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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Apoche production.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
What was it. What was it like for your fist
experience when you did do a threesome?
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Oh my god, very funny. So this was during COVID.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
You're not supposed to be doing anything in COVID. But we.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Had this one friend. Now when I first like really
became partners and we really became committed relationship, Spencer had
this couple that was his really good friends and at
the time he was like, let me bring them in
and let the four of us hang out, so you
can get an understanding of what it's like to be
intimate with four people. Now, our intimacy was not penetration.
(00:58):
It was like we rolled at that time, so like
we would roll and then just snuggle and chat and
they share their scenarios with me to see like if
I would be interested in not, so they kind of
like gradually eased me into what would be like to
like really be in a sexual foursome. Fast forward to COVID.
(01:20):
Shortly before that happened, that couple ended up getting divorced,
nothing having to do with the Life Cell or anything.
It was just whatever. But we still really remained really
good friends with the guy part of it, and we
would hang out all the time, like nothing ever happened
between the relationship or anything, so come covid. I don't
know what ended up sparking my brain, but I was
(01:41):
like really wanting to try and really push my boundary.
So I said to Spencer one day he was going
to see his friend, and I said to him, I
was like, listen, I said, if you are okay with it,
why don't we ask him if he wants to join
us and see what happens. You know, I'm thinking, since
seems so sweet to me early on, and you know,
(02:01):
kind of eased me into it, like it would be
a good experience having this guy do it. So I'm
thinking that when Spencer goes to see him, he's gonna
talk to him about it and like map it all
out and whatever. And no, he just invited him to
come over that night. So he comes over and we're
sitting at the dinner table and Spencer goes, so, I
don't know, you want to bang us or you know, like,
(02:22):
how do you? I was like, oh my good. I
was like, I thought that you were going to ask
him this earlier. I thought that this was like already
set up, Like what the fuck up? Guard? So, you know,
one thing led to another, and we did. We started
out in the living room, and I think that I
originally started out and I was like blowing both of
them because I was like trying to figure out how
(02:43):
this goes? Like what am I supposed to do here? Now?
I probably should have watched porn or something I wouldn't
give myself, you know, some like insight, but I didn't,
and so here I am. I'm just like trying to
make it work or whatever. And the groove just really
started going and it was so amazing. And at one
point in the middle of all of this, I turned
to Mike. I turned to my fiance. No, I was like,
(03:05):
I love you so much.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
This is so.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Like, what a weird thing to do. I'm like, what
a weird thing to say at this moment. But but you.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
Know, that was your first threesome. You're saying, that's your
first threesome. Yeah, and this might sound like a funny question,
but how did you know how to share it out
between the two and without one getting jealous on one
lose them out?
Speaker 1 (03:23):
That was my biggest concern, you know, but each of
them are so experienced that my partner really loves to
watch me get banged. So for him, it was easy
for him to sit back some and just kind of
like watch and just you know, like let me do
my thing and kind of find my comfort with the
other guy. And so I think because of that it
(03:45):
really flowed so easily, and even to this day, like
I never worry about it because I know at the end,
after our play session is over, with whomever it is,
I'm gonna be fucking my guy right Like there's never
a point in time where we end the night of
a play where it doesn't end in the two of us,
So I know he's always going to get his final
(04:06):
like what he enjoys, Like most importantly, he loves when
my voina is so stretched out that like it feels
like nothing when he's fucking me, So you know, if
he could get that task accomplished and then bang me afterwards,
like he's good.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Have you ever done a threesome with them?
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Just cheeks? Yep, we've done? How is that? Oh? So great?
It's so great. Two things I love. I love watching
my partner be pleasured, But I also love listening to
the girls be pleasured because I know what he does
to me and like what my sensations and stuff are
so to hear them, you know, have know that he's
giving them the same pleasure is just so erotic in
(04:43):
my opinion, and the flow goes really well. That's the thing,
Like everybody has to be willing to sit back for
a second. Everybody has to be willing to like not
be selfish and their sexual needs at that time and
just let everything organically flow. So I never put so
much pressure into thinking about like, oh it's my turn,
or I need to do this, or I need to
do that. You know, I usually am like doing some
(05:04):
caressing while they're doing their business. But you know, for
the most part, it flows so easily when it's done right. See.
