Say More About That
Hosted by La Toya, a licensed therapist-turned-creator, Say More About That helps high-functioning Black women set unapologetic boundaries, navigate emotional burnout, and reconnect with their authentic selves. Tune in for sharp insights, soft truths, and healing that moves with you—literally. New episodes every Monday!! Let’s talk about it.
Episodes
In this episode of Say More About That, La Toya discusses the pattern of becoming “the strong friend” everyone relies on for support without reciprocity, distinguishing it from mutually beneficial relationships.
She explains how this role accumulates over time through reliability and early conditioning, then becomes an expectation that others stop questioning.
She outlines the costs—persistent exhaustion, resentment that shows up a...
Understanding and Combating Boundary Burnout
In this episode of 'Say More About That,' host La Toya delves into the concept of boundary burnout—a form of emotional fatigue experienced after setting and maintaining boundaries. She explains that this exhaustion often arises from breaking old habits, managing both your emotions and those of others, and lacking recovery time.
La Toya provides practical steps to combat this burno...
Unpacking the Emotional Weight of Self-Abandonment
In this episode of 'Say More About That,' La Toya explores the emotional consequences of making choices that don't truly resonate with one's authentic self.
She discusses the concept of core beliefs, particularly the belief of not being enough, and how it leads to self-abandonment in pursuit of external validation.
The episode delves into the importance of identifyin...
Navigating Social Anxiety and Embracing Vulnerability
In this episode of 'Say More About That,' host La Toya delves into the sensitive topic of social anxiety, exploring the aftermath of feeling exposed when someone makes a casual yet impactful comment. She defines social anxiety using the DSM criteria, distinguishes it from shyness, and discusses the struggle between personal identity and external perception.
LaToya shares ...
Rediscovering Yourself: The Personal Journey of a Quiet Comeback this episode of 'Say More About That,' host La Toya delves into the true essence of a comeback—one that is personal, internal, and not for show. Unlike the performative 'bounce back' often seen on social media, this episode emphasizes healing, self-acceptance, and quiet strength.
La Toya discusses the pressures to appear okay and the struggle with overthinking, highli...
Letting Go of What Isn't Yours: Emotional Awareness and Boundaries
In this episode, La Toya hosts an episode focusing on the emotional burdens people often carry that do not belong to them.
She explains how high-functioning individuals, especially women, are often praised for managing chaos, which can lead to unnecessary emotional strain. La Toya introduces a three-step framework—awareness, ownership, and release—to help individ...
The Power of Community: Embracing Support and Letting Go of Isolation
In this episode of 'Say More About That,' host La Toya explores the deep-seated notion that high-functioning individuals must do everything alone. She delves into the harmful effects of emotional perfectionism and emphasizes the importance of seeking support from a community.
La Toya suggests practical strategies for auditing your support system, asking fo...
Balancing Burnout and Discipline: Insights for High Achieving Women
In this episode of Say More About That, we delve into the challenging dynamics between burnout and discipline, particularly for high-achieving women and high-functioning black women.
La Toya shares personal experiences of dealing with fatigue post-surgery and the internal conflict between feeling lazy and recognizing the need for rest. The episode offers a comprehen...
Welcome to Say More About That—the podcast for high-functioning Black women learning to feel, heal, and set boundaries without guilt.
I’m La Toya, a therapist turned creator, here to hold space for the deep stuff: emotional regulation, gym-life healing, and what it really takes to choose yourself in a world that keeps asking for more.
New episodes drop every Monday. If you're ready to stop performing healing and start living it, ...
In this episode of Say More About That, host La Toya the Therapist guides listeners through a mid-year assessment.
She encourages viewers to reflect on their progress, despite any setbacks, and provides practical strategies to realign with their goals, peace, and purpose.
La Toya introduces three key practices: a Sunday self-audit for self-reflection, a boundary refresh to reassess personal limits, and micro-joy tracking to find sm...
In this episode of 'Say More About That,' host La Toya delivers a heartfelt message emphasizing the importance of honoring oneself rather than continually striving for perfection. She discusses the cultural pressures of constant self-improvement and rejects the idea of viewing oneself as a project to be fixed.
La Toya emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, acknowledging progress alongside pain, and recognizing that h...
In this episode of Say More About That, host La Toya, the Therapist, discusses the importance of protecting your peace and setting boundaries without feeling guilty. She challenges the common misconception that putting yourself first is selfish and emphasizes that boundaries are sacred and necessary for mental and emotional well-being.
La Toya explains what it means to protect your peace, addresses the guilt often associated with s...
In this episode, we discuss strategies for handling emotional triggers without reacting impulsively. Key techniques include validating your emotions, utilizing body movement and breath work, co-regulating with a calm individual, and later reflecting on your triggers. A highlight is the STOP skill, which involves stopping, taking a step back, observing the situation, and proceeding mindfully to align your actions with your values. T...
The gift of intuitionIn this episode of Say More About That, host La Toya the therapist, delves into the significance of intuition and why it often gets ignored in favor of logic and external validation. She explains how intuition is a calm, internal knowing that guides us before logical reasoning kicks in.
She emphasizes the importance of recognizing and trusting your own inner voice and provides practical tips on how to strengthe...
Understanding and Overcoming Rejection with La Toya the Therapist.
In this episode of 'Say More About That, La Toya dives deep into the topic of rejection, exploring its painful emotional impact and offering insights on how to cope and heal. She emphasizes that rejection is an experience rather than an identity, and she explains the biological basis of why rejection hurts. She provides strategies for dealing with rejection, inc...
The Power of Acceptance: Transforming Pain into Growth
In this episode of Say More About That, La Toya, a licensed therapist, dives into the transformative power of acceptance. She explains that acceptance is not about giving up or liking difficult situations, but acknowledging reality without resistance.
La Toya elaborates on how acceptance can reduce suffering, help us respond thoughtfully instead of reacting impulsively, ...
The Power of the Pivot: Embracing Change and Personal Growth
In this episode of 'Say More About That,' La Toya discusses the concept of pivoting and why it's crucial for personal growth and alignment with one's goals and values. She explains what a pivot is, why we resist it, and how to overcome fears associated with change.
La Toya emphasizes that pivoting isn't about failure, but about making an intenti...
In this episode of 'Say More About That,' La Toya, the therapist, discusses the profound impact of our narratives and how they shape our lives. She explains that these internal stories often originate from childhood experiences, societal messages, and trauma.
La Toya highlights the importance of identifying and challenging negative narratives, sharing personal anecdotes about her own struggles with feeling friendless. S...
Embracing Imperfection and Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations
In this episode of Say More About That, La Toya delves into the importance of embracing imperfection and shedding unrealistic expectations.
La Toya defines what expectations are, explains how they are formed, and examines the costs of striving for perfection. She offers practical advice on how to identify, challenge, and reframe unrealistic standards.
The ...
In this episode of Say More About That, host La Toya the Therapist delves into the transformative power of gratitude.
La Toya discusses the importance of consistently practicing gratitude to shift focus from what we lack to what we have, debunking common myths such as gratitude being 'toxic positivity' and requiring grand gestures.
She offers practical tips like keeping a gratitude journal, expressing gratitude to others, practicin...
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