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A cancer diagnosis
can bring life to a screeching
halt.
The emotional roller coasterthat follows often is
accompanied by physical changesand can feel like navigating an
uncharted island.
Life can change in an instantand we need to learn how to
adapt.
Hello and welcome to SailingThrough Life.
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One of the enlightening lessonsI've obtained from this
experience is the importance ofstaying anchored during
difficult times.
Being a cancer survivor changesyour life in unexpected ways,
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but it also offers anopportunity for growth and
self-discovery.
It's about learning to takecare of yourself and learning to
accept your situation.
Cancer forces you to make toughdecisions and reassess the
quality of your life.
It's about figuring out how tomake the best of a situation,
and sometimes that involvesmaking hard decisions.
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The changes that come with acancer diagnosis can be
overwhelming.
Despite the physical andemotional toll, there is
gratitude to be found in thesupport received during this
challenging time.
This is a journey of not justsurviving, but thriving in the
midst of adversity.
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My story serves as a testamentto strength and resilience that
can be found within yourself.
Living with cancers isundoubtedly a challenging
journey.
It's a journey filled withuncertainty, fear and emotional
upheaval.
However, it's a journey of hope, resilience and empowerment.
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It reshapes perspectives onlife and brings to the forefront
the strength and courage youdidn't know you had.
Last week, I mentioned thatthings are going to change here.
It's going to get a littlecrazy and I'm going to be
winging it for a little bit.
I'm learning how to adjust mysales.
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I know this message of what I'mgoing through and what I'm
going to be talking about issomething that needs to be heard
.
I know this is a message thatis real about cancer and I know
nobody wants to talk aboutcancer, but yet here we are.
Everyone will have anexperience that is touched by
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cancer at some point in theirlives, so I feel it's truly
important for me to tell mystory and figure this out along
the way, and perhaps what I'mdoing will touch someone in a
way they didn't expect.
The point is, I'm showing outto find out who I am in this
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transition in life.
I'm finding out what I can doand how best to take care of
myself.
I'm a cancer survivor wantingto make a difference in the
world.
This isn't how I saw my lifegoing.
This has been quite theexperience.
I can tell you that I had noidea what to expect or how I was
going to respond to this recentnews, but it did take me back a
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few steps and I've been puttingback the pieces.
I've been figuring out whereI'm at and I guess it's kind of
like being dropped like thelittle Google map guy from out
of the sky and landing on anuncharted island.
You can spin him around, youcan see where you're at, but you
don't really know where you'reat.
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You can see solid ground, youcan see water, you can see the
sky, but where are you?
There are things that arefamiliar and then there are
things that are not.
Some of it I understand andsome of it's still overwhelming.
So I have to look at everythingI've gone through.
I have to look at what's in mylife that's happened, and
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there's been a lot.
I've seen a lot of good thingsand I've gone through a lot of
bad things.
But what exactly in my lifehappened that prepared me for
this experience?
What lessons have I learned tounderstand this experience, to
help me through this?
One thing I know for sure isthat everything can change in an
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instant and in response to that, I'm making changes.
You don't realize I mean trulyrealize how important this is.
When something happens to youand the floor drops out, you'll
never go back to doing thingsthe way you did before.
You'll never think the way youdid before, as much as you fall
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back into old habits.
It's not the same becauseyou're not the same person.
You start appreciating thingsdifferently.
You start being grateful forthings differently.
I didn't know what to expect.
I didn't.
I had my thoughts on gettingthe news and there was something
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wrong during that scan.
But until you hear those words,until it's solid, you don't
know.
And I went along thinking I gotthis, I got this, I got this,
and then realized I don't gotthis.
I went from a new day to a newpage, to a new chapter, to a new
book.
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My journey with cancer startedalmost six years ago, back in
2017.
And it was a stage threediagnosis.
So right out the gate I knewthis was serious.
I never thought I wasinvincible, but I also knew I
couldn't stay stuck there and soI needed to keep functioning in
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life and I wanted to get backto you know how they say normal,
and it was a journey, it was achallenge to do that.
But I needed to go back to work, I needed to make money, I
needed to pay my bills, I neededto take care of myself, and I
was doing all those things.
But when this diagnosis came up, it leveled me.
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It made me go into places Ididn't know existed.
I remember thinking my life wasgoing to end because of the
stage three diagnosis and Ithought of all the things I
would never do in my life, andit was pretty depressing.
I had to find a glimmer of hope.
I had the opportunity to seethe potential with what was out
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there because of the treatmentsand the surgery that I had, and
once I started feeling better, Iwanted to get back into normal
things.
I started working from home,just to give myself something to
do before I even fully healed,because I didn't want to go
insane waiting.
It's maybe a type A personalitything, but if you are one, you
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get it.
You just can't sit still forthat long.
So that experience that wassupposed to teach me to take
time and relax really didn't.
I pushed and pushed and wentback to work and, wouldn't you
know it, I went from August of2017 to All Clear in October of
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18.
And boom, january of 2019, Iwas back to square one.
As soon as I felt that lump, Iknew this is bad.
I knew it was bad and I knew Icouldn't do what I did the last
time.
I knew what I did the last timeobviously didn't work and I
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knew it was hitting me harderthis time.
So I went through the nextround of surgeries and treatment
and I had a new hope that thiswas the fix.
This was the thing that wasgoing to get me through it.
Well, fast forward to March of2023 and reality hit once again.
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When you're faced with thatshocking news of having cancer,
the emotional wave can beoverwhelming.
