What Healthy Intimacy Actually Looks Like (& How To Built It)

Most of us never learned how to talk about sex—so we assume everyone else just figured it out. Sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her husband Xander Marin join me to talk about what really makes intimacy last, why communication in the bedroom matters more than chemistry, and how to start conversations about sex before it becomes a problem. We dive into the myths that make us feel broken, how to keep desire alive when life gets busy, and the simple daily rituals that help you reconnect with your partner in 36 seconds flat. If you’ve ever felt awkward bringing up what you want—or wondered why your sex life doesn’t “just work”—this one will change the way you think about connection, desire, and real intimacy.

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