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October 19, 2025 17 mins

“Connection before correction” has become a bit of a buzz phrase in education — but what does it actually mean in a real classroom? How do you do it in the middle of a behaviour incident, when stress levels are high and pupils seem least open to connection?

In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, Simon Currigan unpacks the science and the practice behind this powerful idea. Drawing on the work of psychologists Dan Hughes and Kim Golding, as well as what we know about the autonomic nervous system and the impact of stress on the brain, he explains why connection isn’t a soft option — it’s a strategy grounded in biology.

You’ll discover:

  • Why correction fails when pupils are dysregulated and the amygdala takes over.
  • How connection to a calm adult acts as a buffer, helping pupils regain access to the thinking part of the brain.
  • The role of the PAIN framework (Primary Areas of Internal Need) in fuelling stress and behaviour challenges.
  • Why some pupils — especially those affected by trauma or ACEs — resist connection, even though they need it most.
  • Practical ways to use the PACE approach (Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, Empathy) to connect with students in the moment, before moving to correction or problem-solving.

 By the end of the episode, you’ll have a clear picture of how “connection before correction” works in practice — and why it’s often the missing link between repeated conflict and lasting behaviour change.

 If you’ve ever thought, “I’ve tried consequences, I’ve tried reasoning, but nothing sticks,” this episode will give you a new lens for seeing behaviour — and a toolkit for building calmer, safer classrooms.

Important links:

Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbook

Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources


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