July 30, 2025 • 14 mins
The moment that changed everything came in a jail cell at 23 years old. Facing a potential life sentence, I was forced to confront the harsh reality: I had wasted decades of my life with nothing to show for it. No goals accomplished. No dreams pursued. Just a young man who never understood the precious nature of time until it almost ran out completely.
This raw awakening forms the foundation of a powerful truth most people miss when they struggle with consistency and results. Everyone thinks they lack discipline. They believe if they could just force themselves to stick to their plans, everything would change. But discipline isn't the core problem—it's merely a symptom of something much deeper.
What truly drives transformation isn't willpower or forcing yourself to follow rules. It's developing a profound connection to your purpose that's so powerful, you can't help but take action. When your why is strong enough, discipline follows naturally. Most people lack this connection because they're running from uncomfortable truths. They fill their days with busy work and numb themselves to avoid feeling the pain of regret, unfulfilled potential, and wasted time.
My journey from facing life in prison to building a thriving coaching business wasn't fueled by discipline. It was driven by the searing pain of acknowledging who I had become and channeling that emotion into a new vision for my life. Each morning, I don't think about being disciplined—I'm simply connected to a purpose so compelling that anything less than full commitment is unthinkable.
If you're struggling to stay consistent with your health, business, or relationships, stop focusing on discipline. Start creating space for honest reflection. Face the uncomfortable truths about where you are versus where you want to be. Let yourself feel the weight of those realizations. Then use that emotional energy to fuel a transformation that will make discipline the natural byproduct of living in alignment with your true purpose.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I was sitting in a jail cell at 23 years old,
looking back on two decades ofnothing productive, no goals
achieved, no dreams built orlived.
You know I wasn't going afterthings in life the way I would
have if I knew time was runningout.
You don't realize that you'reactually gonna die one day.
You don't understand howprecious these moments are.
(00:20):
Some of you are gonna die aslesser versions of yourselves.
Some of you are gonna die withuntapped potential.
Some of you are going to die aslesser versions of yourselves.
Some of you are going to diewith untapped potential.
Some of you are going to dienever knowing what it was like
to be all in on your truth.
Welcome back to another episodeof the Unstoppable Mindset
Podcast.
(00:40):
I'm your host, sean Crane, andwe're here in the good land,
baby Goleta, california.
You know, somebody waslistening to my podcast recently
and they're like why don't youshout out Goleta?
That's where you're from.
And I say Santa Barbara becausemost people don't know where
Goleta is, but everyone knowswhere Santa Barbara is if you're
not from California.
But I'm in G-Town man, I wasborn and raised in Goleta.
(01:01):
This is the good land.
This is home for me.
I love it Paradise, bestweather, great people.
This is my home man and today Igot a great message for anybody
that wants to get results inlife.
But you're struggling.
You know everyone thinksthey're lacking discipline.
I get guys that reach out to meall the time who want coaching
or who are currently beingcoached by me in one of my
programs.
(01:21):
My company is Unstoppable 365.
I have hundreds of clients allover the country.
I've worked with thousands ofmen who want to change their
lives and I see all the samesymptoms and challenges right
Lack of discipline.
They're not consistent.
They got so much going on intheir lives.
It's pulling them in a milliondifferent directions and what
happens is these guys don'tprioritize their health, so they
get fat, they get out of shape,they lack energy, they lack
(01:43):
focus, they drink too much, theyeat bad food, they bring a
half-assed version of themselveshome to their family and they
don't want to be that way.
And guys all the time are likedamn, I just need discipline.
If I just had discipline.
And I want to tell you, youguys, when I changed my life and
up to this point and thismessage today, I never once
thought about discipline.
I never thought about lackingdiscipline or needing discipline
(02:03):
.
Discipline is a symptom.
It's a byproduct of somethingdeeper inside of you that's
going to compel you to takemassive action.
So if you lack discipline, it'sa symptom of a disconnect
internally, meaning you don'thave clarity around what you
want and why it's important.
If there was something outthere that was so important to
you, you would do the work toget it.
(02:24):
But the things that you say youwant, the goals that you want
to achieve, the results that youwant, they're not important
enough to you.
That's why you sleep in, that'swhy you hit snooze, that's why
you're inconsistent, that's whyyou're not studying or reading
or learning the new skills ornetworking or getting out of
your comfort zone and you'reletting fear and excuses hold
you back.
