April 8, 2025 • 22 mins
Patience is a complex emotional strength that shapes decision-making, manages stress, and influences creativity—it's not just the ability to wait without frustration but a muscle that can be built over time through practice and intention.
• Scientific research like the "marshmallow test" shows children who delay gratification often experience better life outcomes including academic success and improved emotional regulation
• Patience is closely linked to discipline and grit—the number one predictor of success according to researchers like Duckworth
• Neurobiologically, practicing patience activates brain regions associated with executive function and emotional regulation
• Growing up with ADHD taught David to develop extraordinary patience as a coping mechanism, becoming one of his greatest strengths
• In our fast-paced society conditioned for instant gratification, patience has become a rare and valuable superpower
• Balance is key—combining the initiative of "Eager Eagle" with the thoughtful preparation of "Patient Pig" creates the most effective approach
• Practical strategies to build patience include mindfulness meditation, reframing challenges as opportunities, practicing deliberate delay, setting realistic expectations, and reflecting on past successes
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
Welcome to the Sage Solutions Podcast, where we talk
about all things personalgrowth, personal development and
becoming your best self.
My name is David Sage and I ama self-worth and confidence
coach with Sage CoachingSolutions.
Today, we're taking a deep diveinto the science and art of
(00:28):
patience.
Patience really is a virtue andit's key to unlocking success,
resilience and inner peace.
In this episode, we're going totalk about the power of
patience and explore what ittruly means to be patient, how
(00:48):
it influences our lives, bothemotionally and physically, and
why cultivating patience couldbe the missing piece in your
personal development puzzle.
Over the next 20 minutes, we'llexamine inspiring insights,
grounded scientific research andpractical strategies that you
(01:09):
can implement in your daily life.
So settle in, take a slow, deepbreath and let's go on this
journey together.
But before we get into it, ourgoal with this podcast is to
share free, helpful tools withyou and anyone you know who is
(01:30):
looking to improve their life.
So take action, subscribe andshare this podcast with them.
Patience is often described asthe ability to wait without
anxiety or frustration, but it'smuch more than that.
It's a complex emotionalstrength that shapes our
(01:51):
decision making.
It helps us manage stress andeven influences our creativity.
Think about the last time youexperienced a setback or a delay
.
How did you react?
It's in these moments when theoutcome is uncertain that the
virtue of patience is bothchallenged and defined, because
(02:16):
patience is a trait, a musclethat's built over time.
It can be unhelpful to onlythink of it as you're patient
when you don't feel any stressor anxiety about having to wait.
You can willfully be patient byforcing yourself to wait and
maybe finding ways to ease thatanxiety or the nerves through
(02:39):
practices like mindfulness andby using your willpower and
discipline.
We can also think about thefact that there are many
situations where there's nothingwe can do to speed up the
results or the situation,meaning it's out of our locus of
control.
In these situations, we arepracticing patience by letting
(03:03):
go of what we can't control andbeing present and waiting.
Now, we don't always have to bepresent.
You can also take that time tothink about other things and
utilize the extra time that'sbeen created by having to wait.
This is actually one of myfavorite strategies.
In our fast-paced society, whereimmediate gratification is the
(03:27):
norm, patience might seemoutdated or even unnecessary.
However, I'm going to make theargument that patience is even
more critical of a skill than ithas ever been, because current
society has an epidemic of alack of patience.
(03:47):
We've been conditioned by theworld that we live in to seek
instant gratification, becauseinstant gratification has been
more accessible than it ever hasin human history, which also
means that we avoid discomfort,especially the discomfort of
(04:09):
boredom.
And building patience, like anyother skill, is like a muscle,
and we have to sit in thediscomfort of waiting to build
our patience.
However, our ability to wait ortake our time, to be patient,
(04:31):
is a critical skill, and thatskill can empower you to make
thoughtful decisions and persistin the face of obstacles.
Over the coming minutes, we'llexplore why patience is
indispensable for personalgrowth and how it can improve
your relationships, work andoverall well-being.
(04:53):
Imagine a gardener planting aseed.
At first glance, the processmay seem inactive or slow.
In fact, you won't see resultsfor days, possibly even weeks,
but with careful nurturing andtime, a robust plant eventually
(05:13):
emerges.
