June 15, 2025 • 14 mins
Breaking free from stagnation requires understanding what's holding you back. After working with thousands of individuals, I've identified the six barriers that keep most people from achieving their goals.
First is a lack of clarity about what you truly want. Your vision serves as your roadmap—without it, how could you ever reach your destination? Try this exercise: write down everything you want in your life as if it will absolutely happen. This bypasses your fear and creates the clarity needed to move forward with purpose.
Negative self-talk forms the second barrier. Most people don't realize that 90% of their daily thoughts are repetitive, with 60% being negative. Breaking this pattern requires deliberately challenging those thoughts, replacing "What if I fail?" with "What if I succeed?" This shift doesn't happen overnight, but with practice, you can train your mind to default to possibility rather than limitation.
Your daily habits create the evidence that either supports or contradicts your negative beliefs about yourself. When you consistently take actions that make you proud—exercising, eating well, following through on commitments—it becomes increasingly difficult to maintain negative self-perception. These daily actions compound over time, providing the proof you need to believe in your capabilities.
Perhaps most overlooked are the vices and pleasure-seeking behaviors that diminish your potential. Whether alcohol, recreational substances, or digital distractions, these crutches prevent you from experiencing the natural high of living in alignment with your purpose. When you're truly fulfilled by your daily life, you won't need external substances to change how you feel.
The fear of judgment keeps countless people from their authentic path. But remember, people will judge you regardless of what you do—whether you pursue your dreams or remain stuck in mediocrity. The most common deathbed regret is not having lived a life true to oneself. Don't let others' opinions rob you of your one precious life.
Finally, many stay stuck because they're unwilling to fully commit to their dreams. When you go all-in—when you obsessively align every thought and action toward your goals—success becomes nearly inevitable. Even when things don't work out exactly as planned, those experiences become valuable stepping stones toward your ultimate success.
Which of these barriers is holding you back? Share your thoughts in the comments and let's create meaningful change together.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Your vision is everything, because if you don't
know where you're going, howcould you ever get there?
It's really hard to be negativewhen you're doing so many
things every day that make youfeel proud of who you are and
build you up.
What if you could just feel sodamn good that you didn't need
anything, that you were just sograteful to be alive?
When you don't give a fuck,it's way better.
You feel free, you're liberated, you can be yourself, you can
(00:20):
do what you want, beunapologetically you.
There's a statistic that saysthe number one regret people
have at the end of their life isthat they wish they had lived a
life that was genuine andauthentic to who they wanted to
be, not to appease other people.
No matter what you do, you willnever appease everybody.
Get that in your head.
Go after what God put on yourheart.
If you operate from fear,you'll never have what you want
(00:40):
in life.
What you want in life.
What's going on?
You guys Just wanted to jump onhere and share something with
some of those individuals rightnow who might be feeling stuck.
So if you're with me right nowand you're watching the live,
(01:00):
drop a hashtag.
Live down below.
If you're on the replay hashtagreplay.
I want to talk about mindset.
On the replay hashtag replay.
I want to talk about mindset.
I want to talk about goals.
I want to talk about what ittakes to actually achieve your
goals.
I know a lot of people, man,who want more out of life, but
they're stuck.
So if you're somebody who feelsstuck, or if you know there's
that next level for you andyou're not there yet and you're
not making progress towardsthose goals or those visions,
(01:23):
I'm going to break down sixreasons why you're probably
feeling stuck.
I've worked with thousands ofindividuals over the years and I
see patterns in the way peoplemake decisions, the way they
operate.
I really see how people live,based on their inner beliefs
about themselves and what'spossible in the world.
And so the first thing torecognize is that if you want to
(01:44):
change your life, you mustchange first.
Oftentimes, that requires youto change the way you think.
It requires you to change yourhabits.
There has to be atransformation in who you are
before you can go out in theworld and create something
different or better for yourself, and so that's really one of
the first reasons why peoplestay stuck.
It's because they don't haveclarity in what they want.
