January 17, 2024 • 22 mins
In this episode, we explore the importance of betting on oneself, inspired from the recent University of Michigan win. The message is clear: embrace the journey, learn from failures, and trust your instincts. Success lies in perseverance and bravery, not the pursuit of perfection.
In this episode, we discuss the following:
- Bet on Yourself: We emphasize the importance of betting on oneself, even in the face of challenges or when others suggest alternative paths. Personal confidence and self-trust are crucial in overcoming obstacles.
- Resilience and Persistence: We highlight how the willingness to face challenges, learn from failures, and persevere is a key aspect of achieving success.
- Avoiding External Influences: We stress how crucial it is to stay true to yourself and not be swayed by societal expectations or conventional wisdom.
- Learning from Failure: We emphasize the idea that failure is not a setback but an opportunity to learn and grow.
- Trusting Your Intuition: The importance of trusting one's intuition and feelings, rather than relying solely on logical decision-making processes, is highlighted.
- Embracing the Journey: We suggest that true fulfillment and growth come from experiencing the challenges, setbacks, and successes along the way, rather than just focusing on the end result.
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Speaker 1 (00:09):
Welcome to Rock's Talks, the podcast that helps
network marketers grow theirbusiness on social media.
I'm Roxanne Wilson, socialmedia network marketing coach,
with nearly a decade ofexperience in the space, as well
as television and radioexperience, and a passion to
really help you and empower youto be the best network marketer
you can be, which means knowingyourself and knowing your brand.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
And I'm Taryn Soa, your social media sidekick.
I run all things behind thescenes at Rock's Talks, While
being the right hand woman toRoxanne, I also strategize and
manage our full social mediaplan.
So I would love to share withyou the tips, the happenings,
(00:50):
all the things going on in thesocial media world.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Each week, we're here to give you the latest and
greatest direct selling, socialselling, network marketing,
whatever you like to call it.
The end game is for you toreally understand your business,
understand yourself and yourbrand and to rock it on social
media Howdy, howdy, howdy, howdy, howdy, howdy, howdy, howdy,
(01:13):
howdy, howdy.
Really, I should say we are thechampions, my friends, and we
kept fighting to the end 300.
And what 72 days we fought andwe won.
Was it that many days For 372?
Speaker 2 (01:30):
days Last year.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
They focused on, yeah , because remember it was the
semi-finals game.
So, yeah, you're talking to twoMichigan fans right now and we
are feeling pretty high.
I was doing my Rock's Talkspodcast for the day today and I
said it hit me.
I was watching and, as a fangirling, some of us stayed for
the whole game.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
If you can't tell I've got a little bit of a raspy
voice.
My butt fell asleep on thecouch.
I tried, I tried.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Only the biggest game of your life when it comes to
Michigan.
That's okay, it's all right.
It's all good.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
It's all good.
That's okay, because a lot ofthem I haven't watched all the
way through, so that was thegood luck pulling through.
My subconscious literally shutme down.
So Michigan could win.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Well, jj McCarthy thanks you then, because he's
very superstitious, but thismorning I was watching clips and
things on X and overnight, andthen this morning I was sitting
there and I was like you knowwhat I learned from this, and
maybe I don't know we got it.
I mean, michigan has to betalked about.
We're champions, so we can talkabout Michigan.
(02:43):
But you know what I thought tomyself?
It was a lesson to all of us,because I do think sports is a
lesson.
We can learn life lessons, andit's also really wild to think
these kids are like 22 andwhatnot, but anyhow, they're
kids.
Younger, younger Like they arebabies, you're right.
Yeah, younger, some of them sixyears because of COVID.
(03:04):
But yeah, you're right, they'relike 19, 20, 21.
And I felt so bad at the endseeing the quarterback Penic Jr
on the other side was injuredand like I'm like please take
him out of the game.
You could tell his ribs werelike shot and he was hobbling
into this out of the stands anda Michigan player went into the
(03:25):
the almost a dugout but thetunnel because he wanted to say
hey, good job, and I thoughtthat was so cool.
And then some of their players,their Washington players, just
sat there the whole time, likeduring the whole presentation.
They just could not get up outof there, out of the sidelines.
They were just so sad.
And that's when I think, oh,these are babies, someone please
(03:45):
make sure they're okay.
But what I thought about, and Ithink is very poignant, is that
what Michigan did was they beton themselves.
And when I think about times inlife where things didn't work
(04:07):
out how I would have liked, bigor small, it's because I didn't
bet on myself, it's because Idid something that seemed safer
or like crowdsourced it orwhatever, and didn't just bet on
myself.
And I think when it was areminder to me, like, okay, yeah
(04:28):
, my peony era, I'm betting onmyself and regardless of how
quickly things come or don'tcome, I'm betting on myself.
I think, as we talk to socialsellers, as you all are
listening to this, let that be areminder to you to bet on
yourself.
There are gonna be so manyinstances where people are gonna
tell you should do it adifferent way.
