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Simon Davison (00:24):
Hi, welcome to
the romantic things podcast.
My name's Simon Davison, andI've been married to Suzanne
Davison for 16 years.
Suzanne Davison (00:32):
Hi, my name is
Suzanne Davison and I've been
married to Simon Davison for 16years.
Simon Davison (00:37):
Okay.
So this being the first romanticthings podcast, I think we
should set up be why there is apodcast, um, and what it is
we're doing here.
Uh, I have a need, I'm anaverage man.
I think when it comes to romance, uh, there are some things I do
well, there are many things I dohorribly and in a lot of ways, I
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don't think about romance asmuch as I think I would like to
for my wife.
So I wanted to find an app thathad the ability to suggest
romantic things for me andallowed me to schedule them
whenever I needed to.
Whenever I thought I could havethe time or whenever I needed to
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do them, or whenever wasconvenient, I looked around and
I couldn't find anything.
So I started looking at websitesto see if I could find any
websites that would be useful.
Unsure.
I could find, um, websites with150, uh, romantic gestures for
boyfriends or girlfriends, butagain, it, it dumped all of that
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responsibility on me and I hadto pick through and find the
ones that I wanted to do for,for my wife.
There was nothing managing that,that romance for me.
So I decided not finding what Iwanted, uh, to go about and
build an app that does this.
So for the past few months, I'vebeen working with a team in
India to build out anapplication that does just that.
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Um, and I've called it romanticthings for the past few weeks.
It's been given me suggestionsevery day and over the course of
the past week or so, I've beentrying to do those or engage my
wife with those romanticsuggestions and gestures,
whatever they might be.
And I want to work with Suzanneand all of you and establish how
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well they're working, whether ornot my wife recognizes some of
these gestures.
Some of them, she definitelywill because I had to talk to
her about them.
But ultimately I want to get asense of how well these romantic
gestures are working from myrelationship, because I think
very early on there was, it waseasy for me to be romantic, but
I think I really only had fourthings in my arsenal, going out
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on a date, going out to a bar,going out for a picnic, um, and
Suzanne Davison (02:59):
Flowers.
Oh
Simon Davison (03:00):
Yeah.
Okay.
Yeah, maybe flowers if Iremembered to do that sort of
thing.
So that was really about it.
So I thought that was awesome.
And I thought that had mecovered for a lot of things, but
realistically for a long termmarriage, that's not a great
deal.
So I, I found a few nice thingsin the first couple of years,
there was a, a picture of awedding ring in a book that
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worked particularly well.
Suzanne Davison (03:23):
Yeah, that was
impressive.
Simon Davison (03:24):
Thank you.
Um, but, but on the whole, it'snot been particularly good and
I've been wanting to improvethis for Suzanne.
So this is,
Suzanne Davison (03:32):
So I just
wanted to ask a question about
something that you said earlier,you get something every day.
Is that what you need?
Is that how it works?
Works or
Simon Davison (03:39):
So the, the app
gives you a choice.
You can, it, it defaults toevery three days.
So the default is every threedays.
It will give you a romanticsuggestion.
I think every three days isabout the right cadence for an
average relationship.
For me to be perfectly honest,I'm testing the app.
So I want to test on a regularbasis.
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So I'm getting them every day,but, uh, I've not been
subjecting you to every singleone of these
Suzanne Davison (04:08):
Romantics.
So you movies, you not being asromantic as you could
Simon Davison (04:10):
Be.
I know I could be more romantic.
You could be more romantic if,if that's even possible, but
yeah, I
Suzanne Davison (04:15):
It's possible.
Simon Davison (04:17):
Uh, so that's
what I'm striving for.
Right?
So to try and find the rightcadence.
So for, for right now, these aredaily, but at some point they
might slow down.
They might increase depending onhow we think this is going and
whether or not the listenersthink things need to change as
well.
So,
Suzanne Davison (04:33):
Okay.
So you could get'em weekly,monthly, you know, something you
can choose your own cadence,
Simon Davison (04:39):
The lowest K
every 10 days, 10 days.
Every 10 days.
Yeah.
I think, I think after 10 days,you're, you're not paying
attention if you're not, I thinkeverybody can spend just a
little bit of time after 10 daysfor their, for their partners.
So yeah.
Um, after that, I don't thinkyou're in it for the long term.
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All right.
So let's talk about firstromantic thing.
Um, which was, uh, the romanticsuggestion was to make homemade
ice cream and this, oh,
Suzanne Davison (05:09):
We did do that
this week.