To answer one of your questions early on, my Fansee
always said, when the stars and moon align, you will
know you want to bang somebody, and if you don't
get that sensation, don't do it. And I have followed
(05:24):
that every single time, and every single play session that
we've ever had has been extremely explosive in every single way,
Like I've never regretted any of them, Like they're just
so delicious.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Just everything once where you've you've got that jealous instinct,
never not.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
In a sexual aspect, I can say like maybe sometimes
like over a text message or not a text message,
So like we have rules where neither one of us
are allowed to talk outside of a group message, just
because it keeps a transparency, It keeps everybody on the
same page, especially for the play partners, so they know
that we're aligned and they know what their place is.
(06:02):
Sometimes the girls don't know what the rules are, so
they'll try and message like outside of a group message.
And so initially, like one time there was that where
that happened and he sent a photo and I got
like upset because I was just like, this is not
the rules and this is not what we're supposed to doing.
So in that aspect, yes, but never in a sexual regard.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Ever, it was never wed the first time you seen
him like sexually, get someone else and you have to
watch Never No, I see that. That's what I'm trying
to get around, because that would be very hard for
me to watch someone else.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
It's true. So okay, so let's talk about that for
a second. When I first met him and I was
really trying to understand this lifestyle, I would say to
him like I don't understand, Like how do you separate
your emotions? How do you separate this part out from
actually being able to have sex with somebody? Because you're
always taught like you need to love somebody, you need
to do this, and you need to or at least
(06:58):
have some sort of something for them. And I just
couldn't understand it, and so he would just be like,
I promise you, when the moment is right, you will understand.
I probably talked to him about it like six months before,
like really actually diving into doing something, and I would
ask the same question, but I don't understand. How do
you separate the emotion? How do you how do you
(07:20):
not feel those emotions? And he's like, I promise when
the stars and moving a ligne, you will know and
it will be just that, and it's true. And I've
always followed that mindset. And so I think that because
I've always been very into that particular situation that was
going to happen, I never felt any of that because
I always felt just the sexual energy of like, oh
(07:40):
my god, this is gonna happen. This is like what
we're gonna do, you know, And so I think that
that's how I always was able to get through it.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Have you ever in tried to entice any coal for
people to come in.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Oh my god, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
I'm just saying like I'm doing.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
No so you know here, we know I funny enough.
So like six months after I had met my fiance,
my corporate job ended up moving to a different state.
So my job position ended up getting eliminated. But my
bosses all knew very well what it was that I
was up to. Since my home life was so fucked up.
It was like my bosses were all like my family
(08:19):
type deal. So when I first met Spenser, I went
I told my bosses, even like the head of HR,
what the fuck was I thinking? Freaking head of HR
in this company. I'm like the CEO of this company.
I'm like, yeah, I'm going to a swingers party this weekend.
I need to take off on Friday.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
And you're like what, yeah, like and imagine the Christmas
parties the right.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
So yeah, they were very inquisitive when I got back
into the office on Monday, trying to understand what it
was I was up to, and I was just like, oh.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
My god, you wouldn't ever go anywhere thing you were
talking about.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
You you should go Oh yeah, Oh they were. They're like,
you need to walk us through it, like this happens?
How was it? And I'm like trying to explain, like,
you know, because everybody has this idea that you walk
into a swingers party and it's going to be this
huge orgy, but it's like that you walk into the event,
you know, they usually start at nine o'clock at night,
and it's like any other bar you go there, any.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Of a bar, it's like any of her I've never
walked into a bar yet when I've gone okay, I'm
going on the dunce floor and they're taking a body
clothes off, So it's not like any of her bar.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
I must be going to some born balls. I know
that your history has to be pretty exciting too. I
can't imagine you see anything wild in your day. I mean,
and I thought it was a party animal, but oh
(09:46):
my god, I can't with this
Apoche production.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
What was it. What was it like for your fist
experience when you did do a threesome?
