August 22, 2025 • 32 mins
We explore why Black-owned businesses struggle to thrive in our communities and how we can reverse this trend through unity, support, and strategic investment in each other.
• Lack of community support is the primary challenge facing Black-owned businesses
• We readily support businesses owned by other ethnic groups but hesitate to patronize Black establishments
• Oprah Winfrey's model of success involved elevating those closest to her, particularly Gayle King
• Creating generational wealth requires building businesses that can be passed down, not just acquiring status symbols
• Learning to share success and resources within our community is essential for collective progress
• Celebrities like Serena Williams have a responsibility to reinvest in the communities that supported their rise
• We must rebuild the sense of community that once defined Black neighborhoods
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Oh, child, what up though?
Welcome to the Run your Mouthpodcast with your girl Key.
Yes, I am a day late and adollar short.
Y'all know what.
It's Friday and I was supposedto drop this episode on Thursday
, but I didn't pre-record, so Iwas planning to go live on
Facebook and life happened and Ididn't Blame it on my sisters
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and my girl group, because theyhad me out and, yeah, I had to
cut water and the cut water tookme out.
Y'all Like, where did this comefrom?
For real, see, I don't haveTikTok.
I don't have it, I don't wantit, and I'm going to have to
stop looking at those TikToksthat I share with me that I can
(00:49):
actually see.
Majority of them I can't seeanyway, because I don't have an
account and I don't have the app.
So someone will have toscreenshot it or screen record
it and send it to me.
But listen, here, some of thoseones that I can see, I'm just
going to keep scrolling on bybecause I ain't got time.
Ain't got time for the lies,ain't got time for the nonsense.
They went over here and madethis thing popular and carried
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on like it was just a heavensent spring water.
That shit is cray, it is, it iscisco mad dog.
2020.
Wild hours, rose booms farmain't no water, they say they
just 2020, wild Irish Roads,boone's Farm Ain't no water,
they say they just steal alittle water, but ain't no water
.
And they lying.
It ain't 13%, it's zero.
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It's supposed to be another.
That decimal's supposed to beover one.
That's got to be 139%.
Y'all listen, y'all know Ialways get off task and I'm
getting off task here.
I'm starting y'all off indisarray because the cut of
water just got me coming down.
But hey, for those of you wholike it strong, get you a Long
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Island.
I'm telling you, start at thetop, work your way down.
That Long Island took me out.
I forgot to even.
I forgot what yesterday evenwas like for real, for real, for
real.
One can and those who know meknow I can take it down through
there if I want to but and I'mnot a mixed drink drinker, I
like straight drop.
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But I had to put lemons.
I asked for some lemonade.
I asked for resuscitation.
I asked for the bed, I askedfor a driver.
I was just, I was gone.
I was gone.
Y' so, anyway, that's whathappened.
So now y'all know.
So I wasn't going to hold youanyway page to drop me some
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comments and speak on what youall think is the problem when it
comes to Black-owned businessesand why we don't thrive.
But I didn't really get a lotof comments.
You know Got a couple ofinboxes, a couple of messages,
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but not like I had anticipated.
But oftentimes we are scared totalk about this.
You know, we don't want tooffend our friends and we don't
want to look like we begging forsupport, this, that and the
third.
But the three things that I wantto cover and I promise you I'm
not going to hold you longbecause I'm still coming down
off the cut water, off the crackwater or whatever they want to
call it, and I'm tired, like Ijust I just really didn't feel
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like nothing yesterday.
I was like let me get myself upthis road, get back to my area
safely, go to sleep.
That's what I did.
That was a cut water, calm down.
I ain't felt that bad since andI didn't feel bad.
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I didn't feel hungover orgroggy or nothing hurt.
I just felt out of it.
Like I guess some people likethat feeling.
I don't know.
Honey, please drink safely,don't mix anything with that.
Don't mix nothing with it.
If you pop pills, please, Idon't want to have to see you in
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the ER, don't do it.
So, anyway, we're going to keepit moving and I always try to
bring you something of substancein less than an hour, but I
promise you it's going to beless than that, because I got
something else to do that Ididn't do yesterday, so we're
going to get right to it.
It was real, sweet and simple,because we, as black business
owners, know that we don'tsupport one another.
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That's number one Support fromyour community.
That was one of the key things,and I put that first because
why is it so hard that we canembrace the local store that's
owned by the Indians, arabs,west Middle Easterners,
westerners, wherever, whoever?
We can support the beautysupply store that's owned by the
Asian, the African, whoever,whatever, whatever but we can't
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support Black-owned businessesthat are owned by
African-Americans from America.
We can support everything Gobuy from everybody but you won't
buy from one another.
You won't support one another.
Y'all go tell Janet Jacksonhappy birthday, but you won't
tell your neighbor happybirthday.
One another, you won't supportone another.
Y'all go tell Janet Jacksonhappy birthday, but you won't
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tell your neighbor happybirthday, we'll get online and
we'll wish everybody a RIP, butyou'll see a flower and a tent
in your yard and you won't evengo across the street or up the
street and take a bottle ofwater or a case of water or a
pack of tissue and you knowthese people done died on your
street.
You're looking at it, you'relooking at the tent, you're
looking at the repast ceremonygoing on, you're looking at the
traffic, you're looking at thewreaths on the door.
You don't even know yourneighbor, but you're concerning
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yourself with seven millionpeople on social media.
That's the problem.
And see, we got to get awayfrom that.
I'm going to use one primeexample Oprah.
Oprah didn't try to pull thewhole world up by the bootstraps
.
Oprah didn't try to pull thewhole world up by the bootstraps
and, yes, some people wereoffended when she took a
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different turn in her broadcastand what she chose to be her key
topics.
She went from messy to amillionaire, basically.
I mean, she started out messy,tuning in every week Oprah got
somebody fighting in theaudience, telling each other
secrets andwhoop-de-whoop-de-whoop because
it appeased to the gossipingBlack folk.
But once she got where she wasgoing in life, where she knew
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she needed to go to bring whoshe wanted to bring up by the
bootstraps, which happens to beher friend.
She's primed and guided her.
She guided Gail into thebusiness.
She didn't go over there andtake the business and I mean
she's done a lot of things thatI don't approve of, but she's
done many things that I doapprove of.
But one thing that I give herher flowers for is the person
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who stood by her, the personthat looks like her, the person
that knew her, roll with her,ride or die with her, who she
calls her best friend.
She put her in a position whereshe could also win, not ride
off her coattail and borrow abig scheme and thieve, but go
out here and do something foryourself, for your family,
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because I'm going to help you.
I'm not going to be jealousthat you're doing the same thing
I'm doing.
I know when it's time, whenit's time to step back.
Black people, you got to knowwhen it's time to step back when
you have made it.
Second point share.
You cannot have it all.
You don't need it all.
You got to keep it revolvingand the way to keep it revolving
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is to keep it in yourneighborhood, keep it in your
community.
We can't keep tearing downeverything that we got.
But think about it the stuff wetear down might be in our
neighborhood, but it ain't oursanyway.
So really all you got to do isjust drive a couple of more
blocks and you'll go to anothertarget.
