Episode 90: What Are You Waiting For?

What are you waiting for? Lashanna Alfred, our insightful host, helps you pinpoint and overcome the barriers that are holding you back. From creating a clear vision across health, finances, relationships, and personal growth, to setting specific and achievable goals, Lashanna offers five practical steps for moving past dissatisfaction and stagnation. Discover how understanding your true desires and recognizing that self-care is essential, not selfish, can lead to a more fulfilling, successful life.

In this transformative episode, Lashanna takes you on a journey through visualization and goal-setting to manifest healthier living. By being specific about your goals, such as increasing water intake or developing emotional maturity, and building a concrete action plan, you'll see how success becomes attainable. Confidence is critical, and Lashanna stresses the importance of positive affirmations and supportive relationships. Regular check-ins and consistent actions are key to maintaining progress, while embracing flexibility and resilience helps you adapt to challenges. Tune in to confront your fears, listen to your inner voice, and break free from the chains that hold you back. Let's prioritize self-care and take action for your growth and success today!

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Self-Care Society podcast with
your hosts Celia Williamson,ashley Kuchar, louie Guardiola
and Keri Shaw, a podcast devotedto those whose job it is to
help others get or remainmentally, physically and
emotionally healthy, but whoalso need to take care of
themselves.
And how we're going to do this?

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By first showing you thefiltered, pretty version of
success, and then the realstruggles, real work and raw
grit it took to get there, howthey took care of themselves and
also achieved their goals whiledoing it Together.
We will work with you toimprove and maintain your
internal health and growth,while helping you achieve your

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external goals and your nextprofessional achievement in life
, and we're excited to show youhow to follow your own
individual and unique path andachieve the dreams you have
while taking good care ofyourself.
So let's get started.

Speaker 2 (01:01):
Welcome back everyone to the self-care podcast.
I am Lashana Alfred and I havea question for you what are you
waiting for?
What are you waiting for?
I really want you to ponderthat question as you sit back
and listen to this podcast,asking yourself the question

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what am I waiting for, Like?
What am I waiting for to goback to school?
What am I waiting for, Like,what's preventing me from
starting the business?
What am I waiting for to makethat next move, Whatever it is?
What am I waiting for to shiftcareers To get better with my

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health?
What am I waiting for to let goof unhealthy relationships and
connections?
So when I say or ask thequestion, what are you waiting

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for?
It can be a vast number ofthings as you begin to look over
your life.
But as we continue on thisself-care journey and we allow
ourselves to be open to thisidea of taking care of self and
taking care of self is notselfish and so as we began to
embark on this journey ofgetting unstuck right Because a

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lot of times when we're waiting,especially when we don't really
know what we're waiting on orfor, we find ourselves feeling
stuck.
And so today I want to sharewith you five steps, five things
to help you get unstuck If youfind yourself in a situation
where you're feeling trapped,you're feeling lost, you don't

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know what next move you shouldmake.
Number one I want you to reallyidentify your vision.
Identify your vision Is it youknow, whether it's health,
whether it's finances,relationships, spiritual, mental
.
Identify the vision and youwant to be clear about your goal
.
Spend time to understand whatyou truly want.

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I often get people to sharewith me.
They say they're upset aboutsomething with you know, their
spouse or partner.
And then when I ask thequestion well, why are you upset
?
Or what do you want from yourpartner, your spouse?
They don't have an answer.
They're stuck, they don'treally know what it is that they

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really need or desire, but theyjust know that they don't feel
satisfied, they don't feelfulfilled, and it's hard to put
words to it.
And so, during this time, Iencourage you really to be
mindful and listen to thispodcast over as you begin to
really ponder on this whole ideaof being stuck in the whole

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question of what are you waitingfor?
What are you waiting on?
So, again, you want to begin toidentify clear goals.
Categorize it, Put it under thecaption spiritual, mental,
financial, physical, relationaland be clear about each one.

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Write down your dreams for eachcategory and break them into
clear, specific goals.
Okay, I want to eat healthy.
What does that look like?
Well, I want to increase mywater intake.
What does that look like?
Well, I want to increase mywater intake.
I want to stop eating friedfoods, whatever that look like.
Be clear about what it is thatyou want in each of those five

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categories.
And then I want you tovisualize success.
I want you to literally seeyourself being healthier, See
yourself having more mentalclarity, emotional maturity.
Literally visualize success.
Picture yourself alreadyachieving these goals.