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Oh my god, very funny. So this was during COVID.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
You're not supposed to be doing anything in COVID. But we.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Had this one friend. Now when I first like really
became partners and we really became committed relationship, Spencer had
this couple that was his really good friends and at
the time he was like, let me bring them in
and let the four of us hang out, so you
can get an understanding of what it's like to be
intimate with four people. Now, our intimacy was not penetration.
(00:58):
It was like we rolled at that time, so like
we would roll and then just snuggle and chat and
they share their scenarios with me to see like if
I would be interested in not, so they kind of
like gradually eased me into what would be like to
like really be in a sexual foursome. Fast forward to COVID.
(01:20):
Shortly before that happened, that couple ended up getting divorced,
nothing having to do with the Life Cell or anything.
It was just whatever. But we still really remained really
good friends with the guy part of it, and we
would hang out all the time, like nothing ever happened
between the relationship or anything, so come covid. I don't
know what ended up sparking my brain, but I was
(01:41):
like really wanting to try and really push my boundary.
So I said to Spencer one day he was going
to see his friend, and I said to him, I
was like, listen, I said, if you are okay with it,
why don't we ask him if he wants to join
us and see what happens. You know, I'm thinking, since
seems so sweet to me early on, and you know,
(02:01):
kind of eased me into it, like it would be
a good experience having this guy do it. So I'm
thinking that when Spencer goes to see him, he's gonna
talk to him about it and like map it all
out and whatever. And no, he just invited him to
come over that night. So he comes over and we're
sitting at the dinner table and Spencer goes, so, I
don't know, you want to bang us or you know, like,
(02:22):
how do you? I was like, oh my good. I
was like, I thought that you were going to ask
him this earlier. I thought that this was like already
set up, Like what the fuck up? Guard? So, you know,
one thing led to another, and we did. We started
out in the living room, and I think that I
originally started out and I was like blowing both of
them because I was like trying to figure out how
(02:43):
this goes? Like what am I supposed to do here? Now?
I probably should have watched porn or something I wouldn't
give myself, you know, some like insight, but I didn't,
and so here I am. I'm just like trying to
make it work or whatever. And the groove just really
started going and it was so amazing. And at one
point in the middle of all of this, I turned
to Mike. I turned to my fiance. No, I was like,
(03:05):
I love you so much.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
This is so.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Like, what a weird thing to do. I'm like, what
a weird thing to say at this moment. But but you.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
Know, that was your first threesome. You're saying, that's your
first threesome. Yeah, and this might sound like a funny question,
but how did you know how to share it out
between the two and without one getting jealous on one
lose them out?
Speaker 1 (03:23):
That was my biggest concern, you know, but each of
them are so experienced that my partner really loves to
watch me get banged. So for him, it was easy
for him to sit back some and just kind of
like watch and just you know, like let me do
my thing and kind of find my comfort with the
other guy. And so I think because of that it
(03:45):
really flowed so easily, and even to this day, like
I never worry about it because I know at the end,
after our play session is over, with whomever it is,
I'm gonna be fucking my guy right Like there's never
a point in time where we end the night of
a play where it doesn't end in the two of us,
So I know he's always going to get his final
(04:06):
like what he enjoys, Like most importantly, he loves when
my voina is so stretched out that like it feels
like nothing when he's fucking me, So you know, if
he could get that task accomplished and then bang me afterwards,
like he's good.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Have you ever done a threesome with them?
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Just cheeks? Yep, we've done? How is that? Oh? So great?
It's so great. Two things I love. I love watching
my partner be pleasured, But I also love listening to
the girls be pleasured because I know what he does
to me and like what my sensations and stuff are
so to hear them, you know, have know that he's
giving them the same pleasure is just so erotic in
(04:43):
my opinion, and the flow goes really well. That's the thing,
Like everybody has to be willing to sit back for
a second. Everybody has to be willing to like not
be selfish and their sexual needs at that time and
just let everything organically flow. So I never put so
much pressure into thinking about like, oh it's my turn,
or I need to do this, or I need to
do that. You know, I usually am like doing some
(05:04):
caressing while they're doing their business. But you know, for
the most part, it flows so easily when it's done right. See.