Yeah.
I did not know.
That was a romantic thing.
Simon Davison (05:12):
Yeah.
So we got the two bags, one bagfilled of cream and one bag
filled with ice and salt and weshook it about and got numb
fingers for
Suzanne Davison (05:23):
We did I okay.
It was really good.
Um, we, uh, I think we boughtthem online and got, um, this
just, it was good ice cream andwe did it together.
Yeah.
And it was kind of out of theblue.
I didn't realize that that wasromantic, but definitely is.
I mean, I, I think anything outof, you know, the ordinary that
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you wouldn't normally do is, iskind of fun.
It shows togetherness and, andbelonging and the ice cream was
delicious.
Simon Davison (05:53):
Yeah.
I, I, I, I, I must have made, Iwas in it for the ice cream.
The,
Suzanne Davison (05:59):
You are a sweet
tooth.
Simon Davison (06:00):
Yeah, absolutely.
Um, yeah, the ice cream wasgreat.
Um, it was good.
Fun.
Yeah.
It was a little bit different,uh, making your own dessert
rather than just purchasing one
Suzanne Davison (06:10):
So well, and
you didn't have to have like an
ice cream maker.
Right.
Exactly.
You could kind of do it whereveryou yeah.
You can make ice cream.
Yeah,
Simon Davison (06:18):
Yeah.
No, that was a good one.
I like that one.
So what are your thoughts onthis as, as a romantic gesture,
the making ice cream together?
Suzanne Davison (06:27):
Yeah.
Um, I think it's, I think it'sgreat.
I think it's out of the ordinaryand I think that as long as, you
know, you're trying to dosomething together, you know,
doesn't have to have the labelof romance, but it can
definitely be romantic.
Simon Davison (06:41):
Yeah, I think so.
I mean, my, my, my generalthought is that I think as long
as you're doing the gesturetogether, um, and you're both
committed to the event itself, Ithink that's, what's most
important, right.
Being present in the moment andspending time with the, your
partner.
I think collectively over theyears, each of these small
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moments of genuine interactionsall add up and work together.
So for me, these small dailygestures all go a long way to
making a relationship last.
Suzanne Davison (07:17):
So should
people set it up like, Hey, I'm
doing a romantic gesture orshould it just be like a
surprising, be natural?
What do you think?
Simon Davison (07:25):
I think it's up
to them.
Suzanne Davison (07:27):
Yeah.
Simon Davison (07:27):
Yeah.
Um, I, I don't think there's anyneed to, I wouldn't NEC I, I
mean, I've not been doing thatunless it's been obvious.
Um, but that's just me.
I, I, I don't wanna set it up asa romantic gesture cuz I don't
want necessarily you to then bejudging it basically
Suzanne Davison (07:46):
Or having
expectations about it.
Right.
Simon Davison (07:48):
Exactly.
So, um, but other people mightwant to do that and I mean,
that's, that's perfectly fine.
Suzanne Davison (07:54):
Yeah.
Like, Hey, I got my romanticgesture today.
We're gonna make ice cream, youknow something.
Simon Davison (07:59):
Yeah, definitely.
Maybe I read, maybe ourlisteners will go, uh, other
ideas, but yeah.
They can let us know.
Okay.
Okay.
So let's move on to, uh, thesecond romantic thing, um, which
was be tourists in your owncity.
Suzanne Davison (08:13):
Oh.
Like we kind of do this a lot.
Like we go downtown, um, andkind of hang out and be
tourists.
Which one?
Which one are you talking about?
Simon Davison (08:26):
Well, so for, uh,
me, it's the walking tour that
we did of Los Gatos, um, wherewe had
Suzanne Davison (08:34):
That's true.
We took, so we had that video orthe audio.
Exactly.
And we walked around to all thehistoric stop in the town.
Yeah.
Held hands.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Oh, that was, yeah.
That was very, that wasthoughtful, babe.
That was good.
Simon Davison (08:48):
Yeah.
I enjoyed that.
So that one, that one we didjust recently.
So that's one that sticks inmind for me.
Um, but yes, you're right forthis one.
The reason it's in the list iscuz we do this ourselves.
We, yeah.
We make a point of visiting ourtown as, as tourists and just
kind of see what's new.
Suzanne Davison (09:06):
Yeah.
I think some people don't evenrealize like all the stuff
that's available in their townthat you can do and maybe the
history around it and, and youjust, you go to dinner, you go,
come back, but you don'tactually spend time learning
about what, where the team, youknow, where it came from.