(02:04):
There's a lack of vision.
Your vision is everything,because if you don't know where
you're going, how could you everget there?
And a lot of people theyactually know what they want,
but they're scared to articulateit, they're scared to talk
about it, they suppress it.
And so what I tell you is that agood exercise you can do right
now to get more clear on whatyou want is to act as if god or
(02:25):
a freaking magic genie or thecreator of the universe or
whatever you believe, wouldliterally grant your wishes if
you just write them down onpaper and you articulate what
you want.
You don't have to write a wholepaper, a whole paragraph.
Just create a bullet list ofwhat you actually want, write it
out on paper, and I want you toact as if it'll come true.
There's no limitations here.
There is nothing that willprevent or stop you from having
(02:47):
what you write down in thatpaper.
I want you to think about whatyou'd actually write down and
think about your health, yourrelationships, your business,
your money, where you live, whatyou're doing.
I mean, if you could justcreate a life by design and
write it down, what would thatlook like?
That's the first step.
See what this is going to do.
It's going to help youcircumvent fear and all these
things, this resistance insideyou that's going to prevent you
(03:07):
from articulating your truth.
If you just do it very quickly,you don't second guess, you
don't think about it, you justwrite down what you freaking
want.
I want you to look at thatpaper and I want you to think
about how much different it isthan your current life.
But not just that.
This is the first step tostarting to cultivate your own
vision and get clarity aroundwhat you actually want, your
long-term goals.
A person that has clarity and avision, they have direction,
(03:29):
they have focus.
You're less likely to getdistracted by other stuff going
on in your life.
So a vision is the first step,and that's one of the things
that most people are missing andwhy they don't achieve their
goals.
Now the second thing is negativeself-talk.
A lot of people are their ownworst critic.
You're your own worst enemy.
You have negative thoughtsabout yourself or the world.
You have limiting beliefs.
(03:55):
You're pessimistic, like peoplethat think about why it can't
be done or why it won't work, oryou're always limiting yourself
in the way you talk.
You're never going to get whatyou want in life.
One thing that I started doing along time ago, which I became
very delusionally optimistic tothe point where I believed
anything was possible as long asI wanted it bad enough and I
was willing to work towards it.
I believed that it would happenat some point in my life.
You know, this is reallyimportant for you guys to
(04:16):
understand.
Some people are more naturallypessimistic or optimistic than
others.
It's a part of your dispositionand the way you were brought up
, but it can change.
You can have an effect over howyou feel and how you think.
Okay, the first thing is just tobe aware of those thoughts, and
when you have negative thoughts, you got to challenge them.
And one thing that I always doinstead of thinking what if?
(04:36):
And then a negative remark like, what if it doesn't work out?
What if people laugh at me?
What if I'm not good?
Change that to somethingpositive.
Create a positive potentialoutcome.
What if I succeed?
What if it works out?
What if I?
You know I'm better than Ithought?
What if people are reallyexcited and proud of me for
making this change?
Like you can do the same thingin your mind that most people do
(04:56):
when, when they think aboutstuff and it has a negative
ending, um, you can completelychange that and start to believe
that it can be a positive.
It's such a healthy thing foryou to constantly challenge your
own thoughts and really askyourself why not me?
Why can't I do it?
Why can I not be the one?
A lot of these clichestatements that are out there.
They help, because you need tostart thinking differently, to
(05:19):
operate differently.
Scientists, researchers, peoplethat do studies on individuals
they say that 90% of yourthoughts each and every day are
reoccurring and most people'sare negative.
60% of your thoughts are goingto be negatively inclined and
that's because you're probablynot doing what you want in your
life.
So you're thinking about thatshitty job, how you got to sit
in traffic, how you got bills topay, blah, blah, blah.
Like if you're not in alignmentwith where you want to go in
(05:41):
your life, you're not excitedabout where you're going.
Chances are you're going tohave negative thoughts.
But check this out.
