August 17, 2023 • 14 mins
Here's a real thought-provoker - what if life really is just 10% of what actually happens to us with the remaining 90% being all about our reactions? Join me as I unfold my personal journey of resilience and hard decisions, shaping my attitude towards life along the way.
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This week we are dissecting the power of attitude, that invisible force that shapes our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and can either make or break us in challenging situations. Accepting hard-to-swallow truths, controlling our emotions, and wearing a positive outlook are part of the process we'll explore together. We'll also delve into the ripple effects of our choices, not just on our own lives, but those around us. So, let's empower each other, share resources, experiences and make a difference in someone's life.
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Lorie Tesny (00:04):
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you
react to it.
I know you've heard this inmany variations, so how do you
react to life?
Today, we're going to betalking about what to do with
that 90%.
Stay tuned.
Hello and welcome to SailingThrough Life.
(00:26):
I'm Lorie, your host and friend.
Join me as I shareconversations that give you hope
through the storms of life.
You'll find inspiration throughthe experiences of my guests,
as well as hearing my own crazy,wonderful adventure.
Create the life you desire bydiscovering new ways to focus on
your health and well-beingthrough modifying your habits
(00:47):
and improving your mindset.
Set sail with me on thisjourney to realize the strength
and resilience you have inside.
Let us show you how, as yousail through life.
Welcome aboard, welcome back.
I'm so grateful to you forbeing here and giving me your
(01:10):
time.
I hope to continue to inspireyou every day.
Want to be a part of the crew?
Support us by sharing this showwith us.
Want to be a part of the crew?
Support us by sharing this showwith friends and family and by
making a contributionfinancially.
That'll help us grow this show.
(01:31):
You can learn more atsailingthroughlifepodcastcom.
As I mentioned in my last soloepisode.
I've been on a little bit of asoul-searching mission.
I'm pushing the envelope, so tospeak.
I've had a lot of things toprocess recently, and it all
(01:54):
stems back to August of 2017.
In 2017, I was doing life likeeverybody else just going to
work, enjoying my weekends,doing projects, doing boating,
all that stuff Until I went tothat one dermatology appointment
(02:15):
the first dermatologyappointment I've ever been to
and that was the day my lifechanged.
August 24th was the day I gotthat call and you'll never
forget that day.
You'll never forget what wassaid, where you were, what you
(02:35):
were doing.
It's ingrained, it's in there.
In 2017, my journey started, butthen this year happened, and to
get the news that your canceris back, after you've been
through so much, it was surrealand it was a lot to take in.
(03:01):
Then to go through surgery andfind out you had to have surgery
again within a month.
That was a little bit to handle, but I was able to get through
it.
We have to rethink how we wantto live.
We have to reevaluate.
We don't have to, we want to,because now we have the
(03:28):
opportunity to make thosechanges.
This is the slap in the facethat makes us stop, stand still
and pay attention.
When your life is threatened inthat way, in any way, you start
making some changes.
(03:48):
So when I think back to 2017,and I think about what I went
through and all this informationabout what I was facing, what
my options were and to getthrough it victoriously, feeling
like I've got this Again,within 18 months of my first
diagnosis, I was diagnosed again, so I've had the rug pulled out
(04:12):
from underneath me beforethat's happened before.
So the fact that I had to havea second surgery this year,
really it was a lot.
It was a lot.
I think there were a lot ofcircumstances that kind of
factored in how I reacted to thenews, how I reacted to the
surgery and I'm healing fine.
I am physically, mentally.
(04:33):
It's been a bigger challengefor me.
It's been a bigger what if kindof thing.
It's been a bigger impact.
So, coming up will be six yearsthat I started this journey and
I'm grateful that six yearslater, I'm still here.
(04:53):
I'm still talking and doing mything and figuring things out,
and it's hard not to fold intothe what ifs and should I's and
all that stuff.
It's too important to not wastetime and I think that's a big
motivator for people to stop andreevaluate.
(05:16):
You realize how finite thattime is.
You realize how fast things canchange and you don't want to
waste that time.
So I've been torn on thisepisode.
I've been torn on a lot ofthings, obviously, but I feel
guilty because I've had to makesome hard decisions and some of
(05:38):
those decisions have beendifficult.
Because it's focusing back onme, it's taking what I was so
geared towards and shifting it,and I've decided that right now
(06:05):
like I would tell you at anyother point, right now I need to
be focusing my energy and mytime on what I need to do for me
, and I feel terrible thatthat's where I'm at.
But I also know I cannot denymyself this opportunity to get
(06:27):
things squared away.
I know previously I mentionedthat perhaps there might be a
time where I might not be veryconsistent with these episodes,
depending on what I was doingand how I was feeling, and I've
actually decided to relievemyself of that pressure to try
to make sure you had an episodeevery week and just force it,
(06:51):
and that's not what this isabout.
