Heartfelt Voices: A Journey of Self-Expression

In this week's Giddy Up segment from Saddle Up Lesa reflects on the importance of using one's voice, drawing inspiration from her recent interview with Olivia Aitken, a successful woman who moved from New Jersey to Juneau, Alaska. She shares personal insights on listening better, being present, and speaking one's truth kindly. She also recounts stories about overcoming the discomfort of asking for what one needs and relates a tale of a man who bravely spoke up in a grocery store. The segment emphasizes the value of voicing one's needs and desires for a happier and more respectful life.

00:00 Introduction to Giddy Up Segment

00:06 Guest Spotlight: Olivia Aitken's Journey

00:34 The Importance of Using Your Voice

01:22 Listening and Being Present

02:24 Speaking Your Truth with Kindness

03:29 Personal Anecdotes and Advice

04:49 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Episode Transcript

Speaker (00:00):
Welcome to this week's Giddy Up segment, the segment from Saddle Up Live.
And on Tuesday on Saddle Up Live, I hada darling gal on named Olivia Aitken,
and she's a successful young woman.
She tells her story.
of success and she throws in somefun personal information about moving

(00:24):
to Juneau, Alaska from New Jersey.
And so it's really, it's fun andit's heartfelt and it's about
inspiration and using your voice.
And so today in the Giddy Upsegment, I wanted to talk to you a
little bit about using our voices.
And you know, if the men are listening,I'm happy that you're here too.

(00:44):
I don't know why, but all I know is thatI'm a woman and I know that I have maybe
struggled with using my voice and I wasdoing a little bit of research on this.
And I think having a podcastis really fun because you get
to, of course, use your voice.
But I started thinking about.
I've changed so much.

(01:05):
I've grown so much at thismature point in my life.
And I started thinking, how am I usingmy voice and speaking my truth more?
And I thought, you know what?
The number one thing thatI would share is that.
I really work to listena little bit better.

(01:26):
So when you are with someone andyou really listen to them, then you
can repeat back what they're sayingto show that you're hearing them.
And, and you want to know what ithelps you really hear them because
sometimes I can jump ahead and justwant to say what I want to say.

(01:49):
But if I repeat back theother person's point of view
or idea, it builds on itself.
So then I have an easier timespeaking my truth with a little
bit of kindness and respect.
And another point to this isto be present, to be there now.

(02:11):
That's part of the listening.
If you're using your ears andlistening to what the person is
really saying and saying it backto them, you're really hearing.
And so then you're being present,which allows you to speak your truth.
Now, I happened to, to look up oneman who was talking about speaking his
truth and he used an example of beingin a grocery store and this woman was

(02:35):
just tearing apart her kids, just like.
Being awful yelling at them and he, itwas just eating him alive and he went
up to her and, and very kindly just, youknow, said, you know, I really don't think
you should talk to your kids that way.
I mean, I don't even know exactly what hesaid and he walked away and he said that

(02:57):
was really a bold thing for him to do.
I don't know.
That would be really hardfor me to do, but I get it.
He, he wanted to let this woman know.
Um, I don't know.
There's probably twopoints of view on that.
Like sometimes you maybe waituntil someone asks for your
advice before you give it.
But if it was really somethinghorrific and he felt that he

(03:18):
needed to say what he wanted tosay, he said that he felt better.
And he said he didn't know if it had animpact, but at least he had gotten it out.
Now I thought of this.
Um, maybe a simpler level being a woman.
And this is cute.
I was talking to my good friendat my workout class today, and
we were talking about her husbandhas been gone for almost a week.

(03:41):
And of course we miss our hubbieswhen, when they're gone, but
she was saying, Oh, it's just.
You know, so peaceful, uh, you know, Idon't want to make it feel bad, but it's
so nice and it's quiet in the house.
And she said, I can goto bed without the TV on.
And she's a little bit younger than me.
And I looked at her and I said,darling, did you know, you don't

(04:02):
have to go to sleep with the TV on.
You could tell your husband, you don'twant the TV on when you go to sleep.
And the reason I shared that with heris because it's kind of the story of my
life and it's not my husband's fault thatI don't ask for things and it probably
was a little uncomfortable when Istarted saying more things that I wanted

(04:27):
and having a voice, but sweethearts.
We deserve that.
We deserve to be loved and respected.
And our men and friends want to knowwhat we need and what makes us happy.
And we want to listen to them.
So maybe do it every other night, whateverit is, but you don't have to quietly
subdue yourself and not say what you want.

(04:49):
So that's what I wantedto share with y'all today.
And.
Go back and listen to Olivia.
She talks about podcasts and success,and she worked for the New York giants.
It's so fun, but I just wantedto share a little bit more.
She's helping people use their voice.
And I just thought I want to give you alittle bit of my own insight into that.

(05:10):
So thank you so much for being here.
I'll see you next week.