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People don't understand thatthe vision, your ability to be
able to visualize you living thelife that you want to live,
will help that thing becometangible.
You visualizing it.
Number two create a plan.
Create a plan.

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So set actionable steps.
Break down your goals intosmaller pieces.
And so, if it's fitness, youwant to say you know what I want
to increase my water intake bysix cups.
You want to be very specific Iwant to go to the gym twice a

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week.
What day I want to do?
A Monday and Wednesday?
Be very specific about what itis you're desiring to do, Set
actionable steps so that way,when you go back to evaluating,
you'll know what happened.
Oh, on Monday I did not go tothe gym and I found myself being

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really, really irritated.
On Monday I didn't drink enoughwater.
I found myself being reallyirritated.
If it's relational, Well, I wason the phone with someone and
after that phone call I gotreally irritated.
So then I have to setrelational boundaries with
certain people.
If I know that every time Italk to this person, I'm going

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to limit my contact with thisperson.
Also, under number two, youwant to prioritize tasks.
Determine which tasks are mostimportant and tackle them first.
Which tasks are most importantand tackle them first.
This will help you maintainfocus and momentum.

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Number three overcome fear anddoubt.
This is so big.
Overcome fear and doubt.
Acknowledge your fears.
Don't act like it's not there.
But you want to acknowledgeyour fears.
Recognize what is holding youback Self-doubt, what's actually

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holding you back?
When you always say I don'tknow, you put yourself in a
place for never changing ornever being able to move forward
and reach your goal.
So anytime you're saying Idon't know, I encourage you to
be still and really be mindful.
What is it that I'm dealingwith.

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That's actually getting in theway of me moving forward.
Build confidence.
Replace negative thoughts withpositive affirmations and remind
yourself of past successes.
So often we focus on thefailures, ignoring the many
successes that we've alreadyachieved in our lives.

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Surround yourself with peoplewho believe in you, people who
will remind you of where youcome from and what you have
actually accomplished.
Number four take consistentaction.
I don't know about you, butthere's times where I set goals
and I started off really goodthe first two days, and then the

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third day I'm doing somethingelse and I realized the reason
why I'm not reaching my goals isbecause I'm not being
consistent in what I said I wasgoing to do.
So start small.
Don't say I'm going to go tothe gym five days a week,
Because when that doesn't happen, then guess what else won't

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happen.
You end up not going to the gymat all because you said, okay,
I didn't go five days a week, soyou end up not going.
So start off small.
Begin with small, achievableactions to build confidence and
momentum.
Consistency is key.
Even small steps takenregularly can lead to

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significant progress.
Stay committed, Set regularcheck-ins with yourself to
assess progress and stayaccountable.
Adjust your plan as needed, butkeep moving forward as you're
self-evaluating, do that withsome grace, not with harsh talk.

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Do it with some grace.
If you need to make someadjustment, make the adjustments
, but never give up.
And number five embraceflexibility and resilience.
Embrace flexibility andresilience.
Adapt to challenges.
Understand that setbacks are apart of the journey.

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Use them as learningexperiences rather than reasons
to give up.
Adapt to changes.
Don't be so rigid.
Allow yourself to give up.
Adapt to changes.
Don't be so rigid.
Allow yourself to be flexibleand resilient.
Maintain persistence.
Keep pushing forward, Even whenthings get tough.

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Persistence and resilience arecrucial for turning dreams into
reality.
Keep moving forward.
Resilience are crucial forturning dreams into reality.
Keep moving forward.
So, while you're listening tothis podcast, if you are stuck,
feeling stuck, and you askyourself this question what am I

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waiting for?
What's preventing me fromtaking that next step?
Quietly, in a meditative state,sit back and listen to what
comes up and write it down.
See if it's fear, Notice whatit is, Notice how that fear
could be sitting in your body,Identify what it is, write it

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down and make a decision to notallow yourself to continually be
chained by the lies that weoften tell ourselves that
prevents us from reaching ourgoal, that prevents us from
being consistent, that preventsus from being resilient.
Today, ask yourself thequestion what am I waiting on?

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And then get up and makesomething happen.
Thank you for tuning in to theSelf-Care Podcast.
I'm LaShonna.
I'll talk with you soon.

Speaker 1 (11:53):
That concludes this week's episode.
And remember, it's not selfish,it's self-care.