It's about being you.
It's about being strong and whoyou are.
It's about moving forwardthrough adversity, and so
allowing myself that time tostep back and give myself a
little more space so that I canrecharge and come back with a
(07:12):
new sense of purpose is what Ineed to do.
So from this episode forwarduntil further notice, I will be
going to releasing an episodeevery other week.
So the next episode will be intwo weeks, and I appreciate
anybody who follows me that willbe patient during this time.
(07:34):
I would imagine that ifanybody's listening to this
because they've been throughsomething difficult, that they
would be totally understandingof this.
I really have to give myselfthat opportunity to step out of
the, to step out of the circlefor a little bit.
So, speaking on the six yearthing, I thought about all the
(07:57):
things that have changed in thatsix years Things with my body,
things with scars, all thehealing and accepting life as
it's happening, accepting thechanges and learning to step
back.
There's a quote that says lifeis 10% what happens to you and
(08:24):
90% how you react to it.
This is a famous quote byCharles Swindle.
Swindle believed that ourattitudes are the most important
thing in life.
He said that we have a choiceevery morning to choose our
attitude for the day.
He also said that attitudes aremore important than facts,
(08:49):
education, money, circumstances,failures, successes, what
people think say, do he believesthat attitude can make or break
anyone?
This is because attitudes arethe foundation of our thoughts,
(09:11):
feelings and behaviors.
They determine how we see theworld and how we react to it.
A positive attitude can help usovercome challenges, achieve
our goals and live a happy andfulfilling life, but a negative
attitude, on the other hand, canhold us back from reaching our
full potential.
(09:31):
There are many things that wecan do to develop a positive
attitude.
We can focus on the good thingsin our life, practice gratitude
that's a big one and surroundourselves with positive people.
We can also learn to manage ourthoughts and emotions in a
healthy way.
A positive attitude is apowerful thing.
(09:54):
It can make a big difference inour lives.
So if you want to achieve yourgoals and live a happy and
fulfilling life, it's importantto develop that positive
attitude.
Our attitudes shape our feelings, our beliefs and often how we
behave.
It can be positive or negative,but they play a big role in
(10:18):
life, which can be difficult attimes.
Things and events will happenthat we have no control over,
but we can control our attitudetoward them.
A positive attitude can help uscope with difficult situations
and see the good and even theworst of times.
(10:40):
A negative attitude, on theother hand, can make things seem
worse and can make it moredifficult to see the light at
the end of the tunnel.
It's important to remember thatwe always have a choice as to
how we react to things thathappen in our lives.
We can choose to let them getus down or we can choose to see
(11:01):
the positive side.
The choice is ours.
Some people refuse to face thetruth because it's often
difficult or painful.
It can be easier to live indenial than accept the reality,
especially if the truth issomething that we don't want to
believe.
For example, someone who hasbeen diagnosed with an illness
(11:23):
they may refuse to accept theirdiagnosis.
Or someone who has been cheatedon may refuse to believe that
their partner would do somethinglike that.
There are many reasons whypeople refuse to face the truth,
but it's important to rememberthat the truth is always there,
even if we choose to ignore it.
It's in the accepting of ourreality that we grow stronger.
(11:48):
Individuals that do this succeeddespite their past difficulties
, even chronic disease,disabilities and other issues.
They may overcome adversitybecause they recognize that they
have always had a choice as towhat attitude they want to
embody.
They have a positive mentality,which has been shown to have a
(12:09):
direct impact on life expectancy.
They also recognize that theyhave a choice as to how they
react to their past.
They have control over theiremotions and they overcome the
odds despite their situations.
We have the opportunity toredirect our path.
(12:30):
We have the opportunity to makethe difference in our lives, to
give ourselves that little bitof space, that grace, to get
through whatever we're facing.
So honor your experience, honoryour feelings and come to a
place of peace with it.
It's never going to be perfect,but it can always get better.
(12:51):
Take the time you need, butthen realize at some point you
need to move forward.
We need to experience life.
We need to thrive.
I want to end this episode witha final thought by Walter
Anderson that sums it upextremely well.
(13:12):
He said I am responsible.
Although I may not be able toprevent the worst from happening
, I am responsible for myattitude toward the inevitable
misfortunes that darken life.
Bad things do happen.
How I respond to them definesmy character and the quality of
(13:34):
my life.
I can choose to sit inperpetual sadness, immobilized
by the gravity of my loss, or Ican choose to rise from the pain
and treasure the most preciousgift I have life itself.
So remember in your day thatyou get to choose how life comes
(13:56):
at you.
It's time to feel empowered.
It's time to make every choicecount.