It's that simple.
It's not important enough toyou, right, and you might be
(02:45):
going well, yeah, it is, sean.
Like I want to make more moneyand take care of my family.
Or, yeah, I don't want to befat and out of shape and
diabetic.
Yeah, I don't want to die earlyand leave my family, whatever
it is.
I'm not doubting that thesereasons are important to you and
, like, when you think aboutthem, like you can articulate
your sentiment that it's notimportant to you, but what I
mean is, if you don't have adeep, powerful why that's
(03:07):
compelling you to take actionevery day.
You're going to let excuses andfear and judgment from other
people or a million otherobstacles prevent you from
getting there.
And I want to take you back tomy transformation and what
really reprogrammed my brain.
I was sitting in a jail cell at23 years old, looking back on
two decades of nothingproductive, no goals achieved,
(03:29):
no dreams built or lived.
You know, I wasn't going afterthings in life the way I would
have if I knew time was runningout.
I was procrastinating, I wasmaking bad choices, I had
developed bad habits, I washanging around wrong people.
I was just wasting time, man,and I was ultimately taking my
entire life for granted.
This is how most people live.
Because you think you have moretime, you don't realize that
(03:51):
you're actually going to die oneday.
You don't understand howprecious these moments are and
you also don't understand howthe way you make decisions and
the way you live your life nowis going to carry over into your
future, and we're creatures ofhabit, man.
So if you're procrastinatingand if you're giving into
excuses now, chances are you'regoing to keep doing that in the
future.
And that's the path I was on.
I was drinking too much, I waspartying, I was working a nine
(04:13):
to five, but I wasn't buildingsomething that I was truly
inspired and like proud of.
You know, I wasn't inspired bymy life.
I wasn't proud of the life Iwas creating.
I was just working to get byno-transcript.
(04:56):
The more that my demons werejust running my life, the weaker
my resolve was becoming, theweaker I was becoming.
So the chances of me actuallychanging my life as time
progressed were slim to none.
I'd be dead right now if Ididn't go to prison.
At At the very best I'd be oneof those fucking homeless people
you see on the side of the roadstruggling because drugs and
alcohol.
(05:17):
My demons would erect my life.
I came home from beingincarcerated.
I saw friends that I grew upwith that are now talking to
themselves on street corners.
I saw friends that I grew upwith playing sports, creating
these unforgettable memories asyoungsters who just ruined their
entire lives because theycouldn't get sober Right.
And that was my fate.
But I know that I'd be dead.
(05:38):
I would be dead right now if Ididn't go to jail.
And so, as I sat in my cell andI was reflected on my life,
this is the first thing that Ihad.
That was an opportunity thatmost people out here don't take
advantage of, and that was timetime to think and reflect.
Now you could do this every day, and that's why I'm such a
proponent of a morning routineand creating space in your days
to think and reflect on yourlife, because this is what
(05:59):
started to change my life is Ifinally had time to think and
acknowledge stuff and reflect onthe life that I lived.
I had never done that before.
You know, I would get up, I'd goto work and I'd race through my
days.
I'd stay up late partying,drinking, I'd crash out, I'd
wake up and I'd do it the nextday and I was numb.
Most of the time I was awake.
So when you're living that way,you're not really reflecting on
(06:20):
your life, you're not thinkingon a deeper level.
Most of you are doing thatright now.
You get up, you race out thedoor to work around the house,
like you're busy all day longand maybe you're productive, but
it's not really getting you towhere you want to go.
You're just getting by.
You know most people don't carveout time on a daily basis to
think, to journal and to reflect, and that's what I started
(06:41):
doing in jail.
I was just sitting there in mycell going, damn, that was the
life I lived.
Like I reflected on that forlike weeks.
I was like, wait that Ireflected on that for like weeks
.
I was like, wait, that was thelife I lived.
And I was just peeling backthese layers.
You know, like, why did I livethat way?
Why didn't I change earlier?
Why didn't I try harder?
(07:01):
Why did I let it get to this?
Like, why did I have to come tojail and face life in prison to
finally wake up and understandwhat was at stake?
You know, and this was aconstant train of thought, like
I'm in this just reflectivestate man for most of the day,
for those first couple of weeksand months.
This is how you have to.
This is what you have to do toget clear on your truth.
