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This week on s0 wet s0 dry Fiji and Autumn ask: Does anyone really know you? And are meta irony memes Gen-Z’s way of balancing the yearning to be known with our inability to take anything seriously?

We’re talking: Who knows you the best?, who really knows you at all? How well do you want everyone in your life to know you?, internalized shame, people pleasing, the fear of being fully known, oversharing, over-explaining yourself, tryi...

This week on s0 wet s0 dryFiji and Autumn ask: Why is everyone calling everyone Mother on social media? 

We’re talking: Mother’s roots in black queer communities, ballroom and drag culture, misusing the word “Mother”, found and chosen family, the need for community in today’s political climate, the ethics of using AAVE polls, mommy kinks, Gen-Z’s need for nuture, Gen-Z’s need for mothering, listener stories, and more💦🌵 

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This week on s0 wet s0 dry Fiji and Autumn ask: What are babygirl men? Why do we want to nurture men? And are these terms emasculating?

We’re talking: Famous babygirl men, submissive and breedable men, ideals for masculinity, breeding kinks, heroic masculinity, toxic masculinity, submissive kinks, boyfriends siimping, men in crisis, the toxic soft boy, pyschological patriarchy, emasculating men, Jeremy Strong as Kendall Roy in Succe...

This week on s0 wet s0 dry recap the month with some of the biggest pop culture stories: Pop the Balloon’s Netflix debut, Mel Robbin’s Let Them Theory, Lorde’s Washington Square Park performance of What Was That and her latest album Virgin, and Jojo Siwa’s scandal on Big Brother.

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What’s got us wet and dry this week 00:00:00 - 00:08:48

Let them theory 00:08:48 - 00:23:59

Pop the Balloon 00:23:59 - 00:39:23

What Was That and Lor...

This week on s0 wet s0 dry Fiji and Autumn deep dive the movie Anora

We’re talking: Is Anora a fairytale? Was Ani a deeply layered character? Was Sean Baker the right person to tell this story? Did Anora glamorize sex work? What was the significance of the last scene?, polls, listener stories, and more💦🌵 

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Intro 00:00:00- 00:11:37

Who is Sean Baker? 00:11:37 - 00:22:05

Was Anora told through the male gaze? 00:22:05 - 00:39:41

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This week on s0 wet s0 dry Fiji and Autumn ask: Is there a biphobia epidemic or are bisexuals reaching?

We’re talking: Jasmine banks coming out as bi, biphobia in the lesbian community, 

Les4Les, lebian only spaces, internal projections, bisexual privlege, feeling insecure in your queer identity, queer titkok trends, polls, listener stories, and more💦🌵 

Sources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/14MwANNJoqKKGX_-n8EL6CJPnXRawaema8Q-...

This week on s0 wet s0 dry Fiji and Autumn ask: are bops misunderstood?

We’re talking: Bop lore, being perceived as a slut, sharing bop lore with your partner, the madonna-whore complex, broken bitches, pimp mentality, internalizing slut shaming, slut shaming dress codes, nude epidemics, our slut lore, the slut walk, the sex positivity era, 2014 feminism, sex positive feminism, sex positivity gone too far, the bop house, sophie rain...

This week on s0 wet s0 dry Fiji and Autumn talk female desire with Babygirl and Sabrina Carpenter, male rage with Netflix’s Adolesence, the Becca Moore and Shannon Beveridge, and monster kinks.

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Intro: 00:00:00 - 00:05:35

Female Desire: Babygirl and Sabrina Carpenter: 00:05:35 - 00:20:17

Becca Moore and Shannon Beveridge: 00:20:17 - 00:34:56

Netflix’s Adolescence and Male Rage: 00:34:56 - 00:48:25

Monster Kinks: 00:48:25 - 01:02...

This week on s0 wet s0 dry Fiji and Autumn ask Are Gen-Z and Millennials extra drunk on nostalgia?

We’re talking:  The science of nostalgia and memory, personal nostalgia, historical nostalgia, restorative nostalgia, and reflective nostalgia, our childlike selves, nostalgia for a time that didn’t exist, POV nostalgia tiktok trends, nostalgia and creativity, rose-colored glasses, fading effect bias, why can’t we let our lives be good...