To answer one of your questions early on, my Fansee
always said, when the stars and moon align, you will
know you want to bang somebody, and if you don't
get that sensation, don't do it. And I have followed
(05:24):
that every single time, and every single play session that
we've ever had has been extremely explosive in every single way,
Like I've never regretted any of them, Like they're just
so delicious.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Just everything once where you've you've got that jealous instinct,
never not.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
In a sexual aspect, I can say like maybe sometimes
like over a text message or not a text message,
So like we have rules where neither one of us
are allowed to talk outside of a group message, just
because it keeps a transparency, It keeps everybody on the
same page, especially for the play partners, so they know
that we're aligned and they know what their place is.
(06:02):
Sometimes the girls don't know what the rules are, so
they'll try and message like outside of a group message.
And so initially, like one time there was that where
that happened and he sent a photo and I got
like upset because I was just like, this is not
the rules and this is not what we're supposed to doing.
So in that aspect, yes, but never in a sexual regard.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Ever, it was never wed the first time you seen
him like sexually, get someone else and you have to
watch Never No, I see that. That's what I'm trying
to get around, because that would be very hard for
me to watch someone else.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
It's true. So okay, so let's talk about that for
a second. When I first met him and I was
really trying to understand this lifestyle, I would say to
him like I don't understand, Like how do you separate
your emotions? How do you separate this part out from
actually being able to have sex with somebody? Because you're
always taught like you need to love somebody, you need
to do this, and you need to or at least
(06:58):
have some sort of something for them. And I just
couldn't understand it, and so he would just be like,
I promise you, when the moment is right, you will understand.
I probably talked to him about it like six months before,
like really actually diving into doing something, and I would
ask the same question, but I don't understand. How do
you separate the emotion? How do you how do you
(07:20):
not feel those emotions? And he's like, I promise when
the stars and moving a ligne, you will know and
it will be just that, and it's true. And I've
always followed that mindset. And so I think that because
I've always been very into that particular situation that was
going to happen, I never felt any of that because
I always felt just the sexual energy of like, oh
(07:40):
my god, this is gonna happen. This is like what
we're gonna do, you know, And so I think that
that's how I always was able to get through it.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Have you ever in tried to entice any coal for
people to come in.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Oh my god, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
I'm just saying like I'm doing.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
No so you know here, we know I funny enough.
So like six months after I had met my fiance,
my corporate job ended up moving to a different state.
So my job position ended up getting eliminated. But my
bosses all knew very well what it was that I
was up to. Since my home life was so fucked up.
It was like my bosses were all like my family
(08:19):
type deal. So when I first met Spenser, I went
I told my bosses, even like the head of HR,
what the fuck was I thinking? Freaking head of HR
in this company. I'm like the CEO of this company.
I'm like, yeah, I'm going to a swingers party this weekend.
I need to take off on Friday.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
And you're like what, yeah, like and imagine the Christmas
parties the right.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
So yeah, they were very inquisitive when I got back
into the office on Monday, trying to understand what it
was I was up to, and I was just like, oh.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
My god, you wouldn't ever go anywhere thing you were
talking about.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
You you should go Oh yeah, Oh they were. They're like,
you need to walk us through it, like this happens?
How was it? And I'm like trying to explain, like,
you know, because everybody has this idea that you walk
into a swingers party and it's going to be this
huge orgy, but it's like that you walk into the event,
you know, they usually start at nine o'clock at night,
and it's like any other bar you go there, any.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Of a bar, it's like any of her I've never
walked into a bar yet when I've gone okay, I'm
going on the dunce floor and they're taking a body
clothes off, So it's not like any of her bar.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
I must be going to some born balls. I know
that your history has to be pretty exciting too. I
can't imagine you see anything wild in your day. I mean,
and I thought it was a party animal, but oh
(09:46):
my god, I can't with this
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