There are gonna be so manyinstances where people are going
(04:51):
to you're gonna get rejection,you're gonna feel crappy, all of
those things which, if you lookat the story of Michigan over
the last 372 days, oh my gosh,there's a reason.
It's Michigan to get versuseverybody, because there were so
many things.
Whether it was brought on themby themselves or not does not
matter.
(05:11):
There were so many obstaclesthat came their way and they
chose to bet on themselves.
And I'm gonna go one further.
Okay.
So you think about the teamthat lost last year.
Second time they lost, theylost the TCU in the semifinals.
They were so sad, so upset, andsome of them had been on the
(05:33):
team for two years in a row andthey lost again.
They had options.
They could go into the transferportal, like some of them did,
and then go to another team thatmaybe looked more promising.
Maybe they were dangling moremoney because you can do that
now and go what seemed like theeasier route.
You lose two times in a row.
(05:54):
Are you really gonna win this?
Or maybe your coach and yourteam is not gonna win this?
Maybe you should just give itup.
They had an option, if theydidn't go into the transfer
portal, to go into the draft andstart your professional career
and go be an NFL player and dothat and get money and all the
things, and that seemed reallylike yummy.
(06:14):
But there was a core groupincluding JJ McCarthy and we
cannot forget like Corum,because he got injured and could
have gone on to the draft andhe said no, I'm gonna stay, we
have unfinished business to do.
You know how insurmountable 372days knowing that you have to
(06:38):
do all of those practices allover again, knowing that you
have to do all of those gamesand you have to win every single
one and you gotta beat OhioState and then you gotta do like
all those things, all thosesacrifices, and sit there and go
.
We have unfinished business.
I'm coming back.
And he was injured and he hadto like rehab and get better and
(06:58):
yet he chose to stay the course.
Terrence probably laughed at mebecause this is not what we're
supposed to talk about, but Ijust I'm here for it, no
judgment, let's go Okay okay.
You think about your businessand you think about all of the
things that are telling you it'snot gonna work.
You're starting from zero.
You're seeing people maybe yourteam members who've been doing
(07:21):
it for six or seven years, likehow am I ever going to get there
?
You're getting the nose theperson you thought for sure
would want to join you inbusiness and even said I'd be
interested then you join andthey don't want to do it.
Or you've been around businessfor a while and you're getting
cancellations and people teammembers are leaving and you're
sitting there going.
Why am I doing this?
(07:41):
It'd be so much easier if I didX, y, z.
Maybe I should join this othercompany because they look like
they're having more fun or theylook like, oh my gosh, they're
making so much money and I couldjust go do that.
Do you see the parallels?
Speaker 2 (07:57):
I do.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
I do and hopefully you do those of you listening
you have an opportunity and I'mnot telling you that the root.
I'm not telling you what theright decision is, I don't know,
but I'll tell you.
When I was watching, when I waslooking at X Twitter, there was
a player who was put up apicture.
His name was Andre something.
(08:18):
He had two A's.
He was on the offensive linefor Michigan last year and he
had to put a picture up onTwitter.
That was him, Blake and JJMcCarthy just looking sad.
After he lost the game, he wentinto the transfer portal
because that's what it feelsgreat for him and he is a sooner
now.
But he was saying all thesegreat things about Michigan and
(08:40):
whatnot and how proud he was.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
I thought to myself how does that feel To have left
too soon.
Yes, ouch, ouch, because thosetwo years of losing is not
losing.
If you think that you arelearning from those two years,
(09:02):
you are going into this thirdyear, whatever year you want to
call it, with way more knowledge.
What doesn't work, what works,what you need to do, what you
need to do more of, what youneed to do less of and is a
waste of time.
You know the road.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
It's like these days we're driving around Arizona and
when we drive somewhere itfeels like it's so far, but when
we drive back, that was a lotfaster because we know the road
and you know the road once,you've done it before.
If you decide to see that road,if you decide to see it as
knowledge as opposed to oh mygosh, I can't believe I have to
(09:41):
do this again, Because Iguarantee that feeling that they
felt last night or feelingright now, those who stayed come
on now.
That is better than if they'dwon it the first time without
having to go through the journeythey've gone through.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Yeah, like, how proud of like, how proud do you think
they feel right now?
Because I just think, like,even like your coach learned so
much from getting you that farand then not making it, and then
you're gonna go to a new team.
That coach hasn't learned whatyou guys just learned and went
through.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Yeah, and again we're not saying what was right or
what was wrong, and knowing whento hold them and when to fold
them, in the great words ofKenny Rogers, is a dance.
I mean, it is a dance.
We don't know when.
That is for you specifically,so I'm not saying hang on too
long, but at the same time don'tleave the party too early.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
Yeah, I think it really comes down to the good
old saying of trust your gut andthat it's gonna mean something
different for everybody.
But knowing yourself andknowing what it feels like to be
like, no, I probably reallyshould move on.