The third thing I want to sharewith you that keeps people
stuck will directly impact yourthoughts, and that's your daily
habits.
Most people are inconsistent indoing things that actually
improve the quality of theirlife.
So you work out, sometimes youeat healthy, sometimes you read
and study, sometimes you knowyou stay on task, sometimes you
(06:02):
follow your schedule, sometimesLike you got to do this stuff
daily to see that compoundingmaterialized into a
transformation in your life.
And here's the thing when youdo things every day that make
you feel proud of who you areand you're really focused on
those success-based habits, yourself-talk improves.
It's really hard to be negativewhen you're doing so many
(06:22):
things every day that make youfeel proud of who you are and
build you up.
So the reason most people thinknegatively is because they're
not consistently doing thingsthat make them feel good about
themselves and they just haven'ttrained their mind to think the
right way.
Like they're just constantlydwelling on stuff that's going
wrong in their life, they'recomplaining and then they don't
believe that they can change.
(06:42):
They don't believe that they'reable to change because they
don't have evidence.
They haven't proved tothemselves through those daily
actions that they're capable.
And that's what it comes downto is that each and every day
you have to build confidence.
You have to establish thatundeniable proof and evidence by
the way you're living thatyou're capable, that you're
competent, that you can go outand achieve your goals and
(07:03):
dreams.
Now, the fourth reason thatpeople don't achieve their goals
and stay stuck in life isbecause they have vices and they
have pleasure seeking behavior.
Now, the fourth reason thatpeople don't achieve their goals
and stay stuck in life isbecause they have vices and they
have pleasure seeking behavior.
Now, I think that alcohol, Ithink that pills, I think that
smoking, weed, all of thosethings, even in moderation, are
going to hinder you in yourability to become your best self
(07:23):
.
They're going to thwart yourpotential.
Okay, now, I know some peoplethat can drink occasionally, and
that's great.
I know some people who drinkoccasionally are very successful
and there's a term calledfunctioning alcoholics, meaning
there's people that drink a lot,they get shit face and they
black out and they're stillsuccessful.
But I think maybe the peoplethat think they're successful
measure success differently thanI do.
(07:45):
When I I think of success, Ithink of mind, body, spirit,
relationships, finances.
It's multifaceted and I justask any of you who are listening
to this if you think that youdrink recreationally or you can
pull it off, imagine who you'dbecome over time if you didn't
need that crutch.
Imagine times of stress or tohave fun.
You didn't need to consume asubstance to change the way you
(08:06):
feel.
What if you could just feel sodamn good that you didn't need
anything, that you were just sograteful to be alive.
You were in such alignment withyour purpose that to actually
use those things would take youdown a notch.
Like for me, if I smoke rightnow or drink, I would be a worse
version of myself.
Even if I had one drink and wewere talking and goofing around
having fun, I would be aninferior version of myself in
(08:30):
that moment because I've trainedmy mind.
I've trained myself through myhabits, through my perspective,
and really my spirit's beenalive and to the point where I
don't need substances to feel away that I want to feel.
I can feel that way each andevery day by the way I live.
When you're in alignment toyour definite purpose and you're
all in on your dreams and yourgoals, it is such an
(08:51):
intoxicating feeling that youdon't need anything else and you
would never want to jeopardizethat feeling with a substance,
with a drink or whatever.
It is Pleasure seeking behaviormeans food.
It means chasing women.
It means womanizing.
It means you know porn.
For a lot of people, it's yourphones.
So I want you to take a momentto ask yourself am I doing
anything on a daily or weeklybasis that is thwarting or
(09:14):
killing my potential?
I'm telling you, man, if youhave vices and pleasure seeking
behavior and these bad habitsand these things that maybe
you're embarrassed or ashamedabout, that no one knows, you
will never get to where you wantto go in life.
You just have to recognize thatyou want to go in life.
You just have to recognize that.
Now, this next one I want toshare with you is a really
powerful reason why a lot ofindividuals don't change or go
(09:34):
after their goals and dreams.
