SLP 474: Why Communication Is the Heart of Intimacy with Pauline Ryeland

‘I think when we get into a relationship a lot of people have these massive expectations around what should be done, shouldn’t be done, in the bedroom, out of the bedroom, nope… and it’s such a fast-paced society of just swiping them out or booting them out, that people don’t often get that chance for a relationship to settle in. It takes a really good three months in a relationship to step into who you really are in that relationship, to show your true self. The niceties can go by then, any pretences that might be there can start to dissipate after three months and you see someone’s true colours, and you see how they respond to situations. And you go, ‘Well that doesn’t feel right for me.’ So that’s when you can have the conversation, or you can go this relationship isn’t going to go in the direction that I want so it comes back to that choice point. But communication is the biggest key for a relationship to survive and to have great intimacy and have great sex.’ ~ Pauline Ryeland

In this week’s podcast, Kim interviews Pauline Ryeland and they discuss the journey of human sexuality, the importance of communication and intimacy in relationships, and the challenges of finding intimacy in today’s dating landscape. They also touched on the impact of pornography on people’s perceptions of sexuality and pleasure, the physiological aspects of female arousal, and the concept of self-love and its various forms. Throughout the meeting, Pauline shares her journey towards becoming an empowered sexual woman, her approach to to self-pleasure, and her work as an intimacy, sex, and libido coach and educator.

About Pauline:

Pauline Ryeland, Intimacy Whisperer ® works as an Intimacy, Sex & Libido Coach & Educator. She is certified as a Somatic Sexological Body Worker, Tantra Teacher & Facilitator and a Master Trainer & Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Advanced Subconscious Reprogramming, Errikson Hypnotherapy, a Results Coach & Performance Consultant and a Havening Techniques™ Trauma Specialist.

Pauline recently wrote a book titled, Empowered Conscious Sexuality – From Prude to Pleasure which became a number 1 Amazon best seller in 5 categories. The book takes you through her personal journey of becoming a Sex Therapist as well as talking about the modalities she uses, the problems she treats and some client testimonials. She also discusses, sacred sexuality, conscious relationships, consent and boundaries and there are also some great practices for you to do on your own or with a partner.

Pauline works as a Transformational Coach and Leader, working with individuals and couples around challenges they may be experiencing with intimacy, sex, libido, relationships and everything in between.

Pauline works with all aspects of mind, body and spirit to bring you to a place of alignment with your intimate and sexual desires as well as clearing emotional blockages, patterns and limiting beliefs.

Working with a combination of all her practices, Pauline specialises in libido coaching for women and men.

Working with women who have lost their libido, inability to orgasm and experiencing painful sex and complications from endometriosis. As well as working with men who have lost their libido, can’t maintain or experience an erection, premature ejaculation, Peyronie’s disease, genital nerve damage and enlarged prostates.

Pauline has also been trained to do scar remediation work for loss of genital sensation, genital numbness for both men and women, including releasing pain experienced from intercourse which can occur for a variety of reasons, circumcision sensitivity, nerve damage in the penis from surgeries, vasectomies plus a variety of other aspects.

Pauline is also a trained Havening practitioner for Trauma, PTSD and Anxiety and utilises this practice with any of her clients who have experienced any sort of sexual trauma, abuse, general trauma