Much like gardening, personalprogress often requires a steady
commitment.
It's when we apply a slightedge, a steady commitment.
It's when we apply a slightedge, small daily disciplines,
easy to do, easy not to do, overtime, that we see a compound
(05:34):
effect from the consistency.
And in order to get ourselvesto do this slight edge, this
compound effect, patience andfaith that what we're doing now
will pay off in the long run.
It requires long-term or eveninfinite thinking, but, most
(05:55):
importantly, the ability to bepatient.
When we practice this powerfulskill, we're not just waiting,
we're actively engaging ingrowth, reflection and learning,
and we're often present and inthe moment, taking a mindful
(06:16):
stance.
Now let's shift our focus to thescientific insights that reveal
why patience is more than justwaiting.
It's a cornerstone ofself-regulation and emotional
resilience.
And let me tell you science hasa lot to say about patience and
self-control.
One of the landmark studiesthat comes to mind in research
(06:38):
on delayed gratification was ledby Walter Mischel and his
colleagues.
In their famous experiment,often referred to as the
marshmallow test, children weregiven a choice Enjoy a small
treat immediately or wait a bitfor a larger reward.
The outcomes of this studyrevealed that children who were
(06:58):
able to delay theirgratification often experienced
better life outcomes.
Often experienced better lifeoutcomes.
This ranged from academicsuccess to improved emotional
regulation later in life.
The study highlights a keyelement of patience the ability
to delay instant gratificationfor greater benefit in the
(07:21):
future Sounds a lot likediscipline, which we talked
about in a previous episode,because it is.
In order to have discipline, itrequires both self-control and
patience.
And, just to be clear, theytested whether kids had the
ability to delay theirgratification by saying they
(07:48):
could have one marshmallow now,or if they waited a short period
of time, they could have twomarshmallows instead.
You might be thinking okay,that's great, david, but I'm not
a kid waiting for marshmallows.
So how does this apply to me asan adult or someone in high
school listening to this?
Well, when we view patience asan investment in our future, it
becomes clear that self-controlisn't just about saying no to
(08:11):
temptations.
It's about creating a structurein our lives that supports
long-term growth and success.
As we navigate the ups anddowns of our daily lives, the
ability to pause, reflect andchoose our responses carefully
can be transformative.
It sounds a lot like takingcontrol of your conscious
(08:35):
perspective to frame things in adifferent light and using
curiosity and critical thinkingto think it through.
In addition to the marshmallowtest, more recent research
underscores the benefits ofpatience in various aspects of
life.
A study by Duckworth andSeligman demonstrated that
(08:57):
self-discipline, a trait closelylinked with patience, is often
a better predictor of academicand professional success than
raw IQ.
In their study, individuals whoexhibited greater self-control
were more likely to persist indifficult tasks and reach their
long-term goals, even in theface of distractions.
(09:18):
Now you might remember the nameDuckworth she's the primary
researcher on grit, and grit isthe number one predictor of
success, which means cultivatingpatience is one of the
essential keys to developinggrit.
The research is significantbecause it reveals that patience
(09:38):
is not just a passive waitinggame.
It's an active process ofself-management.
Whether you're facing careerchallenges, investing in a new
skill or nurturing personalrelationships, the quality of
your patience can shape outcomesdramatically and on a
neurobiological level, patienceinvolves the activation of brain
(10:03):
regions associated withexecutive function and with
emotional regulation.
By practicing patience, we'reeffectively training our brains
to handle stress more gracefully.
This leads to improved mentalhealth and cognitive performance
.
Ultimately, these studiesremind us that patience is both
(10:32):
a natural human ability and askill that can be honed over
time through practice andintention.
Growing up because of my ADHD, Ifound that it tended to take me
longer to do things than otherpeople.
My lack of organization andregularly misplaced items had me
spending time backtracking,finding things, looking for
(10:54):
things in a disorganized mess,getting distracted and having to
go back and, overall, takinglonger, and I have to say it
wasn't fun.
But one thing that I gainedfrom my experiences as a kid
with pretty profound ADHD atleast on the attention deficit
(11:15):
side, less on the hyperactive,impulsive side was I had to live
with myself constantly and Isay this jokingly, but I'm also
not joking.