And when I say, like your, whythere's so much emotion and
(07:21):
truth buried inside of you thatyou you aren't acknowledging
that, you're not aware of that,you're not feeling right.
It's because you're not takingtime to actually think and
reflect.
You're numbing it out, you'resuppressing it, you're running
from the truth.
That's how most people livetheir life.
That's why they never change.
The reason for that is becausea lot of people, the truth makes
them feel bad about themselves.
(07:43):
The truth brings this, thisreality, into their awareness.
They don't want to feel that.
They don't want to realize oh,I'm wasting time, I'm a loser.
I settled in my relationships,I wanted more out of life, but
now I quit and gave up.
Like that's the truth, you'regoing to feel Well.
For me, it was the best thingthat ever could happen, because
without facing and acknowledgingthe truth, you'll never change
anything.
And I had to sit there in myjail cell and realize, dude, I'm
(08:03):
a fucking loser.
Like I was following in the samefootsteps as my parents who, at
the time, I despised becausethey left me.
They were addicts, theycouldn't take care of us as kids
.
You know, I was becoming justlike my dad and I was like damn
man.
Like I was a good athletegrowing up.
I was an outgoing, charismaticperson.
Like I had a gift, I had atalent, I had a special energy.
(08:24):
I knew I did as a kid, but Ididn't share that with the world
.
I didn't go after my goals.
I didn't play sports in highschool, I didn't go to college,
I didn't apply myself, and Ijust started going through the
truth, my reality, and itfucking stung.
And it was so painful because Ifelt so much regret and remorse
and I hated myself, knowingthat I didn't try harder in my
(08:46):
life, that I didn't show peoplewhat I was capable of, that I
didn't face my fears, that I letjudgments and my own self-doubt
stop me from going after thingsthat were important to me, that
I wanted to do.
And I had to sit there in myjail cell for months and months
and months while I'm battling mycase, my life sentence, and I
(09:06):
had to feel this emotion, andthis is what you need, that
you're running from.
I had to feel.
First of of all, I had toacknowledge the truth and accept
that.
Then I had to feel the emotionthat accompanied that truth.
That's what you're running from, that's what you're numbing out
, because it fucking hurts, it'spainful, it's debilitating.
And on the other end of thatawakening, I had had two choices
(09:30):
Continue to be a loser andwaste my life and in prison, use
more drugs, get in more fights,commit violence, become an
inmate, become just likeeveryone else and maybe never go
home right, like that was onepath I could have chose.
Poor me, the victim mentality.
Oh well, fuck it, life's over,let me just make it worse.
Oh well, fuck it, life's over,let me just make it worse.
(09:55):
Or I could use that pain anduse that regret and use that
emotion that was bottling upinside of me, that I'd
suppressed for so long, andchannel it into the right
actions, the right path torebuild my life and seek
redemption.
And that's what I chose.
And I chose that because Icouldn't look myself in the
fucking mirror one more day,knowing that I was continuing to
live as a lesser version ofmyself, because I had done that
(10:18):
for so long.
And the pain behind thosechoices was horrendous.
The pain of my regret was worsethan the thought of spending
life in prison.
Can you imagine having thatmoment where you have that
epiphany, that awakening Like,oh my God, I did it to myself
and all the while I could havefixed it.
And it changed my entire life.
(10:39):
And from that moment forward, Ihave used pain as a catalyst to
create success.
I have used pain as a catalystto transform my life.
I was a drug addict.
I come from a broken home.
I faced life in prison forsomething I didn't even do.
I spent five and a half yearsincarcerated.
I got out of prison with $200to my name and I rebuilt
(11:00):
everything, built my business,built this whole new life for my
family, got a beautiful home.
My kids go to the best schoolin town.
I'm providing the dream lifefor my family.
And we're just getting started.
My vision is so massive.
My goals are monumental and Inever stop until the day I die.
That type of motivation, thattype of drive, that type of
(11:22):
purpose isn't just fabricated.
It has to come from somewhere.
I'm going to show you how Icontinue to rebuild my life.
I'm going to document it all onsocial media and go, wow, what
the fuck?
Oh my God, look what Sean'sdoing.
But I wish you could have seenme in that jail cell, broken
down and alone.
I wish you could have seen mecrying in my fucking cell,
(11:43):
realizing that I was a loser andI hadn't amounted to anything
in my life.