You'll go to another store.
If you don't vandalize that one, you're going to find another
one because they all over theplace.
It ain't yours anyway.
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Not beautifying yourneighborhood, but it ain't yours
anyway.
But we have to first learn howto care for stuff and build and
grow within our community and wecan take care of it because we
don't have to worry about otherbusinesses coming in and taking
over.
And I think I think not 100%sure about that, like I'm not
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100% sure about the fact thateverybody has common sense,
because they don't, but we havethe ability to gain some and I
think that everyone thatacquires something want to take
care of it.
You know you want yourneighborhood to look good, you
want your schools to stay open,you want your businesses to be
protected need to be ours.
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That's why we need to bringback that American dollar, that
black American dollar, in ourcommunity and it starts with
losing some of y'all jealousyand y'all envy.
You know, I have a shirtbusiness and I have apparel
different things and I'll watchpeople and I'll see and, mind
you, I don't do custom shirtsanymore, I do my brand but and I
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read, I create differentslogans and I add something
every now and then that I seethat appeases me or whatever.
But I don't do.
I don't do other people'sbrands.
I say it all the time.
I don't.
I don't plug Nike into my store.
I don't plug Lululemon into mystore.
Whoever else stuff like a dropship, I don't care whatever they
got on amazon, I don't plug allthat into my store.
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Because one thing I realize isthere's some people stuff and
even if it makes me millions andmillions of dollars right now,
it still ain't gonna do no goodwhen I'm gone because I can't
carry it on.
I can't carry it on, my familycan't carry it on because it
doesn't belong to me.
So we'll spend up and we'llball out with what we need.
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But hell, I've been therebefore.
I've been able to spend andball out before off the backs of
somebody else's money.
So it ain't no big deal whosemoney it is, as long as you got
it right and you got access toit.
Money is money, but I had tolearn that's not the key to the
street.
I want to be able to hand overthe key to the street and say,
hey, here's my legacy.
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Keep it going if you want to.
If you don't, fine, but it'syours, it belongs to us.
That's like buying land andfarming it belongs to you.
You sell it when you get ready.
Ain't nobody coming and take itunless you don't take care of
it and you don't do what you'resupposed to do.
Get ready, ain't nobody comingand take it unless you don't
take care of it and you don't dowhat you're supposed to do.
But you can pass that on.
You know you go out here andyou get bamboozled into these
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high entrance loans and payingon something for the rest of
your life Can't pass it down.
You know a lot of people don'teven choose or elect to get the
insurance where it's paid off atthat benefit.
They don't even they don't doit.
So we have to first learn thatit's key to stick together,
support one another.
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It doesn't matter if y'alldoing the same thing still
support that person.
That person's selling plates,so they might not be selling
what you're selling, supportthat person.
They're probably not in yourneighborhood, so you need to
make sure it grows thatneighborhood.
Then you get to the nextneighborhood and the next
neighborhood, your turn iscoming.
Your turn is coming If you'redoing something that you're
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supposed to be doing and Godintended for you to do purposely
for you.
It does not matter who else isdoing it.
But I have cried, preached,begged to the choir in every
social media platform I have andI still don't see the numbers
from the people that call mefriend, that know me, that deal
with me.
And you don't have to tell mewhat you want me to do.
I mean, if you don't like whatI have or what product I'm
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producing, give me an idea, giveme an idea and I'm going to
give you credit.
I'm going to say, hey, you know, thank you such and such for
this idea.
You might get half off, youmight get a free shirt, you
might get a promo, I don't know.
But whatever it is, I'm goingto make sure that your
creativity and your input isrecognized.
And that's what's wrong with us.
We're so scared that somebody'sgoing to make it to the top
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without us.
Leave us out till you're goingto compete with that person,
knowing that that ain't evenwhat your gift is, that's not
even what you're supposed to bedoing.
That's like me going out theresaying I'm going to become a pro
football player, I ain't goingto get hit, I ain't going to
play no football.
I ain't going out there and donothing.
It doesn't matter how good Iknow the game, it doesn't matter
if I can not want to throw themjokers out.
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I'm not going out there becausethat's not my calling.
That's not what I need to do.
So if we get it in our head thatwe need to get off that horse,
that everything we got to putour hands in, it's okay to be a
serial entrepreneur I'm one butI do stuff that I know I'm good
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at.
I do stuff.
That's and the thing about it.
Y'all get this in the back ofyour head, put it in your dome,
put it back there, way backthere, so it can always come to
the front a little bit by alittle bit, until you.
You see it.
What a person is good at andwhat a person does, it doesn't
really matter if you duplicateit.
They're gonna.
They're gonna win anyway.
I'm gonna sell books anyway.
I'm gonna sell clothes anywayto somebody might not be the
people I would like to seesupport me, but somebody going
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to do it, somebody going to putfood on my table, or I'm going
to do something different If Ijust get to the point that was
just like with nursing, and thenit came to the point where it
just wasn't my calling, it justwasn't for me.
Bumps, hurdles, we're going toface them, we're all going to go
through them.
That's what life is about.
But if I realize at any time,fashion and form, that I just
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cannot get this, and even if Ipassed, even if I passed the
boards and passed the classesand I got into this field and
said, hey, this is not workingfor me.
I just cannot figure out how tostay productive.
I can't manage patients.
I don't remember what the drugsis, I don't know how to
calculate dosage without mycomputer.
This just ain't for me.
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I got to get over here and dosomething else.
So I'm going to fancy over andI'm going to do something else,
and it was God's will for it tobe for me.
So I stuck with it, even throughthe bumps and the hurdles and
the bruises and the failed testsand all this other stuff, but
everybody now saturating thatfield because they looking to
their left and looking to theirright.
They ain't called to do this.
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So you need to do somethingthat you were called to do and
then you go help somebody elsedo it and help somebody else do
it, and hopefully they helpsomebody else do it, and that's
how we grow.
That is how we grow.
That is what Oprah did withGail.
She knew when it was her timeto get behind the scenes because
she done made enough money.
She knew when it was her timeto get behind the scenes because
she done made enough money andshe done put her money and
invested it in places where it'sgoing to revolve for a lifetime
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if she wanted to.
Now it's time to pull up someother people who can do that
with their family, and they cando it with their family, and it
keeps going and going and going.
And her entities they staywithin her reach because she
knows where she put her energy,time, investment, money and who
she put it with.
Now I'm not saying go and juststart taking care of all your
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friends, because everybody isnot purposed to be at your table
when you eat off of your goodsilverware.
Some people need to be in theback room with the kids with the
paper plates.
You know what I mean.
Be in the back room with thekids with the paper plates.
You know what I mean.
But I want y'all to understandthat you have to know when to
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jump in and help somebody else.
That's most important.
We have to know how to be oneband, one mind, one community,
one culture, one mission,because everything in life
requires you to have a team,requires allies, requires
resources, and that's one of thethings that we haven't gotten
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in the Western culture yet inthe African-American community
you go anywhere else and you seepeople that look like each
other living together in harmonytogether.
They may raise a little hilltogether, but at the end of the
day they look out for oneanother.