Or it's like there's thatlittle voice in the back of your
head.
Maybe it doesn't make sense,but it's like stay, stay.
(11:04):
You're like, but why?
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Yeah, listen to it.
Listen to it and you're right,because you might have that
voice that says stay, stay.
And you might well logically,if I write it down on paper
we've lost two times.
Why would I stay?
If you're trying to logic yourway into staying or leaving?
That's not the right way.
Can we agree on that?
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Yeah, I don't think there's maybe a few select
people but like pro con lists,throw those out the window.
That just confuses you and getsyou all in your head Like you
have to get into your body aboutsome decisions and I know
school doesn't teach you that.
Teach you a little logic andthere's some like buying a home.
You might want to logicallylook at some numbers.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
Sure.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
And there's aspects of your business that you need
to look at numbers but, when itcomes down to it, feel into your
body and make the decision.
And I was just reflecting, Ijust had my five year business
anniversary have you ever seenit?
I started off thank you, as a VA.
I answered customer serviceemails, you know, and I remember
it was kind of, I think justafter that first year I started
(12:09):
to get the itch and I would seelike other people selling
courses and all these coachesmaking all this money and I was
like, oh, they did it so fast,like I can just do it so fast.
I've got the grit, and it was ahumble reminder that things
don't happen fast most of thetime, and where I'm at now is a
(12:31):
way different place than Ithought I was going to be, but
I'm still just as proud and I'mproud of the money that it's
bringing in and I feel reallygood at about it and it's like
just that kind of reminder andreflection.
Looking back, I'm like I pushedso hard for this thing.
I thought I could get so fast.
You have to remember that innetwork marketing too, or any
(12:51):
social selling, like it's notfast.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
It's not, it's not fast, and I guarantee I mean yes
, you can prove us wrong there'ssomeone who did it fast,
Absolutely in your company thereare people who did it fast.
They do not appreciate thejourney and you might be like I
don't want to appreciate thejourney, I just want the money.
Listen, like the journey iswhere the good stuff is.
I can't express that enough topeople.
That's where the good stuff isis literally in the journey.
(13:17):
That's where you learn and ifwe stop seeing things as
failures, which ladies, womenwho are listening we are
socialized to be afraid offailing, to hate failing.
I read this book from the womanwho created Girls who Code, and
(13:38):
that's a lot.
I didn't read the book, I reada couple of chapters.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
Okay, that sounds better.
I was like okay, proxies.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
I did read In Forne from cover to cover, and if
you're a manifesto, you needthat book by Holly Herberg.
But this book I listened to heron Instagram and then I read a
bit of it and it was really goodand it's something that I think
that everyone who has childrenshould read.
I don't have children, so I'mgood, I'm Gucci, but this book
talks about how-.
You got baby or you got furbabies I do have fur babies, but
(14:08):
they're always gonna be treatedas princesses.
It's just the way it is they'regonna be like.
But when you have girls, whenthey fall, not only do you pick
them up and coddle them, but yousay that's okay, you don't have
to do that anymore, and youtake them on to do something
else.
Just that movement of it's okay.
(14:29):
Oh, you hurt yourself.
Okay, let's clean it off andlet's go do something else
Teaches them not to fail andteaches them, if they fail at
something, to move on.
Quit, absolutely, whereas withthe boy.
So then I realized that there'scaveats and exceptions to this,
but this is basically how wework in society.
(14:51):
Okay, so I'm speaking inabsolutes.
You get me.
When a boy falls down, we sayyou're okay, get back up, you're
okay, and do it all over again.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
Yeah, or there's the stop being a little girl, stop
crying like a girl, get up andkeep going, Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
I've seen people say that to myson and I'm like excuse me, Ooh
.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
So what happens is we teach a boy if you fall down, I
get knocked down, you get upagain.
You ain't never gonna get medown.
They learn that rejection istotally fine, whereas a girl
learns rejection or failure,failure, rejection, whatever is
not okay and we need to go dosomething where we're not gonna
(15:36):
get hurt, where we're not goingto fail.
And I think about I used towalk around saying I don't like
rejection and I used to walkaround saying I don't like doing
things I'm not good at.
And at any point when I waslike inquire any of these things
, when I started not being goodat it, I moved on.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
Same oh 100% looking back like all through high
school I had a different sportevery semester because I wasn't
the best.
So I was like I'm not the star,might as well go play
volleyball now.
100%.
Speaker 1 (16:05):
So what does that do in our life, besides what you
and I just made, using examplethat we lived, is this If you
ever notice, when there's like ajob application out there, they
found and they've done studies,women will be overqualified for
a job and not apply for itbecause they don't.
Oh well, no, I shouldn't, Ican't.
(16:26):
Guys will have like 20 or 30%of the qualifications and their
asses apply for the job.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
I have heard that I'm like what is that coming from?
They're taught to be resilientand try anyways.