I wish you could have felt thepain in those moments that I
experienced, because, you see,that's what changed me and
that's what I'm still connectedto to this day.
It's not cars and money andsocial media and stuff.
Yeah, we have goals and weaspire to achieve these things,
but for me, it's continuing eachand every day to move as far
(12:04):
away from that moment in my oldlife as possible, to do things
every day that make me feelproud of who I am as a man, as a
leader, as a husband, as afather, as a coach.
Each and every day, I'm makingthe wrongs of yesterday right by
the way I live today, because Inever want to experience that
pain that I experienced in myjail cell of regret, of knowing
that I was made for more but Ididn't try of realizing that I'd
(12:27):
taken this precious life forgranted.
So, each and every day, that iswhy I get up and do the work,
that is why I go to the gym andwork out, that is why I continue
to read these books, that's whyI continue to share these
messages, that's why I continueto work on and develop myself.
It's not even there's not evenan afterthought there.
For me, it's do the work everyday.
That's the way I live my life.
That's who I am.
(12:47):
I don't get up and think, oh, Ineed to be disciplined.
Today, like today, I should eatclean, because that's going to
form discipline.
Fuck discipline.
I have such a profound why thatdrives me each and every day.
I know why I'm getting out ofbed, where I'm going, what I'm
doing, and it has so muchmeaning behind those actions
that the thought of never doingit does not even equate.
(13:07):
That thought does not evencross my mind.
It's not even an option in mylife.
I will die before I stop livingas this person.
This is the person I alwayswanted to be.
This is the person God put meon earth to become.
And when you get that clear onyour identity, your authenticity
, your purpose, your mission,your vision, your goals, nothing
(13:27):
will stop you.
Okay, but you guys are soworried about having fucking
discipline, you're missing thebigger picture.
Discipline is a byproduct ofbeing connected on this deeper
level in the way I'm describingto you, or a lack of discipline
is a symptom of you beingdisconnected because you haven't
done the inner work on yourself.
You're running from the truth,you're in denial, you're numbing
(13:51):
it out, you can't feel the wayI'm describing, because here's
the thing that happens when youhave that type of daily
reflection and those epiphaniesin the form of thoughts and
ideas, and those dots start toconnect.
There's an emotional reactionthat takes place that binds it
all together, that becomes sucha powerful energy inside of you.
Nothing will ever put it out,but you're not having that
(14:12):
chemical reaction, you're notexperiencing that emotion
swelling up inside of you withthat truth.
They're not binded, they're notconnected.
That's why you're stuck, that'swhy you're not achieving at a
higher level, that's why you'remaking excuses, that's why
you're procrastinating, that'swhy you lack discipline.
It's because you don't know whythese goals and why these
things are important to you.
(14:33):
You're not tapped into emotionand you're not clear on who you
want to be.
And until you can check thoseboxes and work on yourself for
as long as it takes to get clearon your identity, your
authenticity, your vision, yourmission, your purpose, who you
want to be in this life and whatyou want to do, you're going to
continue to waste time and let
I was sitting in a jail cell at 23 years old,
looking back on two decades ofnothing productive, no goals
achieved, no dreams built orlived.
You know I wasn't going afterthings in life the way I would
have if I knew time was runningout.
You don't realize that you'reactually gonna die one day.
You don't understand howprecious these moments are.
(00:20):
Some of you are gonna die aslesser versions of yourselves.
Some of you are gonna die withuntapped potential.
Some of you are going to die aslesser versions of yourselves.
Some of you are going to diewith untapped potential.
Some of you are going to dienever knowing what it was like
to be all in on your truth.
Welcome back to another episodeof the Unstoppable Mindset
Podcast.
(00:40):
I'm your host, sean Crane, andwe're here in the good land,
baby Goleta, california.
You know, somebody waslistening to my podcast recently
and they're like why don't youshout out Goleta?
That's where you're from.
And I say Santa Barbara becausemost people don't know where
Goleta is, but everyone knowswhere Santa Barbara is if you're
not from California.
But I'm in G-Town man, I wasborn and raised in Goleta.
(01:01):
This is the good land.
This is home for me.
I love it Paradise, bestweather, great people.
This is my home man and today Igot a great message for anybody
that wants to get results inlife.
But you're struggling.
You know everyone thinksthey're lacking discipline.