In order to deal with myself ona daily basis, I had to become
patient and it wasn't alwayseasy.
(11:38):
But building patience, justlike anything else, is like a
muscle, and now I believe thatI'm a very patient person.
I think it's one of my strongestsuits and I do believe that
patience is a virtue, it is asuperpower.
It brings a lot of peace tolife.
(11:58):
It helps you be mindful andtake a step back and just be
present in the moment and notalways worrying about what you
have to get done.
Being patient gives you thewherewithal to take a step back
and use strategies likemindfulness, stoicism, taking a
look at what's going on andfocusing on your locus of
(12:21):
control, or analyzing thingsthrough critical thinking and
thinking in shades of gray, orrethinking things, because when
you're not in a rush, you havetime to really think things
through.
It also gives you the space totake control of your conscious
perspective, so that you're lessreactive and you're choosing
(12:44):
how you're showing up, andthat's a self-fulfilling
prophecy.
By choosing a perspective ofpatience, you now have more room
to practice patience, whichgives you time to take more
control over your perspective.
And the reason I said it'sreally a superpower is because
(13:05):
patience is lacking more andmore in people these days.
We don't have the types of jobslike farmers had.
We had to sow our crops andwait until they hopefully
survived.
You had to have patience to seeresults.
Well, the more rare a skill is,the more valuable and useful it
(13:29):
becomes, and, as I mentioned,it is a key part for persistence
, perseverance, consistency,discipline and grit.
Yes, this is a trait that cangive you more peace of mind and
more effective results, and thewillingness to think things
through more can also make yousmarter.
(13:51):
But, just like anything else,taking patience to an extreme or
using it at times that don'tmake sense isn't always
necessarily a good thing.
In an emergency situation,slowing way down and using a lot
of patience is probably notgoing to help you.
(14:12):
Gary Vaynerchuk actually talksabout the concept of balancing
initiative and eagerness andassertiveness with patience and
consistency.
He even wrote a children's bookabout it.
I believe the title was Meet Mein the Middle.
The story is about an eagereagle who is so eager to just
(14:35):
get out there and do it that hedoesn't think things through,
and it causes problems for him.
But he's also the first onethere.
He's taking initiative and someof that works out for him.
However, patient Pig does theopposite.
He takes his time, gets fullyready and ends up missing the
bus to the big game, causing himto show up late but prepared
(14:57):
with a plan that ends up winningthem the game.
Both strategies, when taken toextremes, can come with
downsides, but the thing is theydon't have to be opposites.
You can actually cultivateefficiency, assertiveness and
initiative like eager eagle,while also having patience,
(15:19):
self-control and consistency, aswell as preparation, like
patient pig.
To basically sum it up, whenthey actually worked together
and played to each other'sstrengths, they accomplished way
more when they met in themiddle.
So how can we cultivate thispowerful skill in our daily life
?
Here are some actionablestrategies that I've found and
(15:44):
that the research supports tohelp you build greater patience,
mindfulness and meditation.
Engaging in regular mindfulnesspractices can help train your
brain to slow down and bepresent.
Even a few minutes ofmeditation each day can shift
your perspective, making youless reactive and more
(16:05):
deliberate.
Try focusing on your breath orusing guided meditation apps
that encourage slow, mindfulbreathing.
Notice the things in yoursurroundings or the sensations
on your body in the presentmoment.
Over time, you'll find thatthese moments of stress or
irritation lose their grip onyou.
(16:28):
Reframe your challenges asopportunities Instead of viewing
delays and obstacles assetbacks.
See them as opportunities tolearn something new about
yourself.
When you're frustrated by along wait or an unforeseen
setback, ask yourself what can Ilearn from this situation?
(16:51):
This reframing of yourconscious perspective and of the
situation at hand can transformirritation into curiosity and
growth.
Practice deliberate delay.
Build in small moments ofintentional waiting into your
(17:12):
routine.
For example, if you have ahabit of rushing decisions, be
it in your work, email oreveryday purchases, pause for a
few seconds to reflect beforeresponding.
This simple exercisestrengthens your ability to hold
space for uncertainty and canlead to more thoughtful
(17:34):
decisions.
Set realistic expectations.
Sometimes impatience stems fromunrealistic expectations.