I was in Africa, as everybodythat follows me knows, and I'm
telling you that was the mostprofound moment of my life.
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I have never seen people sticktogether so well in the Black
community.
I have never, never.
And I know some people havetheir reservations about the
different cultures.
You know the diversity thereand the mindset that a lot of
the regions have.
It's like one day at a time,but it's not kill or be killed.
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Mentality it's one day at atime and as we're going to stick
together and I'm going to helpyou, you're going to help me.
You know, you got women walkingwith bread baskets on their
head and somebody else got wateron their head and this was
going over here giving this onea piece of bread for a piece of
water, making sure we eat, Idrink, we good.
Everybody ain't dragging eachother and trying to hurry up and
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outsell one another.
They were polite, they werecourteous.
It's robust, it's everybodygoing to run until you're trying
to say something, but theyain't all stepping over each
other.
So I like the unity that I sawin that country.
It was beautiful.
It was something I've neverseen.
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First of all, our streets areempty half of the time, except
for everybody's in their carsand in their homes.
We're not out selling anythinganyway.
We have storefronts and we'rebuying everything, but we are
not producing anything and we'redefinitely not keeping stuff in
our community.
And I don't understand that.
I don't understand why it's sohard for people who have been so
privileged to stick together,because really, when you look
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around in the United States,majority of the people ain't
doing too bad.
You know you might have somedoing better than others, but
for the most part everybodyain't going to be an NFL star,
nba star.
Everybody ain't going to be amillion-dollar content creator.
Everybody's not going to be amulti-million dollar apparel
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online store.
I'm probably not going to maketime here, figure money off the
bat, but I'm gonna keep onstepping.
That's what we gotta do.
Like miss shirley say, he'sgonna keep on stepping.
Even a three-year-old,four-year-old baby get it.
We don't even get it.
She know to just keep going anddon't let the hater stop you.
Whatever, whatever little girlgonna do whatever she need to do
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to make sure she happy.
And you know she got theconcept.
You know, might might be alittle too little to have it
right now, but she, she got theheart.
She has the heart for it, andthat's the thing that we don't
have a lot of.
We don't have heart for oneanother.
We rather go and support ouroppressors, and I'm not saying
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just just like look the boycott.
We had to have someone elsetell us where we should spend
our money.
First of all, nobody got totell you where to spend your
money.
You should come and tell you ifsomething is hurting you,
something is hurting yourcommunity and something is
taking away from you.
You should know the fallback.
Now me myself.
I'm a Target person.
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I like Target.
I don't really prefer Walmart,even though I worked at Walmart
before.
I just don't like thestorefront.
I don't like the cleanliness.
I don't like just having tofight to find a register open,
self-checkout myself to death.
If I look on the app and itsays it's an I3H3Shift2, roll
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one, turn to the left, bend overdown to the right, push
something back and there you go,boom, there's my product.
That's what I want.
I don't want to go there andhave to go through all this
nonsense.
So for me, target has workedbetter for me.
But I knew that for the sake ofmy mentality, the sake of my
pocket and the sake of what Ibelieve in, I had to fall back.
I ain't saying I ain't been inTarget since then, but I
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definitely fell back and itdefinitely made a difference.
And nobody shouldn't have totell us that.
Because when you see industriesand corporations start not
working for the people, whoworking for them?
Who putting food on your table?
Who putting your kids tocollege, who making your
business a billion dollar,trillion dollar business,
potentially because one of themabout to hit a trillion.
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If Amazon ain't already hit,it's going to.
It got to because we rely on itso much.
I fell back and you know we cando without that extra order.
We can do without them.
15,000 boxes coming to our doorevery week.
You don't need all this stuff.
You need to create and haveresources and learn how to be
fundamentally sound in your owncommunity with your own
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resources and your own peopleand your own stuff.
It doesn't make sense.
It doesn't make sense to park a$60,000 car in a project.
I'm sorry, it just don't makesense.
It don't make sense to go broketrying to pay a car note and
you can't even feed your family.
Where are you going?
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Go, get you something you canafford and get.
Where you going, it's okay.
Letting people have their messback.
Get one later, it's okay.
Restore your credit later, it'sokay.
You got people going to buyhere.
Pay here is making these peoplerich and as soon as you miss a
payment they ain't giving you nograce.
No grace in your interest isthrough the roof, when you could
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have just tucked it out for alittle while and I've been there
.
I've been there.
I bought a $500 car, put my babyin it.
It had one eye and it had aMitch Mack side.
It was a Cougar 1984 Cougar,mind you.
It was 1993 when I bought itand I had her standing up on one
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side in the front because therewasn't no seat belts in the
back, couldn't even put a carseat back there.
She stood up on the front onone side.
I scrapped her little buddy inand I was like you better hold
on Because your door don't workfrom the outside and I got to
push it open over here and pushit open for you to get out and
you better sit down and hold on.
We made it do what it do, wentto my little job until I could
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get something else and I wasstepping out that thing, pretty
Stepping out that thing.
My baby lay hair lay, slave frydie, lay to the side every day
and I'm thinking I'm pushing aPorsche.
I did what I had to do until Icould do better.
Sometimes we don't know how tohumble ourselves and we just get
too much mess that we justabsolutely are not benefiting
from.
You're not benefiting fromhaving three or four cars if you
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can't pay for them.
You're not benefiting frompurchasing homes that you're not
utilizing, you're notbenefiting from that Benefit for
do things that you benefit fromand that's going to benefit
your community, because that'sone of the biggest issues we
have in the African-Americancommunity in the Western
countries.
We don't appreciate one another.
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We don't even know ourneighbors, and I'm guilty.
Don't think I'm preaching tothe choir and I ain't preach to
myself, because I have.
I'm guilty, I don't know thesepeople.
I remember growing up, back inthe day you could go to your
neighbor and you could borrow abroom.
Yeah, I'm going to go get a.
I've had people come to mymom's house and borrow a flower,
a broom, a mop.
Like you want to sweep my mama,just be like, you can have it
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baby.
You tell your mama she can haveit, she can keep it, because we
don't want you to bring yourdirt back to our house, but at
the same time we want you to beable to clean your house and
that's what you need to do.
And if you ain't got too muchpride that you know you got to
come ask somebody for help, evenif it's down to a mop and a
broom to make your dwellingproper light, then you do that
and that's what we haven't done.
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We haven't made our dwelling,not just our homes, but our
communities, our storefronts,our entrepreneurs.
We haven't made our dwellingpeople who do have these
businesses in our areacomfortable.
We haven't made them elevate,because we won't even walk in
them.
Oh, I don't like such and such.
I ain't going to buy nothingfrom her.
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I don't deal with him.
I ain't letting him cut my sonhair.
Oh, he got a nasty attitude.
I'm not going down there andbuy nothing out of his shop.
Oh, I ain't letting him fix mycar.
I'm taking my car to the dealerand the dealer be just as
crooked, be just as snowbladingyou, just as blindsided,
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charging you for a 500 oilchange and putting bad oil in
your car it ain't even syntheticand slapping a stick up there.
You don't know what them peopledoing, but you know jim them.
You know bob them down thestreet, you know they good on
cars, but you don't fool withthem.