I get guys that reach out to meall the time who want coaching
or who are currently beingcoached by me in one of my
programs.
(01:21):
My company is Unstoppable 365.
I have hundreds of clients allover the country.
I've worked with thousands ofmen who want to change their
lives and I see all the samesymptoms and challenges right
Lack of discipline.
They're not consistent.
They got so much going on intheir lives.
It's pulling them in a milliondifferent directions and what
happens is these guys don'tprioritize their health, so they
get fat, they get out of shape,they lack energy, they lack
(01:43):
focus, they drink too much, theyeat bad food, they bring a
half-assed version of themselveshome to their family and they
don't want to be that way.
And guys all the time are likedamn, I just need discipline.
If I just had discipline.
And I want to tell you, youguys, when I changed my life and
up to this point and thismessage today, I never once
thought about discipline.
I never thought about lackingdiscipline or needing discipline
(02:03):
.
Discipline is a symptom.
It's a byproduct of somethingdeeper inside of you that's
going to compel you to takemassive action.
So if you lack discipline, it'sa symptom of a disconnect
internally, meaning you don'thave clarity around what you
want and why it's important.
If there was something outthere that was so important to
you, you would do the work toget it.
(02:24):
But the things that you say youwant, the goals that you want
to achieve, the results that youwant, they're not important
enough to you.
That's why you sleep in, that'swhy you hit snooze, that's why
you're inconsistent, that's whyyou're not studying or reading
or learning the new skills ornetworking or getting out of
your comfort zone and you'reletting fear and excuses hold
you back.
It's that simple.
It's not important enough toyou, right, and you might be
(02:45):
going well, yeah, it is, sean.
Like I want to make more moneyand take care of my family.
Or, yeah, I don't want to befat and out of shape and
diabetic.
Yeah, I don't want to die earlyand leave my family, whatever
it is.
I'm not doubting that thesereasons are important to you and
, like, when you think aboutthem, like you can articulate
your sentiment that it's notimportant to you, but what I
mean is, if you don't have adeep, powerful why that's
(03:07):
compelling you to take actionevery day.
You're going to let excuses andfear and judgment from other
people or a million otherobstacles prevent you from
getting there.
And I want to take you back tomy transformation and what
really reprogrammed my brain.
I was sitting in a jail cell at23 years old, looking back on
two decades of nothingproductive, no goals achieved,
(03:29):
no dreams built or lived.
You know, I wasn't going afterthings in life the way I would
have if I knew time was runningout.
I was procrastinating, I wasmaking bad choices, I had
developed bad habits, I washanging around wrong people.
I was just wasting time, man,and I was ultimately taking my
entire life for granted.
This is how most people live.
Because you think you have moretime, you don't realize that
(03:51):
you're actually going to die oneday.
You don't understand howprecious these moments are and
you also don't understand howthe way you make decisions and
the way you live your life nowis going to carry over into your
future, and we're creatures ofhabit, man.
So if you're procrastinatingand if you're giving into
excuses now, chances are you'regoing to keep doing that in the
future.
And that's the path I was on.
I was drinking too much, I waspartying, I was working a nine
(04:13):
to five, but I wasn't buildingsomething that I was truly
inspired and like proud of.
You know, I wasn't inspired bymy life.
I wasn't proud of the life Iwas creating.
I was just working to get byno-transcript.
(04:56):
The more that my demons werejust running my life, the weaker
my resolve was becoming, theweaker I was becoming.
So the chances of me actuallychanging my life as time
progressed were slim to none.
I'd be dead right now if Ididn't go to prison.
At At the very best I'd be oneof those fucking homeless people
you see on the side of the roadstruggling because drugs and
alcohol.
(05:17):
My demons would erect my life.
I came home from beingincarcerated.
I saw friends that I grew upwith that are now talking to
themselves on street corners.
I saw friends that I grew upwith playing sports, creating
these unforgettable memories asyoungsters who just ruined their
entire lives because theycouldn't get sober Right.
And that was my fate.
But I know that I'd be dead.
(05:38):
I would be dead right now if Ididn't go to jail.
And so, as I sat in my cell andI was reflected on my life,
this is the first thing that Ihad.
That was an opportunity thatmost people out here don't take
advantage of, and that was timetime to think and reflect.