This week on s0 wet s0 dry Fiji and Autumn ask What does gooning really mean? Who qualifies as a gooner? 

We’re talking: Goon caves, goon sessions, taking off your skin suit, masturbating too hard, sadsturbation, edging, porn addiction side effects, erectile dysfunction, sex as a hobby, sex as entertainment, the bikini bean goonicide incident, Is Kanye a gooner?, sex as art versus exploitation, Bianca Censori, do video games push go...

This week on s0 wet s0 dry Fiji and Autumn discuss everyone’s favorite reality tv shows right now: Love is Blind and The Bachelor. What’s with the damsel in distress trope? Why have anxiously attached people won the internet? Also, are polyamorous people *really* ugly? And why are lesbians so codependant? 

Sources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1D01kdRrazBdE1aYQ91w8k1MIoypUWOfHhm9S95jAeZ0/edit?usp=sharing 

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This week on s0 wet s0 dry Fiji and Autumn deep dive main character syndrome.

We’re talking: Dressing like a main character, friends that are lowkey haters, being afraid of calling attention to yourself, different types of main characters, self-obsession, narcissism, being in the moment, letting life happen to you, main character energy, being a side character to someone else, taking a back seat in relationships with men, playing th...

This week on s0 wet s0 dry Fiji and Autumn ask: why do we party?

We’re talking: CharlieXCX and Brat, Chappell Roan’s Pink Pony Club, going to your first queer bar, growing up through partying, social alcohol dependency, different vibes in different spaces, going out to find people like you, party culture simulating community, what is true community?, the cultural impact of Freaknik, party hookup culture, the anticipation and potenti...

This week on s0 wet s0 dry Fiji and Autumn ask: why is everything cringe? And also…. Ableist?

We’re talking: Why did cringe culture become so popular? What’s considered cringe? Why do we enjoy cringing at others? The authentic era of social media, cringe vs second-hand embarrassment, main character syndrome, the psychology of cringe, cringing at ourselves, embracing the cringe, is cringe humor ableist, cringing at ourselves, cringe ...

This week on s0 wet s0 dry autumn passionately defends Cynthia and Arianna’s emotional wicked press tour and Fiji achieves a month of nicotine + alcohol sobriety while she tries not to crash out. Mark Zuckerberg discovered Brazilian jiu jitsu and is making it everyone’s problem and maybe what we all really need is a lesbian boyfriend

Sources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hVmLxEc-zsR_5kmTnLrDe3iS2AeLrZGnU39_5bbCS3I/edit?tab=t...

This week on s0 wet s0 dry, Fiji and Autumn ask: are we abandoning our creativity for male validation? Are we more creative when we’re single? Do we know ourselves outside of the male gaze?

We’re talking: Being creative with your partner, lacking self-worth, daddy issues, conforming to the male ideal, how the need for male validation affects our voice, prioritizing male validation over your friends, the Carrie Bradshaw hate train, ...

This week on s0 wet s0 dry, Fiji and Autumn ask: why do we fuck? What is sex supposed to be for? How serious should we be about sex? Is casual sex bad? 

We’re talking: The different purposes of sex, one night stands as art, having sex together versus masburbating with someone else’s body, finding a balance, discovering your boundaries, dealing with post-hook up shame, polls, listener stories, and more

Sources: https://docs.google.c...

This week on s0 wet s0 dry, Fiji and Autumn give you our top ins and outs for 2025.

We also missed updating you on what’s got us wet and dry lately so here’s an update🙃

2025 Los Angeles Fires Resources:

abcnews.go.com/US/california-fires-victims

gofund.me/3f3b2f3d

instagram.com/share

tiny.cc/malan-fire

Sources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1cC6P75WlgIqCVbHht_untnUad9z-Z8Oiru59vzUZk0Q/edit?tab=t.0

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This week on s0 wet s0 dry, Fiji and Autumn deep dive the findom kinks and findom jobs.

Is findom sex work? Is it easy? Can findom become an addiction for subs? Can findom be a sexuality? 

We’re talking: The creativity of findom, #findom trending on TikTok, scams, the ethics of findom courses, a tangent on the Lily Phillips controversy, misconceptions about findom, the over-saturation of financial domes, findom wannabes, glamorizin...