Yeah, I'm gonna put 10 outthere, and girls are like I'm
gonna apply to one, that's theperfect one.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
The perfect one, absolutely.
Oh, I don't have thecredentials for that, so I could
never apply for it.
Guy doesn't think that way.
He's like okay, yeah, I'll doit, because they're taught that
rejection and failure is not athing.
This is also why the guys shoottheir shots with girls, like
what made you think you couldget that girl?
Yes, yeah, it's a thing.
(17:07):
Again, I'll find the name ofthe book.
I've got it somewhere, butanyhow, it is worth a read or a
listen if you are raising kids,because, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
It's not Girls who Code.
Is that that no?
Speaker 1 (17:19):
it's the woman who created Girls who Code, and the
book is something else.
Speaker 2 (17:25):
I just was on her.
Let me see if I can find itBrave Not Perfect, yes.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Brave, not Perfect.
That's the name of it, becauseand she even talks about it even
now as women, we can teachourselves to be brave and not be
perfect, but being perfect, notfailing, not have rejection.
That is like it has messed usup.
So why?
Where is that going with that?
Because when you think aboutyour business, your direct
(17:53):
selling business, your businessyou're doing, you are afraid
that if you won't be perfect atit.
That's why people like I'm notputting anything on social media
because it might not be good,I'm doing a YouTube.
That is not perfect, I'm justbeing brave.
Psn, by the way, just do thething.
People who are never gonna beperfect not any of us will be
(18:16):
perfect, never gonna be perfectGet further, because they're
just doing the thing.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Hallelujah.
I have learned that over andover again in business.
Because, gosh, you guys, youfail a lot, no matter what
business.
Don't look over there andyou're like that.
One must be easier.
No, they're all hard, you'regonna fail and failing.
You pause and maybe feel badfor a second and then you look
back.
What can I learn from this?
All right, here we go again,mm-hmm absolutely.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
This was not where we're gonna talk about the
podcast today.
Y'all just so you know.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
No, but obviously it needed to come through.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
Like a velociraptor.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
I was thinking like a puking kid.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
That tracks for your life yeah.
I think that's right.
What's going on in your world,my dear?
Speaker 2 (19:03):
You guys Remember, I think last week I was talking
about I was gonna go get afacial.
Oh, I had it.
I already mentioned that.
Yeah, the life's not thatexciting.
What else is going on?
I think we have COVID, well,that's nothing.
Yeah, I got in the shower thismorning to clear out, you know I
was like, oh Nice, sprayed myeucalyptus spray helps me relax.
I go, hmm, I Can't smell athing, and it's not because my
(19:28):
nose is clogged.
And then I tried I've got tea,can't taste it.
I was like, uh, how do you evenget a test, A COVID test?
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Yeah, is that a thing still?
Yeah, you just go to CVS.
Some of them just give them toyou for free.
They have I don't even know ifI have a mask.
Speaker 2 (19:45):
So I'm like, how am I gonna go in?
Like this is a whole dilemma.
I might just stay home for fivedays.
Call it a day.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
Yeah, I'm trying to think you could probably get it
delivered.
Oh, you go through thedrive-thru.
Go through the drive-thru.
Oh, I need a couple of uh-huh.
Yes, there we go.
I need that home cover.
Test through the drive-thru.
Make it happen, give it to me.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Thank you.
All right, what's, how are you?
Speaker 1 (20:06):
What's up?
Well, we're about to go back toCalifornia.
You know, when you move andyou're like, oh my gosh, I have
one more thing to do, like thelast trip back to your place is
the worst, you did that you had.
Yes, you did that in your room,yeah.
So I knew there's gonna feelthat way.
There's not a lot in the house.
I've got a couple things that Istill need to sell, so I needed
like, y'all come get them.
I don't even care at this point.
(20:27):
I can't believe you don't wantthese things, but whatever,
that's your issue.
Um, so we're here for three daysand Scott might leave early
with Taylor, my, my stepdaughter, because we they're doing this
like the largest brew craft beerFest is on Saturday here.
Oh, we kind of want to go to it.
(20:47):
So Baylor and I fly out onSaturday, saturday, saturday.
So, um, and he's driving, he'sdriving the car, yeah, he's
driving with Taylor.
So they're new daddy Jada roadtrip was my idea Because, but
(21:09):
also his, his back seat is notconducive to three people.
So, um, they'll drive, we'llfly and then we will be.
Thank you, think the good lordwill be settled here and that is
when I'll finally feel likeGrounded.
She'll be here for a week or so, so I still feel like I need to
like show you around, but thenit's like we're here, yeah, yeah
.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
Yep, you close the chapter.
I know what you mean, becausethen my mom drove with me down
and then it was like she wasthere so we were doing stuff,
and then I'm like I just wannaclose the chapter because moving
I've already forgot how hard itis.
I literally it's out of mybrain Well, you don't remember
paying.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
they say, right, so that's the big thing that we're
doing.
