216. Abby Havermann - Get Out of Your Mind

"Growth is not linear.”

”Focus more on who you're being and less on what you're doing.”

“We're all human beings. One is not better than another.”

“Accept where you are when you’re there.”

Chapters:

• 00:00 Introduction to Abby Haverman
• 01:30 Abby's Early Life and Background
• 03:05 Transformation Through Adversity
• 07:15 Awakening to Self-Worth
• 09:36 Understanding the Mind and Identity
• 13:51 Practices for Present Moment Awareness
• 18:06 Breaking Free from Past Loops
• 22:28 Identifying and Embracing Personality Parts
• 26:04 The Journey Towards Generosity
• 30:48 The Power of Service in Overcoming Stress
• 36:19 Awareness and Self-Compassion
• 41:18 Understanding Perfectionism and Fear
• 45:05 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Acceptance
• 48:06 Rapid Fire Insights and Personal Reflections

Episode Summary:

In this conversation, Shannon Cassidy interviews Abby Havermann, a seasoned psychotherapist and speaker, who shares her journey of transformation from a life of external validation to one of self-acceptance and purpose. Abby discusses her early life, the pivotal moments that led to her awakening, and the importance of understanding the mind's role in shaping our identity. She emphasizes the significance of being present, breaking free from past loops, and embracing the various parts of our personality. The conversation culminates in a discussion about the true nature of generosity and how to navigate the complexities of human experience with compassion and awareness. In this conversation, Abby Havermann and Shannon Cassidy explore the themes of stress relief through service, the importance of self-awareness and self-compassion, the roots of perfectionism, and the journey of self-discovery. They discuss how small acts of generosity can shift our focus from self-absorption to connection with others, and emphasize the need for awareness in recognizing our judgments and fears. The dialogue culminates in rapid-fire questions that reveal personal insights and reflections on living a fulfilling life.

R.O.G. Takeaway Tips:

• Understanding the mind is crucial for personal growth.
• We are not our thoughts or emotions; we are more than that.
• Being present is key to overcoming the mind's chatter.
• Growth is a spiral, not a linear process.
• Observing our thoughts can lead to greater self-awareness.
• Generosity stems from our true nature, not obligation.
• Identifying personality parts helps in understanding ourselves better.
• Self-compassion is essential in navigating life's challenges. When stressed, focus on being of service to others.
• Small acts of kindness can shift our mindset.
• Awareness is the first step to self-compassion.
• Perfectionism is often rooted in fear of failure.
• We are all human and make mistakes.
• Inner peace comes from accepting ourselves as we are.

Guest Bio:

With a combined twenty-five years of experience, first as a psychotherapist and adjunct professor at the graduate level, then as a financial advisor, and now a TEDx and corporate speaker, trainer, and executive coach, Abby Havermann guides leaders to remember their power and purpose. Drawing on leading-edge neuroscience, ancient wisdom practices, personal and client experience, and heavy humor doses, she teaches you how to trade stress, anxiety, and self-sabotage for grounded, gracious, intuitive leadership. She is a former NeuroChange