What's the history and thingsabout, um, around it.
Simon Davison (09:26):
Exactly.
And the sort of information youcan get from places like the
chamber of commerce.
Suzanne Davison (09:30):
Yeah.
And you're discovering ittogether.
Oh yeah.
The chamber of commerce.
They have tons of inform.
No.
Um, but yeah, you're discoveringit together.
So all these little hiddenplaces, hidden gems that, you
know, now make memories for you.
Yeah.
Simon Davison (09:44):
Definitely.
Mountain Charlie will be in mymemory forever.
I think, uh, an awesome story.
So how did that work for you asa romantic gesture?
A, a tour, a local visit?
I mean, I know it's something wedo on a regular basis, but does,
does that, does that mean it'snot romantic if it's done
regularly?
Suzanne Davison (10:03):
No, because we
got out together.
Uh, we walked around town, heldhands, you know, did just spent
time together.
I think.
Yeah.
I would consider it a romanticthing.
Simon Davison (10:15):
Okay, cool.
Um, a good one bad one.
Suzanne Davison (10:18):
Well a good
one.
I, I mean, people get complacentin, um, just knowing what's
happening in their town even.
I mean, we get a, a weeklynewsletter of what's happening
in town and you know, sometimeswe go, sometimes we don't, but I
think just, you know, beingtogether and doing all that in
your own hometown where it's nota lot of effort, I think, you
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know, it could be considered a,a good yeah.
Idea.
Some people don't think aboutit.
Right.
Because they're just like, uh,you know, town is for shopping
or town is for going to dinner,but well
Simon Davison (10:51):
That didn't, you
get used to going to the same
two or three locations.
Right.
You don't venture out and trythe news or something different
per se.
It's always, well, we always goto Johnny's on, on main.
Yeah, exactly.
Right.
Suzanne Davison (11:04):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Simon Davison (11:05):
Okay.
All right.
So let's move on toromantically.
Number three, did this onWednesday, turn off the TV and
turn on the music where we justlistened to music,
Suzanne Davison (11:15):
Which was great
because we are TV people.
Simon Davison (11:20):
Yeah.
We do much
Suzanne Davison (11:21):
And love it's
my, like my relaxation after
work is how do I decompress?
And it's usually television.
So it was a nice, you know, welooked at lyrics, we watched the
lyrics go by and I, you know,I'm a horrible lyric person.
I make up my own lyrics to mosta song.
So, uh, it was kind of fun towatch the lyrics go by and be
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like, huh, that's really what itsaid.
Um, yeah.
And then just to change a pacefrom not just sitting down and
watching the next TV show.
Simon Davison (11:51):
Yeah.
I mean, it, it it's, it it'snice.
And it kind of also morphed into, uh, I'm gonna jump a little
bit ahead to the fourth thing,which was dancing with the
partner.
So the, the music also allowedus to dance, which we don't
typically do on the averageweek.
I mean, it's usually, like yousay you finish work and it's sit
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down in front of the couch andjust kind of zone out for a
couple of hours before gettingto bed.
Right.
But,
Suzanne Davison (12:18):
Well, yeah.
And it was, and it wasn't likenecessarily couples dancing.
We were just dancing together.
Uh, and then it moved to couplesdancing.
Right, right.
So, yeah.
Uh, we were kind of just shakingour moneymaker and then yeah.
And then you into, uh, into likea, a slow dance.
Simon Davison (12:38):
So let's see.
So of let's focus on the,turning off the TV and turning
on the music for, so for thatparticular aspect, how romantic
was that?
Was that something you wereexpecting?
Um, and like I say, cuz TV is abig part of our lives.
So how worthy were you with thatchange in the, the routine?
Suzanne Davison (12:58):
It was out of
the ordinary.
I will have to say, I was like,why aren't we just turning on
the TV?
But then it was enjoyable.
Right.
Because, you know, we just gotto, it was more interactive
between you and I than justwatching TV together.
Right.
Simon Davison (13:14):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Definitely.
I agree with it for sure.
Suzanne Davison (13:18):
Yeah.
Especially when we're makingthose stupid dance moves.
Oh my gosh.
Simon Davison (13:22):
Hey.
Yeah.
I'm sure the people watching usthrough the window were enjoying
the view
Suzanne Davison (13:28):
Something.
Simon Davison (13:30):
Okay.
So for dancing with your partner, um, I, I think me personally,
I'm biased.