We leave today, so just, andit's like we're really enjoying
the house.
So it's like, oh, we gottaleave.
Okay, that's what it is.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
Yeah, if that's gonna be me, we'll save travels.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
I appreciate that.
All right, everyone, we'll seeyou next week.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
Thanks for listening to another episode of Rocks
Talks.
We would love for you to helpus get this message out to other
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(22:29):
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Speaker 1 (22:33):
Always remember you're not ahead, you're not
behind, you're exactly whereyou're supposed to be and we'll
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Thanks so much.
Welcome to Rock's Talks, the podcast that helps
network marketers grow theirbusiness on social media.
I'm Roxanne Wilson, socialmedia network marketing coach,
with nearly a decade ofexperience in the space, as well
as television and radioexperience, and a passion to
really help you and empower youto be the best network marketer
you can be, which means knowingyourself and knowing your brand.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
And I'm Taryn Soa, your social media sidekick.
I run all things behind thescenes at Rock's Talks, While
being the right hand woman toRoxanne, I also strategize and
manage our full social mediaplan.
So I would love to share withyou the tips, the happenings,
(00:50):
all the things going on in thesocial media world.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Each week, we're here to give you the latest and
greatest direct selling, socialselling, network marketing,
whatever you like to call it.
The end game is for you toreally understand your business,
understand yourself and yourbrand and to rock it on social
media Howdy, howdy, howdy, howdy, howdy, howdy, howdy, howdy,
(01:13):
howdy, howdy.
Really, I should say we are thechampions, my friends, and we
kept fighting to the end 300.
And what 72 days we fought andwe won.
Was it that many days For 372?
Speaker 2 (01:30):
days Last year.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
They focused on, yeah , because remember it was the
semi-finals game.
So, yeah, you're talking to twoMichigan fans right now and we
are feeling pretty high.
I was doing my Rock's Talkspodcast for the day today and I
said it hit me.
I was watching and, as a fangirling, some of us stayed for
the whole game.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
If you can't tell I've got a little bit of a raspy
voice.
My butt fell asleep on thecouch.
I tried, I tried.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Only the biggest game of your life when it comes to
Michigan.
That's okay, it's all right.
It's all good.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
It's all good.
That's okay, because a lot ofthem I haven't watched all the
way through, so that was thegood luck pulling through.
My subconscious literally shutme down.
So Michigan could win.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Well, jj McCarthy thanks you then, because he's
very superstitious, but thismorning I was watching clips and
things on X and overnight, andthen this morning I was sitting
there and I was like you knowwhat I learned from this, and
maybe I don't know we got it.
I mean, michigan has to betalked about.
We're champions, so we can talkabout Michigan.
(02:43):
But you know what I thought tomyself?
It was a lesson to all of us,because I do think sports is a
lesson.
We can learn life lessons, andit's also really wild to think
these kids are like 22 andwhatnot, but anyhow, they're
kids.
Younger, younger Like they arebabies, you're right.
Yeah, younger, some of them sixyears because of COVID.
(03:04):
But yeah, you're right, they'relike 19, 20, 21.
And I felt so bad at the endseeing the quarterback Penic Jr
on the other side was injuredand like I'm like please take
him out of the game.
You could tell his ribs werelike shot and he was hobbling
into this out of the stands anda Michigan player went into the
(03:25):
the almost a dugout but thetunnel because he wanted to say
hey, good job, and I thoughtthat was so cool.
And then some of their players,their Washington players, just
sat there the whole time, likeduring the whole presentation.
They just could not get up outof there, out of the sidelines.
They were just so sad.
And that's when I think, oh,these are babies, someone please
(03:45):
make sure they're okay.
But what I thought about, and Ithink is very poignant, is that
what Michigan did was they beton themselves.
And when I think about times inlife where things didn't work
(04:07):
out how I would have liked, bigor small, it's because I didn't
bet on myself, it's because Idid something that seemed safer
or like crowdsourced it orwhatever, and didn't just bet on
myself.
And I think when it was areminder to me, like, okay, yeah
(04:28):
, my peony era, I'm betting onmyself and regardless of how
quickly things come or don'tcome, I'm betting on myself.
I think, as we talk to socialsellers, as you all are
listening to this, let that be areminder to you to bet on
yourself.
There are gonna be so manyinstances where people are gonna
tell you should do it adifferent way.
There are gonna be so manyinstances where people are going
(04:51):
to you're gonna get rejection,you're gonna feel crappy, all of
those things which, if you lookat the story of Michigan over
the last 372 days, oh my gosh,there's a reason.
It's Michigan to get versuseverybody, because there were so
many things.
Whether it was brought on themby themselves or not does not
matter.
(05:11):
There were so many obstaclesthat came their way and they
chose to bet on themselves.
And I'm gonna go one further.
Okay.
So you think about the teamthat lost last year.
Second time they lost, theylost the TCU in the semifinals.
They were so sad, so upset, andsome of them had been on the
(05:33):
team for two years in a row andthey lost again.