If you or someone you careabout would like to share their
experience, or if you know anorganization to help even just
one person, message me throughmy website.
Supporting this show allows usto continue to make a difference
(14:18):
in someone's life.
You can share this episode withfriends and family and
contribute financially.
Just go to sailing through lifepodcastcom to help out.
Stay anchored.
Chat with you next time.
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you
react to it.
I know you've heard this inmany variations, so how do you
react to life?
Today, we're going to betalking about what to do with
that 90%.
Stay tuned.
Hello and welcome to SailingThrough Life.
(00:26):
I'm Lorie, your host and friend.
Join me as I shareconversations that give you hope
through the storms of life.
You'll find inspiration throughthe experiences of my guests,
as well as hearing my own crazy,wonderful adventure.
Create the life you desire bydiscovering new ways to focus on
your health and well-beingthrough modifying your habits
(00:47):
and improving your mindset.
Set sail with me on thisjourney to realize the strength
and resilience you have inside.
Let us show you how, as yousail through life.
Welcome aboard, welcome back.
I'm so grateful to you forbeing here and giving me your
(01:10):
time.
I hope to continue to inspireyou every day.
Want to be a part of the crew?
Support us by sharing this showwith us.
Want to be a part of the crew?
Support us by sharing this showwith friends and family and by
making a contributionfinancially.
That'll help us grow this show.
(01:31):
You can learn more atsailingthroughlifepodcastcom.
As I mentioned in my last soloepisode.
I've been on a little bit of asoul-searching mission.
I'm pushing the envelope, so tospeak.
I've had a lot of things toprocess recently, and it all
(01:54):
stems back to August of 2017.
In 2017, I was doing life likeeverybody else just going to
work, enjoying my weekends,doing projects, doing boating,
all that stuff Until I went tothat one dermatology appointment
(02:15):
the first dermatologyappointment I've ever been to
and that was the day my lifechanged.
August 24th was the day I gotthat call and you'll never
forget that day.
You'll never forget what wassaid, where you were, what you
(02:35):
were doing.
It's ingrained, it's in there.
In 2017, my journey started, butthen this year happened, and to
get the news that your canceris back, after you've been
through so much, it was surrealand it was a lot to take in.
(03:01):
Then to go through surgery andfind out you had to have surgery
again within a month.
That was a little bit to handle, but I was able to get through
it.
We have to rethink how we wantto live.
We have to reevaluate.
We don't have to, we want to,because now we have the
(03:28):
opportunity to make thosechanges.
This is the slap in the facethat makes us stop, stand still
and pay attention.
When your life is threatened inthat way, in any way, you start
making some changes.
(03:48):
So when I think back to 2017,and I think about what I went
through and all this informationabout what I was facing, what
my options were and to getthrough it victoriously, feeling
like I've got this Again,within 18 months of my first
diagnosis, I was diagnosed again, so I've had the rug pulled out
(04:12):
from underneath me beforethat's happened before.
So the fact that I had to havea second surgery this year,
really it was a lot.
It was a lot.
I think there were a lot ofcircumstances that kind of
factored in how I reacted to thenews, how I reacted to the
surgery and I'm healing fine.
I am physically, mentally.
(04:33):
It's been a bigger challengefor me.
It's been a bigger what if kindof thing.
It's been a bigger impact.
So, coming up will be six yearsthat I started this journey and
I'm grateful that six yearslater, I'm still here.
(04:53):
I'm still talking and doing mything and figuring things out,
and it's hard not to fold intothe what ifs and should I's and
all that stuff.
It's too important to not wastetime and I think that's a big
motivator for people to stop andreevaluate.
(05:16):
You realize how finite thattime is.
You realize how fast things canchange and you don't want to
waste that time.
So I've been torn on thisepisode.
I've been torn on a lot ofthings, obviously, but I feel
guilty because I've had to makesome hard decisions and some of
(05:38):
those decisions have beendifficult.
Because it's focusing back onme, it's taking what I was so
geared towards and shifting it,and I've decided that right now
(06:05):
like I would tell you at anyother point, right now I need to
be focusing my energy and mytime on what I need to do for me
, and I feel terrible thatthat's where I'm at.
But I also know I cannot denymyself this opportunity to get
(06:27):
things squared away.
I know previously I mentionedthat perhaps there might be a
time where I might not be veryconsistent with these episodes,
depending on what I was doingand how I was feeling, and I've
actually decided to relievemyself of that pressure to try
to make sure you had an episodeevery week and just force it,
(06:51):
and that's not what this isabout.
It's about being you.
It's about being strong and whoyou are.
It's about moving forwardthrough adversity, and so
allowing myself that time tostep back and give myself a
little more space so that I canrecharge and come back with a
(07:12):
new sense of purpose is what Ineed to do.