There are stages of grief thatyou go through.
Each one brings its own set ofchallenges.
There's denial, the bargaining,the desperation and the anger.
Then there's anxiety anddepression, and next you face
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the one that's been hardest forme loss of self and confusion.
I've always been organized.
I've always been aware ofmyself.
This has changed that for me.
I'm not even close to theacceptance level yet.
I'm realistic with what's goingon, but I haven't totally been
like this, is it?
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So I'm having to do things alot different.
Yet again, I'm doing housecleaning or internal
housekeeping and dealing witheverything that's churned up
inside.
It's a feeling of loss.
I've lost who I was again andI'm strangely excited about who
I'm going to become.
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But then there's that middlepart that gets accentuated by
the physical side of a diagnosis, after surgeries and treatments
are involved.
It's that emotional side ofloss.
You just feel so many emotions,there's so much to process, and
then you have the loss ofidentity.
You associate yourself with somany different aspects of your
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life and when you start seeingthose things just sinking to the
bottom of the ocean, you can'tretrieve them anymore.
It's forcing me to reallyreevaluate.
Each stage of grief is a step onthe path to acceptance, a path
that often involves internalstruggle and identity crisis and
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a profound sense of loss.
However, this journey isn'tsolely defined by its hardships.
In the middle of chaos andgrief, empowerment and gratitude
can be found.
I know my experiences aren'tgoing to be the same as your
experience or anyone else'sexperience, because we all come
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from a different place.
We all have come from differentexperiences.
We have different lives torefer to and how to move forward
, but it all comes down to youthe same thing Quality of life.
Quality of life goes back to.
I'm here in this spot and Ihave to figure out how to make
the best of it, and sometimesthat includes making hard
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decisions, things that you'vebeen complacent about or just
been putting up with some ofthese things, and so making
these hard decisions, makingthose shifts in your life to
improve the quality of yourexperience, is truly important.
At this point, I will never beless than a stage four cancer
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patient, survivor, warrior,fighter, whatever.
I can't go back and changeanything.
This internal struggle, I feel,makes me angry, it makes me sad.
It's hurtful because I wasstripped of an opportunity, and
anger because I don't knowwhat's in the future.
I don't know what's going tochange.
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I don't want to feel that thishas power over me.
I want to feel strong.
I know I want my freedom, whichis another thing that has been
taken away on some level.
I'm frustrated that I'm havingto go through this again.
I've asked myself the why's.
I've gone through that list,tried to process all this and I
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don't know.
I don't know, I don't know.
The sadness I'm feeling comesfrom the simple fact that this
is affecting everyone around me.
It's not just me, it affectseveryone.
And then you feel guilt becauseyour life is now the focal
point of everyone else's lifeand that sucks because I don't
like that kind of spotlight.
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So the reality of what life isnow trying to monitor this
internal dialogue that happenswith all the cancer talk in your
head of what's to come.
It's triggering and it bringsup things from the past.
I've been using this time to putmyself in places where I can
think outside the box, I can bemore creative, so adding in
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things that I love to do.
I'm finding out that thisdifficulty is allowing me to
adapt and refine a little bitmore, and it's a great place for
me to just sit down and notthink about anything to the nth
degree.
So, bringing you to current,I'm preparing for surgery in a
couple of days.
I just finished healing fromthe last one and I'm exhaling
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and keeping my fingers crossedand I've done things a little
bit different this time, andperhaps this is the whole what
did I learn?
Phase.
I'm being more proactive.
I'm advocating for myself evenmore.
I'm putting myself first in myself care, because I know I
can't redo yesterday.
I can't unknow something I haveto go with.
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This is where I'm at and thisis what's going to be next.
I can't be oblivious anymore.
I have too much knowledge.
This surgery is very real andit reminds me of how fragile and
finite it makes you feel.
It's a very vulnerable place tobe and it's scary.
I've been so professional andnot necessarily perfectionist,
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but I am a detailed person and,out of integrity, I've always
kept this show very professionalbecause I wanted to respect
other people's experiences andthe people who were listening, I
wanted to present that I dotake this serious.
The subject matter is a touchysubject, but when you're going
through it, I think you want tograsp it.
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All the information you can.
You want to understand.
You want to feel less alone.
I don't want you to feelisolated during your time
dealing with this cancerdiagnosis.
Don't isolate yourself.
Reach out for help.
These are the lessons wecontinue to learn.
So the gloves are going to becoming off.
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I want to continue to focus oninspiring growth and change.
Regardless of what you're goingthrough, you don't have to
settle for where you're at.
This is all about living andnot waiting to die.
If this resonates with you,please stick with me, because
I'm going to keep on with theseepisodes.
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I'll be mixing in some otherepisodes just to give me a
little bit of a break, because Ido need to take time to take
care of myself.
I need to take this seriously.
I know it's been aboutnavigating my life with cancer
and finding strength in the faceof this hardship.
Ultimately, it's about livingand thriving, regardless of your
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circumstances.
It's about the human spirit'sability to persevere and find
hope.
I hope this is the thing thatempowers you to push yourself
through whatever you're facing.
I'm doing the best I can and Icannot do anything more.
This is hard.
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This is hard to be puttingmyself out here like this, but
my hope is that everything goeswell with the surgery and I can
move forward and continue livingthis life I want to live.
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support the show financially.
You can do any or all of that,and I would be eternally
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grateful to you for continuingto support me.
I'm grateful to be here and I'mgrateful you're listening.
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Stay anchored.
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Start with you next time.