They had options.
They could go into the transferportal, like some of them did,
and then go to another team thatmaybe looked more promising.
Maybe they were dangling moremoney because you can do that
now and go what seemed like theeasier route.
You lose two times in a row.
(05:54):
Are you really gonna win this?
Or maybe your coach and yourteam is not gonna win this?
Maybe you should just give itup.
They had an option, if theydidn't go into the transfer
portal, to go into the draft andstart your professional career
and go be an NFL player and dothat and get money and all the
things, and that seemed reallylike yummy.
(06:14):
But there was a core groupincluding JJ McCarthy and we
cannot forget like Corum,because he got injured and could
have gone on to the draft andhe said no, I'm gonna stay, we
have unfinished business to do.
You know how insurmountable 372days knowing that you have to
(06:38):
do all of those practices allover again, knowing that you
have to do all of those gamesand you have to win every single
one and you gotta beat OhioState and then you gotta do like
all those things, all thosesacrifices, and sit there and go
.
We have unfinished business.
I'm coming back.
And he was injured and he hadto like rehab and get better and
(06:58):
yet he chose to stay the course.
Terrence probably laughed at mebecause this is not what we're
supposed to talk about, but Ijust I'm here for it, no
judgment, let's go Okay okay.
You think about your businessand you think about all of the
things that are telling you it'snot gonna work.
You're starting from zero.
You're seeing people maybe yourteam members who've been doing
(07:21):
it for six or seven years, likehow am I ever going to get there
?
You're getting the nose theperson you thought for sure
would want to join you inbusiness and even said I'd be
interested then you join andthey don't want to do it.
Or you've been around businessfor a while and you're getting
cancellations and people teammembers are leaving and you're
sitting there going.
Why am I doing this?
(07:41):
It'd be so much easier if I didX, y, z.
Maybe I should join this othercompany because they look like
they're having more fun or theylook like, oh my gosh, they're
making so much money and I couldjust go do that.
Do you see the parallels?
Speaker 2 (07:57):
I do.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
I do and hopefully you do those of you listening
you have an opportunity and I'mnot telling you that the root.
I'm not telling you what theright decision is, I don't know,
but I'll tell you.
When I was watching, when I waslooking at X Twitter, there was
a player who was put up apicture.
His name was Andre something.
(08:18):
He had two A's.
He was on the offensive linefor Michigan last year and he
had to put a picture up onTwitter.
That was him, Blake and JJMcCarthy just looking sad.
After he lost the game, he wentinto the transfer portal
because that's what it feelsgreat for him and he is a sooner
now.
But he was saying all thesegreat things about Michigan and
(08:40):
whatnot and how proud he was.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
I thought to myself how does that feel To have left
too soon.
Yes, ouch, ouch, because thosetwo years of losing is not
losing.
If you think that you arelearning from those two years,
(09:02):
you are going into this thirdyear, whatever year you want to
call it, with way more knowledge.
What doesn't work, what works,what you need to do, what you
need to do more of, what youneed to do less of and is a
waste of time.
You know the road.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
It's like these days we're driving around Arizona and
when we drive somewhere itfeels like it's so far, but when
we drive back, that was a lotfaster because we know the road
and you know the road once,you've done it before.
If you decide to see that road,if you decide to see it as
knowledge as opposed to oh mygosh, I can't believe I have to
(09:41):
do this again, Because Iguarantee that feeling that they
felt last night or feelingright now, those who stayed come
on now.
That is better than if they'dwon it the first time without
having to go through the journeythey've gone through.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Yeah, like, how proud of like, how proud do you think
they feel right now?
Because I just think, like,even like your coach learned so
much from getting you that farand then not making it, and then
you're gonna go to a new team.
That coach hasn't learned whatyou guys just learned and went
through.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Yeah, and again we're not saying what was right or
what was wrong, and knowing whento hold them and when to fold
them, in the great words ofKenny Rogers, is a dance.
I mean, it is a dance.
We don't know when.
That is for you specifically,so I'm not saying hang on too
long, but at the same time don'tleave the party too early.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
Yeah, I think it really comes down to the good
old saying of trust your gut andthat it's gonna mean something
different for everybody.
But knowing yourself andknowing what it feels like to be
like, no, I probably reallyshould move on.
Or it's like there's thatlittle voice in the back of your
head.
Maybe it doesn't make sense,but it's like stay, stay.
(11:04):
You're like, but why?
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Yeah, listen to it.
Listen to it and you're right,because you might have that
voice that says stay, stay.
And you might well logically,if I write it down on paper
we've lost two times.
Why would I stay?
If you're trying to logic yourway into staying or leaving?
That's not the right way.
Can we agree on that?
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Yeah, I don't think there's maybe a few select
people but like pro con lists,throw those out the window.
That just confuses you and getsyou all in your head Like you
have to get into your body aboutsome decisions and I know
school doesn't teach you that.