By setting achievable goals andrecognizing that progress often
happens in small, incrementalsteps, you can reduce the
(17:55):
pressure you place on yourself.
Celebrate the small wins alongthe way and remember that every
step forward is progress andeven better yet if you can help
it.
Try not to have expectations,just positive hopes.
And lastly, reflect on yourpast successes.
(18:16):
Recall those times in your lifewhen patience has paid off.
Remember that you waited for apromotion or persevered through
a tough project.
Reflect on these successes asevidence that waiting and
enduring challenges can lead tosignificant rewards.
This reflection can bolsteryour resilience when you
(18:37):
encounter new challenges and canhelp you start to think of
yourself as somebody who haspatience, who uses patience.
By integrating these strategiesinto your daily routine and
even, possibly, your identity,you not only cultivate patience,
(18:57):
but also build a strongerfoundation for your personal
development.
Each moment spent embracing thepractice of patience is an
investment in your future, yourwell-being and your success.
This process is gradual, likelearning any new skill.
(19:18):
It requires consistency,self-compassion and the
willingness to face discomfort,but trust that over time, the
rewards will compound and willeventually be profound.
As we get closer to the end oftoday's episode, I'd like to
share one piece of wisdom thathas always resonated with me.
(19:39):
Emerson once said Adopt thepace of nature, her secret is
patience.
This great quote reminds usthat, just as nature unfolds in
its own time, our personaljourneys cannot be rushed.
Embracing the slow, naturalprogression of life allows us to
(20:04):
appreciate each moment andlearn from every experience.
Let's take a moment now toreflect on one area of your life
where you might benefit from alittle more patience, whether
it's a project at work, apersonal relationship or even
your own inner growth.
Consider how a shift to apatient perspective could yield
(20:29):
transformative results.
I'm glad you were able to joinme today on this exploration of
the power of patience.
We examined what patience is,why it matters and, most
importantly, how you cancultivate it in your everyday
life.
Remember that personal growthis not an overnight journey.
(20:49):
With each mindful moment andevery deliberate pause, you're
investing in a richer, morefulfilling future.
I encourage you to try one ofthe strategies that we discussed
today and reflect on yourexperiences.
Let patience guide you towardsa calmer, more centered life.
(21:10):
Let patience guide you towardsa calmer, more centered life,
and remember you are enough andyou deserve to fill up your
inner cup with happiness,confidence and self-compassion.
(21:31):
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and grow here with me.
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(21:59):
This podcast is for educationaland informational purposes only
.
No coaching client relationshipis formed.
It is not intended as asubstitute for the personalized
advice of a physician,professional coach,
psychotherapist or otherqualified professional.
Welcome to the Sage Solutions Podcast, where we talk
about all things personalgrowth, personal development and
becoming your best self.
My name is David Sage and I ama self-worth and confidence
coach with Sage CoachingSolutions.
Today, we're taking a deep diveinto the science and art of
(00:28):
patience.
Patience really is a virtue andit's key to unlocking success,
resilience and inner peace.
In this episode, we're going totalk about the power of
patience and explore what ittruly means to be patient, how
(00:48):
it influences our lives, bothemotionally and physically, and
why cultivating patience couldbe the missing piece in your
personal development puzzle.
Over the next 20 minutes, we'llexamine inspiring insights,
grounded scientific research andpractical strategies that you
(01:09):
can implement in your daily life.
So settle in, take a slow, deepbreath and let's go on this
journey together.
But before we get into it, ourgoal with this podcast is to
share free, helpful tools withyou and anyone you know who is
(01:30):
looking to improve their life.
So take action, subscribe andshare this podcast with them.
Patience is often described asthe ability to wait without
anxiety or frustration, but it'smuch more than that.
It's a complex emotionalstrength that shapes our
(01:51):
decision making.
It helps us manage stress andeven influences our creativity.
Think about the last time youexperienced a setback or a delay
.
How did you react?
It's in these moments when theoutcome is uncertain that the
virtue of patience is bothchallenged and defined, because
(02:16):
patience is a trait, a musclethat's built over time.
It can be unhelpful to onlythink of it as you're patient
when you don't feel any stressor anxiety about having to wait.