That's because there's fear ofjudgment.
You're worried about what otherpeople are going to think or
say about you and honestly, thisis a big deal.
Whether it's your family, yourfriends, people at work might be
, your spouse, might be justclose relatives, a lot of people
don't change because they'reworried about how it's going to
affect other people.
And I was like this for many,many years of my life.
(09:56):
You know, I grew up in a familythat was very tight knit.
We were loyal to each other, wedid things a certain way, even
if it was to our detriment,right.
And I knew I wanted to changeand be a different, more
authentic version of myself.
But I just felt stuck becausethose relationships, that
codependency that we shared wasso strong.
And when I finally did get thechance to get away from those
(10:17):
relationships and some of thetoxicity that was in those
relationships and I was able totruly be myself, my authentic
self, the person in my core Iknew I was supposed to be, it
was one of the most liberatingfeelings of my life.
And so I'll tell you fromexperience living in both realms
right, the person who feltworried about being judged and
the person that doesn't give afuck about being judged.
(10:38):
When you don't give a fuck,it's way better.
You feel free, you're liberated, you can be yourself, you can
do what you want.
Now I always take people intoconsideration when I make
decisions.
I don't want to harm people, Idon't want to necessarily hurt
them, but I'm going to saythings that I feel are true and
I'm going to be honest, I'mgoing to lead by example, I'm
going to be myself, and ifpeople don't like it, I don't
care, because if I'm doing theright thing and I'm being
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genuine and I'm making an impactand I'm going after my goals
for you.
Don't be ashamed to be yourself.
Be unapologetically you.
There's a statistic that saysthe number one regret people
have at the end of their life isthat they wish they had lived a
life that was genuine,authentic to who they wanted to
be, not to appease other people.
That's the number one regretpeople have on their deathbed.
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Are you going to be one, or areyou going to be that person
that paves their own path?
You go after your goals.
You inspire others because youdo it and you don't care what
people think or say.
They're always going to talkabout you.
You go after your goals.
Oh, you think you're betterthan us.
Oh, you're never going to reachthose goals?
Oh, dah, dah, dah dah.
You stay stuck.
You settle.
You just live a life ofmediocrity.
Guess what People are going totalk about you?
The same man.
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You have no ambition.
Man, you're not driven.
You do.
You will never appeaseeverybody.
Get that in your head.
Go after what God put on yourheart.
That's how you becomesuccessful.
And the last reason why peoplestay stuck is just that they
just don't go after what theywant.
They let fear of getting out ofthat comfort zone and going all
in on their dreams keep themstuck in their tracks.
(12:03):
Now I see this happen all thetime.
I have clients who are workinga certain job and they wanna go
start their own business.
They wanna pursue their passion, but they're getting money in
this job.
It's security, it's predictable, and to go out in that unknown
is unpredictable and it's scaryand things could go wrong and
they might not make it.
And all these fears and all ofthis negativity in their mind
keeps them stuck in place.
(12:23):
There's a lot of reasons whypeople are unwilling to get out
of their comfort zone and go allin after their dreams.
Most of it is derived from fear.
If you operate from fear,you'll never have what you want
in life.
But I'm here to tell you thatif you're willing to go all in
on your dreams and you obsessover those goals and you align
every thought, every action tothose outcomes, you get rid of
those toxic friends, you stopwith devices, you're not
(12:44):
distracted, you're just sohyper-focused on your goals and
dreams.
I'm here to tell you that ninetimes out of ten it will work
out in your favor, andoftentimes it works out better
than expected, sometimes notexactly how you thought it would
go, but it always works out,and that one time that it
doesn't, you pivot, you grow andyou learn, and that experience
actually becomes immenselyvaluable for you down the road,
(13:06):
as long as you keep going.
And so then it always works out.