Teach you a little logic andthere's some like buying a home.
You might want to logicallylook at some numbers.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
Sure.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
And there's aspects of your business that you need
to look at numbers but, when itcomes down to it, feel into your
body and make the decision.
And I was just reflecting, Ijust had my five year business
anniversary have you ever seenit?
I started off thank you, as a VA.
I answered customer serviceemails, you know, and I remember
it was kind of, I think justafter that first year I started
(12:09):
to get the itch and I would seelike other people selling
courses and all these coachesmaking all this money and I was
like, oh, they did it so fast,like I can just do it so fast.
I've got the grit, and it was ahumble reminder that things
don't happen fast most of thetime, and where I'm at now is a
(12:31):
way different place than Ithought I was going to be, but
I'm still just as proud and I'mproud of the money that it's
bringing in and I feel reallygood at about it and it's like
just that kind of reminder andreflection.
Looking back, I'm like I pushedso hard for this thing.
I thought I could get so fast.
You have to remember that innetwork marketing too, or any
(12:51):
social selling, like it's notfast.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
It's not, it's not fast, and I guarantee I mean yes
, you can prove us wrong there'ssomeone who did it fast,
Absolutely in your company thereare people who did it fast.
They do not appreciate thejourney and you might be like I
don't want to appreciate thejourney, I just want the money.
Listen, like the journey iswhere the good stuff is.
I can't express that enough topeople.
That's where the good stuff isis literally in the journey.
(13:17):
That's where you learn and ifwe stop seeing things as
failures, which ladies, womenwho are listening we are
socialized to be afraid offailing, to hate failing.
I read this book from the womanwho created Girls who Code, and
(13:38):
that's a lot.
I didn't read the book, I reada couple of chapters.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
Okay, that sounds better.
I was like okay, proxies.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
I did read In Forne from cover to cover, and if
you're a manifesto, you needthat book by Holly Herberg.
But this book I listened to heron Instagram and then I read a
bit of it and it was really goodand it's something that I think
that everyone who has childrenshould read.
I don't have children, so I'mgood, I'm Gucci, but this book
talks about how-.
You got baby or you got furbabies I do have fur babies, but
(14:08):
they're always gonna be treatedas princesses.
It's just the way it is they'regonna be like.
But when you have girls, whenthey fall, not only do you pick
them up and coddle them, but yousay that's okay, you don't have
to do that anymore, and youtake them on to do something
else.
Just that movement of it's okay.
(14:29):
Oh, you hurt yourself.
Okay, let's clean it off andlet's go do something else
Teaches them not to fail andteaches them, if they fail at
something, to move on.
Quit, absolutely, whereas withthe boy.
So then I realized that there'scaveats and exceptions to this,
but this is basically how wework in society.
(14:51):
Okay, so I'm speaking inabsolutes.
You get me.
When a boy falls down, we sayyou're okay, get back up, you're
okay, and do it all over again.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
Yeah, or there's the stop being a little girl, stop
crying like a girl, get up andkeep going, Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
I've seen people say that to myson and I'm like excuse me, Ooh
.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
So what happens is we teach a boy if you fall down, I
get knocked down, you get upagain.
You ain't never gonna get medown.
They learn that rejection istotally fine, whereas a girl
learns rejection or failure,failure, rejection, whatever is
not okay and we need to go dosomething where we're not gonna
(15:36):
get hurt, where we're not goingto fail.
And I think about I used towalk around saying I don't like
rejection and I used to walkaround saying I don't like doing
things I'm not good at.
And at any point when I waslike inquire any of these things
, when I started not being goodat it, I moved on.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
Same oh 100% looking back like all through high
school I had a different sportevery semester because I wasn't
the best.
So I was like I'm not the star,might as well go play
volleyball now.
100%.
Speaker 1 (16:05):
So what does that do in our life, besides what you
and I just made, using examplethat we lived, is this If you
ever notice, when there's like ajob application out there, they
found and they've done studies,women will be overqualified for
a job and not apply for itbecause they don't.
Oh well, no, I shouldn't, Ican't.
(16:26):
Guys will have like 20 or 30%of the qualifications and their
asses apply for the job.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
I have heard that I'm like what is that coming from?
They're taught to be resilientand try anyways.
Yeah, I'm gonna put 10 outthere, and girls are like I'm
gonna apply to one, that's theperfect one.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
The perfect one, absolutely.
Oh, I don't have thecredentials for that, so I could
never apply for it.
Guy doesn't think that way.
He's like okay, yeah, I'll doit, because they're taught that
rejection and failure is not athing.
This is also why the guys shoottheir shots with girls, like
what made you think you couldget that girl?
Yes, yeah, it's a thing.
(17:07):
Again, I'll find the name ofthe book.
I've got it somewhere, butanyhow, it is worth a read or a
listen if you are raising kids,because, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
It's not Girls who Code.
Is that that no?