Though I ain't fooling withthem.
I'm going to do this and I'mgoing to do that.
Okay, you just took out yourcommunity.
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You just took out of somebody'smouth in your community who
probably could have looked outfor you.
But see, that's the mindset wehave.
And lastly and I'm going torepeat part of number one, stick
together, take care of yourpeople.
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Learn how to share, learn howto share your resources with
people that look like you.
This is going to be real quick.
Serena Williams, you married awhite man.
That's fine.
Love who you want to love, talkto who you want to talk to,
date who you want to date.
But she sat here and she done,got all whoop-de -whoop, get
good and big and you crip,walked and you did all this.
Kendra lamar, pro black.
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I'm from compton, I'm aboutthat life type nonsense.
But you got all these self-helpsisters out here, myself
included.
Been making sea moss for eightyears, been on my health tips
long before I got a nurse and Iwas vegan for 14 years.
I'm sorry.
I was vegetarian for seven,vegan for seven.
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When I got pregnant with myfirst daughter in 93, I hadn't
ate meat in seven years and Iate some meat and I had an
allergic reaction.
That's how long I've beenworried about my health and I
still had problems.
But I always knew what I put inis what I'm going to get out.
But you got all this money andyou got all these resources and
you got all this ability,worldwide ability.
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I'm talking about these peoplejet setters.
They trendsetters and jetsetters.
They can go, hop on a jet andmake a 24-hour trip look like 10
.
You can go sit at a table withmillionaires and push your
product if you want to, but shewent and she endorsed somebody
that didn't look like us.
That's what you got all overyour page.
You bought your health and usethis product and do this and do
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that, but you didn't go and findthat one.
You mean to tell me as much yoube on social media and as many
followers as she has, and I loveher talent, love her and I love
this story.
But I also know that sometimes,when you put us up, you support
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us, and I can't probably evenfathom the thought of the people
who went to tennis matches andsupported her.
They probably couldn't evenreally afford it, but they made
it happen because they wanted tobe a part of it, wanted to be
connected to history.
All the people who havesupported that ugly hair that
she was selling, because itdefinitely was not a good
quality hair, but people said,hey, we're going to support this
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because it's Serena.
But then you go over here youslap us in the face.
Yeah, I said it.
You like it or love it.
I said it and I hope it getback to her.
If it don't, then who cares?
Somebody may go to her ear.
You married a man outside ofyour race because you loved him.
You had children for him andthat's absolutely your choice.
That's your right.
Love who you want to love.
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But when it come down to yourmoney and it come down to your
race and it come down to yourinheritance and it comes down to
your ancestors and who builtthis country and made it
possible for you to even be thatlittle black girl out there
playing against these littlewhite girls and these people in
different social classes thanyou, and you go and you throw
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that money right back over there.
You tell me that ain't a slapin the face.
It's a slap in the face and I'mgoing to be out.
I got three minutes left.
I wanted to be done in 15, butI went over to 30 because I took
a break and I came back.
But y'all, I apologize again fordelaying this episode, but
listen, if you are in need women40 and over, and you're getting
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back into the workforce oryou're getting back into your
entrepreneur journey.
You just have a vision or youhave a dream, just something you
want to do.
You empty nest and kids gone,your grandkids running around
with their parents doingwhatever.
You don't have kids.
You don't have grandkidsrunning around with their
parents doing whatever.
You don't have kids, you don'thave grandkids, and it's just
you.
Or maybe you are now a recentlywidowed, recently divorced, and
you got to figure out your life.
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You got to figure out your lifefor you because, at the end of
the day, it's yours.
You're going to get one, you'regoing to stand before your God
and you're going to beaccountable for what you did
with your 24 hours.
You want to figure it out.
Get at me.
I do one-on-one consulting Women.
I cater to women because Idon't know what it's like to be
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a man, but I may add that alongmy husband may start doing that
in the future.
Who knows, if you know, maybehe got something he can offer me
and help them.
Take them by the bootstrap, butfor now it's just me.
It men.
Help them take them by thebootstrap, but for now it's just
me, it's just me versus me.
It's just key, it's just bigkey and I want to basically give
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you the one-on-one.
I've single-handedly created mycompany with my own money, no
loans.
For one, my credit was too badto even go out and get any, so I
wasn't worried about that inthe beginning.
Anyway, I was like go ahead anddig out this 401k because I got
that.
I wasn't worried about that inthe beginning.
Anyway, I was like go ahead anddig out this 401k because I got
that.
I ain't got no 700 credit score, but I got that, so I had to
take that to do this.
And I built this company andthen I tried to figure out what
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I wanted to do with it and indoing so, once I published the
books, once I started the onlineapparel company, once I branded
this and did this and did that,I said I'm missing something.
What I was missing was givingback the recipe.
And I'm not breaking y'all bank.
I ain't telling y'all to comebuy no product for $599 and I'm
going to make you rich.
No, no, you don't spend $97.
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And I'm going to give youresources and I'm going to give
you what it took me to do whatI'm doing.
I'm going to show you successbecause I am successful at what
I did.
I am very successful at whatI'm doing and I'll give you the
recipe and I ain't going tobreak your back or break your
bank, because I know you don'thave it.
If you're trying to get out hereand you're trying to get
something and do something inlife, then you're probably
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struggling to get there.
I struggle still to get myproducts out to make sure I can
still pay myself and have alittle bit left at the end of
the day to appease to my familyand my needs and my wants.
So I know it's not easy, butcome on over here and talk to me
.
Book the consultation atreaditgroupcom.
That's R-I-E-I-D-I-T groupcom.
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$97 would be the best $97 youever spent in your life, because
what I'm going to tell you isthe truth.
It ain't all glitz and glamour,but you're going to get the
truth.
You're going to get facts andyou're going to get resources
and you're going to get a littlebit of help.
You got somebody that's goingto help you.
They've been there, done that.
I ain't just trying to sell younothing, because at the to work
every day and I'm gonna get upand go to work every day Until I
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don't have to get up and go towork every day For somebody else
, and then I'm getting up andgoing to work every day for me.
I go to work at night for me.
So I got two jobs.
I got two jobs.
I got two phones too.
But no, seriously, I want youguys to really understand that
we got.
We're in a crunch time,everybody crying about what
Trump doing, what he took away,what he did, blah, blah, blah.
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We got to get it together.
So y'all, tune in next time.
Like I said, I'm transitioningto girl talk because I want to
focus on us girls, us ladies,and what we got going on and
pulling us out of this AIinternet realm that we're in and
thinking.
Everybody got to do the samething.
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It's so much more out here wecan do.
It's so much more we can bringto the table.
So much more.
Our ancestors died to lay outfor us and gave us a blueprint
to just piggyback it and pull itup by the bootstraps.
So do it.
We got to do it.
We got to make this thinghappen.
So y'all, make sure y'all helpme with this and make sure it's
a smooth, uh, transition.
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I'm still gonna talk about somethings that relate to men and in
the world and all this otherstuff, but for the most part,
run your mouth is going intogirl talk and that's all we're
gonna talk about.
What our hot flashes menopause,kids, men, money, gain a little
weight, losing a little weight.