Okay, I'm here to tell you, guys, that if you let one of those
six things stop you in your pathfrom going after your goals a
lack of vision, negativeself-talk, inconsistent in the
habits that build success, vicesand pleasure seeking behavior,
fear of judgment and opinionsfrom others, or fear of getting
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out of your comfort zone andgoing all-in you're never gonna
get to the place in your lifethat you want.
And down the road you're gonnalook back and think, damn, what
if I went all-in?
Damn, why did I just hold backfor so long, like I only get one
life, why did I just stop?
Why didn't I go for it?
I'm here to tell you, man, thatinside of you, if you're just
able to massively shift yourperspective and recognize that
you have a limited amount oftime here in this life, and you
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recognize that you are capableand you can develop skills and
you can learn and you can growto become the person that
achieves those goals.
Man, I want that for you.
I want you to go all in on yourdreams.
I want you to stop holding back, because others around you will
be inspired.
You will become an example thatso many can look to that will
allow them to make change intheir life that is meaningful.
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So you guys, I love you.
I want the best for you.
Share this message with somebodythat needed to hear it.
Drop a comment down below.
If you watched the video allthe way through, what is your
biggest takeaway?
I want to hear from you andlet's go out and change the
world together.
Your vision is everything, because if you don't
know where you're going, howcould you ever get there?
It's really hard to be negativewhen you're doing so many
things every day that make youfeel proud of who you are and
build you up.
What if you could just feel sodamn good that you didn't need
anything, that you were just sograteful to be alive?
When you don't give a fuck,it's way better.
You feel free, you're liberated, you can be yourself, you can
(00:20):
do what you want, beunapologetically you.
There's a statistic that saysthe number one regret people
have at the end of their life isthat they wish they had lived a
life that was genuine andauthentic to who they wanted to
be, not to appease other people.
No matter what you do, you willnever appease everybody.
Get that in your head.
Go after what God put on yourheart.
If you operate from fear,you'll never have what you want
(00:40):
in life.
What you want in life.
What's going on?
You guys Just wanted to jump onhere and share something with
some of those individuals rightnow who might be feeling stuck.
So if you're with me right nowand you're watching the live,
(01:00):
drop a hashtag.
Live down below.
If you're on the replay hashtagreplay.
I want to talk about mindset.
On the replay hashtag replay.
I want to talk about mindset.
I want to talk about goals.
I want to talk about what ittakes to actually achieve your
goals.
I know a lot of people, man,who want more out of life, but
they're stuck.
So if you're somebody who feelsstuck, or if you know there's
that next level for you andyou're not there yet and you're
not making progress towardsthose goals or those visions,
(01:23):
I'm going to break down sixreasons why you're probably
feeling stuck.
I've worked with thousands ofindividuals over the years and I
see patterns in the way peoplemake decisions, the way they
operate.
I really see how people live,based on their inner beliefs
about themselves and what'spossible in the world.
And so the first thing torecognize is that if you want to
(01:44):
change your life, you mustchange first.
Oftentimes, that requires youto change the way you think.
It requires you to change yourhabits.
There has to be atransformation in who you are
before you can go out in theworld and create something
different or better for yourself, and so that's really one of
the first reasons why peoplestay stuck.
It's because they don't haveclarity in what they want.
(02:04):
There's a lack of vision.
Your vision is everything,because if you don't know where
you're going, how could you everget there?
And a lot of people theyactually know what they want,
but they're scared to articulateit, they're scared to talk
about it, they suppress it.
And so what I tell you is that agood exercise you can do right
now to get more clear on whatyou want is to act as if god or
(02:25):
a freaking magic genie or thecreator of the universe or
whatever you believe, wouldliterally grant your wishes if
you just write them down onpaper and you articulate what
you want.
You don't have to write a wholepaper, a whole paragraph.
Just create a bullet list ofwhat you actually want, write it
out on paper, and I want you toact as if it'll come true.
There's no limitations here.
There is nothing that willprevent or stop you from having
(02:47):
what you write down in thatpaper.
I want you to think about whatyou'd actually write down and
think about your health, yourrelationships, your business,
your money, where you live, whatyou're doing.