So from this episode forwarduntil further notice, I will be
going to releasing an episodeevery other week.
So the next episode will be intwo weeks, and I appreciate
anybody who follows me that willbe patient during this time.
(07:34):
I would imagine that ifanybody's listening to this
because they've been throughsomething difficult, that they
would be totally understandingof this.
I really have to give myselfthat opportunity to step out of
the, to step out of the circlefor a little bit.
So, speaking on the six yearthing, I thought about all the
(07:57):
things that have changed in thatsix years Things with my body,
things with scars, all thehealing and accepting life as
it's happening, accepting thechanges and learning to step
back.
There's a quote that says lifeis 10% what happens to you and
(08:24):
90% how you react to it.
This is a famous quote byCharles Swindle.
Swindle believed that ourattitudes are the most important
thing in life.
He said that we have a choiceevery morning to choose our
attitude for the day.
He also said that attitudes aremore important than facts,
(08:49):
education, money, circumstances,failures, successes, what
people think say, do he believesthat attitude can make or break
anyone?
This is because attitudes arethe foundation of our thoughts,
(09:11):
feelings and behaviors.
They determine how we see theworld and how we react to it.
A positive attitude can help usovercome challenges, achieve
our goals and live a happy andfulfilling life, but a negative
attitude, on the other hand, canhold us back from reaching our
full potential.
(09:31):
There are many things that wecan do to develop a positive
attitude.
We can focus on the good thingsin our life, practice gratitude
that's a big one and surroundourselves with positive people.
We can also learn to manage ourthoughts and emotions in a
healthy way.
A positive attitude is apowerful thing.
(09:54):
It can make a big difference inour lives.
So if you want to achieve yourgoals and live a happy and
fulfilling life, it's importantto develop that positive
attitude.
Our attitudes shape our feelings, our beliefs and often how we
behave.
It can be positive or negative,but they play a big role in
(10:18):
life, which can be difficult attimes.
Things and events will happenthat we have no control over,
but we can control our attitudetoward them.
A positive attitude can help uscope with difficult situations
and see the good and even theworst of times.
(10:40):
A negative attitude, on theother hand, can make things seem
worse and can make it moredifficult to see the light at
the end of the tunnel.
It's important to remember thatwe always have a choice as to
how we react to things thathappen in our lives.
We can choose to let them getus down or we can choose to see
(11:01):
the positive side.
The choice is ours.
Some people refuse to face thetruth because it's often
difficult or painful.
It can be easier to live indenial than accept the reality,
especially if the truth issomething that we don't want to
believe.
For example, someone who hasbeen diagnosed with an illness
(11:23):
they may refuse to accept theirdiagnosis.
Or someone who has been cheatedon may refuse to believe that
their partner would do somethinglike that.
There are many reasons whypeople refuse to face the truth,
but it's important to rememberthat the truth is always there,
even if we choose to ignore it.
It's in the accepting of ourreality that we grow stronger.
(11:48):
Individuals that do this succeeddespite their past difficulties
, even chronic disease,disabilities and other issues.
They may overcome adversitybecause they recognize that they
have always had a choice as towhat attitude they want to
embody.
They have a positive mentality,which has been shown to have a
(12:09):
direct impact on life expectancy.
They also recognize that theyhave a choice as to how they
react to their past.
They have control over theiremotions and they overcome the
odds despite their situations.
We have the opportunity toredirect our path.
(12:30):
We have the opportunity to makethe difference in our lives, to
give ourselves that little bitof space, that grace, to get
through whatever we're facing.
So honor your experience, honoryour feelings and come to a
place of peace with it.
It's never going to be perfect,but it can always get better.
(12:51):
Take the time you need, butthen realize at some point you
need to move forward.
We need to experience life.
We need to thrive.
I want to end this episode witha final thought by Walter
Anderson that sums it upextremely well.
(13:12):
He said I am responsible.
Although I may not be able toprevent the worst from happening
, I am responsible for myattitude toward the inevitable
misfortunes that darken life.
Bad things do happen.
How I respond to them definesmy character and the quality of
(13:34):
my life.
I can choose to sit inperpetual sadness, immobilized
by the gravity of my loss, or Ican choose to rise from the pain
and treasure the most preciousgift I have life itself.
So remember in your day thatyou get to choose how life comes
(13:56):
at you.
It's time to feel empowered.
It's time to make every choicecount.
If you or someone you careabout would like to share their
experience, or if you know anorganization to help even just
one person, message me throughmy website.
Supporting this show allows usto continue to make a difference
(14:18):
in someone's life.
You can share this episode withfriends and family and
contribute financially.
Just go to sailing through lifepodcastcom to help out.
Stay anchored.
Chat with you next time.
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