What's your own girl?
What you on girl, what youtaking, how you did this, how
you did that.
We're going to help each other,help me, help you Y'all.
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Tune in for the next episode.
Thank you for listening andagain I apologize for the delay
in the episode, but I got y'all.
Next time I'm going to be ontime and I'm out.
Have a good one.
Oh, child, what up though?
Welcome to the Run your Mouthpodcast with your girl Key.
Yes, I am a day late and adollar short.
Y'all know what.
It's Friday and I was supposedto drop this episode on Thursday
, but I didn't pre-record, so Iwas planning to go live on
Facebook and life happened and Ididn't Blame it on my sisters
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and my girl group, because theyhad me out and, yeah, I had to
cut water and the cut water tookme out.
Y'all Like, where did this comefrom?
For real, see, I don't haveTikTok.
I don't have it, I don't wantit, and I'm going to have to
stop looking at those TikToksthat I share with me that I can
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actually see.
Majority of them I can't seeanyway, because I don't have an
account and I don't have the app.
So someone will have toscreenshot it or screen record
it and send it to me.
But listen, here, some of thoseones that I can see, I'm just
going to keep scrolling on bybecause I ain't got time.
Ain't got time for the lies,ain't got time for the nonsense.
They went over here and madethis thing popular and carried
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on like it was just a heavensent spring water.
That shit is cray, it is, it iscisco mad dog.
2020.
Wild hours, rose booms farmain't no water, they say they
just 2020, wild Irish Roads,boone's Farm Ain't no water,
they say they just steal alittle water, but ain't no water
.
And they lying.
It ain't 13%, it's zero.
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It's supposed to be another.
That decimal's supposed to beover one.
That's got to be 139%.
Y'all listen, y'all know Ialways get off task and I'm
getting off task here.
I'm starting y'all off indisarray because the cut of
water just got me coming down.
But hey, for those of you wholike it strong, get you a Long
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Island.
I'm telling you, start at thetop, work your way down.
That Long Island took me out.
I forgot to even.
I forgot what yesterday evenwas like for real, for real, for
real.
One can and those who know meknow I can take it down through
there if I want to but and I'mnot a mixed drink drinker, I
like straight drop.
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But I had to put lemons.
I asked for some lemonade.
I asked for resuscitation.
I asked for the bed, I askedfor a driver.
I was just, I was gone.
I was gone.
Y' so, anyway, that's whathappened.
So now y'all know.
So I wasn't going to hold youanyway page to drop me some
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comments and speak on what youall think is the problem when it
comes to Black-owned businessesand why we don't thrive.
But I didn't really get a lotof comments.
You know Got a couple ofinboxes, a couple of messages,
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but not like I had anticipated.
But oftentimes we are scared totalk about this.
You know, we don't want tooffend our friends and we don't
want to look like we begging forsupport, this, that and the
third.
But the three things that I wantto cover and I promise you I'm
not going to hold you longbecause I'm still coming down
off the cut water, off the crackwater or whatever they want to
call it, and I'm tired, like Ijust I just really didn't feel
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like nothing yesterday.
I was like let me get myself upthis road, get back to my area
safely, go to sleep.
That's what I did.
That was a cut water, calm down.
I ain't felt that bad since andI didn't feel bad.
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I didn't feel hungover orgroggy or nothing hurt.
I just felt out of it.
Like I guess some people likethat feeling.
I don't know.
Honey, please drink safely,don't mix anything with that.
Don't mix nothing with it.
If you pop pills, please, Idon't want to have to see you in
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the ER, don't do it.
So, anyway, we're going to keepit moving and I always try to
bring you something of substancein less than an hour, but I
promise you it's going to beless than that, because I got
something else to do that Ididn't do yesterday, so we're
going to get right to it.
It was real, sweet and simple,because we, as black business
owners, know that we don'tsupport one another.
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That's number one Support fromyour community.
That was one of the key things,and I put that first because
why is it so hard that we canembrace the local store that's
owned by the Indians, arabs,west Middle Easterners,
westerners, wherever, whoever?
We can support the beautysupply store that's owned by the
Asian, the African, whoever,whatever, whatever but we can't
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support Black-owned businessesthat are owned by
African-Americans from America.
We can support everything Gobuy from everybody but you won't
buy from one another.
You won't support one another.
Y'all go tell Janet Jacksonhappy birthday, but you won't
tell your neighbor happybirthday.
One another, you won't supportone another.
Y'all go tell Janet Jacksonhappy birthday, but you won't
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tell your neighbor happybirthday, we'll get online and
we'll wish everybody a RIP, butyou'll see a flower and a tent
in your yard and you won't evengo across the street or up the
street and take a bottle ofwater or a case of water or a
pack of tissue and you knowthese people done died on your
street.
You're looking at it, you'relooking at the tent, you're
looking at the repast ceremonygoing on, you're looking at the
traffic, you're looking at thewreaths on the door.
You don't even know yourneighbor, but you're concerning
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yourself with seven millionpeople on social media.
That's the problem.
And see, we got to get awayfrom that.
I'm going to use one primeexample Oprah.
Oprah didn't try to pull thewhole world up by the bootstraps
.
Oprah didn't try to pull thewhole world up by the bootstraps
and, yes, some people wereoffended when she took a
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different turn in her broadcastand what she chose to be her key
topics.
She went from messy to amillionaire, basically.
I mean, she started out messy,tuning in every week Oprah got
somebody fighting in theaudience, telling each other
secrets andwhoop-de-whoop-de-whoop because
it appeased to the gossipingBlack folk.
But once she got where she wasgoing in life, where she knew
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she needed to go to bring whoshe wanted to bring up by the
bootstraps, which happens to beher friend.
She's primed and guided her.
She guided Gail into thebusiness.
She didn't go over there andtake the business and I mean
she's done a lot of things thatI don't approve of, but she's
done many things that I doapprove of.
But one thing that I give herher flowers for is the person
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who stood by her, the personthat looks like her, the person
that knew her, roll with her,ride or die with her, who she
calls her best friend.
She put her in a position whereshe could also win, not ride
off her coattail and borrow abig scheme and thieve, but go
out here and do something foryourself, for your family,
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because I'm going to help you.
I'm not going to be jealousthat you're doing the same thing
I'm doing.
I know when it's time, whenit's time to step back.
Black people, you got to knowwhen it's time to step back when
you have made it.
Second point share.
You cannot have it all.
You don't need it all.
You got to keep it revolvingand the way to keep it revolving
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is to keep it in yourneighborhood, keep it in your
community.
We can't keep tearing downeverything that we got.
But think about it the stuff wetear down might be in our
neighborhood, but it ain't oursanyway.
So really all you got to do isjust drive a couple of more
blocks and you'll go to anothertarget.
You'll go to another store.
If you don't vandalize that one, you're going to find another
one because they all over theplace.
It ain't yours anyway.
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Not beautifying yourneighborhood, but it ain't yours
anyway.
But we have to first learn howto care for stuff and build and
grow within our community and wecan take care of it because we
don't have to worry about otherbusinesses coming in and taking
over.