I mean, if you could justcreate a life by design and
write it down, what would thatlook like?
That's the first step.
See what this is going to do.
It's going to help youcircumvent fear and all these
things, this resistance insideyou that's going to prevent you
(03:07):
from articulating your truth.
If you just do it very quickly,you don't second guess, you
don't think about it, you justwrite down what you freaking
want.
I want you to look at thatpaper and I want you to think
about how much different it isthan your current life.
But not just that.
This is the first step tostarting to cultivate your own
vision and get clarity aroundwhat you actually want, your
long-term goals.
A person that has clarity and avision, they have direction,
(03:29):
they have focus.
You're less likely to getdistracted by other stuff going
on in your life.
So a vision is the first step,and that's one of the things
that most people are missing andwhy they don't achieve their
goals.
Now the second thing is negativeself-talk.
A lot of people are their ownworst critic.
You're your own worst enemy.
You have negative thoughtsabout yourself or the world.
You have limiting beliefs.
(03:55):
You're pessimistic, like peoplethat think about why it can't
be done or why it won't work, oryou're always limiting yourself
in the way you talk.
You're never going to get whatyou want in life.
One thing that I started doing along time ago, which I became
very delusionally optimistic tothe point where I believed
anything was possible as long asI wanted it bad enough and I
was willing to work towards it.
I believed that it would happenat some point in my life.
You know, this is reallyimportant for you guys to
(04:16):
understand.
Some people are more naturallypessimistic or optimistic than
others.
It's a part of your dispositionand the way you were brought up
, but it can change.
You can have an effect over howyou feel and how you think.
Okay, the first thing is just tobe aware of those thoughts, and
when you have negative thoughts, you got to challenge them.
And one thing that I always doinstead of thinking what if?
(04:36):
And then a negative remark like, what if it doesn't work out?
What if people laugh at me?
What if I'm not good?
Change that to somethingpositive.
Create a positive potentialoutcome.
What if I succeed?
What if it works out?
What if I?
You know I'm better than Ithought?
What if people are reallyexcited and proud of me for
making this change?
Like you can do the same thingin your mind that most people do
(04:56):
when, when they think aboutstuff and it has a negative
ending, um, you can completelychange that and start to believe
that it can be a positive.
It's such a healthy thing foryou to constantly challenge your
own thoughts and really askyourself why not me?
Why can't I do it?
Why can I not be the one?
A lot of these clichestatements that are out there.
They help, because you need tostart thinking differently, to
(05:19):
operate differently.
Scientists, researchers, peoplethat do studies on individuals
they say that 90% of yourthoughts each and every day are
reoccurring and most people'sare negative.
60% of your thoughts are goingto be negatively inclined and
that's because you're probablynot doing what you want in your
life.
So you're thinking about thatshitty job, how you got to sit
in traffic, how you got bills topay, blah, blah, blah.
Like if you're not in alignmentwith where you want to go in
(05:41):
your life, you're not excitedabout where you're going.
Chances are you're going tohave negative thoughts.
But check this out.
The third thing I want to sharewith you that keeps people
stuck will directly impact yourthoughts, and that's your daily
habits.
Most people are inconsistent indoing things that actually
improve the quality of theirlife.
So you work out, sometimes youeat healthy, sometimes you read
and study, sometimes you knowyou stay on task, sometimes you
(06:02):
follow your schedule, sometimesLike you got to do this stuff
daily to see that compoundingmaterialized into a
transformation in your life.
And here's the thing when youdo things every day that make
you feel proud of who you areand you're really focused on
those success-based habits, yourself-talk improves.
It's really hard to be negativewhen you're doing so many
(06:22):
things every day that make youfeel proud of who you are and
build you up.
So the reason most people thinknegatively is because they're
not consistently doing thingsthat make them feel good about
themselves and they just haven'ttrained their mind to think the
right way.
Like they're just constantlydwelling on stuff that's going
wrong in their life, they'recomplaining and then they don't
believe that they can change.