Now you could do this every day, and that's why I'm such a
proponent of a morning routineand creating space in your days
to think and reflect on yourlife, because this is what
(05:59):
started to change my life is Ifinally had time to think and
acknowledge stuff and reflect onthe life that I lived.
I had never done that before.
You know, I would get up, I'd goto work and I'd race through my
days.
I'd stay up late partying,drinking, I'd crash out, I'd
wake up and I'd do it the nextday and I was numb.
Most of the time I was awake.
So when you're living that way,you're not really reflecting on
(06:20):
your life, you're not thinkingon a deeper level.
Most of you are doing thatright now.
You get up, you race out thedoor to work around the house,
like you're busy all day longand maybe you're productive, but
it's not really getting you towhere you want to go.
You're just getting by.
You know most people don't carveout time on a daily basis to
think, to journal and to reflect, and that's what I started
(06:41):
doing in jail.
I was just sitting there in mycell going, damn, that was the
life I lived.
Like I reflected on that forlike weeks.
I was like, wait that Ireflected on that for like weeks
.
I was like, wait, that was thelife I lived.
And I was just peeling backthese layers.
You know, like, why did I livethat way?
Why didn't I change earlier?
Why didn't I try harder?
(07:01):
Why did I let it get to this?
Like, why did I have to come tojail and face life in prison to
finally wake up and understandwhat was at stake?
You know, and this was aconstant train of thought, like
I'm in this just reflectivestate man for most of the day,
for those first couple of weeksand months.
This is how you have to.
This is what you have to do toget clear on your truth.
And when I say, like your, whythere's so much emotion and
(07:21):
truth buried inside of you thatyou you aren't acknowledging
that, you're not aware of that,you're not feeling right.
It's because you're not takingtime to actually think and
reflect.
You're numbing it out, you'resuppressing it, you're running
from the truth.
That's how most people livetheir life.
That's why they never change.
The reason for that is becausea lot of people, the truth makes
them feel bad about themselves.
(07:43):
The truth brings this, thisreality, into their awareness.
They don't want to feel that.
They don't want to realize oh,I'm wasting time, I'm a loser.
I settled in my relationships,I wanted more out of life, but
now I quit and gave up.
Like that's the truth, you'regoing to feel Well.
For me, it was the best thingthat ever could happen, because
without facing and acknowledgingthe truth, you'll never change
anything.
And I had to sit there in myjail cell and realize, dude, I'm
(08:03):
a fucking loser.
Like I was following in the samefootsteps as my parents who, at
the time, I despised becausethey left me.
They were addicts, theycouldn't take care of us as kids
.
You know, I was becoming justlike my dad and I was like damn
man.
Like I was a good athletegrowing up.
I was an outgoing, charismaticperson.
Like I had a gift, I had atalent, I had a special energy.
(08:24):
I knew I did as a kid, but Ididn't share that with the world
.
I didn't go after my goals.
I didn't play sports in highschool, I didn't go to college,
I didn't apply myself, and Ijust started going through the
truth, my reality, and itfucking stung.
And it was so painful because Ifelt so much regret and remorse
and I hated myself, knowingthat I didn't try harder in my
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life, that I didn't show peoplewhat I was capable of, that I
didn't face my fears, that I letjudgments and my own self-doubt
stop me from going after thingsthat were important to me, that
I wanted to do.
And I had to sit there in myjail cell for months and months
and months while I'm battling mycase, my life sentence, and I
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had to feel this emotion, andthis is what you need, that
you're running from.
I had to feel.
First of of all, I had toacknowledge the truth and accept
that.
Then I had to feel the emotionthat accompanied that truth.
That's what you're running from, that's what you're numbing out
, because it fucking hurts, it'spainful, it's debilitating.
And on the other end of thatawakening, I had had two choices
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Continue to be a loser andwaste my life and in prison, use
more drugs, get in more fights,commit violence, become an
inmate, become just likeeveryone else and maybe never go
home right, like that was onepath I could have chose.
Poor me, the victim mentality.
Oh well, fuck it, life's over,let me just make it worse.
Oh well, fuck it, life's over,let me just make it worse.
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Or I could use that pain anduse that regret and use that
emotion that was bottling upinside of me, that I'd
suppressed for so long, andchannel it into the right
actions, the right path torebuild my life and seek
redemption.
And that's what I chose.