You can willfully be patient byforcing yourself to wait and
maybe finding ways to ease thatanxiety or the nerves through
(02:39):
practices like mindfulness andby using your willpower and
discipline.
We can also think about thefact that there are many
situations where there's nothingwe can do to speed up the
results or the situation,meaning it's out of our locus of
control.
In these situations, we arepracticing patience by letting
(03:03):
go of what we can't control andbeing present and waiting.
Now, we don't always have to bepresent.
You can also take that time tothink about other things and
utilize the extra time that'sbeen created by having to wait.
This is actually one of myfavorite strategies.
In our fast-paced society, whereimmediate gratification is the
(03:27):
norm, patience might seemoutdated or even unnecessary.
However, I'm going to make theargument that patience is even
more critical of a skill than ithas ever been, because current
society has an epidemic of alack of patience.
(03:47):
We've been conditioned by theworld that we live in to seek
instant gratification, becauseinstant gratification has been
more accessible than it ever hasin human history, which also
means that we avoid discomfort,especially the discomfort of
(04:09):
boredom.
And building patience, like anyother skill, is like a muscle,
and we have to sit in thediscomfort of waiting to build
our patience.
However, our ability to wait ortake our time, to be patient,
(04:31):
is a critical skill, and thatskill can empower you to make
thoughtful decisions and persistin the face of obstacles.
Over the coming minutes, we'llexplore why patience is
indispensable for personalgrowth and how it can improve
your relationships, work andoverall well-being.
(04:53):
Imagine a gardener planting aseed.
At first glance, the processmay seem inactive or slow.
In fact, you won't see resultsfor days, possibly even weeks,
but with careful nurturing andtime, a robust plant eventually
(05:13):
emerges.
Much like gardening, personalprogress often requires a steady
commitment.
It's when we apply a slightedge, a steady commitment.
It's when we apply a slightedge, small daily disciplines,
easy to do, easy not to do, overtime, that we see a compound
(05:34):
effect from the consistency.
And in order to get ourselvesto do this slight edge, this
compound effect, patience andfaith that what we're doing now
will pay off in the long run.
It requires long-term or eveninfinite thinking, but, most
(05:55):
importantly, the ability to bepatient.
When we practice this powerfulskill, we're not just waiting,
we're actively engaging ingrowth, reflection and learning,
and we're often present and inthe moment, taking a mindful
(06:16):
stance.
Now let's shift our focus to thescientific insights that reveal
why patience is more than justwaiting.
It's a cornerstone ofself-regulation and emotional
resilience.
And let me tell you science hasa lot to say about patience and
self-control.
One of the landmark studiesthat comes to mind in research
(06:38):
on delayed gratification was ledby Walter Mischel and his
colleagues.
In their famous experiment,often referred to as the
marshmallow test, children weregiven a choice Enjoy a small
treat immediately or wait a bitfor a larger reward.
The outcomes of this studyrevealed that children who were
(06:58):
able to delay theirgratification often experienced
better life outcomes.
Often experienced better lifeoutcomes.
This ranged from academicsuccess to improved emotional
regulation later in life.
The study highlights a keyelement of patience the ability
to delay instant gratificationfor greater benefit in the
(07:21):
future Sounds a lot likediscipline, which we talked
about in a previous episode,because it is.
In order to have discipline, itrequires both self-control and
patience.
And, just to be clear, theytested whether kids had the
ability to delay theirgratification by saying they
(07:48):
could have one marshmallow now,or if they waited a short period
of time, they could have twomarshmallows instead.
You might be thinking okay,that's great, david, but I'm not
a kid waiting for marshmallows.
So how does this apply to me asan adult or someone in high
school listening to this?
Well, when we view patience asan investment in our future, it
becomes clear that self-controlisn't just about saying no to
(08:11):
temptations.
It's about creating a structurein our lives that supports
long-term growth and success.
As we navigate the ups anddowns of our daily lives, the
ability to pause, reflect andchoose our responses carefully
can be transformative.
It sounds a lot like takingcontrol of your conscious
(08:35):
perspective to frame things in adifferent light and using
curiosity and critical thinkingto think it through.
In addition to the marshmallowtest, more recent research
underscores the benefits ofpatience in various aspects of
life.