(06:42):
They don't believe that they'reable to change because they
don't have evidence.
They haven't proved tothemselves through those daily
actions that they're capable.
And that's what it comes downto is that each and every day
you have to build confidence.
You have to establish thatundeniable proof and evidence by
the way you're living thatyou're capable, that you're
competent, that you can go outand achieve your goals and
(07:03):
dreams.
Now, the fourth reason thatpeople don't achieve their goals
and stay stuck in life isbecause they have vices and they
have pleasure seeking behavior.
Now, the fourth reason thatpeople don't achieve their goals
and stay stuck in life isbecause they have vices and they
have pleasure seeking behavior.
Now, I think that alcohol, Ithink that pills, I think that
smoking, weed, all of thosethings, even in moderation, are
going to hinder you in yourability to become your best self
(07:23):
.
They're going to thwart yourpotential.
Okay, now, I know some peoplethat can drink occasionally, and
that's great.
I know some people who drinkoccasionally are very successful
and there's a term calledfunctioning alcoholics, meaning
there's people that drink a lot,they get shit face and they
black out and they're stillsuccessful.
But I think maybe the peoplethat think they're successful
measure success differently thanI do.
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When I I think of success, Ithink of mind, body, spirit,
relationships, finances.
It's multifaceted and I justask any of you who are listening
to this if you think that youdrink recreationally or you can
pull it off, imagine who you'dbecome over time if you didn't
need that crutch.
Imagine times of stress or tohave fun.
You didn't need to consume asubstance to change the way you
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feel.
What if you could just feel sodamn good that you didn't need
anything, that you were just sograteful to be alive.
You were in such alignment withyour purpose that to actually
use those things would take youdown a notch.
Like for me, if I smoke rightnow or drink, I would be a worse
version of myself.
Even if I had one drink and wewere talking and goofing around
having fun, I would be aninferior version of myself in
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that moment because I've trainedmy mind.
I've trained myself through myhabits, through my perspective,
and really my spirit's beenalive and to the point where I
don't need substances to feel away that I want to feel.
I can feel that way each andevery day by the way I live.
When you're in alignment toyour definite purpose and you're
all in on your dreams and yourgoals, it is such an
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intoxicating feeling that youdon't need anything else and you
would never want to jeopardizethat feeling with a substance,
with a drink or whatever.
It is Pleasure seeking behaviormeans food.
It means chasing women.
It means womanizing.
It means you know porn.
For a lot of people, it's yourphones.
So I want you to take a momentto ask yourself am I doing
anything on a daily or weeklybasis that is thwarting or
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killing my potential?
I'm telling you, man, if youhave vices and pleasure seeking
behavior and these bad habitsand these things that maybe
you're embarrassed or ashamedabout, that no one knows, you
will never get to where you wantto go in life.
You just have to recognize thatyou want to go in life.
You just have to recognize that.
Now, this next one I want toshare with you is a really
powerful reason why a lot ofindividuals don't change or go
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after their goals and dreams.
That's because there's fear ofjudgment.
You're worried about what otherpeople are going to think or
say about you and honestly, thisis a big deal.
Whether it's your family, yourfriends, people at work might be
, your spouse, might be justclose relatives, a lot of people
don't change because they'reworried about how it's going to
affect other people.
And I was like this for many,many years of my life.
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You know, I grew up in a familythat was very tight knit.
We were loyal to each other, wedid things a certain way, even
if it was to our detriment,right.
And I knew I wanted to changeand be a different, more
authentic version of myself.
But I just felt stuck becausethose relationships, that
codependency that we shared wasso strong.
And when I finally did get thechance to get away from those
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relationships and some of thetoxicity that was in those
relationships and I was able totruly be myself, my authentic
self, the person in my core Iknew I was supposed to be, it
was one of the most liberatingfeelings of my life.
And so I'll tell you fromexperience living in both realms
right, the person who feltworried about being judged and
the person that doesn't give afuck about being judged.