And I think I think not 100%sure about that, like I'm not
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100% sure about the fact thateverybody has common sense,
because they don't, but we havethe ability to gain some and I
think that everyone thatacquires something want to take
care of it.
You know you want yourneighborhood to look good, you
want your schools to stay open,you want your businesses to be
protected need to be ours.
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That's why we need to bringback that American dollar, that
black American dollar, in ourcommunity and it starts with
losing some of y'all jealousyand y'all envy.
You know, I have a shirtbusiness and I have apparel
different things and I'll watchpeople and I'll see and, mind
you, I don't do custom shirtsanymore, I do my brand but and I
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read, I create differentslogans and I add something
every now and then that I seethat appeases me or whatever.
But I don't do.
I don't do other people'sbrands.
I say it all the time.
I don't.
I don't plug Nike into my store.
I don't plug Lululemon into mystore.
Whoever else stuff like a dropship, I don't care whatever they
got on amazon, I don't plug allthat into my store.
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Because one thing I realize isthere's some people stuff and
even if it makes me millions andmillions of dollars right now,
it still ain't gonna do no goodwhen I'm gone because I can't
carry it on.
I can't carry it on, my familycan't carry it on because it
doesn't belong to me.
So we'll spend up and we'llball out with what we need.
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But hell, I've been therebefore.
I've been able to spend andball out before off the backs of
somebody else's money.
So it ain't no big deal whosemoney it is, as long as you got
it right and you got access toit.
Money is money, but I had tolearn that's not the key to the
street.
I want to be able to hand overthe key to the street and say,
hey, here's my legacy.
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Keep it going if you want to.
If you don't, fine, but it'syours, it belongs to us.
That's like buying land andfarming it belongs to you.
You sell it when you get ready.
Ain't nobody coming and take itunless you don't take care of
it and you don't do what you'resupposed to do.
Get ready, ain't nobody comingand take it unless you don't
take care of it and you don't dowhat you're supposed to do.
But you can pass that on.
You know you go out here andyou get bamboozled into these
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high entrance loans and payingon something for the rest of
your life Can't pass it down.
You know a lot of people don'teven choose or elect to get the
insurance where it's paid off atthat benefit.
They don't even they don't doit.
So we have to first learn thatit's key to stick together,
support one another.
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It doesn't matter if y'alldoing the same thing still
support that person.
That person's selling plates,so they might not be selling
what you're selling, supportthat person.
They're probably not in yourneighborhood, so you need to
make sure it grows thatneighborhood.
Then you get to the nextneighborhood and the next
neighborhood, your turn iscoming.
Your turn is coming If you'redoing something that you're
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supposed to be doing and Godintended for you to do purposely
for you.
It does not matter who else isdoing it.
But I have cried, preached,begged to the choir in every
social media platform I have andI still don't see the numbers
from the people that call mefriend, that know me, that deal
with me.
And you don't have to tell mewhat you want me to do.
I mean, if you don't like whatI have or what product I'm
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producing, give me an idea, giveme an idea and I'm going to
give you credit.
I'm going to say, hey, you know, thank you such and such for
this idea.
You might get half off, youmight get a free shirt, you
might get a promo, I don't know.
But whatever it is, I'm goingto make sure that your
creativity and your input isrecognized.
And that's what's wrong with us.
We're so scared that somebody'sgoing to make it to the top
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without us.
Leave us out till you're goingto compete with that person,
knowing that that ain't evenwhat your gift is, that's not
even what you're supposed to bedoing.
That's like me going out theresaying I'm going to become a pro
football player, I ain't goingto get hit, I ain't going to
play no football.
I ain't going out there and donothing.
It doesn't matter how good Iknow the game, it doesn't matter
if I can not want to throw themjokers out.
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I'm not going out there becausethat's not my calling.
That's not what I need to do.
So if we get it in our head thatwe need to get off that horse,
that everything we got to putour hands in, it's okay to be a
serial entrepreneur I'm one butI do stuff that I know I'm good
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at.
I do stuff.
That's and the thing about it.
Y'all get this in the back ofyour head, put it in your dome,
put it back there, way backthere, so it can always come to
the front a little bit by alittle bit, until you.
You see it.
What a person is good at andwhat a person does, it doesn't
really matter if you duplicateit.
They're gonna.
They're gonna win anyway.
I'm gonna sell books anyway.
I'm gonna sell clothes anywayto somebody might not be the
people I would like to seesupport me, but somebody going
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to do it, somebody going to putfood on my table, or I'm going
to do something different If Ijust get to the point that was
just like with nursing, and thenit came to the point where it
just wasn't my calling, it justwasn't for me.
Bumps, hurdles, we're going toface them, we're all going to go
through them.
That's what life is about.
But if I realize at any time,fashion and form, that I just
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cannot get this, and even if Ipassed, even if I passed the
boards and passed the classesand I got into this field and
said, hey, this is not workingfor me.
I just cannot figure out how tostay productive.
I can't manage patients.
I don't remember what the drugsis, I don't know how to
calculate dosage without mycomputer.
This just ain't for me.
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I got to get over here and dosomething else.
So I'm going to fancy over andI'm going to do something else,
and it was God's will for it tobe for me.
So I stuck with it, even throughthe bumps and the hurdles and
the bruises and the failed testsand all this other stuff, but
everybody now saturating thatfield because they looking to
their left and looking to theirright.
They ain't called to do this.
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So you need to do somethingthat you were called to do and
then you go help somebody elsedo it and help somebody else do
it, and hopefully they helpsomebody else do it, and that's
how we grow.
That is how we grow.
That is what Oprah did withGail.
She knew when it was her timeto get behind the scenes because
she done made enough money.
She knew when it was her timeto get behind the scenes because
she done made enough money andshe done put her money and
invested it in places where it'sgoing to revolve for a lifetime
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if she wanted to.
Now it's time to pull up someother people who can do that
with their family, and they cando it with their family, and it
keeps going and going and going.
And her entities they staywithin her reach because she
knows where she put her energy,time, investment, money and who
she put it with.
Now I'm not saying go and juststart taking care of all your
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friends, because everybody isnot purposed to be at your table
when you eat off of your goodsilverware.
Some people need to be in theback room with the kids with the
paper plates.
You know what I mean.
Be in the back room with thekids with the paper plates.
You know what I mean.
But I want y'all to understandthat you have to know when to
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jump in and help somebody else.
That's most important.
We have to know how to be oneband, one mind, one community,
one culture, one mission,because everything in life
requires you to have a team,requires allies, requires
resources, and that's one of thethings that we haven't gotten
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in the Western culture yet inthe African-American community
you go anywhere else and you seepeople that look like each
other living together in harmonytogether.
They may raise a little hilltogether, but at the end of the
day they look out for oneanother.
I was in Africa, as everybodythat follows me knows, and I'm
telling you that was the mostprofound moment of my life.
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I have never seen people sticktogether so well in the Black
community.
I have never, never.
And I know some people havetheir reservations about the
different cultures.
You know the diversity thereand the mindset that a lot of
the regions have.
It's like one day at a time,but it's not kill or be killed.
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Mentality it's one day at atime and as we're going to stick
together and I'm going to helpyou, you're going to help me.