A study by Duckworth andSeligman demonstrated that
(08:57):
self-discipline, a trait closelylinked with patience, is often
a better predictor of academicand professional success than
raw IQ.
In their study, individuals whoexhibited greater self-control
were more likely to persist indifficult tasks and reach their
long-term goals, even in theface of distractions.
(09:18):
Now you might remember the nameDuckworth she's the primary
researcher on grit, and grit isthe number one predictor of
success, which means cultivatingpatience is one of the
essential keys to developinggrit.
The research is significantbecause it reveals that patience
(09:38):
is not just a passive waitinggame.
It's an active process ofself-management.
Whether you're facing careerchallenges, investing in a new
skill or nurturing personalrelationships, the quality of
your patience can shape outcomesdramatically and on a
neurobiological level, patienceinvolves the activation of brain
(10:03):
regions associated withexecutive function and with
emotional regulation.
By practicing patience, we'reeffectively training our brains
to handle stress more gracefully.
This leads to improved mentalhealth and cognitive performance
.
Ultimately, these studiesremind us that patience is both
(10:32):
a natural human ability and askill that can be honed over
time through practice andintention.
Growing up because of my ADHD, Ifound that it tended to take me
longer to do things than otherpeople.
My lack of organization andregularly misplaced items had me
spending time backtracking,finding things, looking for
(10:54):
things in a disorganized mess,getting distracted and having to
go back and, overall, takinglonger, and I have to say it
wasn't fun.
But one thing that I gainedfrom my experiences as a kid
with pretty profound ADHD atleast on the attention deficit
(11:15):
side, less on the hyperactive,impulsive side was I had to live
with myself constantly and Isay this jokingly, but I'm also
not joking.
In order to deal with myself ona daily basis, I had to become
patient and it wasn't alwayseasy.
(11:38):
But building patience, justlike anything else, is like a
muscle, and now I believe thatI'm a very patient person.
I think it's one of my strongestsuits and I do believe that
patience is a virtue, it is asuperpower.
It brings a lot of peace tolife.
(11:58):
It helps you be mindful andtake a step back and just be
present in the moment and notalways worrying about what you
have to get done.
Being patient gives you thewherewithal to take a step back
and use strategies likemindfulness, stoicism, taking a
look at what's going on andfocusing on your locus of
(12:21):
control, or analyzing thingsthrough critical thinking and
thinking in shades of gray, orrethinking things, because when
you're not in a rush, you havetime to really think things
through.
It also gives you the space totake control of your conscious
perspective, so that you're lessreactive and you're choosing
(12:44):
how you're showing up, andthat's a self-fulfilling
prophecy.
By choosing a perspective ofpatience, you now have more room
to practice patience, whichgives you time to take more
control over your perspective.
And the reason I said it'sreally a superpower is because
(13:05):
patience is lacking more andmore in people these days.
We don't have the types of jobslike farmers had.
We had to sow our crops andwait until they hopefully
survived.
You had to have patience to seeresults.
Well, the more rare a skill is,the more valuable and useful it
(13:29):
becomes, and, as I mentioned,it is a key part for persistence
, perseverance, consistency,discipline and grit.
Yes, this is a trait that cangive you more peace of mind and
more effective results, and thewillingness to think things
through more can also make yousmarter.
(13:51):
But, just like anything else,taking patience to an extreme or
using it at times that don'tmake sense isn't always
necessarily a good thing.
In an emergency situation,slowing way down and using a lot
of patience is probably notgoing to help you.
(14:12):
Gary Vaynerchuk actually talksabout the concept of balancing
initiative and eagerness andassertiveness with patience and
consistency.
He even wrote a children's bookabout it.
I believe the title was Meet Mein the Middle.
The story is about an eagereagle who is so eager to just
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get out there and do it that hedoesn't think things through,
and it causes problems for him.
But he's also the first onethere.
He's taking initiative and someof that works out for him.
However, patient Pig does theopposite.
He takes his time, gets fullyready and ends up missing the
bus to the big game, causing himto show up late but prepared
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with a plan that ends up winningthem the game.
Both strategies, when taken toextremes, can come with
downsides, but the thing is theydon't have to be opposites.
You can actually cultivateefficiency, assertiveness and
initiative like eager eagle,while also having patience,
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self-control and consistency, aswell as preparation, like
patient pig.
