135. Why You Still Feel “Not Enough” in Midlife After Crushing Big Goals—and How to Fix It

You know that feeling when you should be celebrating—but instead, you're mentally already onto the next thing?

You hit a milestone—moved into a new house, crushed a personal challenge, finished a retreat—and instead of basking in your badassery, your brain starts whispering: "Yeah, but what now?" or worse, "That wasn’t enough."

In this solo episode, I (Laurie) invite you into a mindset shift that high-achieving women in midlife desperately need: moving from the Gap (what you haven’t done) to the Gain (how far you’ve already come).

This one is personal. I share real-life examples from:

• My recent move (so many boxes, so many metaphorical mic drops)
• The brutal-but-beautiful 29029 TRAIL challenge
• A business retreat that almost sent me into a shame spiral—until someone reminded me of the badass things I'd already done

You'll walk away with:

• The 4 key questions to help you catch when you're stuck in the Gap
• A journaling prompt that will shift your whole damn week
• How to celebrate your wins without disclaimers (ahem—stop talking people out of complimenting your sweater)
• And why “starting from experience” beats “starting from scratch” every. single. time.

If you're a high-achieving midlife woman who’s secretly exhausted from always striving and never arriving—this episode is your permission slip to flip the script.

💥 You don’t need to do more to be worthy.
 💥 You just need to notice how far you’ve already come.

Links & Mentions:

• The Gap and The Gain by Dan Sullivan & Dr. Benjamin Hardy

📌 Take It Further:

1. Share this episode with your ambitious AF bestie who never gives herself credit. She needs this.
2. DM me on Instagram: When have you caught yourself in the gap? How did you shift back into the gain?

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