your
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back.
Book a complimentary empoweredexit strategy call today.
Visit karinfreeland.com tolearn more and book your
45-minute session.
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