To basically sum it up, whenthey actually worked together
and played to each other'sstrengths, they accomplished way
more when they met in themiddle.
So how can we cultivate thispowerful skill in our daily life
?
Here are some actionablestrategies that I've found and
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that the research supports tohelp you build greater patience,
mindfulness and meditation.
Engaging in regular mindfulnesspractices can help train your
brain to slow down and bepresent.
Even a few minutes ofmeditation each day can shift
your perspective, making youless reactive and more
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deliberate.
Try focusing on your breath orusing guided meditation apps
that encourage slow, mindfulbreathing.
Notice the things in yoursurroundings or the sensations
on your body in the presentmoment.
Over time, you'll find thatthese moments of stress or
irritation lose their grip onyou.
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Reframe your challenges asopportunities Instead of viewing
delays and obstacles assetbacks.
See them as opportunities tolearn something new about
yourself.
When you're frustrated by along wait or an unforeseen
setback, ask yourself what can Ilearn from this situation?
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This reframing of yourconscious perspective and of the
situation at hand can transformirritation into curiosity and
growth.
Practice deliberate delay.
Build in small moments ofintentional waiting into your
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routine.
For example, if you have ahabit of rushing decisions, be
it in your work, email oreveryday purchases, pause for a
few seconds to reflect beforeresponding.
This simple exercisestrengthens your ability to hold
space for uncertainty and canlead to more thoughtful
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decisions.
Set realistic expectations.
Sometimes impatience stems fromunrealistic expectations.
By setting achievable goals andrecognizing that progress often
happens in small, incrementalsteps, you can reduce the
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pressure you place on yourself.
Celebrate the small wins alongthe way and remember that every
step forward is progress andeven better yet if you can help
it.
Try not to have expectations,just positive hopes.
And lastly, reflect on yourpast successes.
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Recall those times in your lifewhen patience has paid off.
Remember that you waited for apromotion or persevered through
a tough project.
Reflect on these successes asevidence that waiting and
enduring challenges can lead tosignificant rewards.
This reflection can bolsteryour resilience when you
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encounter new challenges and canhelp you start to think of
yourself as somebody who haspatience, who uses patience.
By integrating these strategiesinto your daily routine and
even, possibly, your identity,you not only cultivate patience,
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but also build a strongerfoundation for your personal
development.
Each moment spent embracing thepractice of patience is an
investment in your future, yourwell-being and your success.
This process is gradual, likelearning any new skill.
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It requires consistency,self-compassion and the
willingness to face discomfort,but trust that over time, the
rewards will compound and willeventually be profound.
As we get closer to the end oftoday's episode, I'd like to
share one piece of wisdom thathas always resonated with me.
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Emerson once said Adopt thepace of nature, her secret is
patience.
This great quote reminds usthat, just as nature unfolds in
its own time, our personaljourneys cannot be rushed.
Embracing the slow, naturalprogression of life allows us to
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appreciate each moment andlearn from every experience.
Let's take a moment now toreflect on one area of your life
where you might benefit from alittle more patience, whether
it's a project at work, apersonal relationship or even
your own inner growth.
Consider how a shift to apatient perspective could yield
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transformative results.
I'm glad you were able to joinme today on this exploration of
the power of patience.
We examined what patience is,why it matters and, most
importantly, how you cancultivate it in your everyday
life.
Remember that personal growthis not an overnight journey.
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With each mindful moment andevery deliberate pause, you're
investing in a richer, morefulfilling future.
I encourage you to try one ofthe strategies that we discussed
today and reflect on yourexperiences.
Let patience guide you towardsa calmer, more centered life.
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Let patience guide you towardsa calmer, more centered life,
and remember you are enough andyou deserve to fill up your
inner cup with happiness,confidence and self-compassion.
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Thank you for listening to theSage Solutions Podcast.
Your time is valuable and I'mso glad that you choose to learn
and grow here with me.
If you haven't already, don'tforget to subscribe so you don't
miss out on more Sage advice.
One last thing the legallanguage.
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This podcast is for educationaland informational purposes only
.
No coaching client relationshipis formed.
It is not intended as asubstitute for the personalized
advice of a physician,professional coach,
psychotherapist or otherqualified professional.
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