You know, you got women walkingwith bread baskets on their
head and somebody else got wateron their head and this was
going over here giving this onea piece of bread for a piece of
water, making sure we eat, Idrink, we good.
Everybody ain't dragging eachother and trying to hurry up and
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outsell one another.
They were polite, they werecourteous.
It's robust, it's everybodygoing to run until you're trying
to say something, but theyain't all stepping over each
other.
So I like the unity that I sawin that country.
It was beautiful.
It was something I've neverseen.
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First of all, our streets areempty half of the time, except
for everybody's in their carsand in their homes.
We're not out selling anythinganyway.
We have storefronts and we'rebuying everything, but we are
not producing anything and we'redefinitely not keeping stuff in
our community.
And I don't understand that.
I don't understand why it's sohard for people who have been so
privileged to stick together,because really, when you look
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around in the United States,majority of the people ain't
doing too bad.
You know you might have somedoing better than others, but
for the most part everybodyain't going to be an NFL star,
nba star.
Everybody ain't going to be amillion-dollar content creator.
Everybody's not going to be amulti-million dollar apparel
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online store.
I'm probably not going to maketime here, figure money off the
bat, but I'm gonna keep onstepping.
That's what we gotta do.
Like miss shirley say, he'sgonna keep on stepping.
Even a three-year-old,four-year-old baby get it.
We don't even get it.
She know to just keep going anddon't let the hater stop you.
Whatever, whatever little girlgonna do whatever she need to do
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to make sure she happy.
And you know she got theconcept.
You know, might might be alittle too little to have it
right now, but she, she got theheart.
She has the heart for it, andthat's the thing that we don't
have a lot of.
We don't have heart for oneanother.
We rather go and support ouroppressors, and I'm not saying
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just just like look the boycott.
We had to have someone elsetell us where we should spend
our money.
First of all, nobody got totell you where to spend your
money.
You should come and tell you ifsomething is hurting you,
something is hurting yourcommunity and something is
taking away from you.
You should know the fallback.
Now me myself.
I'm a Target person.
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I like Target.
I don't really prefer Walmart,even though I worked at Walmart
before.
I just don't like thestorefront.
I don't like the cleanliness.
I don't like just having tofight to find a register open,
self-checkout myself to death.
If I look on the app and itsays it's an I3H3Shift2, roll
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one, turn to the left, bend overdown to the right, push
something back and there you go,boom, there's my product.
That's what I want.
I don't want to go there andhave to go through all this
nonsense.
So for me, target has workedbetter for me.
But I knew that for the sake ofmy mentality, the sake of my
pocket and the sake of what Ibelieve in, I had to fall back.
I ain't saying I ain't been inTarget since then, but I
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definitely fell back and itdefinitely made a difference.
And nobody shouldn't have totell us that.
Because when you see industriesand corporations start not
working for the people, whoworking for them?
Who putting food on your table?
Who putting your kids tocollege, who making your
business a billion dollar,trillion dollar business,
potentially because one of themabout to hit a trillion.
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If Amazon ain't already hit,it's going to.
It got to because we rely on itso much.
I fell back and you know we cando without that extra order.
We can do without them.
15,000 boxes coming to our doorevery week.
You don't need all this stuff.
You need to create and haveresources and learn how to be
fundamentally sound in your owncommunity with your own
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resources and your own peopleand your own stuff.
It doesn't make sense.
It doesn't make sense to park a$60,000 car in a project.
I'm sorry, it just don't makesense.
It don't make sense to go broketrying to pay a car note and
you can't even feed your family.
Where are you going?
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Go, get you something you canafford and get.
Where you going, it's okay.
Letting people have their messback.
Get one later, it's okay.
Restore your credit later, it'sokay.
You got people going to buyhere.
Pay here is making these peoplerich and as soon as you miss a
payment they ain't giving you nograce.
No grace in your interest isthrough the roof, when you could
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have just tucked it out for alittle while and I've been there
.
I've been there.
I bought a $500 car, put my babyin it.
It had one eye and it had aMitch Mack side.
It was a Cougar 1984 Cougar,mind you.
It was 1993 when I bought itand I had her standing up on one
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side in the front because therewasn't no seat belts in the
back, couldn't even put a carseat back there.
She stood up on the front onone side.
I scrapped her little buddy inand I was like you better hold
on Because your door don't workfrom the outside and I got to
push it open over here and pushit open for you to get out and
you better sit down and hold on.
We made it do what it do, wentto my little job until I could
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get something else and I wasstepping out that thing, pretty
Stepping out that thing.
My baby lay hair lay, slave frydie, lay to the side every day
and I'm thinking I'm pushing aPorsche.
I did what I had to do until Icould do better.
Sometimes we don't know how tohumble ourselves and we just get
too much mess that we justabsolutely are not benefiting
from.
You're not benefiting fromhaving three or four cars if you
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can't pay for them.
You're not benefiting frompurchasing homes that you're not
utilizing, you're notbenefiting from that Benefit for
do things that you benefit fromand that's going to benefit
your community, because that'sone of the biggest issues we
have in the African-Americancommunity in the Western
countries.
We don't appreciate one another.
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We don't even know ourneighbors, and I'm guilty.
Don't think I'm preaching tothe choir and I ain't preach to
myself, because I have.
I'm guilty, I don't know thesepeople.
I remember growing up, back inthe day you could go to your
neighbor and you could borrow abroom.
Yeah, I'm going to go get a.
I've had people come to mymom's house and borrow a flower,
a broom, a mop.
Like you want to sweep my mama,just be like, you can have it
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baby.
You tell your mama she can haveit, she can keep it, because we
don't want you to bring yourdirt back to our house, but at
the same time we want you to beable to clean your house and
that's what you need to do.
And if you ain't got too muchpride that you know you got to
come ask somebody for help, evenif it's down to a mop and a
broom to make your dwellingproper light, then you do that
and that's what we haven't done.
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We haven't made our dwelling,not just our homes, but our
communities, our storefronts,our entrepreneurs.
We haven't made our dwellingpeople who do have these
businesses in our areacomfortable.
We haven't made them elevate,because we won't even walk in
them.
Oh, I don't like such and such.
I ain't going to buy nothingfrom her.
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I don't deal with him.
I ain't letting him cut my sonhair.
Oh, he got a nasty attitude.
I'm not going down there andbuy nothing out of his shop.
Oh, I ain't letting him fix mycar.
I'm taking my car to the dealerand the dealer be just as
crooked, be just as snowbladingyou, just as blindsided,
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charging you for a 500 oilchange and putting bad oil in
your car it ain't even syntheticand slapping a stick up there.
You don't know what them peopledoing, but you know jim them.
You know bob them down thestreet, you know they good on
cars, but you don't fool withthem.
Though I ain't fooling withthem.
I'm going to do this and I'mgoing to do that.
Okay, you just took out yourcommunity.
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You just took out of somebody'smouth in your community who
probably could have looked outfor you.
But see, that's the mindset wehave.
And lastly and I'm going torepeat part of number one, stick
together, take care of yourpeople.
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Learn how to share, learn howto share your resources with
people that look like you.