And I chose that because Icouldn't look myself in the
fucking mirror one more day,knowing that I was continuing to
live as a lesser version ofmyself, because I had done that
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for so long.
And the pain behind thosechoices was horrendous.
The pain of my regret was worsethan the thought of spending
life in prison.
Can you imagine having thatmoment where you have that
epiphany, that awakening Like,oh my God, I did it to myself
and all the while I could havefixed it.
And it changed my entire life.
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And from that moment forward, Ihave used pain as a catalyst to
create success.
I have used pain as a catalystto transform my life.
I was a drug addict.
I come from a broken home.
I faced life in prison forsomething I didn't even do.
I spent five and a half yearsincarcerated.
I got out of prison with $200to my name and I rebuilt
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everything, built my business,built this whole new life for my
family, got a beautiful home.
My kids go to the best schoolin town.
I'm providing the dream lifefor my family.
And we're just getting started.
My vision is so massive.
My goals are monumental and Inever stop until the day I die.
That type of motivation, thattype of drive, that type of
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purpose isn't just fabricated.
It has to come from somewhere.
I'm going to show you how Icontinue to rebuild my life.
I'm going to document it all onsocial media and go, wow, what
the fuck?
Oh my God, look what Sean'sdoing.
But I wish you could have seenme in that jail cell, broken
down and alone.
I wish you could have seen mecrying in my fucking cell,
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realizing that I was a loser andI hadn't amounted to anything
in my life.
I wish you could have felt thepain in those moments that I
experienced, because, you see,that's what changed me and
that's what I'm still connectedto to this day.
It's not cars and money andsocial media and stuff.
Yeah, we have goals and weaspire to achieve these things,
but for me, it's continuing eachand every day to move as far
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away from that moment in my oldlife as possible, to do things
every day that make me feelproud of who I am as a man, as a
leader, as a husband, as afather, as a coach.
Each and every day, I'm makingthe wrongs of yesterday right by
the way I live today, because Inever want to experience that
pain that I experienced in myjail cell of regret, of knowing
that I was made for more but Ididn't try of realizing that I'd
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taken this precious life forgranted.
So, each and every day, that iswhy I get up and do the work,
that is why I go to the gym andwork out, that is why I continue
to read these books, that's whyI continue to share these
messages, that's why I continueto work on and develop myself.
It's not even there's not evenan afterthought there.
For me, it's do the work everyday.
That's the way I live my life.
That's who I am.
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I don't get up and think, oh, Ineed to be disciplined.
Today, like today, I should eatclean, because that's going to
form discipline.
Fuck discipline.
I have such a profound why thatdrives me each and every day.
I know why I'm getting out ofbed, where I'm going, what I'm
doing, and it has so muchmeaning behind those actions
that the thought of never doingit does not even equate.
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That thought does not evencross my mind.
It's not even an option in mylife.
I will die before I stop livingas this person.
This is the person I alwayswanted to be.
This is the person God put meon earth to become.
And when you get that clear onyour identity, your authenticity
, your purpose, your mission,your vision, your goals, nothing
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will stop you.
Okay, but you guys are soworried about having fucking
discipline, you're missing thebigger picture.
Discipline is a byproduct ofbeing connected on this deeper
level in the way I'm describingto you, or a lack of discipline
is a symptom of you beingdisconnected because you haven't
done the inner work on yourself.
You're running from the truth,you're in denial, you're numbing
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it out, you can't feel the wayI'm describing, because here's
the thing that happens when youhave that type of daily
reflection and those epiphaniesin the form of thoughts and
ideas, and those dots start toconnect.
There's an emotional reactionthat takes place that binds it
all together, that becomes sucha powerful energy inside of you.
Nothing will ever put it out,but you're not having that
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chemical reaction, you're notexperiencing that emotion
swelling up inside of you withthat truth.
They're not binded, they're notconnected.
That's why you're stuck, that'swhy you're not achieving at a
higher level, that's why you'remaking excuses, that's why
you're procrastinating, that'swhy you lack discipline.
It's because you don't know whythese goals and why these
things are important to you.
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You're not tapped into emotionand you're not clear on who you
want to be.
And until you can check thoseboxes and work on yourself for
as long as it takes to get clearon your identity, your
authenticity, your vision, yourmission, your purpose, who you
want to be in this life and whatyou want to do, you're going to
continue to waste time and let
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