Speaker 1 (17:19):
it's the woman who created Girls who Code, and the
book is something else.
Speaker 2 (17:25):
I just was on her.
Let me see if I can find itBrave Not Perfect, yes.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Brave, not Perfect.
That's the name of it, becauseand she even talks about it even
now as women, we can teachourselves to be brave and not be
perfect, but being perfect, notfailing, not have rejection.
That is like it has messed usup.
So why?
Where is that going with that?
Because when you think aboutyour business, your direct
(17:53):
selling business, your businessyou're doing, you are afraid
that if you won't be perfect atit.
That's why people like I'm notputting anything on social media
because it might not be good,I'm doing a YouTube.
That is not perfect, I'm justbeing brave.
Psn, by the way, just do thething.
People who are never gonna beperfect not any of us will be
(18:16):
perfect, never gonna be perfectGet further, because they're
just doing the thing.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Hallelujah.
I have learned that over andover again in business.
Because, gosh, you guys, youfail a lot, no matter what
business.
Don't look over there andyou're like that.
One must be easier.
No, they're all hard, you'regonna fail and failing.
You pause and maybe feel badfor a second and then you look
back.
What can I learn from this?
All right, here we go again,mm-hmm absolutely.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
This was not where we're gonna talk about the
podcast today.
Y'all just so you know.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
No, but obviously it needed to come through.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
Like a velociraptor.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
I was thinking like a puking kid.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
That tracks for your life yeah.
I think that's right.
What's going on in your world,my dear?
Speaker 2 (19:03):
You guys Remember, I think last week I was talking
about I was gonna go get afacial.
Oh, I had it.
I already mentioned that.
Yeah, the life's not thatexciting.
What else is going on?
I think we have COVID, well,that's nothing.
Yeah, I got in the shower thismorning to clear out, you know I
was like, oh Nice, sprayed myeucalyptus spray helps me relax.
I go, hmm, I Can't smell athing, and it's not because my
(19:28):
nose is clogged.
And then I tried I've got tea,can't taste it.
I was like, uh, how do you evenget a test, A COVID test?
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Yeah, is that a thing still?
Yeah, you just go to CVS.
Some of them just give them toyou for free.
They have I don't even know ifI have a mask.
Speaker 2 (19:45):
So I'm like, how am I gonna go in?
Like this is a whole dilemma.
I might just stay home for fivedays.
Call it a day.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
Yeah, I'm trying to think you could probably get it
delivered.
Oh, you go through thedrive-thru.
Go through the drive-thru.
Oh, I need a couple of uh-huh.
Yes, there we go.
I need that home cover.
Test through the drive-thru.
Make it happen, give it to me.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Thank you.
All right, what's, how are you?
Speaker 1 (20:06):
What's up?
Well, we're about to go back toCalifornia.
You know, when you move andyou're like, oh my gosh, I have
one more thing to do, like thelast trip back to your place is
the worst, you did that you had.
Yes, you did that in your room,yeah.
So I knew there's gonna feelthat way.
There's not a lot in the house.
I've got a couple things that Istill need to sell, so I needed
like, y'all come get them.
I don't even care at this point.
(20:27):
I can't believe you don't wantthese things, but whatever,
that's your issue.
Um, so we're here for three daysand Scott might leave early
with Taylor, my, my stepdaughter, because we they're doing this
like the largest brew craft beerFest is on Saturday here.
Oh, we kind of want to go to it.
(20:47):
So Baylor and I fly out onSaturday, saturday, saturday.
So, um, and he's driving, he'sdriving the car, yeah, he's
driving with Taylor.
So they're new daddy Jada roadtrip was my idea Because, but
(21:09):
also his, his back seat is notconducive to three people.
So, um, they'll drive, we'llfly and then we will be.
Thank you, think the good lordwill be settled here and that is
when I'll finally feel likeGrounded.
She'll be here for a week or so, so I still feel like I need to
like show you around, but thenit's like we're here, yeah, yeah
.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
Yep, you close the chapter.
I know what you mean, becausethen my mom drove with me down
and then it was like she wasthere so we were doing stuff,
and then I'm like I just wannaclose the chapter because moving
I've already forgot how hard itis.
I literally it's out of mybrain Well, you don't remember
paying.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
they say, right, so that's the big thing that we're
doing.
We leave today, so just, andit's like we're really enjoying
the house.
So it's like, oh, we gottaleave.
Okay, that's what it is.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
Yeah, if that's gonna be me, we'll save travels.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
I appreciate that.
All right, everyone, we'll seeyou next week.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
Thanks for listening to another episode of Rocks
Talks.
We would love for you to helpus get this message out to other
network marketers If you couldfollow rate review wherever you
(22:29):
are listening to this episodeover at Rocks Talks.
Speaker 1 (22:33):
Always remember you're not ahead, you're not
behind, you're exactly whereyou're supposed to be and we'll
see you next week for anotherepisode of Rocks Talks.
Thanks so much.
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