This is going to be real quick.
Serena Williams, you married awhite man.
That's fine.
Love who you want to love, talkto who you want to talk to,
date who you want to date.
But she sat here and she done,got all whoop-de -whoop, get
good and big and you crip,walked and you did all this.
Kendra lamar, pro black.
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I'm from compton, I'm aboutthat life type nonsense.
But you got all these self-helpsisters out here, myself
included.
Been making sea moss for eightyears, been on my health tips
long before I got a nurse and Iwas vegan for 14 years.
I'm sorry.
I was vegetarian for seven,vegan for seven.
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When I got pregnant with myfirst daughter in 93, I hadn't
ate meat in seven years and Iate some meat and I had an
allergic reaction.
That's how long I've beenworried about my health and I
still had problems.
But I always knew what I put inis what I'm going to get out.
But you got all this money andyou got all these resources and
you got all this ability,worldwide ability.
(25:22):
I'm talking about these peoplejet setters.
They trendsetters and jetsetters.
They can go, hop on a jet andmake a 24-hour trip look like 10
.
You can go sit at a table withmillionaires and push your
product if you want to, but shewent and she endorsed somebody
that didn't look like us.
That's what you got all overyour page.
You bought your health and usethis product and do this and do
(25:46):
that, but you didn't go and findthat one.
You mean to tell me as much yoube on social media and as many
followers as she has, and I loveher talent, love her and I love
this story.
But I also know that sometimes,when you put us up, you support
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us, and I can't probably evenfathom the thought of the people
who went to tennis matches andsupported her.
They probably couldn't evenreally afford it, but they made
it happen because they wanted tobe a part of it, wanted to be
connected to history.
All the people who havesupported that ugly hair that
she was selling, because itdefinitely was not a good
quality hair, but people said,hey, we're going to support this
(26:29):
because it's Serena.
But then you go over here youslap us in the face.
Yeah, I said it.
You like it or love it.
I said it and I hope it getback to her.
If it don't, then who cares?
Somebody may go to her ear.
You married a man outside ofyour race because you loved him.
You had children for him andthat's absolutely your choice.
That's your right.
Love who you want to love.
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But when it come down to yourmoney and it come down to your
race and it come down to yourinheritance and it comes down to
your ancestors and who builtthis country and made it
possible for you to even be thatlittle black girl out there
playing against these littlewhite girls and these people in
different social classes thanyou, and you go and you throw
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that money right back over there.
You tell me that ain't a slapin the face.
It's a slap in the face and I'mgoing to be out.
I got three minutes left.
I wanted to be done in 15, butI went over to 30 because I took
a break and I came back.
But y'all, I apologize again fordelaying this episode, but
listen, if you are in need women40 and over, and you're getting
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back into the workforce oryou're getting back into your
entrepreneur journey.
You just have a vision or youhave a dream, just something you
want to do.
You empty nest and kids gone,your grandkids running around
with their parents doingwhatever.
You don't have kids.
You don't have grandkidsrunning around with their
parents doing whatever.
You don't have kids, you don'thave grandkids, and it's just
you.
Or maybe you are now a recentlywidowed, recently divorced, and
you got to figure out your life.
(27:57):
You got to figure out your lifefor you because, at the end of
the day, it's yours.
You're going to get one, you'regoing to stand before your God
and you're going to beaccountable for what you did
with your 24 hours.
You want to figure it out.
Get at me.
I do one-on-one consulting Women.
I cater to women because Idon't know what it's like to be
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a man, but I may add that alongmy husband may start doing that
in the future.
Who knows, if you know, maybehe got something he can offer me
and help them.
Take them by the bootstrap, butfor now it's just me.
It men.
Help them take them by thebootstrap, but for now it's just
me, it's just me versus me.
It's just key, it's just bigkey and I want to basically give
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you the one-on-one.
I've single-handedly created mycompany with my own money, no
loans.
For one, my credit was too badto even go out and get any, so I
wasn't worried about that inthe beginning.
Anyway, I was like go ahead anddig out this 401k because I got
that.
I wasn't worried about that inthe beginning.
Anyway, I was like go ahead anddig out this 401k because I got
that.
I ain't got no 700 credit score, but I got that, so I had to
take that to do this.
And I built this company andthen I tried to figure out what
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I wanted to do with it and indoing so, once I published the
books, once I started the onlineapparel company, once I branded
this and did this and did that,I said I'm missing something.
What I was missing was givingback the recipe.
And I'm not breaking y'all bank.
I ain't telling y'all to comebuy no product for $599 and I'm
going to make you rich.
No, no, you don't spend $97.
(29:22):
And I'm going to give youresources and I'm going to give
you what it took me to do whatI'm doing.
I'm going to show you successbecause I am successful at what
I did.
I am very successful at whatI'm doing and I'll give you the
recipe and I ain't going tobreak your back or break your
bank, because I know you don'thave it.
If you're trying to get out hereand you're trying to get
something and do something inlife, then you're probably
(29:44):
struggling to get there.
I struggle still to get myproducts out to make sure I can
still pay myself and have alittle bit left at the end of
the day to appease to my familyand my needs and my wants.
So I know it's not easy, butcome on over here and talk to me
.
Book the consultation atreaditgroupcom.
That's R-I-E-I-D-I-T groupcom.
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$97 would be the best $97 youever spent in your life, because
what I'm going to tell you isthe truth.
It ain't all glitz and glamour,but you're going to get the
truth.
You're going to get facts andyou're going to get resources
and you're going to get a littlebit of help.
You got somebody that's goingto help you.
They've been there, done that.
I ain't just trying to sell younothing, because at the to work
every day and I'm gonna get upand go to work every day Until I
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don't have to get up and go towork every day For somebody else
, and then I'm getting up andgoing to work every day for me.
I go to work at night for me.
So I got two jobs.
I got two jobs.
I got two phones too.
But no, seriously, I want youguys to really understand that
we got.
We're in a crunch time,everybody crying about what
Trump doing, what he took away,what he did, blah, blah, blah.
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We got to get it together.
So y'all, tune in next time.
Like I said, I'm transitioningto girl talk because I want to
focus on us girls, us ladies,and what we got going on and
pulling us out of this AIinternet realm that we're in and
thinking.
Everybody got to do the samething.
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It's so much more out here wecan do.
It's so much more we can bringto the table.
So much more.
Our ancestors died to lay outfor us and gave us a blueprint
to just piggyback it and pull itup by the bootstraps.
So do it.
We got to do it.
We got to make this thinghappen.
So y'all, make sure y'all helpme with this and make sure it's
a smooth, uh, transition.
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I'm still gonna talk about somethings that relate to men and in
the world and all this otherstuff, but for the most part,
run your mouth is going intogirl talk and that's all we're
gonna talk about.
What our hot flashes menopause,kids, men, money, gain a little
weight, losing a little weight.
What's your own girl?
What you on girl, what youtaking, how you did this, how
you did that.
We're going to help each other,help me, help you Y'all.
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Tune in for the next episode.
Thank you for listening andagain I apologize for the delay
in the episode, but I got y'all.
Next time I'm going to be ontime and I'm out.
Have a good one.
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