I think that's pretty, I thinkdancing with the, a partner is
Suzanne Davison (13:38):
Like, I mean,
you're standing in the kitchen
and all of a sudden some your,you know, your significant other
grabs you and just twirls youaround.
I mean, that's made in movies,right.
That's romance at hand for sure.
Simon Davison (13:53):
I agree.
I agree.
I like that.
That's good.
Fun.
Um, not that I'm any good at it,but you
Suzanne Davison (13:59):
Know, you know,
we did take those lessons once.
Simon Davison (14:02):
What a great use
of our resources that was.
Suzanne Davison (14:06):
Oh, I don't
even remember a step.
Okay.
Simon Davison (14:09):
All right.
So let's move on to the last, uh, the last, uh, romantic thing
that we are reviewing, they, uh,which was the treat them to
something from gold belly, which, um, we, I did, but you haven't
actually received it.
Suzanne Davison (14:25):
I cannot wait.
Uh, gold belly is one of myfavorite things.
Should we tell'em what goldbelly is?
Give them a
Simon Davison (14:32):
Plug.
Yeah.
So why don't you tell them aboutgold belly for those which don't
know what gold belly is?
Suzanne Davison (14:37):
Um, so gold
belly is, uh, I wanna what say
famous foods from around theworld that you can get delivered
to your home.
So it's like every, like thebest of the best of everything.
And you gets sent to your doorand with in specific
instructions on how to recreateit from like your favorite
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restaurant or your favoritedessert, or like your Chicago
style pizza or your, yeah.
So the best Philly cheese steaksfrom Philadelphia, like yeah.
Simon Davison (15:07):
The best, the
best key lime pie from key Wests
floor.
Suzanne Davison (15:11):
Our favorite
dessert from what was that
place?
Oh my gosh.
Yeah.
Simon Davison (15:14):
Yeah.
Um, it's great.
Um, it it's, it's a,
Suzanne Davison (15:18):
So what am I
getting?
Simon Davison (15:21):
You're getting
ice cream sandwiches.
Suzanne Davison (15:23):
Oh my gosh.
The ones with the cookies on theoutside.
Simon Davison (15:26):
Absolutely.
Suzanne Davison (15:27):
Oh, I get that
way.
Simon Davison (15:29):
Mint mint
chocolate chip.
Suzanne Davison (15:30):
Oh my God.
Gosh.
That's gonna be delicious now.
You, why did you tell me?
I don't now?
I don't know it's coming well,it guess now I have anticipation
of when it's going to arrive.
Simon Davison (15:40):
It's coming
Wednesday.
Suzanne Davison (15:42):
Oh my gosh.
Wednesday.
Okay.
Up day.
Yay.
Simon Davison (15:44):
Exactly.
Like the, we mid we'd go thatmuch better.
Suzanne Davison (15:47):
Exactly.
Well, that's definitelythoughtful.
Uh, definitely.
Especially if it's somethinglike that could be so romantic,
if it's like they moved from adifferent area and they had a
favorite restaurant that waspopular to get one of their
favorite dishes and have itdelivered how romantic is that?
Yeah,
Simon Davison (16:07):
I agree.
There's definitely a lot ofopportunities to go belly.
The they've got a food type thatthey really like.
Um, uh, yeah.
Gold belly is definitely the,the, the company to, to rely on
for getting your food delivered.
Suzanne Davison (16:22):
Oh my gosh.
Yeah, for sure.
Simon Davison (16:25):
Yeah.
We use them for pizzas.
Yeah.
Suzanne Davison (16:27):
My big one of
my favorite pizzas.
Yay.
Okay.
Simon Davison (16:31):
Yeah.
Uh, okay.
So, alright.
So what are
Suzanne Davison (16:34):
Your thoughts?
I think you did well, I mean, itwas a, so
Simon Davison (16:36):
For the week, how
do you think we did?
Suzanne Davison (16:38):
Yeah, for sure.
I mean, I definitely could feelmore attention coming my way.
Um, it's a lot for one week.
I wouldn't, you know, I knowyou're trying to get things out
there, but, um, yeah, I think,you know, a couple of these a
week is definitely doable anddefinitely something that people
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would enjoy.
Yeah.
Simon Davison (17:03):
Well, okay.
Well, that's good.
That's what I want to hear.
Okay.
Well, uh, that's the end of ourpodcast.
Um, we're going to leave you for, uh, the next couple of weeks
and we'll be back, um, in twoweeks time with the next episode
Suzanne Davison (17:18):
And don't
forget your romantic things.
Simon Davison (17:20):
Exactly.