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When you don't give a fuck,it's way better.
You feel free, you're liberated, you can be yourself, you can
do what you want.
Now I always take people intoconsideration when I make
decisions.
I don't want to harm people, Idon't want to necessarily hurt
them, but I'm going to saythings that I feel are true and
I'm going to be honest, I'mgoing to lead by example, I'm
going to be myself, and ifpeople don't like it, I don't
care, because if I'm doing theright thing and I'm being
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genuine and I'm making an impactand I'm going after my goals
for you.
Don't be ashamed to be yourself.
Be unapologetically you.
There's a statistic that saysthe number one regret people
have at the end of their life isthat they wish they had lived a
life that was genuine,authentic to who they wanted to
be, not to appease other people.
That's the number one regretpeople have on their deathbed.
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Are you going to be one, or areyou going to be that person
that paves their own path?
You go after your goals.
You inspire others because youdo it and you don't care what
people think or say.
They're always going to talkabout you.
You go after your goals.
Oh, you think you're betterthan us.
Oh, you're never going to reachthose goals?
Oh, dah, dah, dah dah.
You stay stuck.
You settle.
You just live a life ofmediocrity.
Guess what People are going totalk about you?
The same man.
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You have no ambition.
Man, you're not driven.
You do.
You will never appeaseeverybody.
Get that in your head.
Go after what God put on yourheart.
That's how you becomesuccessful.
And the last reason why peoplestay stuck is just that they
just don't go after what theywant.
They let fear of getting out ofthat comfort zone and going all
in on their dreams keep themstuck in their tracks.
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Now I see this happen all thetime.
I have clients who are workinga certain job and they wanna go
start their own business.
They wanna pursue their passion, but they're getting money in
this job.
It's security, it's predictable, and to go out in that unknown
is unpredictable and it's scaryand things could go wrong and
they might not make it.
And all these fears and all ofthis negativity in their mind
keeps them stuck in place.
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There's a lot of reasons whypeople are unwilling to get out
of their comfort zone and go allin after their dreams.
Most of it is derived from fear.
If you operate from fear,you'll never have what you want
in life.
But I'm here to tell you thatif you're willing to go all in
on your dreams and you obsessover those goals and you align
every thought, every action tothose outcomes, you get rid of
those toxic friends, you stopwith devices, you're not
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distracted, you're just sohyper-focused on your goals and
dreams.
I'm here to tell you that ninetimes out of ten it will work
out in your favor, andoftentimes it works out better
than expected, sometimes notexactly how you thought it would
go, but it always works out,and that one time that it
doesn't, you pivot, you grow andyou learn, and that experience
actually becomes immenselyvaluable for you down the road,
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as long as you keep going.
And so then it always works out.
Okay, I'm here to tell you, guys, that if you let one of those
six things stop you in your pathfrom going after your goals a
lack of vision, negativeself-talk, inconsistent in the
habits that build success, vicesand pleasure seeking behavior,
fear of judgment and opinionsfrom others, or fear of getting
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out of your comfort zone andgoing all-in you're never gonna
get to the place in your lifethat you want.
And down the road you're gonnalook back and think, damn, what
if I went all-in?
Damn, why did I just hold backfor so long, like I only get one
life, why did I just stop?
Why didn't I go for it?
I'm here to tell you, man, thatinside of you, if you're just
able to massively shift yourperspective and recognize that
you have a limited amount oftime here in this life, and you
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recognize that you are capableand you can develop skills and
you can learn and you can growto become the person that
achieves those goals.
Man, I want that for you.
I want you to go all in on yourdreams.
I want you to stop holding back, because others around you will
be inspired.
You will become an example thatso many can look to that will
allow them to make change intheir life that is meaningful.
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So you guys, I love you.
I want the best for you.
Share this message with somebodythat needed to hear it.
Drop a comment down below.
If you watched the video allthe way through, what is your
biggest takeaway?
I want to hear from you andlet's go out and change the
world together.
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