Any takeaways from this episode?
House swapping, hot drunk Englishman, personal movie trailers, and Mr. Napkinhead!
That's right, we are watching the 2006 rom-com series THE HOLIDAY, with Kate Winslet, Cameron DIaz, Jude Law and Jack Black.
In this episode of RomCom Rescue, Kira and Dr. Isabelle go deep into the cozy chaos of The Holiday—house swaps, emotional avoidance, unrequited “love,” and why Jasper is the human equivalent of a walking red flag.
You’ll hear us unpack:
- Iris, Jasper, and the myth of unrequited love
- Why Iris’s “epic love story” with Jasper is actually a long-term crush with terrible ROI
- How we confuse attention with intention
- What it really costs you to keep hanging on to someone who will never fully choose you
- Crush vs. Love (a.k.a. Love-Adjacent Feelings)
- What makes a crush different from genuine love
- How fantasy can feel safer than real intimacy
- Questions to ask yourself if you’ve been stuck on someone for months (or years)
- Amanda, emotional avoidance, and finally crying in the car
- Why some people literally can’t cry and what’s underneath that
- How emotional unavailability shows up in relationships
- The difference between calling someone out vs. weaponizing their coping skills
- Graham, kids, and complicated timing
- The rush into “I love you” after two weeks (with children involved)
- What a healthier “I have feelings for you” might sound like
- Why step-parent energy needs more than a holiday montage to work
- Miles, green flags, and why friendship-first relationships matter
- Why Miles is basically a walking green flag (with one big misstep)
- The tension between prioritizing romantic partners vs. friendships
- How both Iris and Miles are recovering from lopsided relationships
- Best friends vs. leading ladies
- Arthur’s iconic line about being the leading lady in your own life
- Why we’re done equating being “the best friend” with being less deserving of love
- How to stop sidelining yourself in your own story
- Sex, foreplay & bad messages we don’t want you absorbing
- Why “foreplay is overrated” is a terrible love (and sex) lesson
- What good, enthusiastic, mutual intimacy actually looks like
- Holiday comfort, nostalgia, and a little trivia
- Nancy Meyers house porn, Blackberry sightings, and OG house swapping
- The real-life history between Kate Winslet and Rufus Sewell
- Why this is one of Isabelle’s all-time favorite rom-coms and Kira’s go-to holiday rewatch
Finally, we rate The Holiday on both movie joy and love lessons—with Isabelle wildly breaking the 5-star system and Kira pretending to enforce it.
Join us next for 2025 Holiday Rom-Com - My Secret Santa
Currently streaming on Netflix.
Come talk with us about your favorite rom-coms on instagram, tiktok, & youtube and Bluesky!
Get show notes, transcripts, and more information on at Rom-ComRescue.com
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